Be needy... but also be givey.

@dreamyanon5151

4 жыл бұрын

Halberdier I respect and can relate to your life experiences and mindset that made you come to this conclusion, but I also agree with both points. I think the original comment meant not to be codependemt and to not take more than you give. To not only put your needs first. Both fair points though.

@Motishay

4 жыл бұрын

Woha, that's like... Solid, man.

@studyaccount2160

4 жыл бұрын

@Halberdier is this my storyyy

@rock3tcatU233

4 жыл бұрын

I'm mostly hungry.

@thomasgallegos2832

4 жыл бұрын

@@rock3tcatU233 That's why she went out with me. I knew she was just hungry !

My lady claims to be needy. I love how affectionate she is. I also love that she actually cares about what I think, do, and want. It’s adorable and sweet. I think it’s important to accommodate that. She gets reassurance and I get to feel desired. It’s a really nice mutual benefit.

@yeond8801

4 жыл бұрын

That's sweet :) may I ask how did u guys approach this situation? I'm the more needy one in my relationship but I have no idea how to make it better :(

@zombyroid

4 жыл бұрын

Yeon :D for us there wasn’t really much to approach. We honestly just kind of fit together. However, there are things I do that help out quite a bit. During the work day we don’t make a priority of texting back and forth or trying to maintain constant contact. However I try to call her and talk to her every night. We usually do the basic how was day stuff and then I try to bring up something going on in the near future to discuss for a moment to extend the conversation. If it comes naturally then we enjoy it for what it is and if not then we usually get off the phone. We don’t get to see each other every day so it’s important that I talk to her every day to me. I think it helps to have somewhat “scheduled” time together so that nobody feels isolated or distant. Once people get into a rhythm things usually tend to work well. We’ve been together for a year and will probably get married next year. (The ring is in my sock drawer. I have to ask her dad first though. Wish me luck.)

@yeond8801

4 жыл бұрын

@@zombyroid AWWWWWW YALL THE REAL RELATIONSHIP GOALSSSSS CONGRATULATIONS MAN!!! :DDD

@someonewhoexists7350

4 жыл бұрын

That’s so great!! Good luck, and I think that is a great sentiment!

@thomasgallegos2832

4 жыл бұрын

@@zombyroid When is the wedding ? Did she say yes. If so Congratulations !

Agreed! We are told to not be “needy” but without ANY neediness at all, what is the point in a relationship? Having some is what makes it so deep. Thanks Anna, beautifully said!

@aronnemcsik

3 жыл бұрын

the problem is not being "needy". The problem is the level of "neediness" being displayed.

@bayutrianugrah8521

3 жыл бұрын

I just found out some people are actually just not ready to be in relationship (either romantic or platonic). When we are attached in deep relationship then we get more responsibilities, but some only want to get the love we have, not earn.

@Older_Mountain-goat_1984

3 жыл бұрын

@@aronnemcsik Agreed. The term "needy" refers to an unhealthy imbalanced version of it. Everyone has needs, not everyone is needy.

@nicojohnmagallanes4667

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha.

@Shogun636

3 жыл бұрын

Relationships are pointless

I was with an avoidance ex, who always said I “needed too much attention”, he bought me a dog to get me to back off. I started feeling guilty for being this way. But now that I look back, my needs were actually quite healthy. Of course I wanted a boyfriend that wanted to hug or kiss me without me needing to ask, or initiate. Of course I wanted my partner to be vulnerable! Isn’t that why relationships are?! He ended up cheating, because he couldn’t handle how serious we were. If you’re with someone emotionally unavailable I urge you to make the tough decision to either leave or have a serious conversation with them- because it becomes so disappointing and heartbreaking in the end. Trust me! I wish I listened to my own needs for a long time. I didn’t, I stayed hoping things would change and became irritable, depressed and I ended up longing for someone I could never really have. It’s incredibly painful to come out of. Please listen to your gut

@marym.p.6130

4 жыл бұрын

Avoidant people are cheaters . They never want to confront you. Same sad, heartbreaking scenario

@breakingthemasks

4 жыл бұрын

@@marym.p.6130 ... Generalize much? Go watch some good videos on attachment, and you'll learn that people with avoidant attachment pull away when their partner pushes the relationship too quickly. And the reason for this is that the person with avoidant attachment feels emotions as overwhelming. They are also very aware that being in a highly emotional relationship is a risk factor for having their heart broken. So when they pull back it is done as a regulatory mechanism, to decrease the intensity of the emotions to a manageable level, and to prevent them from falling so in love that a breakup would be deadly. These are very valid actions. And can be handled by a smart partner. However, a partner with anxious attachment will typically lean in even harder... And this will end the relationship.

@StarAmbience42

4 жыл бұрын

Thats rough.. Good advice though

@Yasmine91646

4 жыл бұрын

breakingthemasks A hit dog will holler.

@breakingthemasks

4 жыл бұрын

@@Yasmine91646 ... I'm not sure what this idiom means... Care to elaborate?

This is just what I needed! (no pun intended).

@kirklynfaithcornelius215

5 жыл бұрын

Same honestly

@nicolesamuels6276

5 жыл бұрын

Took me a while to get it

@johny2126

5 жыл бұрын

wow I was literally about to type this

@terrystarmore3005

5 жыл бұрын

Don't go...

@amylieu6084

5 жыл бұрын

Reply if u want screenshots of anna in a bra

I totally agree with you. Needy is a derogatory term some people use to not seem like such jerks, and to feel superior to others. It is much easier to say "She is too needy" than saying "I have commitment issues so I am not ready for a real relationship."

@calin6327

5 жыл бұрын

Being needy woman is annoying, needy men are creepy

@zebedeesummers4413

5 жыл бұрын

You completely ignored the imbalance that she mentioned and painted one side as the fault. Communication was poor from BOTH people.

@lorienhuddleston

5 жыл бұрын

THAt is some sizzling hot tea :O very true lol

@noone2344

5 жыл бұрын

I couldn't help but agree to everything you just said.

@Sammmc99

5 жыл бұрын

How are you any better for saying that people who are more introverted and independent in relationships have commitment issues? I had this imbalance issue Anna speaks of in the last relationship I was in. I don't like texting almost all day every day, or hanging out every night;she did, and it became very draining for me. I am very much someone who likes to do things on their own, but that doesn't mean I have problems committing. I've been in a past relationship where the dynamic was perfect for me and my parter felt similarly. Everyone has different needs and nobody should be shunned for whatever those may be

I agree with what you said about the people who coined the term "needy" as derogatory, that those people are actually just emotionally distant jerks. When my fiance and I first started getting serious, he told me his ex had called him "needy", and I was surprised. I never thought he was too needy. Sure, he texted me every day, and we hung out a lot, but that's normal when you really like someone. I remember that I told him then, "I don't think you're needy; I just think she didn't actually like hanging out with you." And besides, that chic ended up cheating on him, so really she was just a horrible, emotionally unavailable jerk. So ya know, that just proves that what you said about the term "needy" is true.

@matteobiavati5922

4 жыл бұрын

Rose Auflick you described exactly what happened to me in my last relationship, a long distance one btw...

@weruleyoudrool

3 жыл бұрын

I love being texted everyday. Like it doesn’t need to be instant or constant but once a day is nice.

@roshiron1816

3 жыл бұрын

Eh, being needy is a real problem by itself but can often be indicative of a co-dependent relationship. Bad partners just misuse it.

@dgill441

3 жыл бұрын

I feel seen! Sooo true and this happened to me as well. Thanks for posting

This is so true. My first relationship I was with someone who seemed like a perfect match for me: we liked the same games, shows, had similar experiences, had the same sense of humor. Only I didnt realize until much later that we weren't very compatible emotionally. He felt like I was too needy and I felt disappointed a lot of the time (and also beat myself up over it because I thought I WAS too needy). Now I'm with a guy where we share about one hobby together and we're so different in regard to our basic interests, but we mesh so well emotionally and we're both the right amount of "needy" to each other that it just balances out to normal. There's obviously always going to be a line you want to be aware of when it comes to being too much or completely apathetic, but finding that person who meshes is awesome

@danielaung691

3 жыл бұрын

How long were you and your first partner together for?

@dagamimon

3 жыл бұрын

@@danielaung691 A little over a year

@danielaung691

3 жыл бұрын

@@dagamimon if you dont mind me asking, what happened between you two in the end, did you end it with him because of the difference in emotional needs or because be cheated ect...

@dagamimon

3 жыл бұрын

@@danielaung691 It was honestly a mixture of us not being so compatible emotionally and also the fact that we were still young (in highschool) and it was our first relationship. I was hella insecure and honestly felt crazy because of how "needy" I was compared to him, and I also was approaching a stage where I felt like I needed to experience just being more independent anyway. Our breaking up was definitely a result of some of my immaturity in that regard, but that ended up helping me grow and reflect on how I can change for the better in future relationships

@nicojohnmagallanes4667

3 жыл бұрын

Do you mind me asking the same question? How did the your relationship ended? Did it ended like you both decided for it to end? Or one of you cheated? I am not here to judge you both. Im here to learn. Thanks😉

Queen of quality content

@bachlava7

5 жыл бұрын

"quality"

@frogwhore2121

5 жыл бұрын

@@bachlava7 yeah exactly

i found your channel when i was in middle school. now i’m 20 and your videos are always exactly what i need.

@a.c9952

5 жыл бұрын

She is like a big sister! I'm also 20 and her videos were really useful while I was growing up.

@kayla4064

5 жыл бұрын

Alexis Knight I’m in middle school right now😎 and she does the same for me plus I really need it.

@cerysannepowell

5 жыл бұрын

same here, 20 now and found these when I was like 14

@drippyninja6551

5 жыл бұрын

Bruh im 16

@nonomo196

4 жыл бұрын

Girl saaaaame

How adorable is Congress with his paw on your shoulder the whole time he is a real sweetie!!

Exactly! I didn’t realize how avoidant my partner was unit I opened up about how I’ve noticed he’s been more distant and how I would appreciate it if he didn’t leave me in the dark, because it makes me feel unwanted, and his response was “you’re being too sensitive.” Our relationship ended shorty after and I was heartbroken, because we made so many plans for the future together like marriage, kids, etc. For a while I thought maybe I was too sensitive and needy, and maybe I was asking for too much. Now I’m starting to realize that what I was asking for was perfectly healthy, and I shouldn’t have to feel bad for wanting closeness - I just need to find someone who wants the same.

Anna, how are your videos always so perfectly timed 🙄 thank you for your content!

@dougmartin2007

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! Her video on setting boundries came just after (like one day after) I set some boundries with people. It was great to be reassured I was doing the right thing.

@djkeino

5 жыл бұрын

Kat Robinson It’s like she knows...she’s a modern day fortune teller! Except she helps you, doesn’t freak you out more when advice is given, and she’s not stuck in a glass box at the carnival or in an oversized 8 ball!

@J239h

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it's super uncanny, isn't it?!

@lucasballas

5 жыл бұрын

(It's not timing, everyone is actually miserable and in perpetual need of advice)

@Koreanharshita

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I am facing all the things she said right now

*I get lonely and struggle with being okay in that anxious, depressive state. Every time I reach out to someone I fear that im being too clingy, wanting too much of their attention and their company.* I hope I'm not the only one that feels this way at the age of 22!

@lorsange1107

5 жыл бұрын

That feeling never goes away, jokey joke!!🤣🙌

@Thefitty

5 жыл бұрын

@@lorsange1107 really?

@ducklingscap897

5 жыл бұрын

I‘m 19 but I feel the same way. Also I don’t really know how to ask for “attention“ or simple things like a hug so I overthink it and never do it or I do it and just feel super awkward because I think to much 😥

@Thefitty

5 жыл бұрын

@@ducklingscap897 im giving you a bi,g giant hug right now. You are appreciated and loved!

@Lefreakme

5 жыл бұрын

this is the reason why i dont talk to people about my feeling and at the same time, i feel so hurt aaaaa

I feel like when I think of “being needy” I do immediately think of the toxic behavior you do acknowledge. I wish there was a term in between “having needs” and “being needy,” maybe “seeking thoughtfulness and appreciation”?

@Dhruv1223

4 жыл бұрын

That is exactly what being needy means. Neediness is toxic, (people often confuse needs with desires and wants) need implies that life is meaninglessness without someone (which is fine if you're married and have been for a long time, it's very difficult imagining life without your partner) same goes with your children and parents. Life goes on if anything untoward happens to the ones you love everything changes and it's not the same for sure. But that's the difference love is as much letting go as it is wanting to stay with the person. Neediness is a self fulfilling desire where you don't care about what the other person wants and you only project what you want onto the other person.

Needy doesn’t always have to mean affectionate though, needy can also be used to describe partners who ask up so much attention from their other partner that they end up invading their personal time and space

@TheBayzent

3 жыл бұрын

She addressed that

@imzesok

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheBayzent except that those that get called "needy", are almost always the ones that have already taken it to an unhealthy level. for example, they need a phone call or text between you taking a dump and wiping, because maybe they've not quite dealt with the baggage of the previous relationship and are still insecure that you might be losing interest. All of this without being self-aware enough that they are actively pushing said person away all on their own as they've not been allowed their "me time".

Your cat is REALLY patient.

@georgeplatsakis7277

4 жыл бұрын

I should like to be that cat!...

When people hide their true feelings behind "jokes", this is basically the way my mother talks to me. FML

@NightmareFuelsYou

5 жыл бұрын

Omg same my mom seems so disappointed with me and I don't even know why. I have never even been arrested or done horrible shit lmao oh well

@jpoconnor2857

5 жыл бұрын

A fortune teller cookie said that most seriousness is said by the jester....

@DarkAngelRabbitX3

5 жыл бұрын

My mother the same. She would be like “you know your dad doesn’t love you right?, lol just joking.. wait why are u crying? Take a joke u can’t handle anything” she’s very passive aggressive and thinks insults or messed up stuff are great “jokes” and says “I’m just being honest it not my fault ur too sensitive” I overheard her once saying to her friend that she likes to say stuff just so see ppls reactions.. she’s manipulative as hell 😤

@jaumlee

5 жыл бұрын

@@DarkAngelRabbitX3I know right, it's kind of messed up that the person that's supposed to love and protect you, makes you feel like absolute crap

@stephena1196

5 жыл бұрын

@@DarkAngelRabbitX3 Is she a covert narcissist? KZread has videos about that, Vital Mind Psychology channel is quite good.

“Don’t take their response time personally” it’s been 18 days... so...

@lizardperson9648

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe he is dead

@juricpro

4 жыл бұрын

Take it personally just don't internalize that you are not good enough... although they think you aren't.

@flopin9888

4 жыл бұрын

@@juricpro hahh, too late for that :c

@TheMissAlira

4 жыл бұрын

We are good enough is just some people prefer doing more things with friends and not girlfriends or boyfriends. Just stay away from them, unfortunately, it's a lot of people like that.

@Felix-qq6sx

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe he killed his phone?

Honestly, it's actually really comforting to hear you say that being "needy" is a valid way to feel. Obviously I'm going to try and be aware of my own actions and not overwhelm my own expectations of others, but it's really nice to hear someone say, "Yeah, you have needs and that's okay." Rather than beating myself up for feeling needy, hearing your words helped me to take a deep breathe and let go of that knot that's been in my stomach all day.

I am an extremely sincere individual. I am sincere, to a fault. One of the many things that I have come to realize, to learn, is that sincerity must be reserved and given only to those who deserve it. And one must save one's emotions, channeling them only to the people who are worthy of it. Instead of wasting time and energy on them, I prefer being productive and making animations for my channel.

@AyAReI00

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! I was dumb enought to realized this later in Life, some people are just slow learners xD ... Now i only show that to people Who do the same, And do you know what is funny, people Who lie to my now dont have access anymore to honest me so they are in shock LOL ... What did you expect ? Sincerity paid back with lack of honesty ? Nah people are just too much sometimes

@Oceanlinx

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah I've been told that I'm too honest and sincere at times and it can be perceived in a bad way. I'm learning how to filter it

@JazzyCast

5 жыл бұрын

Oof i felt this, so many of my friends took advantage of me bc of my sincerity and now i know how to balance it out between ppl

@juliedjengo

5 жыл бұрын

Life Progress - Health, Wealth, & Happiness Channel yes i’ m agree but sometimes this is just very hard to handdle. The boyfriend of one of my friend, said to me one day that i was too shy, annoying and awkward and not in order to be rude but just “sincere”. Please, don’t be that kind of person, because it’s can hurt so much. Now he apologised and we are very good friend, but sometimes things don’t have to be told.

@xpubi1122

5 жыл бұрын

So true

this makes me feel much better about the times i’ve been dumped for being needy 😭

@boilaknezzi8974

4 жыл бұрын

@Nick Smith xD true

@babacalouche

4 жыл бұрын

@Nick Smith spot on...but you assume women will react like men, and they will never( because socially their role is different in the making of a relationship )..they want to be considered as " men's equal", but they will never ever assume any responsibilities for their act ( it's all the men's fault , i'm a princess and am always right )...So while Rachel Nielsen could have dated an actual asshole/jerk/douche, question is " why did she chose him ?" because women all have a responsibility regarding their decisions and choices.they all know the " date an asshole, trying to change him into the man of my dreams, failed epically and then blame everyone but themselves " meme ...making one mistake is necessary, it's the way you learn, making always the same mistake is just the proof of what you just say : you are the error you're trying to ignore.

@Yasmine91646

4 жыл бұрын

babacalouche ok incel.

@babacalouche

4 жыл бұрын

@@Yasmine91646 Thanks Boomer

Thanks, that was reassuring to me. I'm not someone who wants a lot of space in a relationship. I want closeness, affection. I also had 3 cats, and I miss them since they've passed.

kkkkkkk the bathroom scene was just on point perfect! Hahaha thanks for these wonderfull videos, would love to meet you someday 💛

@Gabriel_Martinez751

3 жыл бұрын

Yes.... The music made it even better.

@beatriz7272

3 жыл бұрын

O "kkkkkk" entrega o brasileiro ksksks

@Rolando_Cueva

2 жыл бұрын

kkkkkkkkk rsrsrsrsrsrs huehuehuehue

"having needs" and expressing them is ok, "being needy" and forcing others to deal with your needs is not ok

@OceanSkate401

3 жыл бұрын

Bro your body count is maybe @2 lifetime, relax, slow your role.

@yepwhatever1142

3 жыл бұрын

If you aren't needy, what's the point of being in a relationship? If you aren't needy, you don't need them.

@metalchickyboo

3 жыл бұрын

100%!

@Ramund223

3 жыл бұрын

@@yepwhatever1142 the point at that point isn't I am with you cause I NEED to but I am with you cause I CHOSE to

@neorev01

3 жыл бұрын

I was going to write the same thing!

I can't stop looking at Congress ahh 😍

@SIGSEGV1337

5 жыл бұрын

Me too, but that's just because they keep eroding my civil liberties one bill at a time and I can only stare in horror.

Important question is what is “toxic neediness”, when is it too far and what do people on the opposite end when they feel like someone is asking too much time from them. Yes, some people have different needs than others and finding the balance is extremely important but is there a certain extent that is too much. Is asking someone to spend hours everyday fair? When they have work, other friends, duties in life, and their own hobbies they want to explore.

@TheBayzent

3 жыл бұрын

It depends on the level of interest the other person has on you, there is just no set value, I've had crushes tell me I'm too needy for texting them *once* during the day everyday, and girlfriends tell me I'm a closed book despite talking constantly. Social interactions have to be reevaluated by the minute and remember that a person may show great ammounts of interest one minute and lose all interest on the next. If a person shows signs of stopping being engaged, stop engaging instead of trying to catch their attention, but do not bother yourself with their problems either. If she is your partner, start thinking about seeking other options and putting an end to the relationship, I know it sounds dramatic, but a relationship that doesn't fulfill your emotional needs is not a relationship. Keeping your instinct flaring for social cues on when to stop investing is a real lifehack that takes time to build.

where have you been all my life why am I just discovering these amazingly therapeutic videos now

Your an honest genuine real person and that's admirable love you Anna

@Sanjay-lw6sy

5 жыл бұрын

You're * sorry couldn't resist 🙆

@liamodonovan3437

5 жыл бұрын

@@Sanjay-lw6sy I know iam just lazy

I know everyone jokes about it but your videos help me figure out and understand what’s going on in my head and I appreciate it so much

@catvalentine4317

5 жыл бұрын

Your user name is precious ^^

@anuradhajoshi1505

5 жыл бұрын

Sameee

I love being in a relationship with needy people, It creates lots of opportunity for affection.

EXACTLY, we are designed to be INTERDEPENDENT. Denying this is unhealthy. thank you!

@Dhruv1223

4 жыл бұрын

So true! Well said! Can we be friends! Can I get your number? Who are you talking to? Why aren't you talking to me? Please talk to me! Why won't you talk to me? Come one let's be friends on facebook! I'll follow you on instagram! Why won't you tell Mr what your handle is? All I want to do is spend all my time with you :D Now do you find that cute and nice or creepy?

@mindremind3289

4 жыл бұрын

Dhruv1223 That is so creepy and feels weird. I think nobody here experienced real neediness, it is normal that you sometimes want something in return, when you don‘t get that than it is the wrong person.

@Lucid5630

3 жыл бұрын

If you depend on someone to give you the joy and happiness you want, then I'm telling you bro your not going to end up happy, only you, youself can make you happy, and we were designed and built to survive

The animated hand petting Congress got me 😂

I'm very open and vocal. When I'm feeling sad, I will tell someone. ESPECIALLY, when I'm depressed because at least someone knows just in case I do something to myself.

This is fantastic. We enter the world needy. We exit the world needy. But in between, we learn to craft a mask that says, "I'm self sufficient; I don't need you; I don't want you." Yet we are wired to be social; to need community; to seek meaningful love. Attachments are good. And we are ALL co-dependent. Like the song goes, "People who need people are the luckiest people in the world!"

@Lucid5630

3 жыл бұрын

If you rely on someone to give you happiness, joy, or success, I'm telling you, you'll be dissapointed, it's ok to need someone, just don't rely on them on your first needs(e.g success or happiness), especially what you want to achieve

this is so comforting to hear, you put so many of my thoughts into a perfectly articulated explanation.Thankyou, I needed to hear this :)

Let's all be needy together!

@s.d.966

5 жыл бұрын

YES, REGARDLESS OF GENDER

@AlejandroGonzalez-wo5fk

5 жыл бұрын

Yes

@yourfavoritearies4683

5 жыл бұрын

Grace Brady HONESTLY

@mikethunder84

5 жыл бұрын

No, pls don't.

@chrispham4347

4 жыл бұрын

Let's all communicate our needs and find healthy relationships together

Needy is perceived as someone requiring more attention/focus than the other person feels is reasonable.

I love you and your videos! Thank you for being genuine, authentic and breaking down the stigma of mental illness. I love how you approach it in so many unique ways and talk about things most dismiss or don't know how to communicate. We are all affected by our emotions and I think its essential to talk about our feelings!

I absolutely love the way that the music stops and resume in the segment starting at 2:30-and with such great timing!

Of course Congress is not going to understand you. It's right there in the name.

"I have no qualms with enthusiastically expressing the pendulum of extreme emotions I oscillate between throughout the day."

I love that cat. The actual ball of fur Anna is holding. I love it's demeanor. I like cats.

As someone who has been the too-needy one, I feel like, yeah, I understand how it really turns people off to approach them from a place of "I want/need something from you to feel ok." For me, it's been much more productive to address my neediness directly. A lot of this takes the form of letting go of stories where I tell myself I'm not good enough, and also satisfying my own needs better by making healthier choices and treating myself with more kindness. I wouldn't want to continue to approach relationships with the neediness I've had in the past.

@carlacondie8088

2 жыл бұрын

I fully understand the stories which cause intense self flagellation. That’s when I feel the most needy.

i'm gonna start using the phrase "jokey joke", TOO CUTE!

@sunflower7874

4 жыл бұрын

@Thelondonbadger ...... if you click her pfp, you can see it is her on the pfp.

You talking to ur cat is a mood 😔✊

@m4ster4li51

5 жыл бұрын

Me everyday. 🤷🤕

Honestly the way she records and edits is so professional i love it

I wanted to say that I love your content and positivity. Thank you for staying on KZread even tho you have a really hectic schedule. Lots of love

Local cat queen spotted! LOCAL CAT QUEEN SPOTTED!!

Like each other and you'll never feel clingy to each other. But that's why communication and openness is so important in a relationship

I needed to hear this. I was always afraid I had gone too needy but it's comforting to hear that what I was feeling was valid.

you make me feel better about things that i blame myself for because you said that it's fine to feel a certain way. i love u

I tend to feel guilty after acting/being needy and this soothed that feeling. Thank you Anna!

I love hearing the voice of people in the phase of getting over a cold. It’s such an ASMR to my ear. I love how I sound when I have a cold 🤧 💕 I know I’m weird.

I don't have issues with the other person being needy, but they need to provide something valuable in return. Having the other person being always needy and never givey is a massive turn off.

@vivibuffy3352

4 жыл бұрын

So agree. I had an experience with such a person. He was the needy one and I was always the givey. It was the most emotionally and mentally draining time in my life. So happy to put that behind me.

Expressing you have needs and being open and honest is great. Always expecting the other person to fill every void you have in your life or being “needy” is just using that person.

I CANT BELIEVE YOUR KITTY LETS YOU HOLD IT THIS LONG AAAAAH I... Am jelly...

Agreed. I ❤️ how real you and true to yourself you’re.

I love you Anna, No strings attached to that, I'm too self involved to stalk anyone. I just love you, you explain things in a way that makes socially inept me, understand. Your social I.Q. is genius level.

I love all of your videos with mental awareness! I’m learning so much about the topics to better understand myself and people around me. Thank you, Anna 🌼💕

"I believe in being straight forward: If I feel a certain way, I tell you" - well, I did that a few times and all I got from that was head shaking from the other persons because they don't know what the heck I am talking about apparently and they see it all very different than I do. So I don't do that anymore, I am not into those useless discussions where I feel hurt and others don't get it at all and I get responses like "I cannot be here for you 24/7" (when not answering a text FOR A DAY), and so on. So I have to accept to be incompatible with MOST people apparently or that I have to compromise and not ever get what I really want (or NEED). Talking about what I want, I kind of want to hold Anna like she holds the cat when she's cute like that :X. Yep, needy.

@TheMissAlira

4 жыл бұрын

Mr. Reese hold me I'm needy too.

sorry i couldnt concentrate on anything you said i was looking at your cat the entire time :)

@saimalishahid1406

4 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY

@mellocream1794

4 жыл бұрын

and the fact it doesn't have a nose

This is so good! Watching this for Christmas! Definitely helps me make self-care a priority during the holidays! Thank you so much!

So awesome watching your videos these days, watching you own yourself more and more, realizations, advice, emotional growth 💯💕

Thanks for all your content anna And the LiveStream this week was so helpful as well Genuinely thank you❤🙏🏼

This video literally came at the perfect time Anna you're awesome Xxx

Love this! I've never heard this perspective on neediness before. Yours is liberating!

Compromise... ooh yea that’s right behind my list of reminding myself to swallow my ego, pride, fear and insecurities. Also telling myself to express urself in healthy ways n try to RESOLVE problems not bury them.

I love how you play both sides of relationship as yourself

"As long as it's not taken to an unhealthy imbalance..." then you're not needy.

@nickb6425

3 жыл бұрын

YES. The term needy hasn't been turner derrogatory, when you say someone's needy it means they take it too far. Being needy is not the same as having needs.

Anna, I havent seen you in a while. You are still the greatest!! Thanks for the smiles.

I just adore you Started watching your videos yesterday and became your fan. You approach significant subjects with a lot of teaching and humor. Thank you for that. As you open my mind you make me laugh! You're so beautiful and your cat as well

Everyone has needs. Denying your own needs in the name of 'neediness' is just damaging to yourself.

Im a little bit needy and have a friend who is less neddy than me. And it is difficult to balance this. But we are balancing yaaaay Ps I love u and your advices makes me think

I love how her editing is actually really good 👌

how do u always make videos that are the perfect subject to what i neeeeeed at the time i neeeeeed them, love you for this

Anna Akana I'm a nurse who just worked a 12 hour night shift and I'm about to sleep. It would mean the world to me if I woke up to a comment from you! 😄😄

@infinity-gn9xq

5 жыл бұрын

Have an amazing day wen u wake up..

Omg you and your cat... I can't 😭😭 so sweet so precious

@isla295

3 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭

your videos are wise and insightful. i love your work. keep it up. i love them!

the subtle "purr" at the end was a complete heartthrob

You're like the older sister who actually cares about me that I never had 😊

What a Gorgeous Cat She Has,I Love Cats #CatPeopleRockHard

Your animations are always so well done. Especially the ones during the sponsorship bit at the end.

Thank you for creating this, I needed this.

Anna we hate you!!!! jOKEY JOKE XD WE LOVE U

@oohsheglows2567

5 жыл бұрын

No we don't❤️ we love you anna. Like genuinely actually love you.

@edna5764

5 жыл бұрын

victoria fang sugarcoated it🤪✨

@chaton897

5 жыл бұрын

@@oohsheglows2567 r/wooosh.....?

All videos with Congress are the highlights of my day.

I needed this today. Thank you Anna.

I love this so much! It’s so true and exactly how I’ve always felt!

I'm in love with your cat!! Such a gorgeous fluff ball 😍 Also, I have the same cat pillow, so cute 😊

"Thank you so much for the mangled lizard." 🤣🤣🤣

Thank you so much! This really helped me out of a really bad break up thank you Anna!!

Well done! Your ability to both make me laugh at myself and understand myself a little better is greatly appreciated!

I wrote «miss you» 40 times to my partner after watching this.

@sophiethepegasus

5 жыл бұрын

fucking mood dude

@goldenglowable

5 жыл бұрын

Pourya Bigonah Heyyyy 👋

@strawwberryyy

5 жыл бұрын

you watch good content

@deduaforreal1774

5 жыл бұрын

Why do I keep seeing u in all the channels I have subscribed to

@rachieh1804

5 жыл бұрын

Pourya Bigonah lové ur Channel dude

I needed that :) jokey joke heheee

@s.d.966

5 жыл бұрын

What's your relationship status? Just asking

I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH ILY

You are so relatable being needy is alright so long as your rules are not too restricting. But overall being needy is good so you know what relationships are best for you. I am a needy person too.

How the hell did you get in my head?

I feel better with this :(( i can be so needy and i feel so bad about it

Thanks for the honest analysis. If it is a healthy level of neediness, it also feels pretty darn good for the partner. One feels needed and appreciated. Balance is everything.

I needed this, thank u anna