Glad things are on the up with Addy! My coming 4yr old and I definitely have had our ups and downs. Something that I've found helps with not taking the downs personally is reading the more recent academic research on how horses ACTUALLY think and learn. "Respect" isn't in their vocabulary because of their small prefrontal cortex - even though it is a pillar of traditional horsemanship we are taught. I've worked to stop anthropomorphizing her behavior so much and remember that it isn't disrespect or any of these other human rationales, its just lack of understanding or fear. It has really helped with those moments of frustration and finding solutions that actually solve the issue rather than temporarily mask it so it can present in another form further down the line. Like how setting a head position may make it look like your horse is in a frame, but it's just masking a lack of working properly through the back that will come back to bite you if that makes sense? Sorry for the long comment I just know the frustration first hand and a science-based approach is something I try to advocate!

@fleetskipper1810

2 жыл бұрын

You’re so right. People like to frame it as a “respect “issue because that’s how it is how it looks from our perspective. From the horse’s perspective, it’s something else.

@shermanian392

2 жыл бұрын

this is so, so accurate!! taking on a scientific approach has completely changed my outlook on horses, and made my horses life so much better. also like how you account it to fear or confusion, that’s a very good observation and what you should put behavior to rather than disrespect.

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! So so interesting, I have read a few things on studies on that and definitely think it was a lack of understanding which came from my part of the partnership xx

@according2her

2 жыл бұрын

Lovely to see more people making the effort to actually understand their horses and how their brains truly work :)

I’m so glad you decided to post this. I have a youngster at the moment too and it’s nice to see others going through similar things. Onwards and upwards! Thanks for always keeping it real and raw. I know lots of us appreciate the honesty! ❤️❤️

This is so relatable Emily! My mare is also coming 5, and I've owned her since she was just 6 mo old. She was an angel up until her 4 year old year (last year) and we just had problem after problem. We lost our confidence in each other and I seriously considered selling her after getting dumped on XC 4 separate occasions. But I told her I would give her an honest try until the end of 2021, and wouldn't you know it, its like it suddenly clicked for us. Our relationship got stronger again and we started trusting each other under saddle. She is now a bold and brave horse again. Keep plugging away at it, it's so rewarding when it all finally clicks!

Hi Emily so glad you found Steve Young Horsemanship, I find all his videos so useful. He is such an unexpected jewel! His preaching of doing everything with quality and grace and with a smile. So glad you posted this very honest video, showing the ups and downs of having horses. I am so glad you are starting to feel more positive. Addie looks beautiful and will be a real credit. I just love seeing you interact with your horses, so dont worry about trying to do exciting content all the time! I'm just happy watching you muck out , grooming and even tack cleaning lol am I sad! Xxx

Love it Emily! So true with babies it’s always one step forward and two back! Frustrating but far more common than most people think. Thanks for sharing ❤️🐴

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

It really is! Also very rewarding when it starts to come together xx

I have my first 4 year old and it’s definitely full of ups and downs! Thank you for your honesty and for helping the rest of us feel like we aren’t alone! Good for you! You are such a lovely rider and Addie is lucky to grow up in your care x

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

Awww thank you. We're all in it together or have been there :) xx

You will get there. You were used to Lola and it is a big change to start again. Its like having your second baby you forget how hard things are in the beginning 😂😂. Xx

Back in 2019 I had some inhand/loading lessons with my pony as he had become impossible to load. Revolutionary!!!!!! I had never thought much about doing groundwork so really paid the price when getting Rocky. He has spent a long time prior to being with me being a solo Horse, not even a companion with him so in one respect is very very independent but on the other very very insecure. It can still be a real struggle to find the balance between allowing him to express himself and his massive personality and keeping an eye on his insecurities and not allowing him to take charge of every intimidating situation and it can be a two steps forward one backwards journey still.

You are doing so well with Addie! I think it’s so hard with the young ones as progress isn’t in a straight line and it can be so deflating because you think you’ve got the hang of something and then in the next breath it feels like they don’t know a thing! You’re doing really well and I think the future is bright for you both, just keep doing what you’re doing and try not to be too hard on yourself, you’re very capable and she’s lucky to have landed a home with you xx

You’re doing so well with her! I almost sold my mare at 4 - I honestly was just so tired of her pushing boundaries and me always feeling like I had to be so strict with her and not having fun. She’s fantastic now though, and is my version of Spritey. No one ever believes she could have ever been anything but good as gold

@NoThankUBeQuiet

2 жыл бұрын

One of the best horses I ever knew jumped into the front window of a cab at a show when he was younger.

Brilliant of you to share this. So many people hide the difficult times. Been there, feeling like everyone else is sailing along with their young horses while I’m still in the starting blocks. Go as slow as Addy needs, make time to do some stuff she finds easy as well as the more challenging stuff, have some fun and focus on enjoying the journey.

I've worked with youngsters for many years, I haven't had a finished horse since... Well, it's been a long time. I still have these moments, I sometimes have a hard time being seen as herd leader with certain horses and I have to take a step back and remember "this too shall pass". Lol. Love you and Addie together, and really appreciate the real talk 😊

Just wanted to say that I so appreciate your, Tina’s, Lucy’s & Meagan’s vlogs because you are all dealing with the same issues that most of us (good but not professional riders) face with our horses. I had a very challenging youngster that I had to send to a professional (felt very much like a failure) so that I would not get hurt and so I could focus on the other horses. The youngsters challenge us and in the winter it is hard to get motivated. I found that my expectations had to be lowered so that the “successes” could be appreciated. It is March now and all the repetitive basics are starting to pay off. I so hope that you have some uplifting moments with your lovely horse. You are amazing! And we who are following you are so grateful for your brave sharing. Thank you.🥰

You have such an incredible network of helpers. I always appreciate any footage from a Fred or Cameron lesson. They are both incredible and so are your family and friends! But you are also an amazing horse person and rider. Don't forget that! You've got this! I have so much confidence in you and you should feel confident in yourself. It can be tough with babies; kind of a 2 steps forward, one step back kind of progression. But you are doing a fantastic job and she's a gorgeous, talented, sweet horse. I feel very lucky to be able to watch your journey with Addie and I feel like it's going to be a very successful one!

Thank you so much for this. I have a 4 year old half-Arabian mare I bought at the end of September. She tweaked her hock a month ago and has had time off, and now that I am trying to bring her back into work she has been so sassy. It definitely makes me wonder why I decided a baby was a good idea, but then we have great moments that make me happy. I am trying to remember to keep everything in perspective and not let my mind spiral into old anxieties and fears! Your honesty helps so much. Thanks.

loved this I enjoy when people open up about the not so perfect side of horses! love your videos Emily xx

Thanks for posting this. I'm in a similar situation with my rising 4yo. Had him 6 months and he was perfect to break and back but after 10 weeks off he has done a 180 in the wrong direction. I need to get back on board him but like Addie he seems to have lost some manners on the ground so currently in no rush to climb back up there!! He's a big boy at 16.3 already 🙈 It doesn't take much for a youngster to make you feel like your completely incompetent!! Roll on summer when hopefully the weather is nicer and things are back on track a bit more. We don't have any big plans this year just hacking mainly. Best of luck with Addie she looks fab!! Just remember believe in yourself and the process... I keep telling myself this! Just need to dig out the brave pants and get back on board!!

Having currently got a rising 5 year old I feel you! It’s not easy, you think you’ve gone two steps forward then you go 100 steps back 🙈

We’ve all been there hun, Addy is a star of the future, that’s clear to see! Slow and steady progress, she’s only a baby and you’re an amazing rider. Horses are a journey; enjoy the ride! 💕❤️💪

Green horses are an emotional rollercoaster they love trying things out. The best peice of advice I try to remember is to have expectations and enforce them (Mostly with the ground manners under saddle is a different thing) but it's hard because with things like loading its possible they are experiencing things like burnout but also they have to load.

I must say I really love all your content with Addie, both the highs and the lows. It has been so interesting to see the progress you have made. We only see the snippets of your life and therefore have it maybe easier to compare how Addie is now to how she was before christmas than maybe you have as you are with her and do things with her every day. I have loves everything you post :)

Oh boy! I started six horses in five years. I'm finishing backing my last baby this year. The one thing I think now always, is that if it's awful for me or frustrating for me......think how scary, frustrating and confusing it is for them. Explain everything 100 times. Your longest bone is your patience bone. Show your baby that you have a lot of things to offer them, comfort, food etc. Slow progress is faster than forced progress.....and they're 1000lb toddlers that don't speak human.

Having a good trainer is so important! I have a just turned 5 year old as well. Couldn’t do it without the support of a great trainer. Glad to see your progress!

Thank you for sharing your struggles as well as your successes. Green horses are like young children. They have to try all the wrong ways in order to know which one is right.

Ah the joys of youngsters! They do keep you on your toes! Love seeing how you are getting on with Addie and being honest about it as well all have those ups and downs and it’s great seeing someone admitting it. Your both looking fab and can’t wait to see more 🧡

I seem to always have a young horse around. (Just bought a rising 4yo OTTB and my ID colt is rising 2.) It's often five steps back and one step forward with young horses and it can make you seriously question what the heck you were thinking !! but that one step forward is SO much more rewarding because it only comes after dedication and time. Don't worry about trying to plan too far ahead or push for content. It's going to be great just to watch her blossom and the two of you grow together over time.

You are a very talented rider and trainer - we never stop learning and you're smart to know what and when you need tune ups. Love Addie and you are great w/her - she loves you!

I don’t usually watch vlogs but this has been comforting to watch (as sorry as I am that you were having a bad time!) and I have today binge watched so many of them! I have also bought a youngster and the road ahead seems very daunting and a bit overwhelming. Like you said, you see so many people online and everyone is doing something different and some doing more than others, it often leaves you feeling like you should be doing something else/more also, so it’s really helpful to see the bad days as well as the good (although I do not wish for anyone to have the bad days!). I would love to see a blog of your weekly routine with her in the future! Xx

I’m so glad you have got on top of everything, now we get to watch your progress. The best word to remember when it comes to Addy or any horse is consistency 😀🥰

Real talk! Love it! High and lows, so great to share them all. Keep doing what you do xx

THANK YOU 💗 for sharing this! I've got a 4 year old, so it's great to see someone else go through what I've been feeling! You both looked so amazing in your lesson! ❤️ You can do it! 💪

You've got this Em! You did it with Lola, and she turned out to be amazing. Trust your instincts and just keep working with Addie and she will be a super star in no time. The young ones always test your patience and perseverance, the journey is long, but oh so worth it x

Thank you so much for sharing! Having Ben through all of this I’ve felt so incapable, especially with all the differing opinions that come along with trying to sort out a youngster. It’s so so helpful to hear it’s a ‘youngster problem’ rather than a unique situation

I am so glad you are feeling better! I think your new horse is so lovely and I look forward to your next video👍👍❤️🤍💙🇺🇸☀️

I'm so glad you posted this! I feel like people never post the bad things in the equestrian world, this makes me feel a lot better about my progression with my horse.

Unfortunately with youngsters you’ll spend a lot of time feeling like crap. For a whole year I felt like I was fighting a losing battle. It does get better though. Well done in sharing! In a year you’ll look back and think why was I so stressed

Aw bless glad your moving forward. I know how it feels my TB mare has been a long slow progress due to my confidence and then her confidence. It just takes time never give up ask for her when needed and things do get better and you finally see how well and far you have come.xx

So nice to hear you speaking about this! I have a youngster and felt disheartened to see how well Addie is doing compared to my mare. Puts in to perspective how everyone feels like this at times

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

We all have ups and downs, it's all part of the journey xx

OMG, yet again this could be me talking. My 4yr old is also pushing the boundaries, which included broncing all the way across the arena before we started our test the other week. He just took exception to something over the fence. We had to retire from the test, something I've never done before. There has been a lot of soul searching since, but the last couple of days have been so much better. Talking to my trainer really helped to put things in perspective too. Its all about the mindset as you know. We both need to be that confident herd leader. Keep the vlogs coming, its so good to know we're all in this together!

You can do it, you are an amazing equestrian!!! You know what you are doing!

Lovely vlog Em and as always love your honesty! Having a youngster is far from all sweetness and light as some people do show, however you telling us all about the good and the bad, the rough and the smooth is great and I applaud you for doing it. You are a fantastic rider and you don't give yourself enough credit for just how much you really do know. Look at how much you achieved with Sprite and Lola, you did great. I see a really bright future ahead for you and Addy, so keep up with the positive thinking and your dedication and knowledge will see you through hun 🥰 I also agree Steve Young is really great with problem horses and doing the groundwork to teach them respect, manners and also problems with loading etc. Anyway you take care hun and enjoy working with Addy, you got this! 😉❤

Keep at it Emily ! You are doing such an amazing job , loved this vlog , good to see both the ups and downs , very relatable! It’s easy to get overwhelmed but you have such an amazing support system and trainers around you.❤️

You make me feel so much better about my young horse and I. It seems like we’re sharing the same story. About a month ago, my mare, Tipsy was getting pretty awful to handle on the ground and it was getting frustrating. A variety of different factors were causing that, and she has been much better lately. I had also recently lost my heart horse at 23 in November, so I was still hurting. Things can only go up from here, and we’re all doing the best we can with our baby horses! I love following your journeys with Addie and Spritey 💕

Oh Em, you’re doing so well with Addie, and there will always be ups and downs. Thank you for keeping it real, us less than amateurs really appreciate it!

Keep at it Emily!!! You are doing a great job with Addie!! Love from California🏔🌲❄️💙

I have some problems with my Hady (I almost wrote it Addie but decided on Hady 😂😂😂) she’s been hospitalized twice in the last 3 weeks and I just need positivity, as I also been sick with Covid. So thanks for bringing light in my day ^_^ youngsters can be so fun and yet so frustrating at time, but that lesson looked like you had fun :)

I bought my gelding in December 2020 as a 3yo off the track and I felt this exact same way. I was absolutely crapping myself in the first months like "oh god, what have I done," but with time things have gotten so much better. Now I wouldn't trade him for the world. Thanks for sharing your experience, you are not the only one who has struggled a bit and you are more than capable, it's just part of youngsters!

This was a great video! January is truly the longest darkest month of the year, all of my horse friends, including myself get pretty down during that month! Thank you for sharing! I am glad you are making good progress and taking the time to truly figure out the why😁. The lesson was great to watch!!!

Emily you have nothing to worry about, it is definitely 1 step forward, 2 steps back with baby horses! There are so many similarities between Addie and my rising five year old,. They are just like teenagers, learning and coming on leaps and bounds one minute and then pushing the boundaries and being argumentative the next! It has really helped me watching your progress with Addie especially the ridden work because it’s like, ‘Oh my goodness, Minty does that!’ 😅 Plus, it would have been too easy just to buy a ready made horse so you could just go out competing off the back of someone else’s hard work - there’s something in us that wants to be able to say, “I did that, that was my hard work” and it’s so much more satisfying. Believe that you are capable, you most certainly are!

Love the honesty in this vlog, youngsters are hard work !! it does feel like one step forwards, 2 steps back a lot of the time 🙈. You know her the best, trust your instincts. Miri Hackett (Hackett equine) works with horses very similarly to me so I watch her yt a lot. it helps to focus on the information from people you trust, who also teach their horses in a way that you like, otherwise the sea of information and conflicting advice can become very overwhelming and can give the feeling that you’re not doing the right thing. Trust yourself and your instincts, you’re MORE than good enough, you’re a kind and patient rider who is more than capable. It’ll be worth it when it all starts to click and it will as your relationship progresses x x

Thank You for keeping it real. slow and steady wins the race in the end.. looking forward to seeing you and Addie's progress this year.

You do know what your doing but it’s nice to have a guiding hand to help. Addy is going to be an amazing little mare so looking forward to this year with you both and seeing all the steps forward you make together 💕

Thank you for posting, this is really helpful for me as a first time horse owner. Im way over my head with my ottb, and he is a horse that will test and argue everything you ask of him. Its been very draining and disheartening as there are days I go home crying and feeling completely defeated. Its always helpful to hear that people have similar issues and its something that can be overcome. Lots of love

So glad you are talking about this! I’d love to see what her behaviors were and how you worked on them, but I’m sure it’s tough to video in those circumstances. Looking forward to your camp!

ye are looking so good !! so happy to see you coming back stronger from it 🥰

Ah January! I do everything in my power to avoid the entire month! I see you are capable and caring and willing to learn how to give Addie what she needs. I enjoy your posts, you are genuine and enthusiastic. Keep on being yourself. You are lovely!

Great video. Babies do that to you. They make you feel incapable, unconfident, and you start doubting yourself. You are a fabulous rider and handler. I'm glad you posted it. I have complete confidence in you and your abilities. Kick on.

Lovely honest vlog Em, and this is you. You and Addie are great together and are going forward working, getting connected and growing in confidence ❤ You are so right to correct her even though she is a youngster. You are her mummy, and she needs your guidance.

Love this we got my youngster at 18 months old and she didn’t care for me at all. I have had many breakdowns when things have gone wrong and everyone had give their opinion. We still have bad moments everyday but have built up such a better bond with each other while going through the process of breaking her in and we just make our little goal to work slowly towards. I can’t thank groundwork enough for the relationship it’s give me with whinnie. You are both looking great xx

Well said Emily, glad you've turned the corner. You and Addie are doing so well and providing us with a realistic view of raising a young horse and it's brilliant. Well done 😘❤ x.

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! xx

I'm so glad thing's are turning a corner Em. And so glad you posted this cos Ive also just got myself a 5 & 1/2 year old all be it a Shire horse. Here arrival today was amazing and couldnt of gone any better. So I'm bound to have some down days in the not so distant future. And I also will probably feel like I've taken 1 step forward and 2 back at some point. But we are all here for each other 😉 x

Lighter nights are coming more time to do short sessions. I think it's hard to go from a horse you had already produced to comp level to starting again and we forget the struggles. It is always a little harder with 2 as you need to bring them in and out quickly around work and trying to work simple tasks on the ground becomes impossible. Seeing the rawness just shows that owning horses takes hard work to get the well behaved pleasure horse. It's not just putting a saddle on and galloping along the beach, you have to put the time and effort in. Be brave and keep sharing your journey with a youngster I'm loving seeing your partnership grow and look forward to seeing her first time away

Bless you Emily, we have all been there and it's so difficult to admit things aren't going to plan. Good luck with your beautiful girl x

When I saw this up i made a coffee strait away! Haha. Love this, love the honesty, love the openness. Onward and upwards! Cant wait :)

Emily, You are a very talented equestrian. Everybody has down times when the just can’t get it all together. Take deep breaths and know that none of this is either your fault or your horses. (Have you changed her name again?) I thought it was Addy. Keep positive , all of us that watch you on your Vlog are cheering you on and sending you lots of Love and support. By the end it will all be absolutely Fantastic and Addy will be going great. Cheer up honey, I’m here for you. 😎👍🧑🏻‍🦰

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

Aww thanks so much Jane. It's definitely all part of the journey, thankfully we're heading back in the right direction now. xx

Really refreshing to know others hit blocks and overcome them. Thanks for sharing, I feel even more inspired to get support for mounting and dismounting issues. X

Thank you 😊 made me feel a little better about my naughty youngster. I recently discovered Steve, too and he is great! I wish you all the best❤️❤️

Hi Emily, this is so helpful to hear. I have been working with a 2.5yo mini and I have felt we have been battling between her lack of patience, baby brain and my lack of experience. What you said makes a lot of sense and it makes me feel a lot better! I would be interested in seeing a video of what exercises you are doing to strengthen your riding.

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks lovely. Glad it helped, thanks for the suggestion will keep that in mind xx

On going rollercoaster with my 3 year old too. You got this Em! Xx

So glad you shared! I think we all want perfection all the time, from ourselves, our ponies, our work etc! But it’s not realistic. Nothing in life is a straightforward upwards transition. You both look amazing and clearly she’s in the best hands

We all have ups and downs and it’s not easy training a youngster but it’s all worth it at the end of the day ❤️ you are doing a great job 👏🏻

Thanks for sharing the highs and the lows! I must admit I did think what on earth have I done buying a young horse! Try not to compare you or her to others, and definitely go at your own pace. Addie looks fab, well done x

Don’t forget we love you Em, we love seeing Sprite & Addie whether it’s good or not so good. Never bad just learning. 🥰

Never doubt yourself Em. You are doing a fab job with Addie and Spritey too of course xx

Oh Emily.....man let me tell you! I totally understand what you are going through. Last week, we only rode the driveway....the driveway! Walking out to the road on a 5 year old I've been riding for 2 years was our win for the day. My only advice is to stop looking back at your horse(especially when loading). A leader horse won't look back at other horses....other horses look to the leader horse. Also, backing up in hand, backing up in the stall( controlling where the horse stands during mucking with body language), backing up to take a treat from you over the door...these are all small ways to remind your new horse that she backs up for you(a submissive behavior in a herd).

I am glad things are on the up again. I have had these feelings with both the youngsters I have had and I am sure I will have them again with my next one. I still have these tricky feelings even now… and I have had my 19yr old since she was 2. 🤣 The winter weather definitely doesn’t help, but spring is coming now! Onwards and upwards. xx

So much better by the end! A lot more consistent! Just remember if it gets complicated take a step back! You can’t run a race on one leg!

Honestly keep at it! I’m 4 years in with peaches and it’s been the most up and down journey I’ve ever had but when it’s good it’s good! I was to pig headed to get help before because I just wanted to do it all myself but I have realised since breaking my hip that actually we can lol benefit from some help from someone more experienced (like Fred) and I really wish I did it sooner because now I’m getting the help it’s all coming together!! Your a fab rider Em and you should never doubt yourself xx

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks lovely. Couldn't agree more, don't be afraid to ask for help when needed. Glad things are getting there with your lovely girl xx

We have all been there. Thank you for acknowledging it. You are doing brilliantly with her.

Happens to us all, you have done a brilliant job with Addie. Don't doubt yourself you know what your doing 😍

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

😊 thank you

Thank you for sharing Emily!! It’s important to remember horses can be tricky sometimes and it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. However, I think having the lows makes the highs so much sweeter! I know you said Addie is better about the trailer now, but if you want to take a look at Shelby Dennis or Miri Hackett, they may give you some different ideas about training for the trailer and groundwork in general. Shelby Dennis used positive reinforcement in her training. Miri Hackett uses the TRT Method, which has really helped my horses!

Really enjoyed this and found it very educational. Highs and lows are normal, you've got this!

You might already know her (or have other sources that are helpful to you) but I can recommend Miri Hackett very much. She has a great Patreon with loads of videos for riding and groundwork and shows how to work with different 'difficult' horses and stuff :) After all, horses don't act as such, they don't premeditate their actions, they mostly just react: to us, their environment, fears, stimulants etc. and when we see it from that perspective it is easier for us not to become frustrated and emotional and think the horse is working against us. Also: I really do appreciate you sharing as I think we like to feel very much prepared for what is coming but in my opinion, being skilled and informed can still mean there will be bumps in the road and situations and experiences we did not anticipate to occur so it's lovely to see you be so honest

Literally everything SAME! You are so far from alone… consistency is key to everything. It’s the most boring but it really pays off! I can’t even tell you how many times I thought, what the hell have I done!? Why didn’t I just get something ready to go! 😩 I also found Miri Hackett SO helpful Keep going Em, you have got this 😘

I've had a very rocky and emotional journey with my gelding since purchasing him as a coming 3 year old. It really is all about staying positive and having the right support system through training. Hes now 7 years old and although I had hoped to be competing by now he was just very slow to mature both physically and mentally, and we as their riders/ trainers have to go at their pace and take the improvements as they come. some horses are ready at 60 days, some horses take longer. stick with it, the reward of getting past the bumps are amazing 🦄👍

This really helps i have lost my confidence in my ability at the moment and its horrible, but slowly getting there, you are doing amazing with her :D

Two months into the same journey, and 100% relate to this! Thanks for sharing - you're not alone ;)

I have a turning 3 YO Em i have learned to see the challenging days as good days, as it's highlighted or exposed a new opportunity to progress and create more understanding. She was bound to give you a challenge at some point- she needs to know she can trust and rely on you

Thanks for sharing. Nice to know that every day is not perfect, but always an adventure.

Addie is a lovely horse, you are going to have many, many, many good times ahead! I have to tune out those people who offer advice (espcially when unsolicited). If I followed all those tips my horse would be a nervous wreck. I always tell people - Stick with what your trainer/instructor says. If you're uncomfortable with it, you need to switch to someone new. For years I had butterflies every time I drove to the barn, and I've been in tears many, many times. Have had to do a lot of work on my own so it has taken me a while, but now I have a lifetime horse. Only took me about 20 years!!! Ha!!! Jealous of your camp plans, hope you can go and vlog some stuff for us. Hang in there!!! You got this!!!

@emdeventing

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! The thing is at the end of the day we are the ones with them each day, you have to find what works for you. Oh yes don't worry will definitely be taking you along to camp :) xx

Hi Emily I had exactly the same with my boy Kevin a ex racer. He was 4 in January. It was hard work from the beginning with one thing after another. Unfortunately with Kev things went from bad to worse and sadly two weeks ago I had to give my boy away to the ROR charity for rehab after exhausting my insurance after a injury he had back in November when he went crazy and jumped a gate hurting his back leg. We nursed him for 8 weeks after he came home from the clinic but they suspected a fracture so needed more treatment. We were just starting to bond when he went but it absolutely broke my heart. He was my first horse I'd waited my whole life to get. I never got to ride him properly so feel I've really missed out. I miss him every day and wish things had been different but I know he's getting the best treatment and I had to do what was best for him. I'm only 5 ft 2 so very small too. Keep going with addy you have the knowledge and experience to help her .she will be fine.

so proud of you !

Yep- It's all part of the journey & we all have moments like that. I'm still going through a similar thing myself, but in a slightly different way (older horse came home after 5yrs away, with some major behavioural issues due to inconsistent handling resulting in extreme anxiety, that required me to upskill/ increase my knowledge base of Equine behaviour & learning)- I've moved past the respect/domination based training & horsemanship methods to instead follow training methods based on science (Equine learning theory) which more closely align with my personal morals, but it can still be hard sometimes! I'm only human & occasionally get tripped up by the ingrained habits formed from many years of previous training & learning. I think regardless of which methods are followed, consistency is key when it comes to effective training. I'm glad you have found a training method that works for you & Addy is better understanding what is expected of her now.

OMG it's like you recorded my lesson from a few days ago! I have the same issues--leg going back behind the girth and rigid elbows. I've started doing pilates and yoga on my non-riding days to help work on my hip flexors so I can get a more effective lower leg.

You’re doing really fine with her and proud of you for doing this volog it’s hard work if you make it hard just do little things at a time with her you learnt that she clever and started to take control of you but you felt that and took it back to basic so now she knows your in control again it makes it easier for you still I love her and spritey you clever then you let on stop Doubting yourself love your ponies and you keep happy and safe x

Your are doing so well Emily she's such a sweet girl you and Addy are so good together good to see yoyr on the up !!!

Really enjoying watching you'res and Addies journey she going to be a cracking little horse in the future

Loved this sort of vlog Emily . Fair play for sharing. You and Addie are looking great you've definitely turned a corner. Look forward to a camp vlog . Always hated January such a depressing month 😞. Xx

@emdeventing

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Thanks so much! 😊 Yup totally agree, January is the longest month ever! xx

Using positive reinforcement for trailer loading and ground manners worked wonders for me! I so so so highly recommend it and encourage you to try it ☺️🐴 might be wonderful for darling Addy ❤️

I've been binge-watching your week in the life vlogs and I'm so excited to see a new vid just pop up :) :)

@Carroty_Peg

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PS try slacklining as part of strengthening your lower limbs - fun and hard!

@emdeventing

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Ooo thank you! Off to google I go hahaha x