QUESTION? Do you have any child free videos you want me to react to? Leave them in the comment section below and I just might react to it. 😀

@TAYBUNBUN

3 жыл бұрын

I got none. I just found out about child free communities and I so so so so appreciate it. I often feel alone on my decision in my area.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

@Taryn Stewart Welcome to the community! You definitely aren't alone now. Happy to have you here.

@GillianMulholland

3 жыл бұрын

My one!!! kzread.info/dash/bejne/eH9nj8Wspq3Hcps.html so happy to have found your channel.

I love the old "You'll change your mind when you meet the right person." excuse. I met the right guy nearly thirty years ago and he was the right one because he didn't want kids either! So there goes that argument..lol

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Love it!

@theunknownbachatero8899

3 жыл бұрын

HA HA HA! Good one. I bet nobody saw THAT coming.

I'm well over 30 and don't have kids. I never wanted kids, I don't even like children. I've gotten all the "reasons" to have a kid tossed at me but none of those reasons applied to me in my opinion. The thing I've always had to shut down though were friends, family, and my job trying to dump things off on me because "you have the time to do it since you don't have kids". No, no that's not how this works. I'm not going to pick up anyone's slack just because they have less time due to having to take care of their "choice", ie their kid(s). You chose to spit those things out, YOU deal with them and your busy life/job. Not my problem.

@gothichippielovechild3198

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve hated it when coworkers who have kids get more slack and childfree people have to pick up that slack. So annoying.

@bugdafug

3 жыл бұрын

@@gothichippielovechild3198 I recently had my job try to dump around 30% of a co-workers work off on me because she has kids and due to covid needs more time to be with them due to schools in the area still being shut down. So I said that's fine as long as I get 30% of her paycheck. Well no, they were shocked I even suggested I should be paid more to do more work, and the person NOT doing the work should not be paid for not doing it. So, I said nope, not happening. I refused. I'm the only one there who can do what I do so they're not about to fire me, they need me too bad. And I'm not doing others work and THEY get paid for it instead of me. Nope. Every job, every job I've ever had, this happens. I'm sick of it. I will NOT be punished and used just because I chose not to spit out a kid. No.

@PurplePinkRed

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! I hate that! I'm still quite young at 26, but I suspect in my thirties, it'll be a lot more of that expectation! I don't have kids so I can have time to do things I enjoy. It's not just to sit on my ass all day and do nothing. We fill our lives with hobbies, friends, volunteer work, exercise, reading, learning new things etc. I think all of those things are very important!

@gothichippielovechild3198

3 жыл бұрын

@@bugdafug ugh! That sucks! I’m glad you stuck up for yourself and held your ground!

@gothichippielovechild3198

3 жыл бұрын

@@PurplePinkRed I think people who are parents might be secretly jealous/resentful at the freedoms, options, and spontaneity we have. Go out there PPR and be you! 🥰

I had a great childhood and have a great life - I just never saw a reason to have kid's.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

I think that's how a lot of child free people feel:)

I work in retail around customers. Today I'm at work and these two customers are talking to each other. A guy is telling this lady about how many kids he has which are all adults, then mentions he no grandkids though. The lady quickly states. "That's a shame you don't have any grandkids." These are human beings, not your own personal property to be baby machines for you. Go out and adopt or foster a kid then, sign yourself up for a volunteer program with kids.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

There are lots of opportunities to volunteer with kids if people want to spend time with them. You are right about that!

I'm sure many of you will relate to this: Last week I had an acquaintance attack me for my choice not to have kids. I now realise this came from her not having ever met anyone choosing not to have kids - and it rocked her core values. It wasn't even about me, not really. I'm 35 and I often have people, family (friends, not so much) telling me "Time is running out, *when* are you going to have kids?" When I tell these people the truth; I don't want kids, this often yields confusion, defensiveness or an attack on my vales and character. I wish this weren't the case - which is why channels like yours are important, so that we have a voice.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Having conversations about this can help people understand where we are coming from That’s always a good thing. 😀

@bgm3460

6 ай бұрын

Say you have a sickness that could kill you if get pregnant, like blood clots in the blood

I had an emotionally stressful childhood but I don’t necessarily think that’s the reason why I don’t want kids. Children are annoying and I have no interest in putting another person’s wants and needs in front of my own. Maybe that might be seen as selfish to most, but I think that a lot of reasons that others do have children are selfish. People really just need to mind their own business.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

You know what you want and that's important!

I absolutely agree, there's just no reason. I just don't want to have them. That's it! I am also OK when people tell me that I am a carreerist and stuff. Because I am, and I like that. I wish I had a childfree friend to speak about different stuff but not kids.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Child free friends are difficult to find in person. But at least we can have online friends! 😀

Kids kill my vibe. This lol ✊

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Child free all the way!

Ooh the old guilt trip of having to feel bad for not "using your healthy reproductive organs when there so many women who want to have children and can't". So how many times have you climbed Everest? Never? Do you know how many immobile people would love to, and here you are, wasting your good legs?

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

LOL!

@mirjanazadravec

2 жыл бұрын

Omg, I have to screen shot this and keep it for the next "attack" 🤣🤣🤣 But, seriously, this truly is s damn good one! 🙌

I'm 38 year old man never married and had children and my family and coworkers thinks I'm weird because I didnt follow that so called norm in our society.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

People make decisions outside the norm of society all the time and manage to have happy and fulfilling lives! Who would have guessed? LOL

Agree, that there should be any animosity between childfree people and people who want/have children. However it gets difficult, if childfree women are constantly treated as less and insulted horribly. Animosity might develop naturally and as a result of that treatment.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

True. It's sad that society has created this narrative that child free women are less valuable. Hopefully by continuing to talk about why we choose this lifestyle that way of thinking can be reversed.

I was just talking to my husband about how I wish I could donate my uterus to a woman who wants to conceive. I don't need it, so it might as well go somewhere it could be used. :-) Love your videos!

@ashleyfire4312

2 жыл бұрын

Completely agree to you, if there was a way of donating my Uterus then I would!

I'm 18, since i was very young i was able to tell how devastating, time and money consuming parenting was, i have actively told my parents im and im gonna be childfree forever, and they only see me as a joke, as well as inmature, especially my mom who is stuck to a man(my dad) because of her kids (my siblings) and clearly suffering in a relationship she doesnt want to be, but staying still because she dedicated to being a mother, and has no money or place to run, so sad she is not on my side or even able to comprehend taking into account her situation... Can't wait the years to pass just to prove my point and decision. Your channel is everything, im always checking old videos as well as the new ones!

@AlexLawSG

7 ай бұрын

Hey how are you now? My situation was the exact same and still is actually. I hope you're doing ok.

I have no desire to be responsible for another human. I realize when I mention being CF there’s always some kind of suggestive you can be an auntie/step mom/adoptive parent/mentor talk-No thank you! Why do I have to be a caretaker or some sort?

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

You don't. 😀

The "who will take care of you?" argument is funny to me. Perhaps if we just set aside the money we would have spent raising children, we can hire professional caretakers if/when that becomes necessary rather than counting on "free" care in exchange for raising a human. There are so many contingencies that must work out in your favor for your kids to be there when you're older. -they must live nearby -they must have the financial means to spend that time and energy taking care of you -they must still be alive (some parents outlive their children, which is a sad reality) -there must be a good relationship between you and the child for them to be willing to care for you -if they have a family of their own, they may not have the time to take care of you -they may just straight up not want to take care of you, and it's their life after all The list goes on. In contrast, a hired professional caretaker is there for that specific reason: to take care of you.

@darcy5761

3 ай бұрын

At least you cancount on the paid caretaker to take care of you.

I love Jenny Mustard, I’ve been watching her for years. Her and David seem to be such genuine, sweet people. She is one of the YTers who also inspired me to go vegan. Also inspired me to be more minimalist. ❤️

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

I think she's very inspirational to a lot of people. 😀

I turned 30 recently and I’m happy without kids. I’m not missing anything

I think the more people tell you to do something the less you feel like doing it this is one of many reasons i dont want children

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Especially with regards to children!

Never been interested and not in a financial position to have them either

I'm just so done with people asking me WHEN I am finally having kids.... I used to be nice about my answer, but now I just say it like it is... I don't like kids, I literally dislike most kids. I like my freedom, I like to have control over my life and not give it up for some crotch gobbling. If you love having them, well then have another one to make up for me not having one. And if I do have one just because YOU would like me to have one, will you take it when I decide it was a bad idea? Will you adopt it away from me? No? Well then it's none of your business if I do or not have kids.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Having kids/getting pregnant is a topic that people always seem to be curious about!

So glad I found your channel!!! I have always been made to feel odd or inferior for my CF choice. You are absolutely right about strangers making the most idiotic comments. At 54 I am still not regretting my decision at all. I am so glad to know that there are others who feel the same as me. I used to joke about donating my uterus as well!! Ahhahaha

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

I knew I couldn't be the only one that considered uterus donation! I've just never heard anyone talk about it before. 😀👏

I found you recently and I love your videos! Whilst I do have some underlying problems from my childhood, I definitely didn't have a horrible childhood compared to many others and my mother honestly tried her best with the resources she had. My family has an extensive history of health problems (mental and physical), so I don't feel like my genes are worth passing on and it is a concern for me. It's none of their business why you don't want kids and they shouldn't ask such intrusive questions. I cannot stand the types of people who feel it's fine to ask weird questions, no matter the topic. I definitely feel guilt over the fact that I seem to have a healthy reproductive system by all accounts. I was an IVF child and I know the struggle my mother went through to have me. I would trade my uterus in a heartbeat for a non-reproductive one just to help one of those women who cries every night because she can't be a mother. I don't know exactly what that feels like, but I know what it's like to have your heart set on something so badly and for it to keep falling through. I mean, I'm like a child some days, so no cream couches for me 😂 Lol! I would definitely get pasta sauce or soup on it. Most adults can't be trusted with cream couches! 🤣 Anyway, thank you for always being real and true to yourself. You are inspiring many childfree by choice folk out here!

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story! 💜 I would be lying if I said we haven't occasionally spilled something on our cream couches! LOL

@PurplePinkRed

3 жыл бұрын

@@WifeWithoutKids LOL! 🤣🤣🤣

Another great video. I was once having talk with my gynecologist about not wanting kids in future. After which I was asked “Are you career oriented?” 🙄. I expected at least them/doctors to be non judgemental.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Yikes!

@77Tadams

3 жыл бұрын

I am not career oriented. I don’t have kids and I am married. My husband had a vasectomy on his own accord before we got married. It is funny that everyone around us assumes I couldn’t have or didn’t want. I usually get asked why I don’t give my husband children. I am 43 years old! Thanks to not having kids I probably look and act younger...but still the woman will always be the target of the insults. Also I have always had a job but never really a career. So I don’t even get that break! There are worse things that people deal with in this life. So I don’t really fit a mold and I am ok with it. Let them talk. One thing that did bother me was when I had a hysterectomy due to medical issues and the doctor office was decorated with babies all over the place. It would be nice if medical places were neutral zones for women that have to go to a gynecologist for other things besides childbirth. It is demoralizing.

I hear a lot of childfree people say they knew from a very young age that they didn’t want kids and that they don’t have that parental instinct. I always wanted children and I think I would make a great mom, but I have now reached the age of 37 and even if I most likely would be able to become pregnant I have finally realised that I will probably enjoy my life and be happier if I don’t have any kids. I travel lot and I have lived in like 7 different countries so far. I want to continue to do that and just live a simple and free life. You don’t need to be born without a desire to have kids to really love a childfree life.

When people ask "who will take care of you when you're old." I say robots bc....ya, most likely the robots.

Even tho you’re nervous thank you for still uploading, I love these videos and look forward to them!! I’m not comfortable telling people my hubby n I are child free but we’ve hinted and after 9 years of marriage they’ve finally stopped asking but yet strangers still do lol

@rach3511

3 жыл бұрын

Yeh same here been with my boyfriend for 13 years and ive actually had one of his women friends tell me i SHOULD give him a baby like thats all my body is good for HELL NO

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

It's a personal decision so I can understand not wanting to talk about it. Sometimes it's easier to just not say anything!

Why would I give up my freedom?

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

😀

Having children is for the married couples to decide AND IS NONE OF OTHER'S BUSINESS

@WifeWithoutKids

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!

I'm a single guy. I've heard all the shenanigans that you've mentioned bcuz being childfree (though not as much as women in my country have, I'm sure). What made me NOT want children even more was my discovery of Salsa dancing 15 yrs ago (and when I started teaching it). The tremendous progress I was able to make was bcuz I did not have the responsibility of a family. So many ppl in my country have had to quit dance classes due to that. I just never wanted that for myself.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

It's great to have interests that keep you busy and make you feel happy:)

@theunknownbachatero8899

3 жыл бұрын

@@WifeWithoutKids I'm also a high school teacher (my day job). I've seen what students' parents (and teachers who are parents) have had to endure due to the pandemic (schools being closed, online classes, children being at home, etc). I feel fortunate that I did not have those challenges. Boredom at home was as bad as it got for me.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

@@theunknownbachatero8899 I know several parents and their kids that have really struggled through the pandemic as well. Not an easy place to be, that's for sure.

I love Jenny! I also think there shouldn’t be categories of „good“ as in acceptable and „bad“ as in unacceptable reasons for not wanting kids. If you have a reason for having or not having kids, that’s good enough. BTW, I have been following your channel for a while now and just wanted to say thank you for opening up this space to discuss things and connect. I don’t know many women my age (mid-twenties) to talk to about this honestly, so I really appreciate this community. I can’t say I never wanted kids, but I am relieved to be able to think about it as a choice, not an obligation.

When I'm asked why I dont want kids, I give the simple, brutally honest answer. "I don't like kids!" And I go on with my day 😊

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Honesty is a good policy.

Hi Hannah, I stumbled across your channel today and after your first video I subscribed immediately! I love how open and impartial you are when talking about your experience. I've realised I've been making excuses for not having children to people because I felt saying I don't want them wasn't OK, but now I know I need to stand up for my choice and say it's OK to not have children because I simply don't want to be a parent. Thank you for giving me confidence and I wish you all the best!! :)

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the community:) I'm so glad you found my videos helpful! Yes, just own it! Nothing wrong with child free. 😃

I don't have a childfree video BUT James Charles said in his video with Kylie jenner that he doesn't want kids!

Even asking any woman about why she doesn't have kids is highly intrusive. What if there is some upsetting reason such as health or miscarriage. None of their business and highly insensitive.

you are the best ! I can relate to your hapiness when you talk about not having kids hahahaha. so much to be happy about😀😀I feel the same.

There doesn't have to be a reason anyway to not want to have 🧒...it's none of anyone's damn business!! So there!

Great points in this video.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it

Oh wow, I am so glad you said that about feeling a bit of guilt in regards to people who can't have kids and want them. I have a syndrome that often comes with infertility anyway, but since I do not want kids, I've never known for sure. But I have some close friends who did desire kids and struggled with infertility. I found myself actually praying to God, "Please give them whatever fertility I may have so they can have kids like they want!" Lol I felt like such a weirdo thinking like that, but I am glad to know I am not alone. And maybe it worked...my friends got pregnant! 🤣

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

No way?! I'm glad things worked out for your friend. It's good to know I'm not the only one that's felt like this because I'd never heard anyone say it before.

Other people are mean to me for not having children. It's like they punish me for it. Children make me nervous-- that's the truth.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry, that's not how anyone should be treated for a decision they make.

Awesome video Hannah I love your well and safe

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks.

I feel the same way as you, ive often wished I could give my fertility to someone who really needs it!!!!

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!

People who have kids to look after them when old are selfish

Two of my favourite people ❤️❤️❤️

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

She's great!

@ayeshaahmad5204

3 жыл бұрын

@@WifeWithoutKids both of you are wonderful ❤️

You should make a video on why to get married without kids. I wouldn’t get married but I am looking for a woman that is baby momma material, not so focused on the marriage part

i'm so glad im not the only one

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

You're not:)

I love your videos! It is so great to feel like I am not alone in this decision. When you mention getting those 'guilt feels', I get them too. My older sister has been trying to have a child for 3 years (currently third time with IVF) and I hope for her sake (and our sibling relationship) that she gets pregnant, as I have been totally feeling like (and it's totally strange to say) I could just give her my reproductive system!

OMG I miss eating just chips and dip for dinner. Lol. Cannot do that with hubby and kids :(

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Ha, fastest dinner EVER!

It's nobody else's business

Personally I thought there are so many kids with no parents that I would rather adopt.

Why should you feel guilty because someone else can't. It won't help them have kids if you did. You could donate eggs or sell them if you really want to help. Personally I wouldn't want to have an offspring of mine in existence if I wasn't there to protect them from abuse.

I am currently hiding upstairs from my sisters children at our summer cottage.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

LOL!

I'd rather have kittens.

I find kids annoying, probably I grew up the oldest of 6. Would I protect or help them? Of course, but not full time. Not my responsibility.

I don't care if people want kids and I wish people didn't care that I don't. LEEMEE ALONE

Just imagine the overused sorry condition of our planet we're leaving behind for the future generation that should be enough to make everyone want to stop having children.

3:11 this is not my problem they cant, why would l feel bad for that? Its like someone that has no diabetic eating sugar just becausr "diabetic people cant"

Check out @nappyheadedjojoba's vid: I Don't Want Kids. No, I'm Not Going to "Change My Mind"

I know all kind of people who don’t have kids. Me included.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you will have a lot of people supporting your choice. 🙌

...It's selfish..that's bullsh**...

I wish I could hand over my reproductive organs to my cousin who can’t have kids but wants them.

@WifeWithoutKids

3 жыл бұрын

I've had a similar wish.