I struggle with the anger side of marriage. My husband is so gentle and sweet and I am like a hurricane of emotions. 😂 We’ve learned a lot, but I appreciated hearing that others struggle with anger and have learned to conquer parts of it. Thanks for this awesome video, Margaret!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

So welcome, Madeleine. Thanks for sharing that. It's comforting to hear about people in similar situations.

Yes please on Tate’s anxiety journey and also just wanted to know if that experience also came with depression for him and if so how he got through those times too. Thank you for all your Precious work 😊 and so happy to hear that you both believe he is completely healed.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Rosa, I'll share that with him. Oh yes, that's a huge part of his story too. I'll start planning it with him

Such a wise young lady!! My goodness. Beautiful! 💗 Thank you for your openness and honesty.

I completely relate to the being “short and angry with your husband” aspect! I’m so glad someone has been able to put this feeling into words. I’m the same, I don’t mean to be but I feel like it also has to do with the sheer amount of time you spend around a partner. Thank you for reassuring me in not just a meanie. Xx

This conversation touched every part of my soul, thank you!

Love this! Love Lana. And so relate to this as someone who got married at 20. I find that when me and my husband disagree on something that feels really big fighting makes it worse but what helps is praying that God would work on both of our hearts! Freely Rooted is so good and the libido one I was listening to last week and it's soooo good. Love your content Margaret thanks for sharing may God bless your marriage and children ❤️

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. Those words are so kind and encouraging!

Thanks for sharing. Marriage is so hard and so beautiful. I love that you are honest about those moments of questioning and despair, but also that you made a covenant and you’re going to honor it. I have not heard anyone speak so honestly about the difficulties and the absolute commitment very often. I can relate! God has used marriage to mold us and show us His faithfulness.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome

Thank you for being so honest answering all these questions! So encouraging!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

So welcome, Katherine. Thanks for sending some encouraging words my way. Sometimes I get nervous about my honesty. Not because I'm ashamed, but it's just so raw. But raw is good and it's stretching me!

Thank you for being so honest! Most people always pretend that everything is great all the time and make you feel like you can't get anything together. Your answers were really refreshing.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Angelika. These words are so uplifting and encouraging to me.

Wow this is so relatable. Really needed to hear a few things in this video

Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability and having honest answers. So helpful!I would love to hear more about how you and your husband worked through anxiety!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. I'll get something started!

Thank you for being brave and open on the internet. I related to A LOT. From the anger, wondering the same about how can I be so snappy and quick to explode with my husband and no one else, doing weekly check ins, and wondering if I married the right man in a dark moment of hurt. And we love the Lord! So many people make their relationships look perfect bc they think it’ll make them more holy. When everyone has something to walk out. Thank you for your honesty. You’re not alone!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing those words! I know I'm alone, but it's just nice to hear it. People have been honest with me when I ask them about their experience, so I felt called to do the same. Your words are very encouraging. Thank you!

As far as "how do you stay in love as much as you were in the beginning," I have to say that our wedding day was wonderful but it has definitely been one of the worst days of our marriage. Our marriage is So Much Better now (just celebrated our 5th anniversary). We know more about how blessed we are to have each other's specific strengths to help each other. Yes, we know more about our flaws, but we have so much comfort in the help that our spouse gives us for our own flaws that the flaws don't become the focus. The loving, kind heart behind the help--that becomes the focus. And I love his heart far more now than at the beginning.

Margaret, thank you soooo much for this video! I think you'll never know how much help you've been!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

So so so welcome

yes, please to the anxiety conversation. I am a military spouse overseas and so many face this. Hearing real, honest, but hope-filled and faith based experiences is so life giving.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, yes we will get on it!

Margaret! Thank you for this video! And thank you for answering my question in regards to dealing with anger. This video was so good. I’d love a video on your husbands anxiety as well.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. I'll start chatting with him about it

I just love you! Your videos have helped me so much. Great insight thank you! I love the marriage journal idea.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Megan, I'm so touched and glad they are supporting you!

Thank you for this video. It is such a relief to know I am not alone in some of my struggles and that marriage isn't always sunshine and roses. I would love to hear more about dealing with anixiety if that's something you are happy to talk about

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, we will get right on it!

This video was so sweet and encouraging! Thank you so much for sharing your heart, Margaret! ❤️🤗

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, Beth! Have a great week

I’m recently engaged and so much of this is sooo good to hear!! I relate so much!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Ah, I'm so so so touched and happy to hear this. Congratulations as well!!

1000% on anxiety - I always love your Q&A videos. They fly by and feel like 30 seconds ❤️❤️❤️

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Margaret, great video! Real & genuine answers ❤️ I would love your husbands anxiety story as well. I have struggled with anxiety for four years now and recently it has really been getting the best of me.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, we will get on it!

Wow! I dont know how old you are but I am impressed that you know so much already about what a good marriage takes. Actually you are very blessed to have this wisdom. Christ centered is the most important part of a marriage because with Him, all things are possible. I just turned 53 and I am married to my high school sweet heart from 1986. We didnt get married until 1995. My journey has been long. I didnt find Jesus until 20 yrs ago and it has taken us a long time to get to this place. Much wisdom you share here. I will pray you are a light here and show the love of Jesus. I am sure you already are a help to those who come to your channel. You have a peaceful spirit about you. May God bless you and your family. 🙏

Such a great q&a! I love the message you spread and especially love all the prometabolic and properly nourishing advice! 😉💕

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad!! Thanks for the kind words!

I thoroughly applaud you for being so honest and transparent with these topics. My heart melted when I saw your sweet journal entry from school 🥰 I absolutely loved your idea of getting small plates at multiple food locations and bouncing from one to the next. Never thought of it that way before, and now I’m going to try it and see it as a version of a food scavenger hunt. 😂 We also love playing family games and listening to music, so this will be a nice addition. 😊

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Gina. Love hearing that you guys play games too! It's so much fun.

My husband and I are in the thick of fighting his anxiety and hearing your story might give us hope.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay

My husband and I have been married for 13 years this august - I agree with your tips! Also, you have such a beautiful and genuine soul.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dawn, those words are so so kind

As someone getting married soon I loved this video! I’m going to order the marriage journal. Thank you!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad!! Oh, also so glad to hear you ordered the marriage journal. It's been an incredible bonding tool for us!

Such a good and honest video! So refreshing to see a Christian wife who loves her husband, such a great example. I would be interested in a video on how Tate healed from his anxiety.

You are a gem Margaret ❤ Thank you for sharing 🙌🌸

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely.

I am moved by your honesty, and encouraged that anger isnt a standalone emotion, that others experience this too. Marriage has been a lonely road and a recent car accident injury on top of the last couple years has left me feeling quite unlike myself. I would welcome Tate's perspective and bravery in an upcoming video. PS: The book "Cherish" by Gary Thomas was wonderful! Highly recommend. It gently reminded me of my part in loving my spouse

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks. I'll definitely be looking that book up!

This helped me tremendously!! Thank you!!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome!!

Loved this video, really helpful and honest, I appreciate that so much

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

So so so welcome

I so agree with what you said about anger in a marriage. I take a lot of my frustrations out on my husband, he’s so patient with me when that happens but I always feel bad 😞

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, gosh it's a hard thing for me to figure out, but I'm trying. It's shaping us!! Don't feel guilty, we're just learning.

My husband and I literally have a similar story... we were in 1st and 2nd grade, different middle schools and same high school. Dated many other people and finally got together when I was a Senior in college. Had to grow up through dating 6 years before we got married, been married 6 years now with our wonderful 4 year old son! ❤ Love your channel!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Awww so sweet!! Love hearing that!

Wow, you make me think about things I never thought about. Very inspiring. x

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Loved this wife talk! Thank you

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

So glad!! Thanks for saying that!

We do a couples check in! It helped so much to help pull us through a really hard season where we were feeling completely detached. And we still do it now even though that season has passed for the most part.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Gosh, it's so grounding isn't it? Love hearing this.

@-living4jesus4ever-

Жыл бұрын

Do you have a link to the marriage couples check in?

Wow! Your channel is growing so much. I love that for you and your adorable family! ❤

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Michelle!! It is and I'm so excited about it

@HerCupOfSIMPLE

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!!!🥳💐💐💐💐

So many good nuggets of wisdom. Including the best ice cream to buy!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

hahaha glad you're a fan of that ice cream too:)

I love this. Thank you! 🤍

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

So welcome!

I’m always so tough on my other half and I know I do it I see myself do it but don’t know why. I think your husband is right in that they are our safe place to vent. I’ve learned through therapy that often if we look at a situation like that our anger stems from a different situation sometimes with someone completely different and if we think about why we are feeling a certain way we can often work out our feelings and deal with them before we take them out on our loved ones. Of course sometimes he’s just a pain in my butt and leaves clothes on the floor so it’s justified 😁 xx

Just now getting to watch but this was so good! If you’ve never read Sacred Marriage ... get it! So good! ❤️

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, on it!! thank you!

I love your videos. Yes please, on the anxiety video. Have you struggled with anxiety and panic as well? Much love.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, on it!!

Hey Margaret, thank you for your honest answers and your video. A lot of what you answered I feel the same being a wife. My husband and I are celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary this year :)

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Ah, so so wonderful! Congrats dear!

We love to play cards together too! Definitely going to check out that marriage journal, that sounds great! And would love to hear more about Tate's anxiety from your perspective and his... My husband struggles with that and I have a hard time knowing how to support him. Thanks for sharing! 🤍

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's such a great journal! WE will get something in the works for sure!

i absolutely loved this! thank you for your honest answers! Would you ever consider doing a Q&A on friendships? / my husband has always struggled with anxiety and I think a lot of it stems from his childhood.. would love to see a video of you and Tate talking about that!!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Oh interesting! WE will get something started on anxiety for sure!

@colette2838

2 жыл бұрын

@@margaretmatheny excited!

Loved doing this video with you friend!!!! And wow, yall went to Kindergarten together...what!!! I love it!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Same, Lan! Hahaha, yes he was so ADHD I just wanted him to pay attention LOL. *didn't know it at the time ha

I would love to hear more about Tate's anxiety and his healing from it. I suffer from anxiety almost daily, but my husband doesn't, which can sometimes cause some strain on our relationship. Would love to know how you two handled this. ♥

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, yes we will get on it! You're not alone.

I’d love to hear more on rates anxiety journey as well! I’ve recently went they a hormone crisis/stress crisis in my body leaving me with anxiety symptoms I’ve never felt before so I’d love to hear how you all dealt with it and steps toward healing! ❤️

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, I'll get on it for sure!!

Thanks for sharing this! I would love to hear about Tates anxiety as I am dealing with so much of it myself and would love to hear what worked for him:) hope all is well for your fam!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay! I'll talk about it soon!

This came at a perfect time. I struggle so much with anger and stress nowadays, and I am so mad at myself for it, and I don't know how to slow down.. I use to blame it on PMS but I think there is more to it :(

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, you have to listen to the freely rooted podcast!!! It changed the game for me, and I've read too many success stories that start in a similar place to you(and me) to not share it with you!

@ingrid2134

2 жыл бұрын

@@margaretmatheny Thank you! I will check it out :)

Yes, please make a video about anxiety😊

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

on it!!

Just ordered 2 journals

Please talk about anxiety! My dad really struggles with it

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, we will get something brewing!

I love card games. I wish my husband liked them as much as I do. With that being said MY favorite card game is one I bought last year. It's called Skyjo. It's easy to play and pretty fast paced. It doesn't take a ton of skill and you don't have to be a mastermind, although there is a little strategy to the play. Check it out if you're looking for another game to add to what you currently have.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

fun! Love hearing this. We play Gin! It's a nice game to play with Friends on or just on the couch listening to music.

I’d love to hear you and Tate talk about his story with anxiety!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, on it!

I am trying to learn about healing my nervous system and my freeze/flight/fight what resources do you read/watch/listen to?

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

The freely rooted podcast! Anything by Dr. Kourtney Kahla or Noelle Kovary on instagram is amazing too.

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❤️

I’d love to see a video on godly submission

I really likes ur videos .. hope ALLAH gives uu happiness of this life and after that too

Any advice for the first year of marriage and living together? I’m getting married soon and I want to be intentional w our learning period

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Ah:) being in church was very helpful and grounding for us. Having a good group of friends. Remembering that life, marriage, arguments get harder when the goal is to WIN. I struggled with that! The goal is to work through it.

How do you help your husband connect to the Lord and/or prioritize prayer/worship?

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

By praying for him. literally that's it. Prayer is the most powerful thing I've done to support my husband and it WORKS. God always answers our prayers, most of the time, not in the way we're expecting, but he's always working with and for us.

I would like to hear how y'all have worked through his anxiety. My husband just mentioned that he might have it. Although moves through it well, I would like to know how to support him best especially spirtually/biblically

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

I'm on it. I'll chat with him and see how best we can come here and talk about it!

@jaimewilliams9978

2 жыл бұрын

@@margaretmatheny I appreciate you responding and looking forward to it. thanks!

What's your favorite card game for two people?

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Gin! It's so simple to learn and gosh we can play it for hours.

Do you have any advice for how to naturally balance your hormones postpartum? My baby is 16 months old, I’m still nursing at night, & I thought I’d feel better by now, but I just don’t feel like myself. I’m a short fuse, especially with my husband. I nitpick, I worry, & I’ve never had worse self-worth. I don’t like who I’ve become since being a mother. I want to get back on track & feel balanced again.

@ViriditasCollective

2 жыл бұрын

I would definitely check out the podcast she mentioned: Freely Rooted! I listen on Spotify

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

yes, I second that!! Thanks Jazz!

I would love to hear how you and your husband beat anxiety

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Okay, I'll get something in the works!

I would love to hear from Tate! It would be great to see a man’s perspective of his feelings and marriage.

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

on it!!

I'm glad all this works for you. I find the idea of focusing on how a wife is supposed to serve a husband is super creepy, though.

@margaretmatheny

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, totally get that. haha. If I may share some thoughts? I've been diving into this topic, asking, listening and reading lots on it. I don't perceive scripture is alluding to just serving our husbands. Our husbands are called to submit to the Lord and lead the weaker(smaller, not as muscular, more fragile, etc-not in an offensive way) vessels, wife, children, animals, etc. Women are called to submit to their husbands, who show us the Lord's love through their own submission to Him. It's actually such a beautiful cycle. This not only has been true in my home, but also in many relationships around me...but when the woman is faithfully submissive to her husband, he blossoms! There is SO much more that goes into it and what submission practically, spiritually and emotionally looks like but that's what I've been learning! What are your thoughts?

@beckwatt4188

Жыл бұрын

@@margaretmatheny my thoughts are it is not a healthy relationship when one person is always serving the other. I also am an atheist and have had a happy, healthy marriage for almost 15 years. We are a partnership, not a hierarchy. Some of the happiest marriages I’ve seen are not based on religious doctrine, but a genuine desire to spend their lives together. You can absolutely be religious without that being how your marriage is defined. Otherwise, it’s too easy to look at all the god approved horrific ideas of relationships and use that as an excuse to do messed up things to your spouse.

@syrenka9983

Жыл бұрын

@@margaretmatheny You say the husband blossoms, but what about the wife? I don‘t believe that submission means love. I think it creates an imbalance of power that is unhealthy.

Okay the part where you talk about how you hold tate to a different standard and ypur more short with him..i felt that in my bones. Lord help us 🙏🙏

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Praying for the Lord to soften my heart and open my eyes to see him differently. The Lord has worked in some miraculous ways but I know I've got to put in the work too!! So comforting to know I'm not alone. Thanks for sharing.

low libido. I would make a great nun.... I feel like such a bad wife...

@katherineherbison8494

2 жыл бұрын

Girl, you are not alone!!!!

@alexirossi

2 жыл бұрын

You are definitely not alone!

@margaretmatheny

2 жыл бұрын

no, definitely not alone. I've been there, and so have so many women that I know. Give that podcast a listen, it gave me so much hope!

@fatfullday

2 жыл бұрын

@@margaretmatheny I will! There is really SO much that goes into libido for women. So much of our environment greatly affects it. You are so right about stress.

@FallLover27

2 жыл бұрын

You are not alone