The vampires always want to know why their victims only look healthy and happy after they have stopped feeding on them. 😆🤣
@ronnieking3848
10 күн бұрын
You win the internet with this comment. 🏆
@cookiesandscream832
10 күн бұрын
This comment 👌🦇
@kookie_2178
6 күн бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@unrulymuse
5 күн бұрын
Like how do they not say that and go "Oh, I was the problem. I was ruining her life" how does that question not answer itself?!
@tavilibra7101
3 күн бұрын
So brilliantly put!🎉
@soulfoodsmama298017 күн бұрын
WOMEN GLOW WHEN THEY HAVE PEACE. 💅🏽💕✨
@marryd2nordstrom
17 күн бұрын
period 💯
@MAGICKALSHANTE888
17 күн бұрын
That part !!!!
@Thrivegrl24
17 күн бұрын
This is the one !!!!
@kayshawnsimmons5585
17 күн бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🥰💯
@katcraig7525
17 күн бұрын
This 👆
@lindsayD199517 күн бұрын
Why does he care?! You are divorced. He needs to focus on his own glow up. 😂
@soniapinkney1342
17 күн бұрын
Bullseye 🎯!!!!!!
@thegreylady7797
17 күн бұрын
Facts! But its probably because the grass he thought was greener aint at all, and he thought he would make himself feel better by looking back at his "poor, lonely, frumpy ex" but she's doing great, so he feels stupid 😂
@OGJaquarPrincess
17 күн бұрын
Right lol
@misspriss2482
17 күн бұрын
Nah. Men like this want their wives to look super hot, have all of that energy, and stay and put up with them. I don't think so. Men have no idea how much work and stress they add to a woman's life. It's like they think that a household runs itself and all of their requests/demands/requirements are a pleasure. I mean, you're a woman. What else would you rather be doing? What other purpose does your life have? SMDH. 😒😒
@b6147
17 күн бұрын
😂 He seen his ex and was like 🤦🏽♀️ damn I f’kd up
@tashawilliams809317 күн бұрын
The answer is simple: She got rid of her heavy load.
@212Brittany
17 күн бұрын
Facts…
@kameshiam1674
17 күн бұрын
🤭
@vanessa41044
15 күн бұрын
💯
@BliffleSplick
7 күн бұрын
Her beauty was buried under the bulk of the husband lol
@susanplatt533117 күн бұрын
Because she has the time to. She's no longer looking after a needy man, she's looking after herself.
@sammy420_71
17 күн бұрын
Omg so true
@PandoraBear357
17 күн бұрын
She no longer has someone constantly shaming her for spending money on taking care of herself, her clothing choice, or her makeup.
@user-pn6rd6fv9w
17 күн бұрын
@@PandoraBear357yep they complain when the money is spent for self-care but STILL complain when she doesn’t look up to their standards
@PandoraBear357
17 күн бұрын
@user-pn6rd6fv9w all the guys like the one in the video were probably telling their ex things like "who are you trying to impress" and "you're a mom, you shouldn't be trying to dress like 20 something single" during their marriage every time she did put in effort. Some men strangely have a uniform of respectability they expect their wife to adhere to, but don't find it attractive.
@evaphillips2102
17 күн бұрын
That part right there
@lizzybennett259017 күн бұрын
Because post divorce ex-husbands have mandated child visitation, giving the ex-wife time to rest and exercise. If glow-ups occurred it means that you were a horrible husband.
@stephkais5613
17 күн бұрын
This! Many men actually spend more time with their kids AFTER divorce/breakup because it's court ordered. A judge literally has to make them be the primary parent for a set amount of time. Those weekend visits provide free time for the mom. There were no breaks for mom while in the marriage/relationship.
@alexoceanmeow
17 күн бұрын
This is it lol
@Thrivegrl24
17 күн бұрын
‼️‼️‼️
@afrikurl
17 күн бұрын
My ex doesn’t have mandatory visitation nor does he pay child support. I have my child 100% of the time. I still had a glow up. I lost 55lbs, my skin looks better, my hair is healthier and people keep telling me that I’m aging in reverse. For me, I literally gave my whole self to my marriage and my child. It was not reciprocated and I was in a very low place. After the divorce, I was able to come back to myself after therapy and lots of self development.
@user-pn6rd6fv9w
17 күн бұрын
Yep 50/50 gives her more rest then with him says a lot
@Nessa2Bea17 күн бұрын
Women glow up after the divorce because they no longer have an emotional vampire sucking up their energy 🤣
@noraventura900617 күн бұрын
We glow up, after because we no longer have the dead weight, you men be sucking the life out of us !!
@SmileyAdventures
17 күн бұрын
Exactly! Hence why single and childfree women live the longest out of any group.
@Andromedastarseed444
17 күн бұрын
SAY IT AGAIN!!
@amandasunshine2
17 күн бұрын
They are so draining 😂
@rse432
17 күн бұрын
💯
@FindYourFree
17 күн бұрын
on period
@LisaApril17 күн бұрын
Exactly. If your ex-wife glows up, it means you were a horrible husband!
@arcanineryu17 күн бұрын
How's she supposed to go to the gym every day when she's too busy cleaning up after you?
@theteleisewilliamsexperience
17 күн бұрын
Why are y'all cleaning up after grown men?
@arcanineryu
17 күн бұрын
@@theteleisewilliamsexperience cus if you don't, the weaponized incompetence man will destroy your property and threaten the safety of your children. Because after having lied long enough to convince ya to marry him and have kids, that puts him in a position that's easy to exploit ya because contrary to what incels might tell ya, divorce is actually a pretty time consuming and expensive process, especially with an uncooperative man who has proven to be perfectly willing to lie and screw you over.
@hotandsoursoup2664
17 күн бұрын
Bc no one will lift a finger & the house can only get so dirty before the health dept shows ip
@paperorpaper
16 күн бұрын
@@hotandsoursoup2664 lol this is true!
@LoveK1
16 күн бұрын
@@theteleisewilliamsexperiencethey’re not going to allow a man to make them live in filth!
@amandasunshine217 күн бұрын
They really do not realize how damaging they are to us 🤦♀️
@get_aclue4218
17 күн бұрын
Yes they do they don’t care 🤷🏽♀️
@justacutie5201
17 күн бұрын
Oh they know. They just don't understand why you can't take care of the home, kids, them AND your personal appearance.
@kayshawnsimmons5585
17 күн бұрын
They Do, They just rather have women as Batteries. For male leeching off their energy like a parasite
@IraSol37
17 күн бұрын
Naaaahh, they KNOW. They just love playing dumb! 🙄
@UnsortedSeeds
17 күн бұрын
They do know, and they don't care as long as they get the social capital of those kids they don't take care of. They don't care at all as long as they're happy.
@Gumbier_Than17 күн бұрын
Maybe she can now wear the clothes, wear hairstyles, and do hobbies without being told it's stupid? 👀
@karlevon8305
12 күн бұрын
the truth
@KitanaDenton
9 күн бұрын
Yeah, she can also take care of her actual 2 kids and not a grown ass man child.
@Chosenaire17 күн бұрын
Marriage is a prison sentence if you don't have a partner, but when you have a partner in marriage it is like HEAVEN.
@cacarter6145
7 күн бұрын
True!
@meforever4330
5 күн бұрын
🙏🏽
@amandasunshine217 күн бұрын
I've noticed how good women look when they don't center men 😂
@paperorpaper
16 күн бұрын
I'm going through this right now! A few months post-breakup and I am finally able to get back to my best self.
@ItsMrstoyouboo
11 күн бұрын
I remember before I got with my now husband how I got out of a so called 5 yr relationship and how terrible I looked after. Like id been to war. I lost weight, went celibate, and my happiness and self confidence came back I had fun. Now I'm married and still having fun.
@amandasunshine2
11 күн бұрын
There's something called the gay glow up, women look so much better after realizing they're lesbians and no longer have to deal with men 🤣
@kenyanikkiicampbell562817 күн бұрын
She didn’t like him. She was miserable and now she’s happy and fulfilled. She dropped HIS dead weight!
@enjolique36717 күн бұрын
The fact that he can't figure it out shows the lack of awareness
@wordswithjhardy953
17 күн бұрын
And that he's the problem
@AIBot929
16 күн бұрын
I'm sure he thinks his divorce was not his doing
@enjolique367
16 күн бұрын
@@wordswithjhardy953 Correct
@enjolique367
16 күн бұрын
@@AIBot929 Exactly!
@Butterflier00
15 күн бұрын
@@AIBot929 and if i remember correctly...this guy cheated on his wife...
@toscadonna17 күн бұрын
Nobody ever said I was beautiful until after I got divorced. No weight gain or loss in me before, during, or after the marriage. I just lost all 150 lbs of my ex husband and his thousands of pounds of oppressive, evil, manipulative behavior towards me.
@harajukugrl17 күн бұрын
It's cortisol buildup from stress. Once the stressful relationship is gone, the cortisol will, too. You can't glow up with someone keeping you in the darkness.
@aaabbb8812
Күн бұрын
Exactly!!! Once you calm down, it goes away. Melts off right away.
@kameshiam167417 күн бұрын
After my divorce, I could cook on Sunday and survive on left overs for the rest of the week. I could take naps a few times a week. My house stayed clean. There was no more piss on the back of the toilet because some one didnt have proper aim. I also could be at peace to know that my "man" could not get the opportunity to cheat and give me an STD and my BV cleared up. I was also able to work 2 jobs in peace and save money and not hide it from the greedy "man" who would try to take it. I could also take "cost effective" trips and not have someone try to talk me out of it. I also dont have to suffer in having 3 minutes of the worst sex ever and wishing hot grease would fall on him Life is peaceful now and my hair is growing back.
@biomedlib
13 күн бұрын
Bless you....I hear you. I was thinking, "Hot Grits."🤣🤣🤣🤣
@kameshiam1674
13 күн бұрын
@@biomedlib Oooowwwweeee!
@meforever4330
5 күн бұрын
Well gotdamn.
@jodancer5040
2 күн бұрын
Im so happy you're out of that
@grittyinpink1617 күн бұрын
I got divorced and immediately lost 300 pound of entitled, lazy, whiny, dead weight. Glow up indeed!
@zoeymonet17 күн бұрын
It literally disgusts me when I see m*n happy and healthy in their marriages while I mistake their wives as their mothers!! It's happened so often.
@1amissingno
17 күн бұрын
So many marriages where the man is smug & lazy, meanwhile the wife is exhausted and has health problems from the stress.
@humbleheart2650
17 күн бұрын
Sad😢
@peachluck1050
17 күн бұрын
Agree. I always take a look at the wife to rate the caliber of the man. Decent men make sure the wife is well taken care of. Overweight wife, haggard wife, and/or unkempt wife shows the man is using her as a tool.
@zoeymonet
17 күн бұрын
@@peachluck1050 💯💯💯
@RAJOHN-ke7mc
17 күн бұрын
I worked with a man whose wife looked half dead while he walked his happy ass around looking full of life
@laughingshaman117 күн бұрын
Men think it’s about them no matter what. 😂
@queenlcq7901
17 күн бұрын
This!!!
@Eeppydeepy
3 күн бұрын
“Why weren’t you hot for me when we were married” not “how can I fix myself after this divorce?
@gingersnaps99717 күн бұрын
Women glow up because they find what was lost during their marriages and are happy and free.
@misspriss248217 күн бұрын
It's pretty simple. The stress has been removed and she is no longer looking after an adult-sized toddler. 🙄
@tavilibra7101
3 күн бұрын
😂😂😂😂I love this comment ❤
@nikkilong737717 күн бұрын
We shouldn't have to explain this to the "logical" species.
@Brandy20517 күн бұрын
I literally went from 143lbs when I met my ex husband to ballooning up to 240lbs due to depression, anxiety and insanity from a broken marriage. I’m finally back to 155 lbs after leaving him and steadily losing weight. I’m finally happy and relieved from all of the issues that came with being in that marriage. I was in survival mode everyday and we didn’t even have children together. My skin is clear, my body is stronger from working out, I have mental clarity, my hair is growing out after purging myself of bad food habits and unhealthy living and I’m experiencing living life without the drama of being with an ungrateful, selfish, and uncaring man. I never thought another person could drain so much energy from me.
@toogroovywavey136
17 күн бұрын
Good for you!!! 🙌
@turquoiseturtle9142
17 күн бұрын
Excellent. Peace and blessings to your continued growth.
@boo3152
17 күн бұрын
I’m happy for you and felt this so much
@Merinkous
17 күн бұрын
I'm so happy for you! ❤🎉😊
@Sunny-tc3ul
17 күн бұрын
Yes ma’am they will take you down through there.
@SmileyAdventures17 күн бұрын
The entitlement that men have will never shock me. Our nervous system is back on track and so is our PH Balance, our edges are growing back, our skin is clearing up from stress acne and glowing, we stacking our bread up quicker and on vacations with our girls doing whatever we want without a nagging man waiting at home for us. I’m my best when I’m single because nobody can treat me better than I treat myself.
@jayogee913
17 күн бұрын
And that's why they're pushing the non-working tradwife thing so hard! They want us financially trapped and have no choice but to stay with a man in order to literally not be homeless and starving! I guess good luck to any women who fall for that one! Hopefully it works out for them!
@skarac3224
17 күн бұрын
Even your description of the single girlie peace gave me peace. Males are energy vampires.
@MAGICKALSHANTE888
17 күн бұрын
It’s a wooord!!!! ❤
@nikkilong7377
17 күн бұрын
Girl, that money stacked up what seemed to be like overnight!
@verdad1234
17 күн бұрын
WORD THIS💯
@stilljocelyn_17 күн бұрын
Sooo basically his ex wife is now fine AF 😂☺️🔥
@THErealOGse
17 күн бұрын
Happy for her! You go sis! Lol
@blessedcutie8983
17 күн бұрын
😂 Yep. And he's triggered by that.
@THErealOGse
17 күн бұрын
@@blessedcutie8983 he isn't even that good looking himself
@amilya4u304
16 күн бұрын
😂🤣🤣❤️
@Lulu-wv1nt
14 күн бұрын
Hot AF and is super jealous some other dude will end up with her😂😂
@Rose-kj7rz17 күн бұрын
This happens with non-married people as well. She dropped the dead weight that was holding her back. Men have NO IDEA how exhausting they can be, to be with. All the validation - that takes energy - from the people around them. All the work they refuse to do - that takes energy - from the people around them. They get clingy. Whiny. Jealous. Angry. That all takes energy - from the people around them. I find the only time I HAVE the extra energy to look nice, wear makeup, pursue the hobbies I can afford, and pay attention to my life and my goals, is when I am completely single. Men wear women to the ground. They tear us women down until we are merely an empty shell of ourselves. Bc they refuse to do the work required to be a grown adult. And it's even worse when children are involved. There is NO TIME for ourselves.
@Nbayoungguh17 күн бұрын
Marriage benefits men..divorce benefits women..damn so dont get married is what im getting out of this😂
@get_aclue4218
17 күн бұрын
Bingo
@HISFAVR-ug5kt
13 күн бұрын
👏🏾
@icequeen491
13 күн бұрын
No, marry a person that shares same value and values you against all odds, if you can’t find one then stay single and enjoy your peace and glow ❤
@Nbayoungguh
13 күн бұрын
@icequeen491 I mean ik that..but weather your a man a woman what I've noticed ppl change and switch up during a relationship, I'm not sayn it's right but I also believe not everthing supposed last forever..wen I look at ppl who been married for 20+ years I just think how much they tolerated each other, sometimes ppl be scared to leave and start over thats why they stay so long..I just don't wanna do that.
@kathydurow6814
6 күн бұрын
Statistics say single, no kids women are generally happier than married, with kids. Healthier & wealthier, too. Into retirement. Now, generally may not specifically mean you, but this bears consideration before moving in with a man.
@FireSilver2517 күн бұрын
The last long term relationship I had ended around 2004. He was tall, gorgeous, dressed well, etc but he was still awful. Verbally and psychologically abusive. Narcissistic. When I met him I was doing so well with my jewelry business and looked amazing. I started gaining weight and he lost weight almost immediately. My business faltered. My income went down the tubes. My self esteem went south because of all his negging. Right after we broke up I was 29 but two different people said I looked 40. I went on a self care mission after that. I’m now 48 and people think I’m in my 30s. Some men are good partners but soooo many are parasites.
@ms.boogie813215 күн бұрын
The question he should ask himself is why didn't she glow up IN the marriage?
@txspacemom76517 күн бұрын
Stress...lack of stress from men. I can attest to this. I left my ex and was FINALLY getting 8 hours undisturbed sleep. I ate food I liked and it was not all eaten in 2 days after shopping. I have control of finances and actually have money saved now. No more slamming doors, breaking things on purpose or dealing with weaponized incompetence when it came, to well, everything. Even my fur babies are calmer. I have lost 80lbs, my hair started coming back in and I swear my wrinkles are reduced. Chaos, being unpredictable and unreliable, lying about things and then gaslighting me about them, just being loud and slamming things in general, breaking my items on purpose, hissy fits when he had to do something for himself, never having anyone to take care of me when I was sick but rather, have him bitch and moan and make it harder, complaining about everything I did- that stress is all gone. My space is clean and smells good, there is happiness and peace. I was 49 and looked a bad 65... I am now 50 and people tell me I look barely 40. Imagine that. I can go and get a pedicure and a massage, without someone stomping around because they have to make their lunch or the money issues. If I want to sleep in, or have a Gilmore Gilmore girl marathon, with coffee, snacks and my cats, I don't have someone sitting there, heavy breathing at me and asking me 100's of stupid questions for no reason outside of just trying to disturb me. All those places we were supposedly going to go or all those things you were going to do for me- yeah, I'm doing them myself and enjoying my life, fully! Why are you paying attention NOW? OOPS couldn't be it was your fault!!!!
@Sunny-tc3ul
17 күн бұрын
He sounded abusive. I’m glad things are better for you and the fur babies 🥰
@yesitsthattime
17 күн бұрын
THIS
@crystalducharme939
17 күн бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤
@hotandsoursoup2664
17 күн бұрын
Best answer EVER!!!
@txspacemom765
17 күн бұрын
@@Sunny-tc3ul In a lot of ways, yes. It was mental, emotional, financial for me.
@MissKashira17 күн бұрын
Because she no longer has a 200lbs tumor draining the life out of her.
@one2inV17 күн бұрын
I tried to glow up while the marriage was deteriorating but he kept sabotaging my progress (buying me cookies when i started meal preping, asking if I wanted ice cream or McDonalds french fries everyday, asking why i wasting money at the gym). My husband wanted me to be fat so no one else would want me.
@neawilliams7204
8 күн бұрын
I’m sorry that sound so maliciously…evil. Like wtf 🤬😔. I’m so sorry, don’t let him or anyone stop you. Your power triggers their insecurities and they know it. Keep shining, Angel 💋
@ibabechanel
6 күн бұрын
*ex husband.. ?
@rebeccasmith100817 күн бұрын
Look at him. The nerve. Men please work on yourselves.
Which in return causes anything and everything to happen, hair loss skin problems weight problems and more
@DeiLovelySparxx17 күн бұрын
They know the reasons why. They just want us to say it. They know they're not being helpful/supportive. They know they're being stressful. 😒
@blessedcutie898317 күн бұрын
It's funny and weird that men are supposed to be logical and analytical but can not figure out they were the problem. They were the source of stress and chaos that prevented her glow up during their union. 😅
@thespot203517 күн бұрын
ESPRESSO OPINION: The glow up isn't limited to marriage,even our own male relatives!! After kicking out my male relative who wanted me to baby him yet I was working, letting him stay at mine,and he couldn't even take out the trash without throwing a tantrum or giving the silent treatment. I have since become a picture of success,peace and abundance, it's a complete transcendence!! Men ,(even the said golden retrievers),have incubus energy!!!!
@bunneywolf
17 күн бұрын
Omg, yes!!!!
@latjacmitdye883017 күн бұрын
We glow up after every relationship, cause we just broke it off with the devil, and we can feel joy again. Can't feel joy around men, they'll deliberately destroy it. If you do everything you can to keep your wife unhappy, why would she be looking good and feeling good, cause these two things come together.
@elizabethcartagena-vp5tp17 күн бұрын
Cause men are energy vampires and they suck the life out of us. Once we disconnect from them, we blossom.
@juanita_rocksteady276117 күн бұрын
I was in a relationship in my thirties for a minute. I started smoking again while dating him. I had such anxiety, and my hair fell out from stress. I kicked him to the curb. I bought a house, my hair grew down my back, I went on a cruise, and enrolled in school to get my Master's degree.
@018milliondollarbaby
12 күн бұрын
Sis you are goals! I love every part of your glow-up story (especially the going back to school and going on a cruise.) Sail away into a lifetime of peace and prosperity!
@fburnsDubstepEnderFox16 күн бұрын
Men tend to drain their wives/girlfriends and stress them out... all of that leads to unhealthy weight loss/gain, autoimmune issues, cancer, heart conditions, lethargy, etc. When a woman is free, she heals and starts gaining/losing healthy weight. Her mind isn't cluttered and stressed. 😂
@Goldniz17 күн бұрын
Has he seen himself ???? He should consider getting a glow up himself instead of worrying about his EX
@missyjohnson4370
11 күн бұрын
For real, for real........"Overweight Lover Heavy D" 🤷🏾♀️
@Justlikethat55517 күн бұрын
The shortest answer is the woman is not caring for you anymore so she can focus on herself health etc.
@stephkais561317 күн бұрын
The real question is why woman in bad relationships have a glow down. It's the stress! It's the chronically evelated cortisol. It's the minimal time for self care. It's the double duty of earning money plus doing majority of childcare and house chores. It's feeling the burden of all the responsibilities for years and years. It's the loss of sleep from taking care of babies. It's men being energy vampires. It's the deprrssion from unrealistic beauty standards put on women - like to have a baby but she must snap back to early 20s pre baby body. When a woman is free of a bad relationship, her healing begins and starts looking healthy again. The glow up naturally happens.
@THErealOGse17 күн бұрын
Break ups as well. My ex and I crossed paths at the airport and he couldn't believe what he saw. Suddenly got really friendly. I was like, "do i know you?" I proceeded to go to the lounge and his ass sat by the gate or wherever he went.
@sensimania
17 күн бұрын
Haha! That must've felt good
@THErealOGse
17 күн бұрын
@@sensimania if a vibe can be pristine it was pristine. Oh and I've gotten my law degree, my dream job, a house, 2 cars, a bunch of friends, and my sanity back since I stopped allowing him to waste my time. Decenter men. That's all. If one that's an actual man and a human being comes along, welcome sir. Otherwise I'm good. I have no hard feelings. I wish him well.... away from me. Really keeping my spirit and my psyche clear. I also don't have time to waste my energy on being upset or hating on him.
@sensimania
17 күн бұрын
@@THErealOGse Yasss honey 🙌. So glad you're in a much better place without him 💜
@THErealOGse
17 күн бұрын
@@sensimania ty! Ty! I'm in my Queen 👸 era lol
@AG-iu9lv
17 күн бұрын
@@THErealOGsethrilled for you! ❤
@Serenitie317 күн бұрын
I (32) work retail with younger and older women. I have an equal partner and generally aren't too stressed out. One of the younger woman said "i always forget you have a husband child and whole life" i was confused and asked what she meant. She says "you just seem happy never stressed". That REALLY broke my heart. Her idea of motherhood is stress and being overwhelmed. 😢
@get_aclue4218
17 күн бұрын
It’s not “her idea” it’s the reality of what she is seeing
@strivingtoonedaybeuseful6049
6 күн бұрын
That's my reality as a mother who is chronically ill, depressed and has anxiety. I can barely function. I am truly jealous of people who aren't in my situation
@ILOVESOFE16 күн бұрын
There is a serious shift in the conscience of women. We are realizing that marriage is not the flex that women think it is...at least not for the wife🙄
@Alissandre_Iskander17 күн бұрын
It's always the dudes asking this question that are the problem.
@vanessalewis144917 күн бұрын
It’s simple. A person can get way more done when they only have to focus on themselves.
@tashawilliams8093
17 күн бұрын
💯
@needisaymoore213817 күн бұрын
Because when a limb becomes gangrenous you have to separate from the body before it can thrive😂
@strivingtoonedaybeuseful6049
6 күн бұрын
You cannot grown limbs back.... don't be silly. A severed limb can never thrive. Neither can the stump. It will never return to normal
@tmjewel
2 күн бұрын
"It" referring to "the body"...
@aaabbb8812
Күн бұрын
Yes!!! I remember using that EXACT phrase years ago talking to my mother about relationships. She laughed and thought I was just being dramatic referencing removal of a gangrenous limb and those were my EXACT words to her. Wow!!! 😮
@2232Serena17 күн бұрын
Because she no longer has to look after a 200 pound baby.
@RDCFemmes17 күн бұрын
Now she actually has time to focus on herself
@the_classy_crackhead17 күн бұрын
Women glow up when they are poured into, whether by themselves or their partner. Women who are married that stay extremely beautiful are beautiful because their husbands or partners take care of them and shower them with love, affection, care and tell them how much they mean to them. If a person genuinely loves you, they show how much they value you throughout your entire relationship, not when you’re getting ready to walk away.
@sherrita858217 күн бұрын
Women in relationships always have to be "ON" Men require constant validation, cheerleading, complaining,whether it's work, family,etc..sometimes men intentionally get you fat, especially if the man cooks😂
@monicashine565217 күн бұрын
When she wanted to work out did you accuse her of cheating? Did she dress up one day and you accused her of cheating? When she wanted to go back to school did you accuse her of cheating?
@Breevis2917 күн бұрын
I was with my ex for 8 months. In 8 months I went from a size 3 to a size 9. After we broke up I went back down to a size 3. All he wanted to do was stay at home to eat and have relations. I didn't make time for myself to maintain my weight and appearance.
@barefootedbougie17 күн бұрын
The kicker is this happens in relationships outside/before marriage already. This is how I knew I'm not interested in marriage, because if you're already draining me before we get married - it's going to get worse when we're married.
@reign_1158
17 күн бұрын
This!!!!
@nadiastar626417 күн бұрын
The ultimate glow up is the ultimate revenge
@Risse1417 күн бұрын
We glow up because once you know better you do better.
@biomedlib
13 күн бұрын
Amen......
@cacarter6145
7 күн бұрын
Maya Angelou 👍🏾
@embluvya12 күн бұрын
That one woman who said the door to the relationship is closed is so right. he's upset that she glowed up after him because in some way, he still thinks he has sexual ownership of her and is resentful that she's hot now and he can't have her back.
@Sinderella198717 күн бұрын
Peaceful surroundings. Better sleeping pattern. Lower stress and not to have sugar coat moods and walking on eggshells
@sheneedsmorepolish983417 күн бұрын
Not having to clean up after another person. Who would purposefully mess things up, helps a lot. Also, not letting then drain your light, from the inside out.
@momoangel924317 күн бұрын
"why does she glow up after divorce?" Because while she was with you, you did not help her like a real partner should in a healthy relationship, you sir basically drained her like a human leech, and leave her like a prune emotionally and mentally etc by herself, And didn't help her and even made it worse by complaining about her appearance, and she not doing xyz anymore etc when she was/in a dark place that you basically ignored instead of fixing by going to therapy and putting in effort to listen and helping her, Until it was too late and she left you, and now she actually has time to get help for herself, and no longer has someone like you to make the situation worse by just piling on and not helping when she needed it, Yeah you may not be a mind reader nobody is but you know there was both signs and she probably said something to you, you ignored or thought it was nagging.
@FindYourFree17 күн бұрын
my girl at 4 minutes said it best and simply. they are draining like vampires
@TajMahalFire16 күн бұрын
Women are often HAPPIER ❤. FREEDOM. They no longer have to be forced into being SMALL or hide their IDENTITY. The struggle, strings and control has ended. The woman is now owning her LIFE and can make her own decisions. Good stuff.
@queenreg717 күн бұрын
I always remember a line from the Delany sisters book-the ladies that lived to be over 100 years old and wrote a book and then there was a Broadway play some years ago. People asked them how they managed to live so long and they said, “we don’t have any husbands to worry us to death!”
@ericacosta98717 күн бұрын
Bcause we dropped “ the weight”….
@roxycauldwell54417 күн бұрын
Women drop weight and look good because it takes TIME and EFFORT to look good and change eating habits. Instead of these men genuinely loving women and being ok with some things sliding a little bit in exchange for our time, effort, and love, they're ungrateful. We aren't super heroes, and there are 24 hours in a day. An extra person in our lives takes away the limited time that we do have.
@nicolebustamante31317 күн бұрын
Their resentment for the woman's glow-up tells what type of person this man is. If I'm in a relationship and things end and I see the person has a better life, I'm happy for them! I actually want people to thrive and be happy and I want it for myself. If I feel like I made life worse for my partner I will try to learn from that experience and be better for my next partner (if a romantic partnership is something I want in my life). And I want the ex to be happy because this means I'll have peace, if the ex is in peace they won't be disturbing MY peace!
@crystalscott994817 күн бұрын
Those women are stress free and finding themselves again!
@zanealexanderZA17 күн бұрын
That guy has no self awareness The first woman had it down
@anitra_g_fit560117 күн бұрын
Bc we are less stressed and happier! Only have to worry about ourselves, the child, work, and the bills. Not another person’s issues that you can’t fix! Not having another person around making you feel less than and unloved! ❤️❤️❤️ It’s freeing! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
@jayogee913
17 күн бұрын
💯💯💯! Cortisol is a stress hormone, and it wreaks havoc on your mind and body! Being single is literally life-saving for some women!
@joyfitzgerald9878
17 күн бұрын
💯
@Ccl2tb
17 күн бұрын
Yes, with the wrong person, you start asking what's the point if all they do is compare you to other women anyway. Why try to impress someone who doesn't appreciate it. At least when you're single you are more free to find someone who does appreciate you.
@purevenus635917 күн бұрын
Stress increases cortisol levels. When I was with my ex boyfriend I was gaining weight like crazy while doing nothing in particular different. Since I’ve been single…. I’ve lost over 40 lbs and I’ve done nothing different then when I was with him. It’s the stress that will kill us.
@pryorb98717 күн бұрын
it’s because all the years of her being drained by him finally gets to be poured back into her in every beautiful way possible 🤭 it’s like she’s returning to herself!
@mizzpoetrics17 күн бұрын
Being with my ex was like being in a relationship with a Vampire! Towards the end, I really took a long hard look at myself & realized that I AND our children would be better off without him! EVERYTIME I see my old pictures, I see the unhappiness in my eyes at the time! I've got the sparkle back in my eyes & I refuse to let some buster take it away again!
@user-iu5sv2hf1r17 күн бұрын
Women were too miserable while they were married.
@jayogee91317 күн бұрын
Getting away from a controlling, overbearing, abusive marriage FEELS SO GOOOOOD!! It's like being let out of a mental and financial (and sometimes physical) cage, and you just BLOSSOM! I'm sure men in bad relationships experience this, also. But given that women tend to be victims of abuse at higher rates than men, you just notice it more in women who are set free.
@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwas17 күн бұрын
Because she dropped the extra 90 kilograms of her shoulders 😂the husband
@zedmak16 күн бұрын
-Stress. When when that is gone everything gets better.
@Sunny-tc3ul17 күн бұрын
Because they no longer have dead weight on them. They no longer feel depressed. They no longer are tired. They finally healed and feel better about themselves and feel well rested
@Khadiyah0117 күн бұрын
Wow this is my subject as a woman who has just lost over 40 kg after divorcing one of the worst human beings I’ve ever met in my life It’s because you drown us so much with your emotional baggage and your trauma and your belittlement and bullying that while you’re stepping on us we don’t have the strength to rise up When you are no longer with us if you’re free and we feel light LASTLY THE REVENGE IS SWEET WHEN YOU LOOK SWEETER
@user-jw1bl4hq9j17 күн бұрын
ECAUSE SHE IS OVERWORKED AND TOOK CARE OF EVERYONE BESIDES HERSELF.🤷🏻♀️
@anitra_g_fit560117 күн бұрын
The First Lady was spot on!
@trichmomma17 күн бұрын
My ex-husband was the first type. I didnt glow up so much as I was happier, doing more things that made me happy instead of begging my ex-husband to involve himself with me, our children, and our home. Surprisingly, I haven't had any mental health issues in the six years since my divorce. (While married I was suicidal.)
@mjackson310917 күн бұрын
Why the glow up after leaving the husband or BF; less work, even if they have children, eating better, reduction in bills, having more personal time as they don’t have a king baby wanting someone to fulfill their every need. I had a relative whose BF asked her what she wanted for her birthday. Her fridge had conked out, so she told him she needed a new one. He went to the appliance store and came back with a big screen tv, stereo equipment and speakers. So much for listening to what women want.
@peachluck1050
17 күн бұрын
Love this. What a great story to illustrate the situation!
@dajanarahaseth980915 күн бұрын
Reasons for the glow up, peace of mind, more time to relax and reflect on oneself, by putting yourself first and loving youself. Most important being free of that heavy weight on your shoulders.
@raventhorn928717 күн бұрын
I was in an on again off again, abusive marriage for 7 years. Disabled kicked out of my own home I paid rent and bills for. Was homeless but couch crashing, and good people took me in til I got on my feet and got urgent life saving medical care. The reason why we "glow up" after divorce is because we "leveled up" we pursued our own healing and recovery and it makes us happy and fulfilled.
@eyme29016 күн бұрын
When you’re dealing with a suppressive man in particular, that will suck all the energy out of you. Then when you finally leave him, you end up glowing up because you have all this energy again that you didn’t realize you lost. I just stopped dealing with a man who wouldn’t say out of his mouth that he didn’t want me going anywhere with anybody or making any friends, but his attitude and actions would tell me that he didn’t. I only had peace with him when I was home alone all the time. I felt like a powered-down computer. Now that we’ve stopped talking I feel like myself again. I’m smiling & happy. Never be with a man who makes you lose yourself
@InfoWhores17 күн бұрын
that guy looks sloppy, he should work on himself- starting with a bath
@shakwon61917 күн бұрын
What's funny is, they are disgusting after the relationship ends. Why? Because she's not with you.
@mignalyortiz458917 күн бұрын
I glowed up after my divorce bc the stress from the marriage had me not taking care of myself.
@Lala8985616 күн бұрын
Or because she is not constantly being criticized or belittled by her partner. She is pouring into herself now.
@janomesteve312917 күн бұрын
So many married women are carrying 4 their husbands and children and don't get time 4 themselves
@Butterflier0015 күн бұрын
i like how the last lady put it "because she wanted to" but yeah i think there is a truth to what the other ladies were saying about how she is FINALLY able to put her needs first and how this reflects poorly on to the guy.
@pri.sci.lla.17 күн бұрын
Because you were not worth the effort sir 😂
@kylieking8163
17 күн бұрын
😂
@reneejkd17 күн бұрын
We took our self esteem, feminine power and joy for life back when we kicked the ex out and divorced him!! What better environment for a glow up!! 🌺
@get_aclue421817 күн бұрын
We have more time and less stress 🤷🏽♀️ that’s proof to single childfree women should maintain their status. Don’t date,marry, or have children with them
Пікірлер: 699
The vampires always want to know why their victims only look healthy and happy after they have stopped feeding on them. 😆🤣
@ronnieking3848
10 күн бұрын
You win the internet with this comment. 🏆
@cookiesandscream832
10 күн бұрын
This comment 👌🦇
@kookie_2178
6 күн бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@unrulymuse
5 күн бұрын
Like how do they not say that and go "Oh, I was the problem. I was ruining her life" how does that question not answer itself?!
@tavilibra7101
3 күн бұрын
So brilliantly put!🎉
WOMEN GLOW WHEN THEY HAVE PEACE. 💅🏽💕✨
@marryd2nordstrom
17 күн бұрын
period 💯
@MAGICKALSHANTE888
17 күн бұрын
That part !!!!
@Thrivegrl24
17 күн бұрын
This is the one !!!!
@kayshawnsimmons5585
17 күн бұрын
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🥰💯
@katcraig7525
17 күн бұрын
This 👆
Why does he care?! You are divorced. He needs to focus on his own glow up. 😂
@soniapinkney1342
17 күн бұрын
Bullseye 🎯!!!!!!
@thegreylady7797
17 күн бұрын
Facts! But its probably because the grass he thought was greener aint at all, and he thought he would make himself feel better by looking back at his "poor, lonely, frumpy ex" but she's doing great, so he feels stupid 😂
@OGJaquarPrincess
17 күн бұрын
Right lol
@misspriss2482
17 күн бұрын
Nah. Men like this want their wives to look super hot, have all of that energy, and stay and put up with them. I don't think so. Men have no idea how much work and stress they add to a woman's life. It's like they think that a household runs itself and all of their requests/demands/requirements are a pleasure. I mean, you're a woman. What else would you rather be doing? What other purpose does your life have? SMDH. 😒😒
@b6147
17 күн бұрын
😂 He seen his ex and was like 🤦🏽♀️ damn I f’kd up
The answer is simple: She got rid of her heavy load.
@212Brittany
17 күн бұрын
Facts…
@kameshiam1674
17 күн бұрын
🤭
@vanessa41044
15 күн бұрын
💯
@BliffleSplick
7 күн бұрын
Her beauty was buried under the bulk of the husband lol
Because she has the time to. She's no longer looking after a needy man, she's looking after herself.
@sammy420_71
17 күн бұрын
Omg so true
@PandoraBear357
17 күн бұрын
She no longer has someone constantly shaming her for spending money on taking care of herself, her clothing choice, or her makeup.
@user-pn6rd6fv9w
17 күн бұрын
@@PandoraBear357yep they complain when the money is spent for self-care but STILL complain when she doesn’t look up to their standards
@PandoraBear357
17 күн бұрын
@user-pn6rd6fv9w all the guys like the one in the video were probably telling their ex things like "who are you trying to impress" and "you're a mom, you shouldn't be trying to dress like 20 something single" during their marriage every time she did put in effort. Some men strangely have a uniform of respectability they expect their wife to adhere to, but don't find it attractive.
@evaphillips2102
17 күн бұрын
That part right there
Because post divorce ex-husbands have mandated child visitation, giving the ex-wife time to rest and exercise. If glow-ups occurred it means that you were a horrible husband.
@stephkais5613
17 күн бұрын
This! Many men actually spend more time with their kids AFTER divorce/breakup because it's court ordered. A judge literally has to make them be the primary parent for a set amount of time. Those weekend visits provide free time for the mom. There were no breaks for mom while in the marriage/relationship.
@alexoceanmeow
17 күн бұрын
This is it lol
@Thrivegrl24
17 күн бұрын
‼️‼️‼️
@afrikurl
17 күн бұрын
My ex doesn’t have mandatory visitation nor does he pay child support. I have my child 100% of the time. I still had a glow up. I lost 55lbs, my skin looks better, my hair is healthier and people keep telling me that I’m aging in reverse. For me, I literally gave my whole self to my marriage and my child. It was not reciprocated and I was in a very low place. After the divorce, I was able to come back to myself after therapy and lots of self development.
@user-pn6rd6fv9w
17 күн бұрын
Yep 50/50 gives her more rest then with him says a lot
Women glow up after the divorce because they no longer have an emotional vampire sucking up their energy 🤣
We glow up, after because we no longer have the dead weight, you men be sucking the life out of us !!
@SmileyAdventures
17 күн бұрын
Exactly! Hence why single and childfree women live the longest out of any group.
@Andromedastarseed444
17 күн бұрын
SAY IT AGAIN!!
@amandasunshine2
17 күн бұрын
They are so draining 😂
@rse432
17 күн бұрын
💯
@FindYourFree
17 күн бұрын
on period
Exactly. If your ex-wife glows up, it means you were a horrible husband!
How's she supposed to go to the gym every day when she's too busy cleaning up after you?
@theteleisewilliamsexperience
17 күн бұрын
Why are y'all cleaning up after grown men?
@arcanineryu
17 күн бұрын
@@theteleisewilliamsexperience cus if you don't, the weaponized incompetence man will destroy your property and threaten the safety of your children. Because after having lied long enough to convince ya to marry him and have kids, that puts him in a position that's easy to exploit ya because contrary to what incels might tell ya, divorce is actually a pretty time consuming and expensive process, especially with an uncooperative man who has proven to be perfectly willing to lie and screw you over.
@hotandsoursoup2664
17 күн бұрын
Bc no one will lift a finger & the house can only get so dirty before the health dept shows ip
@paperorpaper
16 күн бұрын
@@hotandsoursoup2664 lol this is true!
@LoveK1
16 күн бұрын
@@theteleisewilliamsexperiencethey’re not going to allow a man to make them live in filth!
They really do not realize how damaging they are to us 🤦♀️
@get_aclue4218
17 күн бұрын
Yes they do they don’t care 🤷🏽♀️
@justacutie5201
17 күн бұрын
Oh they know. They just don't understand why you can't take care of the home, kids, them AND your personal appearance.
@kayshawnsimmons5585
17 күн бұрын
They Do, They just rather have women as Batteries. For male leeching off their energy like a parasite
@IraSol37
17 күн бұрын
Naaaahh, they KNOW. They just love playing dumb! 🙄
@UnsortedSeeds
17 күн бұрын
They do know, and they don't care as long as they get the social capital of those kids they don't take care of. They don't care at all as long as they're happy.
Maybe she can now wear the clothes, wear hairstyles, and do hobbies without being told it's stupid? 👀
@karlevon8305
12 күн бұрын
the truth
@KitanaDenton
9 күн бұрын
Yeah, she can also take care of her actual 2 kids and not a grown ass man child.
Marriage is a prison sentence if you don't have a partner, but when you have a partner in marriage it is like HEAVEN.
@cacarter6145
7 күн бұрын
True!
@meforever4330
5 күн бұрын
🙏🏽
I've noticed how good women look when they don't center men 😂
@paperorpaper
16 күн бұрын
I'm going through this right now! A few months post-breakup and I am finally able to get back to my best self.
@ItsMrstoyouboo
11 күн бұрын
I remember before I got with my now husband how I got out of a so called 5 yr relationship and how terrible I looked after. Like id been to war. I lost weight, went celibate, and my happiness and self confidence came back I had fun. Now I'm married and still having fun.
@amandasunshine2
11 күн бұрын
There's something called the gay glow up, women look so much better after realizing they're lesbians and no longer have to deal with men 🤣
She didn’t like him. She was miserable and now she’s happy and fulfilled. She dropped HIS dead weight!
The fact that he can't figure it out shows the lack of awareness
@wordswithjhardy953
17 күн бұрын
And that he's the problem
@AIBot929
16 күн бұрын
I'm sure he thinks his divorce was not his doing
@enjolique367
16 күн бұрын
@@wordswithjhardy953 Correct
@enjolique367
16 күн бұрын
@@AIBot929 Exactly!
@Butterflier00
15 күн бұрын
@@AIBot929 and if i remember correctly...this guy cheated on his wife...
Nobody ever said I was beautiful until after I got divorced. No weight gain or loss in me before, during, or after the marriage. I just lost all 150 lbs of my ex husband and his thousands of pounds of oppressive, evil, manipulative behavior towards me.
It's cortisol buildup from stress. Once the stressful relationship is gone, the cortisol will, too. You can't glow up with someone keeping you in the darkness.
@aaabbb8812
Күн бұрын
Exactly!!! Once you calm down, it goes away. Melts off right away.
After my divorce, I could cook on Sunday and survive on left overs for the rest of the week. I could take naps a few times a week. My house stayed clean. There was no more piss on the back of the toilet because some one didnt have proper aim. I also could be at peace to know that my "man" could not get the opportunity to cheat and give me an STD and my BV cleared up. I was also able to work 2 jobs in peace and save money and not hide it from the greedy "man" who would try to take it. I could also take "cost effective" trips and not have someone try to talk me out of it. I also dont have to suffer in having 3 minutes of the worst sex ever and wishing hot grease would fall on him Life is peaceful now and my hair is growing back.
@biomedlib
13 күн бұрын
Bless you....I hear you. I was thinking, "Hot Grits."🤣🤣🤣🤣
@kameshiam1674
13 күн бұрын
@@biomedlib Oooowwwweeee!
@meforever4330
5 күн бұрын
Well gotdamn.
@jodancer5040
2 күн бұрын
Im so happy you're out of that
I got divorced and immediately lost 300 pound of entitled, lazy, whiny, dead weight. Glow up indeed!
It literally disgusts me when I see m*n happy and healthy in their marriages while I mistake their wives as their mothers!! It's happened so often.
@1amissingno
17 күн бұрын
So many marriages where the man is smug & lazy, meanwhile the wife is exhausted and has health problems from the stress.
@humbleheart2650
17 күн бұрын
Sad😢
@peachluck1050
17 күн бұрын
Agree. I always take a look at the wife to rate the caliber of the man. Decent men make sure the wife is well taken care of. Overweight wife, haggard wife, and/or unkempt wife shows the man is using her as a tool.
@zoeymonet
17 күн бұрын
@@peachluck1050 💯💯💯
@RAJOHN-ke7mc
17 күн бұрын
I worked with a man whose wife looked half dead while he walked his happy ass around looking full of life
Men think it’s about them no matter what. 😂
@queenlcq7901
17 күн бұрын
This!!!
@Eeppydeepy
3 күн бұрын
“Why weren’t you hot for me when we were married” not “how can I fix myself after this divorce?
Women glow up because they find what was lost during their marriages and are happy and free.
It's pretty simple. The stress has been removed and she is no longer looking after an adult-sized toddler. 🙄
@tavilibra7101
3 күн бұрын
😂😂😂😂I love this comment ❤
We shouldn't have to explain this to the "logical" species.
I literally went from 143lbs when I met my ex husband to ballooning up to 240lbs due to depression, anxiety and insanity from a broken marriage. I’m finally back to 155 lbs after leaving him and steadily losing weight. I’m finally happy and relieved from all of the issues that came with being in that marriage. I was in survival mode everyday and we didn’t even have children together. My skin is clear, my body is stronger from working out, I have mental clarity, my hair is growing out after purging myself of bad food habits and unhealthy living and I’m experiencing living life without the drama of being with an ungrateful, selfish, and uncaring man. I never thought another person could drain so much energy from me.
@toogroovywavey136
17 күн бұрын
Good for you!!! 🙌
@turquoiseturtle9142
17 күн бұрын
Excellent. Peace and blessings to your continued growth.
@boo3152
17 күн бұрын
I’m happy for you and felt this so much
@Merinkous
17 күн бұрын
I'm so happy for you! ❤🎉😊
@Sunny-tc3ul
17 күн бұрын
Yes ma’am they will take you down through there.
The entitlement that men have will never shock me. Our nervous system is back on track and so is our PH Balance, our edges are growing back, our skin is clearing up from stress acne and glowing, we stacking our bread up quicker and on vacations with our girls doing whatever we want without a nagging man waiting at home for us. I’m my best when I’m single because nobody can treat me better than I treat myself.
@jayogee913
17 күн бұрын
And that's why they're pushing the non-working tradwife thing so hard! They want us financially trapped and have no choice but to stay with a man in order to literally not be homeless and starving! I guess good luck to any women who fall for that one! Hopefully it works out for them!
@skarac3224
17 күн бұрын
Even your description of the single girlie peace gave me peace. Males are energy vampires.
@MAGICKALSHANTE888
17 күн бұрын
It’s a wooord!!!! ❤
@nikkilong7377
17 күн бұрын
Girl, that money stacked up what seemed to be like overnight!
@verdad1234
17 күн бұрын
WORD THIS💯
Sooo basically his ex wife is now fine AF 😂☺️🔥
@THErealOGse
17 күн бұрын
Happy for her! You go sis! Lol
@blessedcutie8983
17 күн бұрын
😂 Yep. And he's triggered by that.
@THErealOGse
17 күн бұрын
@@blessedcutie8983 he isn't even that good looking himself
@amilya4u304
16 күн бұрын
😂🤣🤣❤️
@Lulu-wv1nt
14 күн бұрын
Hot AF and is super jealous some other dude will end up with her😂😂
This happens with non-married people as well. She dropped the dead weight that was holding her back. Men have NO IDEA how exhausting they can be, to be with. All the validation - that takes energy - from the people around them. All the work they refuse to do - that takes energy - from the people around them. They get clingy. Whiny. Jealous. Angry. That all takes energy - from the people around them. I find the only time I HAVE the extra energy to look nice, wear makeup, pursue the hobbies I can afford, and pay attention to my life and my goals, is when I am completely single. Men wear women to the ground. They tear us women down until we are merely an empty shell of ourselves. Bc they refuse to do the work required to be a grown adult. And it's even worse when children are involved. There is NO TIME for ourselves.
Marriage benefits men..divorce benefits women..damn so dont get married is what im getting out of this😂
@get_aclue4218
17 күн бұрын
Bingo
@HISFAVR-ug5kt
13 күн бұрын
👏🏾
@icequeen491
13 күн бұрын
No, marry a person that shares same value and values you against all odds, if you can’t find one then stay single and enjoy your peace and glow ❤
@Nbayoungguh
13 күн бұрын
@icequeen491 I mean ik that..but weather your a man a woman what I've noticed ppl change and switch up during a relationship, I'm not sayn it's right but I also believe not everthing supposed last forever..wen I look at ppl who been married for 20+ years I just think how much they tolerated each other, sometimes ppl be scared to leave and start over thats why they stay so long..I just don't wanna do that.
@kathydurow6814
6 күн бұрын
Statistics say single, no kids women are generally happier than married, with kids. Healthier & wealthier, too. Into retirement. Now, generally may not specifically mean you, but this bears consideration before moving in with a man.
The last long term relationship I had ended around 2004. He was tall, gorgeous, dressed well, etc but he was still awful. Verbally and psychologically abusive. Narcissistic. When I met him I was doing so well with my jewelry business and looked amazing. I started gaining weight and he lost weight almost immediately. My business faltered. My income went down the tubes. My self esteem went south because of all his negging. Right after we broke up I was 29 but two different people said I looked 40. I went on a self care mission after that. I’m now 48 and people think I’m in my 30s. Some men are good partners but soooo many are parasites.
The question he should ask himself is why didn't she glow up IN the marriage?
Stress...lack of stress from men. I can attest to this. I left my ex and was FINALLY getting 8 hours undisturbed sleep. I ate food I liked and it was not all eaten in 2 days after shopping. I have control of finances and actually have money saved now. No more slamming doors, breaking things on purpose or dealing with weaponized incompetence when it came, to well, everything. Even my fur babies are calmer. I have lost 80lbs, my hair started coming back in and I swear my wrinkles are reduced. Chaos, being unpredictable and unreliable, lying about things and then gaslighting me about them, just being loud and slamming things in general, breaking my items on purpose, hissy fits when he had to do something for himself, never having anyone to take care of me when I was sick but rather, have him bitch and moan and make it harder, complaining about everything I did- that stress is all gone. My space is clean and smells good, there is happiness and peace. I was 49 and looked a bad 65... I am now 50 and people tell me I look barely 40. Imagine that. I can go and get a pedicure and a massage, without someone stomping around because they have to make their lunch or the money issues. If I want to sleep in, or have a Gilmore Gilmore girl marathon, with coffee, snacks and my cats, I don't have someone sitting there, heavy breathing at me and asking me 100's of stupid questions for no reason outside of just trying to disturb me. All those places we were supposedly going to go or all those things you were going to do for me- yeah, I'm doing them myself and enjoying my life, fully! Why are you paying attention NOW? OOPS couldn't be it was your fault!!!!
@Sunny-tc3ul
17 күн бұрын
He sounded abusive. I’m glad things are better for you and the fur babies 🥰
@yesitsthattime
17 күн бұрын
THIS
@crystalducharme939
17 күн бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤
@hotandsoursoup2664
17 күн бұрын
Best answer EVER!!!
@txspacemom765
17 күн бұрын
@@Sunny-tc3ul In a lot of ways, yes. It was mental, emotional, financial for me.
Because she no longer has a 200lbs tumor draining the life out of her.
I tried to glow up while the marriage was deteriorating but he kept sabotaging my progress (buying me cookies when i started meal preping, asking if I wanted ice cream or McDonalds french fries everyday, asking why i wasting money at the gym). My husband wanted me to be fat so no one else would want me.
@neawilliams7204
8 күн бұрын
I’m sorry that sound so maliciously…evil. Like wtf 🤬😔. I’m so sorry, don’t let him or anyone stop you. Your power triggers their insecurities and they know it. Keep shining, Angel 💋
@ibabechanel
6 күн бұрын
*ex husband.. ?
Look at him. The nerve. Men please work on yourselves.
@get_aclue4218
17 күн бұрын
Exactly he’s a whole unattractive mess
@toscadonna
17 күн бұрын
He’s the one who’s fat.😂
@sabrinagonzales4456
9 күн бұрын
Most never will.
Stress increases cortisol. Cortisol increases insulin. Insulin stores fat
@user-pn6rd6fv9w
17 күн бұрын
Which in return causes anything and everything to happen, hair loss skin problems weight problems and more
They know the reasons why. They just want us to say it. They know they're not being helpful/supportive. They know they're being stressful. 😒
It's funny and weird that men are supposed to be logical and analytical but can not figure out they were the problem. They were the source of stress and chaos that prevented her glow up during their union. 😅
ESPRESSO OPINION: The glow up isn't limited to marriage,even our own male relatives!! After kicking out my male relative who wanted me to baby him yet I was working, letting him stay at mine,and he couldn't even take out the trash without throwing a tantrum or giving the silent treatment. I have since become a picture of success,peace and abundance, it's a complete transcendence!! Men ,(even the said golden retrievers),have incubus energy!!!!
@bunneywolf
17 күн бұрын
Omg, yes!!!!
We glow up after every relationship, cause we just broke it off with the devil, and we can feel joy again. Can't feel joy around men, they'll deliberately destroy it. If you do everything you can to keep your wife unhappy, why would she be looking good and feeling good, cause these two things come together.
Cause men are energy vampires and they suck the life out of us. Once we disconnect from them, we blossom.
I was in a relationship in my thirties for a minute. I started smoking again while dating him. I had such anxiety, and my hair fell out from stress. I kicked him to the curb. I bought a house, my hair grew down my back, I went on a cruise, and enrolled in school to get my Master's degree.
@018milliondollarbaby
12 күн бұрын
Sis you are goals! I love every part of your glow-up story (especially the going back to school and going on a cruise.) Sail away into a lifetime of peace and prosperity!
Men tend to drain their wives/girlfriends and stress them out... all of that leads to unhealthy weight loss/gain, autoimmune issues, cancer, heart conditions, lethargy, etc. When a woman is free, she heals and starts gaining/losing healthy weight. Her mind isn't cluttered and stressed. 😂
Has he seen himself ???? He should consider getting a glow up himself instead of worrying about his EX
@missyjohnson4370
11 күн бұрын
For real, for real........"Overweight Lover Heavy D" 🤷🏾♀️
The shortest answer is the woman is not caring for you anymore so she can focus on herself health etc.
The real question is why woman in bad relationships have a glow down. It's the stress! It's the chronically evelated cortisol. It's the minimal time for self care. It's the double duty of earning money plus doing majority of childcare and house chores. It's feeling the burden of all the responsibilities for years and years. It's the loss of sleep from taking care of babies. It's men being energy vampires. It's the deprrssion from unrealistic beauty standards put on women - like to have a baby but she must snap back to early 20s pre baby body. When a woman is free of a bad relationship, her healing begins and starts looking healthy again. The glow up naturally happens.
Break ups as well. My ex and I crossed paths at the airport and he couldn't believe what he saw. Suddenly got really friendly. I was like, "do i know you?" I proceeded to go to the lounge and his ass sat by the gate or wherever he went.
@sensimania
17 күн бұрын
Haha! That must've felt good
@THErealOGse
17 күн бұрын
@@sensimania if a vibe can be pristine it was pristine. Oh and I've gotten my law degree, my dream job, a house, 2 cars, a bunch of friends, and my sanity back since I stopped allowing him to waste my time. Decenter men. That's all. If one that's an actual man and a human being comes along, welcome sir. Otherwise I'm good. I have no hard feelings. I wish him well.... away from me. Really keeping my spirit and my psyche clear. I also don't have time to waste my energy on being upset or hating on him.
@sensimania
17 күн бұрын
@@THErealOGse Yasss honey 🙌. So glad you're in a much better place without him 💜
@THErealOGse
17 күн бұрын
@@sensimania ty! Ty! I'm in my Queen 👸 era lol
@AG-iu9lv
17 күн бұрын
@@THErealOGsethrilled for you! ❤
I (32) work retail with younger and older women. I have an equal partner and generally aren't too stressed out. One of the younger woman said "i always forget you have a husband child and whole life" i was confused and asked what she meant. She says "you just seem happy never stressed". That REALLY broke my heart. Her idea of motherhood is stress and being overwhelmed. 😢
@get_aclue4218
17 күн бұрын
It’s not “her idea” it’s the reality of what she is seeing
@strivingtoonedaybeuseful6049
6 күн бұрын
That's my reality as a mother who is chronically ill, depressed and has anxiety. I can barely function. I am truly jealous of people who aren't in my situation
There is a serious shift in the conscience of women. We are realizing that marriage is not the flex that women think it is...at least not for the wife🙄
It's always the dudes asking this question that are the problem.
It’s simple. A person can get way more done when they only have to focus on themselves.
@tashawilliams8093
17 күн бұрын
💯
Because when a limb becomes gangrenous you have to separate from the body before it can thrive😂
@strivingtoonedaybeuseful6049
6 күн бұрын
You cannot grown limbs back.... don't be silly. A severed limb can never thrive. Neither can the stump. It will never return to normal
@tmjewel
2 күн бұрын
"It" referring to "the body"...
@aaabbb8812
Күн бұрын
Yes!!! I remember using that EXACT phrase years ago talking to my mother about relationships. She laughed and thought I was just being dramatic referencing removal of a gangrenous limb and those were my EXACT words to her. Wow!!! 😮
Because she no longer has to look after a 200 pound baby.
Now she actually has time to focus on herself
Women glow up when they are poured into, whether by themselves or their partner. Women who are married that stay extremely beautiful are beautiful because their husbands or partners take care of them and shower them with love, affection, care and tell them how much they mean to them. If a person genuinely loves you, they show how much they value you throughout your entire relationship, not when you’re getting ready to walk away.
Women in relationships always have to be "ON" Men require constant validation, cheerleading, complaining,whether it's work, family,etc..sometimes men intentionally get you fat, especially if the man cooks😂
When she wanted to work out did you accuse her of cheating? Did she dress up one day and you accused her of cheating? When she wanted to go back to school did you accuse her of cheating?
I was with my ex for 8 months. In 8 months I went from a size 3 to a size 9. After we broke up I went back down to a size 3. All he wanted to do was stay at home to eat and have relations. I didn't make time for myself to maintain my weight and appearance.
The kicker is this happens in relationships outside/before marriage already. This is how I knew I'm not interested in marriage, because if you're already draining me before we get married - it's going to get worse when we're married.
@reign_1158
17 күн бұрын
This!!!!
The ultimate glow up is the ultimate revenge
We glow up because once you know better you do better.
@biomedlib
13 күн бұрын
Amen......
@cacarter6145
7 күн бұрын
Maya Angelou 👍🏾
That one woman who said the door to the relationship is closed is so right. he's upset that she glowed up after him because in some way, he still thinks he has sexual ownership of her and is resentful that she's hot now and he can't have her back.
Peaceful surroundings. Better sleeping pattern. Lower stress and not to have sugar coat moods and walking on eggshells
Not having to clean up after another person. Who would purposefully mess things up, helps a lot. Also, not letting then drain your light, from the inside out.
"why does she glow up after divorce?" Because while she was with you, you did not help her like a real partner should in a healthy relationship, you sir basically drained her like a human leech, and leave her like a prune emotionally and mentally etc by herself, And didn't help her and even made it worse by complaining about her appearance, and she not doing xyz anymore etc when she was/in a dark place that you basically ignored instead of fixing by going to therapy and putting in effort to listen and helping her, Until it was too late and she left you, and now she actually has time to get help for herself, and no longer has someone like you to make the situation worse by just piling on and not helping when she needed it, Yeah you may not be a mind reader nobody is but you know there was both signs and she probably said something to you, you ignored or thought it was nagging.
my girl at 4 minutes said it best and simply. they are draining like vampires
Women are often HAPPIER ❤. FREEDOM. They no longer have to be forced into being SMALL or hide their IDENTITY. The struggle, strings and control has ended. The woman is now owning her LIFE and can make her own decisions. Good stuff.
I always remember a line from the Delany sisters book-the ladies that lived to be over 100 years old and wrote a book and then there was a Broadway play some years ago. People asked them how they managed to live so long and they said, “we don’t have any husbands to worry us to death!”
Bcause we dropped “ the weight”….
Women drop weight and look good because it takes TIME and EFFORT to look good and change eating habits. Instead of these men genuinely loving women and being ok with some things sliding a little bit in exchange for our time, effort, and love, they're ungrateful. We aren't super heroes, and there are 24 hours in a day. An extra person in our lives takes away the limited time that we do have.
Their resentment for the woman's glow-up tells what type of person this man is. If I'm in a relationship and things end and I see the person has a better life, I'm happy for them! I actually want people to thrive and be happy and I want it for myself. If I feel like I made life worse for my partner I will try to learn from that experience and be better for my next partner (if a romantic partnership is something I want in my life). And I want the ex to be happy because this means I'll have peace, if the ex is in peace they won't be disturbing MY peace!
Those women are stress free and finding themselves again!
That guy has no self awareness The first woman had it down
Bc we are less stressed and happier! Only have to worry about ourselves, the child, work, and the bills. Not another person’s issues that you can’t fix! Not having another person around making you feel less than and unloved! ❤️❤️❤️ It’s freeing! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
@jayogee913
17 күн бұрын
💯💯💯! Cortisol is a stress hormone, and it wreaks havoc on your mind and body! Being single is literally life-saving for some women!
@joyfitzgerald9878
17 күн бұрын
💯
@Ccl2tb
17 күн бұрын
Yes, with the wrong person, you start asking what's the point if all they do is compare you to other women anyway. Why try to impress someone who doesn't appreciate it. At least when you're single you are more free to find someone who does appreciate you.
Stress increases cortisol levels. When I was with my ex boyfriend I was gaining weight like crazy while doing nothing in particular different. Since I’ve been single…. I’ve lost over 40 lbs and I’ve done nothing different then when I was with him. It’s the stress that will kill us.
it’s because all the years of her being drained by him finally gets to be poured back into her in every beautiful way possible 🤭 it’s like she’s returning to herself!
Being with my ex was like being in a relationship with a Vampire! Towards the end, I really took a long hard look at myself & realized that I AND our children would be better off without him! EVERYTIME I see my old pictures, I see the unhappiness in my eyes at the time! I've got the sparkle back in my eyes & I refuse to let some buster take it away again!
Women were too miserable while they were married.
Getting away from a controlling, overbearing, abusive marriage FEELS SO GOOOOOD!! It's like being let out of a mental and financial (and sometimes physical) cage, and you just BLOSSOM! I'm sure men in bad relationships experience this, also. But given that women tend to be victims of abuse at higher rates than men, you just notice it more in women who are set free.
Because she dropped the extra 90 kilograms of her shoulders 😂the husband
-Stress. When when that is gone everything gets better.
Because they no longer have dead weight on them. They no longer feel depressed. They no longer are tired. They finally healed and feel better about themselves and feel well rested
Wow this is my subject as a woman who has just lost over 40 kg after divorcing one of the worst human beings I’ve ever met in my life It’s because you drown us so much with your emotional baggage and your trauma and your belittlement and bullying that while you’re stepping on us we don’t have the strength to rise up When you are no longer with us if you’re free and we feel light LASTLY THE REVENGE IS SWEET WHEN YOU LOOK SWEETER
ECAUSE SHE IS OVERWORKED AND TOOK CARE OF EVERYONE BESIDES HERSELF.🤷🏻♀️
The First Lady was spot on!
My ex-husband was the first type. I didnt glow up so much as I was happier, doing more things that made me happy instead of begging my ex-husband to involve himself with me, our children, and our home. Surprisingly, I haven't had any mental health issues in the six years since my divorce. (While married I was suicidal.)
Why the glow up after leaving the husband or BF; less work, even if they have children, eating better, reduction in bills, having more personal time as they don’t have a king baby wanting someone to fulfill their every need. I had a relative whose BF asked her what she wanted for her birthday. Her fridge had conked out, so she told him she needed a new one. He went to the appliance store and came back with a big screen tv, stereo equipment and speakers. So much for listening to what women want.
@peachluck1050
17 күн бұрын
Love this. What a great story to illustrate the situation!
Reasons for the glow up, peace of mind, more time to relax and reflect on oneself, by putting yourself first and loving youself. Most important being free of that heavy weight on your shoulders.
I was in an on again off again, abusive marriage for 7 years. Disabled kicked out of my own home I paid rent and bills for. Was homeless but couch crashing, and good people took me in til I got on my feet and got urgent life saving medical care. The reason why we "glow up" after divorce is because we "leveled up" we pursued our own healing and recovery and it makes us happy and fulfilled.
When you’re dealing with a suppressive man in particular, that will suck all the energy out of you. Then when you finally leave him, you end up glowing up because you have all this energy again that you didn’t realize you lost. I just stopped dealing with a man who wouldn’t say out of his mouth that he didn’t want me going anywhere with anybody or making any friends, but his attitude and actions would tell me that he didn’t. I only had peace with him when I was home alone all the time. I felt like a powered-down computer. Now that we’ve stopped talking I feel like myself again. I’m smiling & happy. Never be with a man who makes you lose yourself
that guy looks sloppy, he should work on himself- starting with a bath
What's funny is, they are disgusting after the relationship ends. Why? Because she's not with you.
I glowed up after my divorce bc the stress from the marriage had me not taking care of myself.
Or because she is not constantly being criticized or belittled by her partner. She is pouring into herself now.
So many married women are carrying 4 their husbands and children and don't get time 4 themselves
i like how the last lady put it "because she wanted to" but yeah i think there is a truth to what the other ladies were saying about how she is FINALLY able to put her needs first and how this reflects poorly on to the guy.
Because you were not worth the effort sir 😂
@kylieking8163
17 күн бұрын
😂
We took our self esteem, feminine power and joy for life back when we kicked the ex out and divorced him!! What better environment for a glow up!! 🌺
We have more time and less stress 🤷🏽♀️ that’s proof to single childfree women should maintain their status. Don’t date,marry, or have children with them