Mad respect sis I'm in my fifties and I still don't know what to do with my 4C hair every time you get a good length it start shedding and breaking off no matter what I do .so with that being said I wear wig on a daily basis work over 90 hours every two weeks I don't have time to babysit my hair can't wait to retire that's when I have the time LOL Mad Respect sis again great video...

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I feel your pain and have experienced the same issues with shedding. I've learned that stretching my hair with elastic bands after conditioning helped reduce the knots that lead to shedding.

@michaeljotoyajackson7294

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia : TELL ME ABOUT IT'S 30 PLUS ➕ 😩 🙄 😒 😫 😪 FOR ME AND STILL COUNTING.....OMGOODNESS. I DID ANOTHER BIG CHOP LAST WEEK. 😥😰😥😢😭

@michaeljotoyajackson7294

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia : PLEASE SHARE AN UPDATE ON YOUR HEALTHY HAIR GROWTH....WILL YOU DAUGHTER OF ZION....?? 🙏 😊 ❤

@mlungisiwright912

2 жыл бұрын

Why do you need long hair? That's the problem the mental problem of still wanting hanging hair of course you could just twist it or plait it but otherwise why does it need to be falling on your neck and shoulders if that is not naturally what it wants to be doing? Once it's clean your good. Other than braid it, twist it, or grow dreads( locs) you don't have to do anything. Just wash it condition it and go forth happy and nappy

@kathleenking47

2 жыл бұрын

Many times, 4c hair would get VERY LONG..even longer than 3b. ..the SHRINKAGE IS REAL 😁 HOWEVER..hotcombs and BLUE MAGIC or other grease,would keep the LICE away. It's a reason blacks NEVER got it Now, with locks and braids, watch out

I,m watching this womam talking about black hair, but cam we take a moment to talk about how BEAUTIFUL AND FLAWLESS HER SKIN IS.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Awww thank you!

@patriciaholiield5365

2 жыл бұрын

I know right

@sharnag6968

2 жыл бұрын

I love her skin and hair she rocks

@a.wilkerson2nd334

2 жыл бұрын

Facts. Pretty chocolate young lady

@6213explorer1

2 жыл бұрын

No kidding. This sista is beautiful!

I am a 50 something Black man. When I was a child in the 60s, I saw my G.mother doing what she had to do. Before I was a teen, I began to help my mom wash her hair. She taught me how to braid my sister's hair. As a Black boy, you cannot grow up in a home with a Black woman and not be aware of what Black women go through with their hair. So it pisses me when Black males make fun of Black women's hair! This is an issue that Black Women should always have Black men's understanding and support. I have never made fun, or looked down on a Black woman because of her hair. Judging each other over hair is bullshit because we did not create the American beauty standards Black working women had to conform to. It pisses me that the only part of the Black hair care industry we control is the service end. Too many people outside of the Black community get wealthy off of Black hair care. We need young Black scientists interested in creating Black hair care products, and responsible entrepreneurs up the supply chain. And we must raise our boys to RESPECT Black women's hair, however she has it when he happens to see it. So as a man, he does not say dumb disrespectful shit that gives permission to people outside of the Black community to do the same.

@temakelly1188

2 жыл бұрын

My heart ❤️ goes out to you with 💕

@floydthompson8668

2 жыл бұрын

@@temakelly1188 Awww.. Thank You Tema, and my heart goes out to you too!

@floydthompson8668

2 жыл бұрын

By the way, I was happy to see Will Smith draw a line in the sand when he smacked Chris Rock. A Black man defending a Black woman over her hair is LONG OVERDUE! I don't follow celebrity gossip, so I don't know any Smith /Rock back story. I do know, men fight in all sports (ABOUT SPORTS) all the time and no one ever says it is a disgrace to the sport, rather, it "shows their PASSION for the sport" is said. It is OPEN SEASON on Black Women, in music, government, corporate America, in our communities, unfortunately in too many homes. I am sick of Black males who don't defend Black women, at least over hair, because we did not create the American beauty standards Black working women had to conform to, and most black boys grew up under a mom having to relax her hair to hold on to a damn job. It is IMPOSSIBLE to love a Black Woman and not know this! Black women deserve to have black men's support over hair, especially if an issue is disease related, which I thought was one objective of Rock's film BAD HAIR, I guess I was wrong. At some point, A MAN must stand on PRINCIPAL, even if it puts everything else at risk! No one but Will knows Jada's pain or struggles, sure she will present strong to the public because of bullshit like what Chris said. Some people said "Will needs help". Nonsense. Will saw his mother abused. He just did and was about to win an award for playing the Williams Sisters father, a strong black man who DEFENDED his girls, which obviously caused introspection in Will. Then in one of the most important events of the Smith's life, in front of the whole world, Chris verbally assaults, of all things, Jada's hair! HE CROSSED A LINE THAT SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN CROSSED! He could have made fun of Will's clothing, rap music, even his ears, and I think Will would have had no problem. But he went after Jada's hair! At that moment, NOTHING ELSE MATTERED, not the award, not his reputation, only his wife! She was assaulted for the world to see, Will responded for the world to see, IT NEEDED TO BE DONE! When Black men allow Black women to be attacked, it teaches everyone outside our community they can do the same! Hopefully, what Will did will set a new standard, DON'T MAKE FUN OF A BLACK WOMAN'S HAIR! Especially when disease is an issue, no one has a damn clue what she may be dealing with. Many comedians think because they are comedians, they have a free pass to hurt people. You can make people laugh without hurting anyone! He smacked him, an "assault", but verbal abuse can be just as, and in many cases MORE abusive than a single smack. Ask any woman or child who has endured years of verbal abuse, and people give them the "sticks & stones" bullshit, as they ponder suicide.

@temakelly1188

2 жыл бұрын

@@floydthompson8668 Everyone has there opinion. I don’t know what’s going on but I heard people say maybe he didn’t know Jada have a disease. If he knew he wouldn’t make a joke about that. I think Will should have talked crap back to him instead of putting his hands on Chris because he didn’t put his hands on Jada

@floydthompson8668

2 жыл бұрын

@@temakelly1188 I agree it wasn't right, but I understand, especially considering the health issue, why he did it. There is a million other things Chris could have joked about Will Smith, why Jada's hair? The award was not even about her. I hear Chris did not write the joke, but he was not obligated to use it, so what was the point. Everyone knows specifically targeted "yo moma" jokes are off limits, "yo wife" "yo children" any family members should be off limits too! Words can go too far. Yes, maybe Will went too far, but so did Chris, and both Chris and Will are human with wives and daughters. BOTH went to far, but only Will and Jada were blindsided live on TV for the world to see. He reacted in the moment with an emotion totally contrary to wonderful emotions they likely had since learning Will would win, for playing the true life story of a Black Sentinel Father. Chris ruined it for the entire Smith family. Will, right or wrong, just responded. The issue of CONFLICT RESOLUTION is common when talking about our black boys. Usually the conversation is about how not to respond. We need to do a much better job at teaching children, especially boys, NOT TO START CONFLICT. Argue a point, YES! But draw the line at agreeing to disagree. I have a friend who raised her son to protect his 2 sisters when away from home. As the girls got older, boys began to say nasty things about them and their mother when the girls did not give these boys the time of day (you know how boys and men get frustrated and ugly when they don't win a girl's or woman's attention), and they would pick fights with the son. At about 12 years old, her son put himself between his mother and her verbally abusive boyfriend. If a boy is raised right, he will try to defend the women he loves, without regard to himself. At the moment Will smacked Chris, he was 100% in defense of Jada's dignity, his own was secondary. And trust me Tema, I agree with you he did not need to smack him. But black boys who are raised right and become good black men, depending on where they live, CONSTANTLY face the challenge of how to protect the women they love. It's not easy, for a boy, or a man. And often involves threats and implications of violence, because unfortunately, that is the only thing some people understand. Will was not only drawing a line in the sand for Chris, but ANYONE. When you love a woman, that's what you do. And as you are saying, there are right and wrong ways to do it.

I think natural black hair is beautiful!

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@ssjbluevegeta7020

2 жыл бұрын

Think? I KNOW, our hair is unique love it protect it

@shanaazabrahams1319

2 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@Plethorality

2 жыл бұрын

it is very beautiful. i can only admire it from afar, but i love it.

@DebbieSmith-pd9fz

4 ай бұрын

Delusional 😅🤣😂

One thing I kinda wish for our community of women, is that we were able to own ALL of OUR hair industry and products. That would bring such a wealth to black women.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Yesssss!!!! It’s a shame that we have to pay other folks for stuff we use. Hopefully it’ll change in time.

@sheilagrayman7147

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. A black women OWNED MONOPOL for our OWN hair PRODUCTS. WE NEED TO OWN THE INDUSTRY. Ms. Wood Dweller, is absolutely right! Our beautiful hair holds the secret to prosperity! There are not even ENOUGH PRODUCTS out there for our magical hair! This industry must be 100 percent BLACK WOMEN OWNED!❤ Our hair is the seed of WEALTH. Our money MUST be invested in our OWNED HAIR PRODUCTS.

@theresakern1687

2 жыл бұрын

We had some brands but people become greedy and when major brands offer a check they jump on it and sells out to the highest bidder. Lisa Price did it with her brand Carol's Daughter. Also the other drug store brand. I cant recall th3 name, but it happens

@traysrealm

2 жыл бұрын

@@theresakern1687 Yes Theresa we always sell out to others for a check.

@rachelmora6227

2 жыл бұрын

You go Girl!

I’m ditching my wigs and taking the time to learn how to take care of my hair from the inside out. I’m super excited about this new journey 💕💕

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! It's a beautiful journey and I know you'll love it the longer you stick with it.

@Shirleyowens383

2 жыл бұрын

There are so many reasons why people wear wigs, one of than are when you get older the hair changes to this light and fly away texture, you can leave out the house and your hair looks fine, and when you get to where you are going it looks a mess, 🙄I keep fighting because sometimes I do want the wig off, But the reason I hate when people speak against wigs is , we don’t know others journey, cancer, alopecia , not enough cash to get it right etc.. so it’s best to do you, each person care for their own head, Don’t compete that’s one of the main problems , just do you!!

@kekemonique7976

2 жыл бұрын

@@Shirleyowens383 ma’am I don’t know why you took what I said out of context, but that’s ok. To clarify, I don’t have anything against anyone else wearing wigs, as it’s none of my business. I stated that I personally got tired of wearing them so I stopped. This is not the place to correct an issue that you clearly created in your own mind. Read to gain an understanding instead of reading to respond. Thanks and have a peaceful and blessed day💕

@Shirleyowens383

2 жыл бұрын

But I was not speaking to you but in general sorry you felt that way

@Shirleyowens383

2 жыл бұрын

You did not Offend me either💁🏾

As a male, seeing this perspective helps me understand more and I wish our black women don’t have to face the world like this… I love women and their natural hair. That’s what makes them beautiful and unique to me.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I'm glad you were able to understand. Please share it with any men you think are willing to listen. I just want the message to get out because we can be so misunderstood.

@lolajoselin7134

2 жыл бұрын

Black men when they say natural hair what they mean is naturally straight or loosely curly hair they don't mean naturally kinky hair!!! So let's be real about that!!! The same way the only part of Africa they find attractive is egypt!!!

@ammarnapata2193

2 жыл бұрын

@@lolajoselin7134 stop the BS if black women with the 4C stood up and accepted their natural hair just like they did in the 60s men would accept it.

@lolajoselin7134

2 жыл бұрын

@@ammarnapata2193 you don't know what you're talking about!!! I am a black woman and I don't have 4c hair black men mostly like me for my hair and my ass!!!! Black Americans are under the yoke of colonialism I live among my people and we practice colorist and where do you think the phrase good hair comes from? Even during the 60s curly from were considered more appealing than kinky ones!!!!

@truth2powermillions400

2 жыл бұрын

@@lolajoselin7134 Wrong!!! When we black men say natural hair, we mean your natural texture. This what we talk about. We rather our women have one inch hair that is healthy. That's it!!! We want YOU, not the YOU that you want, WE SIMPLY WANT YOU!!! there is no excuse, if you actually CARE for what black want.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a cute little fro or a big fro every time I see a black woman with a natural hair I always make it a point to walk up and complement her and tell her how beautiful she looks with her natural hair.

@patriciaholiield5365

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@deborahbeard4664

2 жыл бұрын

That's sweet

@wrestlerx8494

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia I LOVE your hair in this video! Something like that is veryeasy to manage and also looks good. I really think you should keep it around this length but use products if you want to make it softer.I use leave in conditioner and then wear a headband or a wrap to get the edges really soft.

@Plethorality

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia seriously i love natural African hair. it was horrible to hear the little girl's crying because of the tight braiding, when i was in Nairobi.. am Australian, and generally not that familiar with that hair, i just find it beautiful, the same way the beautiful skin and shape variations or African humanity are utterly beautiful. (beauty makes me cry). but Maasai women with natural hair got beaten up.. tribalism and fashion.. not racism. horrible and pointless. i got braids, there, too, but took then out within hours, else i would have gone bald, infact, ten years later, my hair has still not recovered... way too tight! but "normal" for them.. (with terrible long term damage) i struggled to find products that worked for my nordic (mostly.. aussie mix) hair, living over there...just water would have been better! : ) i just hate the way that people... (its a universal problem), hate themselves on any level, for their natural genetic traits! i am over hating my own features.. yeah, suncancers are a nuisance, but that is my skin and climate, and i wear a hat, etc, and get them cut out /burnt off since i waa 12.. still here at 56. humans are beautiful. you are stunning... i hope we all start to appreciate the beauty of, as well is in, variety. both in ourselves, as well as each other... and i hope the rejection wounding heals and stops happening, too. it is unfair, and unnecessary.. anyway, thank you for talking about this. xx

I started wearing a buzz cut and or fade 4 years ago, and it’s the first time I’ve ever been completely happy with my hair. It’s so easy. When I decided to try a wig after wearing short hair for so long, I didn’t feel attractive, or my authentic self. Even the people in my life were like girl don’t ever grow your hair out. Even my dog looked at me strangely when I put on that wig. I never got many compliments until I started shaving my head or wearing a short natural fade. When I wore a weave or wig during modeling auditions I rarely got a call back. Once I shaved the hair do many doors open. I felt like I was in hair bondage for so many years. Now I feel liberated, beautiful, and feminine. I say find what works for you, it’s not about what everyone else thinks about your hair. Besides most men I speak with prefer natural beauty. I actually started attracting more men of all ethnicities once I let go of the weaves, wigs, relaxers, lashes, and long nails. I believed that I needed all that to feel pretty, but it was all due to a warped mindset, believing all the programming from society and culture. I’m so over it!

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you were able to embrace your buzz cut! I can only imagine how carefree it feels.

@kristendrayton

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia thank you! I attempted to grow my hair out a few months ago, but that didn’t work out…it was too much work, so I shaved it again 🤣

@justify798

2 жыл бұрын

@@kristendrayton Me and you are on that same wavelength. I'm actually letting mine grow out for the umpteenth time because now I've found a rhythm I can work with. I agree with you on everything and glad you found your lane and discovered your own hidden beauty. Keep shining, Sis! 🌟👍

@kristendrayton

2 жыл бұрын

@@justify798 thank you love! 🙏🏾😊

@christines1821

2 жыл бұрын

I recently bought a straight headband wig and you would think I would feel more attractive, ummmmm it’s a hard no lol. It’s a beautiful unit but on me I don’t even think I look right honestly. I had heat damage about 8 months ago and I believe it’s 95 percent gone as again you would think because well it’s a looser curl and appears lengthy I’d be happy? Again hard no now fast forward my hair is shorter but I can but it in a decent puff and guess what I feel more confident this way. The only false hair I wear is braids a natural look, and even so I’m out of it in 3 weeks I miss my hair.

Lace front wigs destroy many Black Women edges and tight braids.

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

2 жыл бұрын

Once in Harlem, I went to this braiding Shop where the braider braided my hair so tightly, a whole entire braid ( with my hair in it ) came off of my edges and left me with a bald spot! This has happened to me a couple of times. I remember being angry with the braider, but then I faced myself and said "but why do you even need these extensions at all?" and it took me on a whole journey. I learned to feel beautiful without hair extensions, and this year, I've made the choice to not wear them at ALL. I feel great wearing my hair out all day everyday, and it's finally growing when I set it free!❤️

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, not braids but tight braids.

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

My mom is a hair stylist and I have worn braids, extensions etc my whole life. It’s how it’s done that will make you loose hair. My hair has was to my but as a kid and I keep it just under bra length now. She showed me and my sister how to protect our hair. I wear it natural sometimes but braids are my go to. She’s not a tight braider though and she’s also worked in an African shop which was rare to see an American woman working in those shops in the early 90’s. She still has faithful clients till this day. She helped my cousin grow her hair back when her mom relaxed her hair at 3 years old and left the relaxer in so long it burned through my cousins scalp. It’s still patchy where the follicles were damaged but no one can tell because the rest of her hair was healthy and thick.

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

I seldom wear wigs though. Those joints will take out your edges if you’re not careful.

@NoName-sp5dp

2 жыл бұрын

I've never had that problem with wigs. Yall need to stop using strong glue. Glue to secure it from the wind not a hurricane

10 years ago I started saying "this generation would soon see a significant increase in women going bald". Hair grows from the roots - the scalp. It is a living thing which needs to be taken care of with care. Best way to handle natural hair ? Leave it the heck alone. Not meant for chemicals or overly handling (stress). Wash it with a baby shampoo every two weeks - no more. Oil the scalp with baby oil, Vaseline or something that moisturizes the scalp. Never spend a lot of money on products. Expensive products are not better than cheap products. All contain the same ingredients. Braid if you want, not too tight. Tight braiding, crown rolls is the biggest reason for losing hair. Does a plant grow if you pull the roots out ??? Run a hot comb thru it if you want. However, get to know YOUR hair and what works best for YOU. I'm 73 years old with a head full of hair. Why ? I love and respect my hair. Hair grows from the scalp. Massage and keep scalp moisturized. If you really want a style that you can't have with natural hair - wear a wig. So much better than torturing your hair and scalp. God did not make a mistake. He did not give Black women the "wrong hair". We have beautiful , natural hair that other people should try to imitate. We don't have to look like any other race. Be thankful for your natural beauty and treat you hair with the love and tenderness you treat your babies.

@deniseedodson1938

2 жыл бұрын

@@leej1759 Vaseline and baby oil (few chemicals) will never make anyone's hair fall out. People need to review any pills or medicines that may be interacting with one's own body chemistry. If hair falls out it may not be what is on the body but what is within the body. Stress, nerves, lack of vitamins could also cause hair to fall out. Each person has to take the time to investigate. Seek medical assistance if all else fails.

@aleeshak9897

2 жыл бұрын

Do not use baby oil or vasoline if you want your hair

@deniseedodson1938

2 жыл бұрын

@@aleeshak9897 It was the only thing used by generations of Black woman who retained thick, long hair well into their 80s. "To each his own."

@43cassy

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

@philtoner2621

10 ай бұрын

Wash every two week's, 🤢🤮 DISGUSTING

When I was a teenager in the 70's my black friends used to just grow it out and call it an Afro. I often wondered why the girls and the boys stopped wearing them, they looked fabulous.

@lonnahunter3388

2 жыл бұрын

Do you remember in the 70s white people started getting perms to try to get the fro look ?

I started with wigs after an autoimmune condition caused hair loss. I hated wearing wigs and refused to wear them every day because I think they are hot and uncomfortable. After my hair grew back in enough I gladly quit. I didn’t find them addictive at all. I think your hair is gorgeous. Looks healthy and thick.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Let them stare! Love your hair! It took a long time for me to get to this place in my life. The self hate, comes from centuries of other people telling BW and girls what grows from them is "BAD." "It's not good enough." Well, I refuse to live like that! I'm done burning my scalp, ears and sweating to death under a damn wig. Let them stare. Any guys who don't like me, for the hair I have, that naturally grows to the heavens. Just jump in a lake, because you are absolutely blind for not seeing my greatness.

@mousepumpkin7564

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for writing this. I needed to read this today.

@bitter_truth7314

2 жыл бұрын

When did we officially let jealous people trick us out our inner bag it's so odd nowadays to see recessive beings tell indenigenus people their not good enough and most of melaninated women felt for it they have hollow hair like come on it's so obvious they're haters it's right in our face why all the hair products in these immigrants stores extremely toxic we are programmed to see their jealousy as something as other than what it's truly is.

@greengoddess6355

2 жыл бұрын

@@bitter_truth7314 It's mainly the BM who tell us that we are not enough, when they seek out non-black women and pedestalize everything that is opposite of us. In response, BW want BM to be attracted to us. Also, BW are mostly not allowed to wear our natural hair in the work place. For all of these reasons, BW have become insecure. It's a new day! Own your authentic beauty BW!

@chiselednatty

2 жыл бұрын

Facts; one can appreciate this comment. Stay confident and beautiful 🤩. From 3A-4C is the new exotic!

@chrisballard5743

2 жыл бұрын

It's not the guys that our telling our women to use relaxers and wear hair weaves and wigs, it's your fellow BW let's be real. The majority of BM tell BW they love the natural look, just as we wear our hair natural. The " good hair" narrative comes from BW. When you see ppl ogling over a person's hair, it's the BW. How many times have you heard a BW call another BW a " nappy headed ho". Or see a mixed baby and the first thing they say is " oh they got that good hair". Men don't care about a woman's hair honestly, we'll talk to a sista wearing a bonnet out in public if we really interested. The hair weave industry is a billion dollar industry due to BW hating on other BW.

I don't understand the "our hair is to fragile to wear" crap. I wear my hair everyday. I use regular towels and wear sweaters all winter. My hair hasn't fallen out yet. I also do my niece's 4c hair weekly and her hair is longer than mine. She plays outside, other little kids pull on it, put dirt in it and it's still growing like crazy. None of our hair products cost over 7 bucks. It doesn't take expensive products just consistency. I was always taught you take care of what you love✌🏾

@justify798

2 жыл бұрын

...and there it is.

@clarity2974

2 жыл бұрын

That's you. My hair tangles and breaks easily.

@KM-oy5yh

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

@SimoneBrown

2 жыл бұрын

All 4c hair is not the same, hair comes in combinations: Length/Density/Porosity/Elasticity/Texture/Curl Size/Strand Diameter. Then a person's genetics and health plays a role. My hair is very fine, tightly coiled and high porosity, it breaks very easily and I can't use a comb so it takes me HOURS to detangle and style it.

@OHoneyPot

2 жыл бұрын

This right here❣️❣️❣️❣️

I don't understand the big deal!!! Why is everyone so concerned with how black women wear their hair!!!! White women have been straightening, curling coloring and wearing wigs and pieces for centuries and nobody makes an issue of it!!!!

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Trust, we wish it wasn’t a big deal either lol We’re dealing with centuries of us being told our natural hair isn’t good and that we should cover it or straighten it.

@lifeis2171

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia agreed

@stellawilliamson1693

2 жыл бұрын

Lola don't think about what white people do we are talking about black people hair. When people of color says they like their hair as is what ever 4 c is you go far it. How ever you wear your hair is your business but it is truthfully nappy kinky and ugly I am not lying

@thecolorrainbow1828

2 жыл бұрын

I know one thing, my family is from the Caribbean and lived in a mostly black society, we don't live by what white people think. I do my hair the way I do bc it's quicker and more convenient and I personally like it straight. I think you should be able to wear your hair however you want without judgement. If you can color your hair a different color if you want, cut your hair short if you want, or even go bald if you want, that is your personal choice.

@stellawilliamson1693

2 жыл бұрын

Who in the hell cares about what white people do to their hair we are talking about 3 people natural hair it's ugly if you don't style it.my friend

It so refreshing hearing an honest discussion about this topic to many people try to convince themselves it’s a protective style, when really it’s a huge insecurity. Does anyone find it weird that a majority of black women wear the hair of another race or synthetic hair 24/7 365 days a year. Imagine if most white women wore Afro wigs every day. A lot of black women wear fake hair for years without showing their own hair then claim it’s a protective style……. Like what is the point if your not going to wear it out…..I think there is power in numbers if most black women wore their natural hair or natural texture weaves it would be normalized and appreciated. People can’t break you if you show that your proud of who you are in droves. It gives non black people and mixed people more arrogance when they see us emulate what they have naturally.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! We're dealing with years of self image issues but because we've been labeled as "strong black women", a lot of people find it weird for us to be vulnerable or insecure. Black hair is a lot to maintain but the more we style it and see it on other women, we can learn how to do right by it and learn to love it.

@Iheartdolls4ever

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia very true even when you have decided to love yourself it gets lonely when everyone else is trying to convince you that there is something wrong with the way your hair grows out of your head.

@prettybrowneyez29

2 жыл бұрын

@@Iheartdolls4ever so true I do both, I may wear my wigs,braids for a time ,then ill let my hair breathe,and be free for a while .then back covered again.

@Dr.Sharron

2 жыл бұрын

Perhaps for some people but not all.

@vibe2248

2 жыл бұрын

Don’t put mixed ppl in your nonsense. That’s not even on a lot of mixed ppl’s radar trust me.

I'm relaxed and my hair is the healthiest and longest it's ever been! Deep conditioning, long relaxer stretches, leaving lots of texture when relaxing has made all the difference for ME. You have to do what's right for you. Peace and blessings!

@sandraneal7665

2 жыл бұрын

Although the relaxer treated my hair well. My concerns came with what they were doing to my body. They don't mix well with medication which unfortunately I'm bound to for life. I do love my hair in it's natural state I can twist and go.

@Tinnyyyy

Жыл бұрын

This video is about natural hair.. why are you here ??

@Tinnyyyy

Жыл бұрын

Women trying to embrace their natural texture and you coming telling us about a creamy crack?? Chile gone and take them chemicals with u

As a black woman, I sometimes feels that we spend too much time obsessing about black women wearing weaves, extensions, wigs, etc. Black hair is complicated for many obvious reasons. I stopped perming my hair 27 years ago, and I either press and curl my hair the old-fashioned way if I want it to be straight. However, since I started martial arts years ago and swimming on a regular basis, I mostly wear braid or twist extensions. For me, it is just more convenient for me not to have to worry about my hair and spend time messing with it everyday in order to be able to swim and practice martial arts. There is so much more to me and other black women besides how we choose to wear our hair.

@thecolorrainbow1828

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Thank you! It's the judgements without understanding for me. Then even other races want to judge our hair and what we're doing with it.

@evaj5937

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Worth and hair are not synonymous!

@chocolatedrop925

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@queenprincess4life

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾

@cr0wsnest

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! My hair is to my waist and is hardcore 4c, maybe even 4d. But if I swim everyday AND have to go to work, I wear it under a wig. (Working from home i just keep it in French braids) Other ethnicities wear wigs and extensions or get away with going outside with crazy unkempt hair, people just look for excuses to put us down

The universal key to natural hair is moisture and protein. Once you find your balance you will be fine.

Once black women realize the spiritual significance of our hair and the power it holds, we’ll then understand how important this conversation is.I appreciate this vid sis ♥️.

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I was telling my little cousins not to long ago that when my mom or their moms or other women in their families braid their hair it’s a bonding experience and very spiritual. It’s a ritual. My moms not a tight braider either so it’s healthy too. We detangle, plat, wash, condition, dry with without the heat section by section, braid, and oil. It’s a process of self care and one of the ways we show love for each other. I still help my grandmother take her old styles down. She does the cleaning and moisturizing and my mom styles it again.

@autumxxleaves4186

2 жыл бұрын

Yup we need a new hair culture

@van182

2 жыл бұрын

Claudio Berko...Our hair holds absolutely No power. 1Peter 3:3-4 "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather it should be that of your INNER self, the unvading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in the sight of God". 1Samuel 16:7 "God does not see as man sees, man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart".From a biblical stand point, references to hair must be kept in context and culture. A woman with long hair and a foul mouth, is not pleasing to God. Our culture puts emphasis on outward appearance to generate revenue . Many minorities are compromising their beauty and self worth due to the remnants of slavery and the dehuminization of blacks.

My hair has been in two strand twists for about 6 months. The growth has been amazing and my hair is finally healthy from root to tip.

@blessedfromtx.1910

2 жыл бұрын

Was ur hair twisted for 6 consecutive months, or did you ever take it down to shampoo at times?

@saunee8119

2 жыл бұрын

@@blessedfromtx.1910 I wash and retest it every few weeks depending on how it is doing.

@blessedfromtx.1910

2 жыл бұрын

@@saunee8119 Thanks for responding 🙂

My mom has many faults, but she took wonderful care of my sister and I’s hair growing up and always told us how beautiful it was. She discouraged us from getting relaxers and didn’t allow it until we reached high school. My sister and I are both natural again and have been for more than a decade. I have nothing but absolute love for my hair and my mon deserves a lot of the credit for that.

@Dr.Sharron

2 жыл бұрын

Why not just love your mother. You started off by saying your mother has faults. I am certain you were not a perfect child.

@Honeyfaced1

2 жыл бұрын

@@Dr.Sharron Did you pull a muscle with that reach? I’m so tired of trolls twisting other people’s words to try to make them mean something they weren’t intended to. I said what I said, I won’t apologize for it or try to justify it. Take your nonsense somewhere else.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad your mom instilled hair love in you and your sister! That's one of the first things we learn to love.

@Honeyfaced1

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia 😊 Thanks sis. I agree.

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

2 жыл бұрын

That's wonderful. I will be just like your mom one day with my future children!

I love this video. And praying that my thin grey hair grow back even in the bald spots due to Thyroid and Anna genic alopecia. Stay blessed and safe sis👑👑👑💕💕

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you and praying for your new growth!

@mzsista2728

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you sis. Blessings to you and your family 🤗❤️❤️❤️

Mikaelia, let me tell you this - I'm fare skinned with sandy hair, but I've always admired you, black girls, for your natural beauty. You get the looks and you have people wanting to touch your hair because you look so beautiful. Your hair, for us, is like that of a baby doll, it's just unreal, because we don't have that, it is too cute and precious! Your beauty is so unique, don't you ever try to change that, or cover that, or ignore that, just be yourselves, the way God created you🌹🌹🌹

@Plethorality

2 жыл бұрын

yes!!!

In college, had a black girl in my class. (UK) we're a white area mostly. She used to wear wigs etc. They were obvious and ugly, but we dare not say anything. Then one day, she came to class in her natural beauty. It was like Cinderella's big ball gown of curls. All the white guys were looking.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experience! I'm sure it took a lot for her to wear her hair out. There's no telling why she covered it. It could be as simple as maintenance or as complex as insecurities.

@storyvi9530

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia I noticed in the video how black men don't like 4C hair despite having it themselves. But I do know one thing, white guys like it, when it's taken care of. I'd like to see more white men with black women personally. Help stops them from being brainwashed online into being racist. I think black women have the power to change the world for better, just embrace yourselves.

@dblack8956

2 жыл бұрын

@@storyvi9530 so you take the opinion of one clueless black young man and claim all black men don't like 4c hair just so you can justify your lust for white men?

@katzwhite5962

2 жыл бұрын

@@dblack8956 Its not one clueless black man. A lot of Black guys and men do not like Black women. They don't like the kinky hair or the dark skin. They want their light skin mixed girls with wavy, loose curly hair. They want girls of ambigious race. It's a fact. Colourism is rife in the Black, Brown community.

@chameakahuff7495

2 жыл бұрын

@@storyvi9530 lololol lol lolol

You are SO BEAUTIFUL- and that smile!!!! Oh my goodness, RADIANT!!!! I hope you wear your hair natural more often because it is a power move when you step out natural like that, it puts you together and makes you even more beautiful. I’m not sure you can get any prettier - ‘cep that SMILE!!!!! 😁

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Awww thank you so much that's so sweet of you!

I love my natural hair, and to have a “LAW” giving me Permission to ware my hair in it’s NATURAL STATE is ridiculous!!!

Sulfur 8 Is the truth,to me the simpler the better I find,all that high price or you tube recommend products are garbage.I went back to what I used on my daughter's hair growing up . It worked for them and it works for me.

@goodmeasure777

2 жыл бұрын

@prettybrowneyez, Ahhh ain't nothin better, than smearing some Sulphur 8 in your scalp. It feels so good. I use it every now and then. More in the colder months.

I wore wigs 2010-2017.. my edges gone. Lol. Now I'm on a natural healthier journey growing thrm back... I'm 🔒now. I know it's a better choice for me. Thanks for your honest video 😊

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome! Your edges will grow back in no time lol be patient and it'll come.

Self hate is a lot to process and we have been told for hundreds of years that our worth is less than.

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

True

@pimphandstrong6620

2 жыл бұрын

Stop blaming everyone but yourselves

@seeleygirl6178

2 жыл бұрын

Who told you that personally? People will find anything to put you down. Fat, skinny, etc. rise above!

@Plethorality

2 жыл бұрын

well hear me say your are worthy. you are loved and lovable and beautiful. you, and your family, your ancestors... beautiful.

We were told what the 'nice' hair, was now we are learning to accept what we have and to deal with it. Heard what the young guy said 'i want my girl to look better than me' meaning That he thinks himself also to look bad with his natural hair. Lord help our people.

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

I agree our hair is nice when it’s cared for properly.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Yes indeed you’ve hit the nail on the head.

Wearing our natural hair shows; self love, self respect, and self acceptance. Which some people see as a threat for themselves. What does my hair have to do with my ability to perform my job.. nothing. It's about making them feel comfortable. Those days are fading away. I love seeing women wear their natural texture hair.

@yuppers1

2 жыл бұрын

Thank goodness the world is changing. I'm a young GenX/ old millennial and for the life of me I don't understand why prior generations had a problem with natural black hair. It's beautiful. That attitude really says more about them than it does about you.

The wigs, weaves and extensions will remain in the stores as soon as we realise that The Most High made us with His type of hair: wooly. We are a beautiful dark brown just like Him as well. We are His image in the earth. That knowledge will help to set us straight.

@alethiamillner5603

2 жыл бұрын

Jesus is not the most high, his father Jehovah God is. God is a spirit, spirits don't have hair.

@nondumisogasser7155

5 ай бұрын

​@@alethiamillner5603oh stop...now stop it...yes he does...it says....its daniel 7:9...the hairs of his head like pure wool...the last version that has like Lambs wool...is the net bible...the Ancient of days...has hair like lambs wool

@nondumisogasser7155

5 ай бұрын

We have hair like lambs wool. Period...if you look at the trees and bushes resemble the silhouette of afros. Let those who hear...hear...isaiah 3 explains why african and African American women struggle with their hair.

@nondumisogasser7155

5 ай бұрын

​@@alethiamillner5603God also showed moses his back...

One day I went to school, and I have got my hair braided and it was really short. During the day people would call me Harriet Tubman and make fun of me. The next day I wore a headband to make myself feel better but that obviously didn’t work, they made fun of my edges cause I had on an headband, that day I was so done with my hair. I just completely lost all my confidence :/

@homebody61

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry you went through that.

@fareladee5970

2 жыл бұрын

Lily, Your trauma about your negative hair experience is heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing and I pray that GOD restores your confidence.🙏🏾 ❤️

@iihrt_lilly

2 жыл бұрын

@@fareladee5970 thank you 😊

@iihrt_lilly

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you guys so much this really means a lot 🥲

Hello darling , braids are very very good to retain length. I am an African lady with long hair and my daughter also . You should definitely go for braids to grow your hair lengthy .Thanks

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, they just can’t be tight. My mom worked in an African hair shop as a stylist and she’s braided my hair all my life. And my hair was waist length as a kid. I keep it just below bra length now but I still wear braids. I’ve watched her grow plenty of family members and friends hair using braids.

I grew up in school with girls with natural hair and styles. They were so beautiful.

Water was the last ingredient that you mentioned. When dealing with any type of hair, water is number one.

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

Yes keep it moist and hydrated. Inside and out.

Thank you for that lesson. I personally have always loved to see black women in their natural hair. However, again I appreciate the explanation that you gave on the way black women feel about wigs and extensions and what they go through..

@clarity2974

2 жыл бұрын

Are you married or dating a woman with natural hair?

There’s a number of reasons blacks wear weaves, for example to just give their hair a break to grow longer. Whites also wear extensions and weave no one says nothing about that! 🥺

@yasmeen8097

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, when they get extensions it looks natural on them. They don’t have to fit a beauty standard because the are “the beauty standard”… So of course no one bats an eye (or even notices) when a white woman wears extensions.

@karinacolonLA

2 жыл бұрын

Because it looks natural on them since it's their natural texture. So no one really notices unless told. If you're wearing hair that's not your natural texture, it's extremely noticeable...

@maureenbennett809

2 жыл бұрын

@@karinacolonLA Exactly!

@maureenbennett809

2 жыл бұрын

@@yasmeen8097 Facts 💯

Can we start the conversation on little black girls? My trauma started as a young child. I got teased from my mother and grandmother and other family members to neighborhood kids and classmates for my hair. I never saw a doctor for what I know now is alopecia. Which I had to self diagnose. And another issue is insurance coverage. If you receive government based insurance, they won't cover certain medical specialists.

@pimphandstrong6620

2 жыл бұрын

Wait so not BM other BW talked about ur hair not u BM huh go figure

Speak for yourself. I’m not nor have I ever been insecure about my hair and I’ve never worn a wig, weave or extensions and I’ve never had a problem getting a man rocking my fro. Confidence is what they see so let them look let them stare but you better not touch my hair

@marleyhill34

2 жыл бұрын

My hair never grows long which might be because I'm a Thalassemia carrier. I also didn't know how to care for my hair so throwing in some braids was easy when I was in school. I also do a non-creative job so my hair and wigs are more creative to me. Also in winter, my wigs keep my head warm! I literally wear it as a hair hat that people don't expect me to take off indoors. Lol! If I lived in Florida or back in the Caribbean I would wear a blond buzz cut. As for men, I don't care what they think about my hair. Lol!

@annmariebusu9924

2 жыл бұрын

That’s great keep on rocking it sis 🥰

@georginamcallum1324

2 жыл бұрын

Very well said

@mamiewaters1522

2 жыл бұрын

You have to be yourself first not a monkey see monkey do and if a man doesn't like your hair he does not like you, we are a different. Race of people. Beautifully made enjoy it .

@Goriaas

2 жыл бұрын

Confidence doesn't really make you or your hair more attractive. But i think black women have beatiful natural hair anyways, I never got the whole wig thing

See around 5min made me want to cry. I spent a lot of time convincing my daughter that she didn't need weave or extentions because her God given hair is beautiful, only to have hear the comment "if you love that child you wouldn't let her walk around with her head like that". I lost my sh*t so quick...

You deserve far more views. I agree with everything you said in this video.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you do much love I really needed to see this comment today! Hopefully the views will come soon!

@Iheartdolls4ever

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia they will. The right people will find you.

My black coworker had her short hair fixed in a salon every two weeks. In the summer she chose to wear it in a ponytail with a ponytail hairpiece. We worked with the public and she would CONSTANTLY be asked, by other black women also, "is that your hair?". She always answered yes. She bought it! That's "her" hair!!

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

I’m a white person who has looked at black women’s hair, because I like the different styles! I did a double take when I first saw a new pharmacy employee - a black women with the long braids pulled back because they looked awesome. I told her I liked her hairstyle, but I don’t think she believed me. Reminded me of Dr Ebonie Vincent on TLC. Y’all keep Walking in Power with your heads held high whatever your style!!!

I love this so much. And when you said we as black women have to deal with ignorant comments from other people and within our own race - that’s something I dealt with a lot growing up in NC and no one wanted to hear it. We can’t expect anyone to accept us if we don’t accept ourselves and lift each other up! I’ve been going natural for 2 years and it’s a process but I love the freedom of wearing my hair however I want. I live in NY now and while the stares aren’t as plentiful, it still happens. I have cornrows in with my natural hair right now. Never had a weave but idk I hear box braids help with growth so maybe soon. Wear your hair however you want and enjoy your life! 🤍

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you’ve been able to embrace your hair for 2 years! It’s such a wonderful experience overtime. I want our journeys to be understood and for us to have a space to relate to each other because we’re all going thru similar things in and out the race. Its time for transparency about the good and the bad. ❤️❤️❤️

A new subscriber here, 🇳🇬. By the way you great on your natural hair and let no one discourage you.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for subscribing!

What a great insight to what I had no idea about. I had no clue as to the work that went into natural hair styles. I have many ladies I know who have gone back to their natural hair. I personally love the natural styles. Don't get me wrong. I love seeing weaves and extensions. But, there is something special about a woman who embraces themselves. Stay safe and healthy out there. Thank you for sharing a part of your day with us!

1st off this woman is absolutely gorgeous! 😍😍😍😍😍. 2nd, I love black women and I love them wearing their natural hair. What I particularly hate is all the ratchet “city girls” type women be all I find but when I see a fine sista with natural hair; she’s with a white dude. Now, love is love and all of that but black women wearing their natural hair is the epitome of beauty and I hope one day to find my natural beauty black woman cause you’re worth it.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I’m glad you love natural hair. I have to say though that for some black women, white men may be the only men to compliment their natural hair which is why a lot of naturals go with them. The black men may call her derogatory names or not even talk to her at all. It depends on their circle.

Regardless of her hair, this lady is gorgeous! 😍

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Videos like these actually encourages me more to continue my natural hair growth journey i have lovely hair and can do so much with it

Loc it up! Best decision ever, and now my hair naturally down below my waist. Patience.

This is really an eye-opening video for me. I think you are absolutely gorgeous. It’s hard to imagine people thinking otherwise. As for those men staring at you, it’s cause you’re so darn attractive. I’m so sorry you have had to live through the pain you are sharing with your audience. You’re an incredible person for encouraging and educating others.

Thank You Mikaelia!!! at first I didn’t want to listen because I thought I was going to be told I just didn’t love myself… BUT…you said what I consider OUR TRUTH and you did so eloquently 🤗 So I decided to give a Shout Out and stand with you and all our Sisters who are loving self and wanting to manage our Manes👌🏽

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for listening and standing in solidarity! ❤️

Your face is a 10 And your hair is a 10 as well... Magnificent representation of your race!

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

You are naturally beautiful. I so enjoyed this video , you spoke on all my concerns. Thank you

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome and thank you!

As a white woman from Scandinavia with blond straight hair I never ever realized all the hassle and trouble black women have with their hair! Thank you for this educational. I will never complain again about my minor hair issues, like thin hair. I love to se natural black hair and have always thought it gorgeous and even felt envy of people having so much hair. Let it loose and let us see and envy your hair. It is beautiful.

@regularity2556

2 жыл бұрын

Hassle??? Stay in your lane

@yasmeen8097

2 жыл бұрын

@@regularity2556 I know right? But she doesn’t know any better… If bw keep getting on platforms complaining about our hair this is what they think 😕…

@sofiabravo1994

2 жыл бұрын

@@regularity2556 well it’s a lot of upkeep from what she explained in the video…

@yasmeen8097

2 жыл бұрын

@@sofiabravo1994 So is she the spokesperson or ambassador of all black people? Just people ONE person turns on a camera and complains about their hair you assume all black people feel their hair is a “hassle”? Sounds like you and the OP struggle with the ability to think critically…

@iceprincessone7168

2 жыл бұрын

Christ repliers !! Black, white or what ever I am allowed to have an opinion. Chill and have a good one.

I just want to say you’re beautiful! I’m white & I do think a lot of the times it’s ignorance when people make comments. I said to a black coworker ( over a decade ago) that I’d wear my hair in a fro if I was black. I was being serious I wasn’t making fun… I was pointing to it particular hairstyle. I’ll never forget her comment- she said no you wouldn’t, Because it’s not accepted in the workplace. It’s comments like that, that help you to see/gain some insight into another cultures world. I had so much respect for her because we could have race talks- I think she knew my heart after working with me for years, but it’s really special & healing to have that.❤️❤️❤️

Thank you for such an honest description of your difficulties. May I say you are a lovely looking woman with flawless skin.

I have the deepest respect for you…. And your beautiful hair. It’s bad enough that Black women have been so abused by our society that it had to take an act of Congress in order to address the horrible public shaming that Black women have suffered. Most of the people on capital hill are old bigoted white guys. What do those jerks know about being a woman, let alone being a Black woman?? Thank you for your video…. I hope to continue to be enlightened because, as a white woman, I have been very sheltered. Thanks again!

Unbelievable! In Europe, especially in the most northern countries, like Germany or Holland and further north, the more natural black women are, whether curly, coily hair etc.The more attractive white men find them to be. Highly melanated black women are seen more often with white men than in America.🎁❤ We must love ourselves!💝

@bonniecody160

2 жыл бұрын

So true! Only the Black women in American have always had problems with taking care of their natural hair! For one, Black American women were led to feel ashamed about their hair because white women’s hair type have always been the standard!!! Those of us Black women who grew up in the 1960’s, 1970’s and before were constantly reminded that white women hair was something Black women needed. So we wore weaves, wigs, straighten our hair, permed our hair, wished we were born with that “good hair”; being like white women hair!! We all thought kinky hair was ugly and awful! This created the act of shame that led Black American women to destroy her scalp, skin and hair just so she could look more like white women and be attractive (to men); period. Little did we know that other women, including white women straightened, permed and wore wigs, etc., too. So, where did this deluded idea of “beauty to be attained by unnatural hair (and means) for women come from?????????????? We all support natural beauty for hair, skin, and facial features more now. And African women are more natural in beauty than most Black American women. They are more confident in their own beauty and are/were not shamed like Black American women in history. They even know how to present their natural beauty; Most Black American women do not; for they still struggle with this identity about beauty/ hair. So sad, huh?😦

@bonniecody160

2 жыл бұрын

@M ok, you missed my point. This is what I have observed: African women seem to be more proud of their natural beauty than Black American women. They readily show natural hair and skin for centuries. In Africa, Nigeria, Lagos, and the like, African women are in relations with other men, races like Japanese, European, with natural beauty and confidence. Mostly, we Black American women do not. We are so caught up in shame of our naturalness in hair, skin, large body types that we miss our on other race relations. We Black American women have tried for centuries to show how close to whiteness they needed to be to live here in America. I know. I was raised as a little girl in the late 1950’s and early 1960’s. “Negroes”, as we were called then, continually tried to get “straight hair, lighter skin and dress like the white women/girls here in America”. Being called, “Black” was such a derogatory term then that it created fists fights in both white/black AND black/black in the streets in schools, parks, jobs, etc. This “idea” about our Black race has become more tolerant able now as of 2022. You see it in multiracial relations and more racial learning/ understandings. I think we Black women can learn from African women about the “natural African/Black pride in our beauty” that was stripped from us here in American long…..long…. ago.

@xr2863

2 жыл бұрын

@@bonniecody160 All the Nigerian women I know here in America wear wigs. I know quite a few.

I enjoy your video, you spoke truth... I was once was one of those women who didn't know how to manage her hair. I'm so glad I know now how to manage my natural hair. I'm now able to embrace and love my hair. Great video.

@mi.kaelia

Жыл бұрын

Thank you and I'm so glad you were able to relate. It's a long process but when you finally learn, it feels amazing. My hair has grown so much I almost cried when I took it down from a twist out because I couldn't believe how far it came. Finding the right way to manage it changes everything!

I wear mine because they are so convenient and versatile. U don’t have to worry about burning your hair with hot tools, putting chemicals and crap in your hair.

This is only my opinion...I am Italian. I personally like how curly and kinky hair looks. But especially I think it's the hair that suits black women's features best. I understand why many black women have perms or permanently wear wigs or extensions, but to be honest nothing looks as nice on them as their own hair...or at least their own *texture of hair (virtually all black women wearing wigs I've seen use straight or wavy wigs). My dad has curly hair, not as curly as Afro hair, but still voluminous, jewfro-like I'd say, and he doesn't like it. Once it gets too big and poofy he cuts it, he'd rather have it lay down. Still once when out in the city he saw a black woman rocking her own medium-long natural hair, and he said, with a positive tone, "Finally a black woman with her own hair!". The more courageous black women with natural hair just exist, the more type 4 hair is normalized, seen as normal and beautiful and cool by all races, and something little girls and women (and men) don't need to correct. Btw: I owe to a lot of black youtube naturals my knowledge of the basics of taking care of my frizzy wavy hair...I had been doing it wrong for almost 30 years. I knew nothing of porosity, leave-ins, almost everything...lol.

@ExposedRoot

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your comment. 👍🏾👍🏾

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

That is very true. I do believe that the more we wear it, the more it'll be normalized. It takes a lot of time and patient though lol.

@dianerankin1708

2 жыл бұрын

I don't wear wigs extensions false hair. I wanted long hair so it took care of my hair I used rice water and red onion.White women also wear extensions and weave .

@katzwhite5962

2 жыл бұрын

@@dianerankin1708 Yes, white women wear weaves and extensions but the fake hair is their own texture hair. They don't wear afro wigs or afro texture extensions on their heads. The only time they do is for fancy dress. Black women be wearing the European/Asian/Brazilian fake hair and be acting like it grows out their own head, flicking it off their shoulder, shaking their head. Their edges GONE and they still got the crap on their head. They not wearing the afro wigs.

I tried once to wear a wig & I just could not. When I looked in the mirror, didn't know who I was....felt fake. After going natural 2 years ago, I embraced my own hair, didnt have a choice. I went from undercut ...now to shoulder length as it grows the more I can do...still learning day by day. You surely have to put the time in.

I never had a thought for black women hair. I definitely have respect for you. My own hair is too easy, i can be thoughtless about it. I never realise how much time and love you have to put to your hair. I thank you tube for my understanding now. Thank you to you and the many other beautiful black women for sharing their experience. You are amazing. Love

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad this video helped you understand! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences ❤️

I’m watching you for the first time. I’m a 72 yr old white woman and I must tell you that I love to see black women with their natural hair. I have never thought of saying anything negative about black women’s hair. I think you are adorable. Loved your video😍

I love ALL the ways a 4C can wear her hair. As long as it’s healthy.

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! It’s a beautiful thing.

@Vicky-lv8xb

2 жыл бұрын

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 4C hair is beautiful. Rejoice in your uniqueness.

I don’t see an issue with BW wanting to try different colors and styles without messing up their own hair. It’s the part where one’s own hair isn’t catered to that seems to be the problem, and putting wigs before health and wealth. Some women will pay for their image before anything else and it’s generally an issue. If WW weren’t called out or bashed for wearing Afro hair trust and believe you’d see it constantly. Zendaya was bashed for wearing a 4c twa wig which is silly IMO. I personally prefer textured or kinky wigs because I don’t feel like super silky flat hair looks good on me. It masks my features. If I want straight hair it needs to have texture to it.

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

2 жыл бұрын

True. I always feel like straight wigs almost never suit black women at all, no matter how "laid" it is! It looks jarringly fake no matter what. The kinky units flatter the features better.

@user-ts4ox4gx9g

2 жыл бұрын

I agree I wear colorful extensions and maybe a wig on occasion but I take good care of my hair and keep it healthy. I don’t be putting dye or bleach in it so that’s why I’ve used the alternative.

@gabriellehanks6850

2 жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with experimenting with wigs and weaves as long as we’re also taking care of our natural hair.

You are so eloquent!! Thank you!!!

Thank you for this! It’s crazy how many people project their opinions and desires about black women and how we choose to wear or style our hair, without an understanding of some of the things we also go through to maintain our hair. M Bravo

When it comes to black women and their hair it should be not feeling uncomfortable about your own natural hair And never let anyone dictate to you the measure of your beauty The weave and wig industry would go out of business if black women decided to go Natural from here on out My vote is for natural hair

Love this🙌🏾, got an eye for a girl but she's wearing a wig for the longest and I want to see how her natural hair looks, I like the kinky(4c) hair texture. I have 540 waves since I was 8 I'm 20 now and I always take care of my hair, the cold water wash and blue magic got me right. But ladies be confident with your natural hair. There are dudes out there who loves 4c hair.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Please encourage those men to speak up! We want to hear these affirmations just like black men want to be supported for things they struggle with.

@clarity2974

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia thank you the are real silent and saying it behind a computer doesn't count

Aww you did us so righteous with this vid! Thanks for this!

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome love! ❤️❤️❤️

Great video!!!!!!!! I recently mad a video on the rise and fall of the natural hair community and I find wig and weaves has had an impact on how we see our hair. We got a long way to go!

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

I’ve got to check it out! Thank you for sharing your platform. We’ve got learning and healing to do!

Loving this “truthful” and “informative information” video about “Black-Natural” hair care ❣️ Allegedly Speaking 👉🏼The Black Women’s have been “brainwashed” and self-hatred of their’s (natural hair). Since the days of 👉🏼slavery 🧐‼️ However, it’s time for the Black Women’s to “embrace” the ❣️Beauty-of-Black Natural Hair❣️ Noticing, so many’s Black Women’s is loosing their hair😒.

@Themystergamerr

2 жыл бұрын

'Allegedly speaking' is grammatically incorrect

@LinaLina-we4nl

2 жыл бұрын

@@Themystergamerr 😏”So the story goes?” Allegedly Speaking 👉🏼grammatically incorrect 🤷‍♀️⁉️ LOL😅😂🤣

@barbararichardson2747

2 жыл бұрын

Yes they are brainwashed into believing cheap bags of hair in beauty supply store is natural hair.Natural hair is grown not bought and a sensible person doesn't allow anyone to dictate her choice.I'm free to do me and others are free to invest millions in fake hair and eyelashes.

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

2 жыл бұрын

@@barbararichardson2747 True! And to mention, the chemicals in that fake hair irritate the scalp, and have even come along with lice/mites/pest eggs inside of it!🤮

@samanthaenfiedjian7354

2 жыл бұрын

@Lina Lina I've noticed A LOT of black women currently suffering with hair loss. Back when I was a teenager in the 80's, most black girls and women had full healthy hair. Once the weaves and wigs were a thing starting in the 90's decade, now we are experiencing this major hair loss dilemma. Black women we need to scale back and study what is really going on with our self-esteem/ image. "Other communities" within these recent decades have exploited our insecurities and manage to get filthy rich at our expenses. :((( COME ON LADIES, LET CHANGE THIS UNHEALTHY NARRATIVE.

As a white person, I really DO want to understand. My heart breaks that so many black females feel they can't just allow their beautiful hair to be as it is. You look gorgeous Mikaelia! I'd like to tell a black female friend of mine (that I adore) that she doesn't need to wear her braided wig around me but I don't want to offend.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! If you want to get a discussion started with her and don’t know how, send or show her my video and ask how does she feel about it. That could be an opportunity for you to show your support for her.

@pakababy3710

2 жыл бұрын

@@mi.kaelia Ok thanks I will do that!

My son has a female friend of color who has 4c hair and was horribly bullied at school because of her hair and her inability to style it…it was always wild. Her mom is white and doesn’t have hair skills either. She finally got braids and her confidence skyrocketed. She is drop dead gorgeous, but can’t see it. In my city we have very few people of color (Canada), so it is hard to get proper services for good hairstyling. Btw, you are so beautiful, and I like your natural hair. I wish we could all celebrate each other’s differences and recognize the beauty in all of us.

@annmariebusu9924

2 жыл бұрын

Which province is this. There are many natural hair studios in Toronto and Quebec. Lots of help on KZread as well.

@Katrn30

2 жыл бұрын

@@annmariebusu9924 the backwoods of Canada…New Brunswick. This young lady was literally the only black girl at her school. I grew up in a city that had one Chinese family and that was it for diversity. We do have a black hairstylist now, so things are looking up!

@annmariebusu9924

2 жыл бұрын

@@Katrn30 ok cool 😎. I have never been to New Brunswick. Glad to hear she has a stylist now. Just type natural hair on KZread for hair tutorials.

Agree that you are beautiful and your voice is so calm and amazing!

This is just my personal opinion and observation: I hear some black women say that natural hair is a task and takes time. Yes, it can be a task and will take time if you are not accustomed to taking care of it on a regular basis. With that said, it can take as much time styling and maintaining wigs and weaves as it does caring for your natural hair. It becomes easier and quicker when it has become habitual/routine to care for it. With wigs and weaves, you will spend at least 4 - 6 hours and sometimes up to 12, depending on the intricacy and precision of the hairstyle, just putting it on and styling it and let's not forget, the products and accessories needed to maintain it. All that time you could've spent caring for your own hair, growing out of your own head. Also, wigs and weaves bring added pain and stress to an already irritated scalp and then some of us wonder why our hair won't grow. Like any other part of the body or life in general, if you neglect your natural crown, it will not yield for you it's divine glory no matter what product you put on it. Healthy hair requires consistency, period. There are no shortcuts. You have to go through the process of learning what products and methods work for you. Also, I see those who are natural but still cover it up with weaves and wigs which defeats the purpose of going natural. I have found that there are two major reasons why black women wear weaves, wigs and get relaxed...1) laziness and 2) insecurity. I was in the lazy category back when I wore them. I didn't like doing hair or anything that takes a long time. I'm still somewhat of a lazy natural but from time to time, when I feel like being creative and motivated, I take the time to do intricate styles and they come out bomb. I get a lot of compliments, too. One of the joys I have discovered in taking care of my hair is challenging myself to do new styles. I love the feeling I get when it all comes together. The first time I shaved my head, it felt so wonderful. I was a little nervous to walk in public at first but when I did, it felt so great to have nothing hindering and nothing covering up. People could see me as I really am and I was okay with that. I went through my journey...and it is a journey, and I don't regret any of it. I never had self-esteem issues on a deep level the way some black women do. They don't feel comfortable in their own skin or allowing the world to behold their natural features just as they are because, in reality, they themselves don't believe they are beautiful just the way they are. People will respond to you in kind to how you see yourself. So, they use the excuse of "it's convenient" to mask that reality and when you confront them they get upset and argue because it exposes the lie that they've told themselves. Some say their hair is too thin or too short or too whatever but whatever hair you have WEAR IT unapologetically and in time, as you figure out how to properly care for it, it will yield what you have always wanted but if you never try you will never know. I have worn my natural hair and my bare face for over 15 years and I will tell you sincerely that I have never had a problem with men, of any race, not finding me attractive. It wasn't because I was prettier than others or that I had the "good hair" but because I respect and love myself and am at peace with the way I look. When your inside is together, your outside come together. A man of quality wants a woman who is authentic and honest with herself. I have been a witness to this time and time again. Men, who some women felt wouldn't check for me because I am rather plain, indeed was checking for me. Character and femininity go a long way and you don't even need to dress up with 3" long eyelashes, tons of contoured makeup, painted claws and an 18" Remy. That's not to say that I don't glam it up, myself, every now and then. I like dying my hair with rich colors, even now, and wear makeup on occasion but those things do not dictate how I feel about my own beauty. Black woman go and live for a change and discover the real you! You will be surprised at the happiness, freedom and new perspective it brings. 💕

@Narrow-Pather

2 жыл бұрын

😊. .. I do, and have been for years..

@pimphandstrong6620

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks sis I'm so tired of bw blaming us for what all of us bm knew to be laziness. I have a mother and 4 sisters so I know what Saturday evening was about. Nowadays bw want to go clubbing and shaking ass and being in the damn street instead of taking care of themselves and then blame bm because we don't like what you've become. Big ups sis,kepp it real

@candicedarbyfox7524

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with some things you said however I got 5 girls all 100% natural with different hair textures/types from very corse to very fine and man it's work to do their hair especially the nappier it is...styles don't last as long and it gets frustrating but self love is everything and how you see yourself that's how others gonna she you... personally I love my extension and lashes and makeup but they're accessories and inhance what I already have and I do it for me not because I feel obligated or beautiful without it...I use to rock a mohawk and shaved my head many of times cuz I love me some shaney o Connor(I am I butter her name lol but to each their own...

@candicedarbyfox7524

2 жыл бұрын

@@leej1759 well said.

@ladonna1902

2 жыл бұрын

justify798, you spoke a lot of truth. But a lot of bw aren't ready to have that conversation. I noticed how a lot of women will spend so much time styling and installing a wig. In that length of time, they could have styled their real hair. Another reason why natural hair is hard and time consuming for a lot of bw is because they're trying to force their hair to do something it doesn't want to do. There are too many type 4's expecting type 3 results. They're still trying to achieve that Tracee Ellis Ross or Chili from TLC look. But don't have Tracee Ellis Ross or Chili from TLC's hair texture. We have to accept that we're not all going to have defined ringlets. For many of us, our hair wants to fro rather than curl. For many of us, we have to accept that our hair grows up and out rather than down. We have to accept that our hair doesn't want lay down no matter how much edge control we put on it. When we learn to stop fighting our textures, hair care will become much easier and take less time.

It’s so weird and rude that people will just randomly touch your hair!! That’s just a massive invasion of your personal space and is plain creepy. Btw can we all just appreciate how beautiful this lady is and how perfect her skin is?

Beautiful, honest, straight forward video. Much needed! And you are gorgeous!

I am sorry you may think your natural hair is not beautiful. I am here to tell you that it is beautiful. You are beautiful. I think all the weaves, braids, and wigs look fake and sometimes it is too much or over done. Embrace your beauty. Who cares what others think. Be proud of your beauty. I bet people stare because you are so beautiful and natural looking. I am a white woman and believe me we have our own hair problems. Love from a sister of another color. ❤️

As a woman of a certain age who began wearing my hair in its natural state long before it became a trend, I've gotten the most ignorant comments from other Black women. And for the record, I usually worked in professional settings, including the municipal, state,, and federal court systems, where I appeaed before judges regularly. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@pimphandstrong6620

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you sis, see it's not BM doing it

@CeeTee380

2 жыл бұрын

As a mixed person with 4 hair, the harshest and most critical comments I have received about my hair have been from other black women. Without opening a can of worms about mixed people and the culture we are born into, I just want to say that the animosity and cruelty are just really uncalled for.

Braids make my hair really grow. I have had my braids redone over and over for a year and my hair is finally growing long. I don’t leave them in too long or it get tangled and start breaking off. However, thank goodness natural hair is back in too. In the past, I remember it was taught that the Afro or natural styles for blacks was a sign of the rebellious black power movement. So that was why there was so much push back for a while. I love to be versatile so I love to wear it all. Stars ⭐️ love to wear wigs and change it up and I love to also.

Let me start with how beautiful you & your hair are! I’m not black but I too wear wigs & toppers bc as I got older my hair got thinner & it took way too much physical & emotional stress to try styling it every day. I feel like it’s my head & whatever I want to put on it is my business! Thanks for sharing❣️

Thank you for sharing your story so many of us can truly relate to this topic. It's a shame that many people don't understand 4c textured hair, including us. 😕 However some progress have been made within the hair care industry, such as producing better products for our hair and mainstream hair schools are now teaching their students to do 4c hair, especially in the UK. And also young ladies like yourself are now creating content around this subject. Peace and blessings to you and to all the beautiful women on here.🙌😁

Dealing with 4c hair I decided to get dread loc. I have had them now for 7 years now. People think I have braids. I did the big chop and grew it out to my waist. I'm happy with my choice I'm natural and I can do my own hair at home.

I’m just now seeing this video several months after it was first posted. I also have combination 4 A, B and C hair. For several years I had a relaxer. The relaxer eventually caused breakage. I had loose natural hair for a few years until I discovered locs. My hair has grown because of this low manipulation hair style. Not everybody likes locs, but as for me it’s my forever style.

@doll.ov.poetrii4682

2 жыл бұрын

I have combination 4A/B hair and the relaxer ate my hair up too when I was younger!😭 I'm considering getting locs very soon as well; sisterlocks specifically.

Thank you for sharing your experiences. Women at my university have started a club for natural hair, where they share experiences with products and techniques.

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

That is amazing! I’m so glad they’ve started a club. Black University students need that support.

Thanks for the product suggestions.

I shaved my hair completely off doing the big chop years ago and I didn’t give a flying fork what anybody thought about that. I like my hair natural and I will not apologize to other ethnicities for it. Black womens hair is beautiful just the way it is. A lot of other races are actually sometimes jealous of our hair because they cannot naturally grow an Afro like we can. I’m so grateful every time I see black women wearing their own natural hair. I see it as a blessing. Let’s pray that we as black women will learn to adore our own hair and everything else about our own culture and features. We are definitely set apart and different people with signature traits of beauty all our own 😊🙏🏽🤍

@maureendonnelly3873

2 жыл бұрын

You most likely have those beautiful hi cheek bones and sculptured jawline stunning. Me I got the round Irish face id look like a basket ball lol

This was a very honest video. We as black women definitely have to face the reality of our hair. I tried wigs and hated them. I would only buy wigs that was similar to my hair texture and it was really hard to find. I hate the look of fake parts wigs. I remember looking at other women with wigs and I thought to myself our natural hair looks better than these wigs! I can’t tell you how free I felt/feel when I excepted me and started loving me for me! It’s definitely a journey with natural hair but it’s worth it! I own my look and no one can take that from me! Confident, pride, self love, and just taking care of myself as a whole I’m just free and happy! My soul and spirit feels vibrant when I stopped letting the world tell me how I should look and believing it. If a black man can’t except a black woman because she embraces her natural hair texture, there is some deep self hatred with HIM! There is no way a black man should ever be this way when the woman that gave birth to him/raised him is a black woman! And we as black women and black men have some of the same textures! Love and embrace ourselves naturally because we are beautiful people!!

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you and I agree with everything you’ve said! It took me a looong time to find a wig or clip in that matched my texture and I hate those god awful parts they put on wigs too lol! A mess!

Black natural hair is beautiful, the bigger the better, love yourself and your hair ❤️

I can't believe this video popped up in my feed, I was just thinking this morning....what am I going to do with my hair???? I can't wear a wig for the rest of my life. I completely relate to what you said in the video....Thank You.

Every race wears it and has EVERY right to wear what they want!

@cecegiles7753

2 жыл бұрын

Not Indians 😂

@tragicallyhoney

2 жыл бұрын

@@cecegiles7753 yeah I've never met anyone in my race wear wigs lol

I work in a law office where I am one of two Black women who work on my floor. Everyone else is white. I don't wear wigs or weaves but I do straighten my hair. I get the most compliments when I don't straighten it and just wear it naturally. It's almost like they're fascinated by our hair in it's natural state.

I'm so glad someone else uses the Garnier shampoo. I discovered it about 2years ago and love it it really does the job

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

It does! Affordable and smells good!

Thank u for telling us because we do not all know about this. 💟💟

@mi.kaelia

2 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome!