these videos are so good keep it up

Love this video! Your self-reflection, honesty and use of research was great and something I wish more people would do. I was wondering if you could share how you found some of your sources? I'm wanting to do a paper on a similar topic and I am having trouble finding what key words to use to find the information I need. Love the content, keep it going :)

@amarugulloa9485

3 ай бұрын

@user-qb6ze6di8k exactly, and people will take that as the go ahead to let their guard down. Sadly as a femme person I’ve had to learn to be very selective with my trust

I am 33. I have no economic power or social power.

@edp3202

4 ай бұрын

💯

@StuJones-gn7te

Ай бұрын

I'm 62. Same here.

@chrisharris6462

17 күн бұрын

Let's hear it for the average man!! Woot! Women don't deal with us because of it!

@JosephSaad13

11 күн бұрын

that situation. it diffucult to date women ur age, maybe 10+ older is a good group

This was a good video. Thanks for this.

@tedmccarron

3 жыл бұрын

@SomeWin SumWon good point!

Excellent & well done video/talk. I am 20 years elder to my 40 yr girlfriend. Its a beautiful relationship. But theres so much more to such relationships. Theres an emotional evolvement happening at the younger age of say 18 to 25. And its important for a man to understand this well. Quite often this doesn't happen & thats probably very detrimental to the younger partner.

You've got some good takes in there and the conclusions are spot on. My partner is 25y younger and we've established a healthy loving relationship considering the points you've left at the end.

this video is so good!

I hope the algorithm picks your vids up, they are super well scripted and produced.

I am 24, I am using dating sites where I get request from older men 40+ , they don't want children but in their profile it's mentioned, prefer partner age 18-27. This age 18-27 is an age where female in their prime fertility. If these men aren't looking for children, why do they want women in that age group? They can search 35+ . Are those men toxic and time waster? Or is it any Red pill theory ?

@snorrevonflake

2 жыл бұрын

try searching 35+ its been a desaster in my experience, and not everybody wants children

@BitterPeachh

2 жыл бұрын

@@snorrevonflake Nobody wants children are you serious. It's been a disaster for me even under 35. Nobody I met wants marriage and to buy a house.

@BitterPeachh

2 жыл бұрын

You are correct. I went through the same thing. Every guy I met that were in their 30s and early 40s did not want children or marriage. Alot of them already had kids and didn't want more, or, marriage, because they already did that in their 20s. Women in their 20s are trying to get started. They are time waisted.

@kimerietate8372

2 жыл бұрын

I'm a 51 year-old woman, and what they want is a "hot girl".They are thinking about SUPERFICIALITIES, but they also want the EGO BOOST of thinking they're special enough to get a younger women.They also want someone who's naive, more easily impressed, and they want feel like they're in charge.An ex-boyfriend of mine admitted to me that he wanted a young girl who would WORSHIP HIM, because he knows a woman his age is not going to do that.

@kajekage9410

2 жыл бұрын

@@kimerietate8372 you sound bitter as hell lol.

Funny thing is he says it's gross....the truth is I bet his porn history has no female over the age of 30 years old.

@RealFeelsProject

3 жыл бұрын

That's actually a topic for an upcoming video - how porn is harmful to: 1. many performers and 2. the sexual expectations of men Thanks for bringing it up!

@visicircle

3 жыл бұрын

Before Google and Yahoo started censoring such things, terms like lol*ta and "year old" were among the most frequently used in porn searches.

@jefferylimestone6920

3 жыл бұрын

probably since all of the users are people in school

@juliafraa6419

2 жыл бұрын

Having a relationship is not the same. No one can use their age to control you if they are just watching porn.

@tedmccarron

2 жыл бұрын

@FIGHTFANNERD9 yep!

It feels good to hear a man speak on this topic and voice these concerns. I’m not against age gap relationships (7-10 years seems to about even some evolutionary things out) but the wider gaps have always made me uncomfortable, you’ve explained why perfectly.

@atlantsi42

2 жыл бұрын

Why not mind your own business?

@adamgraydon3255

Жыл бұрын

Isn't this discrimination? What if some guy wouldn't date you just because you are black?

@mts7274

Жыл бұрын

Does it feel good enough to... touch yourself? 😏💦

@lilydiallo594

9 ай бұрын

What matters is the heart, not age.

@PeevyMctweevy

7 ай бұрын

Why would big age gaps make you feel uncomfortable, it doesn't affect you personally, maybe you need some sort of therapy..

I’m a 55 y/o man and she’s 40. She made it very apparent she was interested so I made a move. Now we are a couple. It’s mutual and we are both consenting adults.

@BWater-yq3jx

3 ай бұрын

That's like a perfect gap at that age.

@GUITARTIME2024

2 ай бұрын

She's 40.

@Veruska75

Ай бұрын

@@GUITARTIME2024What’s your point?

@StuJones-gn7te

Ай бұрын

A 40 year old woman is lucky to get any man.

@orangeradishneo

Ай бұрын

55 and 40 is totally different than 20 and 35. Age gaps are more appropriate as you age.

You need more viewers. Thank you for this content!

I agree with the psychological aspects of an age gap. As a sociologist, I believe this moderne times with our vast bombardment from social media, turns people (young men) goals and desires outwards than inward. People know more about who the Kardashians are than the basic knowledge of the dynamics in their own psyche. The presentation and illusion of the sexy and wealthy from social media, has not just alienated people from each other but also from themselves. More to say... maybe later. I hope more people will make honest and critical videos as yours. Good job 👍

@RealFeelsProject

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely agree and I await more thoughts from you. Thanks so much for checking it out

Only in the last minute and a half, he does mention the question "How it may be made to work".

How has this guy’s channel not blown up yet???? It’s great!

@shauryasshorts7116

3 жыл бұрын

Yea man sed...

@sloebone7399

2 жыл бұрын

Because feminist ideas coming out of a man isn’t exactly click worthy.

@StuJones-gn7te

Ай бұрын

Maybe because he's buying the feminist talking points completely.

And most women when they choose a much older man in their early years regret it later

Well I came into wealth 18 so I should date people twice my age cause I’m wealthier than people my age? Most of the things seem stereotypical lol.

Thank you for this content. Really interesting to think about.

I understood a bit but this was way more complicated than I expected.

To answer the question: Because it comes off as predatory. It's assumed the older man is chasing the younger girl because she's supposedly less experienced, more naive, and thus easier to assert dominance over and manipulate. Now, there are guys who ate with someone younger for more wholesome reasons. But, I think more often than not; it's the former. If you think it's creepy here. You should see Japan.

@RealFeelsProject

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, covering these topics in non-US countries is definitely something I may eventually cover. For now, I'm focusing on experiences I've seen or experienced and can speak to a little more directly.

@Melly16yr10

3 жыл бұрын

What’s going on in Japan？

@langying

3 жыл бұрын

@@Melly16yr10 weird shit

@kamilareeder1493

3 жыл бұрын

Often times it is predatory. I fell into this trap as a freshman in college and he stalked me for a year after the abusive relationship. He was crusty and too old, I stayed with him because I had no other people there and sometimes even needed food and clothes. He would make me cancel college events to hang out with him, I'd get there, and then he'd ignore me the whole time. 😠😠 Thats not even close to worse thing that happened that year. So many people have made fun of me 👎👎But I definately blame him. Im glad that im now much more confident and strong, but im sad that someone had to scar me for life to make me a stronger person 👎👎 It makes you unable to see your worth in future relationships because if they're better than that abusive guy, you'll settle even if the new guy is still a turd. I still fall into that trap sometimes lol. Thankfully I've raised my standards, but again I'm sad that I had to deal with all of that stuff 😕 surely there's easier ways to know your value and gain confidence lol Sorry to dump this under your comment 😂😂

@addajjalsonofallah6217

3 жыл бұрын

Evidence?

When I found myself unexpectedly single again at age 42, I dated 3 different women who were 28. None went beyond a couple dates because we weren’t able to connect on a personal level although we remained friends. I wound up marrying a smart and beautiful woman 9 years younger than me and we’ve been together and happy for 14 years. She is truly my soulmate and one true love. We both have advanced degrees (me MD her 2 Masters and a PhD) so that was helpful.

@tugger

4 ай бұрын

at least their brains were fully developed I think age gap relationships are problematic whenenver the younger person is 25 or younger and the gap is substantial (more than a handful). everything above 30 is "fair game"

@2namesmusic

4 ай бұрын

@@tuggerthat's debunked psuedo-science that blew up from "Leo" hate fyi. Brains are constantly developing. Grad students under 25 aren't feeble minded "children"

@gourabmukhopadhyay7211

11 күн бұрын

@@tugger Do not you think 12-13 years gap is fine even though the girl is around 22-23 and the guy is 34-35?

I'm 41 and my partner is 20 years older and people still think it's weird. The worst flack I get is some, not all, but some random women his age will be absolutely horrible towards me. It's the only thing that bothers me because who wants to feel like they are living in a Mean Girls movie in their 40s.

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

Let's face it, you're gross. I'm 21.

@ItsMaceo

Жыл бұрын

@@sarahrobertson634 can you read? She’s 41 and he’s 61…

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

@@ItsMaceo Can you infer? She said she gets the most hate from women who are her old ass husband's age. I'm here to offer some hate as a 21 year old. Try to keep up, man.

@ItsMaceo

Жыл бұрын

@@sarahrobertson634 I’m 30 I’m old 🥴😂😂. You’re too young to be so negative.

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

@@ItsMaceo You started it, grandpa.

This channel just feels disastrously underrated. Omg. Omg. More people need to see this.

This was so good, Brad.

@RealFeelsProject

3 жыл бұрын

Taylor! First off - I fucking miss you, dude. And second - thanks for checking it out. I'm trying to be as fair-minded and non-judgmental about this as I can while also bringing up systems that manipulate women. Hope you're doing well. Loved seeing your singing chops in the last WF vid

It's not anyone else's business who other people date.

@Lost1nTranslation

3 ай бұрын

​​​@joanarc7963I wouldn't be here had my parents not had an age gap in their marriage. So naturally, by the nature of my existence, I have very little I can say against it. I think there's a right way to do things and the wrong way. Are you saying that if a 34 year old man consensually and healthily fell in love with your niece and they both were happy, you would still have a problem with it? What if the genders were reversed?

@ham5483

3 ай бұрын

​@joanarc7963 24? Thats a grown woman you have 0 say, control freak.

@ham5483

3 ай бұрын

​@joanarc796324 is a grown woman, she can do as she pleases and you have no say in the matter.

@Tfnafplayer2

Ай бұрын

If a adult is dating a minor yes yes it is

@Lost1nTranslation

Ай бұрын

@@Tfnafplayer2 I think that's assumed here? No? (as in, assuming the relationship is legal)

When I was 17 nearly 18, I was briefly involved with a significantly older man. As I got older, I realise more and more just how predatory it was. And how disempowering. It did considerable damage to my sexual and emotional development, especially as that was my first sexual experience. I wasn't particularly attracted to him but he manipulated me into it by playing on my vulnerabilities and desires, including bs about how he could see how wonderful I was unlike boys my own age who couldn't appreciate me blah blah blah. He knew - as I know now - how easily you can manipulate a naive, inexperienced, insecure teenager with that sort of stuff. Most women I've talked with or heard/read stories from who've had similar age gap experiences report similar. There are attractive male teenagers. There are even teenagers who have/have had crushes on me. I'm sure I could get one or more of them into a relationship with me. But I don't because I'm aware that there's a power imbalance even without the gender issues and I care about their wellbeing. I don't want to harm someone just so I can get off and feed my ego, which, frankly, is what I think most older men who go after teenagers are doing. It comes from self-focus and entitlement and not considering the wellbeing and needs of the younger person. Just because you find someone attractive and pleasant company, that doesn't mean that you should be in a relationship with them. I never want to do to anyone else what was done to me.

@AD-ry7br

3 жыл бұрын

@Harvey Smith I completely agree. I see too many women describing as "manipulation" (when they were 16-23ish) the kind of nonsense that even a level headed middle schooler shouldn't have fallen for. It is too easy of a cop out instead of accepting the ego blow that they were probably not an overall desirable/sought after person and got the relationship they deserved. Also, finding someone attractive and pleasant company absolutely is a good enough reason to be in a relationship with them, contrary to what she claims.

@jefferylimestone6920

3 жыл бұрын

@Harvey Smith i-

@jefferylimestone6920

3 жыл бұрын

@@AD-ry7br 16 is a kid-

@personnerson7611

3 жыл бұрын

@@AD-ry7br believe me there are women out there that get manipulated easily until the age of 25 when the brain stops developing

@juliafraa6419

2 жыл бұрын

@UCdBVleydlqQl0N8Jr5QWK2Q that's how abuse works please do some research before opening your mouth and victim blaming

I never deeply thought about the power dynamic angle until I heard him say, the older person may influence the younger person's personality instead them finding their personality on their own. I think there are pros and cons there.

When are you gonaa interview people in your studio again

@RealFeelsProject

3 жыл бұрын

Might be a while until that can safely happen again, but I'm doing my best with zoom for now

I like this channel.

If you haven't already, can you please make a video about the flip side? Why relationships with older women and younger men make us uncomfortable

I also find it important to point out the societal pressure and ingrained habit of people pleasing in women. I have been 22 with a man who was 44. People pleasing, wanting to make others happy, the school system suppresses our healthy questioning of authority and when older men have seemingly more resources and power, they can come across as authority figure. We are not taught to have a healthy relationship with authority. We are taught to bow down and give up our needs as women to put others before our own. Take this into consideration too great video

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

Women, resist at all costs.

@sdjslkdjlsskldjslkdjsl8262

11 ай бұрын

"authority should be questioned" Meanwhile there's like a 99% chance you wore a useless mask during covid because the authorities said you should, you got the rushed vaccine because the FDA (an authority) said you should. lol.

My husband doesn’t have a problem with our age gap but visibly & sometimes vocally gets uncomfortable when it’s acknowledged that his Bar Mitzvah was before my birth 😂

subbed - you are going to be huge on youtube

There's the age gap and then there's an age gap Id say the icky factor doesn't kick in till around 20 years IF the women is under like 25 So a 40 year old dating a 20 year old is NOT equal to a 50 year old dating a 30 year old Id say if the woman is over 30, 15 years is pushing the limit 8 years is the sweet spot. Just my opinion

@RealFeelsProject

7 ай бұрын

Agreed. That's basically my stance in the video as well.

@gourabmukhopadhyay7211

11 күн бұрын

8 years sweet spot mean when do u think that difference is ideal?

An age gap of 10 years or so is fine if the younger partner is older than 25

@Cousinbiddy1

Жыл бұрын

U mean 18+ and above , screw 25 that’s too old

@italkgory99

11 ай бұрын

@@Cousinbiddy125 is too old? 😂

@Cousinbiddy1

11 ай бұрын

@@italkgory99 yesssss , 25 is when a women’s beauty starts to decline

@JediTiga

Ай бұрын

Okay keep those rules to yourself... I'll continue dating 18 year old women

@darncash2056

4 күн бұрын

Leo? Is that you?

Good video

I have younger men after me. The responsibilities of considering it, I find my maturity blocks it. Whether doubt, or indecision, I just feel instinctually that it is inappropriate.

@MSBOYARDEE

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. I'm pushing middle age but much much younger than my years and get attention from guys way younger than me and I feel flattered but I feel like I'm robbing the cradle so I don't entertain them because it feels very wrong

I don't like it from a practical sense. She is a 20 year old mail order bride and doesn't speak English. He is 50, he's not a millionaire, heart attacks happen. Who will look after her and the kids in later years?

What's more "gross" a man dating a much younger woman or a woman who won't date a man her own age because he's not good looking enough or he doesn't make enough money or because he doesn't provide enough excitement to keep her engaged in the relationship?

@Very_Silly_Individual

6 ай бұрын

Well, the first one is gross physically. The second is gross because of how immature she is acting. All the more evidence that she probably should stick to her age bracket.

@baskey3723

Ай бұрын

you dont HAVE to date anyone.

Large economic disparities are icky too. You just know shes a gold digger. If their not on the exact same economic level then shes probably with him for the money. She doesn't love him ....she loves what he can do for her.

I know so so many women this has happened to. So, no, it's not a few bad apples.

Mostly just feels gross to old women, doesn't require any rocket science to figure out why. Also as you pointed out it doesn't feel near as gross when he is rich and powerful.

"weemohn" 🤣🤣🤣

4:24 that is some zingy comedy

Isn’t there term for dating a younger person forget what was is it called

@edp3202

4 ай бұрын

Oedipal?

I love how people act like the power dynamic doesn’t exist in relationships with closer age gaps. They certainly can. Bottom line is, it’s not really anyone’s business about whether two consenting adults are in a relationship have a large age gap or not. You can have your opinions on it but you can’t tell them not to date just because it doesn’t fit your ideals on relationships. Just as long as they’re legally adults and they’re compatible with each other, it shouldn’t be your concern especially if you don’t know them personally.

@k.d3983

2 жыл бұрын

People don’t act like they don’t exist-people are addressing a *certain* power dynamic that tends to happen with couples who have a large age gap relationship, especially when the person is a younger female.

@buttercups616d

2 жыл бұрын

How about incest?

@giuliapiperea

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry but the all relationship i saw with big age app , is formed for a narcissistic husband a very smart sociopath women who control them but make it seems like the men is the boss because they take care of they ego maniac state 😂

@hananokuni2580

8 ай бұрын

I think so. Though, the power imbalance can exist between people with narrow age gap, but big socioeconomic gap. As well, just because the man is 15-20 years older than his woman does not mean that there will be big power imbalance, especially if both partners are serious about listening to each other. Namely, the man avoids being paternalistic and treats the woman as an equal, while the woman listens to her man (instead of dismissing him as an old fogey) and learns from his experience for her own benefit.

@Dennis-nc3vw

8 ай бұрын

@@k.d3983 People don't really give a sh*t about power dynamics. It's just an excuse to vilify people for being gross and creepy. If your daughter was an airhead and brought home the class valedictorian you wouldn't say "Oh noes, power dynamics! He's going to manipulate her!" You'd say "Phew, I'm glad she found a smart boyfriend to keep her out of trouble."

I am a woman, and when I was 34, I dated a younger guy for a month or so.I never once found it "exciting"to be spending time with someone younger.Men like younger women for superficial reasons, and to to feed their egos.They want to feel like they are in control, and they want to feel that they must be special if they're able to pull a younger woman.They are being self-serving, and not thinking about the women/girls at all.

@bankrolldame

2 жыл бұрын

this.

@kajekage9410

2 жыл бұрын

My younger wife and I laugh at this degree of cynicism.

@searchrankoptimize

2 жыл бұрын

@@kajekage9410 how much younger is she? The gap?

@atlantsi42

2 жыл бұрын

You sound like a real catch

@gamma21285

Жыл бұрын

@@bankrolldame nope

I’ve not had any experience with age gap relationships and don’t intend to, but I 100% agree that guys doing traditionally homemaking things is very much a turn on and absolutely cannot be undervalued. Edit: actually I do notice the affect of age gap relationships in my parents. They’re 12 years apart and for the most part their relationship is good, but you can definitely feel the strong power dynamic inequality that occasionally feels uncomfortable

I don't know I feel like a ten year age Gap can be normal ish, I think it's much weirder if there is an age Gap where one person is old enough to be your parents. my rule of thumb is if they were in a completely different stage of school when you were growing up, then it can set up a lot of differences like if there were high school when you were in elementary school growing up, that might be kind of weird because they were already dating and most likely sexually active

@RodrigoOswego

Жыл бұрын

People from completely different ethnic and cultural backgrounds get together and form healthy and loving relationships. The idea that you need to be the same as one another to be compatible is a complete logical fallacy.

when my gf is less than half my age there's nothing "gross" about it. we're having love and fun as consenting adults. what's gross is **you** thinking you have some kind of influence where you don't belong. in the place you wish you were, we revel in your disapproval 🏝😎💃🍸

I remember him from when he dated Anna Akana.

I think we're in a transition phase in society and it's leading to a lot of confusion. And in some cases, anxiety and fear, because people don't like uncertainty. I think this is also causing some people to double down on outdated norms. They are outdated because they no longer serve the purpose they served and they conflict with new norms. As for me, I'm hopeful for the future. Traditional gender roles can be fine, for some people. They do work for some people. The problem is forcing them onto everybody. The problem is being assigned a role based on what sex/gender you are, rather than who you are as a person, your context, and what works for you and your partner (or partners). In one period of my life (several years) I did try to fit into a more traditional role and to have relationships with those more traditional gender dynamics. It made me miserable. I felt incredibly confined and like I had to put on a performance and couldn't be myself. Additionally, I quickly lost all sexual interest in my partners. Each time, I ended the relationship or didn't let it even really begin, because I knew that it wouldn't work. I have male friends who've reported a similar experience when they've tried to take on a dominant male role. It just doesn't work for a lot of people, at least not beyond a surface level. It didn't in the 50s or 1900s or 1850s either. Some people look at the past through rose-coloured glasses but the reality is that a lot of marriages back then weren't happy or fulfilling. Slotting people into narrowly defined roles and supposed needs and desires based on sex/gender is foolishness, in my opinion. Trying to follow roles and relationship/sex scripts that don't fit who you are as a person or your relationships is also foolishness and an effective way to make yourself and others unhappy and frustrated.

@said24rabbani

2 жыл бұрын

there is difference in norms and nature remember that

@evaphillips2102

2 жыл бұрын

Ma’am you NEED a podcast

@jclyntoledo

Жыл бұрын

I see what you mean and I agree that not everything is as black and white as ppl make it out to be.

@hananokuni2580

8 ай бұрын

@@said24rabbani 100% true. Norms can be changed. Nature cannot.

18 to 19 is too much of a child.That's a senior high school student.I want a girlfriend or wife not to raise a daughter which for me would end up being a part of the relationship. Of course it's the individuals that are the biggest factor.

Brad Gage is great

@RealFeelsProject

3 жыл бұрын

SO IS DAVE SEGER!

Logistically a gap of 20 years or more would make the younger partner young enough to have a father daughter bond with and by the time they're 40 they would be your caretaker, I think the cut off point for a healthy age gap (between adults) is around 15 years anything more than that things get logistically uncomfortable, I also think teenagers should be off limits when you reach a certain age, my cousin who just turned 20 is married to a man in his late thirties that started dating her when she was 17 and they have a very strange groomerish relationship

@ModelJames13

3 ай бұрын

Dogs get groomed, people don't. Take your age prejudiced butt outta here. 👉

The reason why large age gap can feel gross is that moral disgust is a thing, and you subscribe to a moral system that sees power imbalances as exploitative, oppressive and wrong. Since relationships with a large age gap inherently involve a power imbalance, you see them as wrong hence gross. But that's just you. To the vast majority of humanity, who doesn't see power imbalance as wrong, relationship with a large age gap appear as perfectly normal and acceptable. Hence why this kind of relationship has been, and still is, the norm worldwide. Bottom line is, you shouldn't overgeneralize your feelings to the rest of humanity, because you're not representative of the average human. You're weird (western, educated, industrialized, rich, democratic), which puts you at the extreme end of the distribution for many psychological traits, including morality.

@Fakeslimshady

2 жыл бұрын

You know what has power? Money

@jclyntoledo

Жыл бұрын

I agree except the last line 😂😂. I think anyone in the western world would most likely agree with him. Not all though bc I think this video is overly simplified and a lot of past generations were full of age gaps.

@leobat7007

Жыл бұрын

@@jclyntoledo The US is not the western world. I'm Italian, and age gaps here still don't raise much of an eyebrow.

But you can get abusive relationships like that between two people of the same age, as I grew up in a loving household between two parents with an age gap I find it incredibly offensive when somebody compares a coupling like that to abuse or worse pedophilia.

@Takiki

2 жыл бұрын

The power dynamic is absolutely not comparable to two people of the same age

@electricityisgreat2767

2 жыл бұрын

@@Takiki its way different two same age people abuse it was less worse and they both would understand what to do most likely

@jeromelancashire3278

2 жыл бұрын

@@electricityisgreat2767 Trust me it's not,

@jclyntoledo

Жыл бұрын

@@Angel-vv9xo Thank you! It happens in work and teacher student dynamics or other roles were someone has more power over you either by status/role or money. The age is not the sole deciding factor.

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

@@Angel-vv9xo Do you really want another power imbalance between the genders?

why dont you do a little more research. When older women mate with a younger man, they have a much better chance of having a sucessful pregancy. So it actually works both ways. Older women with power and wealth, will look for younger men. Thus, just as there are younger women who find older men attractive, not just for money, there are younger men who find older women attractive, and there is a biological reason for everything that can and has happened.

@harisfareed4599

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@edp3202

4 ай бұрын

Inequitable is the key word. The woman has NO power in the relationship when the man's much older and is more established. NONE.

So women can't have confirmation biases

was looking for something a bit more positive. All debbie downers here.

Well since my father was a great dad and a great man and was 14 years older than my mom i tend to only see the upsides.And my step dad who was the same age as my mom was a vicious psychopath .

@joshuascott3428

3 ай бұрын

@joanarc7963 are you saying both are exceptions then i agree

when u were 31? u look about 31 now lol.

@bebebebeebeb6094

3 жыл бұрын

Why did I think he was like 21😅

A few academics reject evolution theory due to the supposed confirmation bias of "white male" researchers, but the fact that by that same logic one might conclude that these mainly female academics might also be acting out of confirmation bias doesn't occur to you. In any case, the fact that some academics disagree with the evolutionary explanation leads you to summarily conclude that "evolution theory doesn't hold water." That's quite a leap. There is nothing wrong with dissenting views, of course. But to simply dismiss an idea because dissenting views exist is foolish. You may be harboring a bit of confirmation bias yourself, sir

@visicircle

3 жыл бұрын

Goodness, it's a rational human being! And here in the wilds of the internet where they are so rarely seen! Thank you for putting into words what I was feeling. Constructive criticism like yours is what makes this site so valuable.

Truth is, When in “love” …she Could be 80 and act like a teenager all over again…. That’s cute Gotta love women ❤ Ever heard of forever 21?

1:31 succinct

@leobat7007

2 жыл бұрын

Succinct, but clearly wrong.

37 years gap I think is wrong

So, does it get less weird as the woman in the relationship is older? Say a mid-thirties woman starts a relationship with a guy in his 50s?

“What does consent even mean”? Begging the question fallacy.

All these sentences here are opinions and peoples personal experiences. My assumption/ opinion is that its a control issue. Insecure individuals who want younger mates to control them and have them join them on their life path without any clashes and keeping them their possession thinking they know whats best. The younger, fresher more niave people are generally the targets who dont have strong opinions and dont know what to do in an increasingly confusing/ changing world. Is it nice to have a partner who is supportive and does not clash with your ideals? Yes . Is it good to manipulate these partners via indoctrination and showing how your ideals are the path to follow and join you on while not allowing them to find thier own likes /interests/ opinions and have experiences to figure it out themselves? No. There are only a very small number of people who genuinely dont want the responsibility of carving their own path and forming their decisions and prefer someone to do that finding it more work/ responsibility preferring to have someone reliable and skilled in that area take up that part of the work . If such individuals go for such people then i guess its alright. If you take that freedom away via manipulation when they prefer to do find their own way then its not correct. This is my opinion. And since everything here are opinions, im allowed mine.

Im unfortunately going to fall in this category. I totally agree with the power dynamics and coercion that might be a factor in large age gap relationships but if the mindsets and places one is in life are similar I don’t see why age should be a problemBut I think there is a lot of truth with the age of 25 being the age where our brains are fully developed because so many bad life choices are made below the age of 25 so I think as of the age of 25 there shouldn’t really be That much concern over coercion or power dynamics factoring into the age age relationships cause at 25 they are capable of understanding the situation fully or should be capable of understanding its implications and ramifications Which will be me I have taken a hard left in my life and which basically puts me back in the starting blocks situationally there is hardly anything different to my life and a fresh out of college. In my time I have gathered a little bit of wisdom and my party energy is somewhat damp and but if the person I find is just starting out in life and fairly wise to the ways of the world I really don’t see a compatibility problem what I doForesee being a problem is emotional baggage on my side or anyone that is older and carries many many negative interactions with them that is probably right for older single ladies too

@edp3202

4 ай бұрын

Much younger women than the man have no power because they haven't accomplished enough on their own to know they can do it. The man is established and has more property so she is always under his thumb.

I'm 38. My type is 16-20. Don't care what you think.

@asianstud7

23 күн бұрын

Damn. You couldn't at least narrow that down to 18-20? 😂😂😂

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Im 71, my new wife is 21. My last wife is 36. We were together for 7 years and I regret the last 4. you can get an ideal third world woman (for 4 years) and if you handle it properly, it will cost you NOTHING. Because of Pell grants, college loans, and part time work, she can and WILL pay her own way in the US AND re-imburse you for the 10-x20k it cost you to find her and get her here. Once she gets her US citizenship, she will soon become just another US beech, so divorce her and go get another one just like her. 2 years of college will make her an x ray or sonogram tech, able to clear 50k per year, so she'll have no problem giving you 20k that last year of your marriage. Of course, she wont KNOW that it's your last year together, but then again, she was probably figuring on dumping you as soon as you lost the. 'deportation-club that you were holding over her.

My parents have a 20 year age gap and their relationship is perfectly happy, much more happy than most relationships I've known. Also, I don't get the argument that age gaps necessarily have have a power dynamic. Yes, there is some power dynamic to it. However, finances have a much bigger influence over power dynamics than age gaps, and yet it's considered acceptable for someone who has a lot more money to date a poor person.

@StuJones-gn7te

Ай бұрын

The power thing is a feminist talking point. They seem to think guys actually decide who to date or marry based on how much power they can wield over them. LOL.

May December? I want a before Valentine's Day- December relationship. I don't particularly care if people think it's gross. I don't like a lot of things that people do and we all have the same right to interfere with each other. Don't like my girlfriend? I still might like your house.

Biologically men love 18 year old girls vs women like older men it’s nature

Did you really have to start this video by highlighting Aaliyah being raped by Robert Kelly. That wasn't a relationship that was a child being groomed and preyed on by a serial child predator. BTW That song was written by Robert Kelly, Aaliyah didn't write a single song on her debut album.

I'm late 20s and i would have to say i find early 20s the most attractive, sure older teens have fully developed curves, they tend to think and act like children.

I want to date an older woman who can introduce me to how to be a good lay.

It's not gross, it's normal and natural. People are freaking out over nothing.

I could not take a 20 year old girl serious in a relationship. Even though I look young for my age. I just wish more people would date closer to their age.

@Very_Silly_Individual

6 ай бұрын

Preaching to the choir 😂

@Joe-Przybranowski

4 ай бұрын

I just wish more people would mind their own business.

@ModelJames13

3 ай бұрын

YOU do it. Don't worry about what others do.

Is it wrong for a 35 year old man to help and encourage a 20 year old woman achieve her nursing career? If it becomes an intimate relationship along the way is that wrong? We go to college together.

@RealFeelsProject

10 ай бұрын

As I talk about at the end of the video, age gap relationships can be fruitful and successful for both parties through communication and awareness of possible harmful power dynamics.

@ModelJames13

3 ай бұрын

Try to marry her as soon as you can.

@gourabmukhopadhyay7211

11 күн бұрын

@@ModelJames13 Why as soon as?

@ModelJames13

11 күн бұрын

@@gourabmukhopadhyay7211 Because once a man gets to his age his chance to get married is very small. This could be his last chance so he should go for it. 😎

I'm sorry but if you think you're normal being your fifties dating 20 year olds that's just nasty

@Kenny-Ross

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t know if they’re still together but at the age of 56 Brad Pitt was dating a 27 year old German model. So he’s nasty? People and especially women can have a very myopic view on large age gap relationships.

@electricityisgreat2767

2 жыл бұрын

yeah the age is gross just because the looks of it it doesnt feel right and confortable 🤮

@DrSmooth2000

Жыл бұрын

@@electricityisgreat2767 don't do it, then

@Yoshsterpalooza

Жыл бұрын

@@electricityisgreat2767 nothing immoral about it though, it’s absolutely normal for a man to be attracted to a young woman, you sound like a woman, so I’m going to assume u don’t understand how the male brain works at all

@Yoshsterpalooza

Жыл бұрын

It’s normal, most men never will not find young women in their 20s attractive

This is what I try to tell creeps in the manosphere. Society has changed significantly and are open about choosing men they are sexually/emotionally attracted to, rather than the fact they can provide. These men absolutely are ignoring societal changes.

@Gnashercide

2 жыл бұрын

Hum society change but not biology. Stop trying to shame us for prefering young women. We're biologically driven for th .

@michellemichelle5202

2 жыл бұрын

@@Gnashercide women prefer young bucks too dummy

@michellemichelle5202

2 жыл бұрын

@@Gnashercide If it were every woman’s choice, all men would be rich young athletes, not old Hugh Hefner’s. My point about society changing was that people are becoming more open.

@Gnashercide

2 жыл бұрын

@@michellemichelle5202 but Hugh effner gt all women . If a man hve OPTIONS he would choose the younger ,childless, fit,feminine, and cooperative woman without promiscuous past. But their is a difference between what you want and what you can have , and successful men don't chase older women.

@michellemichelle5202

2 жыл бұрын

@@Gnashercide Women will always have more options than men. Period.

I am 24 and my man is 39

Yeah Seinfeld is full of shit He dates the hot young ones because he can. And just because you can doesn't mean you should There's no animosity here either. It's just wrong. He knows it and that's why he's making up stupid shit excuses like "Im not a racist"

In the Bible Boaz and Ruth are large age gap couple

15:30 really bro?

Maybe this is my autism, but I don’t get the “ick” factor. There is a study done of some autistics, don’t feel the creep factor.

not large gap till a girl is 20 its my point!

I'm 55 and my wife is 27. I have never loved anyone like this and we are over the moon.

@angelwolf5756

2 жыл бұрын

Good for you I’m glad you have a solid relationship

@stinameaner

2 жыл бұрын

Well said and happy for you both

@tjm9565

2 жыл бұрын

@@angelwolf5756 Lots of work, but so amazing! ty

@juggalogamer8541

2 жыл бұрын

And of course you're going to have that bunch of group of people they're going to say congratulations that's so awesome but honestly you're old enough to be her dad that's really nasty I'm sorry if people don't look at it as you know when you were like a teenager she wasn't even born or when you were in your twenties having fun with your friends your wife was in a baby crib

@juggalogamer8541

2 жыл бұрын

@official asiangirl exactly and whether they think they have a lot in common they really don't

I have autism. Will I ever get a girlfriend? 60% of us don’t.

So many people in this comment section need to learn to mind their own business.

@gamma21285

Жыл бұрын

Yes

@nestorsifuentesaguirre2722

Жыл бұрын

Keep desiring potential incests then

Men that have no power get thrown under the bus too.

If men can date men and women can date women then why can't an older man date a younger woman (over 18 years old)?

@Dennis-nc3vw

8 ай бұрын

Because the Pride Movement is composed by hypocritical cowards. They hide behind the "power dynamics" line but if their daughter was an idiot and brought home the class valedictorian, there's no way in a million years they'd say "oh noes, power dynamics!"

Nothing gross here other than how small your mind is.

Why is an unequitable or varying dynamics relationship demonized? Not only do I have an Age Gap relationship but I have age gap FRIENDS in their 60s. No one has ever denounced my friendships, calling them "manipulative", "gross", "creepy". Strange that people only rush to these words when love and intimacy is involved. A difference in experiences is only to be expected in AGR's but definitely not worthy to be shunned. An older man can benefit a younger woman in MANY ways and vice versa. After all, isn't a relationship one where both HAPPILY give and take? There's only one thing gross and that is Ageism. Society, especially western, wants you to become invisible or die after 50. By then you are "worthless" to them. THAT is gross.

@nestorsifuentesaguirre2722

Жыл бұрын

Since we now live in a world where you cannot even trust your shadow your statement might be naive at times

@Dennis-nc3vw

8 ай бұрын

No one really cares about power dynamics. If their daughter was an airhead and she brought home the class valedictorian for dinner, they wouldn't say "Oh noes, power dynamics! He's going to manipulate her." The fact is, the Pride movement is just full of hypocritical, intellectually dishonest cowards. They say "love is love" and "consent is all that matters", but they don't really believe it. So they invent a bunch of stupid loopholes like the "power dynamics" line.

I'm 2 or 3 yrs younger than he's daughters.

Men, in general, find young women more attractive...period.

@edp3202

4 ай бұрын

Sex I get. A successful relationship? 🤔

@kathyhansen2820

4 ай бұрын

I've noticed that attractive young women don't marry poor old men but rich ones yes. So I figure if the guy knows he's paying for it and the young woman is ok with the setup no problem. I do find it rather pathetic if the old guy really believes he's a stud. I suppose people have different definitions of what a successful relationship is. As long as both parties are honest with each other and more importantly honest with themselves I figure whatever floats their boats. @@edp3202

@StuJones-gn7te

Ай бұрын

And younger women tend to be less demanding, more enthusiastic, gentler and have less baggage. When the presenter speaks of experience, he means baggage, even if he doesn't know it.

@lilydiallo594

Ай бұрын

@@StuJones-gn7te yes, until they empty your bank account and leave!☹️☹️☹️

@StuJones-gn7te

Ай бұрын

If I had any money, it would be well hidden.