It’s EXHAUSTING!!! Just being around them is SO tiring!!! I couldn’t even sleep at night because his energy sucked the life out of me!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing 🙌💯🙏

@LaOccultista

2 жыл бұрын

Yes me too. He drained. Me of my energy and I couldn’t sleep at night because I could sense something was off, you know he was on his phone all the time then when I was sleeping- actually on the phone all the time,talking to girls on social apps and stuff getting new supply, having secret relationships. Then said I’m crazy when I showed the proof.

@SRose-xm4qh

2 жыл бұрын

@@LaOccultista ugh 🤦‍♀️ it’s so traumatizing. Never again will I date one of these creatures!

@LaOccultista

2 жыл бұрын

@@SRose-xm4qh 🙏💪🏼

@aselyne5631

2 жыл бұрын

Yup you can't sleep next to them it's super wierd, and always on phone thing in the middle of the night so strange

Even when they are home, you are alone, they don't interact. They are also extremely selfish, it's all about them. When you complain about their behaviour, they blame you, it's always you, never them. They are always wanting things and are never satisfied . They like making conversation with strangers and can talk animatedly for ages, yet don't want to converse with you. They like to control you and make all the decisions. They drain your energy and suck the life out of you.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯😉

@catamish9338

Жыл бұрын

I have a roommate like this , he said why don’t you ask me questions ha! Only to be ignored and talks to others all the time on his phone. I just stopped interacting unless he sparks a conversation but even then he walks off, texts, zones out …whatever

@shaniacolema1

Жыл бұрын

Facts!

@upyanuts

Жыл бұрын

Had a “friend” like this that I kept around way too long almost as a study. Finally had to block him for life , crazy shit these narcs. These people are so brain damaged.

@fleurkus

Жыл бұрын

I am in hospital at the moment with my narc partner. I am in a lot of pain, but all I hear is how exhausted he is, how he doesn't sleep because the nurses are in and out of my room all night. Really disgusted with him right now, but I will need him through the recovery process. Again, all about them. Never even got a hug.....

When you do have a conversation it is a debate, a need to disagree and prove you wrong while making you feel stupid.

@Jay-xx5pg

Жыл бұрын

( i know.- it feels so incredibly painful. I don.t know who i could reality ck and talk to bc it is a parent but ive never seen this before it feels like the devaluation stage. Well i hope you are ending your situation. No one deserves this.

@charlottebarden9221

Жыл бұрын

My narcissist man wanted me to take an online course in logic before I attempted to try another conversation with him, because he thought I was not good enough in talking with him. He did make me doubt myself, until I heard about other narcissist.

@prophet1782

9 ай бұрын

Yes Absolutely. My malignant narc bro.

@selinaogorman8380

8 ай бұрын

Oh yes felt like a debate or I felt like I couldn’t get my word in because it was always about the narcissist and her problems she never had interest in my life see it’s toxic when the narcissist only wants you to talk about them or anything related to them.

@anneofgreengables1619

8 ай бұрын

Yes, he would always take the complete opposite position of everything I said. A petulant child.

Once my narc was gone, I couldn’t believe that my chronic neck and shoulder pain went away (they are true pains in the neck!) and even my hair stopped falling out in clumps with every shower. Truly.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙌☀️

@merlynaivaliotis5671

2 жыл бұрын

Girl that’s crazy!

@deborahrichardson3731

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, a headache every day, and nausea all the time when they were around. Not to mention the anxiety, it was awful. So glad to be away from him.

@Indy__isnt_it

2 жыл бұрын

As we file the papers to split for good, he changed from half human to pure hell overnight. Petrified of the process server. Then HE should have filed, he had ten months. I feel like I could be a regular on Am I the @-hole? on Reddit!

@Indy__isnt_it

2 жыл бұрын

@@deborahrichardson3731 the anxiety builds the minute you know they're coming or you have to meet.

I enjoy being alone. I’m always in good company, and at peace when alone.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful to hear Shanna..🙌💯☀️💯

@sajor1847

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. From this experience I am the best company I've ever met. I was looking for the light at the end of the tunnel and all the time it was ME!!

@marywright3870

2 жыл бұрын

Me too! I love having a day off and just staying home by myself. So peaceful!

@slumdogjay

2 жыл бұрын

Ditto.

@BustedFlush7096

2 жыл бұрын

Truth!

They don't dream, they have nightmares and they barely sleep. Their sprit can't rest BC they are always scheming and running from consequences.

@delightfuldeb1218

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Always up all night unsettled all the time during the night. Like it leaves them alone with their thoughts and they can't handle it.

@summerhill93

2 жыл бұрын

Interesting

@deefletcher8148

2 жыл бұрын

So true

@BustedFlush7096

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, oh yes! The nightmares, up and down all night. Always having his damn arm across me holding me in. Yiiiii

@user-xc5bz3np4g

2 жыл бұрын

Yep messy sleepers! I had to sleep in a separate room because he would wake me up with him!

"They don't want to have downtime, they don't want to have time to introspect." Very important statement.

@petershaw2566

Жыл бұрын

They can't introspective ie quietly weigh the pros and cons of their conduct - that is one of their core deficits ie they have no sense of self and get a picture of who they are from their environment ie their possessions, offspring acquaintences their achievements They have no identity😉

@sugarspice7768

11 ай бұрын

The worse of it is, they don't allow the empath the time for much needed introspection.

@SMElder-iy6fl

10 ай бұрын

I always felt that was the case with my very narcissistic mother. She wouldn't let anyone else pause for breath either. My teen years, which I sometimes see referred to as the free years, were spent cleaning an already immaculate house.

@cassiebennet4262

9 ай бұрын

​@@sugarspice7768Exactly. They rob us of solitude while depriving us of company. They are non people.

"THE NARCISSIST DON'T LIKE TO BE QUESTIONED" 🙏🙏🙏

They don't want to be alone with their own thoughts. It's all unbelievable (as they are).

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Agree completely 💯💯

@ljefferson1481

2 жыл бұрын

Yup! This is true!!!

@victoriabelveduto3279

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely 💯

@pbird1638

2 жыл бұрын

YES!!!

@katiemiller4187

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯 💯

Never get stuck in bumper to bumper traffic with a narcissist, it’s pure hell! 🤦‍♀️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

😳💯😉

@ljefferson1481

2 жыл бұрын

OMG! So true!!!

@janisd2298

2 жыл бұрын

That's usually when a rage fit happens and there is no where to go.

@georgiabertram5930

2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha 😂😂😂😂

@DrAnuKarn

2 жыл бұрын

😆👍

The stress that is created by a narcissist is unreal but so VERY real!! Hair loss, weight gain/loss, jumpiness, walking on eggshells, withholding, pacification, silence!! It’s crazy making. They have no genuine sense of humanity. They are complete monsters. Wolves in sheep’s clothing.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

🙌🙌💯

They're not happy when the dust settles and the mind is left to wander. They don't like themSELVES either. Solitude is their Worst enemy. That's why they move on so fast

It wasn't so hard to let go, finally, I was always feeling alone most of the time, left to my own, and fixing problems and family, and problems, so when the end came...I already was in a place to Handle it!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment thank you 🙏

@malibudolphin3109

2 жыл бұрын

Scumbag just announced he's leaving tomorrow for week... Happy Thanksgiving! To spend time supposedly with creep sister who acts like a scorned wife towards any woman he's with instead of a sister, of course I'm not invited ....3 times now he has annihilated his household each time sister pits him against his family to point of telling him to reject his child as she demands he financially support her & her grown kid ! They both have good health & jobs....latest bs involved $50,000 !!! As he cries broke to me & straves me out on multiple levels He was so kind, we were always together....now he just lies, yelling, skips out So much for being together forever Lord help me get out !

@noracharles9366

2 жыл бұрын

@@malibudolphin3109 right there with you Malibu. It's STUNNING how painful it is... ⚜

@Ang-ie3qy

2 жыл бұрын

I am currently in the process of getting out of a Narcissist marriage (3years). I didn't know what a Narcissist was. Jesus has kept me.

@margaretsanfran7317

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly GOT A FLAT ME & MY BEAGLE LOVING LIFE SO GLAD IM OUT & THE RATS GONE ...

My ex could never stay home on our day off together, we always had to go somewhere. He also didn’t have the patience to watch a movie. There were times where I wish we could just lay on the couch together and watch a movie together. It’s crazy how all narcissists are so similar. He also didn’t live in the present. He always talked about us having a bigger house, a better car, better careers. We had everything we needed, I was perfectly content with the family and life we created together but I always felt like it wasn’t enough for him. I wish I knew these types of individuals existed.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly my experiences Andrea.. 🙏🙌💯💯

@bloodymary8540

2 жыл бұрын

Same here... He couldn't concentrate to read just one page of a book or to watch a movie until the end..he would fall a sleep...when he didn't lay down and slept he would run around somewhere to get his fuel🤮🤮🤮🤮he had everything but nothing was good enough for him..he doesn't know what thankfulness is...he was also just talking about the future but he didn't know how to go a normal way to make his wishes for the future happen because he was/is a lazy person..sad creatures

@asmallbitchybanana

2 жыл бұрын

@@bloodymary8540 mine was the same. Matter of fact, in the one year span of our relationship, ive never remembered us getting thru one movie together.

@vaughn7130

2 жыл бұрын

Andrea, yes! Im like you, we have everything we need, home, car, money for bills plus some, but nothing was ever good enough, he was never content with the blessings we already had, everything was always him wanting more more more, and he couldn't afford more, champagne taste on a beer budget, it became exhausting. Those spirits are all the same just operating in different people thats why they are all so very similar.

@MrNikhilgherwar

2 жыл бұрын

Tc!

The annoying part living with a narcissist is during sickness. No empathy. But when they get sick the world is about to end .

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

9 ай бұрын

💯🙏😌

@carolinekamya2339

16 күн бұрын

they see your illness as an inconvenience

I have a friend like this and she is constantly go, go, go. She stacks up social events to post on social media and of course she is late to each event because she over books herself. Unbelievable how accurate this is. When she has nothing to do, she invites herself over to your house because she constantly needs to be busy. It's so odd!

@danielle1103

Жыл бұрын

My brother’s wife is this SAME EXACT WAY!!!!!!! So is my classic narcissist coworker, she’s the same way too! They are both CONSTANTLY go, go, going and do, do, doing. They always need to be looking forward to doing something! My brother’s wife has changed jobs about 4 or 5 times during the year of 2022 alone! She’s VERY inconsistent! With all of the events Megan books to go to she’s always late to everything too.

@selinaogorman8380

8 ай бұрын

Exactly I knew a narcissist woman thought was a friend she was here for a while after she left was on the go again yes she works but aside from working always on the go and sometimes I rarely heard anything from her I knew she wasn’t a real genuine friend as I look back at this she nobody friend only using her time for her benefits narcissists are like drug addicts to.

They are actually very boring people who rely on external factors to show them up as fun. It masks the fact they are boring.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your insight thank you ell 🙏💯🙌☀️

@BustedFlush7096

2 жыл бұрын

I got sick of his newest big boat and boat rides. I’d pass just to get to be by myself.

@exploringdimensions4all853

2 жыл бұрын

VERY true!

@Dzanarika1

2 жыл бұрын

Best comnent! They are miserable, empty, boring and very jealous individuals!

@girlwomen4685

2 жыл бұрын

Omg yes

The narc I was trauma bonded with, couldn't even sleep with the TV off..he couldn't deal with his thoughts. The evil inside SHOWS on the outside.

@bloodymary8540

2 жыл бұрын

They are running away from themselfs.....constantly!!!

@aisrael1281

2 жыл бұрын

@@bloodymary8540 yes and I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this madness

@shirleyguinyard8183

2 жыл бұрын

My Narcissist is the same way can't sleep with out the TV playing.

@tinamarie777

2 жыл бұрын

I was told he needed to sleep with the TV on cus he hears yelling in his ear...maybe there's something dark going on

@elsie8966

Жыл бұрын

Mine had to have the tele on to sleep and if he woke up in a pitch black room he'd panic. I bought him a sakt lamp to sleep with. Always found it strange.

She'd come home from work and if it was a nice peaceful evening she would INEVITABLY manufacture drama. It was insane. Always on the go go go. Always in the middle of some kind of chaos and drama. When we split it was so peaceful, but I wasn't able to sleep more than 3 or 4 hours at a time for about a year and a half. Sometimes I'd wake up with a start, thinking she was beside me. Such a relief to see she wasn't. Lol.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙌☀️

@Leelee-op7vj

2 жыл бұрын

Good for you. They are misery loves company people and when we decide not to be their company anymore, it's the best thing in the world!

@vunafunaki6946

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah constantly in the middle of the storm. The great manufacturer of chaos. What a miserable life and existence. Makes you wonder! How can a human being decides to live like that? Absolutely unnecessary. Well I can sum it all up like this. "Not my problem anymore". It's that simple.

@EastmanEditing

2 жыл бұрын

The peace after leaving and cutting off a narc is indescribable! I often refer to it as a "Shashank Redemption" moment! I literally fell to my knees in the grass next to my car and sobbed and maniacally laughed with joy after I ended a particularly bad narc relationship. I lived in fear and anxiety for about a year afterwards as well, but still just felt so peaceful at the same time...

@shasmeen

2 жыл бұрын

All my life I was surrounded by drama and accused of creating drama!! But now I have 3 years of NO DRAMA. I run from people who want to drama with me

Yes. Exactly the hell I’m living in currently. And any adult conversation is turned into an argument. The saddest part is that I’m the only person he does this to. He is always “busy” on his days off so I’m stuck with the kids alone even when he isn’t at work. I feel alone, uncared for, unheard and neglected. At meals he is on his phone or tablet and sometimes even uses his headphones. He’s just completely disconnected. At bedtime he wants the tv on all night also. I was told I’m only here for companionship. So I guess I’m just a loyal little dog around here. I’m supposed to sit here until he decides to pet me.

@summerscott1333

Жыл бұрын

No you deserve better than that , maybe you could consider making a exit strategy. I will be praying for you .

YES!! Did everything fast!! Driving, talking, scrolling through TV stations, scrolling through his phone for porn sites,.. sex. Always fast. No, he could never just " be". Because he was so empty and didn't like being with himself. Now I can understand. I didn't want to be with him, either

@marakahl

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! This was a big realization for me. They jump from supply to supply bc they can’t be alone w themself.

@christinaelena7279

2 жыл бұрын

Mine would walk fast and tell me to catch up, when I didn't he walked faster to the point where I was way behind him. Then he ran, at that point, I turned around and walked opposite direction. He yelled, I will be back by 5 pm and it was 7am in the morning. I went home took my things, and took my car, left for the weekend to a friend's house. When I came ( should of stayed gone) he acted liked nothing happened. He had done this too many times, I permently moved to spare bedroom. I was done. I had a feeling he was cheating and it made me cringe. 5 months later left and filed for divorce.

@maevemaiden

2 жыл бұрын

@@christinaelena7279 same thing, he was 6'4 and I am only 5' so he would say I'm too short and to just walk faster and keep up. In his case it was the need to hurry and "do the things" so he could get home and craxk his first of many beers and once he did that I knew we were in for the night because he would not stop until he passed out.

@kms3063

2 жыл бұрын

God I thought he had anxiety

@sudhakhristmukti1930

2 жыл бұрын

Had narc neighbors like that....running away from their own emptyness.. constantly talking, obsessively cleaning house...except their evil tongues!!

They have no down time! No OFF switch, till bed time. High and Low, but no Med! Short-term interests! No consistency in many ways!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Completely true..

Say “No” and brace for impact!

My sister can not sit still for 5 minutes. Always has to be talking to an enabler; if she’s by herself, always on her phone, always walking away to get something. I think she genuinely hates herself so much that she needs constant distraction. I’ve never seen her sitting by herself, no distractions, and just enjoying her own presence.

They can not ever be still. Always on the go, ruminating in their minds and out of the house. I’m so happy I’m not in this mess anymore

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes.. always on the go.. 💯

It's really frightening it's as though they hate everything and everyone.

@lesleybrown1583

2 жыл бұрын

They ARE demon possessed 4 yr olds!

@deborahrichardson3731

2 жыл бұрын

I asked him has he ever had a good day? His reply was no because someone always messed it up for him.

@Dzanarika1

2 жыл бұрын

@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama I agree

@jh9391

2 жыл бұрын

They do.

@tad1111

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, my brother has everything, including great health and is the most unhappy person ever, hates everything.

The comments under your videos are always so helpful to read! Thank you to all of you here, it's so good to be with people who truly understand what narcissists are like.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏💯🙌😊

@maevemaiden

2 жыл бұрын

I so agree!

The feeling of freedom and Peace when they are gone is the best ever 💖😍🙏🏽

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

☀️🙏🙌

A big part of what you are describing is their inability to want or handle intimacy. They can't cuddle on the couch. Inability to be close

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 🙌

@suziew1267

2 жыл бұрын

One of mine did, but I felt like a puppy being cuddled, I was not able to move, he didnt want me to. Then one day he stopped cuddling. If I asked he would reluctantly, and I could tell he wanted to get away. I feel trained to accept their excuses for why they avoid contact. I dont think I can function in a normal relationship now. I dont know what that is.

1:30 It's because they're similar to psychopaths. Psychopaths have a constant need for stimulation and excitement, even danger.

@ingridhaughney3645

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, a lower grade of Psychopaths and the need for speed. If you try to moderate or slow down or negotiate with them for some quality time then they get panicky as they can’t maintain the mask

@sunshinereggae2781

2 жыл бұрын

😜😂👍💯

@florida23

2 жыл бұрын

BINGO.

@myst2.0

2 жыл бұрын

@@ingridhaughney3645 I Cannot 🤣🤣😆😆😂. Why everybody hitting the nail on the head so hard this morning 🌄🤣😆 I'm pulling out my Captains Log early and start journaling.

@sanjmalik6282

2 жыл бұрын

The ex is psychopath narcissist

Looking back now, our courtship was me going thru an interview. Getting engaged after 6 months was me qualifying for the job. The ring 💍 was a promotion. And walking down the aisle was me officially getting the job. Getting pregnant was my official start date for my title of maid, nanny, cook, yard worker, his mom, laundry mat, making sure I know where every item is in the house when he asks for it. He declared and decided that all those tasks were mine (women tasks he calls them). And dinner would have to be ready by 6pm but he refuses to eat with me cuz he hates the way I scoop up my food with my fork. Oh yeah, and I’m not allowed to touch nor talk to him in bed but I better not say no when he’s in the mood for $3x! Freaking creep

@maevemaiden

2 жыл бұрын

Omg I am so sorry. This was my exact situation when it came to sex and sleeping together. Only luckily I never married the a hole. He is a total chauvinist so I know exactly what you mean when you say "woman tasks". He used the word bitch very freely and often. When I think back on it now I am so angry at myself for staying as long as I did when for me there were no ties, no kids and no marriage thank God.

@suziew1267

2 жыл бұрын

It's heart breaking, same for me. Vile people. Inhumane.

@GreenEnvy.

2 жыл бұрын

did you leave his ass?

@suziew1267

2 жыл бұрын

@@GreenEnvy. I left

@GreenEnvy.

2 жыл бұрын

@@suziew1267 I'm so proud of you Suzie. I've never met you, but you're strong, I can tell.

Yes 🙌 and I always felt judged if I wasn’t rushing around too. There was always a ‘show’ about being so busy too

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙌💯

@maevemaiden

2 жыл бұрын

Oh most certainly it's all a show they want you to watch and they will be sure to share on social media if you don't pay enough attention ugh. Mine would say, sorry you don't have a life hehehe with an evil laugh (meanwhile I am a single mom of four with my own home)

@MamaMOB

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! I began having to give my ex basically a listicle of things I had done through the day when he asked me what I had done that day. Because if I didn’t he would accuse me of not being productive. I like not being productive. It’s kind of my thing. So I would lie. I hated that. I really just wanna respond with nothing when someone asks me so what did you do today.

@MamaMOB

2 жыл бұрын

@@maevemaiden yep. My ex accused me of sucking my father’s you know what because I’m also a single mom and live with my father. I live with my father because he lives in a good school district. With my income I can only afford to live in a bad neighborhood. My kid deserves better so I sacrifice.

@1Marflowa

2 жыл бұрын

Yes it is a show. They are doing nothing, its all an act. Day in Day out, year in year out, no results. They only talk and talk and only sucking your energy. And they can be very dangerous/agrassive. Sad my baby has a narcissist as a father.

Spot on. My ex used to ditch me at the door of every social event and do what I called “work the room”. He was looking for anyone who could give him something. To elevate his status. He was all about appearances. He discarded me many years ago but did not leave. I finally learned what this was. I got tired of being a prop for his pretend marriage. With all the abuse behind closed doors.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely.. 🙌💯

@deeevansnola8178

2 жыл бұрын

Yessssss!! When he would work the room and then ficus on one person. In the end of the relationship. I would leave and go to the restroom come back enter the conversation and when he wasn't listening or looking i would say to tol he person. He is not what you want. And they would get it and he couldn't understand why they were not interested anymore.

@juliedevine8638

2 жыл бұрын

@@deeevansnola8178 I'm glad those people believed you. They would have been sorry later.

@tammysparks7728

2 жыл бұрын

On spot took me 25 yrs to work thru describes my husband couldn't make sense of it all describe him to a t this is so remarkable when you are in it unbelievable you are in it feel real sad for them knowing I am not alone makes life worth it n survived oh absolutely verbatim

@Indy__isnt_it

2 жыл бұрын

and if you tell anyone, it all happens when no one is looking. THEY look at you like YOU have the problem. I got a semi admission out of a narcissist. I know, they say it's not true, his rage is became more than physical, he swunghis arm at me, forced me against my will. With his arm ending up in between.my upper and lower jaw 😱 his arm was bandaged in two spots today

"They're wearing a mask with someone else right now" that's the most sobering sentence about this whole ordeal. Have you seen the video about narcissisism and dementia? Apparently in their last moments the demons in them discard them the same way they discarded everyone and they're so empty at this point they can't even speak or react to their surroundings.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Wow that is insightful.. 💯☀️

@ewtwetrwerwteet

2 жыл бұрын

That's why they're all scared about death. They mention it. They know they are nothing.

@TheInfiniteOneLives

2 жыл бұрын

@@ewtwetrwerwteet I always wondered why some people were unrealistically afraid of death. I had a deep feeling there was much more to it.

@opalo2018

2 жыл бұрын

This is true

@ellbegum6939

2 жыл бұрын

Wow this explains a lot. My ex narc becomes anxious at the thought of illness let alone death.

This is the reason I had to walk away from my mother. I hung around around for way too long until it became unbearable. I only walked away 5 years ago (now aged 62, and my mother is 82) Never been happier.

Everything with the narcissist 'is a transaction'. NAILED IT!!! It took me a long time to see it, but once I did I realized that the driving force behind everything he did centered around what he could gain from it. Kindness and altruism are absent. And the mask you mentioned..... so so true. Once he realized it was over he dropped the mask and I was shocked by the stranger he was now. It was very scary.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌☀️

@cc1k435

9 ай бұрын

Dropped the mask, and I suddenly wondered who the hell I'd been living with all this time. It was terrifying.

You ever notice when you leave a narcy they look sick? I used to think it was because they were soooo sad you were gone. Nope. They were sucking all your energy and you were probably burning yourself out doing everything for both of yall. Cooking, cleaning,paying bills, fixing all their issues, consoling them every time they're down (which is alot because it's always something and of course they're not able to deal with it alone. Ever). Everything's a smart remark or an argument. Honey they were bleeding us out slowly. I felt like I started looking sick towards the end of the relationship. Like yall said we never laid and cuddled or relaxed and chilled in. I could never sleep. He'd wanna stay up all night talking and wake me up early when he hops out the bed before the sun to get his day started even without a job sometimes lol. All that to say. I can finally exhale. It's only been a few weeks but my skin color is coming back I even stopped smoking. I really feel like he was low key intentionally holding me back from so much but mostly he was holding me back from myself. I haven't done anything for myself really the whole time we've been together. It was all about him at all times. Feels good getting closer to God without his distraction and getting back to doing what bring me joy without feeling guilty. I really have alot to heal from but I feel do relieved and healthy mentally and physically. I love spending all this time treating myself like a princess for once!

@himchannel3624

2 жыл бұрын

I loved how you sayd that you spend time treating yourself like a princess 💖💖💖💖💖 happy for you!!! Continue with that! You are strong💪👍👍

@maevemaiden

2 жыл бұрын

So happy for you:)

@Leelee-op7vj

2 жыл бұрын

Happy for you too! 💪 💪 I thought I had general anxiety disorder but it left when I got away from the neurotic narc. An optimist being with a pessimist along with all his other crap was enough! If he was insecure with his work and the bosses were coming to inspect, I'd give him a pep talk how good and talented he was and not to worry. Didn't help, he was always a downer so then I stopped exerting my energy.

@ilashankar9031

2 жыл бұрын

@@himchannel3624 I loved that too! Feel so happy when another one of us finds out how precious they are! ♥️

@tishas.7483

2 жыл бұрын

💯 Agreed. I wish dear God I k ew this b4. I feel I wasted so much time. I look back and honestly realized I've been in a solo relationship. I feel ashamed to say what I thought was a relationship from a young age, I was just a babysitter. He simply used me to the max abused and manipulated me to believing a lot of false situations as well as created false narrative. Used his child as a entrance piece to create a disaster zone. Myife is in shambles and he has a major part. Now I am a smart women, but I ft so low undervalued and stupid with him. I've been so embarrassed after " waking up" that I allowed someone to bring me and my environment down into a sunken place. I agree for an relationship I thought I was in, was literally the worst. They only good I can account is my child. I'm just so sad mad confused on how I let it get so far. I'm also ashamed almost to convincing myself and others I'm in Love. When truthfully I haven't Loved this overgrown child whole heartedly since the first stage of relationship. And i have known him too long. He hasn't done anything for me more than stress and pain. And I allowed this animal the leverage to so do at the weakest time in my life. And boy did he have a field day.

Also alone time equals intimacy. And they dont wanna be intimate not with anyone, not even themselves.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this message.. I agree completely 🙌☀️

Absolutely agree with you, spot on. I was seeing a narcissist for 2 months, and it was draining. I couldn't keep up with his energy being on the go all the time. For example, we got back from a bike ride and then he wanted to go out again for a meal/drinks within 30mins😂. Also he likes taking pics of himself all the time 🙈. Glad it's all over now. It was just a personality clash.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙌💯

How Narcissists Torture Others and Believe They're Right to Do It - 1. they are torture machines 2. Sadistic Pleasure 3. self centered 4. Is passive-aggressive 5. Criticizes and judges from the sidelines 6. Is pious and superior 7. Is threatened by honesty and directness 8. Swings between idealizing and devaluing him-/herself and others 9. Denies and dismisses others’ feelings 10. Cultivates a public image sharply different from his/her private behavior 11. Identifies as a victim 12. Is cynical, sarcastic, and haughty 13. Makes unreasonable demands 14. Turns your problems into his/her dramas 15. Belittles and blames 16. Exploits and/or attacks others’ vulnerability 17. Is reactive to questioning or criticism 18. Plays on sympathies 19. Fakes or exaggerates illness/injury for attention 20. Withholds and stonewalls 21. Gaslights 22. Avoids introspection and lacks self-awareness 23. Uses platitudes in place of genuine insight 24. Denies own anger 25. Focuses on unfairness 26. Is envious and vengeful 27. Prefers to remain behind the scenes 28. Gossips 29. Triangulates 30. Holds a grudge 31. Needs reassurance 32. Is inattentive or annoyed when others talk 33. Has double standards 34. Hates to lose 35. Fixates on others’ problems and misfortunes 36. Flatters and fawns to win favor 37. Displays rage and contempt in private 38. Resists decision-making 39. Does not sincerely apologize 40. Avoids direct responsibility 41. Has an exaggerated sense of entitlement 42. Is impressed by the overt narcissist’s appearance of confidence 43. Lacks emotional empathy 44. Focuses on appearance over substance 45. Rushes to (false) intimacy 46. Is anxious and hypervigilant 47. Displays false humility and humble brags 48. Crosses normative boundaries and codes of conduct 49. Pokes, prods, and pries 50. Feels special through association 51. Feels above the rules 52. Uses guilt and shame to control and punish 53. Expects care-taking 54. Conducts smear campaigns 55. Is prone to paranoia and conspiracy theories 56. scorekeepers 57. to control 58. to get revenge 59. to demonstrate their powers of influence 60. to obtain/regain compliance 61. to vent their rage 62. to assert their entitlement 63. to shut down potential or actual threats 64. to defeat “competition” 65. to display their dominance 66. to get “respect” 67. to create fear 68. to derive sadistic pleasure 69. back handed compliments or name calling they think is funny 70. Infestation of your life 71. He can’t get to you but he gets to your things ( property , animals , etc ) 72. Oppression :sleep disturbance , sickness , relationship and financial 73. Obsession :thoughts of suicide , 74. Possession :mentally broken down , lose control , spirit takes over your action 75. No sleep 76. Mental oppression tormenting thoughts / fears .. demonic thoughts 77. Compulsive behavior , hostility 78. Abuse of self 79. Super human strength , 80. Chronic sicknesses mostly for attention 81. Cursing / gossip / blasphemy 82. Perversion 83. 84. the manipulator tries to vilify you by using triangulation, gossiping, power play, mischaracterization, and other tactics. It 85. 86. The manipulator is driven by shame, insecurity, and fear. As soon as they start feeling inferior, or as soon as you notice the manipulator's toxicity-or as soon as they notice you noticing their toxicity-they begin feeling deep insecurity. In their attempt to manage it, they may try to cover their tracks and save their image by giving you made up explanations and excuses 87. they avoid people who can see through their facade like a plague. 88. Usually their group consists of admirers or yes-men or "like-minded people" or minions-dependents and enablers-who lack their own identity and fail to question the manipulator's or their own toxic tendencies. 89. RUN !

@shelightsup3338

2 жыл бұрын

Girlllllllll 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

@rogue_spirit

Жыл бұрын

Woow! The ammount of facts and truths you've put there is beyond any YT comment I've ever encountered about any topic! Respect to you educated lady!

@mildez

Жыл бұрын

U missed 83 & 85

@megalou6567

Жыл бұрын

@@mildez lol

Never ever a single real true conversation. Also never ever did he actually hear anything I said unless I prefaced it with, “Listen to me because I’m going to ask you what I said afterwards, ok”

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 🙌 I understand completely 💯💯

@nicholettej1742

2 жыл бұрын

That’s a good one 😂

@curiousnetty534

2 жыл бұрын

Whenever I said anything which was slightly controversial a metaphorical electric garage roller door would descend over his face. His steely glare was scary but I knew he was refusing to respond. Really weird. The first clue I had about his behaviour being narcissistic was when I heard the term ‘emotionally unavailable’. I thought YES YES YES! That’s it!

@lb9171

2 жыл бұрын

@@curiousnetty534 🎯

@neridaduncan2710

2 жыл бұрын

Haha I get that. I used to just stop talking mid sentence to see if he noticed He never did

The love bombing starts out feeling like ‘excitement’, because it’s a thousand miles an hour, beautiful restaurants, music, trips, hotels, resorts, endless text messages and tons of future faking…to keep you hooked ‘for more’. Within a few months, it begins to feel more exhausting and chaotic, than exciting. Monotonous, rather than anything moving forward. Superficial, more than anything resembling a ‘deep and meaningful’ relationship. This is where we need to listen to our intuition. Get out, before the entrapment has you feeling like you can never escape their mighty, controlling, demanding ‘grip’.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful message thank you..💯🙏💯☀️

My mom & mil are like this! Growing up my mother would never sit still. We found it difficult to even get her to sit & watch a movie. Both start every conversation about themselves only to look bored or avoid eye contact when it was my turn to talk. I once had her leave the table at a restaurant 10 min in to talk to her sister on the phone for an hour!!

For me, I was tired of ME making all the plans on HIS day off. I'm like, what do youwant to do? ...lol...and none of it ever included me. So on his day off, we sat there. Across the living room looking at each other. I waited and waited and waited for him to finally say Let's go do this together. The day never came. To me this was him not investing in our relationship. Making plans together. Doing home projects together, discovering new things together, having fun together, traveling, vacations whatever. So I stopped investing and started mirroring him. We stopped growing together because I got tired of being the one wanting to connect by being and doing things together.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this insight 💯☀️🙌🙏

@maevemaiden

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I had to do after 7 years off and on and trying desperately to grow when I stopped investing our relationship fizzled out over that last year to nothing but ash

Omg this is so true. My narc ex has the attention span of a goldfish! He was always doing something new, always into the next shiny thing, was never home, could never just sit at home with me, was glued to his phone etc. In the end I never really knew him. I always complained to him that he never spent enough time with me and he never had an answer to it. It was only when I found out he was cheating that it was the final straw for me. It was after that I found out he is a narc. And yeah he always talked about himself.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Doony Fam.. I appreciate your kindness and insight 🙏🙌☀️

Exactly! Mine always had to have a project to do. Could never hang out with me except in the evening when he liked to drink and watch movies. Never just chill out and talk. Any downtime was spent on his phone. You’re alone in the relationship.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

You certainly are alone in the relationship..💯💯

I’m always on my phone to learn about what the hell has happened to me through videos like this 😅

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯🙌🙏

Andrew my daughter told a few things that her narcissist husband does once she was invited by her company bosses so she told him if he could look after the kids while she attends the dinner ,he agreed .He then waited for to reach her destination and he then phoned her and told that the children’s where crying for and he could not control them ,my daughter abandoned her dinner and returned .,on her return she found the children asleep .She then asked the live in maid if the children were troubling ,the maid replied that after supper the the children went to sleep ,they did not trouble.This is one of the sick things that he does.

@carolinekamya2339

16 күн бұрын

classic

If they are not in the spot light, they will anxiously look for something to get themselves into the spotlight. This is normally when they're in company. I discovered that if they meet competition in any group, they would find a reason to leave. Great subject!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙌🙏☀️

@staceelyn9072

2 жыл бұрын

This explains so much about a "friend" i made boundaries w who is constantly busy and never around. Would even leave in the middle of hanging out w us. Always on phone..always. I xould never figure it out. This makes sense. They only contact us when they need something. Grrat points

Very true, they are incapable of emotional intimacy and introspection. Denial is the name of the game... I first wrote it off as anxiety, stress, shyness, etc. But it was incapacity for intimacy and honesty of them with others or themselves

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯🙌😉

@Dustandfuzz

2 жыл бұрын

A therapist said my ex did not know how to have a relationship.

@elizabethclaes2468

2 жыл бұрын

#Pure love->100% facts

@MrGearoid65

2 жыл бұрын

Guys, I'm confused, if a narcissist, (and I'm in the middle of this right now) can't show emotional intimacy, how in heaven's name do people stay with them long enough to marry them. Are they equally damaged from childhood, as I believe I am?

@Edelwiess1066

2 жыл бұрын

@@MrGearoid65 They fake everything.

This is so accurate, it’s uncanny! My 77-year-old Narc relative has tantrums like an infant whenever she encounters problems with bureaucracy or computers. Zero patience, much swearing 🤬 🤬 🤬 and relentless importuning of others!

This describes my sister-in-law to a "T". It's exhausting being anywhere near her. No sooner do they arrive than they have to leave and do something else. Thats why we love it when they don't come. It's a relief!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏💯🙌

True! My husband even told me he thought I was "boring". My kids have even seen him walk away from me as I'm speaking to him. And after I finishing saying something to him, so often he either won't comment on what I just said OR he'll start talking about something completely UNRELATED to what I just said. And YES....he's ALWAYS on his cell phone! I just don't understand what he could be reading or checking out.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Linda.. 🙏💯☀️

@aselyne5631

2 жыл бұрын

Waw so the always being on the cellphone thing really is their thing....so strange

@JEHOVAH485

2 жыл бұрын

Linda, mine told me I was self-defeating.

@michelleacri7168

2 жыл бұрын

You just described my husband. He would often ignore me or interrupt or talk over me and he said it’s because I’m boring and stupid.

@debbiemohekey1509

2 жыл бұрын

@@michelleacri7168 Mine did it because he had more important things to say than I did.When we got sick he was more sick and when we got hurt he was more hurt although x-rays proved otherwise and then he really did get more sick.

Yes, yes, yes!! I realized this recently about my ex and it’s so very true! Always on the go, she could never be alone with her own, self critical thoughts. Her phone was her constant companion whether it was texting friends or checking email or googling something she saw on tv. She could never sit in bed after waking up and always had to get up and get the day started. It’s all so obvious now!!

@frankdavf4599

2 жыл бұрын

Same here!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly Steve.. light bulb 💡 moment..💯🙌.. thank you for sharing this

@bloodymary8540

2 жыл бұрын

These people are so exhausting with their behavior... Constantly running away from themselfs...

@mariabowers9604

2 жыл бұрын

A number of years ago I was around a bipolar woman who was also a narcissist, sociopath. She could not sleep past 6 AM and on weekends she could barely stand it, and at 8 AM she would wake up her children, so she would have company. It was the weekend, the children wanted to sleep longer, and she would not let them. I could not believe the insanity of this woman.

@veganvintagegeek2.089

Жыл бұрын

Thank you now I understand why my narc aunt had the tv on 24/7. And why she was always rooming the apartment at night slaming and banging things, and why she would fall asleep at 4pm. When she would leave the apartment that is when I could turn off the tv and have an hour or two of peace and quiet. Thankfully she kicked me out of her apartment and gave me the money to move out of state. And the only reason why I lived with her is due to poverty and her narc boyfriend who was my landlord kicked me out even though I was not a bad tenant. She took his side and belived lies he told her about me, I never did found out what thoes lies were. I am just glad I no longer have to live with her. Now I am living at my brother's house and wife number 3 is a narc. She can not stand me, and she wants me gone ASAP. I recently got a part time job and now I am told by my brother I need to get another job soon. Which I am glad to do, this way I can leave quicker and finally go less contact to no contact. I still want a relationship with my brother, niece and nephew. My sister has turned my brother into her flyinh monkey.

I’m a very patient person and I like to take my time doing things. Empaths are very patient. A narcissist wants things done in a jiffy! Like right now! They don’t know what to do with themselves. They are under constant anxiety. I have seen this in them, and they are boring individuals. I love to sit still and write and compose my thoughts. I love being in my own world 🌎 meditating on what to do next. Like do good deed for others etc., and put a smile 😃 on their face. This video was a great teaching Andrew. I thank God for leading me to your channel. Keep-up the good work! Your AWESOME! 😎

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏💯🙌💪

The revelations that these videos keep giving me is astonishing! I just realized that I have spent five years begging my ex narcissist to get a secondary supply. I’m basically an all you can eat buffet for a narcissist. I’m an empathetic bipolar people pleaser. So for 12 years I was my exes only supply. For the majority of those years he was pretty good at maintaining his ability to keep drawing from me. But over the last couple of years it’s been failing. And now I see it. I see it all. And you’re right he couldn’t sit still. It would take us three hours to watch a 40 minute television show! Because he had to change his clothes 25 times for no reason and he had to take the dogs out 10 times for no reason. The dogs always came first. Even over me and my child. I’m so glad I’m out now I just have to stay here!

Damn narcs sleep a lot! And they dont like to be disrupted in their sleept. Talking about a vampire!!

@Megz129

2 жыл бұрын

And boy do they sure like sulking. Especially in the morning looking angry and grumpy

@reginawatson1441

2 жыл бұрын

Omg! Thought it was just me. My narc snored in his sleep, i just said honey turn over you are snoring and the next morning all he complained about was me waking him up. Now mind you i was the one up all night! Unbelievable.

@frankdavf4599

2 жыл бұрын

@@reginawatson1441 true indeed!

Yep, their time is their time and your time is their time to support what they are doing. Your time and interests will be slowly taken away.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely correct thank you 💯💯💯

@annekerotterdam7499

2 жыл бұрын

True!!!

@marywright3870

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, exactly. Any ideas I have or conversations aren't worth his time. He freak'n actually sings just under his breath but so I can hear him while I'm talking! Sometimes I'll start telling him something important and can tell he's not paying attention so I'll make up something so stupid crazy to see how he responds and...nothing! He doesn't hear anything I say.

@maevemaiden

2 жыл бұрын

@@marywright3870 what a POS. It's like Andrew said like dating a toddler with the ignoring and childish behavior.

@Goodvibesvibes2024

2 жыл бұрын

True asf . Always about them

It’s true. I would be in my space trying to relax and he would say “I’m bored”. And just.. bothered me for hours. I had no privacy. All his “friends” realized how awful he was and he didn’t like going out to make more friends so he unloaded on me! The way he spent money on those random hobbies.. wow

He would literally take walks around his neighborhood for hours just so he didn’t have to sit with himself after work. Then it became walking to the bars and spending hours there every night. Where he found my replacement. If we ever did sit still, it was to watch movies or tv shows he liked. If it was ever something I wanted to watch, he fell asleep or would talk the whole time lol.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

😉😉💯💯

@MissJayHisDaughter

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, I was did the same way.

I thought mine was ADD/ADHD and maybe he really is, but even on a date he’d start deep conversations with strangers. I felt like I wasn’t good enough… but now I know. He was trying to build up more supply. And I am enough!! Thanks Andrew!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Susie..🙌💯🙏

@pernilladomander7648

2 жыл бұрын

I actually had mine tested and he had ADD. Should have had him tested for narcissism instead ;)

@davidsalo8397

2 жыл бұрын

Just what is the correlation between narcissism and ADD? Are there studies on this?

@CuriousConnoisseurs

Жыл бұрын

Not everyone like this Superficial gossip. I am tired of this smalltalk bs with strangers its so borring and useless.

@pernilladomander7648

Жыл бұрын

@@CuriousConnoisseurs Check out the canal Narcissist chronicles here on yt. It sounds like you are ready for coach Jesse :)

The busy-ness people with personality disorders display is 💯 percent due to the inability to self respect. And it’s extreme - either perfectionism, or full blown denial which usually includes an addiction to make the denial possible. The example of the family movie is so correct!!! At the end of the day, it’s far better to be alone with our thoughts and healing, painful as it is, than be alone and with them.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Well said.. thank you 🙏

@kingdomsgate

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@tammyfitzgerald5336

Жыл бұрын

Looks at parents usually golden child 😂😂😂

I have a coworker who's definitely a narcissist, and she can't sit still or be alone for one even minute. Literally.

Andrew, you are brilliant! AGAIN!! You're so right: The 3 big narcs in my life all can't sit still and the worse the narc, the more they can't sit still. It's easy to deem them "super social", BUT you're right, they are just out getting their narcissistic fill every single day, like an addiction.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

☀️💯🙌

Chaos. They create constant chaos which feeds their egos. They are not ok with themselves much less anyone else.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Completely agree..💯💯

In 20years he never sat with me on the sofa,he was always up the pub,never stayed at home weekends when he wasn't working,never asked me how my day was but I would hear about how crap his day was for hours to the extent I felt like I'd gone to work with him,every family holiday he'd never sit with me on the beach he'd disappear for hours,and always involved other people to join us all the time so it was never just us,he always had the tv controller and was constantly change channels th list is endless, it's so interesting to a actually finally understand why,I was worn out after twenty years so I divorced him,I love my own company and to have peace in my life is the best thing ever

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏 moving forward Julie 🙌☀️

@vikkiweigel2504

2 жыл бұрын

What you described is so familiar.

@karenmyers3444

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate. My Narc was a constant disappearing act. Or a no show. It was before mobile phones and he was ALWAYS disappearing. It was exhausting. I had 23 years of hell with that lying, scheming, two timing thief, but Ive also had 23 years now of peace and freedom. Life is lovely.🌹

Wow. This explains so much. I have NPD and I can NEVER have nothing to do. Like when we go on a vacation, I plan every minute down to the second with activities. I also like to be constantly praised and appreciated. I realize now that I have ruined a lot of relationships in the past and practically destroyed a few people on my way. I literally have 100s of hobbies, and have had over 30 businesses! I never really knew why. I am in therapy, learning to be a better person. He's also right, I can't control it, but when I got tired of a person that I was in a relationship with, I started looking for a replacement. I had like no emotional feelings towards them once I was done. It was that quick and easy to be done.

@Helloame

2 жыл бұрын

The first step towards healing is acknowledging there’s something that needs to be changed. DONT stop your therapy! You will get better

@jkcliff2956

Жыл бұрын

wow. I always wondered if narcs recognize that they have a problem or they truly believe that it is everyone else. Good for you for recognizing yourself and wanting to do better.

Yes, and the narcissist gets so angry when they've invested time and don't get what they want!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

Unbelievable, it’s like they all came rolling out of the same factory. And the worst part is, that they also think that we shouldn’t be able to take it easy either. Those ten years exhausted me to the point of a big fat burnout and when I finally decided to leave he had the audacity to say: “At least I’m leaving you better than I found you”. I bit my tongue so hard because what’s the point? 😂

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Jerney..💯🙌🙏

@NehaSharma-wq9yc

2 жыл бұрын

"they all came rolling out of the same factory" 😂😂😂

@JerneyMarisha

2 жыл бұрын

@@NehaSharma-wq9yc Some double Dutch for you haha 😁❤️

@NehaSharma-wq9yc

2 жыл бұрын

@@JerneyMarisha ❤️❤️😂😂

@americasariesson1862

2 жыл бұрын

Beat comment ever and they are the same the world over no matter what nationalist or sex - ALL THE SAME! ...very boring 🙄

Even if I managed to get him to sit and talk, he was never listening. All he was doing was finding how to stop me from thinking or giving him my observations about his bad behavior… so I never could get him to introspects… that’s how you get so tired that you finally let go and then, they snap you. You’re stuck in a never ending story. And if you don’t get out of this relation, you will just go down and down and down… loosing your identity, your believes, your soul… the only way to deal with a narc? Get out and NO CONTACT. Thanks Andrew. God speed

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your kindness and honesty Louise 💯🙏🙌

As a covert narcissist I agree with this. I can never sit still.

Thank you! Inability for intimacy. Perfect description! Even when spending time alone talking with me he’ll suddenly close his eyes and even doze off- in the middle of a conversation!! He’ll close his eyes and slumber off while watching a movie with me too. He offers to go out and buy an expensive gift for me and after the purchase and chatting up the sales associate he’ll sit there staring at his phone and too busy to look up at me make eye contact or smile and share in the gift giving.

No. I'm discarding him. I haven't seen him in 17 days, ( after 7 + years) .. and just need that final push to go completely ghost. Tired of hurting.

@michu2888

2 жыл бұрын

Praying for you

@suzanne4396

2 жыл бұрын

@@michu2888 Thank you. I can use some strength right now ~

@michu2888

2 жыл бұрын

Try Narcissist Chronicles with Jesse also, he is another great coach with a awesome tribe of supporters. Over 600 videos to watch. Hope to see you there :)!

@eugeniaskelley5194

2 жыл бұрын

Be careful, the holidays are here, and it is a vulnerable time.

@jet4415

2 жыл бұрын

Wait..wait …wait for the hoovering. They mini love bomb you, get you back, and then quickly discard you. They have to win.

The only time they sit still is to smerk and stare and you to take notes for something negative to use against you also riding in a vehicle with a narcissist is intense speeding and music blasted road rage

this is so true, he was always pottering around from the minute he woke up always busy busy mumbling to himself but it wasnt normal

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

💯💯😉

You hit the nail on the head, my ex narc was always on the go. He also dabbled in crystal meth as I found out later. He would stay out until the daylight after riding his bicycle around all night getting into God knows what. I dumped his sorry a$$, have gone no contact and get an absolute kick out of ignoring him, then reading his angry, psychotic then begging messages. Once you learn the MO of a narc it's actually extremely easy to stay away and just LAUGH at their idiocy. They're not smart.

Omg... I've been through all of this! She could never watch a movie. She actually had 2 cell phones with multiple numbers. Always had a project going on. Always running to the store. I must tell you I'm laughing right along with you because it's so true. The one thing I have managed to hold on to is my sense of humor. I just started following you and I was wondering have you ever done any videos on the narcissist and stealing? Please keep doing what you do! 🕉️✌️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌☀️

@KZUNA

2 жыл бұрын

@@lindat1317 drain financially to keep their source,,they gotta have what they ant and want it now,,,,I did resort to celibacy,,,

@deborahrichardson3731

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, and the say how thieves are so low....lol

“Just be”. I am sincerely jealous of couples who can be at peace while doing nothing. For many years I’ve wondered why activities and plans are always required for a “successful” time. It’s almost as if life isn’t even worth living unless they are busy doing something.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Well said.. 💯💯

@flyinbry

2 жыл бұрын

Yep

@tropicaoptica

2 жыл бұрын

This makes me think... of the difference of masculine vs feminine energy. Each has its place. Feminine energy is about being, and masculine is about doing. A masculine man for instance is naturally going to be more comfortable in "doing" mode than a feminine energy woman who is more naturally comfortable in "being" mode. However, like in a yin/yang symbol, the yang half is only complete with its bit of yin mastered, and yin complete with a bit of the yang mastered to create a complimentary whole. A masculine person does need to know how to relax and be present, however, they will still do it much less than a feminine person, just as the feminine is at its most power when it has mastered its masculine aspect of itself and can use planning and action taking, it still will be most comfortable operating mostly in yin mode.. if that makes sense.

@DrPhilGoode

2 жыл бұрын

@@tropicaoptica I learned this the day my first daughter was born 10 years ago. I would have been the “doing” person you referred to. But I quickly discovered that their mother would be emotionally unavailable,unstable, and abusive. So I had to do some changing. I get your point though.

@tropicaoptica

2 жыл бұрын

@@DrPhilGoode was she a stay at home mom?

🤣 It's scary how on point this is. *in the middle of the novie* "They have to go make dinner, which is six hours away" I don't mean to laugh, but it really was the way you said it. Really lightened the mood. Xx

Never trust anyone who can't be naturally calm. Who can not stand loneliness, there is something wrong. I've never understood extroverts and people who have to do something all the time. It's weird to me. Personally, I just want my peace and freedom, I don't understand people who can't be alone. Thank you for the video, you are a beautiful soul ✨🌈

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯

@NehaSharma-wq9yc

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Thank you for saying this . It's so accurate . Actually, There are no extroverts , just narcissists or unhealed people .

My exN could never sit & have any kind of conversation! Even the most trivial things would turn into an argument. For example, if I asked how his day went he would always say "why do you ask so many questions?" To me it was just what two people do - communicate! I know now he was always up to no good & resented me asking questions! Been narc free for almost 2 yrs & thank God he's someone else's problem now!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Moving forward J Jones.. thank you for sharing this 🙌☀️🙌🙏

This is so exact. He worked third shift all night. He came home and still had to work on csrs, his weed plsnts, go here and there, etc. if i told him to join me in the room to cuddle or talk or even hug on the bed, he wound invent excuses to do stuff in the backyard until it was night time again, and time for him to go to work. And yes, the only time they shut down was when they had to sleep. Its so chilling how most narcissists have so much alike. Mine was a covert who led a double life having affairs left and right. His hobbies did change month to month, a new project with most of the material from the original project just wasted away in a corner of the house. They partners, objects of interest, pets so quickly as they found them.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏 I appreciate your honesty and sharing 🙌☀️

@Bozpeep

2 жыл бұрын

Yes and mine would complain I never initiated sex, but when I would try to get him to spend some time he couldn’t. Had to check the sports scores or something else equally unimportant.

@asmallbitchybanana

2 жыл бұрын

@@Bozpeep right. And honestly it makes so much sense when you think about it..ll the lacked introspection and the ability to just sit back amd chill or fight thru restlessness or boredom. They cant sit still for too long. They cant just “kick it”.

Thank you for all of your videos. They have helped me tremendously. I was in a toxic relationship For three years. I finally went no contact. I still struggle, but feel much more at peace within myself. I am starting to realize that a narcissist is a miserable, unhappy, pathetic, lost, dark, fake being. Happy people build people up, miserable and mean people tear others down. I know my worth now and I can smell a narcissist a mile away. Sadly, it takes a broken heart to realize that personality disorders really do exist. I completely understand why they are drawn to people that have empathic hearts. I will never let it happen again as I have gained so much knowledge through all of these wonderful videos. Thank you again

The narcissist can't sit still because they don't want to us to have enough time to observe them closely without the chaos. They are empty and paranoid that we will ever figure them out. They keep moving the "target" and the reality and create that illusion which in turn creates a delusional state of mind in ourselves. Such sick cycle of abuse. Glad to out and free to rebuild my life. Blessings to all! Stay strong.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

So on point. The only time he was not doing something was when he was sleeping! - always had to be doing something with no time to just do nothing even on weekends. As the saying goes - being busy is not a badge of honor.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate this comment..💯🙌💯🙏

@tajetaje9238

2 жыл бұрын

I was running away from control and boardum she was on the phone all the time or bitshing about something bed was big and cold no seance of hummer so I went out learning got into music took a music class took a part time job she wasn't working and wanted the kids to be looked after in a nursery she didn't want to do nothing I was paying the bills clean and cook wash the dishes do the whole nine yards without a thank you a kiss no motivation what soever fuck that I went out to breathe to laugh and learn I was leaving then but the kids were holding me back but also I was trying to understand and all she ever said it's your fault .....

@alliegreenwold2631

Жыл бұрын

Vacation with a narc is torture! Either you’re alone with this unfocused mess of a person, or you’re performing ”Perfect Couple” till the limelights turn off, and the loneliness comes back…

What a great video. I now recognize these behavior traits in the narcissist I was involved with. I could not stop wondering why she found it necessary to completely smash tranquility every time I thought things were going well. I was criticized often for being quiet while we watched beautiful sunsets on the river. She mocked and ridiculed me and could not stand it that I was able to enjoy these sunsets without constantly talking.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely 🙏💯🙌

@JEHOVAH485

2 жыл бұрын

So sorry that happened to you.

@davidsalo8397

2 жыл бұрын

They need "white noise" of whatever form to disallow you to have a life of your own. Very exhausting.

@anneofgreengables1619

8 ай бұрын

Try going in the sauna with them, which is supposed to be a quiet place ...

I know exactly 💯 I have been surrounded by them my whole life lucky me! 😆 Muchas gracias Andrew! 😘

So true. Also, he had to make sure he isnt at home because the cops might find him for all the fraud he had committed

@oscarwilliamson6163

2 жыл бұрын

Michelle Evler,You are beautiful,Hope you are not with a narcissist.....

@SZYB3

2 жыл бұрын

Yep 👍🏻🆘…..narcs and fraud go hand in hand …together😩….. be warned people 😱🆘👊🏼

This video made me chuckle Andrew. Before the end of the relationship in July 2020 I spent 4 months virtually house bound with my Malignant Narcasistic wife due to Covid. Ohhh my what a time it was. They can't handle boredom or just doing simple things like movies or reading a book etc... Inevitably what happened is that fights were picked and the need to vent and rage was the only thing that filled the hole inside...but temporarily of course. The violent episodes escalated as time went by because she knew I was an effective prisoner. No wonder is it a hideous Trauma Bond was forged... When I did finally escape the initial feeling of relief was so overwhelming...it was like I'd broke out of jail. They can't be alone with their thoughts or self reflect...that is a dangerous reality for them. Keeping busy by acquiring an any type of supply is a matter of life or death. DC

@lb9171

2 жыл бұрын

My discard was 4th of July, 3pm, 2020. Nine hours away from my home. As I drove the nine hours home he ran over to join the new supply for fireworks. In my mental state I locked myself out of my car at a rest stop halfway home. I actually found comfort in resolving that hassle because it gave me the opportunity to talk to the locksmith which lifted my heart slightly up out of my feet. I was so bonded to Mr. Wonderful and never saw it coming. But in hindsight it was so textbook narc

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you DC.. I appreciate this.. I really do 💯🙌🙏

@noracharles9366

2 жыл бұрын

@@lb9171 I totally feel your pain 💯⚜

@tootienottoofruitie1726

2 жыл бұрын

David... what you just explained reminds me of a person who is drowning.... can not get close bc they will drag you down with them 🤓

@ingridhaughney3645

2 жыл бұрын

The Narcissistic individual dreads boredom it’s like hell to them. If you ask them to chill or just do a little leisure all hell breaks out. Go, Go Go and if you are boring them on any way you are dumped so they never stick around to relax with you. They are demonic deranged and disordered individuals. Avoid them and never return because they abuse you when you fail to excite them physically, sexually or financially.

Thanks so much for this. I could never understand why when out in public, he was always starting conversations with strangers, even on hikes....more explained

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Light bulb moment 💡💡💡

@gretchenmae9279

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. He'd talk to anyone and everyone. Also played dumb to see how people would react

Andrew, congratulations for your channel. It’s literally saving me in this moment. After 22 years in which I lived married 20 years I couldn’t understand what was wrong in the relationship. I am just giving my initial steps for healing, in the beginning of No Contact and your videos are truly blessing information. Thanks for supporting and congratulations.

So true what you describe about narcissist person, my ex wife was exactly like that, among ather narcissist characteristics that she presented ... She was euphoric all the time... These people seems that they dont know how to be relax, enjoy life... Everything in their life is a torment.... Run away from people like this!!!

He could never stay home with me for one single day. He always had to go somewhere, some errand, some excuse. He was always disappearing somewhere. If he was home it was to sleep or be on his phone. I couldn’t figure it out but yea you’re right he was bored. Even if we were out together he wasn’t sitting with me having conversation. He wasn’t capable of having normal conversation. He said “I’m sorry” but never followed it with any other words or action. You explained so many peculiar behaviors!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely.. I do..💯🙏🙌😉

"They can't be without their cell phones, sorry to laugh, flashbacks" yes, you are too cool. 😂

Omg never thought that this was a result of narcissism.. I could never relax on sofa without feeling guilty. I ALWAYS felt like I HAD to amuse him, cheer him up, inflate his ego basically to avoid discomfort and having a bad day. He could NEVER watch something with me or actually do something on his own for a long time..he was actually pacing back and forth in the house making me feel on edge.. constantly feeling that I need to do something to avoid him telling me how BORED he was all the time. Always felt responsible and boring myself.. Jesus I feel so free.. ... I can BREATHE

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

💯🙏😌

This is SPOT ON DUDE .… no real convos always chaos …. Always exhausting & NEVER about me

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

😉😉💯

They cannot Distinguish ACCUSATION from EXPOSURE..and we all know where that goes.

This isnt talked about nearly enough! Appreciate your work.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Valerie 💯🙌🙏

@brianwalsh1401

2 жыл бұрын

I think this topic of narcissist is becoming more known than ever before because people are learning about it. I was away from my ex for almost 11 years before I finally came across this information at the age of 51. I never would've figured her out or the many other cluster B's I've had in my life without the internet.

I just had this same thought, wondering why he can't sit still and is always on the go. Sitting still would mean he would have to deal with his thoughts about himself and he can't handle it and now requires some type of external stimulation. This is also why he gravitates to undesirable "friends" who provide a way of escape.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯

i just got dumped by my NARCISSIST after I caught him cheating on me, I’ve been devastated for past 10 days. He has no remorse for my feelings