we used to have a student who compulsively stole everything that would come in front of her. She would leave the cafeteria decision as to go to the bathroom just so she could sneak into a classroom to steal. Eventually had to make her wear a clear backpack

I am SO GLAD that you do these “True Parenting” episodes, they’re so helpful and instructive, but still entertaining. And I thought it was impossible to make a parenting class that was the opposite of boring! Alicia…👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Parenting Goals, girl!

MENDED LIGHT: SOME SUGGESTIONS - first, I love these, these are awesome, they're super useful as real life, in the morment examples of what to say, how to say it and why, what's effective and what isn't and why, etc. I love these videos. I'm learning a ton. . They're very useful. They are perfectly good as is and don't "need" changing. They're accomplishing the intended goal. But if you could do anything better in these videos, it would be with these factors: 1) Can you fix the eyeline? - it doesn't look like Alicia and the kid are looking at each other. And that's kind of distracting, slightly off-putting and adds to the slight distancing vs connecting effect. 2) can Alicia sit down and next to the kid/Jono? (It might be hard because she might be reading her (necessarily precise) dialogue. That would help give a better sense of "meeting the kid where they are" and being more at the kid's level both physically, visually and emotionally / psychologically, and having / using the right amount of assertiveness (not too little assertiveness where your message isn't heard and received by the kid, but not too much assertiveness where your message isn't received either because it's coming across too harshly / superioristic, critical, forceful, etc). Also maybe you guys prefer having the two people in separate spaces as part of the point of not having them sit together was to make Jono look more the size of a kid so maybe that wont work unless hes sitting a little lower than her. As it is, with Alicia standing up and over the kid, it has a slightly jarring, alienating, distancing effect as well as a superiority/ unequal footing / authority from on high type of dynamic. (Although the content, style and intent of the conversation is on equal footing). 3) if you can just do those two things that will be great. But a third thing would be can Alicia have less of a monotone voice as that's also a bit alienating. However, this is a performance - which not everyone is great at - and can be hard (but don't get me wrong - she's absolutely good enough and doing a great job) and she also might be reading the dialogue so I don't know to fhe degree this can be fixed and also how dialogue can be read while sitting next to the kid. But just that this adds to the "talked at" vs "talked to" or "talked with" aspect.

@doublelightangel

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Great points 👍

thankfully, I haven't had to have this conversation with my kids, but my son would just reply with. "I don't know" I don't know" "I don't know." that's why I have a therapist set up for him, because, I'm not good at getting him to talk

I saw the video, and I could not agree less with what you showed here. A longe conversation like this will never work with a kid with severe ADHD. After like... 2 sentences or so my kid is not with me anymore, and we never get anywhere.

@Margaret-yv9ed

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It’d be nice to have another video on how to effectively hold accountable a child who struggles with attention

@Brigsgirl22

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I agree. Another video on how to do it with a child with attention problems. I have 5 with ADHD. Which my husband and I have (genetics 😬)

Jono's acting is on point! well done

As someone suddenly thrust into the position of “kinship” foster parent, these videos are invaluable. Never wanted to be a parent… but I refuse to be a shit caregiver.

@Margaret-yv9ed

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That speaks volumes about you as a person, as someone who never wanted to be a parent, but puts effort into doing it to the best of your ability.

@swatisaini6447

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@@Margaret-yv9ed ikr I would have a hard time being forced to do something when I am not interested

I look up to the way you parent so much. I'm realizing that my times when I get frustrated or angry is overstimulation and I'm trying to find the point of no return before it happens. I'm so relieved that you fight something similar and that you tell everyone to have quiet time so YOU can have quiet time. I'm definitely putting this one in my back pocket

I've been gathering this experience for 28 years drop by drop, and still couldn't build whole picture in my head and you just gave it to me in less than 10 min of watching! incredible💓what you do is priceless!

I feel like I'm being parented (is that a word?) from these videos. lol Why didn't my parents teach me to set goals to form healthy habits? I'm going to apply these methods to my own life.

@poweredbymoonlight9869

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Same. Also yes, "parenting" i believe is a real word. (Hope i'm not wrong tho.)

Just wanted to say as both parent and as a working therapist, I love these vids. They really helped me to explain the concept of values and choices to many of my clients in a way that is engaging. My only constructive critique is I do agree that these longer convos don't always work for add/adhd from my experience, especially if it's like a telehealth situation. Would LOVE a video either here or on ask a therapist, etc. addressing this and some strategies.

This conversation is awesome, but what age range is this conversation? I feel like this is way too much for a five or six year old, but I’m not sure beyond that.

I think that this might just be a matter of Alicia isn’t really an actor, or she has a ton of dialogue to get through, but the level of calm in the dialogue is impressive. When my kids are yelling at me, it is very hard to keep my tone measured and calm. I try to, but I get as emotional as they do sometimes.

I'm gonna use these videos to "parent" my parents 😅

I love these episodes so much! Not only because of the acting but also it's very educational. If I will have kids one day I will remember the lessons from here.

Loved this video. I'm an adult and a big refrigerator stealer 😮. Trying to be better. Thanks.

I never know i could help my child before he died.

Hey, I really like this. It has a lot of information and examples to implement such information 😻 However, as someone with ADD: as a kid, this would have taken way too long. I would have totally missed the point. More breaks would have been necessary.

I would be very interested in how you work on goals. We have tried everything I can think of, (checklists on paper, boards, computers, or bingo boards, themed treasure maps, building the goals together, separately, simple goals that are easy to achieve to introduce the concept, harder ones to be a challenge, debriefing afterwards, discussing consequences, etc, etc, etc) but they get completely ignored after day 1.

pretty sure i was klepto kid, if you left money lying around i would take it. I stopped that when I got to maybe 13, Just overnight I automatically stopped doing anything that might give me bad karma lol.

To be honest this sounds a bit intellectual to me and I wonder how maybe your kids have got used to using this kind of language but most kids might not be used to the parents using this kind of language? I wonder if could be less in "therapy speak" 😂 but bravo for maintaining neutrality and not reacting 😊 and to #littleJono for his acting ❤

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Jono pretending to be a kid is making me think he is a kid in an adult body.

The thumbnail 😢 pls

If this works for you, great! But it sets an unrealistic example of a conversation with real kids. It could lead parents to think there's something wrong with their parenting if it doesn't turn out like you depict here. And that's harmful. I think it would be more useful to see real children examples like you do with the films/tv examples. Because this isn't normal for kids/adult interactions. This is not what they look like at all. Any teacher, parent, or anyone who works with kids will tell you that. If you're going to call it "TRUE" parenting there should be more TRUTH to it.

Are we really using literary citations on children? My kids would have tuned out way before that. This kind of conversation doesn't really work for smaller kids or nuerodivergent kids/teens. This doesn't seem like a realistic type of conversation one could have with most kids. This is idealized. It would be great if we could give a scripted, staged, articulate lecture to kids and have them sit still and quietly and respond appropriately. But this isn't what happens most of the time. Real kid conversations involve distractions, interrupting, misunderstanding, tuning out, confusion, tangents, and age-appropriate verbiage. This isn't relatable.

I wish you guys could add subtitles in Spanish. Some of the parents I work with would benefit a lot if they could watch this video 🤍