God gave us a sense of attraction when we look at someone for a reason. It's the first thing that helps bond us to a person. I don't think it's a good idea to marry someone you are not physically attracted to because you will be prone to a wandering eye and that could down the line lead to unfaithfulness.

@TRUTHaintHATING

2 жыл бұрын

That's we're I'm at now..smh

@Pacifica74

2 жыл бұрын

@@TRUTHaintHATING Has also the lack of attraction affected the bedroom? I can imagine not wanting to be intimate more often than not.

@tomiwafaith

2 жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree foreal

@chaucerparks2042

Жыл бұрын

100..SPOT ON.. I've been telling my wife this for years now. Her lack of attraction to me, cast us in to many issues. I've seen her wandering eye many times. I have confronted her respectfully with my concerns and she denies it. Unfortunately, I am sincerely depressed and deeply considering divorce proceedings. She is a beautiful woman and I'm attracted to her. I am a handsome man but not her type of handsome...✌

@Pacifica74

Жыл бұрын

@@chaucerparks2042 I hope you both don't head for divorce. I say that coming from parents who divorced when I was a child. But this topic makes me realize just how hard it is to get everything you want in a person.

Yes women are more emotional, but we are not blind either. We want someone who looks good to some degree. Not every woman, but many of us.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Yes I definitely wanted to be attracted to my husband physically!

No it won't change over time. If you're not attracted to someone physically it is what it is. Someone's facial features don't change because of personality.

@littlehersheygirl6876

2 жыл бұрын

They don’t but for some people, that can change the way they look to them. Of course, their features are still the same. In the eyes of the other person, they just begin to look different.

@tomiwafaith

2 жыл бұрын

Foreal! If you not attracted u just not!! Like i hate when ppl try to force things down on me. I literally KNOWW hat i want like i NEED to at least see the attraction for me to even talk to a guy serious 😂

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

@@littlehersheygirl6876 Yes! Exactly

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

@@tomiwafaith Yes! That makes sense! LOL

@andreawalker2259

Жыл бұрын

My mom wasn't attracted to my father at first.. not at all. But she fell in love with him and became very attracted to him. 38years later and still all over each other. The same with me and my husband. 🤷🏾‍♀️ ain't no one size fits all

I think as Christians we are told to accept certain things but then you settle and there is resentment in the marriage

@ifeawosika966

10 ай бұрын

I only hear of this mess in western countries. We take physical traits way too far then wonder why people treat them like dirt after giving away the box.

@erikarobinson3557

10 ай бұрын

@@ifeawosika966 Not supposed to be giving away anything anyways until marriage.

@ifeawosika966

10 ай бұрын

@erikarobinson3557 That's the spirit. Saves a lot of trouble when we obey the word.

There absolutely has to be attraction.

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

thank you... met a man online we spoke on the phone for a month before seeing each other. AMAZING MAN of God, he had most qualities I was looking for but when we met, there was absolutely no attraction from me. Ive been crying all day cuz I had to let him go & he really believes in his spirit that I'm his wife & I genuinely care about him but I gotta give my Father more credit that he would give me a husband who I was attracted to & he deserves to have a woman who is attracted to him.

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

Trust the Lord sis! Stay encouraged God's got you!

@lexi1492

2 жыл бұрын

And you aren't even at least friends with this man?

@jaymsantiago

2 жыл бұрын

@@lexi1492 I tried to be just friends but he doesn’t wanna be friends so he’s not speaking to me. I text him and he ignores me… so yeah

@terrisserose

2 жыл бұрын

Update

@jaymsantiago

2 жыл бұрын

@@terrisserose we text each other here and there wishing each other well. But it never goes any further than that. I still don’t think he’s ready to be friends.

As a woman that stereotype that we “grow to love” men we find unattractive is lowkey wrong… i cannot fathom trying to “make it work” with someone who’s appearance, scent, personality is not what I truly want !

@PreciousdaughterofChrist

2 ай бұрын

Exactly 😢praying God sends me a man I’m attracted to in all ways

Seek Ye First The Kingdom of God and your desires will become God desires‼️🙏🏾

@chimereballard9609

10 ай бұрын

I agree!

@Amy-un6xg

15 күн бұрын

100%! You've got the right idea :) Sadly, the only comment I've seen that's Biblically sound...

Thank you for this. My prayer to God is that I don’t settle out of desperation but use common sense as well. He knows me better than I know myself so I’m sure he got my back. He gives us the desires of heart so why wouldn’t he?

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

You're so very welcome! And yes God most definitely can bring you someone that you find attractive! He wants you to be pleased ;-)

There was a woman whom I believe was sent into my life for a season. To this day I think the world of her because of her godly character. We were together during a very low point in my life. My extended family immediately liked her because of the kind of person she is. She knew something was missing from the relationship, and when she began to argue, I found myself constantly telling her I wasn't cheating on her, which was true. When she started to question my sexuality--and I'm a lifelong heterosexual--I was forced to acknowledge that no matter what I tried to feel for this woman, the attraction was not there and it wasn't fair to her to continue the relationship.

@CharbriaShine

10 ай бұрын

Yes so glad that you realized it and was honest with her!

@-MscRidaFatima

8 ай бұрын

Hey i am going through something similar with my husband,he says he is not attracted to me ,can we talk on this topic,there r very few people who can understand and talk about this.

@CharbriaShine

8 ай бұрын

@@-MscRidaFatima Hey! have you asked him why? For example, has he never been attracted to you or does he feel that over time he has lost the attraction? Sometimes that can happen in a relationship where an individual loses the attraction for certain reasons. But there is hope! There are certain things that one can do to bring back that "spark" and attraction back in a relationship. But it first starts with an open and honest conversation with your partner asking are there things that I can do to bring back the attraction. FOr example, maybe when you first got together you had datenights and you dressed sexy or wore a certain thing that he liked etc. But obth people have to want to work to bring the "spark"back.

Even the most attractive person can turn hideous if they're attitude, and foul hearts arise, over time you will see them for what they truly are.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

True the heart is most important.

@soleil7259

7 ай бұрын

Also looks aren't everything in general. I met pretty men and over time, their looks faded.

There has to be attraction. We are here in the flesh.

You have to be remotely attracted to your spouse. As a god fearing woman myself I know I'm not the most attractive woman so I'm not expecting my husband to be gorgeous. However, I do expect to be satisfied intimately. Imagine being married and never climaxing. Part of that is attraction

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Abssolutely! You have to be attracted to your spouse!

@TomikaKelly

10 ай бұрын

You're beautiful, sis. Don't play yourself. 🤎

@lucretiajohnson1830

3 ай бұрын

You are beautiful.

Three words; Songs of Solomon. God invented sexuality. He made the means of bringing about the next generation of humans something that was very pleasurable and good for us as well! Good sex reduces stress and improves intimacy between couples; something that is VERY good for living long and happy lives! But to get a marriage like this, you need to be honest with who you are and what you want. And when you find someone attractive and available, take the initiative to get to know them and see if there’s potential for something more.

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Great response! Thanks for sharing!

@joycefuraha6403

9 ай бұрын

Perfect

I've learned from past experiences that focusing on inner beauty is more important than outer beauty. You can be with someone that is very attractive and be very miserable. The heart (Inner beauty) is what's really attractive. I will choose a spouse with a heart of Gold over a spouse with looks that kill any day. The one that God has for you (soulmate) is what you really need. Let God choose.

@PinkPeach888

10 ай бұрын

This makes no sense. I refuse to believe God has someone for me who I’m not physically attracted to. God created physical attraction and feelings for wanting to be intimate with someone for a reason. It’s all of nothing for me and I will NEVER settle for less, period.

@CharbriaShine

10 ай бұрын

I agree! I'm blessed to say that I have a man with a heart of gold and I'm attracted to him! Thank you Jesus! He gave me the desires of my heart!

@ifeawosika966

10 ай бұрын

​@@PinkPeach888All or nothing usually means you get nothing. Hope you're ready for that

I always say this. I can see someone really attractive but I’m not attracted to them. I think attraction is chemistry and sexual connection, I’ve felt that with guys who i consider ugly but out of nowhere i became attracted to him and once those hormones started get going, he was the sexiest thing since sliced bread. On the other hand, ive dated a few really attractive men but for the life of me i couldn’t find them attractive, i was repulsed by them. That’s why you can initially not find someone attractive but spending time for whatever reason, you become attracted to them and once that happened, you’ll start finding them attractive. That’s why people should date and get to know someone instead of just walking away just because of how someone look initially. Those attractions can sneak up on you. Attractive and attraction is different! Attractive is the physical looks, attraction is the chemistry you feel for someone despite how they look which if you feel chemistry, they will look good, but MOSTLY ONLY TO YOU!

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your perspective ;-)

@Dancediva240

2 ай бұрын

That’s why people should date and get to know someone instead of just walking away just because of how someone look initially. You do realise that the person will try to kiss and get intimate with you to some degree during this 'dating'? Then what are you gonna do when the attraction still hasnt "sneaked up on you"? Blow them off each time? And how long do you even indulge in this exercise? Men dont bother if the attraction isnt there for the most part and they are the smarter of the 2 sexes for thinking that way, honestly.

I'm 24, only been once on a date with a guy from Bumble who says he was a Christian... no one is perfect but it was a turn off for me that he doesn't prioritize going to church every Sunday. Before I did not care about appearance but I realised how important it is to actually be attracted. It's been a year but I'm still thinking about the WHAT IF.

@CharbriaShine

11 ай бұрын

Yes attraction is imporatnt and prioritzing his relationship with God is too! I agree with you! Don't worry about the what ifs, dont settle! If it was meant to be with him, it would have happened. You were turned off for a reason so dont second guess yourself. Stay encouraged! God has someone who is right for you ;-)

I really think it boils down to self awareness & what you value. If you know you need physical attraction to stay connected to someone, then don’t marry someone you’re not physically attracted to. If physical attraction isn’t your priority & you value other things above it, then do you. It’s your marriage & your life. We all know what we can & can’t do!

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

THanks so much for sharing your perspective!

@Dancediva240

2 ай бұрын

very true!

"Don't April fools ya self." HA; too funny. I did this too many times in my life and I told God that this time around please send me a man of God that I'm attracted to. Forcing yourself doesn't feel right and in the end I had resentment. As said, wait on the Lord and be honest.

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

Yassss! Definitley don't fool yourself! GOd wants you to delight in your spouse and to be attracted to them!

Agreed. Don’t force it! If it’s not there from the beginning then assume it never will be. Very seldom does physical attraction grow with time. I know from hard learned experience. I married a wonderful man but I was not physically attracted to him. At least not enough to consider marrying him. I was too young and inexperienced at the time and honestly had no idea or no business getting married at that stage of my life. Looking back, I have to admit I married him because he was/is an outstanding person. Not for the connection (or lack therof) between is. You are really risking a lot by doing the same …as it is much more difficult to get out of the situation the further you get in. Fast forward over a decade later, and I (well, we both) are very unhappy and unfulfilled in the marriage. It has been essentially sexless from the early days and we now lead very separate lives. I’ve never been one to believe in divorce either. So I don’t know what to do ultimately.. please don’t make the same mistake I did.

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

Yes you are right!! There definitely needs to be an attraction between two people who are deciding to get married! Thanks for sharing and praying for you and your situation!

@amandavalentino3818

2 жыл бұрын

It’s not over yet. Ask God for a miracle. Simple as that. “God give me a miracle please”

@amandavalentino3818

2 жыл бұрын

Psalms 25:3 Wait for what he has, don’t work and don’t force anything.

@EadsB7002

2 жыл бұрын

@@amandavalentino3818 thank you guys for your comments and input. it's much appreciated.

@DivaDivine88

2 жыл бұрын

God didn't want you to live unfulfilled either.. he wants you to be abundant and prosperous and in a happy loving marriage.. he will support you in doing what aligns with your higher purpose and most fulfilling life. By going against your intuition, you're kinda going against God.. do what makes you happy. Life is too short.

Thanks for the advice. Greatly appreciated 😊🙏🏾

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome!

My mum married my dad who was a soft gentle man very much in love with jesus too they met at church. but my mum didnt love him and felt forced to marry him but she still married him she ended up leaving him and getting into a relationship with a terrible man who was physically abusive. Shes still with him, she even married him. Today that man is saved but it took a lonnnnng time before he accepted jesus. My mum learnt later that she had a choice. God showed her that the religion in others and her heeding their words and not seeking gods word costed her many years of abuse he also showed her Rachel had a choice to accept Jacob somewhere in their story rachel was given the choice to accept jacob. So seek god in prayer. But dont wait until after the alter to make your choice because marriage is a serious thing before god

@digittydog

2 жыл бұрын

Her huge mistake was leaving your father and divorcing. It was wrong.

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear that she suffered. And yes it's so important to seek God in prayer about your mate and to also know what you want. So many times people ignore the warning signs out of desperation or loneliness. It's so much better to wait for the right person.

Thank you , this video has been a huge help . God bless you both and your ministry

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for tuning in! So glad that you enjoyed this.

I'm so grateful for this video!! Thanks my true story.

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

Glad that this video could be a blessing to you!

Thank you , after listening to you guys, I have so much peace

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

So glad this encouraged you!! Thanks for tuning in!

When you mature you will be surprised what you will be attracted too..all praises 2 the most high 👑

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

So very true! Thanks for watching

I needed this video. I've been struggling with my decision to cut off communication with a man whom I met through a mutual friend. On paper he was great, however, the personality and communication were off. Also, I was not attracted to him. I'm 50 and I have been anxious about my decision due to the lack of opportunities coming my way. However, I know it wouldn't have been fair to either of us for me to try to force it.

@daviddickenson1243

Жыл бұрын

A Lady how are you ????

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

You're so right that it' not fair to either of you to settle! Trust God sis! He's got you no matter your age! Don't settle! You deserve a great love!

@raeesahrar7264

Жыл бұрын

How is it going now? Are you happy with the decision?

@alwaysalady9775

Жыл бұрын

@@raeesahrar7264 I am. It was not meant to be for that guy and myself.

thank you a lot, that's really helped me to take my decision

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome!

Experiencing vaginal penitration without being attracted to that individual is a bad experience

@teddydaisy-hk4nc

10 ай бұрын

Well that’s straight sex 🤔married people should make love not have sex in the first place

I believe attraction to me is built. Physical works for me, oh yes! But they stop looking good to me once we do not have a mental, spiritual and good communication connection. Thank God for will. I believe that God gives your full desire! I believe in attraction, too. Yes!!! I do not do divorce either! Never settling. Patient, patient, patient.

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

You're so right! I agree that someone can be cute but if that's it and we didn't connect on the othe levels that cuteness faded fast! Attraction is important but attraction alone is definitely not enough!

This is the problem people are mixing up "attracted" with "attractive". If you want to be attracted that's like love at first sight or sexual chemistry. Finding someone attractive means you think they are good looking but you're focusing on the whole picture including looks. Mixing these up is why people won't give anyone a chance. They want to be attracted which is one dimensional. I recently liked someone. I wasn't attracted to her. I liked the whole picture. But she was attractive.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

@Kala813

5 ай бұрын

That’s a good way of putting it

@Dancediva240

2 ай бұрын

you liked the whole picture but you weren't attracted?? like wutttttt lol. Attracted usually means physically, pls dont convolute it. That doesnt mean that you continuing dating an asshole just because they are hot. But you need to be attracted to both looks and personality

@NoName-zb1gm

2 ай бұрын

@@Dancediva240 She was attractive. It's not like she weighed 500 pounds and I'm acting like it's not a big deal. I didn't look at her and think I want to blank her brains out. Somewhere in between when we would have gotten together and got to know each other. But all of this is irrelevant because I found someone who I am actually attracted to I just hope she's not crazy. So now I'm going the other direction.

I was married for 16 years. My husband was attracted to me I was not attracted to him. We were both saved , he was strong in the Lord and I thought that would be enough. It was not! I'm not just speaking of physicality. I'm also speaking of emotional and mentally attracted to him and I was not. We both love the Lord however I could not get past the fact that I had settled thinking that I was in God's well. God wants us yes for Kingdom purpose also to enjoy our lives with our spouse in love

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

This hurts for me cos I kept praying when I met this Christian girl I liked .......but God was giving dreams that warned me about her ......after I confessed my feelings and said I wanted to take things slowly....she just started ignoring me......from then I could say I grew mature but my heart has always been broken....never really healed......in my opinion if u don't get someone u find attractive dont date them because God doesn't want us to be lustful for others when we commit to someone

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear about your heartbreak. I truly hope that you give your pain to Jesus and heal from your past! And yes you are so right it's important to be attracted to your partner and God can send someone that is pleasing to you.

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

@CharbriaShine

8 ай бұрын

You're so very welcome! Thanks for tuning in!

Great Advice. I've experienced that sometimes our attraction is misdirected because of our lack of maturity and placing Godliness above carnal desires. Sometimes a lack of attraction for the deeper things that matter tells us we are not ready yet for God's best.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for tuning in and sharing your perspective!

Interesting perspective both from husband and wife. Reading through some of the comments was educational and insightful. I found some comments very honest and sad situations. I have been married for nearly 35 years , my love for my wife has grown over the years including sexual attraction.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for tuning in! Congrats on an awesome marriage ;-)

I keep being told I should take what I could get. Sadly, I'm only approached by men I have 0 attraction to. I've watched many christian marriages fail due to a lack of attraction to each other.

You are speaking the truth

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

Thanks alot couples, God bless your union

I just like to have both in a man someone who is my type and a God fearing praying man

@CharbriaShine

11 ай бұрын

Yes! ANd you can have both! GOd promises to give us the deisres of our heart! I have my hearts desires in my husband and I know that God blessed me with him! Stay encouraged and never settle!

I don't think so. God wants us to multiply, and it's hard to do that when you can't see yourself sleeping with them.

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

I agree wondering if you actually watched the entire video ;-)

Well said!

I think attraction is important; however we can be slaves to the wrong kind of attraction. "To be without knowledge is not good, and he who hastens with his feet sins." The flesh needs to be crucified to make room for more righteous desires. It is very important to have desire. But there must be righteous desire. Lust is evil desire. "The desire of the righteous is only good." "The desire of the righteous shall be granted." Ultimately the inner person is more important than physical attraction, but what was not brought up in this video, but which I think they probably would agree with, is that good attraction involves so much more than just physical attraction.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

YEs good attraction is so much more than jsut physical! Thanks for your perspective!

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

YEs good attraction is so much more than jsut physical! Thanks for your perspective!

@skp3715

9 ай бұрын

Amen

I had a guy yesterday tell me he wants to have a baby with me. And we only talked twice. ....creepy... Not attracted don't want kids with that dude. That's really sudden and weird

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Yes that is very soon!

As a survivor of sexual assault God has made it clear to me that he will not have me marry someone I am not attracted to, he knows my heart and my heart knows that would feel like R@&3 if i settled, I thank God for knowing what and who is a perfect fit for us and our desires , we just have to trust it will be the perfect match when he’s involved and we want his will not ours

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

THanks for tuning in! Yes God will give you the deisres of your heart as your desires line up with his will. I'm so glad you decided not to settle! Keep the faith ;-)

If you marry someone your not attracted to you will resent that person and God

Thank youuuuuuuu!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭💖

As singletons, we all have/had crushes that we know aren't good for us but we can't help liking them... God knows whats best for us & he has an ordained spouse for us which is a spiritual blessing that we unlock by following his laws. Surely the person's spirit man, the person who will bring you closer to God is more important than outside looks but marrying someone you don't find attractive (or even respulsed by) seems insulting & desperate as it comes off like you're settling for something you don't desire. When it comes to partners & marriage, Satan tries to cause destruction with the spirit of rejection, lust & divorce & will try to stop God's plan for your life in everyway. God must of gave us physical, sexual & romantic attraction not for lust or fornication, but so we can accept & follow his will?

You guys don’t believe in divorce? God bless you! Not many people believe that! I love that! God bless you!

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Hey sis! Thanks so much! God bless you as well ;-)

Liked your video very much ❤

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for checking it out! 🙏

Amen God is giving me the desires of my heart the Lord is not going to force me or anyone to marry someone we are not attracted to. This video is right on time there is a man at church that has been following me watching me and trying to get me to go out with him. I have absolutely NO attraction to him and I want him to leave me alone. I am not a mean person but I am not settling in whom I marry and I will have a husband that I am very attracted to in every way. The Lord is bringing my Boaz and my Kingdom marriage is happening this year. 🙏♥️🙌💯‼💥☝️👑

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Yass speak it into existence! Thanks so much for sharing.

@amiejackson4582

9 ай бұрын

@@CharbriaShine Yes!!! 🙏♥️🙌 Your welcome.

I almost married someone. We just called it off. He said he was attracted to me but said he had no burning physical desire for me, or anyone, but just because it wasn't "burning" desire doesn't mean he's not attracted (he said). I thought it was going to be fine because he kept telling me he wanted to be intimate after marriage of course and that he was absolutely attracted but the desire was not there with any remote actual passion and I started to feel like crap bc a girl can tell when a man doesn't care. I could be wearing a paper bag or dressed to the nines and he just wouldn't be bothered at all. I got scared because how can I marry someone who says one thing but acts differently. I don't want to feel sexual tension with someone else and feel sad that I don't feel it with my husband. These are things you can notice in just the way someone looks at you. I feel like if someone is attracted to you they'd at least show it somehow like when they kiss or touch you there would be some kind of feeling beyond what is felt in a peck on the cheek. I really thought it was God's will to marry him bc he is such a godly man and I loved him and was absolutely into him but I was crying too often and feeling unseen & unattractive bc of his total lack of real intention toward me sexually. Two months til my would-be wedding and we've called it off. I was worried I did the wrong thing but this was affirming to me. I feel terribly sad but how do you risk the rest of your life on it when you can only be with one person forever after that. I'm 33.

@v3nomxxx961

9 ай бұрын

I really believe you did the right thing. You deserve to be with someone who just at the sight of you wants to appreciate you and hug you. They should be burning with the desire to love you and serve you. So yeah it sucks to have to start all over again. I won’t pretend to know what it’s like. But he glad you’re not stuck with someone who isn’t attracted to you for the rest of your life. Trust in the Lord. He will send you soemone better. Just because someone is Godly doesn’t mean they’re meant for you. You can find a Godly man that isn’t hard if you look in the right places. Finding a spark.. now that’s what’s difficult. And that’s what was missing with your fiancé

@christinec.8107

9 ай бұрын

@@v3nomxxx961 thanks 🤗🙏🏼

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear that you went through this. As far as the sexual passion and desire could it be that he was holding back becasue he was trying to save marriage for after sex because of his relationship with GOd? You mentioned he wanted to wait until after marriage?

@RahYisrael99

9 ай бұрын

You felt unseen because he didn't see you. It doesn't make him a bad person. Just not the person for you.

@christinec.8107

9 ай бұрын

​@@CharbriaShinewe both are waiting for marriage. Have never done that with anyone so I also really thought that's what it was. But he wasn't just holding back... That's why we got so close to getting married bc I thought that was exactly what it was. But as we got closer and closer to actually being married and knowing this is your person he just still had nothing in his regard toward me & I thought that at some point it would turn on that way. I ended up so insecure bc even if I wore something really nice he just didn't even blink like once I even told him he was confusing me bc of this and asked does it not make a difference to him if I dress this way or that way... jeans vs all the stops... he said that no his brain just doesn't work that way. I said I would want to look nice for him but wouldn't care too much otherwise so is he saying he just isn't affected by what I wear no matter what it is and he said "of course I want us to look good" ... he had no temptation to even spare me a glance that way... wouldn't put his arm around me or do anything like that even if I asked he just said that's not how he is, I thought it was him being respectful at first but turns out he just doesn't want to. In the end I wanted to see him again bc we were scheduled to not see each other for a month and we're getting married in two months... he tried to tell me it's not normal after spending two weeks with someone to not need time apart so let's play it by ear... I said no it IS normal to want to spend time together when you love someone and not normal to not want to see your fiancee for a month and if you are tired of me after two weeks how will you handle a lifetime. ... :/ He tried to tell me that when we are married there will be more balance like a lot of days you just see each other at dinner and when you go to bed and we shouldn't be wanting quality time every day. I was crushed. Eventually I actually sat him down and said bluntly (bc we can't do anything too far to figure it out otherwise) that people who are about to get married usually really want to be with each other and usually it's the most passionate time of a relationship like when you haven't had relations but know you CAN soon then kissing and things like that usually inspire some kind of want or passion or intensity like just bc you yearn for something doesn't mean you have to act on it. But the yearning should be there. Guy looked at me like I had two heads and said he's never felt that kind of passionate want for anyone in his life... now we didn't have sex but we were close enough to each other at times (getting married in 2 months..) where this line just makes me feel like crap like how can he say that... I let it go bc I've never heard a man talk like this and he just seems like he wants to love me but doesn't really. Maybe he thought he does. I wish it came out earlier but at least it's before and not after. I can't feel like that forever.

I appreciate this video.

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Hey! thanks for tuning in and I am so glad that it was helpful! We will be doing more of these videos in the new year;-) Subscribe so that you don't miss them. Happy Holidays!

I agree with both of you❤

I dated someone great, Christian, consistent, reliable and a good friend for a while. The biggest issue was that I've never been physically or sexually attracted to him, so I,'ve never developed strong feelings and wasn't very fulfilled. I prayed a lot about the situation, even had some therapy sessions to figure out what I should do. In the end, I feel like God didn't specifically told me what to do and he wanted me to make choice by myself. In the end it all comes down to what are you able to tolerate. And remember that marriage requires sex and being affectionate towards your spouse and broken & unloving Christian mariages are not will of God.

I am really interested where your opinion is biblically founded, and what scriptures you have to support this. Because there is also a calling for a dying to the flesh and the spirit of lust, as well as a vanity. What happens when they are deformed by a car accident and not only did you loose all attraction but maybe even limbs, what about when you get older and loose your looks, or your body changes due to children. There are so many factors to take to the lord. What about judging someone based off of the content of your character verse the color of your skin ie outward appearance. God looks at the heart, man looks at the outward appearance. And we are called to become more godly. I think that there is even a scripture that even addresses this issue I would have to go and look for. Some times God gives us something different that what we think we "desire" because he knows what's best for us and what we need in the refining process. I think it's obviously very important to be very open and honest about this with the person that you're struggling with and see their response to how they feel about it and go from there. I think their response will make a huge difference but I know for a fact that when we lay down Our idols and give them over the God God will give us new eyes to see but it doesn't always happen at front the way that we think it should sometimes it takes a little bit time. And as long as you're being open and honest and communication with exactly where you're at with that other person Because in all honesty that is a huge struggle that's only fair to them to know and make up their own mind on whether they're OK with that to deal with it. But I know that many times personally for myself I've seen God supernaturally work by holding on description not going off of our own thoughts or wants and seen myself change for the better. And I think this situation is no different. I think that it's only fair to the honest with them but fair to give them a chance ifter that great otherwise. And if after a. A good period of time that doesn't ever change then that's fine but at least give God the chance to do what hes trying to do and you. I mean if this person is so great otherwise why not allow the Lord a chance to work in it. I've met so many great looking men who are so egotistical run from problems Self centered selfish. Amongst many other undesirable characteristics that half the time they open their mouth and you wish they hadn't. And then you meet someone who is so great and you've never met anyone like them and never had anyone who wasn't afraid to face problems and worked through them together and wanted to work through them together, That was kind and gentle and respected your boundaries and your desires desires without having to beat them over the head with it. It's kind of a rare thing to find. I think that if you give it a fair shot and you still can't get past it after a fair amount of time. Then it's OK to walk away. Cause then it's not fair to you or to them and the last thing you would want to do is hurt them. But if you just run you have no idea what God's trying to show you or what he wants you to learn or what he wants to break off with you.

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Hey! I get what you're saying as far as if someone loses their "good looks" that you were once attracted to in an accident or once a person ages. I completely agree that you should not leave them because that's not true love. I think your examples are extreme though because that's not what we are addressing. Also have I personally met some really attractive guys who different have great character or that wasn't a great guy of course! And yes I have met some guys that were less attractive but great guys who loved the Lord and were genuinely kind. Again this is not what we are talking about in this video. Also can you meet someone that you may not have been attracted to at first but then God shows you their heart and as you get to know them your feelings change absolutely as I addressed in the video. I know a few people that this has happened to but if their feelings never change and an attraction never develops no I do not believe that it is wise to marry that person. We are not forced to marry. Paul talks about marriage and singleness in 1 Corinthians 7. Paul even talks about it where he says that it's not wrong to marry if you desire and it's not wrong to stay single if you can stay pure and desire to. (even though in his opinion he said that he wishes all stay single like him so that they can wholeheartedly serve the Lord but we know that marriage is a godly thing. In Genesis he said it's not good for man to be alone. I'm sure marriage was meant to be a blessing) So then why would you desire to marry someone that you have absolutely no attraction to. Yes in marriage we are to learn how to be more like Christ and to grow and mature in it but not required or forced to marry someone. The word lets us know that as we delight in the Lord he will give us the desires of our hearts Psalm 37:4 (as long as it is not a sinful desire) God wants us to delight in our spouse. God loves and yes he knows what we need and what we desire and he knows ultimately what's best for us ;-) I praise Him for sending me a husband that I was attracted to, a man who loves and honors God and one who has integrity, good character, a loving heart and whose even a romantic! God answered my prayers! He's so good! ;-)

One thing I'm wondering is that what are people who are deemed by society as unattractive supposed to do? I know a lot of the time it's in their control but sometimes it just isn't. I want to believe there's someone for everybody.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

I do belive that there is someone for everyone if they desire marriage. And everyone finds different things attractive meaning we may find someone unattractive while someone else finds them attractive. thanks for sharing!

@everlasting_love777

2 ай бұрын

Dress nicely in a way that suits your body type and personality. Take good care of your skin... Clear skin is a big part of beauty. Wear hairstyles and subtle accessories that make you look and feel good. Become articulate if it doesn't come naturally. Read uplifting books. Take care of your teeth. Maintain a healthy weight. Develop your relationship while you wait. If you want marriage, God has someone for you. And remember, society is fickle. What's attractive today may not be tomorrow, and vice versa. Who cares what society thinks? Just find one single person of the opposite sex who disagrees with society's dumb opinions!

I love her laugh 😂😂

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much sis! LOL

Thy will be done ✅ prayers 🙏

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for tuning in!

Im keeping my high standards id rather be alone than not having the woman i want

@CharbriaShine

7 күн бұрын

@@Griffin4455 I hear ya! Makes sense to me!

I'd say God isn't really focused on how people look, God is focused on the condition of a persons heart. We have to remember, although they might not look the way you want. But they still could be the overall person you need.

@shamekahughes

10 ай бұрын

Without the marriage. No need to live a lie

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

I think it is according to what you desire. For me looks are not the most important thing but I did want to find the person I married attractive physically and as far as his personality and his character as a man.

@rockyayce6485

2 ай бұрын

Why do people get looks confused with attraction??? Attraction has nothing to do with the outward attraction is the inner connection!! Your drawn to the person on the inside attraction is something within not without because a person can be attracted to the ugliest most unattractive person in the world. Attraction is custom made it has absolutely nothing to do with looks.

Lol I had this convo today I met a man , I said “God this isn’t my portion “ hehehe

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Lol well there it is you already know

Well I can't speak for anyone else but for me I'm very picky when it comes to women ( my main preference is mainly latina, or dark skin black women mainly foreign African) but I'm trying to be a little more open but I know for me personally if I don't fine a person attractive intimacy isn't going to work and I have to be honest I have unfortunately attraction alot of not so good looking women but I know that the woman God has for me will be someone I will be attracted to and comfortable with.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thankf for watching! Yes GOd most definitley can send you someone that you're attracted to!

It's crazy I have a "type" but it's more like what's appealing to me initially but I've only been with my "type" once because I didn't miss the opportunity with good women

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching and sharing your experience!

I’ve yet to meet someone I’m attracted to physically and spiritually

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear that. Don't give up hope if that's your desire!

Burning desire is lusting dear. A say a lil attraction, as in you’re not repulse by them and work your way from their, because what matter is you guys have a mutual understanding on faith, family and values. I would run away from someone i have a burning desire for, that means both of have no fruits of the spirit, no self control. Burning desires takes away from what is important, once that lusting cools down you’ll realize you have nothing in common with this person and probably don’t like them

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for your insight! Hope you enjoyed the video!

I came out as gay at 16 I've never been attracted to a woman. I want to get married and I want a husband. I watched a pastor talk about sexual purity and a marriage is between man and woman. I just want love from a partner just like everyone else can have. I can't just magical be attracted to a woman. I felt really discouraged. And it makes me feel like I'm going to always have this longing in my heart and it's kind of torture to be honest. Almost like I don't get that chance to love. Humans are supposed to love each other. Whole Heartadly. Is God telling me love isn't in my future because I'm attracted to a man. I have Major depression. This way of thinking if it's the truth then why am I even on this earth if love isn't in my future?

@michellalbaA

Жыл бұрын

I would recommend watching and listening to Jackie Perry. Her story is encouraging and inspiring!!

@haydenlaidlaw6410

Жыл бұрын

I have decided to stop looking for a bf and if I desire to look for love I tell myself to stop and focus on my life and my present life I have in front of me and I am getting closer to God. 🙂

@haydenlaidlaw6410

Жыл бұрын

We are all human and I know I was saying a lot of this out of emotion. I have severe depression and so I have my lows.

@jad3ruby_

Жыл бұрын

@@haydenlaidlaw6410 this is a great mindset to have. Keep seeking God and He will fulfil you always. God bless!

@christinedozier2154

Жыл бұрын

I believe that Love will find you when you least expect it. God bless and sending love your way. We all deserve to love and to be loved in return.

Personally, I couldn’t be with a woman who wasn’t attracted to me the same way I’m attracted to her because I will be more in love with her and then she’s in love with me

@CharbriaShine

10 ай бұрын

I totally get it! that makes sense

I was brainwashed into thinking God will lead me to a husband and I blindly married a guy I thought God chose for me and 8 years later I’m realizing everything and why my intimacy wasn’t working ever and I asked God to help me.. but I was sick for the 8 years of marriage because of bad theology and pushing me to do what I didn’t want to do and jealousy.. :( I had panick attacks & anxiety for many years

@CharbriaShine

7 күн бұрын

@@jocelynarcentales So sorry you went through that! Hope you’re well and healing :-)

I'm a 45-year-old virgin, many women say I'm not attractive or ugly, so I gave up.

this thing of attraction is what society has told us is a pre requisite for marriage but we forget that attraction is based on feelings and emotions and these can change anytime and when we build marriage on temporary things divorce becomes inevitable i think instead of basing it on attraction lets base it on commitment and responsiblity if he is responsible God fearing and commited then thats good enough the attraction will come when you start having sex

@travay6328

Жыл бұрын

That's sad. It doesn't work like that honey. You can't have sex with someone you are not attracted to.

@zhouadwina918

Жыл бұрын

@@travay6328 that kind of mindset is exactly why most young women are sleeping with irresponsible men who cant commit to them and they become angry and bitter attraction is an illusion you will be attracted to someone if you really want to its a choice its not something by accident

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

I think it's veryn dangerous to assume the attraction will come. It can but if it doesn't come before the engagment then it's not wise to assume that it will come. And yes marrying soley based off of attraction is also dangerous since we all know that looks fade. Thanks for sharing ;-)

@zhouadwina918

Жыл бұрын

@@CharbriaShine marriage was never about attraction honey its about commitment and responsibility

@travay6328

Жыл бұрын

@zhou adwina I am 23 and still a virgin, recently there was a wealthy guy who wanted to commit. I wasn't attracted to him, so I cut contact. That's not healthy for either one of us. I will be unhappy and he as well. You have the right to your opinion and I have right to mine. Most people will disagree with you but you will also find people that agree with you. Just please respect everyone's opinion and move on.

Yes is that's who he chose for you

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for tuning in!

Wow that's definitely good question but i made a wrong decision many years ago had married a man that i knew that's was attractive to him its wasn't that was good looking because he was its just felt no real chemistry between us so after fourteen years later end up divorcing him but try staying because of my kid's but still didn't work i really had thought was going eventually fall in love with him but never happened if had do over again wouldn't of married him but im blessed that God bless me with two beautiful children's

@seansworldkc

10 ай бұрын

My question to you is why do women even marry a guy your not attracted too?

@ifeawosika966

10 ай бұрын

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@StopBeingVictimsItsNotGodly

9 ай бұрын

Was he a yes man, overly niece or a doormat? Because women cant be attractive to those kinds

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

THanks for sharing!

Thats why arrange marriages work, at first no attraction but because they cant leave, they have nowhere to go, they eventually fall in love and the attraction came. Y’all will never have successful marriages because you know divorce is an option out, take away any options in your mind to leave and watch you fall for that person. That happened with my very saved Christian cousin, she wasnt in love or attracted to him but she dedicated her life to him and eventually she feel in love and the sex became great. I agree, you will fall in love when you start having sex and there’s no option to leave

@thefeminineeye

9 ай бұрын

It’s almost always the woman compromising on looks

@StopBeingVictimsItsNotGodly

7 ай бұрын

@@thefeminineeyeyes because we value other things than looks. We value security and masculinity. Males marry strictly on looks and end up choosing wrong. So when the wrong woman divorce you and take everything from you, it doesn’t matter because she’s beautiful

Yes!

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for tuning in!

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for tuning in!

You have to be at least ok to me, then we can see if we have chemistry and connect mentally and spiritually. I cant be totally turned off by the way you look. I dont always know when its a yes but i know when its a no.

God is God, and he can do ALL things. If he wants you with someone, and you’re wanting his will over yours- he can change your prospective. We are about the physical and God isn’t. Don’t miss out on his best because of a worldly perspective. Trust him and want what he wants! ❤

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing your perspective and for tuning in!

I'm reading the comments and I haven't even watched the video yet... And I can't help but think that people are extremely shallow... is physical attraction the only thing that matters? I guess it does for a people who are focused on their wants instead of their needs. God in all of his infinite wisdom knows that what you want will get you to a place, but that place would be far from your destiny! Unrealistic expectations are the number one dream killer... Go with God and not with your flesh. Because you can have A model at home that can't build you mentally or spiritually... I guess it's up to you and how far you want God to take you... Selah

@saratoooo2627

9 ай бұрын

Yes physical attraction should be one of the least of our worries, however wouldent marriage be pretty hard if you wouldent feel any attraction. With intimacy and all?

Why would God force someone to marry against their own will...He cannot deny Himself😊

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Yes GOd wont force us to marry anyone. Thanks for watching!

Yes God does and it depends on the type of assignment and mantle on you. He directed Hosea to go get a prostitute. When God showed my wife, I did not like her but I know he spoke to my heart. My wife is very kind and loving hearted but not too beautiful as the type of women that catches my attention easily. It was tough to make that decision. I tried severally to break the relationship. However the love my wife have for God and me was so genuine. She is honest and very funny. She brought me peace of mind and I am able to pray and fast more. My previous girls where just there when they need money or help. I was a tool to them until after waiting for ten years with out dating and God brought my wife. Today we are happy together for almost 9 years. I learn to love her and gave up my will to honor God. God knows best for us, therefore Yes!! Sometimes God gave us someone we don't like. But you must be in constant fellowship with God to keep such marriage.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

THanks for sharing your experience!

@thefeminineeye

9 ай бұрын

Would you say she was very far from your ideal type? Like if your ideal type is 10 would she be above 5 or below? I feel when the person is closer its still doable

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

@@thefeminineeye Thanks for watching!

I want to know why God sent the most beautiful wonderful girl into my life but she doesn’t want me.

I had to end seeing somebody after two dates. I don't care about a man's height or how much money he makes as long as he has a job of some sort that is legal. This guy was a good man but I felt like there was a disconnect. I met him on a dating site and he was actually a hundred pounds heavier then he was on the profile pictures. I didn't want to look like a jerk so I went on the first date with him and although I did have a good time and he was a nice guy. It felt like hanging out with a friend and not with a potential boyfriend / husband. Having butterflies with someone is a myth and I understand that we are not always going to be happy in life. But if I don't feel that attraction towards him then imagine if we were to get married and we have to get intimate which would feel like a chore to me. So instead of going through that, I rather just let him go and let him find somebody who won't want to change him in anyway then to have all these expectations and then if they don't get mad by the time we get in a relationship I won't be heavily disappointed. Also the fact that he lied in his profile picture, I just can't get over that. I also dated my fair share of guys who were attractive but our personalities just clashed instead of complimenting each other and end up bringing the worst in each other. But I think there has to be a balance of both. I should have been honest with him after the first date but instead I tried to overlook the positive stuff about him which only worked for a small amount of time. When I went on a second date with me I realized that I still didn't feel that attraction towards him and then reality hit me and I realized that I have to let him go. It may hurt him now but it would hurt him even more if I worked again a relationship and even a marriage with him.

@thefeminineeye

9 ай бұрын

This! There’s someone I feel I’m being lead to but I don’t find him all that attractive. I hate his haircut , hate his dressing style and I’m not a fan of his body type. It’s too much . I feel like I’d enter the relationship want to change things about him right off the bat and that doesn’t sound good . I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me.

@thefeminineeye

9 ай бұрын

This! There’s someone I feel I’m being lead to but I don’t find him all that attractive. I hate his haircut , hate his dressing style and I’m not a fan of his body type. It’s too much . I feel like I’d enter the relationship want to change things about him right off the bat and that doesn’t sound good . I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks so much fro sharing and for tuning in!

This makes me genuinely depressed just from the title and reading through some of the comments. I am not happy in my relationship, we are not married but we have a son together. I’m living with her family, but more often than not I hate being around her and I’m just not happy. I see the women at work and it’s like lust has a sword now instead of just a knife, it hurts worse than it ever has to see an attractive woman who I get along with. Lust is horrible, and unless one fo is does nothing will ever change and I’m only 24. I don’t want to leave for my sons sake and very easy and borderline insulting for somebody to suggest for someone in my shoes to just leave. It hurts. I can continue to give to God, but it hurts all the same and hope deferred makes the heart sick does it not. I’m not happy, yet I’m blessed and unfortunately sleeping on my blessing since I’ve idolized women. But dang it hurts. It’s like I have no hope anymore. I don’t even want to marry her in a genuine way. I’m not asking for advice, I just want to tell someone so this isn’t just to myself. Ps. I didn’t watch the video, I don’t want to. It’s just gonna make me feel depressed.

@tiaferguson8848

9 ай бұрын

Honestly, I wouldn’t marry her if I knew I’d just want to divorce her. You don’t have to get married just because you have a child together. Seek God’s will on the matter of your relationships. He may have someone else for you. Keep taking care of your baby and go deep into prayer and worship. Thank God everyday even while you’re hurting so that you won’t allow the enemy to creep depression into your heart. God will heal you as you seek Him more. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you strength to look only to Him during this season. Repent of your old ways of thinking so that God can renew your mind and give you a new perspective full of hope and joy. He can turn around any situation!

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your feelings with us. Hope things get better.

@jamescapb3795

9 ай бұрын

@@CharbriaShine I appreciate you, thank you for reading my comment. Not keeping it to myself is 90% of the battle mentally

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

@@jamescapb3795 You're welcome! Yes it's good to jsut vent sometimes and get it off of our chest.

Leading by attraction first is what gets a lot of women and men in trouble. A woman who keeps in shape and a man who keeps in shape will have some sort of attraction. "Love at first sight" is fake. That is really lust at first sight. You can learn to love someone, but are you ready to put in that work.

@StopBeingVictimsItsNotGodly

9 ай бұрын

Agree 💯

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Lust is not necessarily attraction. But yes I do agree that you definitley have to put the work in and love isnt a feeling but a decision even after the "butterflies" and passion may not feel as strong. it is ok tif attraction gets someone's attention for them to inquire and get to know a person and its also ok if it was their personality as long as lust is not the determining factor. It is about who the person truly as a whole. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

@c.c6909

4 ай бұрын

I agree that we shouldn't be lead by attraction, but disagree that 2 people being in shape is enough to build attraction and later love. Relationships are more complex than that.

As a man I’m starting to learn that when it comes to women we cannot have anything we want. Fortunately the women we lust for physically would only use sex as leverage which is a total red flag if a man is looking for a stable and healthy relationship. So even if ya never get woman ya want it’s still a win factor playing because you never know if she is just dung wrapped up in a pretty box and packaging.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for your perspective. Its so important to truly get to know someone because it is true that a "pretty" woman could end up not haing a good heart or could be with somone for the wrong reasons.

@mosescola4174

9 ай бұрын

@@CharbriaShine amen. After proverbs there is a verse about a godly woman and her work ethic. A friend of mine from the army always suggested being with a woman of god or just a woman of faith in general. Anything else outside of any faith is a huge gamble. Never go unequally yoked.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

@@mosescola4174 Yes! Thanks for responding

Married someone i was not attracted to and at the end he hated me had over 12 affairs because I was not in love. By the way I got married to get out of sin and I remember my pastor told me God would put the love. Bad idea at the end he died.

@ifeawosika966

10 ай бұрын

Seems you both hated eachother

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

so sorry that your pastor told you that and for all that you've been through. I truly pray for your healing and restoration.

I feel like the sex has to work second why do they always say women are picky but with men it's NO LIMIT to where our beauty should be. And I feel if your dating someone your NOT attracted to your ultimately using them.

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Yes!! You definitely need to be attracted to them if you’re in a dating relationship!

IVE BEEN WAITING ALMOST 2 YRS TO BECOME ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE.😔

@CharbriaShine

2 күн бұрын

Oh no! If it's not there don't force it. You will regret it. It's not worth it sis!

God is different attraction to man is different than God's attraction when you are in the spirit attraction leaves it's about the heart

The person Yah has for me isn't cute or handsome and he is old too. I'm 31 and he is 41 years old. I didn't wait my whole entire life being single for this. 😞 I'm kinda disappointed.

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

If you aren't attracted to the person and don't want to be with them and it's a huge disappointment, are you sure that sent him? I'm not too sure he did!

@minajan4316

2 жыл бұрын

10 years apart is not old. But don't settle for less and be honest with him don't string him just so you won't stay single. God would not send you someone you not attracted to. Bieng single is not gonna kill you either.

@CharbriaShine

2 жыл бұрын

@@minajan4316 So true sis!!!

@minajan4316

2 жыл бұрын

@@CharbriaShine Thank you. And you are a beautiful lady with class and smart keep up the good work

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

@@minajan4316 I appreciate that so much! and you're very welcome!!!

I feel encouraged I have a suitor who loves and wants us to get married but I don’t feel a thing for,after a long time of talking over the phone i missed him for like a day then I thought i had fallen in love eventually but after few days everything died,even his calls irritates me. How do i go ahead and marry a man I feel nothing for but am only scared if i let go if i will meet someone better. A pastor said God said he’s my husband but how can I feel so much dislike for who i want to spend the rest of my day with. Please advise me

@silviakmavakala5685

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t think you should go ahead because you will end up not respecting him… God wouldn’t want to punish you with something that irritates you…. Pray to God and see what he has to say… but be carful

@tomiwafaith

2 жыл бұрын

@@silviakmavakala5685 i agree as well, if God doesn’t tell you he’s your husband then don’t go for it. It may be counterfeit

@Que772

2 жыл бұрын

NEVER EVER let a pastor tell you who your husband is, that's between you and that man! Does he still want to marry you after you told him you don't feel the same way? Does he love you and treat you with the up most respect?

@penttimuhli9442

Жыл бұрын

That pastor is not hearing from God

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

I don't believe that it's wise marry a man that you feel nothing for and that you're not attracted to. Seek God for yourself because even if someone else tells you that that's your husband you have to hear God for yourself. In the end you will be stuck married to someone who you don't love and aren't attracted to not your pastor.

Luckily, in heaven, there will be no marriage or attraction

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

SO grateful for the gift of marriage that we have here on earth. Its such a beautiful gift from God. And looking forward to heaven as well ;-)

@rockyayce6485

2 ай бұрын

Duhhh🙄🙄🙄 we're not in heaven we're on earth.

@oaklandsoldier8520

2 ай бұрын

@@rockyayce6485It's very apparent buddy. Being on earth is getting old and exhausting. I hate it here.

What are your opinions on this.... In the past I prayed to God with a specific list of qualities etc., that he always fulfilled. The Lord would send me the person I presented to Him on paper!!! Well, 0 for 3 and the third was an 18-year marriage. Then I said to Him, Lord...you pick this time. You send me who YOU want me to be with. And he sent me an angel, perfect in almost every way (she tends to giggle too much after saying something, but I can overlook that) but an angel that is not exactly my physical preference. 😔Please share your thoughts...

@AudaciousErin82Baby

10 ай бұрын

This chick sounds like me🤭 (I have a nervous giggle as well so I get where you're coming from)As for your comment, I know that you meant for it to be answered by chabria. My thoughts are:keeping asking *God* What I liked about you is that you were very specific in your petitions to God. Keep doing exactly that my brother. He will tell you all that you need to know. Holy spirit will help you discern his responses in connection to your prayers.

VERY TRUE 👍 ATTRACTION IT'S IN FIRST PLACE 💯 THIS IS THE REASON ...... WHY YOU WANT TO BE WITH (((THAT PERSON ❤❤❤

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for tuning in.

What does God have to do with my personal choice? God gave humans the ability to choose...

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Absolutely God gives us the power to choose! Thanks for tuning in!

The short answer is no Matthew 7:9-11 also Song of Solomon the couple were attracted to each other and expressed that. Also ppl have this idea that choosing someone you aren’t attracted to that they will be better. It’s very laughable. I tried to give a guy a chance who was unattractive and he was the WORST decision of my life, he was ugly, dirty and stunk, he was ugly on the outside and inside as well. I tried to date someone else who was unattractive who was actually a nice guy but it was so hard and he was dirty also, it was hard kissing him. There were times he kissed me and I could taste what he had for lunch had to tell him to brush his teeth-I just couldn’t do it. 🤢

Marriage to someone your not attracted to are the seeds of infidelity.

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your perspective

Never deal with someone that you do not have genuine burning physical desire for. I made that mistake and the female could sense that something was off and it caused some serious insecurities.

@ifeawosika966

10 ай бұрын

Burning desires take you off the path of the Lord. You will focus more on your partner than the word of God.

I’ve been meeting a lot of woman lately, and well most are very Godly and are good woman BUT ZERO attraction at all, or their “ attractive “ and there’s “ other “ issues and deal breakers that soon arise, GOD is protecting me BIG TIME

@therealsouthernbelles

Жыл бұрын

Like what

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Thank God for his protection! In the past he has saved me many times from making a bad partner choice!

@CharbriaShine

Жыл бұрын

Yes He is! Keep holding on He has someone amazing for you! Never settle.

@StopBeingVictimsItsNotGodly

9 ай бұрын

No you’re delusional and unrealistic

What your said is as true as Bible scripture

@CharbriaShine

9 ай бұрын

THanks for tuning in and glad you enjoyed it!