The Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma
The Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma
The Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma is an umbrella organisation combining resources, research and knowledge from cutting edge experts in the sector - Inspire Training Group, National Association of Therapeutic Parents, Sarah Naish - Keynote Speaker and Author, The Haven - Parenting and Wellbeing Centre and SAfER Fostering.
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Whats is a "bit of a paddy"?
Thank you Glynis for your openness ❤️
Thank you Sarah and Rosie, very helpful video . 🌞
Thank you! You might have just saved my life!
Thank you for what you do.
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Wow,so interesting!!! I'm in the early stages of the adoption process and I'm learning a lot thanx to Sarah's videos (recommended by the social workers).
Thank you! PS The fork in the printer is logical - sometimes using something pointy will sort out a minor paper jam and save figuring out how to open the printer up and getting inky hands and... ☺️
As a traumatized child this made me cry. I struggle so bad now as an adult and I never had anyone come save me. It was sad I struggle with PTSD daily even with treatment.
Try neurotherapy. It works with the brain directly. Alot of adopted children in the U.S. respond well. Also, meditation (Dr Joe Dispenza) really helps. Good luck!
I'm going to try this now. I pray I can break the cycle of my standard practice. I pray this works for my lil FS.
Hey my daughter and I would love to watch more from your daughter and you! We find it helpful! Please post part two or more clips from you both! ❤
Thank you 😊
That was controlling and dishonest of the carer. Not severely, but they gave permission to eat biscuits their way, not the patient's. Highlights that there are lot of mad liars who do social care and mental health jobs.
The Paddy comment really lets you down. I understand that you may think of it as “just a phrase” but it is offensive. We are trying to teach our children to be open and inclusive, yet we still use phrases like these that are just racist. I’ve watched two more of your videos and there’s really great content, but my mind keeps returning to that phrase and how offended I was that a professional would use such a phrase in an educational video.
Where exactly can we see the rest of this clip?
Thank you
Oh my goodness, this is so true. My training went out the window when I became a therapeutic foster carer. But your actions did make me laugh 😃
This is really helpful I'd been looking into reward, I won't now 🤦 She's a pretty good kid anyway 🤗
Thank you Rosie for your bravery and sharing your perspective with such kindness and empathy
Wow, I was blown away by this. As a parent myself it has really opened my eyes.
Going to Board in December to be approved as a foster parent. Excited and a bit terrified. Your videos are really helpful
Really powerful video. I have had the pleasure in working with you Sarah and also many years ago, I met yourself and Rosie during a training session. These discussions are 💯 beneficial to potential adopters.
Maybe bcos they miss their Mothers ?
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Rosie, thank you for helping me understand my partners child when she was being in control (it’s hard as you love them like your own but you try to just be their guiding friend, as you know you’re not mum, in my eyes that’s not for the adult to decide).. your behaviour brought me to tears, i personally feel most children experience some trauma and it doesn’t have to come in the form it did to you but the behaviours are the same.. if only all parents were taught how to identify these behaviours.. I’m so grateful to you for sharing your story of your behaviour very insightful. Thank you
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Rosie just to say its so good to hear what it was like for you as a child and it makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing
Excellent talk, having fostered for over 30 years and been a parent for 40 years I have seen many methodologies come and go Therapeutic Parenting is the first method that actually works for the child and benefits both child and family.
What happened to the end?
Wonderful to hear from Rosie - you're really clear about your story and your experiences. I'm a recent adopter and therapeutic parent and I hope I can support my little one to understand her feelings and speak so honestly. Thank you
Thank you Sarah and Rosie, your experiences and books have really helped my foster child and I.
My grandson has has PTSD because of a history of bullying and abuse from our ex neighbour and bio mother... As he's getting older, he's putting more together but problem is he so angry. Now he's started swearing alot while playing games or even asked to plz quit using bad language and he gets so aggressive and can also become physical. His younger brother has FASD and ADHD and sometimes I feel like I'm in a war zone without and defence. I feel like I've got PTSD just from their traumas :( how do you teach them violence is not ok :( I'm usually by myself too, and it worries me what may happen when they're bigger.
Excellent
Thank you so much for this.
This is great as a dyslexic person, not only is your book accessible and easy to read, this makes it even easier to access the information. Thank you
Please please don't use an electric printer as an example! i should hate to think someone would shove objects into anything electric.
Would you suggest strict routines for babies/children who have never been with birth parents? I know trauma can happen in utero as well.
If they've never lived with their birth parents then they have the separation at the same time as the birth - which is a bit of a double whammy. In utero, the baby hears mum's voice. When they are born, mum's voice is the one that is most soothing to the baby. This is why it is beneficial for partners and older children to talk/sing/read to the bump; the baby can then be soothed by those voices, songs and storybooks too. If the baby is removed at birth, they have nothing soothing continued from in the womb in the new, frightening, noisy, cold, dry place where they now live. Even the heartbeat of their main carer is different and won't help them as much as their mum's heartbeat can. Babies hearts are regulated by their mum's heart's electrical signal (yes, there is research to prove this) up to 12 feet away. With brst-fed, this rhythm is automatically picked up by the baby's heart. With bottle-fed, you need to put in a little bit of extra work - especially on consistency around the carer who does everything for them - but this bond is possible. Therapeutic parenting will definitely help as they grow up, but remembering that the time just out of the womb is called 'the fourth trimester' may help more at the start. Things like skin-to-skin contact where they can listen to the new carer's heartbeat will help. Having the same carer for every feed with lots of eye contact will help. Investing in a wrap that mimics the closeness of the womb helps tremendously; this is true for almost all babies at least at some stage (eg teething) as they are close, held, hear your heartbeat, hear your voice, feel regulated by your heartbeat, hear the other voices you interact with on a day-by-day and feel how you respond to them - plus you are mobile and have your hands free... 😊 Mine wouldn't be put down, and my wrap was a total sanity-saver. Both are Neurodivergent, one needs movement to help them calm, the other has issues with sound and needs to feel held to help them calm. The wrap did the thing they needed. 😊 Added bonus of the wrap - it facilitates the bond between the hearts, meaning that the new carer's heart's electrical signal will regulate the baby's heartbeat. Same research as above. 🤗
Excellent ideas!!!!
He Looks So Normal is a must for every adoptive parent. It not only made me laugh, it made me feel normal! Yup, we made the mistake of going on holiday too! Please do more videos, you are the voice of calm and reason I often turn to :)
Just waiting for my copy
What are your thoughts?
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I think there is a layer to the foundations which is below the bottom layer - when they were in the womb - if they are in a traumatic womb this can also have an impact on their future development.
Watching this reminded me of what we need to do. Its just so exhausting to keep this level of compassion and patience.
This was helpful thanks
I’ve read your book and now subscribed to your channel as myself and my husband are starting the adoption process. Very helpful thank you.
This is very true. "I see you've made your choice" and you have to let the child experience natural consequences. Their brains may not be wired to understand cause and effect.
Hey - where’s the love? Where is the belonging? Sorry, if you treat “them” like your own they will heal and become like your own. One part I liked, was your reference to liking the child, not the behaviour. My words to every single child who became one of my family was; I will love you every single day of your life, but I don’t love that behaviour, so get on with the washing up, homework or the whatever was the outcome of my distress at that moment. Your words do not apply to my boy - each child is predominantly the same. The only difference is how much crap has been heaped upon their tiny minds and bodies. I personally like boundary setting, however the children who require actual therapeutic care are the ones who can least do with those strict boundaries you speak of.
I think what Sarah Nash means by strict boundaries in more consistency. If you say something has a consequence following through. I don't think she means being strict in the sense of being mean.