Why Trying to Control Anxiety Only Makes It Worse | EP 054

In this podcast episode, DARE coaches Michelle Cavanaugh and Aida Beco emphasized focusing on patterns rather than specific situations and highlight the importance of defusing anxiety through behavioral changes. They discussed the importance of accepting and allowing anxiety, rather than trying to fight it. They also talked about the different ways that people try to control anxiety, and why these methods often don't work. One of the key takeaways from this episode is that anxiety is not a threat, but a fear. When we try to control our anxiety, we are actually reinforcing the fear. Instead, we should focus on defusing the anxiety by accepting it and allowing it to be there.
Aida and Michelle also addressed the common recurrence of anxiety and the need to reflect on life events. Their conversation touches on intrusive thoughts, social anxiety, and the imagination, encouraging listeners to accept and keep going despite challenges.
We hope you find this podcast episode helpful.
Learn more about DARE here: www.dareresponse.com

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  • @krisg78
    @krisg787 ай бұрын

    I’m literally crying with relief. What you are talking about at 19:49 is exactly what I have been dealing with and felt crazy!!!! You guys are incredible.

  • @djdb1214

    @djdb1214

    7 ай бұрын

  • @StudiousCattery

    @StudiousCattery

    6 ай бұрын

    I had a really good realisation about this the other day, because I have gone crazy and been hospitalised a few times so I know what it's actually like, and never not once have I ever while in that state of mind had the thought "what I I've gone or am going crazy". Nor do I monitor anything during a psychotic break. The fact that a thought like that shows up means you're not crazy. Not saying to pay attention to it, just that it's an oxymoron.

  • @erose3089

    @erose3089

    3 ай бұрын

    Really helpful 👌

  • @kickpublishing
    @kickpublishing7 ай бұрын

    I now call it “the Voosh” and it always makes me smile and see it as less threatening.

  • @Rhogge80

    @Rhogge80

    7 ай бұрын

    Will implement this in my “routine” next week time.

  • @dominikadubovanova4112
    @dominikadubovanova41127 ай бұрын

    I'll say it again and again, you're saving lives and btw I like the Voosh too

  • @DeavionHolland

    @DeavionHolland

    7 ай бұрын

    Does this work for you

  • @DeavionHolland

    @DeavionHolland

    7 ай бұрын

    Can you answer me

  • @dominikadubovanova4112

    @dominikadubovanova4112

    7 ай бұрын

    @@DeavionHolland sometimes it does, sometimes not, it takes practise and also recognise when you're involving yourself to the stories

  • @StudiousCattery
    @StudiousCattery6 ай бұрын

    Been watching horror and psychological thriller movies because I enjoyed them before the anxiety hit as well as going out a lot more in the day. I feel worse physical sensation and fatigue wise but at the same time so much more myself.

  • @catherinerhodes64
    @catherinerhodes647 ай бұрын

    I work in security and today at work I had to defuse a fight, on my own, and afterwards I remember thinking how it's so true that when you need adrenaline, you don't get scared of it. I said thank you to my adrenaline afterwards for keeping me alert in case I got punched lol

  • @Rhogge80

    @Rhogge80

    7 ай бұрын

    Well done! Glad you’re ok! 😊

  • @annehanses9156
    @annehanses91567 ай бұрын

    💛 Thank you 😊

  • @perfectlyimperfect4116
    @perfectlyimperfect41167 ай бұрын

    I literally had no idea so many of the things ive been experiencing were anxiety telated, or that so many othet people had it too.

  • @Rhogge80

    @Rhogge80

    7 ай бұрын

    We are all in this together. 😊

  • @prismatic1239
    @prismatic1239Ай бұрын

    29:10 This is the main problem I have been dealing with. I feel validated as fuck right now oh my god.

  • @Kiki-sv8gl
    @Kiki-sv8gl4 ай бұрын

    My head is so tense especially around my eyes. I have difficulty keeping them relaxed open. All my facial muscles freeze What is this? I have it chronically 😢I am having difficulty to use my facial muscles to smile. It’s like my whole brain feels frozen and on the other hand empty and without support. But then I also have the headband sensation around my tamples eyes forehead. How to ignor this when I have to keep my eyes open the whole day bit the tension is so strong. I have to figt against it. If I don’t I would have to walk with eyes closed

  • @cathyehortonjobnson3974
    @cathyehortonjobnson39746 ай бұрын

    Does anyone get facial pain, like month start feeling weird😢😢

  • @kickpublishing

    @kickpublishing

    6 ай бұрын

    Very normal. Adrenaline causes muscle tension and our delicate facial muscles and nerves get tired from the micro expressions our faces pull from worry and fear. You’re unbreakable from anxiety - it’s a normal bodily process like digestion or tiredness. It’s unpleasant but never dangerous.

  • @ermak6788
    @ermak67887 ай бұрын

    "You have imagination relationship disorder not a I might pop my boob out disorder" 🤣🤣

  • @bertongtutong7207
    @bertongtutong72075 ай бұрын

    Anyone have left arm pain shorness of breath

  • @DeavionHolland
    @DeavionHolland7 ай бұрын

    Can you see me

  • @DeavionHolland

    @DeavionHolland

    7 ай бұрын

    What are they talking about controlling anxiety I fail