Embracing Your Grief

Embracing Your Grief

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Stephanie Rodriguez is a certified Grief Counselor with specializations in Child and Adolescent Grief and Animal Companion Loss Recovery. She has been a practicing Grief Counselor, Support Group Facilitator, Death Midwife, and End-of-Life Speaker and Educator since 2004. She has been an Intuitive all her life.

She provides individual, couples, and family/group grief counseling for all types of loss, including Disenfranchised, Traumatic, Cumulative, Collective, Complicated, Prolonged, and Anticipatory Grief. She also provides Intuitive Services such as Tarot card readings and Distance Energy Balancing.

Fancy Update 25 June 2024

Fancy Update 25 June 2024

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Fancy 19 June 2024

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Unexpected Death

Unexpected Death

Do They Stay With Us?

Do They Stay With Us?

Shame in Grief

Shame in Grief

Why It's So Hard

Why It's So Hard

Not Better, but Different

Not Better, but Different

Numbness

Numbness

Dying with Dignity

Dying with Dignity

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  • @natesgeekychannel
    @natesgeekychannel42 минут бұрын

    Everything you said is exactly how I feel at the moment with my cat, her name is Kitty. she's on her final days before she is pass's over. I cried and told her how much I love her for being by my side during my hard times over the years and hugged her like a child. The pain is intense at spirit, feeling sick inside and lonely knowing she's not gonna greet me anymore when I come home. This video is powerful and thank you for sharing your education to help.

  • @lorrainekeuchkerian8820
    @lorrainekeuchkerian88203 күн бұрын

    Sending hugs for you & Fancy…❤❤❤❤❤

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief3 күн бұрын

    thank you 💙

  • @2SlayZGTE
    @2SlayZGTE4 күн бұрын

    You’re definitely not alone! Thank you for continuing to share your wisdom even as you’re going through this painful and heartbreaking time. And thank you again for giving Fancy such a wonderful life and family. 🩷🩷🩷🐶

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief3 күн бұрын

    My life with her has been much more a gift to me than to her -- I have never deserved her. Thank you so much for your care. 💙

  • @dawnettaw1882
    @dawnettaw18826 күн бұрын

    Beautiful rest ❤

  • @dawnettaw1882
    @dawnettaw18826 күн бұрын

    ❤ You are the best Mom for Fancy...and you're doing so well caring for her. Hugs, light, and love being sent to you 💙🐾💜

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief5 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much, my dear friend. It is so hard. 💙

  • @merleclearfield2054
    @merleclearfield20546 күн бұрын

    I hope you know I have not stopped loving both of you. Thanks for these updates, the courage you have had, is just a sign of the bond you both have for each other. Each day is a miracle. Please don’t forget we’re here for the both of you.❤❤

  • @liannna212
    @liannna2126 күн бұрын

    I just put to sleep my 17yo cat 3 days ago. I am at peace with her death. She was fading away for long time. I was petting her all thru eutanasia telling her it's OK to go. But I am left an orphan, with part of my heart missing. Woke up today with a pillow on my stomach. I must have grabbed it during sleep thinking it's my baby. The word feels foreign and empty. I don't like to be at home. I live alone. Now this place is scary

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief5 күн бұрын

    My heart hurts for yours. It hurts With yours. Thank you for being her mother. Thank you for sharing your pain. Sending you love and comfort.

  • @marcellamorris9245
    @marcellamorris92456 күн бұрын

    A true grief counselor...in the midst of your own pain you are still helping others ❤

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief5 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much, Marcella -- you know how much that means to me. 💙💙

  • @michellescofield
    @michellescofield6 күн бұрын

    My heart aches for you and Fancy. Sending love.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief5 күн бұрын

    We feel it -- thank you, my friend, and hope you and Molly feels ours.

  • @lorrainekeuchkerian8820
    @lorrainekeuchkerian88207 күн бұрын

    Sending you and Fancy a hug…..❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏 You hurt soooo much bc your love for Fancy is soooooo Enormous… Fancy is telling you that she loves you and she is Thanking You for all that you have done for her…❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief5 күн бұрын

    Thank you 💙

  • @jeanphillips1030
    @jeanphillips10307 күн бұрын

    You and Fancy are in my prayers.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief5 күн бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @2SlayZGTE
    @2SlayZGTE7 күн бұрын

    Thank you for letting us know how Fancy and you are doing. And thank you so much for taking such incredibly good care of Fancy, as well as sharing the information about Senilife. Your thoughtfulness and consideration for others even in this tremendously difficult time is inspiring and so very appreciated. I’ll continue to hold you and Fancy in prayers, love, peace and light.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief5 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much.

  • @mikeyochim1948
    @mikeyochim19487 күн бұрын

    The bond with her will transcend her physical being leaving. They are sentient beings, she sensed your pain and was doing her best to comfort you. That’s what makes them so wonderful. 🫂

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief5 күн бұрын

    So true. Thank you for reminding me, Mike. 💙

  • @marcellamorris9245
    @marcellamorris92457 күн бұрын

    So precious❤

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief7 күн бұрын

    She so is 💙💙

  • @nadinabbott3991
    @nadinabbott39919 күн бұрын

    When Connie, my conjure, died in 2019, it was not expected…it was really hard. Dexter died on the 18 of this month. I was expecting it, so it feels a tad less hard.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief7 күн бұрын

    Sending you love and comfort 💙

  • @nadinabbott3991
    @nadinabbott39917 күн бұрын

    @@EmbracingYourGrief thanks. We are looking forwards to adopting another doggo. Dexter would like that actually.

  • @taydavida
    @taydavida10 күн бұрын

    I am truly sorry you're going through this; however, it's difficult for me to understand. Are you trying to gain attention? If so, you caught mine. We are all either going through losses as we speak or have gone through a plethora of losses. My losses started when, at the age of 22, I watched my robust, full of life's father, be drained of that life from cancer. My next huge loss was watching the only sister in my life who loved me unconditionally, die over a 7 day period. I watched this with one eye, as I watched with the other eye, my mother comfort her eternal baby as she slowly moved out of this realm and into the next. Approximately 7 years after that, I watched my elderly mother be pushed out of her own home, albeit veiled, and passing shortly thereafter. My most recent, and most painful loss was when 4 days after he turned 59, I watched my husband of FORTY YEARS (I was only 55 at the time) die suddenly with no warning, in our home, as my son and I desperately tried to pump life back into this man. My son and I then watched as the paramedics carried his lifeless body out of our home. I was left with the nightmarish task of calling his two baby girls and their children to give them the horrible news that their daddy and grandad was gone. You sit here trying to get the people's attention and sympathy for your PET. I do understand how pets become part of the family, but yet you're making this baby suffer unnecessarily for your benefit. If I've lived wrong and have not been punished enough on earth, the universe will see that I pay my dues in the next life. Peace and light to you and Fancy as you embrace your grief 💔 Good luck with that.

  • @cherylw6142
    @cherylw614211 күн бұрын

    How are you spending this time with her? I am so sorry as I also have a pet, my cat Rufus, who is has heart disease, other issues. He’s dying of cancer now and has a hard time swallowing his medicine. It’s such a confusing sad time. Do I force him to take medication or let go of this. Do I stick with his special cat food or let him eat whatever he wants? How do I care my best for him when he’s dying? I feel like these decisions still matter but there’s only grief. Thank you for being so brave. I am also a counselor and know how wonderful and devastating it is to have this light in your life and then prepare to say goodbye. We’re never ready to say goodbye. Thank you so much for doing this.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief10 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing with us here. I, too, am struggling with many of these same questions. With Fancy, until her last day, I will have to be very careful with what she eats as so many things trigger a Pancreatitis attack, so her diet is pretty well unchanged for us. But, I've struggled these past weeks with continuing the many supplements she takes for the Cushing's and as post-Cancer support. I know that these supplements have made a huge difference in both the quality and quantity of her life, but she has let me know, in no uncertain terms, that she is DONE with taking meds and supplements. So, I treat each day individually, depending upon how she feels. It's absolutely vital to her Quality of Life that she take Trazadone for anxiety, Gabapentin for pain, and the supplement Senilife which is making an astounding difference in her dementia (I'll do a video on this soon) -- other than that, I pretty much have stopped giving her anything else, except the Vetoryl for her Cushing's if/when she'll allow it. I just ask myself over and over what seems like a million times a day, "Is this adding to or detracting from her Quality of Life"? Sometimes the answer is different in a matter of hours. You asked how I'm spending this time with her. I'm very lucky -- I work from home and have recently semi-retired, so I never have to be apart from her at all. I let her set our schedule which, for the last few weeks, has been pretty hellish due to her extreme evening/nighttime anxiety. But, in the last 3 days, I can tell a HUGE difference (which I think must be due to the Senilife) and we are sleeping sometimes 3 hours in a row -- that helps us both. She sleeps quite a lot during the day, as she's so exhausted from the evenings/nights, so I stay as close to her as I can, talking to her and singing to her. She still barks at the mailman and at UPS, which makes me incredibly happy. My heart hurts for what you're going through with your dear Rufus, and yet Fancy and I are so honored to be in your company. Please give him love from both of us. And thank you, again, for sharing.

  • @merleclearfield2054
    @merleclearfield205411 күн бұрын

    We love our Fancy ❤

  • @marcellamorris9245
    @marcellamorris924511 күн бұрын

    So happy to see Fancy girl relaxed❤

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief10 күн бұрын

    it just has to be the Senilife -- I'm so grateful.

  • @artistknownaslisa2850
    @artistknownaslisa285011 күн бұрын

    🫂

  • @stephaniec9868
    @stephaniec986812 күн бұрын

    I can hear her snoring. Bless her heart. ❤️

  • @stephaniec9868
    @stephaniec986813 күн бұрын

    I understand all too well the pain you are experiencing. I just lost the love of my life (my fur baby of 13 yrs) 4 weeks ago and I don’t know if this pain will ever go away. I too am mad at the universe and absolutely devastated. I just found you on KZread 2 weeks ago while searching for answers on how to cope, how to get out of bed and keep breathing without my beloved companion. Trying to understand why this pain is so much deeper than losing a human. I have found comfort in your videos and I thank you for that, although I still cry every day with a shattered heart. I wish I had the perfect words to ease your pain……but we are walking a path together I wish we never had to walk. My brother once told me, “a pet is a huge part of our lives, but we are their entire life”. That’s pure Love. I am sending you and Fancy love and strength. My heart is breaking for you 💔

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief10 күн бұрын

    Thank you so very much for this, Stephanie. What is your baby's name? No, the pain will never go away. It will change. But, it will never go away. Because the love will never go away. And we will never come to a day or a place where we are "ok" with the fact that they're no longer physically here with us. Yes, we are walking a path together that I wish none of us had to walk. And yet I am so grateful to be walking it in your company. 💙

  • @stephaniec9868
    @stephaniec98689 күн бұрын

    Thank you Stephanie, for the kind words in the midst of what you and Fancy are going through. My baby’s name is Lucy-Lou Rose. She is a Cornish Rex kitty cat that was like a little person. She loved to talk non-stop, she loved being rocked like a little baby with her special blanket, she always had to know everything that was going on, she was my shadow, always by my side. Our home is so quiet now, it’s deafening. And it’s like trying to learn how to live without my right arm. She was always with me. I know you understand because of your love for Fancy. You both are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope today was a good day for you both. 🫶

  • @lorrainekeuchkerian8820
    @lorrainekeuchkerian882013 күн бұрын

    Ooooh, Stephanie…. I am so very sorry for what you are going through…🙏🙏 I totally understand…. Your feelings are totally valid!!! Making this decision is difficult and doesn’t come easy. Fancy will let you know when she is ready and you will be there for her like you have these last 8 1/2 years. It never seems like there is enough time with our fur babies.. Anticipatory grief is the “HARDEST.” Spend as much time with her as you possibly can and love on her…. Thank you for being there for me when I was going through this situation. My heart breaks for you. Sending you and fancy my love and a hug… Sincerely, Lorraine ❤️❤️

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief10 күн бұрын

    Thank you, Lorraine 💙

  • @jeanphillips1030
    @jeanphillips103013 күн бұрын

    It is always hard to let our furbabies cross the Rainbow Bridge . I love Jackson Galaxy. Prayers for Fancy and you. 🙏🙏🙏. Lots of hugs.Know that Fancy will live on.

  • @SharonSchulte-sn9wn
    @SharonSchulte-sn9wn13 күн бұрын

    Dear Stephanie, Oh my. Blessings, light and prayers will be given each day for you and Fancy. There is such deep love there. Sharon. 💖

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief10 күн бұрын

    Thank you, Sharon 💙

  • @cynthia6950
    @cynthia695013 күн бұрын

    I am so sorry to hear this. God bless you and fancy.

  • @mikeyochim1948
    @mikeyochim194813 күн бұрын

    Stephanie I’m so sorry. It’s the hardest decision we make as pet parents. It’s the last act of love we can show them. I think it’s inherent that we question if we’re doing the right thing. You have been such a help in my dealing with the loss of my mother. You have been tremendous helping with Chuck his grief over losing Chip. I helped him in coming to the decision that you have. It is a huge struggle. As much as you have been there for us, we will be there for you. ❤

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief13 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much, Mike -- this means the world to me. 💙

  • @2SlayZGTE
    @2SlayZGTE13 күн бұрын

    Your videos have been immensely helpful to me in my grieving process and I truly appreciate your bravery in sharing your experience with Fancy’s illnesses. I’m so sorry that Fancy and you are dealing with this incredibly cruel illness and I’m sending you both prayers, love, and peace. Thank you so much for giving Fancy such an amazing family and life and for demonstrating such tremendous love, wisdom, kindness, and strength. I know you know that it requires so much courage to share your vulnerability with others in order to help them. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Many blessings to you and Fancy 🩷

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief13 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much 💙

  • @MichellePayneGale
    @MichellePayneGale13 күн бұрын

    Dear Stephanie. Your videos have saved me almost daily since I lost my best friend, my beloved bird, in April. I wish I could do the same for you and Fancy. I'm so sorry. The seeming unfairness of it all. I realise now that sometimes, their peace can only be bought with our heartbreak. Sending you both love and many moments of comfort.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief13 күн бұрын

    "their peace can only be bought with out heartbreak" -- thank you, thank you, thank you for that! 💙

  • @karoleekrause3090
    @karoleekrause309013 күн бұрын

    So sorry. I know personally how hard this decision is. One of the hardest of my life. Sending you and Fancy peace at this time.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief13 күн бұрын

    Thank you, Karolee 💙

  • @michellescofield
    @michellescofield13 күн бұрын

    Oh, my dear friend. Your pain comes through my screen and I want you to know how much I love you. Know I’m sending you so much caring. To you and to Fancy. If I were there, I’d make you a cup of tea and hug you. Sending you peace.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief13 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much -- I would gratefully take both the tea and the hug.

  • @crystalheartstar
    @crystalheartstar19 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much for your compassion and heartfelt messages. I lost my beloved heart doggie 3 weeks ago, and its is still hitting me hard. He was my constant companion, my confidante, my shoulder to cry on, my cuddle buddy, my joy. I'm just lost without him. He gave me so much unconditional love. When you're a person who has been repeatedly let down by people, and then a very special dog comes into your life who just loves you, imperfections and all, its really such a great loss when they pass.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief17 күн бұрын

    I am so sorry for all the pain you're experiencing. I send you comfort, strength, and love. 💙

  • @crystalheartstar
    @crystalheartstar17 күн бұрын

    @@EmbracingYourGrief Thank you

  • @edwardianspice1
    @edwardianspice119 күн бұрын

    Hello again. I loved your talk at the Jackson Galaxy’s webinar. I’d love a session with you, I think you are so inspiring xx

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief17 күн бұрын

    Scheduling a session with me is easy -- just visit www.embracingyourgrief.com. 💙

  • @YogaNidra_808
    @YogaNidra_80822 күн бұрын

    This brings me so much comfort. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief21 күн бұрын

    I'm so glad! Thank you for letting me know. 💙

  • @aaronrich9340
    @aaronrich9340Ай бұрын

    My 18 year old dog passed it wrecked me. I still feel him in spirit tho

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    Sending you comfort and love

  • @aaronrich9340
    @aaronrich9340Ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @aaronrich9340
    @aaronrich9340Ай бұрын

    My 18 year old dog I’ve had since he was two weeks old crossed over a month ago. This was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through💔💔 feels like I lost a child I have 2 kids and I can tell you my bond was deeper sadly with my dog.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    Sending you comfort and love

  • @annberlin5811
    @annberlin5811Ай бұрын

    My cat died last month after 18 years together. I feel dead inside. She was my buddy. Started fostering kittens to fill part of that whole.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    Sending you comfort and love

  • @dexter-ou2mt
    @dexter-ou2mtАй бұрын

    Merci pour cette vidéo. Big hugs from Paris 🙏🤝

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    Merci! 💙

  • @newworldlove7031
    @newworldlove7031Ай бұрын

    Two months later and my cats death is still a big one to deal since he was killed by a car on a road near my mothers house. A big part of me wants to leave the planet to be with him. He was my animal soulmate. I feel so lost without him.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    sending you comfort and love 💙

  • @1971sharki
    @1971sharkiАй бұрын

    So sorry for your loss.

  • @newworldlove7031
    @newworldlove7031Ай бұрын

    @@1971sharki thank you for your kindness🙏

  • @kayfitzgerald309
    @kayfitzgerald309Ай бұрын

    Hi Stephanie, I'm rewatching your videos today, because I had to take my pretty Piper Princess to the vet this morning😭 It is just 9 months since I had to say goodbye to BK, and NOW this!!! Oh my heart💔 😢 Thanks for your words of comfort!!💝 Love & Miss you, Piper Princess 👸

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    I'm so very sorry you're in this place. Multiple losses are always hard, but especially so when they happen within a short amount of time. Sending you comfort and love. 💙

  • @kayfitzgerald309
    @kayfitzgerald309Ай бұрын

    2:00 min, I lost my only child HollyBear, 30yrs ago this June & with every loss of my fur-babies brings on my grief, Sooooo Hard!!! I'm going to try & find a grief counselor, like you, that understands that losing a fur-baby is on almost the same level!! Thank you, again, Stephanie 🧡💙🧡

  • @sheraldsouza2631
    @sheraldsouza2631Ай бұрын

    I lost my cat 15 days back. I still miss my baby. He loved me way too much and so I did. And I didn't even realize how much I loved him. He was only 2 years old and lived with us for 4 months. He was my good boy. No cat can replace him. I know no living being in this planet is im mortal. Love is always immortal.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    Physical bodies are mortal, but Love is immortal and that's where your bond with your boy lives. Sending you comfort and love. 💙

  • @sheraldsouza2631
    @sheraldsouza2631Ай бұрын

    @@EmbracingYourGrief losing that cat is a big loss. I never knew he was in too much pain. I know he is no longer in pain. But I still can't stop thinking about him.

  • @tinadery8795
    @tinadery8795Ай бұрын

    How about your children not doing anything for me. Its all about them

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    Sending you strength and comfort. 💙

  • @1971sharki
    @1971sharkiАй бұрын

    ❤ Thank you

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    You're welcome 😊

  • @stitchaspell
    @stitchaspellАй бұрын

    Love that! Happy Gotcha Day to you and your loving Fancy Dog! 🦋

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    Thank you so much 💙

  • @Random_Patriot
    @Random_PatriotАй бұрын

    This is what I'm dealing with strongly today. Looking back, I didn't see the signs that the treatment the vet was providing to my boy to attempt to alleviate his allergy symptoms is what was killing him. I know I shouldn't feel so damn guilty but I can't help it. I just miss my boy and it hurts like hell.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    Guilt is always looking at yesterday with the eyes of today. Sending you comfort and love. 💙

  • @RachelLouiseSwann
    @RachelLouiseSwann2 ай бұрын

    I lost my baby girl a few days ago. This darling cat was in my life for 19 incredible years, and she survived her mum by 13 years, her middle sister by 8 years, and her eldest by 2. I kept them altogether, and although I have a new mommy cat and her three babies - they came into my life even with the older cat family around, I will now take care of them. I hope they live a long time. I miss my baby so much. Thank you so much for this helpful perspective.

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGriefАй бұрын

    Sending you comfort and love. 💙

  • @albertstone7905
    @albertstone79052 ай бұрын

    I Love what you had to offer and say you have a lot of wisdom and it’s very helpful I hope everyone is listening Thank you and God bless

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief2 ай бұрын

    I'm glad the video was helpful -- thank you for letting me know that it was. 💙

  • @amandabartell1502
    @amandabartell15022 ай бұрын

    Thank you, an out of order death makes so much sense, lve never heard it explained that way before. I lost my missy in February after 16 years and am still grieving so badly, she was like a child to me. I wish l had tried harder or done more and not had her pts so l feel so much guilt on top of the grief. I feel like my life will never be the same without her and lm struggling to move on 💔

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief2 ай бұрын

    I'm glad the video was helpful to you. I send you comfort and love. 💙

  • @kayfitzgerald309
    @kayfitzgerald3092 ай бұрын

    We just gotta go THRU it!😢

  • @EmbracingYourGrief
    @EmbracingYourGrief2 ай бұрын

    very true 💙