Dr. Judy's advice for those working through grief: "don't chase the sameness." Leave YOUR #1 piece of advice below for someone who is trying to work through grief.

With the loss of my husband unexpectedly 2 years ago. I will never get over it. I will LIVE WITH IT.

I lost my youngest son 6 years ago. The pain was unimaginable. I learned after a few years and noticing I had changed. I did and still do hold on to my faith in God. I felt no one truly understood what had happened. My child of 28 years old was gone, killed in hit and run 2 days before his 29th birthday. I felt my church was not there after they felt I had grieved enough, some even said you can’t grieve so emotionally. I am not the same person I was so maybe this is the me God meant for me. After 2 therapist, I’m holding on to God!

You don't address that grief that brings you to your knees. That's different than sadness. I have lost older parents, friends, but the loss of my partner brought grief beyond bearable. It's not sadness. It's deep unberavbale pain.

My dad passed away a week ago. On the day of his funeral, one of my best friends unexpectedly died. I don't even know how start processing this double loss.

My Husband died in September, we were married 45 years, I miss him so much. I am thankful I have God in my life, so I know I will see him again and he is in heaven and out of pain. ❤

I lost my daughter at age 25 after taking care of her for 6 years after a car accident and tbi left her completely dependent on me or others for daily living. She was recovering at home under my care when she unexpectedly died in my arms. She was my daughter, best friend, my job and daily companion and source of joy and purpose. I don’t know how any parent can get over that.

I had six miscarriages before we had our daughter. No one cares when you miscarry. You hear phrases like "what nature doesn't want it washes away," or "it's probably for the best," or my personal favorite "maybe God doesn't want you to have children." After our daughter was born I suffered two more. I found a support group, but the grief never goes away. The other day I was cleaning out our spare bedroom to make it a playroom, and I cried. There should be another child in that room. This has motivated me to get a degree in counseling to help those dealing with miscarriage, infertility, and child loss.

I'm eight years out from the death of my husband, lover, soulmate. I had a nervous breakdown after and just getting back to a normal routine. Andrew will always be with me, it's something I will live with forever. Love you baby.

How does a woman just not own legal rights over herself? Are doctors telling me I don’t own legal rights over my own womb even as well? Is there anything I don’t know? Which is understandable if I was younger, but saddening since I’m a grown woman now. The Supreme Court is where many people need to go where I’m from to really receive jurisdiction from the added trauma that is received in households that send you to therapy instead of grief counseling first .

I lost my dream, my future, and identity. I am now moving abroad to start over.

“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest.

I lost my husband a few wks ago an I will never get over he was my love and my soul. Mate he was 73 but I will join him when gods wants!

I lost my dear Mother three weeks ago. It feels unbearable. I already miss her so much.😢 I love you, Mama.❤

It is better to grieve the loss of someone or something than to never have had something to care so much about. Losing someone doesn’t leave you with nothing. Though you lose their continued existence in your life, you still have your memory of them and that is something you can still enjoy.

My story is too long to type out comfortably.

September was 4 years since I lost my mum. Her entire 12 year illness was extremely traumatic, it was even more difficult being unable to do anything to ease the suffering during the 12 years. The way she passed was even more traumatic and in the 4 years I have struggled to sit alone and just cry. I just feel like a constant inward sadness and nothing makes me happy. I know it is so many years but I do not know how to move forward and be happy. I feel so lost!

The significant grief is only there because of how much you loved that person - it is a reflection.

My first severe sorrow was losing my 16 year old son in a car accident. I knew my life would never be the same. He passed away 16 years ago and then I lost my 71 year old dad to brain cancer 8 years after my son died.

Take away: “Don’t chase the SAMENESS and Don’t expect the past to be back”.