Why Do We Use Cringey Words for Loved Ones? | Otherwords
From "kitty" to "lovebug," people across the world use very similar type of words for the people they love. What's behind this universal linguistic trend?
Otherwords is a PBS web series on Storied that digs deep into this quintessential human trait of language and finds the fascinating, thought-provoking, and funny stories behind the words and sounds we take for granted. Incorporating the fields of biology, history, cultural studies, literature, and more, linguistics has something for everyone and offers a unique perspective on what it means to be human.
Host: Erica Brozovsky, Ph.D.
Director/Producer: Siyi Chen
Creators/Producers: Andrew Matthews & Katie Graham
Writer: Taylor Behnke
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"Significant Otter" is my favourite.
@lashropa
14 күн бұрын
%100 👍
@solsystem1342
14 күн бұрын
"With a dark side"
@Mariooo57
11 күн бұрын
Did it all for the nookie 😤
@romainvincent7346
10 күн бұрын
@thomasparker6124 Nice one. Here, my Seal of approval.
@gunjfur8633
7 күн бұрын
@@solsystem1342 >:3
My name is Amber and my six year old son often calls me his "precious jewel". Mind you he also called me his "favourite butt cheek" the other day, which is somewhat less flattering
@renatal.129
14 күн бұрын
it's better than least favorite butt cheek
@LindaC616
14 күн бұрын
@@renatal.129😅
@juiuice
14 күн бұрын
lol :J
@B2WM
13 күн бұрын
I'm kinda surprised that they didn't get into the category of Insults of endearment, as TVTropes calls it. Monster Face, Ankle Biter, Trouble, Galoot... We use them mostly for siblings, dogs, and friends, but I certainly use Junkyard Dog for one with the same affection that I call another Baby Giraffe Princess.
@courtney-ray
13 күн бұрын
At least it was the favorite one! 😄
When my son was a toddler, I used to call him my “Tiny Baby”. This shifted to “Tiny Baby Man” as he got a little older. One day, when he was about 10, he told me “That’s MISTER Tiny Baby Man to you.” So now he’s Mr Tinybabyman.
@kimixachi94
11 күн бұрын
i'm for real crying right now ❤❤😭😭😭
Love that multiple languages were featured. It’s remarkable how common patterns are across cultures.
In French, we sometimes use "ma puce" to affectionately refer to a little girl or a daughter. It literally translates to "my flea."
@gabbywillis9746
14 күн бұрын
I love this one! My mum uses it for me too, and choufleur 😂
@sarahwithanhyouheathen3210
14 күн бұрын
Seems slightly derogatory lol 😅
@MerchManDan
14 күн бұрын
@@gabbywillis9746 Ah, "cabbage flower." Pretty!
@gabbywillis9746
13 күн бұрын
@@MerchManDan /cauliflower 😂 it’s funny but quite common
I love how putting Dr. B in a cat cafe brought out a little bit of cutesy-voice in her presentation. Absolutely apropos for the episode 💜
@johnbrisendine2161
12 күн бұрын
Dr. B is such a cutie herself! She is a great presenter.
I call my wife 'Damisela', spanish for 'Damsel'. She calls me 'Damiselo', literally 'Male Damsel'. Lol
@sophiejones3554
13 күн бұрын
KEEPER! ❤
When I had to use a wheelchair in high school, my Spanish teacher called me "princesa" because I took my "throne" with me wherever I went. The nickname stuck around for years whenever we'd run into each other even after I recovered enough to leave my "throne" behind. People couldn't figure out if it was favoritism or a sarcastic diss.
@sagasvensson8920
10 күн бұрын
That is a really sweet way of cheering you up
I absolutely loved the production on this one! Having Erica on sets and out in the world, rather than just against a green screen, brings a lot of dynamism to the video that really elevates it. It comes across with a lot of playfulness (not just because of the kitties!) due to the varying backdrops and the wardrobe changes. I super loved what was done here and want to give a hearty thanks and congrats on all the hard work everyone put in to make this happen! I'm sure this kind of thing can't happen with every video, but I still wanted to share how awesome I thought it was and I would definitely be excited to see it happen more in the future!
@LindaC616
14 күн бұрын
I do, too, and the "man on the street" interviews!
@mitchellmark
14 күн бұрын
This was such a step up and it came outta no where. She is awesome!!!
@quilan1
13 күн бұрын
Aye, completely. Wonderfully playful editing, dress, camera shots, location, etc. They clearly put a lot of effort into this one, and it shows!
Dr Brozovsky is such a lovely linguist and host. The best word wizard there is!
There's also body parts, for lack of a better term. My eyes, my heart, my soul, my life. I guess they also come under valuables... In my friend group we started making fun of this by calling each other my spleen, my liver, my kidney
Mine came from a lame pickup line I used to make him laugh... Everybody carries their cross.
@patrician3821
13 күн бұрын
Did it work? That’s what matters 😂
@MURDERPILLOW.
13 күн бұрын
Give us the nickname but not the pickup line, i wanna try to work ot oit
@coraliepython1291
12 күн бұрын
@@MURDERPILLOW. It was just an overly confident "Hola que tal princessa?!" one time when I picked him up (I'm a small lady and he's tall asf), and so he nicknamed me "Princessa" till this day.
@coraliepython1291
12 күн бұрын
@@patrician3821 Too well I regret, the worst part is that now I'm too used it.
One of my besties calls her kids "kidlets." Also, in older Mexican slang, Mango is used for someone really attractive.
@Alaskan-Armadillo
11 күн бұрын
Mango is still used in Cuba as a way of saying that someone is very attractive
@ethanmckinney203
11 күн бұрын
I believe that "kidlets" is a play on "cutlets," which would connect to "lambchop" as meat-based pet name.
@himanbam
10 күн бұрын
@@ethanmckinney203 Or "piglets" as another baby animal
Loved the "in the streets" cuts. It's awesome when you to describe linguistics from around the world, hearing first hand accounts is that much better. :)
Our parents' pet names for my sisters and me were tinged with a patina of bitterness. My older sister Valarie was called "The Accident" Me and my younger sister Shannon were called "The Other Two Accidents." My homelife was so warm and loving.
@TiggerIsMyCat
14 күн бұрын
🫂
@taylortanner37
14 күн бұрын
Jeez , that's awful. My family joked and called my little brother oops because they found out they were expecting him the day of my dad's vasectomy and they would joke that I ruined their divorce cause they split up for a year then got remarried when my mom was 4 months along with me but we didn't feel blamed for being born. I hope you've built a life with more warmth and love than what you dealt with being called accidents.
@ladykoiwolfe
14 күн бұрын
I'm sorry yours was said so negatively. It didn't have to be.
@bbartky
14 күн бұрын
The siblings of my best friend in high school were more than decade older than him and I heard him called “the accident” by his parents a couple of times. However, they would follow up and then call him “the pleasant surprise”.
@LindaC616
14 күн бұрын
@bbartky as someone who was told by my mom "after Mike (the oldest), you were all surprises", I can promise you that being called "surprise" doesn't necessarily make it any better than being called an "accident". There were two or three years between each of my four siblings and 5 years between the next youngest sibling and myself. I never felt any less loved for it, even though I knew who the real "surprise" had been. Remember Bob Ross- "happy little accidents".
The Morse Code on the banner in the intro stands for PBS.......nice touch.
I just LOVE when Shakespeare's little cartoon appears! Lights up my heart ❤
@Kuwagumo
14 күн бұрын
The de facto mascot of the show lol
I personally think we should bring back "lamb chop"
@jerseygirlinatl7701
14 күн бұрын
Sorry but when I hear 'lamb chop' as a name all I can see is a puppet.
@hannahrobbins1017
14 күн бұрын
Only if they call their partner mint jelly 😂😂
@miseentrope
14 күн бұрын
@@hannahrobbins1017 🤣
@B2WM
13 күн бұрын
It's the nickname that never ends...
@trevinbeattie4888
13 күн бұрын
This is the song that never ends! Yes it goes on and on, my friends. Some people started singing it not knowing what it was, And they’ll continue singing it forever just because This is the song that never ends! Yes it goes on and on, my friends. …
My parents chose "petit poussin en or" for me, which roughly translates to "golden baby chick" lol. It's so interesting to know that languages/cultures around the world love cute, small and expensive things so much they want to name the people who are important in their life after them! Also, the production on this video is chef's kiss! 10/10
Never had too many pet names for my wife. But my pets on the other hand...
@juliadandy6019
14 күн бұрын
Same here! My boyfriend is just his name, the cats on the other hand...
@taylortanner37
14 күн бұрын
I have given up naming pets. After squish the fish , and dogs with the unfortunate names of Squeaker , Puppers and Graceless. Now my kids name the pets ( we have a park near by that people abandon pets in at least once a week so we foster and help rehome our foundlings with family and friends ) and right now we have Big Guy , Dude and Buddy. Apparently my kids also have a penchant for weird names.
@philiplathrop9250
14 күн бұрын
@@taylortanner37 I love squish the fish
@natmorse-noland9133
14 күн бұрын
Same. I use just the standard "hon," "babe," "sweetie," and such for my partners. My cat, on the other hand, has a good dozen pet names, some derived from her name and some are just nonsense syllables.
@taylortanner37
14 күн бұрын
@@philiplathrop9250 . My favorite memory of Squish was my niece asking to kiss the fish. I thought she was going to just kiss the tank glass but no she stuck her face in the water and cause part of treating Squish's side ulcer required handling him he actually swam up to her submerged face and she got to kiss Squish the Fish.
This is an interesting topic. I love the diversity among the interviewees and linguistic examples - it really demonstrates how universal the phenomenon is! Also, I'm going to try to play "familect" in my next game of Scrabble.
The Dutch diminutive suffix -je is used EVERYWHERE, from names to pretty much any noun you can think of. 'Een gezellig huisje' would be a cozy little house, for example.
@LindaC616
14 күн бұрын
Spanish does that with "-ito and -ita". ...Making everything little and "cute".
@psiphyre
14 күн бұрын
Afrikaans does the same with "-(t)jie" or "-ie" (depending on word-final letter); Japanese with "-chan" (mainly); Portuguese with "-ina" & "-ino" (depending on gender). 😊
@LindaC616
14 күн бұрын
@@psiphyre I think Portuguese is -inho,-inha
@psiphyre
14 күн бұрын
Ah! You're right! I forgot the 'h' after the 'n' ... Thanks for that. 👍
@LindaC616
14 күн бұрын
@@psiphyre 👍
Love how you incorporated more languages than just English
I have a friend who calls me "sweetie," "sweetheart," "kiddo," etc. We are not and never have been romantically involved, but it still makes me feel loved, and, specifically, cared for. There's a sense of protection that I think can come from a pet name, too. Reinforcing our social connections can bring a sense of security.
the visuals, cinematography and editing are so nice
The change to include cats, plants, and quick on-the-street interviews was a huge bonus to the production value and the topic!
Meanwhile, in the Southern U.S., a complete stranger might call you "sugar" or "honey".
In my family everyone is "Dork" and I love it
@BenjamintheTortoise
12 күн бұрын
That's hilarious, I love that
Good stuff Dr Brozovsky, love the production on this.
Cat in lap at 8:33 ''Yes, that's all very important, I'm sure... but... hey?! How about some scratchums, please?!""
This is easily one of my favourite Otherwords! Well done to all who put it together!
im loving the setting of this video its so cute! and also this was so interesting i never thought about it till now
I REALLY love this "on the road" format!
In German, the umlout (ö,ü,ä) and maybe chen suffix are used to make words diminutive such as hündchen which is puppy or mädchen for girl
@trillionbones89
10 күн бұрын
Bitte nenne deine Tochter nicht Hündchen.
Beeboo, beebee, lovey, lovebug, babycakes, babes; only her actual name if we're arguing LOL
Wake up babe, there’s a new Otherwords!!!
I can't pay attention to what Dr. B says... I got so distracted by those adorable cats... keep rewinding to listen and forget because those cats are sooo cute!
This man-on-the-street style was perfect for this topic! Love it
I love that this video had some interviews and different settings! Really upped the production on this, I loved it!
First syllable of first name + chan is probably the most common pattern in Japan
This new presentation style is killing it, love it!
7:50 is really speaking to me. time to annoy all of my friends with the nicknames i've learned from this video. I'm not letting alloromantic people have all the fun of cringe terms of endearment
A friend of mine is expecting, and has been calling her future child 'tater tot'. You bet we are going to call that kid tater tot for their entire life 😂.
I love all of your Otherwords videos !! I also love that you did part of this video while sitting amongst cats, and as seen at the end of the video you obviously like cats a lot. More than that, I was waiting for you to bring up the term familects, which you had brought up in a previous video, and you did -- thank you for connecting everything together !! Like always!
Loved the interviews for this episode!
Oh! You're in Austin!! Hello! This was a super interesting episode. I've wondered about nicknames and how they came about. Some interesting Classical facts: a few Greek names that we still use today fall into this category, like Philip, "love", and Melissa, "honey". And a lot of famous Romans are known to us today by their nicknames, because it was REALLY common for names to be repeated in families, so many of them differentiated themselves by their nicknames. For example, Cicero, which means "chickpea" - supposedly his mother called him that and it stuck! Caligula means "little boots," because he would visit his father in the army and parade around in a little soldier's outfit. "Cincinnatus" means "curly haired", "Rufus" means "redhead", "Aquila" means "beak-like nose", "Africanus" is the one who led a successful campaign in North Africa...
The aesthetic of this video is on point, Doc 😚👌
She switched outfits like 10 times throughout the whole video, and all of them were wonderful!
@grf15
12 күн бұрын
She does love big earrings.
been called a senorito when being lazy for a chore 🤣🤣
@benjaminacuna8013
14 күн бұрын
It was the old Spanish for gentleman/dandy
@jonathan0225
14 күн бұрын
@@benjaminacuna8013 yes. But in filipino, youget called senorito/ senorita for being lazy around the house lol
@LindaC616
14 күн бұрын
@@jonathan0225yes, because they are joking about the fact that you act like someone of the nobility, who has servants to clean up after them 😅
@jonathan0225
14 күн бұрын
@@LindaC616 yes. Exactly. Lol
I was beaming this whole video. The biggest smile from ear to ear learning about all of this. With all the things going on in the world right now, this reminded me that at the end of the day we're all human. I absolutely adore this series and am so grateful for new content!! Keep 'em coming 🙏
My brother started calling me one little female goat when we were teenagers. Nobody knows why… in Portuguese it is “Uma cabrita”. Through the years ( about 40 😂) it became “uma”. He is a most beloved brother and I like my pet name a lot. He is the only one who calls me this. People call me Patty or Patinha ( female little duck - in Portuguese Pata). I believe it’s my destiny to be called for animals 😂
Love this episode so much! Everything feels so bubbly and cheerful as it should be according to the topic. Great works !!!
Amazing style from Dr Brozovsky on this one. And super informative as always.
I had a long term roommate I called "babe" despite her being 6 years older than I am. My wife's nephew called her Bibi they think because he heard either her mother or his mother call her Vivi. "V" can be hard to say as a young child. After spending a weekend with one of the nephew or her niece I would call her Bibi for a while. However, we had no 'pet' names in my family. I always kind of wanted one...
Fantastic video! From hearing what people are called to all the kittens, the absolute sincerity of this video was heartwarming.
The editing, effects, and on location shots were top tier
OH SHE'S GOING OUT!!!!
@bernard_6166
14 күн бұрын
SHE'S GIVING PRODUCTION VALUE
Great video!! Love the location and the editing too!
To this day I still don't know what "pusa" that my mom called me means. I asked a bunch of Romanians and they hadn't even heard of it, but the closest we could determine it might've been a dialectal variant if the word for "doll"
@Sonic-ew4mm
13 күн бұрын
In my language that translates to "cat"
@TiggerIsMyCat
13 күн бұрын
@@Sonic-ew4mm Romanian also has that kind of word for cat, but it's pisică. We called our cats that all the time! (Although when it was from Mom they got wary when they heard it because Mom often followed it up by picking them up by the armpits and squishing their faces into her kisses screaming about how she was going to eat them (in the cute aggression way). I'm like Mom, they're hissing and trying to scratch and bite you, they clearly don't like it, and Mom's like I don't care they're so cute)
@sasentaiko
13 күн бұрын
Another commenter here was French and said she was called “Ma puce” by her mom, which means “my flea”. Maybe your nickname was not 100% Romanian?
@deankarasinski1979
13 күн бұрын
or maybe spanish like pupusa
@TiggerIsMyCat
13 күн бұрын
@@sasentaiko Maybe, but the only other language in her family growing up was German. She did also speak Italian, though, but not much once she moved to the US, and that was just an interest of hers, we're not Italian at all, just Romanian (my great grandparents lived during the time of the Austrian Hungarian empire, so they were Romanian, but being on the upper class side they spoke German, first I even think.)
So well made! Loved the production on this one! Interesting patterns across languages! Thx Dr. B & team!
@grahamstone1198
13 күн бұрын
!
These videos are always great, but I'm really impressed by the production quality in this one
oooh I'm loving this new format!!
There’s something really beautiful behind utilizing specific language for those we cherish the most. Entirely reconstructing our sentences and hand-selecting the words we choose JUST to show our love for them. This video made me surprisingly emotional because that’s something extra special- thank you for that!
In Spanish, it's typical to give a family member a nickname based on physical attributes ("flaco", which can be good or bad depending on which country you're in). In the States, though, we're usually discouraged from that. And yet, my sister, who had big ears, got "Zippy" after the stuffed chimpanzees or "Barney" after Barney Rubble. To this day, she will answer to both. I got called Chub Chub
Loved this video, every upload from you guys makes me smile, but this one especially so
Adore this new format!! 😍😍 such an engaging video
I was kinda surprised with the production and it was a good surprise. I liked the outfit and background changes for every category, how they included "on the streets", and hey tiny Shakespeare showed up as well.
Love the production quality on this ep
tamagogata no kao isn't a term of endearment, it's just a description, similar to heart-shaped face in english
@SuperTakkino
13 күн бұрын
Yeah, and with 8 syllables, way too long even if it was a term of endearment 😅. Come to think of it, Japanese doesn't really use much except for the suffixes like -chan, -chin. And the ultimate no-suffix given name!
its fun to see who these type of words are used across languages and cultures also really fun to see Dr. Brozovsky do these type of on the street interviews, also all the cats and animation are really fun
Wow, loved this episode. Loved the interviews and all the pets...
Really loved seeing Dr. B out in the world, and getting to hear from people on the street led to so many interesting stories!
Aside from being a sweet episode, I absolutely loved both the varied locations AND the featuring of street interviews sprinkled throughout the video! The cat cafe (?) was just way too cute & cozy 😭
Such a great episode!! And even more fun to read through the comments on this one, with everyone sharing their pet names 😂😂❤️
Omg I love that the otherwords series is getting more high budget
Loving the multiple locations! A really visually engaging episode. One of my children, Oliver, called himself Bing as a young child. Whilst ‘Bing’ has not survived (he is now in his 20s), derivations of it have… he is called Bealzibubblebing within the family. But the real ‘pet names’ are reserved for my doggos: one of them (Buttercup) is regularly referred to as ‘shidnert’ when she does something really silly. Her sister, Daisy gets ‘daisy cakes’, ‘cakey’, or ‘queen cake’. And my 3 metre python is regularly referred to as ‘my wee man’.
I'm just here to comment on the Texas wall mural and the dozens of Texas mugs.
This video was so fun and cute! I loved the interviews and the various sets.
Going outside and talking to people was not on my 2024 bingo card for Storied, but we love to see the growth.
My husband and I most definitely have our own familect, one that's almost shared with our son BUT not all of it. I'm very fond of making up nonsense words, or mimicking "gibberish" from some of my favorite movies (specifically this started with The Dark Crystal and Aughra's various "words"). So I still do that, towards my husband; there are maybe half a dozen "words" that are just for him. And there are others for my cat, my kid, my brother - not all of them consistent, ha! I've even seen a thing between my brother and his first cousin where words weren't even involved - they were "talking" using percussion against their own bodies, claps and thumping their bellies and such. It was VERY WEIRD but also really quite amazing! People are able and willing to make meaning out of ANYthing!
Early on, this video brought a certain song by THE ARCHIES to my mind - when you were talking about people using terms for sweets to refer to people they care about. Later on, when you talked about people using terms for money to refer to their loved ones, I was thinking about the 1990s X-Men cartoon where Gambit frequently uses the term “Chéri” -- “chér” meaning “expensive” and “-i” being the suffix of posessiveness - basically meaning “my expensive”. I guess that being the French equivalent of “my dear”.
Erica, I love your earrings! This was a great video!
Loved this episode!
Beautiful episode, gj poduction team.
I've never used pet names in my relationships. It just never happend. The most popular pet name in my language is "Schatz"(treasure) and when my colleague said something like "Your first boyfriend is Schatz, your second boyfriend is Schatz, your third boyfriend is Schatz... it kinda loses meaning over time" that really stuck in my head.
I would love to hear you look into the history of diminutives in Australia at some point because over here they're so much more common than a simple term of affection. The -o suffix I also understand was something more common over here which has more recently spread to the rest of the world, eg "arvo" for "afternoon" is a very common Aussie-ism that's been around for longer than my own lifetime! Pretty much any common noun that's more than 2 syllables long _will_ be shortened to 2 syllables with either -ie, -o, or -a tacked onto the end!
I enjoyed this, but was so so distracted by those cute cats 🥰🥰🥰
Excellent video, and I love the cats!
As someone who lives in Austin and is learning Mandarin I thoroughly enjoyed spotting all the Austin landmarks and reading the 汉字 that popped up.
This episode was so fun! Love the attention to detail. Bonus for cats :3
I might have missed some parts of the video while watching the cats... 😀 - Loved it, though!
GULAB also seems to follow the BOUBA KIKI phenomenon
Loved seeing so much of Austin in this video! Love my city 💜
Impressed by the many on-location shots this episode.
Love the change up! Lovely cutie pie of a video. Those teeny tiny iddy biddy props as well.
Dr Shao mei mei, you are such a cutesy pie with your different outfits and backgrounds in this episode.
Great video! Loved the cats. :)
The cuteness is off the charts in this one! My cat is called Kicia which is Polish for Kitty, but I call her about a hundred other things as well including "Miss Whiskers" and "Mrs Meow" 😆
I never knew you were half Taiwanese! It would be interesting to see you make content related to that.
When I see a Dr. B video, I click amazingly fast.