Manipulated, insulted, controlled , verbally abused, intimidated, disrespected....now DIVORCED

@olganova3058

Жыл бұрын

blessed to be DIVORCED

@oofyboi5357

3 ай бұрын

unfortunate my mother is too dumb to realize that every single thing applies to her and that my father is a disgusting husband

@ChanalSalazar-yc6wu

Ай бұрын

😢 crazy for someone's child to say that about there mom . Hits home 😢😢

@ChanalSalazar-yc6wu

Ай бұрын

Definitely needed to be reminded of all this ...

@nikicarrie4071

6 күн бұрын

​@oofyboi5357 she's not dumb. Your father is evil .

24:30 "You can't change an abusive man. He has to change himself".

@Coach-Daisy

Жыл бұрын

and most don't want to. Have him arrested and keep on doing it, and escape but don't tell the abuser anything about it and never speak to them ever again.

@betsysimpson318

Жыл бұрын

And that won’t ever happen

@Coach-Daisy

Жыл бұрын

@@betsysimpson318 more reasons to escape and never look back

@hfjjor3681

Жыл бұрын

@@betsysimpson318 What won’t ever happen? 🤔

@veritaslux644

Жыл бұрын

Learn the KJV scriptures and find some real Christlike bible believing loving people (the hardest part) and follow Mathew 18:15-17! God is the only one that can soften hardened hearts, and God works through His disciples! When Gods people follow His word, Gods love works through them and leads abusers to Christ! Like Lundy Bankroft teaches, you need the help of family and friends in your lives, to hold the abuser accountable (Mathew 28:15-17 KJV), and this godly love causes the abuser to see the truth and repent, or causes the wicked person to flee when no one is chasing him! Either way, you are free from bondage of abuse and this is only way to help the abuser to change into a person who can treat others humanly, now or in the future!

This book helped break me out of the "I can fix him, he's a good guy deep down I swear" spell that my abusive ex-husband had me under. I wish I had read it sooner, but I'm glad I have the knowledge now.

This book helped me soooo much after my divorce and has helped me recognize red flags quickly. ❤

My ex got jealous when he saw me talking to my cousin.

This is THE book that helped me escape

@kaystephens2672

Жыл бұрын

Me too. 22 years ago .

@hfjjor3681

Жыл бұрын

@@kaystephens2672 Me in 2015.

I wish I would have read this book 45 years ago.

Wish I would’ve heard or read about this book before my abuser destroyed my life. He plotted everything and I have to stray from scratch. No job no kids no house no nothing. If it wasn’t for my friend I’d be homeless.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789

7 ай бұрын

I’m glad you had your friend. I hope you are free now.

@nikicarrie4071

6 күн бұрын

That's what they want. You to have nothing

It helped in the past and it helps me now. All other approaches are useless.

Why Does he do That ??? Cause he is a Total waste of Space..!

@Coach-Daisy

Жыл бұрын

pretty much. the world would be a much better place without abusive males in it.

@gloriadonahue7241

Жыл бұрын

That just totally cracked me up.

@hfjjor3681

Жыл бұрын

Also, BECAUSE HE *CAN* AND SECRETLY FEELS GOOD ABOUT THAT.

@Ishtanara

Жыл бұрын

Because he’s basically a coward, so he bullies someone that he perceives to be weaker These are really the beta males not alpha Excuse for a man

@happilydivorced3235

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

This book was beautifully written I absolutely love it helped me escape from an abusive man I plan on buying the whole book.

@MichNative01

11 ай бұрын

The book is really good, worth the money.

@SKYCHICK__

4 ай бұрын

This book is trash. It doesn't help anyone. If you left someone who was hurting you, congratulations! I hope he got some mental health treatment for his emotional problems. And hopefully you found true compassion.

@user-dc6wz4dv3l

4 ай бұрын

This book helped me not feel guilty for staying so long, then getting out. It is beautifully written, the conversation style Lundy used he said he learned how to help sooth womens' minds while he gave them little drops of wisdom on each page.

just grateful I was able to see the abuse clearly before I married him

@Ira.1

Ай бұрын

I'm happy for you

I find this to be an excellent bite-size resource for the traits and tactics of an abuser. Thank you.

This is good, but I can't listen to it. It's too infuriating. I've lived it and been around others who were like that and I just can't

I'm so tired of being threatened ,stalked,spied on,slandered and terrorized. I try hard to be good to him. I'm definitely not perfect, but I do stand up for myself and then he plays victim. The thing is that he's really really controlling. It's so discouraged and down. He's been terrorizing me for awhile. Even drugged me against my will. Now I'm worried he will get angrier. He's saying I'm the abuser,but I am only standing up for myself. My other ex and he are working in tandem. Help

@Ishtanara

Жыл бұрын

Help yourself. Get out and do it in secret never threaten an abuser with leaving. Don’t tell him just get out he could disfigure you for life. Or kill you.

@aurora8749

Жыл бұрын

Stalking is so common. If you dont have kids in common gray rock him

@stardustsparkles22

Жыл бұрын

@@aurora8749 yup,gray rocking now. I have accepted that this is going to happen for awhile. The key is to not care, and still be cautious.

@stoft4590

Жыл бұрын

Please find a way to leave as soon as you can. Go no contact with both men. You deserve happiness. You deserve to feel safe. Even living at a shelter is better than staying. Their is hope. Every day away from him will make you strong to get your life started free from the abuse. Just leave today please!

@sonotthatcool

Жыл бұрын

Are you safe now?

Are you in an abusive relationship? Early warning signs. If you’re an adult, then tolerating tiny abuses WILL damage your soul. BUYER BEWARE. Abuse at first sight…RUN.

I hate the most the mood swings they have.

@user-dc6wz4dv3l

4 ай бұрын

That's why they do it. If they don't get a response from you they'll try something else. Their mission in life is to do everything you hate and make you think you're everything you aren't.

@rantsbybobthesnail7496

22 күн бұрын

I agree. It’s like walking on eggshells around my wife. Like …. Damn can you say hi babe . Or I love you for once instead of always finding something to point out I forgot to do. Communication is key.

@jennym007

18 күн бұрын

​@@rantsbybobthesnail7496 This book and subsequent comments are about MALE abuse. The author apparently has information about female abuse, which he says is different and more complex than male abuse, but it's not in this thread of comments or video.

Very easy to read any time of day you can pick it up and open to any page. Lundy has heard the same stories over and over from counseling abusive men each page tells a story similar to your circumstances. It's like a devotional.

I’ve read this book along with Dragonslippers (Rosalind B. Penfold). Both are very compelling and informative.

Right it’s not because you’re not the dream girl it’s because he is entitled me wants power over you.

It was validating to hear this from a male voice. So many just tell us we're garbage.

My abusive ex used this book to abuse me, took trained therapists to save me from it

@juliannar9376

2 ай бұрын

Can you elaborate

@laurelgardner

29 күн бұрын

The book details abuse tactics and what an abuser will GET from their victim as a result (eg. throwing a tantrum about "tone" or "disrespect" whenever you ask them to do the dishes = you stop asking). So it is possible to use it as a manual to abuse, I guess? But just as good a chance this guy got called on his abuse and is calling THAT abuse.

Just ordered.

😮safely exit ladies, atleast those of you who has options i dont yet anyway

Was recommended by a narcissist even though I'm a Straight guy apparently only real men are narcissists

M. C dc. I- zas seui ooou

This is not going to help Me because I AM there aNd i cant get away...

@user-dc6wz4dv3l

4 ай бұрын

Darlin hide the book and pick it up when you can. It's a life saver. You don't having to do anything today. Lundy heals your thoughts process from statements like I can't and he literally changes your mind to I can when I'm ready. Please

@user-dc6wz4dv3l

4 ай бұрын

Try writing everything down, it'll help you understand better what he is doing when you see it written down.

Why does SHE do that ?

@nikicarrie4071

6 күн бұрын

Men are predators. Most women are not

This is what my wife says I am. She’s even listening to this audiobook. I wonder why though. I keep to myself. We barely talk. Or speak to each other. We’re like ghosts in a house. So I don’t know why she says I’m this. I’m not abusive at all. I’d love to love her but she keeps my at a distance. I feel some women who do something wrong in the relationship will tend to make the man out to be a narcissist to make the wrong doing justifiable. I think she’s actually the narcissist for acting like nothing happened. And continuing to throw shade at me. Crazy thing she’s listening to this! Most likely brainwashed by her other wrong doing wife friends.

Oh my goodness, this was my wife and my ex and my mum. Crikeys, I even recognize it in my sister. Thinking about it, it's no wonder so many more men are on the streets, failing school, losing their kids and committing suicide .. no support and being falsely accused as the abuser, which I reckon would make anyone look angry (men tend not to use the tears). It's a terrible thing to promote 'abuse' as a gender issue .. that is antiquated and damaging. Research shows, as men knew anyway, that women are more abusive and instigate physical abuse.

@ijeonu2405

7 ай бұрын

Check the stat. Men are leading

@Hansvhair

7 ай бұрын

Sounds like something hit a nerve. You must be abusive yourself lol

@ffreshfields5211

6 ай бұрын

I am so sorry you went through this. I have also faced horrible abuse, from men and from women too. I do not think abuse is a gender issue. And I do not think this book labels abuse as a gender issue. The therapist so happens to specialise in helping men who are abusive to become better. The same way some people specialise in helping women who are abusive to become better. There indeed needs to be more support for male victims of abuse. However research does not show that women are more abusive. That is incorrect. Please do not aim to make abuse about gender, as you assumed this author of this book was doing as well.

@Space_Cadet13

6 ай бұрын

​@@ffreshfields5211 don't pander to IT. If m3n need more support then other m3n can provide it. It is a patriarchy anyway. This is why wom3n support wom3n. M3n don't.

@elenaf4368

5 ай бұрын

found one lol

This book is half decent advice, and half nonsensical psychological contrivance. If you want to know about the mind of an abusive man, countless men who've abused people in the past have written books where they talk about why and how they did what they did.

@kalui96

Жыл бұрын

I agree. This book was written (self proclaimed to be so) by a "good" person who had a decent childhood. Books written by quite evil people like Mavhiavelli and Hitler are useful in getting a better understanding of abusive people from the perspective of "bad" personalities.

@Coach-Daisy

Жыл бұрын

@@kalui96 that's false and based solely on your opinions because you can't accept the material that exposes abusers . In fact the book is excellent and has helped many women escape.

@Coach-Daisy

Жыл бұрын

Your opinion is your opinion and not the rules of basic human logic. You can clearly see that this book exposes the most common everyday abusive male very adequately and truthful as it gets.

@TheMostBoringGuy

Жыл бұрын

@@kalui96 "bad" personalities??? 6,180,366 people would agree Hitler was a bad personality.

@MCE851

Жыл бұрын

@@kalui96 Lol normie take. Austrian painter guy was actually cool

This guy is a shill.

I'm sorry, but comparing emotional abuse with physical abuse really minimizes physical assault. It's insulting

@yichispiritual

10 ай бұрын

Don’t minimize emotional abuse

@kerrygilsenan6459

10 ай бұрын

I don’t think it implies that physical abuse as minimising..infact you have a lot of both in controlling abusive relationships..emotionally abuse is just as bad as physical abuse

@NanaWilson-px9ij

4 ай бұрын

They are both abuse, just two different kinds. Its natural to compare different things in the same category. Emotional abuse can be followed by physical abuse.....

@banksofchaos93

2 ай бұрын

Only speaking for myself, but I'll take the physical hit over the verbal assault any day of the week. Obviously I shouldn't have to take either but that's not the point. The point is that emotional abuse messed me up worse and took way longer to recover from than the physical abuse.

@nikicarrie4071

6 күн бұрын

It doesn't. It's to show emotional abuse is a specific kind of evil that most people don't recognize as abuse

Abuse is anything women don't like

@alanamcintyre8150

9 ай бұрын

that sentence right there is abusive in nature.

@theopulentone1650

7 ай бұрын

You are an abuser.

@tinaferr

6 ай бұрын

😂 found the abuser (unless you've been abused by a woman...see: covert narcissist. In that case I'm sorry)

@theloquaciouslady

4 ай бұрын

@@alanamcintyre8150 Your comment proves his point. You didn't like his comment so you labeled it abusive, thus validating his sexist opinion. Should have just left it alone. Don't feed the trolls.

@pragmaticpoet

3 ай бұрын

About the same brilliant deduction that one sees from insecure men make of critical feedback being equated as 'hate speech'

This book is 100% trash. Absolutely terrible. Do not recommend!

@julia7200

4 ай бұрын

Why do you not recommend it?

@julia7200

4 ай бұрын

Can you elaborate why exactly? Is there misinformation or are you just an abusive ex-husband who got left because his ex-wife read this book and now you are single and mad? 😂

@ravenraven966

3 ай бұрын

🤔

@wholefoodplantbasedmama5398

2 ай бұрын

This is a guy pretending to be a woman

@milena11570

Ай бұрын

@@julia7200That’s the reason lol