I’m a 28 year old late-diagnosed autistic (& ADHD) woman from the UK. Without KZread, I never would’ve discovered that I am autistic. So now I’m returning the favour! I want to share videos that will help others discover their own neurodivergence and also videos about what to do post this new self-discovery. Post-diagnosis support for autistic adults is scarce. You’re autistic, which is great information to have, but…now what? Is there medication you could take? Is your career right for someone like you? Should you go self-employed? How do you tell your parents? Your employer? And what do you do if they don’t take you seriously?
Basically...how can you use this knowledge to create a life that really emphasises your strengths and minimises your struggles?
I’m still figuring it out! Let’s learn together ♥️
Love,
Meg x
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Lets be honest i have be guilty of this i assumed she may be neurodivergent but not in a self diagnosed manner just out of curiosity like oh like is she neurodivergent? Type of question cuz sometimes you never know
I have misophonia with a lot of sounds and if someone starts moving styrofoam or writing on paper with a marker I.will.lose.my.mind. My hairs stand up and my skin crawls. It’s like being thrown in an ice bath while having your teeth sanded down. I don’t mean to, I get a lot of shit for it.
You are so right in saying that people will say glamorizing when they mean feminizing. God those Reddit comments are infuriating. Ugh they are unabashedly sharing their idea that autistic people are ugly. The fuck? Something ableists need to be aware of is that opposite things can be symptoms of autism. Learning to read late can be a sign of autism, so can learning to read late. They can not care as much about their physical appearance or they can express themselves through their physical appearance. I love dressing in different aesthetics that I enjoy. I'm not diagnosed with autism (as of now) but I am certainly neurodivergent and I really appreciate this video. Thank you so much!
I love kid shows and movies. I would rather watch Ninjago than anything made for teenage girls.
looking back at my childhood and i think it finally clicked when remembering how, at gymnastics classes, everyone would eat lunch together and I would prefer to shut myself in a storage closet and do handstands obsessively
I find stimming in general such a fascinating phenomenon. Like, I've always had fidgety legs, but for many years I can also see how I had certain objects on me which I fidgeted with. Like, I wore rings for some time, and I would be turning them a lot, and now I always have 2 hair elastics around my arm to fidget with. I have also noticed the last 2 years that I tend to clench my teeth when I'm concentrating/ experiencing stress and not outwardly stimming. It's not a conscious choice and I'm trying to replace it cuz it kinda makes my jaw hurt. Nontheless, i find it exciting to think about such things- like, there's so many different options!
I'm commenting before I finish the video, so sorry if you adressed any of this; imo, the VAST majority of autism representation is valid and important, and I also believe that in most cases, self diagnosis is valid. However I do see some content that gets in my nerves. People being like "I have a system for organising my sock drawer, THEREFORE I am autistic!"; that's so stupid. It's like saying you have OCD because you don't like it when the door is open or smth. And what I also hate is people claiming that neurodivergence is just being fun and better than boring "normal" people. Acceptance and even celebration of neurodivergence is good but yeah, some people do glamorize it. Like I said, in my experience this is a minority of creators doing this. Still, I understand why some people critisize the way social media deals with neurodivergence and autism specifically.
I have to say though, even in the extreme cases I described I would never go around telling people that they're not autistic or can't be autistic for some stupid reason! That's silly and disrespectful.
Sort of tongue in cheek, but true. What the heck is respite care? I can't get it.
i just have to say- i love the way you use your love, it sounds very friendly :)
I think it's pretty hard to ignore the fact that a lot of people these days, as a result of the internet are spending more time becoming neurotically hyper-fixated on the things which interest them. And are having more and more trouble getting dopamine out of basic life tasks or anything outside of their range of interest (which for most people includes boring stuff like managing your personal finances, or applying for jobs, or doing your schoolwork.) This absolutely IS manifesting in more and more people developing patterns of behavior that are similar to the diagnostic criteria for ADHD, or, to a lesser extent I think, for Autism. I'm not necessarily saying that we should be denying the validity of anyone's identity just based on this, but it's definitely true and we can't keep denying this over and over again and justifying this denial of reality with "but where's your study that proves that's happening?"
Pasta with butter! I was a super picky eater when I was a child and that was the only thing I could eat many days!
As an autistic person. I have been told it's our eyes that make people uncomfortable
I am so glad I wasn't the only one who ddn't know how to cross my legs. And nowadays I cross my legs weirdly to the point I may get some stares at me.
I took the masking test and the results showed that I do a lot of masking, higher than the average for autistic people but I can't tell if that's due to something else like social anxiety. I hate not knowing what causes this and I'd love to talk to a professional so that I can get a straight answer because just looking at symptoms and what over people experience doesn't seem like enough for me to make a valid conclusion without somehow hating myself for 'assuming'
One of our autistic intersectionalities is with learning disabilities. This highly motivates NT *parents* to want to define autism in those terms - often because they are looking for supports for their children's education. While I am fully in favor of spending tax money on children with learning disabilities, the fact that people confuse the two motivates the normies to exclude high-functioning autistic people. Regarding the thing about text communication and @creeping autism@, I will say this: COVID lockdown made my autism *much* worse. I've been finding literally everything about returning to normal life *so much harder* than it was before and all I can figure out is that I lost my ability to ignore stimuli after being in my *very* low stimulus home pretty much for three years...
16:43 as an autistic trans man with a physical disability, i can confidently say that every single thing on this list has happened to me, most of them on several occasions, and especially after i started my transition and started using a mobility aid. (another thing is that ive had my mobility aid stolen on 2 occasions which is extremely scary)
Areola is miserable and bitter. She makes her money by making hate videos. Pathetic
I would love a window to trees as a background but since you're in the city I don't know how realistic that is. Maybe a poster of a London Plane Tree, tastefully framed next to a glass case for your guitars. You still need an electric one that goes up to 11 like Nigel Tufnel's.
I'm not from the UK, but something similar happened to us, if the new owner wants to rent it out they may want have tennants from the begging. That was our case luckily and other than a small rent increase everything turned out okay Maybe ask the current owner if he can present that option to prospective new owners?
I’ve not experienced this, but Steph and Adam from Doodle Date here on KZread went through the same thing in December. They are also in the UK and Steph is also autistic. I hope things get sorted for you soon
even if you don’t have permission to drill in the wall, you actually can and just spackle over it when you move out. has worked every time for me. good luck with the housing!
I got banned from the subreddit for "white knighting" and saying that "Well, how do we know what their diagnosis" 💀
I honestly get so tired of men autism being compared to autism in females tbh it’s totally different
I was always the weird kid growing up, making it really difficult to navigate the adult world. Thankfully i have an amazing partner who helps me navigate the world, but i had to deal with a lot of abuse before that.
"its rude not to look me in the eyes 100% of the time, so im going to be as rude as possible to embarrass you into doing what i want" - totally not the most inherently rude and entitled person ive ever seen
"This score suggests that you are more Monotropic than about 87% of autistic people and about 99% of allistic people based on data from the initial validation study" and I'm getting tested at the moment for autism, well well haha
this subreddit/the type of people who use it are why i'm to this day absolutely terrified of self diagnosing with anything. at one point it was so bad that whenever i got too dissatisfied in trying to convince myself that i was just neurotypical and nothing was going on i would scroll through to "remind myself" that i was just faking things. this kind of shit is despicable
autism is when you phone use, be white and annoying.
When I was a child in the 80s one of my teachers raised concerns to my parents about my behavior and encouraged them to bring me to a psychologist to see if I was autistic. The psychologist decided I was too intelligent to be autistic and that I had ADHD and those 2 things in the 80s meant that I couldn't possibly be autistic which we now understand is very much untrue. He actually told my parents that my meltdowns where just me seeking attention or being antisocial and incouraged them to use negative reinforcement to train them out of me. Over years o transitioned from meltdowns to shutdowns for fear of being punished. It took about 30 years for me to figure out that I actually am autistic and not that I was a terrible child as I was led to believe by the medical professional.
When detractors say “quirky” they usually mean “happy.” Unfortunately..
With her 'making it about herself', it could be she's trying connect in a way that comes across like that? If I have a similar experience with someone I like to talk about that because it's a way of me showing that there's a connection there, but I have been yelled at about making everything about myself and so I've stopped trying to connect that way
Lesbian gets triplets w autism: You're to blame Straight woman gets triplets w autism: They're to blame
I get "you can't be autistic" a lot more since the diagnosis and 10 years of autism centered therapy. It was difficult to get the diagnosis in the first place because my primary special interest has always been studying human behavior in order to make it easier to navigate the world. My fashion sense is what most uneducated people would think of as typical autism. It's pretty regimented almost to the point of being a uniform - black tops without logos, jeans, shoes that don't require socks. For me it reduces my cognative load because I also have color/shape/sound synesthesia. Where I dress up is with accessories and perfume (which is a big stim for me). I'm often torn about autism influencers. On one hand, they show that not all autists are highly regimented and non-verbal. On the other hand, the "you don't look autistic" conversations now include having to explain that we're not all quirky people who dopamine dress. It often feels like the stereotypes are now boy autist = socially awkward nerd and girl autist = cute quirky loud clothing. Still, it's a net positive and gives 2 points on the curve when discussing autism as a spectrum.
Is it me, or is everything being classified as autistic now? There was a time when autistic people were very easy to recognize. Now based on this spectrum, almost anyone could fit the description, especially, shy, introverts or quiet people. And now being a perfectionist and being exhausted is added to the list?
I’m assuming not, which is totally understandable, but I’m wondering if there is any way to access the discord if you are a neurodivergent person without a cent to your name? And if not, I’m wondering if anyone in the community has any specific recommendations for good free autistic/neurodivergent communities? Sorry if this comment section isn’t the best place to ask; I’m not sure where would be better. I’ve been looking for a community where I fit in, but still feeling pretty alone.
Yeah really need a video telling me I'm not autistic when I know I'm not and have never been diagnosed but maybe that bonehead Orion Kelly the fraud should stop posting suggestive videos
those claiming that privileged people in power (like elon musk) get a pass/can't be ableist due to being autistic (iirc he stated he had asperger's when the term/diagnosis was still commonplace) is just...false equivalency. there have been MANY cases of people under certain (wealthy) circumstances that throw their communities under the bus to ensure their place in power above those struggling to meet their needs. we see it all the time intersectionally, whether it be race, gender, sexuality, disability etc related.
i will say on a (slightly) unrelated note: when i was in 12th grade 10 years ago in psychology class, we were instructed to come up with a topic for a survey and tally the results among the school. i chose ASD as my "topic," and it was astounding how little people knew on even the most "basic" of levels (many even claimed they didn't know ANY autistic people). i think if i were to travel back in time to that moment now, i'd wince at not only a lot of the responses i got, but the (already) dated language i had used at my disposal (ie i was told by neurotypicals that person-first language was more appropriate lol - though ofc it's valid to prefer such in someone's lived experience). i've learned so much in that time myself as someone with a brother, cousin and uncle that are on the spectrum, and as a late-diagnosed AUDHD afab person myself (with an auntie who saw what i went through during my assessment and diagnosis and immediately got assessed herself 😂). all this to say: we HAVE made strides in communicating the SPECTRUM of experience neurodivergent people have (thanks to literally us), that it's not a "scale" from "low" to "high" functioning but a more fluid color wheel where everyone has different needs (the classic line, "if you've met one autistic person, you've met one autistic person") gonna cut off this ramble but -- thank you to the online autistic and adhd community for helping affirm my lived experience and that i'm not just an "oversensitive neurotic freak" 😂❤
I got let go the day after you posted this lol.
I'm going to be mean Meg lol but this lady is so extremely stupid??? Like she's making MASSIVE leaps in judgement that make it honest to God hard to even follow what she's saying. Trying to show someone having standard autistic struggles and trying to blame their queerness for an issue that like...... Most autistic people struggle with no matter their sexuality???
It's really tragic seeing a lesbian become a bigoted mouthpiece for her own oppressors. I hope she finds a real hobby asap lmao
A clinical psychologist is not skilled to diagnose autism in an adult, only a FULL neuro psychologist series with months of testing, family speaking with neuro psychologist about behaviors prior to 18, before 18 school records...not just your self report self diagnosis... If you are under 18 it is easier to get an actual ASD diagnosis. You can "self report" you are autistic but your medical facility will laugh at you unless you have been assessed and tested by a neuro psychologist. If it is in your chart with your health insurance, it was probably a neuro psychologist who made that iron clad diagnosis. I don't think Tony Atwood is a neuro psychologist but because his specialty involves working with children on the spectrum, he can diagnose those under the age of 18. I am speaking strictly for The United States...America. I don't think this is something to pursue unless your parents are unable to assist in your care anymore and you need service help.
I think for me, being put together and pretty is a survival strategy. I get away with a lot of missteps by distracting with being attractive
Shoutout to the struggling people who dont really talk about it.
I already love this video
My eviction story is terrible but i won my cases; force them to evict you. Trust me. It worked for me. Sort of. I wound up in my condo for six months and not two.
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"It's called reddit" ☠️
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I'm a baby late 42 idk if austim or my ma or pa
You had the Alice Cullen pixie cut! I wanted it so badly in middleschool but I have curly hair😭
I've came here thinking: "That's what I need! Now I can tell once and for all that I'm not autistic and stop thinking about it. It surely is just my anxiety disorder and depression, right?" And then I watched the video and every single thing on that list is pointing towards me being autistic...
The issue is gender struggle and class struggle, amplified by social media. Persons on the spectrum are just dragged into it - possibly because they mask, indeed along seemingly factional identities (it takes them a lifetime to figure that norms are usually not 'best practice', but reflect the mediocre). 'Cutsy outlierdom of others' is not an issue among content couples without existential financial struggles - the statement 'live and let live' wouldn't trigger second thoughts. When it comes to social security services - and potentially competing for them: don't get your hopes up - at some point psychopathy will be regarded as the incarnation of the norm, just to divert social benefit or treatment subsidies into an arms industry or the stock market. Clinical psychiatrist: 'What do you need a diagnosis for ? In any case, appointments are impossible until the next 12 months...' - 'Never mind, then...' 'Support' doesn't mean necessarily 'treatment' in order to function along the norm - usually 'being productive' - but simply _let be_ without having to mask - as accepting 'it is what it is' leaves space for growth in one's own pace, eventually.