I quit dating about 4 years ago. I decided to spend my time going to law school instead. It seemed like a better return on investment. I graduate in May and take the bar exam in July. Maybe after all that I'll be ready to try dating again :)

@theariesnme

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!!!

@dcryptospace1284

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats 🎉🎈🎊

@queencleopatra007

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats!!!

@nancykerrigan

2 жыл бұрын

Congrats and good luck!

@vanellesmith4598

2 жыл бұрын

Hats off to you my love!!!! Congratulations and blessings on your journey Sistar.

As far as i'm concerned, we should not be eschewing meaningful relationships - romantic or otherwise. I say this from the perspective of a hermit-adjacent introvert in my personal life and a therapist in my professional one. Social engagement is an important co-regulatory process that fulfils us as human beings. Its just challenging and immensely frustrating to wade through the f*ckshit to gather this gold.

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

Completely agree. The way 'rona has forced a hermit lifestyle on us all has really made me realize just how critical consistent, meaningful human connection is. Even for me, with my icy heart.

@iamtheboneofmysword607

2 жыл бұрын

Who are you, & why are you me 😂

@vanellesmith4598

2 жыл бұрын

Fucking facts. We need to eat our food, drink our water and watch this show!

@hereforit2347

2 жыл бұрын

💯

Oh Stephco is very necessary on YT…her content is honestly so refreshing, I’m so loving that you shouted her out!!

@dionneayanna5215

2 жыл бұрын

Yes she is needed! But now she is being dragged by these RP guys for being honest. SMH

@Ms.Yana83

2 жыл бұрын

I love her page.

@mimokjhvmogfdgk

2 жыл бұрын

Breathe of fresh air 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

“Sentient UTIs”. Lmaoooo I’m dying

@shopece8807

2 жыл бұрын

That was my favorite 😆😀.

I was happy to see that you had uploaded! I too discovered Steph's channel last year. I really appreciate her honesty and vulnerability. It was also really brave of you to share your dating journey. The apps truly terrify me lmao.

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! 🖤

@125loopy

2 жыл бұрын

I love when the black women I watch mention other black women I watch! We have so many great choices of millenial/gen z black women making great content. I wish we could have some collabs.

i said this to you before but i swear, every single day, my desire to simply live in the mountains away from everyone with some dogs, ducks, chicken, sheep, and a whole bunch of other farm animals grows. tired is an understatement at this point! also my heart has been in ice for 24 years and the one time it melted even a little bit i made a fool of myself. and my leo ass will not stand for that! back in the freezer! but in all seriousness, i hope you can find someone though, as quickly and painlessly as possible! 😅

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

My Leo sis, we are yin and yang on the chart for a reason. Completely agree, and I think it's just that, since I'm older than you, I'm realizing that my farm/compound with my bess frenz and lots of animals _may_ well be glorious...but I'ma also want my manz up in there. I hope *both of us* find what we want as painlessly as possible!

@GRTVO

2 жыл бұрын

A young friend of mine wishes to live how you just described.

I'm not even dating but I'm gonna be terrified when I do decide to take a dip in the cesspool. Especially since dating apps are going to overtake "the old school" way. It just sucks that we as women have to be extremely careful since there have been even more murd3rs following encounters on these apps lately. The dating pool is more like a gator-packed swamp imo!

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. I did a whole video on online dating safety, because I don't think people realize just how insane it is to meet up with someone from the internet *at their home* for a first/second meeting (guys suggest this all the time!). Even when being careful, you have to be *careful.*

@helenoftroy6265

2 жыл бұрын

If you have the resources and time to do this, check out “singles” clubs in your area, I heard it’s where single people can get together, they have all kinds of group activities like zip lining, biking, rock climbing, wine tastings, boating excursions, etc and you get to meet people without so much pressure in a safer setting. I don’t know how effective these programs are or the caliber of people that signup but even if you don’t make any connection you can form meaningful friendships. Dating apps are turning into “wine, dine, smash and dash” even though their profile says “looking for a relationship”.

@babyg7796

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! And when you do meet someone in person, it’s always: “what’s your IG, Snapchat or YT” too see how much clout or followers you have to even see if you’re worth pursuing🥴I hate it here.

@chikFromMTL

Жыл бұрын

As women, we should have a game plan and use good old fashion common sense,... My rule is I am not meeting anyone unless we have gotten to know each other over video chat/phone calls for a period of time, and genuine interest has developed. Rule of thumb: everyone's a liar until proven otherwise.

Yeah, the apps suck, they're basically designed to keep folks stuck using them. No money in actually connecting people just stringing everyone along. Then on top of that, if you're pretty attractive, you become the product so even less incentive to help you exit the app. They are very tiring.

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

Sheesh, while I'm very clear on us users being "the product" with social media, it's so much more sobering to make that same connection to the dating apps. I'ma go lay down. 😞

The the term “high value men” is so eye roll inducing fr 🙄🙄🙄

I'm back to dating too but I met a guy at work. I had 5 months to observe him and let him try to attract me. I won't use apps, it's too dangerous and random.

I've noticed that the term "high value man" is predominantly used in the black community and that's why it's been used ad nauseam... Black men have typically been the least likely to be successful by comparison to their other non-black counterparts and because now that they've gathered enough coins ( a small amount of them) it seems as though they're overcompensating for both time and lack of funds. The era of the high value black man is becoming well... nothing. The reality is that non black men don't typically tout about how "high value" they are although their "high value-ness" surpasses black men in general. The "high value men" term took off because black women were trying to figure out how to get high value black men, and that was a large part of the problem. I've noticed whenever black men get a little semblance of something, they tend to be able to hold it over black women's heads because black women accept black men when they have the least and value them most over any other life form, even their own children. So here we are as black women feeding into another engine of a vehicle sent to destroy us.

@theman9048

2 жыл бұрын

No it has more to do with Kevin Samuel popularity that the term has grown. This is just a new term to describe something that has always been around. Just pull up tom Lykis videos.

@TheSecondAdam

2 жыл бұрын

No one uses the term except Kevin on KZread and KZreadrs discussing him.

@mariaquiet6211

2 жыл бұрын

From what I can tell, white guys call themselves "alpha" or "chad" when they want to broadcast that they have shitty personalities and view relationships as soulless flesh transactions.

@samij6071

2 жыл бұрын

@@mariaquiet6211 Alpha - yes (although let's be real: all men have hopped on this bandwagon) but Chad is more of a term of derision the incel community coined to describe "any man that has sex and am now jealous of."

@milkchan202

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheSecondAdam and every black male with a microphone

Funk & Foul, Fool & Failure…. 😂 now I can add Fraud & Fed

Oh no! I'm do sorry Bro Jogan did that to you 🤣🤣 When I was dating my husband, he mentioned his podcast and I was devastated for a second until he called him an idiot.

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

I went on a first (and LAST) date with a guy to a comedy show, which he had picked because one of the middle comics was a "regular" on the Hulk Hogan Experience. One of my top 5 worst dates ever, easy.

my problem on top of having an icebox where my heart use to be and genuinely enjoying my alone time and loving the chase more than the end result and my romantic feelings dying within 2 weeks of me dating a person is that i hate online dating apps bc they feel so inorganic, but meeting ppl the natural way during our covid “interacting with strangers may kill u” era certainly does not help me

@dday3322

2 жыл бұрын

This is so me!

I absolutely love your commentary. It has the perfect amout of intelligence, wit, with a hefty pinch of sarcasm. ❤

@soulonsoul8035

2 жыл бұрын

She was paid to make this video by people who raped by daughter and gave her an STD. My daughter is 9. This video is riddled with coded personal threats and needs to be taken down. The original title of this video was “fraud and fed” because the federal government is involved. At least she was smart enough to change the title to something more subtle. But again. The whole video needs to be removed. I used to really enjoy her content.

@janine3330

2 жыл бұрын

@@soulonsoul8035I am truly Sorry for your issues but she is not responsible for any of that just because of a sponsorship. Why don't you purse the responsible party instead and get justice and closure for your daughter and yourself.

@soulonsoul8035

2 жыл бұрын

@@janine3330 I can tell you have no clue what you’re talking about. This isn’t a traditional“sponsorship”. She was paid to say specific things and make veiled threats about people involved in a Federal case without their consent, and some of these people are minors. Number 2, YES she is fully and solely responsible for the content she posts when it comes to civil lawsuits and even criminal complaints. Maybe you’re not from America, but she is. And in the US threatening, upsetting or slanderous content is a liability. Number 3, if I needed an opinion from strangers on the internet I would ask.

@soulonsoul8035

2 жыл бұрын

@@janine3330 yes times are hard and KZreadrs are looking to make money any way they can. But creatives need to be more careful about who they do business with, because this video is literally in service to child traffickers. I’ve been watching this channel for a long time and suspect if she knew who this video was for she wouldn’t have made it. Which is why I’m commenting on it

@janine3330

2 жыл бұрын

@@soulonsoul8035 I understand but you are acting like she is responsible for what someone else has done and she is not.

I could legit listen to you speak forever. You continuously drop gems & cause the brain wheels to roll for me. I love your perspective on topics & life in general.

@petermatthews6443

2 жыл бұрын

Forever…

Congratulations on being able to admit to yourself that you want a relationship! It does take a lot of strength, especially considering that the actual reality of online dating is so unambiguously awful. Best of luck and I'm leaving some good vibes here for the comments section. Also, I just discovered your channel recently from one of Kat Blaque's videos and I am really digging your videos! I just joined the patreon fam and can't wait to see more of your stuff :) Oh, and the move to the desk and addition of the headband - brilliantly executed setting change for the back-to-back videos. 10/10

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

I looove Kat. I didn't even realize she'd shouted me out, and I'm humbled. She's so thoughtful and I've really learned a lot from her, over the years. Welcome to the NapFam/Patreon, and thank you for checking out my little corner of the internet! 🖤

@__a__human__person__6752

2 жыл бұрын

@@nappyheadedjojoba kzread.info/dash/bejne/aYRnqNuHdpfNoKQ.html You were actually the FIRST of several KZreadrs she mentioned for a video during last year's Black History Month! It's a great list and many were new to me :)

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

Really?! I love it when I find out that another KZreadr and I are watching each other. 😅🥰 Thanks for letting me know!

Not enough people know that Bunk and Ditch only gained traction from doing very obviously fake golddigger pranks on YT. Classic high value man material.

Oh, yeah. I LOVE me some Oh Stephco. Been hooked ever since her "pretty privilege" video went viral last year.

The idea that stoicism is synonymous with bravery & strength is pervasive, & very relatable. ( It's definitely a conflation that I'm still trying to unlearn). However, I think that it actually takes a lot more courage & strength for a person to actually face & acknowledge their emotions/ vulnerabilities/ traumas etc (though there are probably still times when stoicism is a beneficial reaction in the moment as well).

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

🎯 I was an entire adult before I realized that vulnerability requires far more strength and courage than stoicism. Still easier said than done, though, to apply this revelation to life. 🖤

As usual, walking the talk and uplifting others by shouting out and giving credit and support to another KZreadr. Skin is looking magnificent!

do not internalize what people say on the internet about dating they are taking out there trauma on you those to frauds want to be wt so bad it kills them but the only thing is that if they were they would have no platform same with ye

The apps are scary. Too many creeps.

I usually just lurk and leave a like but I told myself that this year I would comment on my favs work more often. I’m so glad to see both your videos! I love your takes and I always find myself nodding and saying “mmmmhmm” under my breath 😂

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you came out of lurking to say "hello." I don't comment either (I watch and I go, 9 times out of 9) so I really do appreciate you. 🖤

I though I was the only one who thought he looked like Jaffar 😭😭😭😭.

"You only yolo once" 😂😂 True dat! The way the dating scene is set up these days, it's hard to remain hopeful about finding a quality partner, but you're so right... it all starts with feeling happy & complete on our own and within ourselves. There is no way that we'll be able to find someone who's worthy of us & who can love us correctly if we don't spend the time working on ourselves first.

Funk and Fed! 🤣 2 minutes in: F*CK and Stick!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤭😆

Everytime she says KUNYE I holler. . She's hilarious! LOL

Preach girl !!! I’m loving your vibe !! I’m glad you took a break and worked on your craft. You seem back and better then ever

It's so refreshing hearing your commentary. I truly missed you on this platform. ❤️

“You the he” is sending me

Welcome back! You are everything ❤️

Both uploads have been 👌🏾!! Thank you!!

I love how you support and give exposure to other legit KZreadrs - queen moves! Love that and love your vids. I feel like I could be your and Oh Stephco's friend too! Please keep your vids coming Xxx

She said he looked like jafar and I can’t unsee it 😂😂😂

I needed this on today. Always good to see you🥰

I am a 36 yr old black female and I gave up on dating and love and life. I don't fight for it anymore.

I’m so glad you’re back 💗

I can never get over your 'I have the misfortune of being attracted to heterosexual me' same girl... same

Hell yeah girl ! I’m happy you’re back !!

Every time I see one of your impeccable beats, I think about getting into make up, but then I think about all of the time and money I’d have to invest and I give up before I start. Great vid as always!

I just discovered you via this video and I am subscribing. Your personality is hilarious and relatable and I love it.💗

Dating in LA is trash and it’s really hard to find someone with good intentions… but I’m rooting for you Ti, even though you don’t have to date or find somebody and all that fluff. And ughhh I loved the Frog and Flunk segment, I love your takes in general. I miss your make up vids… I need to take notes on eye shadows tbh

Great video sis! I am glad you are out here dating because dating nowadays is a mess and the amount of foolishness you have to deal with is ridiculous. Tell them sis! Fresh and Hit is an absolute mess these men are complete liars, abusers, womanizers, and just down right ignorant. I really cannot follow black mens logic they uphold Patriarchy and Mysogny because it gives them this false sense of power and allows them to cast down their frustrations and anger down upon defenseless black women and children, but what men fell to realize is that not only does this system harm black women and children, this is the same system that makes a mans worth contingent upon being a provider & protector and if you are a dude who can do neither of those things you are automatically seen as worthless and not an actual man. I also find it strange that dudes consistently try to devalue people based off of trivial ideas. Gentlemen just because a woman dresses a certain way, looks a certain way, or carry themselves in a certain way does not decrease their value. As human beings when we are born we all have value and nothing can take that away away ever. Now for dudes that do this on a daily basis please understand that you is doing the bidding of (Respectability Politics) which is a system that is inherently racist, if you think that you have the right to disrespect somebody because they don't present themselves in a way that you deem appropriate is problematic. Instead of attacking black women for existing y'all need to be deconstrating the system that has conditioned you to be something that you is not. We are disrespected by people because we are black it has nothing to do with how present ourselves. There are so many women who are modest and these women get disrespected, harmed, killed just like women that they claim is too provocative. Its the system not us. Secondly, the whole concept of high value man does not even exist. What do black men own that makes them high value? On social media i see a trend of people adopting words in order to create elitist groups that they can then enact to exclude people based off of their own foolish preferences. People do know that the term High Value was actuually created by an Asian man and he established this term in order to describe men "who have economic power" I need these dusty dudes to sit down and stop! Instead of going to school, working, creating businesses, or investing in properties they would rarher sit on the internet and live a fake lifestyle while their living on their woman or mommas couch.

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

So glad you posted this here, and not just on Patreon -- the people *need to see* this sermon! 🔥

Thank you for mentioning the song line. I couldn't have said it better myself

"Funk and Fred" I'm trying not to cackle at 11pm

"& by get, I mean psychologically terrorize, abuse, & gaslight". 😂😂😂 You have been, for years, one of my BEST discoveries on KZread. Thank you lol

"You the he" 🤣🤣🤣

I love how you can show your smartness. It takes a strong man that knows who he is to appreciate this.

Ok, today must be my lucky day 🍀🍀 Watching my Favs on super bowl halftime show, then getting a notification that you uploaded a video, and on top of it, MENTIONED me in your video. Girl, I can't help but think it's a damn good lucky day😁🤣 Loved this video, I didn't know you had a Patreon. Why I didn't know I'm not sure, but checking that out now.😁 And I'm glad didn't waste your coin on those CT shadows. I returned mine. Terrible😵‍💫 Agreed, Danessa Myricks cream shadows are amazing 👏 Thanks for the mention, have a great week❤

@nappyheadedjojoba

2 жыл бұрын

Oh, you are the 🔌 when it comes to knowing *when* luxury is worth the spend! Thank you for saving so many of us from wasting our time and money on this CT flop! 😭🙏🏾

Your read on Fraud and Fed 😄😄😄. And Oh Steph Co is everything! Thank you for shouting her out.

I love steph,such a breath of fresh air,so real and so smart ❤️❤️❤️

Your commentary is EVERYTHING!!

YT deleted my comment, but I do believe that Kanye would do an OJ, and it doesn’t surprise me that he would use the “race” card, that’s what Ninjas do. You look beautiful.🖤🙏🏽🌹

"Sentient UTIs." I am taking this insult. Thanks 💕🥰🤣

So much I wish I could say but can't. Thanks for sharing.

I have LIVED your videos for years, but this is your funniest one ever. I am looking at my fixed income trying to figure out how to join your Patreon. Must listen at least three more times when I can try not to laugh out loud. I wish you could do a video about makeup after chemotherapy. No eyebrows or lashes left.

Lol T You always drop them funny bits. much Love to you Beautiful T.Y

You hit all good topics and takes. Thanks

Thank you so much For the tea

Great conversations, extremely intelligent and funny.

Omg I love ur editing!!!👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾well done ❤

Loved this video! I'm so glad I didn't get those cream eyeshadows either.

I look forward to videos from you! Also speaking truth and you're hilarious af while doing it!

😂😂😂😂😂 I had to pause and rewind at the “it took a lot for me to even open up my heart enough to admit that I have one” 💀

I just never get tired of hearing you talk lol ☺️

Good to see you again 🥰

Not Jafar!!! 🤦🏾‍♀️😂

omg another upload!!! Heaven!!!

"sentient UTIs" SFJLDBKDGFDDJKS I YELLED 😭😭😭

Yes west LA girl here I’ve been single and happy 4 years strong strong but I’ve been open a bit I’m not worried whatever Gods will I’m cool with that being single is a gift and marriage so blessings to all🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋

Im so here for this read on ff

Hi.... it’s been a while I joined last year the content was so dope I was like wow so much in 2 in a half minutes my type of crowd here ... I’ve worked with the lady before that has the blog you like I had no idea she felt that way she seems high value confident to me so I get it 💐💐💐💐

Missed you!!! Love you!!! YES!!! TO EVERYTHING YOU SAID!!!!!

I’ma need to join your patron. Your too rare not to support. I have a feeling your a living spirit guide.

pure gold content!

Yes ma’am! I’m here for all of this!

I have no idea who Fraud and Fed are and I’m glad I don’t!!

Are you going to do more dating horror story time videos?

Oh the wink at the end. I'm swooning.

I called them "Moron&Fish"

I know I spend way too much time on the Internet KZread in particular when I try and have conversations about people like fraud and fraudster as well as what a high value man is and then people have no idea what I'm talking about.

Your personality and delivery are great! 😂

This was a great one! Lots of literal lol! I'm glad that I don't know the 2 guys (F&F) you were referring to. Their channel sounds awful. I love Oh StephCo! She's really engaging and funny.

🥰 Im so glad you posted this! I love ur intelligence and humorous conversation. I also love your energy for black girls and having the confidence to say you don’t want children. I don’t have any children and other women and (some men) look at me like a freak of nature. Im in exactly the same space as you in the area of dating amongst the trash out here and these dating apps. I will certainly be tuning in! 😊

LOVE Stephanie's channel! :')))

Love your podcast. Relevant and irreverent as ever. Stay brave and beautiful!

The drill given to Kanye and Funky & Fraud is chef's kiss. 😆

"You the he" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Good to see you again your videos have not been on my feed

I agree online dating is toxic. I enjoy your content Nappyheadedjojoba. On point again. I love the "lukewarm tea" too.

LMAO!!! I’m glad you touched on Funk and Fraud. LMAO!

Sentient UTI’s will be added to my vocabulary.

Yayyy another video! I had almost forgotten about Fake and Fraud and their f%^€kery. See, that's why we need you. Not sure if you have seen her on KZread but Khadija Mbowe is a fellow Canuck putting out excellent content as well.✌🏾😍❤

Loving this ❤️

Someone finally getting to appreciate all that hard bodied work 🥰 whoop whoop get it get it 🤣🤣😍

love stephco and love that you’re a childfree queen!

I've been on the apps for a few months (this was after deleting in October and waiting a few months to reinstall) and I've found 3 (THREE!!!) men who are at least moderately reasonable enough that I can withstand a conversation with them 😊❤️. I remain hopeful

I’ve been missing your videos

You’re the best! Keep ot up!