Why results come when you stop caring

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This is a phenomenon that I see come up repeatedly with my clients and viewers. Does not caring really make the results come more? I explain and talk about what the fundamental principle at work here is.
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  • @PrinceJoshTheGreat
    @PrinceJoshTheGreat4 жыл бұрын

    Every girl wants what she can't have. Girls can tell when a guy has better things to do or doesn't care that much, and they love it.

  • @nando9632

    @nando9632

    4 жыл бұрын

    True shit they start coming back and saying shit like “why don’t you text anymore” or “I miss you 🥺” and shit like that but it’s starts to get annoying because they’re the ones who seem to stop caring first so I just don’t either 😂

  • @Jambuc829

    @Jambuc829

    4 жыл бұрын

    That never works for me. I only get success when I’m trying to make something happen. If I don’t reach out to her they disappear. “Oh I thought you weren’t interested so I moved on” is what I hear. Acting like I don’t care never ever works for me. I would die a virgin at the age of 102 if I acted like I don’t care.

  • @nando9632

    @nando9632

    4 жыл бұрын

    David Álvarez that just means they were never interested in the first place because if she really liked you she would’ve came back wanting your attention

  • @robertrodriguez8082

    @robertrodriguez8082

    3 жыл бұрын

    But that's the point she had her chance now it's too late she cant have it no more.. Bye

  • @Hari-kx2er

    @Hari-kx2er

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Jambuc829 I think you got it wrong. No body is asking a man to avoid women entirely. No contact means you stop chasing all the time and allow her to chase you as well. Of course, in most of the cases you have to make the first move and start the relationship with the girl. If a woman is interested in you, she will contact you if you take a break in your communication with her. If she is not interested in the first place, then too much contact from your side won't change it. On the other hand, even a woman who has some interest in you might get bored if you are reaching out too much.

  • @reagangovender4217
    @reagangovender42174 жыл бұрын

    If you stop chasing but still expect results you don't stop caring. To truly stop caring is to not expect any results and be happy with your state of being whether what you want comes, or not.

  • @mml1426

    @mml1426

    3 жыл бұрын

    Exactly

  • @jacobseo3578

    @jacobseo3578

    3 жыл бұрын

    Agree

  • @KamoChannel1

    @KamoChannel1

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great one

  • @Booki89
    @Booki894 жыл бұрын

    This does not only apply to women, but social relationships in general.

  • @anpinfotainment7963
    @anpinfotainment79634 жыл бұрын

    To sum up, Confirmation bias disappears when you're not too focused on individual results, having passion and drive beyond getting a girls attention will bring the attention, and being relaxed and in the flow state will prevent overthinking. Good advice. Thanks Lloyd

  • @maxgreenwood2609
    @maxgreenwood26093 жыл бұрын

    What’s also helpful about not caring is that it can help you realise sometimes they didn’t give a crap about you anyway.

  • @dallasmed65
    @dallasmed654 жыл бұрын

    This is so accurate. Met a girl on Tinder and we talked a lot. Almost too much. I blame that on this quarantine, but we were really into each other. Then... it just fizzled. I think we knew each other too much before we met.

  • @GraveRave

    @GraveRave

    4 жыл бұрын

    A dating coach by the name Locario, spoke about tinder because of the epidemic. In a nutshell have each other contact info, so when the epidemic goes, you two get to plan and meet. A lot of women are on Tinder to get attention, too much of it makes them fizzle out.

  • @halo091

    @halo091

    4 жыл бұрын

    Maybe she will be back. Does she show you any kind of social media attention right now?

  • @damien4v3

    @damien4v3

    4 жыл бұрын

    She’ll be back

  • @halo091

    @halo091

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@damien4v3 do you think so?

  • @damien4v3

    @damien4v3

    4 жыл бұрын

    T984e37 S yeah as long as you don’t chase her . What was the last messages sent ?

  • @dareyfairy
    @dareyfairy4 жыл бұрын

    The only issue is that when I stop caring, I become invisible. And the shitty thing is that I bet a lot of ppl don't know what I'm talking about.

  • @Ninteudo64

    @Ninteudo64

    4 жыл бұрын

    You missed the point then, you still care, it seems :)

  • @yoshibeast12

    @yoshibeast12

    4 жыл бұрын

    You still care. Don't worry man, I know where you're coming from. This "stop caring" thing is not like turning on a switch, just focus on yourself ( I know, it sounds cliché) but little by little you start focusing on the important things that REALLY matter in life. Keep it up.

  • @anaga6049

    @anaga6049

    4 жыл бұрын

    Stop caring means you put your energy into other things. If you just withdraw that energy and don't put it into something else then u won't get results.

  • @cryora

    @cryora

    4 жыл бұрын

    Well you didn't watch the whole video. You want to show that you care, but you need to have things in your life that you care more about than her. You want to be an erect dick that has better stuff to do than a limp dick. Get my drift?

  • @kieransimpson4965

    @kieransimpson4965

    4 жыл бұрын

    @LEO2001 it's true that these games work. It's a shame but the manipulation works.

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n4 жыл бұрын

    It shows that you have options and more women want you - preselection and being a desirable man

  • @antwandarellefenton

    @antwandarellefenton

    4 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely bro

  • @imdavidhammond

    @imdavidhammond

    4 жыл бұрын

    🙏🙏 yup

  • @reckjay211
    @reckjay2114 жыл бұрын

    It’s so funny how tables turn on women when you mirror their actions, like naw don’t act like your interested now i already have a 4-5 girl rotation

  • @AkatsukisFlori
    @AkatsukisFlori4 жыл бұрын

    Great advice my man you’re so helpful

  • @reydarouaghi6288
    @reydarouaghi62884 жыл бұрын

    Most underrated chanle about dating advice for men on KZread

  • @jakegray6987
    @jakegray69874 жыл бұрын

    Glad to have this phenomenon explained thanks bro

  • @youreverythingchannel9490
    @youreverythingchannel94903 жыл бұрын

    Thank You for this.. :) i needed it even your advice about being cautious about these kinds of girls.

  • @eyeofeagle1994
    @eyeofeagle19944 жыл бұрын

    Amazingly said bro... especially the last thing about short term & long term people was lit! Nailed it❤️🔥

  • @mattalexandrescu134
    @mattalexandrescu1344 жыл бұрын

    Keep up the videos. You obviously have a lot of experience with girls and you're trying to spread the knowledge you've acquired over the years. You're an awesome guy

  • @kieransimpson4965
    @kieransimpson49654 жыл бұрын

    Spot on. They want to be involved in that something more

  • @TheSenseiKai
    @TheSenseiKai3 жыл бұрын

    What's bugging me is this : You have someone that really cares for you and your well being. Why would someone not like this? Like let's be honest. There's a reason I chose you and I do not seek anything else. Why would you seek me when I find another option? This seems to me just a mind game that only makes things complicated. Why can't it be more simple? More direct.

  • @playstationnintendowin489

    @playstationnintendowin489

    3 жыл бұрын

    Right if you care about there well being and think they are a cool person people should be like faltered even if they only like you has a friend not a bf type of thing.

  • @thomasandersen2534

    @thomasandersen2534

    3 жыл бұрын

    Men run on logic. Women run on emotion. Men go for what they want women by what they feel

  • @OffGridInvestor

    @OffGridInvestor

    2 жыл бұрын

    It's kinda like this. Too much of you and they loose interest. It's like when you only eat chicken for weeks. You get sick of it. You want some beef for a while. Basically I'm saying it's too much too quick, too good too quickly. You don't want whipped cream on every dessert, just maybe twice a week. And once you're gone and they realise other guys are more boring, or they've had time away from you and allowed their feelings and thoughts to settle, they start to remember how good you were. Just like the song they played on repeat and overdone it. Then they realise after a few weeks how crap modern songs are and come back to their old favourite.

  • @Avareee.

    @Avareee.

    8 ай бұрын

    @@OffGridInvestor best comment

  • @dje3.16
    @dje3.164 жыл бұрын

    Short and effective videos! Thank you, I am learning attraction myself too; you are a big inspiration for me.

  • @Ram-hy8dc
    @Ram-hy8dc4 жыл бұрын

    These videos are golden. Keep it up ✊🏻💯

  • @alphadogmindset5958
    @alphadogmindset59584 жыл бұрын

    Indifference, always i intriguing, big love men, stay up and ALWAYS IMPROVING

  • @arsitek2166
    @arsitek21663 жыл бұрын

    this is accurate 100%, this happened to me when I'm choosing to not caring with them anymore

  • @htcapone5136
    @htcapone51363 жыл бұрын

    Appreciate the advice bro u the man...

  • @huntersmith8477
    @huntersmith84774 жыл бұрын

    Great video bro!

  • @JG25419
    @JG254193 жыл бұрын

    Useful information !!

  • @thebluethunderbunny2324
    @thebluethunderbunny23244 жыл бұрын

    I recently started watching your videos again, and i'm happy to see that you finally dropped that cringey wink you used to use in your outros. Whatever friend you have that finally woke you up, you owe him a drink and a nice lunch.

  • @CoolBoyz1876
    @CoolBoyz18762 жыл бұрын

    This is so true. I feel like this girl I’m trying to go after is losing interest in me and I can tell that I have been really needy and pushy in our relationship. I’m going to take things slow and focus on myself and my goals and let everything else play out thank u so much

  • @fuzzypanda1684

    @fuzzypanda1684

    Жыл бұрын

    How'd it go?

  • @imdavidhammond
    @imdavidhammond4 жыл бұрын

    Bang on bro! Killed this one. 🤟💯

  • @_ASonofGOD

    @_ASonofGOD

    4 жыл бұрын

    David the chief 😎🤙🏽.Jesus loves u all

  • @muayboran6111
    @muayboran61113 жыл бұрын

    The real key is not caring about the outcome but if you act aloof towards the girl then that's a problem

  • @hammads9045
    @hammads90454 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for clarifying between not caring and not caring as much. Rn I'm upset I didn't speak to a girl who was showing interest but I just didn't put much care into her. Next time

  • @nicke2307
    @nicke23074 жыл бұрын

    I had a girl I was into and was investing more into her than she was into me. We went on a first date and it was ok but nothing exciting and she gave me the cheek. I asked her on a second date and she said yes but blew me off so I just backed off and stopped all contact. Ive been on my purpose and busy doing my own thing and have been posting the stuff Ive been doing on fbook and now shes been hitting me up and watching all my stories and liking my stuff lol. Not interested in her anymore though

  • @halo091

    @halo091

    4 жыл бұрын

    Did she reach back out

  • @nicke2307

    @nicke2307

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@halo091 no but shes always the first to watch my stories and liking stuff on my facebook. Totally weird

  • @kieransimpson4965

    @kieransimpson4965

    4 жыл бұрын

    It's so funny!

  • @Izznum

    @Izznum

    4 жыл бұрын

    Imo she just wants you to hit her back..But you know the answer.. don't do that.. She's not the best for you 👌🏻

  • @diongeorge3989

    @diongeorge3989

    4 жыл бұрын

    Good job brother.honestly, u just gotta focus on u and all the bitches will notice and respect it.💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @GamerKidPlaysGames
    @GamerKidPlaysGames4 жыл бұрын

    great content you have

  • @tinogustiniani6163
    @tinogustiniani6163 Жыл бұрын

    This guy gives great advice ngl

  • @LeLuizFelippe
    @LeLuizFelippe4 жыл бұрын

    I would also say that if you stop caring just to get her back or to chase you, then it won’t work as expected. You have to genuinely focus on something else, something to improve your life, then things will happen naturally.

  • @elisatseng6286
    @elisatseng62864 жыл бұрын

    That art of being detached! You’re in the best place when you’re happy with the outcome either way. It’s not just in dating but in other areas too! It’s just women and men don’t want someone who’s needy at least not from the word get go. Not caring about the outcome doesn’t mean you’re not compassionate or caring. Be happy and just go with the flow.

  • @morganalexis6147

    @morganalexis6147

    2 жыл бұрын

    Being detached as a man is an abdication of your inmate power as a man. Please don't be fooled, if you're detached as a man, than this woman is not the one for you. No man that has been in love or deeply desired a woman for himself has ever been satisfied with being detached about where she ended up with in love. You abandon your instinct this way. If you as a man really don't care who this woman belongs to, you do not feel in love with her. Absolutely no man that has been in love with a woman found that acceptable to allow her to be with someone else and have that be remotely okay for him. Where is your instinct sir I would ask. Men Hunt and men capture. They don't manipulate emotionally but they lead the direction of the relationship. It's so strange as a lady to hear such confusion. When have women been your competition!? Or love been a game!?? Love has never been a game and you speak of women as if they are competitors rather than other men your competition. No other place is this the case. In nature you don't have rams competing and challenging the lady ram. Or battling her for her affections! They are competing with other male rams! How confusing is your statement for sure. Lions are not fighting the lioness for her. He's fighting other lions for her. Bring attached to outcomes is exactly a masculine trait. No achievements have been accomplished by being unattached to the outcome at all. No sports games won, no establishment built, no invention created, nothing men have ever done in history has occurred by being unattached to the outcome. For men to accomplish anything, they have always had an attachment to the outcome that has driven it forward. And moving forward is highly masculine. It's the very opposite of feminine. I'm not sure where it got confusing but I truly hope there is some resonance with this. Because it's truth. Being unattached has not created a win for any man ever in life. No corporate worker has gotten there being unattached. He would likely be ruled out for those with more drive and intention as in any competition or any other arena in life where hierarchical ways of being drove the outcome. To any reading this, I hope this helps some. Unattached is and will be the death of you. As it is any area where competing requires all of you. Good luck to you all in love. May you discover real bliss

  • @nuttawutnumpet3393
    @nuttawutnumpet33932 жыл бұрын

    All so worked

  • @philmstud2k
    @philmstud2k4 жыл бұрын

    Every time I “stop caring”, anyone I was talking to stops talking to me and forgets about me and I don’t take the initiative to reach out to new people and I end up totally alone.

  • @Jambuc829

    @Jambuc829

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same

  • @rgamer7252

    @rgamer7252

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is about girls who are partially into you, or totally into you but haven't committed themselves yet. If you "don't care" about a girl who doesn't care about you, she won't even know you exist in first place.

  • @ThatShitGood

    @ThatShitGood

    3 жыл бұрын

    Same, i try that don't give a fuck attitude but i end up being alone more even, like i lack of charisma or something.

  • @OffGridInvestor

    @OffGridInvestor

    2 жыл бұрын

    Gotta work on being more interesting or having a higher value.

  • @rishidaryanani5098

    @rishidaryanani5098

    Жыл бұрын

    Not caring means, going out and expressing yourself freely without giving a fuck what people think about you.

  • @pricelessppp
    @pricelessppp4 жыл бұрын

    This is why I’m choosing when it comes to being friends with some lady’s.

  • @Olando89
    @Olando89 Жыл бұрын

    Hi, boy. You're our boy Loyd.

  • @Mrkmotr
    @Mrkmotr4 жыл бұрын

    I think similar thing actually applies to life generally, not just women. From what I've read and from my own experience I think that not caring much about the results, but loving the process makes you best performer at anything.

  • @Avareee.

    @Avareee.

    8 ай бұрын

    I think balance is a better word, not too much not too less.

  • @cocokitty623
    @cocokitty6234 жыл бұрын

    Yes, show interest but not desperate interest. Desperation=EW!

  • @dontreadmyname4396

    @dontreadmyname4396

    4 жыл бұрын

    so when can you love someone and give her all your time? lol wtf is wrong with women, don't like men who love them? just half love?

  • @cocokitty623

    @cocokitty623

    4 жыл бұрын

    When the feeling is mutal. Pretty much anyone whether it is the guy or girl putting way too much into something, too early is a turn off. Give it time, get to know a person, make sure you two genuinely match and you’re not trying to “love” someone to fill a void. Loving someone and giving your all in my opinion should be done when it is received and reciprocated. If someone is not reciprocating your affection, you risk coming off as desperate. Have your own life, of course you should care... but this is a fine line that men should learn to balance. Don’t create a toxic dynamic, but don’t be too available. It’s just the theory that everyone wants what they can’t have.

  • @kiloart1043
    @kiloart10434 жыл бұрын

    you have beautiful eyes

  • @hninoowai1431
    @hninoowai14312 жыл бұрын

    Instead of saying not caring, when you have your own life, and working on yourself the best, everyone starts wanting you

  • @JHolland
    @JHolland4 жыл бұрын

    I gotta watch one of ur friend zone vids lmao , some girl was all over me for the first few days then she slowly became worse and said today be mates as she don’t want anything for a while , that attraction she had can’t just go so maybe over time I’ll win her back by accident lol

  • @curious_gage
    @curious_gage3 жыл бұрын

    What a fun game 😅

  • @devenmurray3580
    @devenmurray35804 жыл бұрын

    I want to care though. Im tired of not caring.

  • @md.rifatrahamatullah4754
    @md.rifatrahamatullah47544 жыл бұрын

    Loyd you are amazing. The way you described is just so soothing and easily understood. Love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩

  • @the_unconventional_Indian77

    @the_unconventional_Indian77

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hi bro i am from India 🇮🇳

  • @md.rifatrahamatullah4754

    @md.rifatrahamatullah4754

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hello brother. How everything is going in India?

  • @the_unconventional_Indian77

    @the_unconventional_Indian77

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@md.rifatrahamatullah4754 going pretty bad 70000 cases so far and learning to be alpha male now don't want to be nice guy. And glad we watch this channel no south asian watch such channel and fail to get gf they watch Desi channel instead with crap

  • @md.rifatrahamatullah4754

    @md.rifatrahamatullah4754

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@the_unconventional_Indian77 yup got it. In Bangladesh it's also getting bad to worse day by day. Now it is over 16000 in my country. Yes may be we are very few persons who are from South East Asia in these sort channels. I think these channels are far more effective and informative than other South Asian channels. Stay Safe Brother 🙂.

  • @the_unconventional_Indian77

    @the_unconventional_Indian77

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@md.rifatrahamatullah4754 give your what's app number and yes we learn so much from this channel like how to be better version of ourselves.

  • @whiskers11234
    @whiskers112344 жыл бұрын

    Every Girl is looking for the guy with the most resources so she can use them long term. If you have money, car, house, own a company, have a lot of friends, have a lot of females stare at you outside. She will be yours but she is looking to use you..

  • @NoName-lm7nk

    @NoName-lm7nk

    4 жыл бұрын

    Waqas Ahmed so all girls are prostitutes ?

  • @whiskers11234

    @whiskers11234

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@NoName-lm7nk yes all girls are .. They want you too spend on them in order to sexually please you... Woman want you to spend on them for them to cook for you, do your laundry, clean your house.. The list goes on.. Why you think theres a high divorce rate.. ? Its because once a man realize a woman is only using him he finds sex elsewhere ... and the cycle never ends.. How you explain woman being with men close to their fathers age and not with a man their own age..? Its money she wants it for sex and her time...

  • @allmenanswers4208
    @allmenanswers42084 жыл бұрын

    My guess would be that guys are going all in and there is no challenge for the girl is why she loses interest. Make her qualify herself, and she will start to chase . Girls seem to get turned on to guys their not sure they can get.

  • @halo091

    @halo091

    4 жыл бұрын

    Can the interest be regained

  • @allmenanswers4208

    @allmenanswers4208

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes, but you kinda got do a fresh start.

  • @halo091

    @halo091

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@allmenanswers4208 no contact?

  • @allmenanswers4208

    @allmenanswers4208

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes, it should be on my channel.

  • @kieransimpson4965

    @kieransimpson4965

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yeah there needs to be a mindset shift of not being easily impressed

  • @aikee3205
    @aikee32054 жыл бұрын

    Hi, Can you make a video about what exactly to do if she reach out to you after no contact coz it works for me and i have no idea what to do, tnx more video soon

  • @aphroditeg2712
    @aphroditeg27123 жыл бұрын

    If we, males and females both stopped playing games we would be in a much better place.

  • @MuhammadAbdullah-fb7fr

    @MuhammadAbdullah-fb7fr

    2 жыл бұрын

    We have a winner !!!!!

  • @mmendoza1190
    @mmendoza11904 жыл бұрын

    you have to get them "hooked" to you first. by just not-caring, only thing is gonna happen is you're just gonna ghost her away.

  • @halo091

    @halo091

    4 жыл бұрын

    What is an indication that they're hooked if they dont message first or for a while?

  • @mmendoza1190

    @mmendoza1190

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@halo091simply if they're showing interest.

  • @Australia-ky7kx
    @Australia-ky7kx4 жыл бұрын

    Good advice. Seems women need to be validated when a man doesn't show interest. They perceive his indifference as strength and disrespects him if he demonstrates a need to share his life....well at least in the early stages of romance.

  • @boboyu35
    @boboyu354 жыл бұрын

    whatever i do. im still do all those wrong

  • @antonsaraste4726
    @antonsaraste47264 жыл бұрын

    I wonder if this applies to the opener though.

  • @sebastiandelsolar1
    @sebastiandelsolar14 жыл бұрын

    Not caring is key. Last year I meet with I girl I knew back in hs. We started chatting a lot through text because we we live in different countries, two months after she wasn’t as responsive like in the beginning and that attraction she had for me I guess faded. I went back to her country and she seemed interested in hanging out but when I asked to set up a date to go and have fun she’d refuse. After that I didn’t text her again for months except in her birthday. One year later now she’s the one texting me first, or at least the last 7 times we had a conversation was bc she texted first or commented my snap stories. Now I keep chatting light and don’t make many questions or disclosing much info, she’s the on doing all that, and when I say something like “oh nah you don’t wanna know about that”, she replies with “oh, now I’m interested!”. I realized snap streaks is an attraction killer since you talk every single fing day, so in trying to kill that 5 day streak, I just mentioned to her I had this long business assignment and later that night I said “well gotta go do some more work on this thing, night” and left it there, she said night too and now it’s just a matter of time till she texts first again, cuz now she’ll be wondering if I’m done with homework or wth is going in my life that I didn’t text her again, but its fine cuz I made it very clear that I has stuff to do.

  • @timbow1833
    @timbow18334 жыл бұрын

    move with passion, but not neediness.

  • @galihcd
    @galihcd4 жыл бұрын

    Hi Loyd. Would you make a video about how to date a celebrity? Do I sound delusional

  • @ladyk2002
    @ladyk20022 жыл бұрын

    Should come natural...its not a game. Self love.. is important.

  • @asiandude8361
    @asiandude83612 жыл бұрын

    If you don't care then she doesn't care. It's as simple as that.

  • @sabarisivasundar
    @sabarisivasundar3 жыл бұрын

    Oh my god...

  • @georgeserrano1139
    @georgeserrano11393 жыл бұрын

    How do you know if she's in it for the long term/ good for long term?

  • @arwinazizi2733
    @arwinazizi27334 жыл бұрын

    Because you are not validating her anymore

  • @ziwei275
    @ziwei2754 жыл бұрын

    This works for tests and exams too right?

  • @nergigante.

    @nergigante.

    4 жыл бұрын

    Gold Experience Requiem I care more about video games

  • @Rsonny

    @Rsonny

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@nergigante. no wonder I suck at videogames

  • @yurine477

    @yurine477

    3 жыл бұрын

    I wish 🤣

  • @YoYo-nt7yf

    @YoYo-nt7yf

    3 жыл бұрын

    Ya shouda get more like Lol

  • @user-iq1wj3ns7s

    @user-iq1wj3ns7s

    3 жыл бұрын

    👁👄👁

  • @jhonwayne1003
    @jhonwayne10034 жыл бұрын

    Pay them just enough attention to keep them interested. Though women in 2020 are ignorant anyways. Headaches. I just split with a girl after almost a year. Already in a relationship 3 weeks later. Was no talking, said I been done for awhile like WTF.

  • @nicekix3038

    @nicekix3038

    4 жыл бұрын

    Jhon Wayne Females leave the relationship mentally and emotionally way before they leave physically. That’s why knowing how to read body language is important when dealing with women. If you get a feeling that your girl is cheating, more than likely she is, or getting ready to. Always go with your gut feeling

  • @jtrv2811

    @jtrv2811

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@nicekix3038 so true

  • @emre1737
    @emre17373 жыл бұрын

    How about Realtionship? How can i care less

  • @repswithroscoe
    @repswithroscoe4 жыл бұрын

    Make a MasterClass Lloyd

  • @tiffany7658
    @tiffany76583 жыл бұрын

    He’s right women freak out if a man is focusing his attention on something else 😆

  • @chillmarino
    @chillmarino4 жыл бұрын

    What is that song at the end ??

  • @lieutenantdrone6059
    @lieutenantdrone60594 жыл бұрын

    Is it working even when you are dating with the girl?

  • @Agnet_Faze
    @Agnet_Faze2 жыл бұрын

    I care about my career more 😏😏😏

  • @oscarroe2965
    @oscarroe29654 жыл бұрын

    I don’t want to pester or chase her but I don’t want to not put in any effort what shall I do?

  • @sailing7777
    @sailing77772 жыл бұрын

    I find it hard to 'chase' whilst still playing it 'cool' ?

  • @fuzzypanda1684
    @fuzzypanda1684 Жыл бұрын

    When I care: She's completely disinterested, annoyed and doesn't reply. When I don't care: She seems relieved that I'm not talking to her and is hoping I gave up. When I don't care that she doesn't care: I don't meet anyone because unless I'm doing the approaching, nothing is gonna happen and I'm not going to meet anyone. Honestly, the whole "attract her by not caring" thing might as well be "arrive at your destination by not moving". It makes no sense. I've never had a girl approach me or show interest in me unless I approach her. But just by approaching, you're showing interest, and when you approach and show interest, she's turned off and not interested. So the action that gets you two talking by definition makes her not interested. I think there's some kind of glitch in the code that governs my life, can I get the code that all these other guys have, where girls approach them and show interest in them? Thanks.

  • @rogerer6748
    @rogerer67484 жыл бұрын

    Hey lloyd love the advices you give . I knew a girl she was very interested and i was also but whenever i call her on her phone i find her occupied i said that i didnt like it and i repeated that to her nearly 3 times the last time i said to her that i wont call you again . And i didnt contact her and start talking to other persons on the phone and she starts calling and she finds me occupied She said she is ready to make everything right this time . Should i continue talking to others or should i give her a chance

  • @xdxxx4437

    @xdxxx4437

    2 жыл бұрын

    Update?

  • @luisperez4297
    @luisperez42974 жыл бұрын

    Simple her first option flaked

  • @anishthakur4481
    @anishthakur44813 жыл бұрын

    Bro I'm also starting no contact rule and not caring does it work??

  • @playstationnintendowin489
    @playstationnintendowin4893 жыл бұрын

    It makes zero sense it really does. If someone seems to not care with me I am going to truly think they are just not into me at all. If I like someone I care and I suck at hiding it. The only thing that will make me not care is if I meet someone else or if I am not around the current person. If I meet someone else so I am then not caring then well I am with someone else so its to late. I hate these stupid mind games.

  • @bennyblanco6704
    @bennyblanco6704 Жыл бұрын

    So accurate I put in more attention towards her and was treated like I wasn't important.. as soon as I stopped all communication then she started showing me more interest so I agree . If u show her too much or act needy you will ruin all the sex and all the intimacy between each other this was my issue with my ex. We would have sex on a regular as soon I started acting somewhat needy all the things started to disappear 🤷

  • @justme-so2en
    @justme-so2en3 жыл бұрын

    Loyd help me please ... my ex gf of 3 years just went to the dumps she said she loves two men me and her baby daddy who’s a ex con and just got out ... she’s been talking to him more and more I did no contact for a week and she broke it and said she wants to be friends and see where it goes but she does bring up the fact that she’s trying to work on herself but she’s still thinking of him we have always been open with each other and been honest .. we also had plans of getting a marriage and a house I don’t want to walk away I have to much into this relationship how do I handle this.

  • @GabrielSilva-nb2df
    @GabrielSilva-nb2df4 жыл бұрын

    Im so tired

  • @joaostvn
    @joaostvn4 жыл бұрын

    Is it possible to regain attraction after investment? I was having some amazing dates with this woman including sex, etc, but you know, I already had interested in her before and then I started to invest a bit more then her and she said that didn't wanted that "now", unfortunately I touch this subject but with zero exigencies. Yes she started to get distance and we are not talking since the day she was talking short. I just wanted that we have fun again.

  • @UNCNCAAChamps
    @UNCNCAAChamps Жыл бұрын

    So I've dated this girl for a year and we have hit a huge dip in the road so to speak. We have both expressed we have no desire to remarry. We are trying to get a home together and unfortunately that might fall through the cracks which I'm thinking is causing stress on our relationship. Should I stop caring so much and walk away?

  • @Modifiedparts31
    @Modifiedparts319 ай бұрын

    At what point is flip flop really a problem. In the first few dates, before investment starts up I could see some flip flop just as they aren’t fully bought in…?

  • @gvbitz
    @gvbitz4 жыл бұрын

    your ig page unavailable

  • @ChronLogic
    @ChronLogic3 жыл бұрын

    Well the elephant in the room to me is how do you let a girl know you are interested and show that you don't care at the same time? If you just pass her by like she's nobody, unless your a total golden boy, she's not going to run up and be amazed with you. So do you actually mean stop caring once they lose interest? Also, how do you stop caring when you actually do care allot? Just fake like you don't care?

  • @richardlopez6226
    @richardlopez62264 жыл бұрын

    I got a girlfriend by not caring.

  • @richardlopez6226

    @richardlopez6226

    4 жыл бұрын

    Robert Carswell that’s a wrong way to look at it.

  • @dallasmed65

    @dallasmed65

    4 жыл бұрын

    Rich Sun it’s really not. They desire a busy man.

  • @richardlopez6226

    @richardlopez6226

    4 жыл бұрын

    Robert Carswell no

  • @richardlopez6226

    @richardlopez6226

    4 жыл бұрын

    Dallasmed65 that’s what my original point is.

  • @acelcesgaming7272
    @acelcesgaming72724 жыл бұрын

    The girl I was seeing moved back home a over a month ago. She told a friend she doesn’t see us working out bc we can’t see each other for months. So when I heard that I started focusing on my self & haven’t heard from her in 2 weeks. Really been working on my self & got a job, etc. She said she wanted to continue things when she comes back (to a friend) but should I keep my hopes up ?

  • @pianistNorganist

    @pianistNorganist

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bro she said all that to a friend and not to you.. You're better than that. Keep on working on yourself

  • @Jambuc829

    @Jambuc829

    4 жыл бұрын

    Robert Carswell I wish that were true for me. I invested in myself and haven been with a girl in any way in over a year.

  • @OffGridInvestor

    @OffGridInvestor

    2 жыл бұрын

    NEVER waste time living in hope (coz I have). Do your own thing, get on with stuff that helps YOU, start finding other nice girls. If she comes back and it works out, good. Otherwise you haven't lost any time. Ultimately if she starts seeing social media posts of you with other girls, even just a group of them, if there WAS ANY underlying attraction in her that hadn't risen to the surface, it now will. They get attracted to a guy doing their own thing, not some guy hoping and begging and hanging on for her. If you have your OWN path, that's what is attractive. Of course don't actively push her away but be chill.

  • @SurajSharma-xe2vx
    @SurajSharma-xe2vx4 жыл бұрын

    Very less subscriber i thought the channel hve more than 2 3 million

  • @Coolieshaunny886
    @Coolieshaunny8864 жыл бұрын

    Im the first like

  • @morganalexis6147
    @morganalexis61472 жыл бұрын

    Also gentlemen, lovingly I say this. Learn how to create quality emotional connection with feminity. If you even imagine having a marriage or even family texting is such a small scale matter in the relationship. Texting truly should be reserved for making plans and short thoughts here and there. You are not committed or invested in someone from a text relationship. It's not sustainable

  • @pillnyethizzleguy
    @pillnyethizzleguy2 жыл бұрын

    I met a girl from tinder like that she did it twice and I blocked her and switched my number

  • @morganalexis6147
    @morganalexis61472 жыл бұрын

    A man who has built his life is very attractive. It shows a lot about a man's character along with other things as well. Women are always looking for stability. And if you're not in a steady and stable place as a man a woman that is wife material will not usually go for a man that is still building and not in a secure place in life. A mature feminine woman seeking a husband wouldn't do this. She'd be open to man that is more established. A women would seek out a man that is everything she wanted right now. Not a man that she might be tempted to fix or change later on.

  • @Sexytaco71
    @Sexytaco712 жыл бұрын

    There's nothing wrong with desiring women and wanting to be with someone, it's human nature. You don't have to be on some grand purpose. There are tons of average looking dudes with regular ass jobs with beautiful women. Value is conveyed by your inner game. Boundaries. Set boundaries and act on them and be willing to walk away from someone that has any negative behavior. The key to being in a healthy relationship is FIRST be completely happy and content being alone. That feeling will make the other person feel desired and happy. But someone can feel when you need them. It's alot of unwanted pressure. Put yourself in their shoes. Do you want someone that constantly needs your attention? Of course not. Being high value is not about money, status or looks. Its just the opposite. It's about your secure mindset. The unwavering believe you're the prize. Confidence in yourself and your decisions. When you truly stop caring about what the girl you like thinks about you, it's like a super power. You don't need her or anyone's approval. This allows you to demonstrate how much you like yourself. This allows your to be your most attractive self. Emotional connection and most importantly, vulnerability. Women are addicted to a strong but vulnerable man. It makes her realize you're human, make mistakes, and your own your own journey in life. You really don't care what others think. When you truly demonstrate emotional vulnerability (in a positive and humorous way) oh man they fall for that. You have to know women function off of feelings and emotions, and only care about the way you make her feel. I'm not talking about doing favors, flattery, or all these main stream nonsense. She needs to feel a connection to you. You can do this by telling small emotional anecdotes, being vulnerable, etc. Anything you do that conveys you're a playful guy, can't be tamed, and don't brag will work.

  • @santiagoarena1605
    @santiagoarena16054 жыл бұрын

    4:45 absolute fire. Woman can be really selfish, they would cry for your attention when you become more attractive, and some times be angry towards you, that when you were with them you were "not this cool". Here is a question Loyd!: how can I be in an abundance mindset, while being in a relationship or a non-oficial monogamist relationship? i was thinking of about, showing interest towards the girl you like but not losing this attractive thing going on of not being too available

  • @fxxk5470
    @fxxk54704 жыл бұрын

    u are the best but i fucked up again

  • @yungchildsupport9372
    @yungchildsupport93722 жыл бұрын

    Never put a female before yourself, she only a queen if chosen by a king. Remember that kings

  • @anladd245
    @anladd2452 жыл бұрын

    I will text once or twice to a woman and then ignore her texts for a few hours. I find that if you instantly text back they get demanding and think they own you. But if you hold off they get are happy to hear from you.

  • @bassvasic5472
    @bassvasic54724 жыл бұрын

    Im in situation right now, where i texted with this girl almost a month and half, asked her out she said she is busy, maybe other time, so i stopped texting her, she texted me last night, asked how am i, i answered and asked same qs, she said she is really good and i replied with, super with smiley face, she just left me od read. Any advice? Should i text her?

  • @HassanPoyo

    @HassanPoyo

    4 жыл бұрын

    move on and have respect for yourself, shes wasting your time

  • @Racso88e

    @Racso88e

    4 жыл бұрын

    Stringing you on my friend. Just checking to see if she still go you on the hook. It will be time wasted perusing anything. On to the next delete her number.

  • @tvhubsb4024

    @tvhubsb4024

    4 жыл бұрын

    Go build your rotation g

  • @RubiixCat

    @RubiixCat

    4 жыл бұрын

    From the sounds of things, she was probably just bored. I've known girls like this who will start conversations with the assumption that they don't have to put any effort in because they expect YOU to carry the conversation, and if you don't you're the boring one.

  • @morganalexis6147
    @morganalexis61472 жыл бұрын

    A man building his life is very attractive. It shows a lot about a man's character along with other things as well. Women are always looking for stability. And if you're not in a steady and stable place as a man a woman that is wife material will not usually go for a man that is still building and not in a secure place in life. A mature feminine woman seeking a husband wouldn't do this. She'd be open to man that is more established. A women would seek out a man that is everything she wanted right now. Not a man that she might be tempted to fix or change later on.

  • @unipanini909
    @unipanini9094 жыл бұрын

    I hope 'caring less' doesn't come out as breadcrumbing. Cuz only unhealthy girls would be attracted and stick around a guy who breadcrumbs.

  • @CHOCOLATESAUCE10

    @CHOCOLATESAUCE10

    4 жыл бұрын

    You have to breadcrumb with everyone to a certain degree to make your personal moments more meaningful

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