Ladies read this carefully. MEN DON'T CHANGE. THEY JUST CHANGE WOMEN. ok. Bye. ❤

@DarthFurie

15 күн бұрын

Men can change, just like women can- but not for romantic prospects, only for themselves. My uncle was an alcoholic for many years, burned lots of bridges, and only changed when he hit his personal rock bottom. Begging people to change doesn't work, for sure

@DeiLovelySparxx

15 күн бұрын

@@DarthFurie we know ppl can eventually get it together, if they want to be a better person. Yet, even you had to admit that it was YEARS before it took place. For the sake of this video and men who operate like said men in this video, they do not immediately change, if at all. They just change partners. They're usually not caring to be accountable for hurting people (because they do (in fact) know what they're doing is hurtful to the person).

@soundcityeducation6692

15 күн бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

Woman need understand that they won’t change for them, if they don’t buy you flowers in the beginning he won’t in the middle. All these extra work of “I will fix him” “he gonna change after wedding” “if I be a good girl he gonna treat me better” if he want do it, he would. Just accept reality, stop make escuses for him. I think we need start talking about yellow flag, the Bare minimum is not enough.

@PetiteDivaTV

16 күн бұрын

What you accept at the beginning is what would continue to happen throughout the relationship.

@kalimbaayinde25

16 күн бұрын

You are sadly mistaken about men. Men do nice things in the beginning to gain your trust, then switch up. Men will do whatever they want as long as women keep seeking validation from them.

@Aquirian

16 күн бұрын

@@kalimbaayinde25 that’s why I say about yellow flags, woman has so low standards that bare minimum looks like green flag. I lost how many times moments where woman say “oh he just jealous of me because he care” “ he just did because he was in a bad mood”. Man don’t even need lie or try some escuse woman jump to imagine one apology. If he change brake up and go find someone new, I don’t go around saying “MY MAN”. If a date with a guy and him don’t claim me in front of family, that just mean I am single. I don’t give man wife or girlfriend fidelity without real commitment. I am 28 years old, I am tired of woman in their 40 acting like teenagers of fairytale Disney movie. Wake up to reality, not even in my teenager years I was so delulu. See grown woman crying for broke guys who don’t even pay bills…. Come on, the guy not even know the date of your birthday and you are planning the wedding?? The guy doesn’t even buy to you medicine when you are sick and you are trying his mommy like you? The guy doesn’t even know your allergies or yours favorite colors and you are planning to live with him.

@isabellopes890

16 күн бұрын

@@kalimbaayinde25Not only men. People in general.

@Gumgumdropbuttns

16 күн бұрын

Yep..... my cousin is going through this. Her now husband cheated on her in the beginning he cheated, in the middle, he's still cheating and now has a baby, and he's still cheating. She thinks if she gives him more kids and becomes a top notch wife/ mother it'll stop him from cheating. It's so sad

If someone doesn't give you what you want leave. End it! Bye dude, I'm Over men.

They are predators. We have to stay away from them to gain strength

@AquaticStarchild

15 күн бұрын

First they hunt us and then they place us into the role of servants. We're supposed to be their support person because they think they're the VIP in the relationship.

So many women think to level up for men instead of themselves. And men mistreat all sorts of women wrong regardless of wright, height, skin tone, hair personality, education, or a pretty face.😢

@tiahnarodriguez3809

15 күн бұрын

I learned this lesson when I leveled up for me, and one day upon reflection, I noticed that I was actually getting more mistreatment after my transformation💀😅. This is why inner work should also be apart of leveling up cuz we’re never guaranteed a better experience just cuz we may look better. Tough reality.

it's not your fault, but it becomes your fault if you stay. be glad he's gone. and ... realize that he was never "in" to you.

I often say to girls in their 20’s that they are going to regret dating each men they are dating in their 20’s and wish they could go back and never talk to them….

@Vavavoum-gr8

13 күн бұрын

Story of my 20s

Yes it’s so real. I realized how ugly and fake some people can get when i experienced them showing me affection telling me sweet nothings giving me promises and the next day they’re keeping me as an option and living their double life holding someone else’s hand and marrying them. It’s disgusting asf but shit happens. You gotta keep your eyes open and only look at their actions. And when they ghost you the first time ghost them right back for good.

Any man who promises you a healthy relationship but gives you the bare minimum is scamming you. Don’t let them scam you and then blame you for their deceit. They have the right to believe you’re not the one for whatever reason, but they don’t have the right to waste your time, take advantage of your support, abilities, and resources while you’re giving your 100% and they actively decide not to give their 100%. That right there is a scam.

They’re not treating the next girl better they are just wearing the mask better/longer. The real them will always show up because these men don’t bother doing the actual work of going to therapy to fix themselves.

@MissAKB

12 күн бұрын

Exactly 💯

You have to stop being a relationship guinea pig and start valuing yourself. As soon as the red flags occur, cut it off, as soon as he stops communicating consistently, cut it off, as soon as he displays bare minimum affection, attention, etc, you guessed it, cut it off. Hanging around waiting for what you expect is only going to cause more grief. Move him out of the way so you can make room for the one that will value you.

This is sad. Deeply, deeply sad. I am a woman and I relate so much to this because of my own experiences with men. When I watched the girl in the first video, I silently cried. What she felt was exactly the same as what I felt. Such experiences also remind me of how my mother often treated me like shit but treated my siblings like they are angels. The difference of the treatments makes me feel that maybe I am the problem. Now I am not only decentering men, but I am also decentering people-people in general. It takes a lot of courage for me to do it in order to make myself become the one who is the most important person for myself. Although all those things happened to me, I keep trying to do better in order to prevent myself from hurting people unconsciously, I do my best to treat them with genuine kindness, simply because I know how it feels to be treated poorly. I won't be the same as people who treated me badly.

@danyelleorr-mcneil4711

15 күн бұрын

Ditto! 🎯

Narcs also do this. Irs a triangulation tactic to make u feel like this

@jlove1282

15 күн бұрын

This!

Narcissistic abuse is tailor made for the victim. The higher the new partners self esteem is, the more they have to give initially to hook them in with the "love bombing stage". But also, the further they will bring that person down. Within 3 months, the abuse of the new partner will happen. It's a cycle. The narcissistic man refuses to truly change, he just learns to hide himself better and for a little longer.

Girl if it's one thing ive learned in life is to face and accept reality for what it is and yes it sucks but he did not like you. Also men knows what they are doing 100% of the time. I found that when I did not love myself, I kept dating men who also did not like me. Yeah, self reflection and working on yourself really helps hon. I can't change men, but I can change me and also the persons I date.

Beautiful ladies, it's tough, but keep healing & growing. Always keep your standards and needs cause your needs are important, too. Don't ignore red flags!!! If I hadn't walked away from a man who was breadcrumbing me, I wouldn't have met my husband. And the ex was shocked when he found out I was married. He thought I was going to be putting up with his bs and wait for him? Bye 👋. Remember, rejection = protection. I'm a firm believer GOD sees, hears, things we can't, and he knows people's true heart intentions. ♥️ Stay safe out there beautiful ladies.

@isabellopes890

16 күн бұрын

All the bests.

@thrill102

15 күн бұрын

Yes it’s so true! Sometimes we forget that God can see, hear, and knows everything we don’t. Walking in faith is so important. What is meant for you is for you and nobody can take that away.

@Ms.K_LaTrailera

15 күн бұрын

@thrill102 👏CORRECT!!! Stay safe out there 🙏.

You can't make someone treat you right. You shouldn't have to. Always keep an eye on actions and false promises that men don't follow through on. Don't get attached to a guy until he follows through on his promises and goes above and beyond for you. I don't think young men are taught how to have real relationships with other people. They want it so bad and when they finally get it they have no idea how to handle it. A lot of men don't think about what kind of women they actually want or is right for them as opposed to what seems good or sounds good on paper. Women are more sincere and attach quicker, whereas men will just stick around until something better comes along.

@10:15 ABSOLUTE FACTS. Ladies don’t fall for the lie that the woman who ‘seemingly’ gets the things you asked for is somehow being treated so much better especially when they jumped into a relationship with them quickly after they left you. Often times they are trying to save their own ego.

@VodooQueen88

14 күн бұрын

Sometimes they do...just went through this situation. Men are not stupid and they know what they should do to try and keep a relationship going. They do it when they want to and for the woman they want to...🤷🏾‍♀️

Some men are out here using you to learn how to treat a woman.

@SuperGlue4321

12 күн бұрын

Yesss.. they use them as lab rats, to see how much can be exploited outta them.

Sorry to say it's true! A LARGE of men and women treat ppl according to how much they like you.... if he didn't post you but post her sometimes we have to admit that they just didn't like us enough it's simple and we try to rationalize it

@DeematheFashionDesigner

16 күн бұрын

I know a guy who never posts his wife and they just got married last year lol it’s weird. Like she doesn’t exist but on her page, she has their wedding pic on the main pic! I think he settled bc she is a doctor like him and she is decent. This is horrible..

@showthyselfapproved1st

16 күн бұрын

​@@DeematheFashionDesignerdistasteful of him. He is a nightmare!

Life isn’t fair, be grateful for what you have, don’t let peoples words dictate your life, buy your own flowers and be in love with yourself so much, it doesn’t matter what he does🙏🏾👑

It’s a rabbit hole that they’re trying to keep you in with insecurity. So they will try to one way or another mess with your confidence. Never ever bite the bait and start the comparison bs. Remember what you allow will happen. Not because they didn’t like you enough, your race ,where you’re from or how you look etc. It happens purely because you’re allowing it. A selfish person always gonna be selfish. Someone disloyal always gonna be one. Most of those people won’t ever love somebody for real anyways you gotta look out for you.

Four months in is still the beginning. Look at red flags for what they are , red freakin flags . Most of the time when women say he wasn’t like that in the beginning and you ask more questions about the relationship you can spot all the red flags . Healthy relationships are a partnership, it’s give and take and actions always speak louder than words.

Sabrina this happens all of us. I’m single and refuse to be a fool

I like the lady with the burgundy cardigan. I love her mindset of how a simple act/idea can become anything you want it to be through intention. Someone can look at her and say she's single, but in silence, she is living a deep stance in her solitude.

4:46 All that pain helped you learn ALOT of knowledge,wisdom and decernment! #IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT😢

When I start to blame myself my therapist reminds me that I didn't know what I know now about him. Had I had this knowledge I would've never even given him a 2nd look. I know better now and I can't blame myself for what I didn't know back then. That guy wasn't just mean, he's probably also a conniving narcissist. I know everyone throws that word around these days but narcs are mean when they don't want or need you anymore. And that girl with the curly hair is right. He's not treating his new woman better he just knows that he has to change tactics with his new target. When we decenter men and center OURSELVES we start recognizing the bad behavior we used to accept as normal. The bad behavior we teach our daughters and nieces and other women and girls we love to watch out for. When being alone is more attractive than settling for less, I know I'm finally loving, respecting and putting myself 1st.

Babes, you àre beautifully and wonderfully made by mother God herself. It is not you love. The stories do not get better in other parts of rhe world. Be a great friend ro the girlies and spend more time alone!!!!!! All will be well! It is our right to treat ourselves lovely and realize that you are all the value. Males do bit deserve your presence. Don't even speak to them if you do not want to. PERIOD!!! Let the new girl rake her turn and learn her lesson. She is not getting better treatment. Im sure of that.

Their EXes, why she STILL worry bout them?

Its about insecurities. When you get with person when you are insecure they will sometimes take advantage of them. Alot of times when a women respects herself the man treats her better. When she does not respect her, he treats her worst. This is why the current girlfriend get better treatment. He wont do the same to her because he respects her more. Thats the basis of it

We all deserved to be treated with love and respect. The moment love and respect goes out of the window, LEAVE! I've left men before because of this. It was hard it the beginning but our dignity before anything else. We are not asking for too much, we are asking the wrong man. Leave these broken men with over-inflated ego.

The only thing that should annoy you, is the amount of times you have ignored all the warnings messages that random women have left for those that are smart to heed the warning. It does not benefit any of us in the Internet universe to warn random women to stay away from Males. Just listen and take advice.

It's because you allowed him to be anything else than the perfect partner. You didn't demand him to be better and you probably allowed rudeness and bullying under different forms. If you had left the moment he was rude or bully you the first time and held yourself to a standard they would have probably respected you and clinged to you. I think men test women just as much as women test men, maybe even more, the difference is that while women test men mostly to make sure they are loyal, men test women to see how much the can get away with (by bullying them). If/when you allow them even a little bit of rudeness they will trample all over you and lose any potential respect they might have had for them. This might not be universally true for everyone but it is true for most people.

Never ever look for anyone’s validation you are a beautiful soul sis , love you , love your soul . These type of men have wounded souls that need to heal from their past trauma .

10:29 right! He just capping harder!

The woman in the TikTok is saying everything I have been feeling ❤️❤️❤️

Oh honey.... It's your fault because you stayed. Once a person shows you that they're unwilling or unable to meet your needs, you leave. His reasons don't change your reality. You wanted flowers and he didn't give you flowers. He's not the one for you. Move on. The bully analogy is bad because you're not consenting to be bullied. You consent to be in a relationship. You are choosing to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't meet your needs. That's 1000% on you.

I am no longer waiting on a man. My life is going to be amazing because I make it so. And I am going to enjoy everything I wanna do with or without a man by my side. I'm spoiling myself. Catering to ME cause I deserve to be pleased with myself and satisfied😌🥰🎊🧚🏾‍♀️🧚🏾‍♀️I'd rather focus on what I can do for me than be bitter or disappointed by wanting someone else to do it for me. My happiness is my responsibility 12:25 - 19:32

Some are homeless needs where to stay and move on stay strong God will vindicate you

Imma be single!! I know the game now. Nopeeeeeeee!!! These men are machines

He’s just putting on a show to make her feel small. I don’t give men tips or teach them anything. I learned to see them and leave. They want compliant women’s. Yes they just want to exist and be loved…

I feel bad for this girl, she is going through it but jeez, she is delusional

@MissAKB

12 күн бұрын

Not delusional but a victim of narcissistic abuse. To call her delusional is victim shaming, it's understandable if your not experienced in going through such a thing or educated. It may appear that way but there is so much to it. Trauma bonding, codependency, and so much more.

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1. Take accountability that you didn’t love yourself to walk away the first or second time you allowed someone to disrespect you or to not treat you like a princess. If you didn’t show him you love yourself why would he? 2. Stop acting like people will always love you the same way or feel the same way that you do about them. Stop acting like people both men and woman cant feel when they met the one. Some people treat you better because they have a deeper connection or bond or chemistry with certain people. You can love someone but not feel in love. Women need to start living in reality not a fairytale. Stop acting like every man is the one when you date. Stop acting desperate and use common sense as you are always given sign when to walk away.

Sabrina Ngoc❤

dont blame average men, they are high value men who treated you like shxt ......average men can't cheat or treat you like shxt......🙄

@glitter4592

13 күн бұрын

You’d be surprised with how common this is sadly. Also, whether he can or can’t cheat is irrelevant. No one wants a guy who wants to cheat and has terrible morals. If you have to choose between a guy who can cheat vs a guy who wants to cheat but can’t, it’s best to not choose either. Both guys are awful choices. Morals and character is very important.

My question is why is she still thinking about her exes?

@PetiteDivaTV

16 күн бұрын

Some days are just like that. You feel low and then start remembering some hurtful things that some people have said to you.

@leesalovely2782

16 күн бұрын

...and sometimes the rumination is part of the healing process. Sitting down and asking yourself "how can I prevent that from happening again." She's obviously processing the pain she's experienced ...she's human.

@arcanineryu

16 күн бұрын

This is like asking why does anyone ever think about anything bad that happened in their life. Why would anyone ever think about childhood bullies? Why would anyone ever think about abusive parents? Why would anyone bother to remember some time an annoying coworker stole your packed lunch? Like check yourself for a moment, because yall are holding women to an unfair standard. And moreover, its not necessarily one that benefits them. Think about it, it'd be awfully convenient for another abusive man if she came out of a relationship having never taken the time to learn from the experiance.

@DarthFurie

15 күн бұрын

Maybe it's her form of processing. I've definitely had days where I ranted like this about disappointments to my friends, not online though but same tone and just monologuing about whatever hurt me

@no.6377

14 күн бұрын

This is a question so lacking in empathy I'm wondering you have any social skills at all? I mean, no judgement , but this question seems to stem from this online detachment mindset that fails to acknowledge that humans have...ya know...emotions.

Tbh... i wouldnt date her. She seems like shes not being accountable for her own choices i.e. him and his lack of showing up. Feelings arent logical... the earlier she accepts that the earlier she can learn not to take someone's bs so personally

@DarthFurie

15 күн бұрын

She's going through it, she looks young. With therapy and time, she can heal and be much stronger 🌻

@neigeepierrot4694

15 күн бұрын

Yes like it’s dumb of her to cry like this like he moved on that’s okay

@dsanders401

15 күн бұрын

@seochr welp, to her point, wish more people were like you and not date people you don't really want. Hopefully she stays single until she has better discernment

Stop sleeping with men who are not your husband! Of course they are going to treat you poorly. Too easy. They have no respect for you. Body count matters on BOTH sides.

@jpowers7320

14 күн бұрын

Husbands treat women poorly also.

@Youareheretoo

14 күн бұрын

Husbands love your wife and do not be harsh to them. Ephesians 3:19 The Bible had to tell them. It’s not natural to them. Crazy right

@PBEl-mj4en

12 күн бұрын

I DO know. Spending a lot of time vetting a man and NOT sleeping with him before you’re married improves the odds greatly that he is who he says he is and he actually is a good man.