Still educated people want dowry..In terms of gifts 🙄.

@prayashlahkar5170

3 жыл бұрын

Like u and me 🤣😂😂🤣🤣🤣😂

@lakshaybansal5337

3 жыл бұрын

@Shruti Tripathy Yeh badhiya tha guru

@rajatsharma2611

3 жыл бұрын

Padhe-Likhe gawaarh

@theHollowGabimaru

3 жыл бұрын

@Shruti Tripathy u r right....

@satyamjha3208

3 жыл бұрын

Many even try to Justify it...my father is also among them😑

In my locality... I have seen that most of parents are eager to spend 20-30 lacs of dowry BT they will hesitate in spending even 20k to their girl's education.

@sahanajkhatun1248

3 жыл бұрын

Wth 😑😑

@reenamohanta2994

3 жыл бұрын

So true yr .... even they start searching groom while girl is still in college .. then( if the girl does not getting any govt job) when the girl pleads, they give 1 year limit to get a very well paying job or govt job, then start marriage preparation ....

@aspiringnidhi

3 жыл бұрын

@@reenamohanta2994 yeah same is happening with me.

@rdv.3712

3 жыл бұрын

Now..thats a pity..

@mazedar_tv

3 жыл бұрын

True, most of them are afraid bcoz of unemployment rates in India. So many people with Master and MBA are applying for sewerage cleaner job in India. Halat bhot khrab hai. Ye to phir thek ma bap hai. Kuch ksai ma bap to betiyo ko paida hi nai hone dete. Agar paida hojae to turant mardete hai. 😢

All of these theories ignore the fact that a huge chunk of our society considers dowry and big fat indian weddings as a matter of pride, a status symbol. It is probably difficult to capture it in the data, but it is too important a factor to ignore.

@nikhilkay1

2 жыл бұрын

it is the main reason, and it is mostly due to women who want their weddings bigger and better than their relatives, cousin, neighbour and so on. Add bollywood to that who constantly enforcing the idea as well.

@snehavalabailu

2 жыл бұрын

@@nikhilkay1 Yes. In fact, I have seen it happen both ways, on demands of the groom or his family and also because the bride or her family wanted to do so themselves.

@akshay9602

2 жыл бұрын

Watch the documentary 'Matyrs of Marriage' Its a very good documentary on dowry

@lonelyfireflies1426

2 жыл бұрын

@@nikhilkay1 well from where I am , there was not even a ceremony like "engagement" but suddenly a chain like system started , recently my relative's marriage date was about to get fixed but then the groom's family suddenly stated to have an engagement, my relative got confused, as it was an arranged marriage the groom's family said 'it is not fixed if there is not an engagement' , so they had to do a ceremony

@nikhilkay1

2 жыл бұрын

@@lonelyfireflies1426 add bachelor's party and bachelorette party to all the endless ceremonies already. You will be happier if you invested all that money in bitcoin. Complete waste of money, time. I wanted to have a simpler wedding but bride party requested to have all the "taam jhaam"

My mother says ,she will not gv anything in the name of dowry to the man we will marry.When relatives asked , who will marry ur daughters then,, she answered - the man with dignity.

@user-ex7ex1qt4t

3 жыл бұрын

The man with dignity who you'll reject outright as not a good match.

@rashedaaktertara553

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-ex7ex1qt4t yeah the man with dignity ( aka 6 digit salary )

@THEJUGGLERS

2 жыл бұрын

I wish your mother gives you right on your paternal property. If that's the case, I would agree with your mother.

@niranjan2726

Жыл бұрын

Khudko bhi independent hona padega. If girl dont earn she will do house chores at that man of dignities home.

@natssinha

Жыл бұрын

Fabulous reply

My brother got married last year , we didn't asked for any dowry and that caused a chain effecty, the next 6 out of 8 marriages in our society there was no dowry. It starts with one person not asking for dowry and the rest of the relatives will follow. That's how India works sometimes.

@sairask9275

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I agree with u Becoz most of the time what happens is "tere chacha ke bete ki shaadi m dahej aaya tha hum bhi lenge" so first we should change ourselves n then think to make changes into society👍👍

@gigachad3861

3 жыл бұрын

jab fake dowry aur dv case lagega toh pata chalega 😂💀

@charu2mail

3 жыл бұрын

This is innovative-diffusion framework in action! Awesome ❤️

@govindaaggarwal1040

3 жыл бұрын

Muslims have a concept of Mehr, where you purchase women. Nikah itself means conjugal intercourse in Arabic!

@Demonclass

3 жыл бұрын

Respect brother.

Parents should invest in their daughter to make her financially independent instead of giving large amount of dowry.

@khushalsinghsaini6272

3 жыл бұрын

They give girl share from their property

@hardeeprajput6564

3 жыл бұрын

Na. Parents should invest in crypto

@priyankakumarisingh4511

3 жыл бұрын

@Chandan Matho If both girl and boy are earning the same money then what is the need to give dowry. If they are still giving dowry then they are fool.

@onkuaries4402

3 жыл бұрын

That's not a solution , dowry is taken after that also.

@priyanshu-qd4bl

3 жыл бұрын

education is not the solution

In my village a woman was burnt alive just because the girls family did not give a bike (dowry) to the boys family and this case was also not reported.

@RavinaPande

Ай бұрын

I saw that too...many cases like this in village area

"Groom quality", "Groom price" 😂😂, I love the way you brought down groom to mere commodity. I'm sure if we coin some more word like these in our daily life to describe such low lives, that graph will surely come down

@zany4132

2 жыл бұрын

And also he used the term "market value"😂

@astanopasta

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr i can't be the only one who legit laughed my head off every time i heard - "market value". Grooms are the new soap xD

@AbhijayAgarwal

2 жыл бұрын

@@astanopasta Groom ka bhav bahut badh raha hai

@rohi7597

2 жыл бұрын

If he is High level business man or High rank government officials then Yes. It's Girls family's fault , they just want rich& sucessful groom

@tintin2719

2 жыл бұрын

ur comment sounds like ur a feminist and a hardcore one

A guy doesn't marry unless he is financially independent. Let girls study and be financially independent just like men. And then let the marriage be for love and companionship rather than a stupid business deal that revolves around money, gold and display of social status.

@nisargparekh8813

3 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍👍👍

@truthseeker8324

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah exactly that's how it should be

@aviks1755

3 жыл бұрын

Someday you will realize that marriage is also a financial decision. That's why in advanced economies you have the scope for prenuptial agreements. Nevertheless, it all comes down to what each partner brings to the table. the value one can bring can be any combination of earning, wealth, education, social status, age, looks/physical attributes, and anything else that other people find of value. And that's marriage for you, cut and dried.

@ayushigoel9009

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with wat you said, but it's just practical world made us see harsh truths at times, most potential suitable partner one can have may be will be married off to another women who're bringing wealth with them either through dowry or by wat they earn, n the girl Taking time to settle financially maybe it's a little late in terms of societal norms that now she has to compromise on her choices bcoz she's not left with much options she has already crossed that suitable age where she could find the best potential mate... And I guess no family wants that so they choose to spare money n give dowry considering they're doing best for their daughter at right time

@anaghakrishna6606

3 жыл бұрын

@@ayushigoel9009 Who decides this " suitable" age? Society is fcked up..a bunch of old fashioned people takes major decisions..what if the the sudden rush marriage becomes a failure and the partners are not compatible??? The mindset of soxiet should change. There is no suitable age...love happens organically and it's when one should get married..

This doesnot happen in Northeast part of India. We may lack in infrastructure but we are enhanced or developed in social and mental infrastructure .

@j18annyeonghaseyo

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly I love northeast people. They r literally so sweet (saying this from personal experience)

@sudevkamal7767

3 жыл бұрын

Northeast ❤

@shwetakumari5855

3 жыл бұрын

Heaven might be a myth, Northeast is real ❤️❤️

@Harry2002-z9q

3 жыл бұрын

Don't let this northies come to north east they will make hell

@nightcoreeeeeeee

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

IAS,IPS who write pages of article about stopping dowry in UPSE exam end up having most dowry. 🤦🤦😔

@DEEPtech-t3n

9 ай бұрын

Reality is often dissopntment

@RishikaChaturvedi-wk1ml

Күн бұрын

TRUE the hypocrisy is CRAZY 🤡🤡

Marriage is just an excuse, money is the motivation. People want to lift their status, build contacts, acquire assets and swell bank balance through marriage. However educated we may become, greed won't go. Bride will soon face showers of taunts that she didn't bring dowry. Unless they opt for nuclear family after marriage, it can't be avoided. To be honest, love or arrange either way marriage is worthless if it doesn't bring gains to both parties. Be nuclear be happy.

@dhananjaysahani4470

2 жыл бұрын

@@aditigupta7222 if u won't take dowery then u will take share in ur father property and will give to ur 'pyare patidev'

I am gonna tell you a story. My parents got their union through love marriage. So, naturally no dowry was involved. In fact the marriage is intercast. Now, as I venture out with the same ideology (I despise dowry. It’s basically selling myself for god’s sake), I have seen girls whose families were apprehensive BECAUSE I didn’t ask for dowry. People automatically assume that I am lacking something. Weird.

@yrrannapanna

3 жыл бұрын

Don't settle for them!!Rather,in my society it's the other way round that if the girl's family is willing to give more money than the guy deserves, they're trying to "compensate" for the girl

@kunal_5harma

3 жыл бұрын

lol that last point

@nitishamehta9337

3 жыл бұрын

So true as baba saheb said if untouchability is to be abolished marry intercaste, I think this would help in decreasing dowry cases too.

@HarshThakur-bq9xo

3 жыл бұрын

Means they assumed that you don't asked for dowry because you are lacking something .......Hahahahah Fuck society.

@bigsmoke903

3 жыл бұрын

@@nitishamehta9337 he never said it. And untouchability can only be abolished by abolishing Hinduism. In inter caste marriages the taboo and hatred against groom/bride who is from so called Lower caste dosent fade and it eventually results in honour killing, domestic violence or separation. I'm not justifying caste bsed marriages but person from lower caste background do suffer in inter caste marriage setup in majority of cases

I am the oldest, a girl. When my mother was pregnant second time, My grandparent and aunts keep telling me . " God listens to little children, so Pray you have a brother. " When i ask why "Your father will be too much burdened if he has another girl, and a boy will look after them when old etc.. Now my parent live with me and husband, not my brother. I am the oldest, a girl. When my mother was pregnant second time, My grandparent and aunts keep telling me . " God listens to little children, so Pray you have a brother. " When i ask why "Your father will be too much burdened if he has another girl, and a boy will look after them when old etc.. Now my parent live with me and husband, not my brother. Edit 1: *what about your inlaws? ": My husband moved to big city many years before I met him. We continue to financialy support as he did before. His brother and family live with my in-laws in the village. They visit us, but they rarely stay long as they enjoy life in village. I take kids back every year. If I move to village how can he financially support them? So they haven't asked me to either. Edit 2: what aunts say now : No magic happened I suppose now they say " Poor man, he is unlucky he has to live with his daughter"

@SJ-yr9dk

3 жыл бұрын

@LP ❤️

@itachi6523

3 жыл бұрын

Which state are you from?

@aagamanpokhrel4113

3 жыл бұрын

Nice

@pikachuthunderbolt3919

3 жыл бұрын

if we really want to end the dowry . Then its request for guys to avoid and straighly neglect his parents wish to get dowry from girl side. Why not tell them u won't marry if dowry would be case in marriage 😃 if no-one would be there to take it then it would end this practice .

@itachi6523

3 жыл бұрын

@@pikachuthunderbolt3919peer pressure

My theory is girls want to marry well settled man who has wealth, job and car. I belong to upper caste but I am low earning man and I am ready to marry without dowry or gifts marriage but when I met few girls they looked down on me for my financial status. One girl's mother scolded me directly that I am poor and I am not a man.

@paramsodha7936

3 жыл бұрын

STAY SINGLE

@obamabinladen5055

2 жыл бұрын

bhai, this is the truth. All these empowered women in the comments are going to stay unmarried and become bitter when they hit the wall. Marriage websites are full of them. The simps will have their families destroyed in current or next generation. So, don't worry. Liberalism is a depopulation program. Most of us aren't going to come out alive at the end. We can only try. If it makes you feel any better, I am 29, earn 60L and I am unable to find a decent woman. Marry a conservative tier-3 town housewife. That's the solution for you as well as me.

@surajkumarbhoi4445

2 жыл бұрын

@@obamabinladen5055 60 lacs damn bro what do you do ?

@meghakumari6137

2 жыл бұрын

All girls are not like that..girls who are employed just want a boy of their level to maintain the equality you know..those who are not well educated do these things...

@tanweeralam1650

2 жыл бұрын

@@obamabinladen5055 I just want to know 2 things. Why such creative user name😂😂 are you a Muslim or what? 2nd....kya kaam karte ho jo 60L milta he??

I think increasing 'bride value' is the solution for this. Nowadays, from what I have observed around me, if the girl is just as qualified as the boy and earns almost equal as him, then her family doesn't pay dowry. But if the gap between their incomes is significant or if she's uneducated, then her family has to pay dowry.

I know a person who got rank 7 in CSE and became SDM. In next 1 year he got married in a 5 star hotel and got more than 50 lakhs as dowry through various means. If such an educated person cannot convince his family regarding dowry god knows who will. People say i am not practical enough but they took dowry in their marriage. I say i am okay being less practical but i am not going accept dowry. 😂 God bless Indian society.

@kamartaj3010

3 жыл бұрын

Most people become govt officers just for dowry

@cerberus9612

3 жыл бұрын

Sirf dahej k liye log govt naukri lgane ki koshish krte hai? Sukoon se zindagi bitane ke liye nahi?? ...gomutra thodi kam piyo

@milisingh3155

3 жыл бұрын

The guy u are talking about himself wants money in the form of dowry. Next he will take bribe for any work he will do. These so called SDMs are most currupt species. Their first bribe is in the form of dowry. The why he will convince his parents for no dowry

@rahulghodmare5394

3 жыл бұрын

Are Bhai usne din rat jo padhai ki hai usi ki wajah se uske baap ne Market Price 50 lakh rakhi hogi😁😁😁

@desperado18100

3 жыл бұрын

@@cerberus9612 bribe bhe toh khanne hai corrupt govt officer nai

Only North East India is dowry free zone, and I am a proud northeast Indian .

@ShivanshRajSrivastavaSRS

3 жыл бұрын

Me too buddy.. ❤️❤️

@leeny5443

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@sumanbhowmick8

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@KidsToyyo

3 жыл бұрын

It must be heaven

@niharikasarma426

3 жыл бұрын

❤❤yaah... We proud of it

I never understood, why girls marry with a person who demands dowry for marriage. Ye marriage hai ya business.

@vb4896

2 жыл бұрын

Buisness

@charu2774

2 жыл бұрын

If girls had a choice they would have rejected this a long time ago. If they say no they get beaten up or shunned by the society. It's the fear that keeps them silent

@vb4896

2 жыл бұрын

@@charu2774 Which is exactly why we need irreverent ( according to society) and fearless girls and even fearless guys that will break these so called traditional values and customs.

@Yennefer-bg9hb

5 ай бұрын

Phir to shaadi k baad half property bhi hadapna nahi chahiye

@infinitymobileworld

4 ай бұрын

​@@Yennefer-bg9hb 20 lakh dahej dekar Ghar m hissa mangti hai log😂

The Problem is when Burocrates like IAS, IPS, they demand dowry. What do you expect from the society. Jisko laws implementation karana hota hai, wo khud laws break krte hai. The solution is Privatisation.

@tdxgamer5176

2 жыл бұрын

Bhai Bihar me bahut ias ips bhare pade hai or . Recently mere hi pehchan k ek IAS officer ko 70 lakh dowry Mila and he demanded 90 lakh .or bohot Sare officer hai Bihar me jinka shadi 50, 65,40 lakh. Dowry m hota hai. Pura Bihar Ka economy is pe hi depend hai

@tdxgamer5176

2 жыл бұрын

@Spell Check Bhai mere taraph ek judge hai jiski Shaadi hui thi to ladki wali ne blank check de diya or bola ki Apne Mann se fill karlo and he filled somewhere close to 60 lakh. Jab IAS ips le rhe hai judge bhi le rha hai dahej to ki se expect kroge . Or ha living without marrying will be difficult for both male and female.😂😂 Isn't it?

@astanopasta

2 жыл бұрын

@Spell Check Exactly !! People should just focus on the solution given on educating women than wage wars in the comment section on origin of dowry

@astanopasta

2 жыл бұрын

And i think it would take a lot longer for people to realize marriage isnt a compulsion, atleast in India

@joydip9044

2 жыл бұрын

@@tdxgamer5176 wow judge bhi yani wo judge Jo court me dowry lene walo ko jail ki saja deta hai wo khud dowry leta hai 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 us judge ko mai puchna chahunga ,"Your hounour ap khudko kitne sal ki jail doge?"

Being from Gujjar community , I couldn't agree more to this. Here crores of rupees are spent on wedding ,furniture luxury cars and if that's not enough they will also give cash . Honestly , I don't want to marry a guy who is materialistic. This really inspires me to become financially independent . If I really want to spend my life with someone , it would be someone who loves and respects me otherwise I'm happy :)

@neelparekh6024

3 жыл бұрын

Do investment if your are in your teenage, and want to become financially independent

@froggywithaheart

3 жыл бұрын

true! I'm not going to pay someone into marrying me. I'm better than that.

@prachisaini1

3 жыл бұрын

Darn it same dude , I am happy individual way actually in today's generation the present millennials are actually thinking about late marriage or no marriage or totally going alternate forms of relationships.

@prachisaini1

3 жыл бұрын

@Wallah Habibi I am sorry but taking dowry an over all option be justified no , I won't support single penny to be given unless needed I am making relationship not business n according to women having high paid hubbies it's on their own most of these are the same woman who regret marrying a rich guy because a rich guy has options to leave as easy he came n as easily he can leave , if the rich man wants he can throw an amt of compensation and just wash off his duties from the woman , n that his absolute right unless the woman is herself rich than the stakes are woman won't like to take the compensation but she will demand half of his profits again business transactions no relationship happening here , I don't comply on marriage now I have seen my own parents case n I regret that I will even marry.

@prachisaini1

3 жыл бұрын

@Wallah Habibi Marriage is a business and it has become worse over time be it woman or man , marriage in david Attenborough case is just copulation human species but in an elaborate mateing rituals just to get offspring for other generation. Humans are as animal as an actual animal but they have sophisticated ways that's it.

My parents are happy in this case , They didn't give and can't take dowry My brother in law refused to take dowry And me being unemployed and useless, it's uncertain if I m ever getting married 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@kamartaj3010

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@Fekuchand_

3 жыл бұрын

💋💋💋💋💋❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😂🤣😂

@thegem597

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@tprateek

3 жыл бұрын

@@kamartaj3010 😂😂😂😂😂

@MJ-pb4bp

3 жыл бұрын

Women doing house work are seen as repressed or some kind of torture.. Many men would be happy doing house work (which they can complete in 2-3 hours) and then could spend whole day watching netflix, playing pubg, house party with friends.. But thing is a high earning women would never marry a jobless which is opposite for men..😀 😀

Giving a dowry isn't one isolated event. It sets the tone for the entire relationship between the families. It puts the bride's family on a lower footing than the groom's because they are literally paying someone to take their daughter off their hands. It gives the groom's family permission to be infinitely greedy. Why would they stop? They have the dowry and the girl, they have no reason not to ask for more. Say "NO" to that first demand. Walk away.

@rt7484

2 жыл бұрын

Ladki wala ne mere ko bola salary slip dikhao. Phir bola ghar nahi tere pas to mana kar dia.

@aishwarya2130

Жыл бұрын

@@rt7484 toh kama na , mehnat kar ,

This guy's talk reminds of me of a medical student who was asked in an medical studies exam: "What are the reasons for the sudden pause in a woman's period?". The student listed many reasons but omitted the obvious one: "she got pregnant". The obvious reason for why dowry is present: It is simply due to the law of demand and supply in the arranged marriage market of India. Eligible high-earning grooms are in high demand and short supply and therefore they can take advantage of this market stituation and demand high prices. Are the grooms greedy? Yes. They want the free money.

@user-uz1xg1jp1m

Жыл бұрын

Not true in all cases.

@saitejarapolu2364

2 ай бұрын

Who doesn't want free money everyone wants more money with less efforts it is the reason why women marry high earning man

For some parents, dowry is a kind of a proud statement in the society. That "they got their daughter married by giving 1 crore cash, a big bungalow, and a big car."

@Sanjay-gc1fd

3 жыл бұрын

bhai dowry arrange marriages me krte h, aur arrange marriages(caste-based) me ladke ki value ladki se bahot zyada hoti h(generally) toh vo ladka kyu karega usse shaadi, maybe that's why dowry still exists..

@akshay-jr1qz

3 жыл бұрын

There's a saying

@aryakomal

3 жыл бұрын

yeah dude. especially in delhi

@mausenpai215

3 жыл бұрын

@@aryakomal Im not against dowry. It is for my personal security just in case my wife ditch me in future and eat half my property as her compensation. alimony is just expensive and legal pro$titution.

@Asmodeus-sl1jw

3 жыл бұрын

@@mausenpai215 bhai...toh shadi mat kar...bachcha chahiye? Adopt kar le

I belong to Bihar. In my state, dowry is like a shit status game like someone got a big dowry they have good status in our society and some days ago, I have discussed on this topic with my father. It was like fight between us. 😂😂😂

@punyashloka4946

3 жыл бұрын

I am also from bihar this is very true recently my cousin sister got married lot of money was given to the groom family dowry is a status game this is very ture.

@farooqueazam2762

3 жыл бұрын

Bhai.. Apna Bihar is next level thing in case of dowry... And it is so uniform all across the society, irrespective of religion and caste. No exceptions.

@Vivek-yt6dz

3 жыл бұрын

Rip your ego bro 😂

@eagleye7262

3 жыл бұрын

That's how it should start ..... everything which starts from grass root level is the more stronger ideology .....we the youth should start implementing in our house first and the chain follows

@farooqueazam2762

3 жыл бұрын

@@eagleye7262 exactly... The buck stops with us, the youths of this nation..

I am from a Village in U.P. Here, Mostly people are farmers, and did not earn that much money. People also did not show much interest in educating girls. But, one thing they are concern about is finding a groom for their daughters who has a government job. Some of the price tags of such grooms are; One who is in Indian Army; 20 lakh and a bullet bike+ A girl who should be as beautiful as Missworld. One who is in Indian Railways; 30 lakh One who is a Government Teacher; 50 Lakh.

@WR-NC-ASPL

Жыл бұрын

Because girls do not want to marry poor low salary handsome young men

@aishwarya2130

Жыл бұрын

🤮🤮🤮plz try to change this stupid mindset of people

I’m quite surprised that you included bride price . I’m from the northeast and we still find instances of bride price in many communities and in some it has just become something in name where you pay 15 or 11 rs as part of tradition . The only reason in most NE state dowry is not prevalent is due to bride price which we find in decline as many women are in workforce . On such example would be market places which in many other parts of the country is dominated by men while in the northeast it is primarily dominated by women .

My mother's cousin recently got married and she was a dentist so "naturally" her parents wanted her to marry a doctor and they ended up spending a lot of money on the wedding and "gifts" which weren't asked by the groom's family but they still did it because he was a doctor. The female's family is just as responsibile as the male's and sometimes more.

@gamingfirst01

3 жыл бұрын

Ikrr.

@sudiptachowdhury3410

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, you are right.....many a times the bride's family gives dowry even when the groom's family did'nt demand.....actually during marriage many neighbours and relatives use to come and ask " ladke walo ko kya diya" and if they come to know that the bride's family has'nt given dowry they will say "kaise log hai ladki ko bina dahej vidah kar rahe hai"......the society sucks!!!

@alizsyed6831

3 жыл бұрын

@@waleedrand7810 As much implemented and viraciously enjoyed. Non Muslims are left behind, though, in this race of Muslims. Translate Haram for the Muslims.

@punyashloka4946

3 жыл бұрын

@@sudiptachowdhury3410 I agree this happens but I personally think dowry will never end.

@user-mp1uf6lf5p

3 жыл бұрын

I like nothing about Indian wedding system. People waste money without thinking about upcoming time. Middle class even not hesitate to borrow money to complete wedding.

This will only stop when marriage become a connection between two people than two families

@strayedaway19

3 жыл бұрын

Well marriage is no longer a connection of two individuals. The concept is now too old. Now It is more of an risky agreement determined by compatibility which is accompanied with certain T&Cs. Why risky, because you have a lot to lose if the compatibility is lost.

@srikumarmondal3294

3 жыл бұрын

Yes this is the true solution. This video suggests us that we need to increase "bride market price". Like bride is something like commodity with market price... Is this a solution or slave dealings?

@shilpasolanki2114

3 жыл бұрын

That's the point.👍

@confused.cat.

3 жыл бұрын

@@srikumarmondal3294 agreed

@mituljain4

3 жыл бұрын

@@strayedaway19 Absolutely agreed, high time India introduces prenups!

In 90s there was a huge spate of dowry driven domestic violence incidents where the husband and his parents would live the gas on overnight and send the woman(wife/daughter in law) to prepare morning tea. There would be fire and the woman would land up in government hospital with 3 degree burns and die. The family would pretend to mourn the accidental death and then remarry the male again. This was so rampant that Sudha Murthy, after a heart wrenching visual she met in a govt. Hospital, through her NGO donated several cooling containers to hospitals in order to place the victims in those horrifying last hours of their life before death rescued them from the monsters called hisband and in-laws.

okay so, I found this channel yesterday and now I am in love with it. I get a bundle of case studies, unpopular research and the researchers, events, social conditions, terminologies, data, surveys, problems with solutions, EVERYTHING. Thankyou so much. This is not only general awareness but a bundle of knowledge about the recent happenings and their past roots.

@aparnakashyap7493

3 жыл бұрын

p.s- your explanation is smooth and lucid. thankyou.

@prachideshpande6652

2 жыл бұрын

I like this ⚓ anchor 😘❤️

@rachitpunetha10tha17

7 ай бұрын

Be aware He just liked to indirectly blame everything on our cultures. Just like gore saheb did

"stop objectifying men and women" that's what society should learn!

@supreeths6006

3 жыл бұрын

Stop using people for- 1. Emotional comforting. 2. Boosting your self confidence. 3. Wiping off your tears. 4. Time Pass. 5. Bearing your expenses. Etc. Both men and women should stop doing such things.

@0xdtt11

3 жыл бұрын

@@supreeths6006 stop using people in the first place LOL xd

@a.mishra5608

3 жыл бұрын

*stop objectifying men , women or anyone in between* this is what society should learn

@0xdtt11

3 жыл бұрын

@@a.mishra5608 oh I missed that thank you for the correction

@a.mishra5608

3 жыл бұрын

@@0xdtt11 ❤️❤️no problem

In North East India, there is no dowry exist. I feel proud for that .

@sudipdassbhs4095

3 жыл бұрын

Alas but that's not true. In tripura, it exist and is increasing rapidly.🥲

@beyondgoodandbad7019

3 жыл бұрын

Ppl sell brides in tribal culture so they demand money while giving their daughters

@Vital_Game7

3 жыл бұрын

Bro it exist(assam)

@chambugongyoung489

3 жыл бұрын

@@Vital_Game7Maybe from other groups but not Assamese in Assamese culture if you accept dowry it's bed luck 🤞 we just give free clothes to everyone

@akshitsoni6325

3 жыл бұрын

Dege bhi kya momos?

The sad thing is, If a man does not ask for dowry, people wonder if he has some disability Edit: Definitely not supproting dowry procedure, just tired of the double standards in our society

@shrutisingh5884

2 жыл бұрын

Ha na exactly khi girls to khi boys this society is seriously messed up

In all the marriages I have seen furniture and gold is given by bride's family and people judging how much costly they have given. So dowry is matter of pride!

@rt7484

2 жыл бұрын

Ladki wala ne mere ko bola salary slip dikhao. Phir bola ghar nahi tere pas to mana kar dia.

even my mom is saving money so that she could buy gold for my marraige.I often ask her to buy a piece of land with that money as a good source of investment but she refuses as she thinks without gold it's impossible for me to get married.this is the condition of our society.that's y I seriously need to be self independent asap.

@sudarshan3965

3 жыл бұрын

Find a guy for yourself, who loves you. Then the money saved will be with your mother forever

@diyadutta49

3 жыл бұрын

@@sudarshan3965 absolutely

@PremKumarmj

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, you can earn your own money and use that for your marriage, and sell the gold collected by your mom and invest in land 🔥

@maroofkhatib3421

3 жыл бұрын

Do not marry a guy who's condition to marry is dowry. No matter what !!

@okurrt5836

3 жыл бұрын

best of luck!!!

The concept of BIG FAT INDIAN WEDDING with a show off culture through social media also plays a key role.

@beentherelovedit9150

3 жыл бұрын

based view

@saranshkaushik8259

3 жыл бұрын

@@madhavireddy1792 I have seen in middle class families also ,they tend to go a little further whether happily by choice or due to society.

@omprakhashmudaliar

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@Traumatised311

2 жыл бұрын

True Wedding business and matrimony business is huge Bachelor's party sangeet engagement etc Wedding industry is show off Both families want to show off

In odisha most of educated youth disagree to take dowery, and most of the dowery is very low upto 1 lakhs in average upper middile family. But many changes also may done to make it better

My dad once told me that when he was getting married he told his dad to not ask for dowry from my mom's side. Grandpa told dad if that happens then the girls side would think something is off.. down there.. 😂 Kya hai re 😂😂

@kartikeypandey8957

2 жыл бұрын

Ya that's true.

@zany4132

2 жыл бұрын

Fack😑

@A_Responsible_Citizen

2 жыл бұрын

Something is off ... means? I couldn't understand.

@frankcastle1862

2 жыл бұрын

@@A_Responsible_Citizen transgender hai aur cliche Indian social structure and transphobia so yeah :P

@Autumnfeverr

2 жыл бұрын

Ladke me kami 😂

Most of the people feel sad about dowri system but when their turn arrives they do the same.

@ashutosh4001

3 жыл бұрын

True

@Aman-td9nl

3 жыл бұрын

Its very apt for todays situation

@ak-gi5dr

3 жыл бұрын

True..in some cases I have also seen some guys rejecting dowry but the girls family insisting on giving dowr as according to them what will others say.. I think another issue is the big fat Indian weddings, where families put everything on the line..this also raises expectations for dowry

@Souravp23

3 жыл бұрын

Correct..

@chess.tips47

3 жыл бұрын

😏😏😂😂

Marriage should be between only the couple. Their family should not intervene.

@ririraman7

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha India h dude, pdhi likhi ladkia apni mrzi se shadi nai kr pati...anpad ki toh haalat fir bhool hi jao

@N7_YES

3 жыл бұрын

Correct

@harshpurohit3670

3 жыл бұрын

Abe jaa na 💘 de

@PremKumarmj

3 жыл бұрын

This is nice but we Indian see marriage as special family event

@ankursingh6778

3 жыл бұрын

@Biswamohan Mohanty this happens in western countries women have all the freedom and guess what divorce rates are more than 50% and about 80% of them are initiated by women. Due to arrange marriage mens get married and what happens when give all the freedom to women to whom to marry or to be in relationship with they all chases top 10 to 20% of the mens who are higher in status, money and famous. One more statistics in western countries about 10 to 20% of all the singles having sex with about 80 to 90% of the women and why because all the women are chasing them.

how do married women take half property after divorce ? even this is something wrong

@somalichakraborty484

2 ай бұрын

Where happened tell me? Just to support dowry Don't make false allegations.

@Mohitkava22-dm9kp

2 ай бұрын

@@somalichakraborty484 maybe you are unaware about whats going on around you

@Mohitkava22-dm9kp

2 ай бұрын

@@somalichakraborty484 and also I m not supporting dowry

I am a Bihari and I can totally relate from this. Now a days, groom family want everything things like a well earning girl, good amount of dowry and a lavished marriage. The sad part it in Bihar all expenses of marriage beared by Birde family only.

The shocking part is even after being highly educated, both parties involved in the marriage don't seem to see what's wrong with this tradition. This dowry system is not only supported from the groom's side, but even the bride's side also considers this to show off of their wealth to the society.

@j18annyeonghaseyo

3 жыл бұрын

💯💯

@crocsAreUgly

3 жыл бұрын

This is so true. I've seen people argue that well-educated families with girls that have high paying jobs would never accept to marry a person who demands dowry, and this is just not true. Just because someone has a high paying job does not mean they have a progressive social mentality

@radheyshyamsharma6598

2 жыл бұрын

@AMAZING SPACE you are correct but ajkal kya hota hai ye showing off culture hogaya hai,logo ke paas khane ko roti nahi lone le le ke shadi karte hai,just because society mei competition laga h

@ultimate6243

Жыл бұрын

@@crocsAreUgly Husband's house is not a free hotel. Dowry is a myth. You have to pay the rent and food cost to husband.

@crocsAreUgly

Жыл бұрын

@@ultimate6243 Dowry isn't a myth, it still very much exists. Plus, the "rent and food cost" is paid for by the household labour that women do.

"Any young man, who makes dowry a condition to marriage, discredits his education and his country & dishonours womanhood." -M.K Gandhi.

@mbsucks101

3 жыл бұрын

WISE WORDS SIR

@theniravpanchal

3 жыл бұрын

Watch Prachyam video on "how dowry pratha came into existence..from where.. Real origin. Just search " Prachyam Dowry "

@mbsucks101

3 жыл бұрын

@@theniravpanchal is that a channel name?

@abrahmicsupremacist38

3 жыл бұрын

@@theniravpanchal Mughals lai?

@pallaviiii847

3 жыл бұрын

Mere papa ne bhi ki😂😂

Assamese here from Assam we have a ritual called Juron where the Groom's family gives the bride dresses what she will wear after marriage to the night wear and wedding jewellery and also the Wedding Dress. Though there's also a balancing thing that the father needs to give everything to the bride from tooth brush and jewelry but they never get much pressurized as its shared. My cousin sister took a bed and a sofa to settle in the new house and my brother in law and his family brought a fridge and car so that she can adjust in his home. I guess it's all about balancing here.

Being a girl ... I'm scared to get married by seeing all these 😖 .... Sometimes I feel Why I born as a girl because of all these 💔

@terabhai_boogeyman

2 жыл бұрын

1st world is changing 2nd you r upsc asperent 😂 after becoming cevil servant grom will give dowry.....best of luck

@THE_UPSC_GIRL369

2 жыл бұрын

@@terabhai_boogeyman yeh bhi sach hai 😂❤️

This is never going to end. Majority of my friends who are well educated shamelessly defends taking dowry from girls family.

@yuvrajsehgal9738

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Dowry and Mahr should be abolished

@amiyancandol4499

3 жыл бұрын

Mahr ?

@birinderwarraich1179

3 жыл бұрын

Its is taught To kids

@EILF7842

3 жыл бұрын

it can start with you.

@azaankhan7777

3 жыл бұрын

@@yuvrajsehgal9738 Mahr is the money or property which boy will give to girl if they get divorced. There's difference between dowry and mahr

Education is the best and the only gift parents can give to their girl child.

@catfishsensei4306

3 жыл бұрын

Brain is a gift I wish your parents had given u

@aloowalia2849

3 жыл бұрын

@@catfishsensei4306 wtf

@turtllee

3 жыл бұрын

@@aloowalia2849 I've seen this guy's comments on every woman and feminism related videos. He's an incel, don't mind him.

@aloowalia2849

3 жыл бұрын

@@turtllee yeah 😁

@raghav6969

3 жыл бұрын

Sadly that education can't provide you job 😑 you'll still struggle to get a job unless you are from IIT's or IIM's

Summary: *Dowry = Groom's price - Bride's price* . If bride/groom are having same quality, chance of dowry becomes very low.

Shame On People who justify Dowry by saying that Girl's parent look for grooms family status .It's their right,they are sending their daughter to a stranger's house. That statement is irony in itself 😂😂

@td2405

2 жыл бұрын

To mat bhejo. Dont marry.

@kunjbiharirai9129

2 жыл бұрын

U r misinterpreting. By family status we mean that if the girl has done bsc then she should marry someone who himself has done bsc why demand for a btech guy . Chanakya has said make a friend who is equal to you not inferior or superior to u. So why to marry someone is superior to u marry someone who is equal to u in this way u will always respect him and he will also respect u . But if u marry someone who is superior to there are chances that he will treat u as inferior (doesn't mean he will beat u or something . It means like if u give him some advice he won't listen to u thinking u r inferior to him).like I am doing btech so I will like marry someone who has done btech not someone who has done bsc or whatsoever p

@Mohit-zn2rn

2 жыл бұрын

Ha to... Stop looking for rich family then, as simple as that

Simple solution - reject the guy when the first demand arrives,

@arunroy9997

3 жыл бұрын

Well......my upper caste relatives didn't accept my lower caste wife.....they asked for 60% of her family wealth as gift....even our village priest told we r sin in our UP village where DAILTS and dowary killing and raping is common.. But my father didn't even care we had big wedding in Udaipur palace and reciption I'm UK and Singapore,my wife is hindu Singapore born of Indian origin. We r happy in Duabi,UK and marituitus and Singapore..... marituitus where 53% r Hindus there is no dowry or caste system there. I'm an atheist now just like my wife who left hindusim because even through she has Talent, kind,no arrogance,money to live and good education and work but she is treated every badly in UP village because her caste is lower. My parents who resettled in Bangalore and love happily there.....my brother married an Muslim an UK arab Muslim and lives in UK in my wife's home which her father gave to his only child. In our family of mothers side .....gold is given to bride in mariage so in future it will help her

@diya1113

3 жыл бұрын

@@arunroy9997 sad to hear bro... caste system is a curse

@wbb566

3 жыл бұрын

@@diya1113 due to this reason Dalits and obcs are converting to Christianity, go and see ap, almost half of the state is Cristian, now they outnumber the Hindus.

@hotlemonade6643

3 жыл бұрын

@@arunroy9997 Same thing happened with my cousin. Him and his Upper Caste Girlfriend, Brahmin to be specific were in a relationship since Medical school, they loved each other more than anything but the Girls family wouldn't accept a Low Caste as their Son-in-law. My cousin had no flaws good looking, very tall, smart, Doctor, 6figures salary & belonged to a prosperous & respected family who lived in Greater Kailash (posh area) of Delhi. The Girl being from a Brahmin family & her father being a Priest who strongly believed in Caste system didn't help the matter. They (couple) struggled & resisted for 6 years for Love. After, they realized that these 2 won't budge they finally agreed to accept him as their Son-in-Law. Now it has been 3 years since they got married they have a Beautiful Son & daughter and live happily with the support & blessings of Both families. Recently, they moved to London too.

@bharti9718

3 жыл бұрын

@Посейдон Афродита Дионис Yes.why not if the guy can promise that if she want to do her job even after having kids and that he will support her in household chores and care for their kids . Not every girl is same dude change your mentality .🙏

Shame on parents and Aunties who forces their child to accept dowries…

@himadrisekharde4727

2 жыл бұрын

@AMAZING SPACE I asked your region in the other comment as dowrey is more prevalent in up and bihar and haryana as compared to west Bengal from where I am . So in India yes region can define your thought process. I asked your region because if you are from these regions then it is expected of your answer. And the people of up and bihar are generally backward in thinking so it is hopeless to argue

@wthisgoingon__4300

2 жыл бұрын

*Aunties and Uncles

@The_Pradhan_The_Headstrong

2 жыл бұрын

😂

@YugantSamal

2 жыл бұрын

And also shame on those parents who wants a govt servant for their daughter. Isn't that a type of dowry??

@YugantSamal

2 жыл бұрын

@Elleon Mor in case divorce ho jaye toh sayad aapko nahi pata, income ke according paise wife ko dene padte hain. Aur aap toh aise baat kar rahe ho jaise shadi ke baad husband apni kamayi se aur biwi apni baap ki paison se chalte hain.

Dowry Rate in my community 10th pass -4 lac Graduate but unemployed - 8-10 lac (based on family condition if family is too Rich like MLA /MP then it may go till crores) Employed salary 10-15k - 10-14 lac Government teacher, Sub inspector,any gov. Job of same salary range - 20 -25lacs Engineer (non IIT) with salary 80k -1 lac 25lac cash will not increase with salary other components value will increase like car property etc Engineer (IIT/NIT) with salary 1lac -1.5 lac 35-40 lacs all engineers having salary 50-80 k - 18-20 lac Salary b/w 30-50 -- 12-18 Doctor (MBBS) 35lac-40lacs Doctor with specialization - 50-60 lacs State PCS -50-60lacs IAS/IPS -60LACS+++ **** Cash may or may not be increase but other components will increase on the basis of family Status All mentioned figures have to give the groom family in cash other components values like bikes,car etc are not included

@Hndjdj400

Ай бұрын

Wtf a 10 pass guy, also gets dowry?

I'm unmarried with a decent salary.. And trying to do pg(on my own).. But my parents don't let me do it because then I will be rejected for marriage by most of my caste boys because of education and my salary..even my mom always taunt me to leave my job and get marry.. And shows me that they are very concerned about it and if my demands go high how much dowry that will have to manage

@himadrisekharde4727

2 жыл бұрын

Are you belong to upper caste or from up bihar as it is very common there

@snehavedpathak3573

2 жыл бұрын

@@himadrisekharde4727 I don't know about my upper or lower class.. I belong to OBC and am from a middle-class Maharashtrian Marathi family...

@himadrisekharde4727

2 жыл бұрын

@@snehavedpathak3573 I too stay in Maharashtra which region

@snehavedpathak3573

2 жыл бұрын

@@himadrisekharde4727 Pune...

@basic7052

2 жыл бұрын

If you look for a man earning double or triple than your salary then they will ask you for dowry.

Usse dowry nahi "We don't accept money, only gifts kehte hai" 😂😂😂

@arc8244

3 жыл бұрын

Par gift ka itna paisa kharach kar deta hain ki wo dowry se kuch kam nahi hota

@SujalJadhav2203

3 жыл бұрын

Gifts are legal dowry😂😂

@arpanabinaswar1811

3 жыл бұрын

Hamare yaha toh gifts bhi Allowed nahi Agar le bhi toh bass Ladki ke Saman(Makeup Kit , Saree etc) le sakte hai nothing else

@Karan-kst

3 жыл бұрын

Yes so-called _"Shagun"_

@JeffSun30

3 жыл бұрын

Come to North East meghalaya my Friend the concept is different

In my case, we asked nothing. Infact we shared costs of wedding in half proportion (in my native area - satara, Maharashtra, the girls family bears the full cost). Her father had visited my newly built native home, and to my surprise, they gave electronics that were not there as a “gift” on the wedding day without asking!!

@tamishgoyal5962

3 жыл бұрын

Same. It happens in our community as well. Mostly the house is built by husbands family and wife's family gives gift mostly electronics.

@tasibsharar7357

3 жыл бұрын

Amna bhi nahi manga tha lekin jab de rai hai mana kaise kara itna electronics khamaka jaiga bhar me

@nitishamehta9337

3 жыл бұрын

It feels like u people are saying no dowry just gift vo bhi for their daughter 😂

@DriveWithVicky87

3 жыл бұрын

@@nitishamehta9337 Nahi. I don’t stay at native. So those gifts are actually useless to me. In my Mumbai home, I have everything! They (I am guessing it’s her cousins) contributed and gave the electronics as gift 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Azhar_shaikh1

3 жыл бұрын

In my case, we even paid for the complete reception and bride's stuff

That transition to the sponsered ad was one of the smoothest.

Start marrying for love and priorities emotional bondage over social class and caste. It will automatically reduce failed relationship and dowry related issues of both parties. Society values show-off more than anything real. Thats the sad part

In India marriage is a business where the groom and bride are products and marriage is a service.

@rupeshsmn

3 жыл бұрын

It's everywhere. Karl Marx mentioned that every marriage is a business.

@winstonchurchill172

3 жыл бұрын

@@rupeshsmn are u trying to justify dowry ?

@Vanessa-ts2xh

3 жыл бұрын

@@rupeshsmn in Karl max generation even western countries have arrange marriage system which have gone obsolete! Update yourself

@abhishekbahukhandi9963

3 жыл бұрын

They probably serve to thier parents

@sibanarayanmuduli3312

3 жыл бұрын

End Hinduism

When you treat marriage like a shopping list you get a bill at the end.

@RY-xk7wp

3 жыл бұрын

It's such an interesting quote. Please elaborate on it in more detail.

@kalukutta

3 жыл бұрын

@@RY-xk7wp girls family selects groom based on his package. Hence they give groom greed in the form of dowry to marry their daughter

@medhakasture9545

3 жыл бұрын

@@kalukutta what if the girl is also earning and well educated , to ab kya acche ladko se shadi karna pap hai

@wellyesbutactuallyno9776

3 жыл бұрын

@@medhakasture9545 they usually don't want equal they want more. If a earning girl sattle for a equally earning guy, good for them but usually that don't happen.

@medhakasture9545

3 жыл бұрын

@@wellyesbutactuallyno9776 I mean I get it but if I am an ambitious woman I would want to get married to an ambitious guy too , like in the tech industry if the difference in the salary is 5-6 lakhs it doesn't really matter but yeah if a person who is working for 6 years and is still earning 4 lakhs there is some problem and I would not want to marry a problematic guy

Simple solution to the problem. Follow Maharashtra's upper/middle class society's marriage practice. No issues whatsoever. But in order to implement that whole society needs to change its mentality and attitude. In Maharashtra, girls are given equal rights in property of parents. Furthermore, even wedding expenses are shared equally between bride's family and groom's family. As a result of which there are very few cases or abysmally low number of cases related to dowry and Section 498-A in the state of Maharashtra among the Marathis.

Excellent video ! Well researched with proper citations. Keep up the good work mate

My grandma told me that neither she nor anybody in her village ever gave dowry and then told me in recent times it had become a practice and now every groom in our village wants dowry 😒😒😒

@feline7401

3 жыл бұрын

@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน lol its a village still people do only agricultural stuff those who went to the cities acquired jobs never came back situation are same but still these men want dowry

@feline7401

3 жыл бұрын

@@cyborg6282 nah she told me she was around 19 when she married

@hitankshee5131

3 жыл бұрын

@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน so u are type of the person who says money doesn't matter 😂. Many people do not let their daughter in law work so she depends financially on husband so wanting a well off isn't bad tbh.

@feline7401

3 жыл бұрын

@@hitankshee5131 well u r a bit right but in village area if u see mostly every men and women do agricultural stuff even my grandma or any women in the village can stay there alone and survive they all got the knowledge and skill but then they got exposed to this dowry bullshit and now everyone wants dowry, due to increase in population land has been divided a lot and many people acquire very less land its not that they are even rich but they still want dowry

@himadrisekharde4727

3 жыл бұрын

@@feline7401 are you from up

Nowadays it is double burden on girl's parents as the groom's parents expect educated housemaid for their sons. Girl's parents spend on daughter's education and also on dowry. In the end girl can't use both dowry money and her education

@crocsAreUgly

3 жыл бұрын

exactly. The groom's family wants a highly educated, but "docile and submissive girl" so that she can cook food all day for the family while simultaneously looking after the kids' education, so that way the groom can dust his hands off of all the childcare.

@himadrisekharde4727

3 жыл бұрын

From which region are you

@koushikkn127

2 жыл бұрын

@@crocsAreUgly cooking and cleaning is easy compared to working in a corporation. ik this because i do all the household work.

@crocsAreUgly

2 жыл бұрын

@@koushikkn127 Well, imo it depends. Would doing housework when one can listen to their favorite playlists when cleaning, cooking etc and relax afterwards be wayy better than a corporate job where your boss screams at you and you have to stare at a screen all day? Of course it would. (I'm not implying that you do this btw lol just giving an example for comparison's sake) But that is most often not the case for indian households. Women have to cook for the entire family, and most of the time a majority of their day goes into cooking, and all the other household work comes afterwards. Then comes looking after kids and all that stuff. Sprinkle some lack of respect and freedom onto that and boom you've got misery. Basically what I'm saying is that it's not solely household work which is the problem, it's more of an amalgamation of factors that come as a result of being a wife that does housework that causes issues.

@harshitayadav9390

2 жыл бұрын

Parents ka kaam sirf pdhnan nhi usse financial independent banna bhi hota hai but mostly parents iss bare me nhi sochte hai

and people who ask for dowry even in love marriage😶 what to say abt them ?

I am from kannur district in kerala . In my district Muslim and Hindu population are equal. In my district no one will buy or give dowry . At my young age I doesn't know dowry really existed in india .now even in kerala many cases arises from other district about the dowry.even a man killed his wife by releasing a snake in her bedroom to kill her.i was happy later when I found that man was prisoned for more than 15 years..

@anirudh7529

2 жыл бұрын

yes bro esp kollam district

The Reason Why parents are against Love marriages cause they know they won't get a stuff. I hope people can change.

@shwetasharma6901

3 жыл бұрын

Most Correct Dowry Theory: Dowry was Given to Bride Because Hinduism is Most Liberal Religion. Our Sages and Old Intellectual wants Equal Contribution From Both Partners and in old times Parents do not live with their Childrens After Marriage. They go to forest for Attaining Moksha.

@birinderwarraich1179

3 жыл бұрын

@@shwetasharma6901 But Now no one goes to forest for Mukti

@saloni495

3 жыл бұрын

@@shwetasharma6901 Sati Pratha bhi start krdo fir 🤡....clown

@missrai7517

3 жыл бұрын

@@saloni495 😂 yr aur uske lia bhi inlog aur illogical reason soch hi rahe honge

@mayankbisht7691

3 жыл бұрын

@@saloni495 Bhai it is a spammer

The guy wants dowry and the girl's family wants a rich, well settled guy... Never ending process 😄

@kamartaj3010

3 жыл бұрын

Sahi kaha. Do dhari talwar h

@Godstonks

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@veda8780

3 жыл бұрын

True😔😔

@milanshsharma1267

3 жыл бұрын

@@veda8780 fake pfp

@poojathakur9382

3 жыл бұрын

The reason is simple the guy is educated to look after his wife by earning money and on the other hand girl is denied education so that the money can be given to the guy to look after the girl.. so all parents educate your children and make them independent 🙏

You provide answers to many questions with your research ! Well done .There was a survey in the US where they found that Indian women are the most over worked with household chores . The mentality that cooking and cleaning is a woman’s job has to be wiped from Indian society. This is women empowerment too . It will keep them in the workforce and grow more women leaders and obliterate these age old practices like dowry .

I am from Assam.N North East is totally no dowry zone and we are proud of it🙂

Even our community demands for dowry like any other community. If a girl fails to bring dowry, her in laws taunt her almost all the time. I remember one of my friend told me about their relatives. This is the real story and it's still going on with that girl. So my friend's relatives selected one girl for their son and while deciding about wedding they told the bride parents that they need nothing from their end. Bride family member thought those people (groom parents) are humble. But once that girl got married they started taunting her all the time. My friend told me that they humiliate that girl in front of everyone. They taunts her like this (hamari bahu kuch nhi laayi, iske baap ne kuch nhi Diya etc). My question is why the hell they act like great humans when they are actually not? If you are low standard people, tell them straight away. Don't trouble, humiliate a girl in that way ...

@deepanshu_2004

3 жыл бұрын

@Spell Check then their lives will be full of disrespect

@syedkhadeer5348

3 жыл бұрын

@Spell Check yeah but in our country girls are pressurized to go through this shit. Because if they file a divorce. Next thing is they will be ill treated by her family members and on top of that men's will change they look that girl. And much more. Every one shows that they are against dowry,mental abuse and all and when someone gets a opportunity to remarry the divorced girl no one would come forward. Every one will support but when they get opportunity to act they will back off . And they put blame on their parents saying my parents won't agree and all. Men who marry those girls are gems which is very less in our country. So girl thinks all this and compromise with her conditions

@syedkhadeer5348

3 жыл бұрын

I believe every girl should be independent so that they won't rely on their husbands even if he leaves her. As sir said in video that's the solution i believe. Coz i know one of relative who faced domestic violence. Her husband know that she is illiterate so can't do anything. Moreover he is confident that she won't leave him since she is illiterate and can't live survive without him. So the bottom line is making girl a independent is vital in this era.

@anamenouknow5197

3 жыл бұрын

@@deepanshu_2004 it's better than constant mental abuse and what others think aka the "log kya sochenge" is the wrong mentality most of Indians have.

@user-bw8yn3zr1s

3 жыл бұрын

@@syedkhadeer5348 but who will make the girl independent? Many of the parents don't do that. Education should be made free, basic necessities like seperate toilets in schools, colleges should be taken care of, the home and outside atmosphere should be made less sexist and toxic. Sex-ed, self-defense, humanity etc should be taught to everyone. These and many other things are to be taken care of.

My sister, married 2 years ago. We spent lot of money on her wedding, and why not to? She is our beloved ❤️ her in laws Didn't demand for anything, but still we have everything we wanted. And it has been two years, still her mother in law taunts her, mocks her almost everyday that she didn't bring enough for them. This is not a secret disease, and you all know it.

@deepseth7105

3 жыл бұрын

can u tell me how much salary does your sister earn and her husband ? when there is gold digging for higher salary guy then no rule , laws or punishment and now you are speaking of taunting ..seriously stupid

@talksense6648

3 жыл бұрын

@@deepseth7105 my sister is a gynecologist, and her husband is AE. And are you suggesting me that a man can demand anything just because he has good job? Seriously?? And do you have any idea through what women like my sister are going? Everyday, that mental torture... Surely you don't know. Because to you it seems stupid if someone would stand against your nonsense ideology. If a man wants only money, then he should not marry at all, let him earn money as much as he wants. Rather he literally sells himself for Dowery. How pathetic!

@penacle7

3 жыл бұрын

@@deepseth7105 I have a question so if a woman earns more then you , will you b willing to get married to her and during marriage will you b willing to give money to her family, leave your parents , stay with her family and quit your job after marriage and stay back home and take care of her family ?

@pop1487

3 жыл бұрын

@@penacle7 you know many a times a women refuse to marry someone who earns less then her

@jayantgill288

3 жыл бұрын

@@talksense6648 a gynaecologist lady will never marry a man who demands dowry and that also, she's marrying a man of same professional status. So please dont expose your lies. Underlying reason for marital problems could be something else and you people are playing victim card and spreading fake stories like this.

I don't believe that educating a girl solves the dowry issue the way they say it, rather the groom might feel intimidated by a great woman and go for someone else. But if someone is highly educated, they should be allowed to find their own partner and that will work better than arranged marriage. A girl doesn't have to marry nor does a boy, just let them be and let they experience the beauty of life. Don't bind them in your shit.

@obamabinladen5055

2 жыл бұрын

law of nature: a girl never wants an equal guy.

Great work 👍🏼 keep us aware as much as

and their favourite dialogue, *"agar wo apni beti ko, apni iccha se GIFTS dena chahte hai to how can we stop them, LOL"*

@mr.enthusiastic8519

3 жыл бұрын

Gifts out of love is okay infact it's great to support a newly starting family....but forcing girl's father's to pay is bad...

@randomvibz

3 жыл бұрын

It's Prestige Issue 😁

@Alex-de3ln

3 жыл бұрын

They should also give her share in the property.

@singh16711

3 жыл бұрын

Yeahh

@pikachuthunderbolt3919

3 жыл бұрын

if we really want to end the dowry . Then its request for guys to avoid and straighly neglect his parents wish to get dowry from girl side. Why not tell them u won't marry if dowry would be case in marriage 😃 if no-one would be there to take it then it would end this practice .

Being from a jaat family, it's a matter of pride for our conservative family and relatives, I try so much to make them understand about this but there is no effect, now I don't do any effort to make them understand I just patiently study and I am sure I'll get a good job then I'll not practice it in my marriage atleast and also for my brother and the next generation of ours... small changes can bring big change to the society.... that's why I am doing a hardwork...

@nisthasingh6927

3 жыл бұрын

Finally... someone said. It is for pride in our society. They see pride not only in receiving dowry infact in giving dowry. And young generation or people like us will not get anything to say in this..

@darshanajha1397

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. If u can't change others, which is just next to impossible, be the change urself.

@iturnoffreplyupdatestorema7216

3 жыл бұрын

So true ❤️

@neha3157

3 жыл бұрын

As a jaat girl, i support you and our other jaat sisters. Only a jaat girl can understand how much we are suppressed in our family. Not that other people don't, but since I'm jaat, i understand you precisely

@neha3157

3 жыл бұрын

Also we call it "dusar" instead of dowry..... Like that's gonna change the fact that it it dowry 😂

Groom and their family are traditional goldigger

@decoding705

Жыл бұрын

So if ur brother takes dowry...would u become a golddigger too? Even though u are against it

In my Brahmin marwari woman family take 3500000 ss dowry. Then, teach a girl to come after fighting so, that girl family can earn half of first girl marriage. This is business for Brahmin in marwad region.

A girl and her parents agreed to Pay Dowrey even in So called "Love" Marriages . 🤦 When I asked this both of them now don't talk to me calling it as their personal lives

@teja9336

3 жыл бұрын

Those people don't deserve a good friend like you .

@mmmmyeah1849

2 жыл бұрын

@Unknown shut up. Very few get divorced in india

@riscnx

2 жыл бұрын

So you have a problem with parents giving something to her daughter's family? Are you jealous that girl had a real marriage? And guess what, people like you are creepy, thus anyone would ghost you when you target them.

@THEJUGGLERS

2 жыл бұрын

Instead of giving dowry, they should have agreed to give their daughter right on her paternal property.

@riscnx

2 жыл бұрын

@@THEJUGGLERS Why do something that will ruin livelihood and make disrupt lives?

marriages in India are not about love and connection between tow families But a trade business where a groom is bought on his caste and income and a bride is sold at expense of here beauty and her families wealth and this tends to a unhappy marriage violence and sometimes murders sad but its reality may our generation bring change 🙌🤞🤞

@maroofkhatib3421

3 жыл бұрын

Very well said... They don't seem to understand that love, understanding and compatibility is most important. Rather than how much money earned or how many property one has.

@carymnuhgibrilsamadalnasud1222

3 жыл бұрын

Thank god it doesn't exist in Pakistan.

@sage1476

3 жыл бұрын

And what is the solution ? Even if you remove caste and dowry ,women will still marry for wealth and men for beauty snd it can also be vice versa. Just look at rich 80 year old men marrying 30 or 40 something women.

@learncopywriting5623

3 жыл бұрын

@@carymnuhgibrilsamadalnasud1222 Blasphemy, Burqa, 4 Bride marriages, Lack of Female Participation exists there, While India is acknowledging problems and trying to eliminate it, Pakistan on the other hand is in denial to acknowledge the regressiveness in its society under the garb of religion

@user-mv9tg4fe1f

3 жыл бұрын

It's everywhere... Atleast all Asians...

This video is highly researched and very well put, really appreciate the effort you have put into this video , Everything that has been Said is completely true, But I would like to add another point here, I feel there are families of bride who are able to pay dowry, can give cars and flats and what not to the groom and are happy to do it; such practices adopted by these families can also be harmful to society as this again puts pressure on families who are not as well off and are expected to match the same. The abolition of dowry will only work if the families of bride and groom either rich or poor, everyone take part in abolishing this practice.

Even in the absence of dowry, the pressure for the "big fat wedding" always looms over indian families. Everyone knows the financial burdens of big weddings, but nobody wants to ease up on this terrible trend

If dahej is involved, you simply aren't yet capable to get married.

@pranjalthakur7532

3 жыл бұрын

That makes so much sense🙌

@shwetasharma6901

3 жыл бұрын

Most Correct Dowry Theory: Dowry was Given to Bride Because Hinduism is Most Liberal Religion. Our Sages and Old Intellectual wants Equal Contribution From Both Partners and in old times Parents do not live with their Childrens After Marriage. They go to forest for Attaining Moksha.

@shwetasharma6901

3 жыл бұрын

@@pranjalthakur7532 Most Correct Dowry Theory: Dowry was Given to Bride Because Hinduism is Most Liberal Religion. Our Sages and Old Intellectual wants Equal Contribution From Both Partners and in old times Parents do not live with their Childrens After Marriage. They go to forest for Attaining Moksha.

@pranjalthakur7532

3 жыл бұрын

@@shwetasharma6901 Well if it was equal, the groom should be given dowry too, either way it's wrong. Bdw I believe your theory also makes sense. Peace ✌️

@shwetasharma6901

3 жыл бұрын

@@pranjalthakur7532 Peace Bhen. I think you misunderstood or I miscommunicate but i want you to know that Both Families/Parties give Couples their Financials like Bride's Family give Jewelry(etc), Groom's Family give their Property. And I by not means suggest that Dowry in its current form is good.

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."

@PremKumarmj

3 жыл бұрын

That's what this video talks about

@Invincible2203

3 жыл бұрын

Who said that mister?

@pikachuthunderbolt3919

3 жыл бұрын

if we really want to end the dowry . Then its request for guys to avoid and straighly neglect his parents wish to get dowry from girl side. Why not tell them u won't marry if dowry would be case in marriage 😃 if no-one would be there to take it then it would end this practice .

@rishikeshroy619

3 жыл бұрын

Albert Einstein said this 😍

@shwetasharma6901

3 жыл бұрын

Most Correct Dowry Theory: Dowry was Given to Bride Because Hinduism is Most Liberal Religion. Our Sages and Old Intellectual wants Equal Contribution From Both Partners and in old times Parents do not live with their Childrens After Marriage. They go to forest for Attaining Moksha. Pls Stop Defaming India.

So, here is a question to the society, dowry is illegal, but girls and their families expecting a guy to earn huge salary with own house is not, why?

@Aparna-ww7et

5 ай бұрын

Darling, if girls can't get such a groom they can reject the boy. They are not murdering him for not having high salary. Instead women are murdered for dowry

M from northeast haven't heard of dowry system as such there is usually a small amount but it's not done in formal or even recognize as a system

High court judge!! How such highly educated people are so morally corrupt? I hope this ends.

@ririraman7

3 жыл бұрын

And he is retired* I can bet on his judgements to be accurate on all the cases he handled:)

@ayushbhardwaj8849

3 жыл бұрын

IAS ka rate 5 crores hai

@sJ-kv2yt

3 жыл бұрын

@@funkyderek9081 Sahi Kaha Brahman reservation judiciary main isiliye Aisi galat hai . Yahi to merit hai aise hi Nahi croro case pending hai India main . End Brahman reservation in judiciary

@danishh8454

3 жыл бұрын

Aur yahe log dowry kai case mai fasla sunate hai 😂😂😂

@aryanverma8344

3 жыл бұрын

There is a difference between being educated and being civilized Just before you have college degree that does not make you the smartest guy and just because you are school dropper that doesn't make you illiterate

I still remember this when my Social sir asked us in my 7th class that who all will not take dowry raise your hand I proudly raised my hand at that time & I am 23 yrs now Single & I still abide by that 💓

@sneharoy5063

3 жыл бұрын

App ko ladki mili abhi tak 😂😂😂

@anuragbhale5367

2 жыл бұрын

@Sneha Roy woh kaware reh ke dowri pratha khatam karenge, aap unka utsah badhaiye...

@m_1230

2 жыл бұрын

@@sneharoy5063 23 me kyu shaadi karenge?? Career banane me busy hote hai most log aaj kal ladki dhoondne me nahi

Asking Dowry should be matter of shame

Tribal communities had no such evil tradition even in the past. No dowry, No Sati Tradition, No pardah tradition but Child marriage is big problem & still exists in our community. I am a tribal boy from Jharkhand. But due to influence of Hinduism these evil customs crept into our society 😩😭

@mukeshkumarmahato1298

2 жыл бұрын

poor santhal kiddo 😭 all he knows is blaming Hinduism, I'mma santhali too and we're Hindus, don't bring my Dharma into this..... tell me What do you know about Hinduism ?! who started Caste discrimination, Who started dowry.... Go and check out you jack$h!t.... Don't mess with Hinduism !

@user-uz1xg1jp1m

Жыл бұрын

true

In my area, in BENGAL I haven't seen any dowry marriage since 10 years.... Hats off to those activists 💓💓💓

@SK-uq3hr

3 жыл бұрын

Even before that. My parents and aunts also married without dowry. In our generation I doubt any Bengali woman would agree to marry a guy who asks dowry

@subhajitghoshUC

3 жыл бұрын

I second you. Dowry doesn't exist anymore in most Bengali families.

@amanprasad1345

3 жыл бұрын

@@subhajitghoshUC I disagree bcz my Bengali neighbour have got dowry . His surname is munda

@arijitroy9696

3 жыл бұрын

@@SK-uq3hr Most of the bengali women these days are actually working. Further there is a complete different scenario in Bengal as most of the marriages are done within the same social status, so actually the groom stays convinced that the bride he is getting married will provide recurring returns for him and his family.

@kiranvijaysharma5142

3 жыл бұрын

@@SK-uq3hr that's jst so relaxing to hear after all the shit that goes around this country

Look at the personal level, we can acknowledge this FACT and try to Change the opinion of our parents and peers and be sure to call them out for this.

@tara2769

3 жыл бұрын

yes..indian parents especially of a girl are way to emotional. they will say they are giving gift not “dowry” only so that their daughter remains in a happy marriage

@duogala3098

3 жыл бұрын

I have a sister And without dowry no one will marry her because she is uneducated.. What do i do??? Is there any practical solution?

@moviesbay6481

3 жыл бұрын

@@duogala3098 marry her to a less educated man

@ishansharma1920

3 жыл бұрын

why is mohak leaning towards liberal

@lakshmih3353

3 жыл бұрын

@@duogala3098 Bro, what is this obsession with marriage? Why marry?

one positive thing thing that corona did was changing the indian wwedding tradition,where a father lifetime income went in just decoration of one day,this tradition of wedding should continue in india.

thanks mohak, great job of bringing awareness to this issue👏👏

I'm from Jharkhand and I've seen a shift in the mindset of educated families. The females in my family who weren't educated enough got married to guys who were only slightly more formally educated, and gave dowry to their in-laws. However, the educated ones with jobs of their own got married to really intelligent/wise men, and dowry wasn't discussed even once. Weird that there can be so much differences within a single family, just on the basis of education and women empowerment.

@sharanyapaul8932

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly and that's why I feel that's its high time when parents should start spending money on their daughters education and make them independent rather than saving the capital for her marriage.

@icedwater3149

3 жыл бұрын

True even I’ve noticed in my personal life that educated males do not ask for dowry,

@anupamaxo9367

3 жыл бұрын

In Jharkhand tribal culture there was the culture of reverse dowry (bride price which was price equal to 2 oxes) which has feded away now.. now only the parents and relatives gives household items as gifts for the bride for security if the bride will have a nuclear family in future.

@obamabinladen5055

2 жыл бұрын

2 points - 1. earning is not a function of intelligence but stream of work. 2. "Education" doesn't exist in India, only skill development. 99.9% Indians don't know what's education.

@amishasrivastava2995

2 жыл бұрын

Here in Bihar too

This reminds me of that "Made in Heaven" episode 4. "Am not going to pay someone to marry me". That's why we should educate more woman.

@hardeeprajput6564

3 жыл бұрын

We should educate both side. How is the problem going to resolve if only bride side is educated and groom are dumb

@aniruddh732

3 жыл бұрын

@@hardeeprajput6564 yes I totally agree with you 👍

@femmefatale3598

3 жыл бұрын

@Sachin Yadav Start from your sister first.

@hardeeprajput6564

3 жыл бұрын

@@femmefatale3598 you are yadav sister. Will u marry me

@smitra5901

3 жыл бұрын

@@hardeeprajput6564 oh, absolutely! 💯💯

you are actually making good videos which are relevant to the contemporary society. keep it up.

If taking dowry is wrong, then how looking for well settled groom is right which has a government job, owns house good Salary and no in-laws family 😂.

@halocraze9839

Жыл бұрын

Lol you say that like all indian men are rich and independent. But in reality most are still farmers living with parents