I support my mom since I knew how to work at the age of 19. I’m 44 now still supporting her. But I balance how much I can give. I gave her a decent house in the Philippines. I stopped supporting my siblings as all of us has own family na. And I think it is smart to give them wings to fly of their own.😅

It’s good to help financially but not to the extent you become an “enabler” and the people you’re helping become parasites or over dependent when they’re more than capable to be independent. Give them the opportunity to earn & learn.

@strongbelieveroftheholybible

2 жыл бұрын

True

@NorlynCodes

2 жыл бұрын

This is really hard. Because the way the older generations think is so different.

@nanayepol

2 жыл бұрын

Yaaas!!! 👏🏻

Filipinos mahilig umasa sa iba nakakaluwag na fam member..thats a given. The young supports the old. In other country, the parents give their children money, its the other way around

Love your thoughts and opinions about this very sensitive topic.may God will continue to bless you and your family as you continue to inspire us everyday.

Me i was dependent on my single sisters for few years with 3 kids because i was separeted. No job, i prayed hard to God to help me because I do not want to depend on my sisters for very long. True enough God helped me and I was able to pay back on their generosity. Do not be afraid to let go, because it will stop God's blessing to flow on these people through faith and trust, if they do not learn to stand up and depend on God alone to bring out the best in them. They'll never know how good God is if you have no one but God.

We call it here in the US, the “Filipino curse”. This means supporting your family back home. I’ve migrated to the US in 1992. To this day, I’ve supported my mother. I give my mother monthly stipend. I also was able to pay for my nephews and nieces college education. 9 of them. If you ask if I thought twice? NEVER. The money I sent back home are only for the sole purpose of education. Will I do it all over again? Absolutely! To each his own.

@Dines27120

2 жыл бұрын

@ vera ang bait mo pong anak ang tita. Sana tita din kita…

I’m impressed with your decision and I am completely with you. Thank you for sharing.

Happy birthday pretty Rica. Delight your self in the Lord and he will give you the desire of your heart. Good topic. It's nice to know what you said. Me and my husband are supporting our big families for many years. Then suddenly we stopped because we don't like them to always relied on us. Sometimes we still give them. God bless.

A blessed birthday ms. rica, may our creator shower you more blessing,healthy life,and a peace of mind.... continue with your gift of dharing kniwledge to us in the form of social platform.... god bless...

Sobrang nakakarelate ako dito. I just turned 30 last year, even and decided to live with my boyfriend. Before pa kong mag 30, gusto ko na talagang bumukod, dumating talaga sa point na living with my parents is the major reason for my anxiety, madami akong gustong gawin, at laging kontra dun yung nanay ko, lalo kapag alam niyang gagastos ako para sa sarili ko at mababawasan yung bigay ko sa kanya. I was okay before, kasi a very typical eldest child, na pasan mo yung pamilya mo, bread winner, kasi pinag aralan so dapat magbayad, it was a point in my life na pakiramdam ko, sinisingil nila ako sa lahat ng gastos nila sakin, which I know it should not kasi responsibility ng magulang ang anak, and they should nlt expect anything in return, it was sad because hindi na ko masaya sa pagtulong ko sa mga magulang ko, my parents specially my mom became a toxic in my life. She is the typical Asian Mom. She never said thank you for all the things I've done for our family, pero nag papasalamat siya sa kapatid ko, sakin hindi. Madami akong na sacrifice na ginawa to the point that I throw my biggest dream just to become the anak that they expected me to be, until nagising na ko sa katotohanang, sobrang naaa right age na ko, kaya bumukod na ko ng bahay, almost kalahati yung nabawas sa ayuda ko sa kanila, bec my sister ia with them and sa awa naman ng Diyos nagbibigay naman siya, may samaan talga ng loob, madaming masasakit na salita, but I need to do what I need to do. To help myself, as I live away to my parents sobrang dami kong na discover sa sarili ko na sana nadiscover ko when I was a bit younger, but I always trust God sa mga planu niya sakin, until today nagbibigay pa din ako, kahit hindi ko na alam panu mapag kakasya yung maliit kong sahod. We also offer a sari sari store business to our mom in the province pero ang dami niyang dahilan para hindi siya mag open ng business, we are willing to give her money para mapalago niya at least may income siya hindi na kami mag aalala kung kulang man binibigay namin, but she choose to wait for "ayuda" from her daughters, now my younger sister is expecting a baby this year, but she is still obligated to support our parents, while I'm still obligated too kahit wala pa kaming anak ng partner ko. I think, the time will come na pasulpot sulpot na lang yung magiging suporta ko sa parents ko. If I will be blessed with extra money definitely hindi ko pa din sila makakalimutan. Regards on how they treat me.

@An-cy1ll

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you.

@viel-fu2ph

2 жыл бұрын

your mother is selfish. sorry to say but she is.

@anajasminbalazo3633

2 жыл бұрын

naiyak ako dito..

@magenbo5931

2 жыл бұрын

It's like ako ang nagsulat nitong comment mo. You are so brave. Hugs to all breadwinners.

@Dines27120

2 жыл бұрын

teh naiyak ako sa comment mo...its okey to be you.

Love this topic! Great advice & process for family members. 😍

Great advice! Very well communicated!!!! ❤️❤️❤️

thank you maam rica for sharing ur ideas and experiences w/ us.❤️. . GOD BLESS everyone.. 🙏

I like your thoughts when it comes to supporting the family.

It was a nice talk to enlighten everyone about this topic.

Compassion fatigue. That’s it! No more explanation.

no not dishonoring I did the same thing as yours.... kasi nagasawa at nagpamilya nadin ako kaya minsan naman nag aabot ako if needed the most at pang emergency like that I do help naman din kahit sa biyenan ko... pero I need to save all the time for ourselves

You made a good decision. I grew up in a lower middle class since my parents are ordinary government employees. We, their children are just so blessed that our parents do not impose on us, instead, they hardly accept money from us and always say that we have to save our money for our future and kids. They have the principle na, responsibilidad daw nila ang magpalaki at magpa aral sa amin anuman ang kalingan nilang gawin -mangutang man sila, mangsanla man sila o kung ano ano. At yan ay kong manganak daw kami responsibilidad din namin ang aming mga anak. kong may sobra lang tsaka nila ina accept ang aming bigay.This principle is true of parents in the Cordillera Administrative Region, Philippines. In fact, kong kaya pa ng parents dapat mamanahan ang mga anak or bibigyan ng pampuhunan kapag nakipag asawa na sila. I just hope na lahat ng mga parents ay ganyan. Kaming mga anak na nakakluwag naman ay nagpapadala na lang -in kind dahil hanggang ngayon, concerned pa sila na mas kailangan daw namin ang pera para sa mga gastusin he he.

This is a great vlog! Definitely can relate to it.

I LOVE YOU RICA,, THIS IS SUCH A GREAT CHANNEL YOU HAVE CREATED.. SUPER TALENTED AS EVER IN ALL WALKS OF LIFE... CONGRATULATIONS!

Relate much but its hard for me to do that at the moment, but slowly working on it. Kunting push nlng ga graduate na dalawa kung pamangkin at sila naman ang tutulong. 💪🙏🏻💖

Relatable episode. Thank you for sharing your thoughts to us Ms. Rica. 😇#Familyjourneyisreal

Same with me Ms Rica I’m the eldest supporting my fam since I graduated college and naging ofw din ako for almost 10 years ..Since naka bili ako ng bahay yun din ang binigay ko sa mama ko at sya kumukuha ng rent..at the moment occasionally na lang ako nag binigay kasi my 3 sibs can support my parents too.my family na din ako Kaya need to budget.l

This is enlightening! 💙💖 thank u so much Ms. rica! it is true hindi naman burden ang support for the family, it's a joy bec it is a way of service to the Lord as we recognize the authority of the parents over our lives which sources from God yet we also help them by letting them fly out of their comfort zones without too much dependence on us. Ramdam ko ito as a breadwinner kasi on my way to lessening my support for them for the mean time na hindi ko pa muna kaya lahat ulit..bec i use to do it-providing kahit walang wala na😅.. ang hirap naman ideplete ang sarili for everyone's needs and sustenance.. i find myself agitated a lot of the times with no one to carry me and with everyone else na kailangan ko pang buhatin din.. so this vid is on a positive note pa rin and hindi harsh at abrupt kasi family members parin ito. I like it! Pati yung realities and practicality ng sitwasyon nadiscuss! To God be all the glory! Provision doesn't come from us rather we are just instruments of the Lord's financial blessings to our families.. To all the breadwinners out there, the Lord will sustain us💖

@missgui4400

2 жыл бұрын

Dapat kasi nasa in the middle ang pagbibigay. We should only give what we can afford para walang samaan ng loob. Mapipilit ka ba ng nanghihingi kung yun lang ang kaya mo? If yes, it means you are able to give it. Never give too much and out of your will because it will create resentment in the long run.

Well said, Rica.👏👏❤

Thank you Rica for this

Love this.

Yan Dapat ang gawin. Nd Lang hingi nang hingi Dapat tomayo da sarili nilang paa para na totoo. Atleast good that they successful, happy ka Rin makita mo rin sila successful. Good jod

All of us were blessed with stable jobs so we dont support our siblings anymore. As regards to our parents, it is a shared responsibility since they are already senior citizens. We provide food for the table now and they just enjoy their life with us. They dont have have much needs already since they are old and we live in the province. Once in a while we give them money to buy what they want. Our youngest brother pampered them with things that they never had before and we are not jealous about that because he has a better means or source of income abroad. Life is too short to share what we have. What counts most is we are continually showing our love and respect to them before it is too late. Family is family❤️

yung husband ko nahuli ko nagsisinungaling sakin. di nya alam nakita ko ung messages ng gcash ng mga padala nya sa pamilya nya sa cellphone nya. tapos nung tinanong ko sya he lied to me. nalungkot ako grabe. kasi di nagsisinungaling sakin asawa ko ngayon ko lang naexperience to sa kanya. when i asked him bakit nya kailangan magsinungaling sakin kasi daw nahihiya na sya sakin. lalo na daw kasi ang sasama ng ugali ng pamilya nya. ung nanay nya binabash sya sa fb pag ayaw nya magbigay. tapos ung mga kapatid nya nagtatantrums pati ako winawalkoutan..napakababastos talaga pramis!!! ngayon di ko na alam kung nagsisinungaling sakin asawa ko o hindi. grabe minsan naisip ko ano ba tong pinasok ko. parang feeling ko all through our life magiging issue samin tong mga batugan na to.

@missgui4400

2 жыл бұрын

You and your husband need to talk about this issue. If he wants to support his family, he needs to use his allowance (money you cannot have say about). Ganito ang ginagawa namin ng asawa ko kasi we put our salaries in the same accounts, so we have allowances every month para we can use this money for our own stuff at walang pakealamanan.

Thank you for this☺️

I love this topic of you Ms. Rica, Ive learn a lot. Mabuhay po, greetings from Denmark🇩🇰.

lodi, shararawt ja jaja 🤣🎉 make safe everyone 🙏 more power and godbless us all 🇵🇭🇵🇭

I vow to give back to my parents this year. Our plan is to alot a certain amount for our parents and I will give the whole amount maybe every Christmas or a potion of it as bday gift (in cash). Or use the fund to take them on a vacation yearly.

Balik showbiz na lodi hanggang ngayun gling mo parin sa mga host nmiss na kita sa asap sa drama series at sa movies

Happy birthday 🎂🎉 lodi ❤️

I love your top! Where did you buy it Ms Rica? 😊

Happiest birthday Po 🎉🥳🎈🎈I admire you so much🥰. Continue to inspire us. Godbless😇

I don’t think it is right to support siblings financially because we all have our own potentials and journeys in life. Enabling someone to be dependent on you is like a form of abuse by not letting them explore, learn, and build their own character. We all have purposes in life and we must always live to learn new things.

Cant agree more mahirap maging breadwinner sa pamilya

Love yourself first so you can love others more. Help yourself first so you can help others more.💖

Not all situations are the same..may mga parents na very much old na at dedepende na lang talaga sila sa anak,ang tanong dapat ba sila d na sustentohan dahil sawang sawa na sa pag sustento?sa siblings naman ,kung ikaw lang talaga ang nakakaangat sa buhay sa lahat ng magkakapatid,d naman siguro masama kung tutulong ka sa siblings mo at d ibig sabihin nakapende na talaga sa u..kung tutulong ka good, kung wala namang maitulong good pa din.gaya nang sabi ko not all situations are the same..thank u god bless

Supporting is your siblings are giving them the power to take advantage of you. They will never learn to grow and that asking for financially help is the new norm. Magiging tamad sila. So stop who ever is supporting their siblings!! Tell them to get a job and grow up.

I don't have parents na and I have 3 siblings. Yung isa abroad, no family, so most of the time, xa lagi yung nagbibigay sa family from siblings down to his niece/nephews. Until such time na we felt he's not giving na like he used to. When he stopped, my two sisters relied on me instead. I'm the youngest and ever since I started working, I started giving money to my family. Even when I had my first child until now na married na with two kids, whenever my siblings call for help financially, I easily give in. My husband is mabait and he doesn't mind but I know deep inside, he wants me stop so my family can learn and earn on their own. Recently, na approve yung housing loan ni husband and I also decided to get a second-hand car so now, meron na talaga kaming "reason" not to easily give my family money whenever they needed it. I thought about it and yes, you will really feel selfish but you need to face reality especially that your siblings have their own family too. It's their responsibility to feed their kids, not yours - not the selfish kind of way ha. But yes, the guilt is there. Cguro nga kasi you're so used to giving them instantly kaya ngayon, they're feeling na yumayabang ka or what not. I guess my brother also felt this way whe he used to give us everything. He got feedup of being the "ATM" of the family. I now know the feeling, it's not easy but you just need to pray and take it all in and tell yourself that you're doing this so your family can learn. Thank you for this video Ms Rica!

Thank you for this Sis Rica. I am currently on the weaning stage and it's so true na di naiiwasan yung samaan ng loob. But I know that I need to let go of all the responsibilities for now as I also move to a new season of my life. What keeps me going is knowing that this what the Lord wants me to do and this will eventually empower my siblings to discover their potential and cut our family's generational curse of depending on others. Thank you so much for this video ❤️

Sa totoo,wag na wag kayong mag aasawa hanggat d pa kayo tapos sa obligasyon sa magulang ninyo...Unfair kasi pag nag asawa ka na at nagkaron ka na ng sariling pamilya at tumutulong ka pa sa kamag anak mo..

Option: if you have it then go and if you don’t then no ….. sa parents naman it’s not the children obligation to support them But it’s a moral obligation to support them if that’s make sense …

Teach your siblings how to fish...hindi yung sanayin silang sumandal o umasa na lamang sa kapatid na may pamilya na!

Gawa ka din ng video father and daughter at son na kahit meron ng asawa ang mga anak sa father pa din ang support ng gagaling paano ba dapat stop iyon.

Really! Why do that!

Korek. Kasi aasa na Lang Sila. Ako kahit Yung konting income ko Sa DIY projects binigay Ko pa Sa adopted sister. Jobless Ako may work sya. Yung kahit Sinabi nyang Hiram or utang Hindi naman nagbabayad. Ako napapahiya Sa asawa.ko.

Ok na rin naman yung rental ng condo kay mommy mo.

2 Corinthians 12:14

Your siblings are not your responsibility. That is the problem with Filipinos. Grandparents STILL working to support not only their perfectly ABLED and LAZY GROWN children but their grandchildren, too! Your life is your sole responsibility. You only live once. Enjoy life and DO NOT let your siblings enjoy theirs AT YOUR EXPENSE.

Offspring who are Ungrateful to parents will not enter Heaven...

@rachannel6258

2 жыл бұрын

Says who?

@arnieabad7387

2 жыл бұрын

@@rachannel6258 You don't know ??

@la4828

2 жыл бұрын

Corny mo... Utak nasa talampakan.. Sa. Buhay ngayon, kelangan praktikal na tayo.. Naghihirap ka na nga bgay ka pa rin ng bigay... And there is a huge difference between prioritising your responsibilities first than being "ungrateful". Haaaay utak talampak juice kolored.

@strongbelieveroftheholybible

2 жыл бұрын

How about if it’s an evil parents? It never says honor evil parents too.

@applebanana5656

2 жыл бұрын

Don't use it nakakahiya sa Diyos. Imagine ur an offspring with Narcissist parents that cause emotionally abuse through your whole life tapos sasabihin mo Ungrateful to parents will not enter in Heaven. Be realistic naman