To enrage a healthy person, lie to them. To enrage a narcissist, tell them the truth.

@user-ev9sm7xi4p

4 ай бұрын

💯

@user-zp4lf3lv6x

3 ай бұрын

TRUTH SCARES EM SPINELESS JELLYFISH THEY GOT 2 EAT 2 BUT NOT AT MY EXSPENSE U SAID THAT SO MINMALWORDS ILIKE THAT SHORT PACKN A BIG DOSE OF TRUTH AN BLUNTNESS I LIKETHAT I WISH I THOHT OF THAT REAL PLP WILL CALL U ON BS NARCS HATE THE TRUTH CORNERS THEM THEY RAGE 2 DEFEND THERE REALITY SCARY STUFF WHEN THERE EYES GO BLK SILENT TREATMENT VOICE

@user-zp4lf3lv6x

3 ай бұрын

LIKE THIS ALOT SHORT AN SWEET BUT VERY POWERFULL AN THOUGT PROVING BCUZ ITS TRUE

@Prot91

2 ай бұрын

👏👏👏

@wakeupluv

Ай бұрын

Great point!

They say" I don't need to work on my anger." "You need to stop doing things that make me mad."

@SurvivingNarcissism

3 жыл бұрын

Ugh. Dr. C

@lesliepage3886

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@nellsmith9721

3 жыл бұрын

@M Jazz just done that too ... xx

@Tarotcooks

3 жыл бұрын

😆👏👏👏

@Mvs1209

3 жыл бұрын

sometimes its the other way around. they can blatantly provoke anger and then tell you that you're crazy for getting angry.

Narcissism: Once you see, you can't unsee.

@Foxtrap731

2 ай бұрын

And thank God for that. Once you understand it, you can recognize it easily and avoid it in the future. It also lets you know where to put the boundaries.

@TargttdGma

Ай бұрын

A commonality I noticed allways: blended m/f anat0my. Artists used to know, for sure. Lineages have messed w/genet ICs for generations. Take notIce of men w/shorter top rm bonez .. also then, it's likely to c other f traditional, original skeletal anatomy, like spines, eye socket widths, pinky finger/ears/ankle/feet sizes, etc. Even hair texture, for males, historically was more coarse in m ... prior to about 2000, I'd say.

@EL-gu8fv

Ай бұрын

Like an urban fox. After the first time you see one, you develop a radar.

#1 sign someones a narc, is if they have to put someone down, in order to feel better about themselves

being with a narcissist is very dangerous to your health,,, the anxiety levels ,loss of joy ,they suck the life from you ,, leaving you sick ,, empty,, hopeless!

@anndra1160

3 жыл бұрын

You've just described my life in amazing detail! 😢

@lindaknox5047

3 жыл бұрын

This is what slapped me into realization that I’m living with a Narcissist. Does he care about my health....lol don’t be silly.

@AM-..

3 жыл бұрын

God, pls help us all. I’m trying to get a divorce. It would be so much easier to leave if I wasn’t married. If I were single I would not have been living with him and could leave at any moment and stay gone.

@wojtekwilk3938

3 жыл бұрын

Yet from a global and spiritual perspective, I want to highlight the fact that surviving a narcissist is likely the greater step forward to awakening.

@lisarubin94

3 жыл бұрын

It really does have a negative effect on your health. I had an armpit rash and foot pain that wouldn't go away. A few months after I went no contact both ailments went away, and I've been fine ever since.

Everyday is day zero for a narcissist. That was then, this is now. Why can’t you let the past go? We’re always supposed to act as if we have no history with them.

@screllin

3 жыл бұрын

Very well put 👏

@calvinastrothers6956

3 жыл бұрын

Very true

@christar9527

3 жыл бұрын

So true. When you finally react they are surprised and even offended. My husband always said “Well two wrongs don’t make a right.” After 60 year of horrible amounts of trauma and abuse I hit him in the arm. He brought that up and tried to make me look like a criminal for a long time. That’s because they think of you as an object who has no feelings, you’re not even really human to them. So why would you react?

@jenniferteets4385

3 жыл бұрын

Yes and it could literally be something that happened nan hour ago. But if they feel wronged by something you did, they will bring it up at every opportunity for decades

@pebblesnet78

3 жыл бұрын

Very good explanation

the moment you start saying "No" to them without explaining yourself, is the moment they start to realize they can no longer manipulate you. you then become useless to them and they will trash your character to everyone and cut you loose. what a powerful word.

@SurvivingNarcissism

2 жыл бұрын

You get it. Dr. C

@lisacranmer8005

2 жыл бұрын

Yes..I was talked about behind my back From day 1..about my body to looking in my drawers to see if I was neat, yet they all lied about the number of x gf and illegal activities done...not sure what I was thinking by not leaving...I ended up with 2 back surgeries and digestive system issues, PTSD is heart palpitations from the toxic people..

@katen1228

2 жыл бұрын

Yup, I’m on the receiving end of that for the last 10 years.

@TwEEzY205

2 жыл бұрын

And the repetitive exhausting explaining until you're blue in the face is freakin torture! They have select amnesia and want their partner to re explain things all over multiple times. Letting weeks months yrs pass by the explaining again on the same subject! And if you get frustrated they'll deflect truths and zone in on your attitude. All while they play by their own rules when talking. 0 truths told when they speak.

@toosense

2 жыл бұрын

You are correct. This is what my mother is trying to do to me now, except my other family members know me well enough to know that I am not capable of the things she is claiming. It’s unfortunate that a parent would intentionally seek to harm their own child for attention. Thankfully I won’t continue the cycle.

“Oh, yeah, it’s all my fault” with a sarcastic sneer dismissing any conversation.

When you eventually stop trying to engage people like this at any emotional level you realise how shallow, dull and boring they actually are.

@jennyl7422

3 жыл бұрын

Yes that's what happened with me and my ex.. in hindsight I never really laughed at any of his jokes (never had 'to almost pee my pants' kind of laughter) , because he's just not funny or anything.. while when he had friends over I had more fun with them.. at first I didn't think anything about it but looking at it now it makes sense..

@nancerobinson4901

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@nunah7977

3 жыл бұрын

So true. I was in a friendship with one and did not realize it for years. I started to feel as if I was losing myself and had to agree with everything she said or she would get mad. I was uncomfortable because if I said I liked something next thing I knew I had it. I could no longer even say that is nice. Eventually conversation was not fun but full of her problems. Everyone was wrong but her. I wanted out of friendship but did not know how. Was unable to say what I felt out of fear or anxiety it was so weird. She did something to me ( by trying to make me think I was crazy that I did not do something I KNEW I did., give her a key, she said no I did not, because she forgot ) when she found key that I gave her she came for visit and planted it in my bag. I texed her, blocked her and told her friendship was over. My eyes were finally open to so much and I was in awe that I had not seen it sooner. I wondered about myself and how I fell into that for so long and became a yes person, questioned my sanity, and did what she wanted even if I did not really want to. Happy to be free and clear of her. I actually wondered what she might try and do to get back at me but I knew too much about her for her to even try. She totally controls her family and they are always the wrong ones and she always gets her way. Her kids are in a mess of dysfunction and her husband afraid to speak up for himself. It still boggles my mind if I think about it ..about how I played a part in that for so long..without knowing what was really going on till years later. Like waking up from a bad dream only it was real. Walk away from them because they are will suck the life out of you. They are not real friends.

@keshasmith4302

3 жыл бұрын

They are so weak. When you finally stand up they seem so tiny.

@sorchx

3 жыл бұрын

@@nunah7977 Would you be able to talk about any other signs? My father is one but I;m starting to think my friend may be too. It's hard for me to tell though because the only example I have is an older aggressive man. I haven't spoken to her in some time as she cut me out of he life, completely blocked me for months because she owed me money and for the first time EVER I actually stood up for myself and asked for it back repeatedly. Now she's sent me messages saying she was in a bad place and wants to be friends again (no mention of the money) but shes sent me these messages many times before, I always forgive her and then she never puts in effort again. All she does is bitch about people and I feel like her puppet. What you said stuck out to me, if you don't agree with her she would get really mad. She also physically punches her boyfriend and can be very aggressive at times. She was like a sister to me but I;m starting to think it was because I was the perfect little pet, never speaking up and always admiring her. Now I'm stronger I don't know if allowing her back into my life is a good idea. My gut tells me no but then I worry I'm just branding everyone as NPD and maybe she has changed.

They HATE seeing you do better in life

@Stigmatix666

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. To the point of actively sabotaging your accomplishments

@lorenaperez6293

3 жыл бұрын

Ain't it the truth!

@AnnAndNala

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly. The mother/sister duo narcs in my life have oozed with jealousy over every single thing in my life; college, relationships, home, jobs, fitness, friends, success. They targeted out to destroy i.e. narc mother would actually call my jobs and complain to them about me to try to get me fired. She formed secret "friendships" with my boyfriends to tell them how horrible I was to try destroy the relationships,...and the list goes on and on and on. When I would cut them out, they literally hired private investigators to find out what I was doing in my life because they could not stand me having any type of success. I finally cut them out completely, and the narc mother is getting too old to harass me these days. I'm the happiest I've ever been.

@posypoodle6034

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, my ex used to try and scupper my exams by keeping me awake all the night before

@Enjcj

3 жыл бұрын

Demons in human form. That is awful.

I now know why I am a dog lover. My problem is people.

The more I learn about narcissists and start to see them all around me...the more I believe them to be the "demons" of this world. They are not here to learn and grow...they are here to create as much drama and chaos as possible...they are the ones that force the rest of us to learn and grow.

@BlackCoffeeee

2 жыл бұрын

Instead of seeing them as demons, you could realise that they're incredibly broken people. Often irreparably broken. Definitely steer clear of them, their psychological state is dangerous but they have been broken. It's too easy to demonise them and many people do.

@annofcleavers5791

2 жыл бұрын

@@BlackCoffeeee Agreed,I hear the demon thing alot,it doesn't sit well with me,they are as you say broken people,that's the reality.

@TheLoveweaver

2 жыл бұрын

@Julie this is on the nose. I'm not gonna say why I hold this position beyond the fact that I have witnessed someone in my family appear as if they needed an exorcism. I wasn't the only one who witnessed it either. The air became extremely cold and dense and the persons eyes were black and their voice guttural. It was insane. I'll NEVER forget that experience! When you are this broken and negative, you basically invite this kind of ish to ride you and feed off all the venom, jealousy, fear , insecurity and animosity that they carry within them.

@scottpreston5074

2 жыл бұрын

Everyone has some and to varying degrees some of the personality traits listed in the DSM. They are personality traits that go together to make up an individual, but they when they become extreme they can become a disorder. For example, I like to have have clean hands, but I don't wash my hands 10 times an hour when I'm simply sitting inside. We all want to achieve something we can be proud of, however.... you know the rest.

@rivkaruthgolan

2 жыл бұрын

@@BlackCoffeeee true but you can’t underestimate their propensity to do evil. It is not safe to relate to them in any way.

They lie, shift blame, and call the victim crazy.

@angelicdavis9522

3 жыл бұрын

I know all too well..

@meganparis806

3 жыл бұрын

Oh absolutely they do

@uterushaver8309

3 жыл бұрын

So easy to just blame the victim: they've been doing it since Adam blamed Eve, probably before; very childish. In fact, you might be reminded of some of their behaviors by watching those shows about chimps and orangutans. I wonder if they've regresssed.

@melx6957

3 жыл бұрын

I should be in a mental institution by now, the amount of times I was called crazy.

@dhanya2096

3 жыл бұрын

@@melx6957 A good LPT about narcissists is the more they lie and blame you, the more guilt they're trying to escape. The more they've damaged you. They don't want to face it, so they're projecting onto you. Pathetic miserable creatures, all of them.

Real person: I'm trying to be a little better each day. Narcissist: I'm trying to make others make things better for me every day.

@AwakeningLeela

3 жыл бұрын

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@surferdude4487

3 жыл бұрын

@@AwakeningLeela When it comes to mental health advice, I listen to Dr. Carter. That's because he is kind, calm and typically correct. I saw the title and heard the first two sentences of your video and clicked off. This is not how I deal with people.

@AwakeningLeela

3 жыл бұрын

@@surferdude4487 I am sorry that you got the impression that we are being cruel or negative,pls come over to the channel,you will see it’s not my intuition. I appreciate your opinion because it helps me see from different perspectives. 💜 kzread.info

@gryl.4030

3 жыл бұрын

Surfer Dude: You´re absolutely SPOT on!!

@MM-er5gp

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏🏆

They don't say sorry, they don't do things wrong so apologising would be admitting that they did something unacceptable

@whenkharkov5981

Ай бұрын

Underrated comment 🙌

@carlosgarza1962

23 күн бұрын

100% correct

@user-vn7ck4lf5j

13 күн бұрын

QUOTE: "I don't want or need criticism. You want to talk about what happened this morning.... 8 hours later? Get over it. Water under the bridge. "

@marlenedempster6306

4 күн бұрын

Having been married to a Narc gaslighter for almost 30 years I know he's never ever apologized for a thing. I've just recently been jolted oiut of my denial and am beginning to look forward to life without him

One thing I found out is that you never, and I mean never, admit to a narcissist that you have a flaw. They will grind you into dust using that admission. Work on your issues in silence. Once you become strong, leave.

@MJ-qb5ph

2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@kamakeaiaea7784

2 жыл бұрын

I learned the hard way!!! Narcissist have a way of asking as if they won’t get angry yet once they get you to admit!! That’s it, your done. They take advantage of our honesty….all while they live a lie.

@renee8543

Жыл бұрын

Yes that has been my experience with a narcissistic father. It was like the Miranda Warning growing up, whatever I said was used against me.

@laurieannJake

Жыл бұрын

I don’t see that but I’m going to think about it you may have something there that I don’t see

@gogosylvia293

Жыл бұрын

You can't say "never" enough regarding this.

There is never an 'us' with a narcissist.

@pernilladomander7648

3 жыл бұрын

In the discard phase the ex started to use that word but by that point it almost made me throw up :)

@l.5832

3 жыл бұрын

@@pernilladomander7648 We were married 23 years. I referred to 'us'. My narc husband said "There IS no us".....

@Rwealone

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! He never says us. It’s always my or what he’s going to do. Then he denies not including me.

@tracydanneo

3 жыл бұрын

Unless they’ve moved on from their relationship with you. And then you can be damn sure they’ll trot out the word “us” as a weapon.

@notagain779

3 жыл бұрын

Linda, The one I knew was a married woman "friend" of mine for about a year. Never once did she say "our house" It was always, "My house" Even "My air conditioner!" "My dining room!" 🤣🤪

Don't ignore the red flags. Test their ability to take accountability in a relaxed casual conversation over something silly. It is not only in arguments that these red flags show up.

@lollic307

3 жыл бұрын

Smart girl. Thank you

@lotusphoenix8

3 жыл бұрын

@Sue Ristovska I don't understand what you're saying

@truartist5379

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed

@AwakeningLeela

3 жыл бұрын

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@GodsSparrowSpeaks

3 жыл бұрын

Excellent point

Nothing makes them so happy as when they get you to react or cry... They glow when they have achieved that-so proud of themselves, and suddenly "generous", but only for a very short time

The most crazy-making thing is how they manage to flip EVERYTHING into YOU being the problem... they will do things that they would go ballistic if YOU did the exact same thing... then say that YOU'RE the problem and the one blaming someone else for your emotions 🤯🤡🤦🏼‍♀️ No matter how lonely or vulnerable you might be at any point in your life, it just isn't worth ignoring red flags and not staying vigilant... no matter how disappointing it is when you realise you're dealing with another one of these demons!

@utahmamma

2 жыл бұрын

This is what *I* am being accused of and I’m so confused. I HAVE said “no, YOU are the problem. It’s ALL you. I’m not taking responsibility any more.” Am *I* the narcissist? For the first 18 years of our marriage I assumed all the troubles were my fault. (I was the one that came from a dysfunctional family. His was picture perfect.) When I got sick a couple of years ago and treatment affected my memory we agreed that he would take over some of the things I had been responsible for (financial things, managing medical and therapy appointments for the kids.) I think (I don’t remember, as a side effect of the treatment) that he started out doing it but at some point it got overwhelming and he just stopped. And hid it from me. And misled me. And then outright lied. But claims he’s not lying when I show him the evidence. He says he’s doing his best, and blames it on the way his brain works (he is treated for ADD) When he does help me around the house/yard he does the job part way/ doesn’t clean up after himself/ gets distracted and gets frustrated when I ask him to finish. Our home and life are chaos, I’m exhausted, I’ve told him I need his help and to set a different example for the kids and he says he will but then almost immediately does the thing he just told the kids not to do. I have started yelling. I get ragey. I want someone to see me and hear me. So, yes, *I’m* the angry, loud one. Am I actually the narcissist? Has it been me all along and I’ve been blaming him the last year?

@sarahsky100

2 жыл бұрын

@@utahmamma No way! For starters if you were a narcissist you wouldn't be asking that question and self reflecting. This is a perfect example of my point... they drive you to the point of becoming unhinged and then use your reactions against you. You're yelling and raging because you're past your limit. Not because you're the narcissist!

@dangalangslanger1254

2 жыл бұрын

They will definitely catch you.when your down.

@janicesg6218

2 жыл бұрын

@@utahmamma Depending how sever his ADD is, it's a struggle, does he take meds? His forgetting is what we do. One thing you could do is set up a separate checking account to auto pay certain bills and then no late fees. You, just add up those bills and put a little cushion, then transfer funds to that account. The other issues might not be that easy.

@mea24palustre3

Жыл бұрын

@@sarahsky100 I agree with you

Narcissist toss of a coin: Heads they are right; Tails you are wrong.

@gravesclayton3604

3 жыл бұрын

My A-hole brother did that all the time when we were kids, "Heads I win, Tails You Lose". He still behaves that way at age 60. You failure is his success, and so on...I just avoid him like the Plague.

@justusgoedhart5255

3 жыл бұрын

So true. Beautifully said. 👍👍👍✌

@justusgoedhart5255

3 жыл бұрын

@@MexAm120902 Okay????🤨😆😉

@soniabernatchez7466

3 жыл бұрын

ha ha ha ha they are hilarious and ugly inside and out

@chuckkelehan4131

3 жыл бұрын

We have a winner! Thank you for sharing this .

And when they DO admit they are wrong, it's ALWAYS disingenuine and sarcastic

@kevinleeds979

3 жыл бұрын

damn i was going around for a while saying everything was my fault and did i really mean it? i did not really mean it! i am not sure if 'always' applies to me. maybe i am safe from this diagnosis i hope at least partly!

@ShilasSpellboundCreations

3 жыл бұрын

@@kevinleeds979 maybe I'm being partial. Whenever my husband apologizes for being rude or inconsiderate to me, it's always laced in sarcasm and if I call him on it, things explode again. It's so strange.

@matilda1505

3 жыл бұрын

“I am sorry you feel that way “, “I’m sorry I didn’t meet your expectations “,I’m sorry I have no idea what you are talking about “ sounds familiar? Never sorry for what they’ve done.

@OracleofDelphiTarot

3 жыл бұрын

Or it's a fake apology to get you to stop focusing on their deficiencies

@AM-..

3 жыл бұрын

Shila Foster-Swanson have you considered leaving?. I’m trying to get the divorce started but have run into difficulty and trying to hear what God is telling me to do. Husband does not have any fruit of God’s spirit.

This is how I explain it to other people - it's toddler behaviour. Once you accept that it gets easier, or at least easier to cope with without feeling totally confused all the time.

I’m always told, ‘Only the devil brings up the past.’ I always end up feeling like I’m not allowed to remember how bad things have been, the name calling, the broken possessions, the manipulation and lies, the moodiness and anger.

@SurvivingNarcissism

2 жыл бұрын

The person who said that wants a free pass for a variety of misdeeds. Another saying is: When you do not understand your past, you are doomed to repeat its mistakes.

@somerandomperson5521

Жыл бұрын

It's not their possessions that end up broken, is it? I hope things end up getting better for you. I ask because it was always my stuff that was destroyed, never their's during "uncontrollable" moments.

@patricialopez3275

Жыл бұрын

I understand this, he came back out of the blue, after 2 months of no contact behaving as if nothing happened. Trying to manipulate me into remembering good memories together and when I called out his behaviour he would just reply something non related like I miss you to then disappear again, inconsistent and unreliable, that’s all it is. He tried to manipulate me thinking’s I would live in past memories instead of seeing things for what they are now. They don’t like accountability and own the shit they do, they just want to stay in your mind for their own selfish purposes, prevent you from being happy and moving on to someone healthy and better for you. Don’t fall into their emotional traps

@aurora8749

Жыл бұрын

I'm sure he brings up your past all the time lol get far away. He doesn't love you. They aren't capable of that.

@time_2_get_ready

4 ай бұрын

God's Word also says, "HE calls the past to account" ❤

Narcissists' idea of right and wrong can be summed up as: "Right is what I want when I want it and wrong is when somebody tells me no."

@lucygoose6237

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@conniedenton319

3 жыл бұрын

Mister Definitely!

@I-Am-Prosperous-I-Am-Grateful

3 жыл бұрын

@Sue B That is the whole truth in a nutshell!

@Stigmatix666

3 жыл бұрын

Yup

@AwakeningLeela

3 жыл бұрын

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Worst thing is when you realize you have narcissists in the family. Its easy to move on from other people but family that are like this make it 10 times harder to deal with or avoid

@exile3119

3 жыл бұрын

It's difficult and sucks. I just keep those family members at a distance and I don't share anything about my life with them. I just keep those relationships cordial. It's an artificial relationship just to keep peace in my life.

@lindagarofalo7263

3 жыл бұрын

How can you possibly get away from a family member what is your child a grown adults yes like I said before I can walk away in a heartbeat actually I could run away but there is a little grandchild involved who I have bonded with and love very much, I haven't seen him because of covid-19 are this one excuse after the other and a lot of begging, it's sickening and making me sick I was once a happy-go-lucky person I am no longer that person. Thank God for dr.les and his books as I have purchased three of them I'm working on it

@Nerdyone50

2 жыл бұрын

Right! It’s soo difficult, they pretend YOU are the difficult, unstable, unwell, ignorant person (meanwhile they refuse to learn new information because they think they know everything!). They refuse to realize that you went no contact because of their abusive language towards you. It’s always your fault, everything is always your fault, even things you never had any control over. If you didn’t do anything wrong, they will fabricate something to blame you for (that never even happened), it’s more than tough it’s downright impossible!

@mikajohnson8331

2 жыл бұрын

I think my husband and his family have these traits

@amandaknowles2998

2 жыл бұрын

@@mikajohnson8331 so does mine and my MIL

What I've learned in dealing with these people is a simple trick to spot a narcissist BEFORE they have power over you. If you meet a person that can't admit, or struggles to admit they're wrong about something (usually anything), keep the relationship "arms length". Narcissists are ALWAYS bullies, and bullies are ALWAYS narcissists. Get under their power and they will display the bully. Every time. Until then they are usually super nice, but only to get you under their influence. Super nice+ never wrong = Narcissist. Be careful, it took me nearly 30 years to figure this out the hard way. Cost me millions.

@Sam48772

Жыл бұрын

Another clue..they smile a lot but rarely laugh.

@nickcancelliere5638

Жыл бұрын

Very correct

@dianefox4990

Жыл бұрын

Yes, mine even told me he is never wrong! 48 years and just waking up to this fact. but super nice to others outside the family so I have to be careful.

@biggussdickuss6123

Жыл бұрын

Sounding like a narcissist in your way of thinking

@KerryPetersen

Жыл бұрын

@@biggussdickuss6123 We all have a bit of it, that's true. I'm aware of my issues for sure.

Dealing with bad behavior for too long will take its toll on you. You'll get blamed for your reactions, while they will have zero accountability for the terrible things they did

@proudamerican2133

6 ай бұрын

Yes! They intentionally do things to cause you pain, and your reaction is the problem. So evil they are.

They give you that empty stare, and say, “I don’t remember that”. After trying to explain to my sister how her behavior (which she conveniently couldn’t remember) made me feel, she finally said, “I’m sorry...you did that to yourself”.

@MC-342

3 жыл бұрын

My sister's favorite words. 👍👍

@thequestess

3 жыл бұрын

I used to get it even better: "Nope. That never happened. You remembered wrong."

@gravesclayton3604

3 жыл бұрын

Always the response from my older brother, even after 55 years.

@gravesclayton3604

3 жыл бұрын

@@thequestess For 55 years this has been my older brother's "part 2" response, after saying the phrase above. He is the definition of "gaslighting". It's almost as if he actually believes he is the family authority on everything by virtue of his birth order. It took forever for me to realize that since that will never change, neither will his behavior.

@MC-342

3 жыл бұрын

@@gravesclayton3604 My sister is exactly the same way. She bought a PhD online for a couple hundred $ and now makes everyone call her doctor 😂 . She thinks she the expert on everything. I cut her off years ago . She's 65 and will never change. Should have done it sooner. So much more peace.

They seem to be perpetually immature unable to grow or reflect.

@HoneyDrops2023

3 жыл бұрын

Because they are afraid to see themselves. They expect everyone to react and be perfect so they hold themselves at the same standard and refuse to see they can't meet it. No one can.

@lorriecancillieri987

3 жыл бұрын

Before I knew about narcissism, I would notice each trait separately. When he turned 61 years old I asked him “did you grow up yet?” He said “that’s the way I am.”

@keyshasonmcgee-perry2706

3 жыл бұрын

Yep, and that Stagnating lack of growth and true emotional maturity is sooo #SAD.. They're Senseless, esp. When Everything is Based on how Happy they feel that day! Yes, it's Absolutely Pathetic-ness😔.. O, I 👃some 💩 With Narcs❗

@karenchandler4717

3 жыл бұрын

This!! 🔥🔥🔥

@nosolar2023

3 жыл бұрын

I'm with one now..cold and immature...wen I told him I was sick in bed he laughed 😳

I come from a family filled with narcissists. I've been removed for the most part because I don't live around them, but we had a death in the family and it was such a toxic environment that God literally told me to "WALK OUT THE DOOR, WIPE THE DUST OFF MY FEET, AND DO NOT LOOK BACK!" And he meant everything he said. Narcissism should be taken seriously and those who are not of that most likely need to flee. Nothing good comes from a narcissist, nothing. That's just my experience and take on it. They are always looking for blood - and it doesn't matter who it's from. It's wicked.

@maidmarion2976

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Don’t engage with them. You always feel bad afterwards however little it is.

@beadingbelle3486

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, the medical profession, esp psychologists, psychiatrists & counsellors, need to be trained in this & have more understanding about it. God told me the same thing, by the way. It took me a long psychological battle & fight in order to do so. I stupidly went back - it did not end well. Narcissists are not only blatant liars, they are cowards who also believe their own lies (& are masters at getting weak people to believe them, too) - it is my belief that it's the only way they can live with themselves. Not only are they wicked, they are evil - i've seen this for myself... my MiL's eyes turned black when she gave me one of her stares (the sort that children give you when they believe they can disinegrate you if they stare at you long enough & hard enough). It would have been frightening if it hadn't been so laughable! It seems the Bible is correct in that it says that 'satan prowls around like a lion, looking for who he can devour', but i'm not sure if that's the narcs looking for us, or satan himself looking for the narcs. Either way it's a very, very sad situation.

@cameracamera1319

2 жыл бұрын

@@beadingbelle3486 the scary part is God has told us ALL liars go to hell. That means saved people who unrepentantly lie are hell bound. Truelly scary.

@fml5910

2 жыл бұрын

I know someone who has had this happen to them. They have some very manipulative siblings, brother's and sisters. They never admit their wrong, say their sorry, and don't show any appreciation, or gratitude towards others who give them things, money,and or help them for free.They just have a entitlement mentality. They are quick to gossip, criticize, complain, be bossy, controlling and jealous of others. One of their siblings that is like this was in a hospital for about 5 months.They were in a coma for 2 months, and almost died.But with a lot of people praying helping out giving his kids money, food, etc... They are now awake and conscious. They told me after all this they thought that maybe just maybe their sibling would be a changed human being for the better.And be very thankful, and grateful to those that helped them. But no they are acting like their old bossy, controlling, manipulative self. And telling, and demanding their siblings to come and visit them. They, and their daughter are guilt tripping family members now. The daughter is taking after her parents. She was spoiled, and has a lot to learn, and growing up to do. My friend don't know what to do. I have heard and seen how he has been treated, used, and taken advantage of.It's very sad.

@sammislethe4698

2 жыл бұрын

I am a believer myself. GOd told me same thing. It took years to come to the point where I realized I had to choose myself because these people refuse humility and accountabilty.

It’s allll about how much you can get along with them. As soon as I was exhausted with trying I noticed more arguments. If I became the slightest bit uncomfortable and tried to express it, I was met with rage. Never can make plans or count on anything, everything hits the fan until all plans fall apart and there are no plans of anything except staying stuck in a rut.

@lucindauckele5009

2 жыл бұрын

Omg, this is so spott on and describes my family dynamic ( older generation and now siblings) better than any other description I have ever seen! ...So Validating!!! Thank you Carla!!!

@lisacranmer8005

2 жыл бұрын

Yep.. I was not able and see the red flags..

@nickcancelliere5638

Жыл бұрын

Spot on

They are not interested in the havoc they create and they never take responsibility for the consequences. They love watching distressed victims, it gives them a feeling of power. They cause damage and suffering and then they immediately start blameshifting and projecting. This is my experience.

@christar9527

3 жыл бұрын

Krisztina G. So true. They are after power, just like their master Satan.

@barbaramarshall5271

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sad to say mine as well with my daughters and my own experiences with my mum. Horrible woman

@michelleatchison8424

3 жыл бұрын

They refuse to take responsibility and they don't like the truth cause the truth hurts them

@mrs.christiehannaalexander33

3 жыл бұрын

OMG YES! SO VERY, 😓💔UNFORTUNATELY💔😭, TRUE! My 18th Wedding Anniversary is coming up on December 27th, 2020 & I am just now being able to see & beginning to understand that this "TOXIC, MALIGNANT, SOUL SUCKING, COMPLETE SELF LOVE DISSOLVING, COMPOUNDING ABSOLUTE SELF LOATHING & DISGUST MONSTER" has made me TOTALLY LOOSE THE ONE TIME: BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, HIGH ON LIFE, MOTIVATED, HEALTHY, ENERGETIC, OUTGOING, ETC. Daughter, Sister, Aunt, Wife & Nurse into - ??? AN THIS EMPTY, BLACKHOLE, SICKLY, SHELL OF WHAT KINDA RESEMBLES A HUMAN BEING 😭💔 that doesn't, literally has lost the ability to believe & trust in what my Brain, Eyes & Ears are all telling me is REAL any longer!

@freewaybaby

3 жыл бұрын

@@michelleatchison8424 I have to disagree, in that, they don’t even recognize truth! It doesn’t hurt them because its everyone else’s fault!

Trying to bring a narc to accountability is like pouring gas all over the car hoping it gets into the tank.

@tinamarisia123

3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou for making me giggle then laugh loudly.. I'm having a tough time, your analogy is superb.. just superb... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.. I'll think of this next time I want to try and rationalise... altho I've moved to what you believe is incorrect but I'm not arguing with you.. It's so hard, because I think he gas lights me... nice then pulls back or quite unpleasant if I say something he classes as a challenge or control..

@charlene2349

3 жыл бұрын

Omg LMAO so true!

@thebraziliangardener8481

3 жыл бұрын

the most fantastic thing is their ability to rewrite history,they will tell you the same history you lived 20 times,and all of them will be different,you feel like you are getting crazy yourself,kkk

@cashaywroteit

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@katarinatibai8396

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 👏👏👏

I grow every day from your videos. I’m 63 and my mother is dead but I’m still dealing with the abuse but thanks to you and the community here, I am becoming happier and freer every day. It doesn’t matter when it happens, it’s that it happens.

@SurvivingNarcissism

Жыл бұрын

There is wisdom in your words here...thank you.

@warrenbradford2597

Жыл бұрын

@@SurvivingNarcissism Yes, it will happen for me one day. I just need to keep learning and creating to end ensnarement and lead an successful, extraordinary life.

@cc1k435

9 ай бұрын

Keep going, one day you'll just feel the relief of not having her be here anymore. It won't hurt you anymore, and you'll look back almost like it happened to someone else, it's that bewildering. ❤

@edl6398

9 ай бұрын

@@cc1k435 Thank You!!! ❤️🥰

@johnscanlan9335

6 ай бұрын

I'm one year older than you and I could have written your exact words!!!

"They don't go deep into the why and the meaning and the morality of what they do.....it is just simply surface......" Oh this is GOLDEN!!

If they can never say "I'm sorry", especially when you're visibly hurting, crying ,etc., from whatever they did or said or what was done, they are most certainly a narcissist. Waste no more time - RUN AWAY!! There is no peace in your life with with someone like that so find someone else.

@eduardochavacano

3 жыл бұрын

Oh they can say, they are sorry. And if you forgive them. You are just giving them a reason to hurt you even more.

@tedbkd1

3 жыл бұрын

That’s not true.

@jonnuanez2843

3 жыл бұрын

My mother says people who say "I'm sorry" are insincere and always go back on their word. She has never said "I'm sorry" to me or anyone, which is a reason why she's on her 5th marriage and why I would be fine if I never saw her again.

@sunshinyday1901

3 жыл бұрын

Better still stay alone and be free😘

@elizabethfraser2996

3 жыл бұрын

YES Exactly ! Great advice. As narc survivors we help others because they know their pain.

They are superficially friendly, but don't cross them...They actually have very few friends...The more you know them, the less you like being around them. TOXIC!

@mdee860

2 жыл бұрын

Very true. They really don't have many friends. In a group social setting, they don't know how to approach people, start a conversation, mingle or join a group smoothly. So bizarre - like a vulture just staring, then wonder why others people won't talk to him. He brings nothing to a conversation & expects everyone to make a fuss because he just stands there at the edge. It's bizarre.

@SummeRain783

2 жыл бұрын

Agree

@anaangel5434

2 жыл бұрын

Yup🌟

@monicasmith5785

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! No one I grew up with would believe me if I told them my mom was a narcissist but when you ctually get the chance to *really* know her... You know. And then you wish you didn't.

@christophercox5633

2 жыл бұрын

exactly.

I’m a survivor of a family that is a cesspool of nothing but narcissists that hated me simply because they could tell I was different from them, that I knew it was wrong. The oldest child. Going on 3 years now I’m trying to correct everything wrong that they left with me and eradicate any sort of narcissistic behaviour from my brain. I’m trying as hard as possible to dig myself out of this grave... This video explains so much about both of my parents... I’m here trying to create a genuinely better future for me and my girlfriend I can’t thank you enough.

@386joedaddy

Жыл бұрын

It sucks man but my father will die alone in a nursing home because he cannot apologize. You saying they hated you confirms what i thought. His father and mother were literally nazis and i couldn't stand them either but yet needed their validation and approval. I had no ideal what a narcissist was until i dated one during covid. I couldn't figure out why she reminded me of my dad, lol untill she called me a narcissists and looked it up and it all made sense but she did so much damage by then.

@TimmMix

10 ай бұрын

@@386joedaddy sad but nice that you found your way

@traceytansley1659

3 ай бұрын

Stay strong and keep moving on! You can do it!!!!

"responsible people are loyal, but not dutiful about their loyalty. Responsible people genuinely want to know you and how they fit with you" this hits the nail on the head. Thanks for your content!

“When the Fox hears the Rabbit scream he comes a-runnin', but not to help.” - Thomas Harris

@lindaknox5047

3 жыл бұрын

That just brought me to tears. Touch a nerve much.

@UsmanKhan-lu2ei

3 жыл бұрын

😢😢😭😭

@UsmanKhan-lu2ei

3 жыл бұрын

How can a humanbeing be a narcissist.

@Bigbadwhitecracker

3 жыл бұрын

yeah, he comes to take photos to post on FB

@GaryPotocki82

3 жыл бұрын

Gary Oldman said that best

The narcissist I know would watch this and think it describes everyone else.

@SurvivingNarcissism

3 жыл бұрын

Amazing. Dr. C

@grimegarage09isplop

2 жыл бұрын

My ex girlfriend is exactly the same. She had no understanding of what is a narcissist and the word was not part of her vocabulary. That was until her own mother called her a narcissist!!!. Afterwards, she started watching videos on the condition/character. After her new found knowledge, suddenly i was labelled as 1.. she projected all her behaviours on to me. Totally delusional. In her words she's a total empath lol... everyone else is the problem. The way she talks to her mother, brother, sister, totally dismussive, rude, argumentative, as though she's always in the right. If they even question her they are (in her head) bullying her. She's only angry because everyone is abusing her, not because she's in the wrong. Everyone walks on eggshells around her and her simp ex boyfriends would just allow her to abuse them because "you'll never meet someone as special and attractive as me again".. total egomaniac who would say "most men fancy me, they always have, even my friends partners try it on with me" yet would claim she's not vain... she even asked what my brother thought of her. He had said "She's not my type" but she still asked "but did he say I'm attractive".. she always has to be the centre of attention. "Why cant you let things go"? Is what she'd say after starting an argument about something historical. She would change the conversation to suit her flawed arguments and deny she'd said things literary 5 minutes previous. When i pointed out her bullsh!t i was attacking her.!!! Regardless of her verbally abusing and insulting me, that was just being honest and her truth!!!! She absolutely hated being proven wrong, at which the toddler would emerge and have a tantrum or "i dont want to talk about it anymore, you're attacking me".. there was no chance of any dialectic, she would just shut down any disagreement with the "attacking me" offense/defense. I never raised a hand to her!!! I've never raised a hand to any woman!!! Of all the verbal abusive she aimed at me i only ever on 2 occasions lost my cool and shouted. She said i was frightening her and felt i was going to hit her. On those 2 occasions i was actually leaving the house to avoid a confrontation. Someone walking away from an argument is hardly looking to have a fight. She was/is so manipulative. She would tell me "i dont like your friend, he's nasty. I dont think you should talk to him". What makes it worse, her accusing me of being a narcissist i started to question maybe i am. I would always defend her behaviour, make excuses for her, say i had upset her, that it must be my fault.. i once asked her when she wasnt in a manic state "why are you so angry at everyone"??? Obviously her answer was "because they pi$$ me off, but I'm not angry".. i looked in to all sorts. Found out about gaslighting, trauma bonds, love bombing, hoovering, overt, covert, no contact.... I truly suspect she has Borderline personality disorder alongside her Narcissism. She has a new supply now and i havent heard from her for over 6 months... life has been far less stressful and my health is much better. I do feel sorry for the next guy and worry when she's had enough of him or he can't take anymore, will she contact me again...

@justbeyourself8843

2 жыл бұрын

Mine too

@jussikolehmainen6310

2 жыл бұрын

I get a shock that this actually describes my behavior. I really understand why I have been behaving like this but not all the way as is decribed in here. I have felt for sometime that there is sometihing off in me and havent understand why. No I start get grasp of it and I hope I can heal it because it makes my connection to other people really odd and difficult and its as there is part of me that is scared to be seen. Im really grateful I know all this now. Its a big relief actually and now I can do something to it.

@mazza_razzza

2 жыл бұрын

@@grimegarage09isplop : If she does, stay away. You can and will find someone more suitable. Good luck for the future.

I really appreciate this man. I wish more people in the world were like him.

@marilyntill9507

5 ай бұрын

I do too…. One can not help but respect a man like this one 😊

2 narcissist parents Still working on myself 62 yrs.later

Narc: "We're not talking about me right now. We are talking about you." Absolutely no accountability for anything ever.

@tinagillispie6392

3 жыл бұрын

No i am talking about you .

@ZFosterZ

3 жыл бұрын

Wow. Heard this one. Deflection. Blame shift. Deny. Stone wall. Bloody horrible with woman I knew.

@karenchandler4717

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly what you just said! 🔥🔥🔥

@marthavasquez1579

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t know how many times I heard that!

@painteroflove

3 жыл бұрын

OR, if the topic is Prey's experience of abuse from Narc, Narc's reply is still ALL ABOUT POOR NARC! Prey: "I've been let down, and left hanging. How do you think I feel? Narc: "I'm "XYZ," I've got "ABC," I'm longing for "KYT" Woe is ME.... Prey: "Uh, back to your ghosting me..." Narc: "I'm...Me...Mine...woe is Me, ... poor ME..." etc. etc. etc. Prey: "Okay, could we get back to my experience with you from my end?" Narc: "I'm this and THAT, WOE to me, I...ME...MEEE! GRRR! Wrath-on switch flips: All paths lead to wrath when confronting narcs.

Yes, I was married to one for 14 years and everything was always someone else fault. He fought with coworkers, other guys at the YMCA, even at a church retreat. Tried counseling twice, nothing changed I got out. Married 18 years now to the greatest, easiest going guy in the world. It took me years to get over the emotional damage but I am FREE.

@mariajmc6557

3 жыл бұрын

Be blessed 🙌

@newdayz715

3 жыл бұрын

Yayyy! FREEDOM REAL FREEDOM! LOVE IT! 💘

@monicasmith9548

3 жыл бұрын

♡ congrats on your escape. I'm still trying to figure out how I am going to ♡ bless you and your courage

@hugmc

3 жыл бұрын

Great 👍

@HoneyDrops2023

3 жыл бұрын

OMG, I am so happy to hear that--you are a testament to the fact that no matter what, we can make better choices and get out.

I’ve been coming to terms that I grew up being a narcissist and showing those classic traits to many people who were close to me. It’s been hard to admit but knowing there’s hope that I have the willingness to improve my beliefs, my insecurities and behavior. Thank you for these videos. I don’t expect anyone to forgive my past actions but for now the best thing I can do is to simply check myself and question why I feel a certain way when I do.

@dianetyler1802

6 ай бұрын

Maybe

@WayOfHaQodesh

6 ай бұрын

You can and will be forgiven if you truly want it. Seek the Most High YAH. If you've never read the Bible yourself, for yourself, by yourself, do so. Whatever happened to us in our childhoods and lives happen for a reason. If we've been wronged we have the power of free will to either let go and forgive or if, like me when I used to have such a blackened heart full of hatred, wrath, anger that I asked, demanded that the most high five me a new heart, capable of forgiving. Only the devil wants us to believe we cannot be forgiven. I truly hope you will continue the path you've chosen to begin. You are loved with an everlasting love from our Heavenly Father YAH Most High.

@evelynspaghetti4978

4 ай бұрын

You can absolutely change. Don't let anyone say you can't. The only reason they say narcissists can't change, is because they don't admit they have toxic traits (like most people). You've done that, therefore, you can change. Be proud of yourself x

I am a narcissist in recovery, bound and determined to correct my behavior before I commit to another relationship. I discovered my narcissism after my 25 yr marriage ended. I've been devastated but very grateful to have been given the opportunity to see what went wrong. Thank God, I do believe there is hope for my change.

@angelchild4942

2 жыл бұрын

@@welshie2007 I saw that my narcissism was injuring my loved ones. I was incapable of truly listening because I was too busy in my head with me to develop deep relationships. I became dependent on the emotions of the people around me in order. I lost track of which me I even liked. Maybe I suffer from more than just narcissism, thankfully the idea of changing gives me something constructive to focus on. Otherwise I find myself tearing myself apart.

@linda6987

2 жыл бұрын

It’s not gonna take, sorry. You’re just learning the best way to “get over”. Sorry, good luck to you but I don’t believe it not for one second.

@angelchild4942

2 жыл бұрын

@@linda6987 LOL! Thanks for your heartfelt apology 🤣

@miss.jenny.b

2 жыл бұрын

@@linda6987 Lol Linda you are a savage and unapologetic (even though you fake apologized) animal AND I love you. Honestly I cringe everytime one of them says they are in therapy bc you cannot fix this at all ever. The best example of this is Tony Soprano. Dr. Melfi finally realizes in the end that she actually made him a BETTER sociopath than ever. He was able to still be ruthless but mask it with psychological strategy. There is absolutely no cure for narcisssism. We just have to wait until they all die and also the narc children they made to die. Its like evolution or something since they are literally responsible for destroying the planet. Narcs will use resources up until there are none left at all. Nature will weed them out in 2 maybe 3 generations time. Let's all pray.

@cryptoooooohgaga7184

2 жыл бұрын

Can you give me more details on how you discover you were a narcissist?

"It's my fault"...said no narc, EVER.

@xforeverbubbly

3 жыл бұрын

They do if they’re desperate.

@pianolearner7

3 жыл бұрын

Mine once said "I know it'a all my fault" but he was being patronizing.

@xforeverbubbly

3 жыл бұрын

@@pianolearner7 mine kind of did that the last night I was with him.. which actually enhanced the idea of leaving the next day. He was being extremely passive and rude.. kept bumbling stuff to the point where I felt super unsafe and bullied.. I told him to leave and that he was scaring me. He said “how am I scaring you. I’ll be quiet”. I repeated what I said and told him to plz leave. He proceeded to sarcastically and belittling say “yeah bc I’m so scary”.

@GENRTS

3 жыл бұрын

@@pianolearner7 so what are words worth anyway?

@pianolearner7

3 жыл бұрын

@@GENRTS nothing. They're just another form of manipulation.

"i'm sorry you feel that way"

@LuxMeow

3 жыл бұрын

My mother.

@bethkane8145

3 жыл бұрын

I heard that soon many times, threw it right back on me.

@thatrunningirl

3 жыл бұрын

my narc ex said this a lot! he also cheated on me for a YEAR, had a one night stand, made me have 2 abortions and got me arrested because of his lies, then HE left

@LuxMeow

3 жыл бұрын

@@thatrunningirl The first time it happens it's on them, the second time it happens you have to look at your role in it all. Getting an abortion effects every woman differently and in no way am I dismissing your experience when I say, it may have set you free. These people will often use your child as a weapon to hurt you since they have no respect over all. Without respect there is no love.

@jogriffiths5766

3 жыл бұрын

Oh!!! The times I've heard that old classic!!!

Going through a funeral and an estate cleanup with a narcissist was probably one of the worst experiences of my life. They are total control freaks and ignore other folks feelings or thoughts. I tried to continue a relationship with the narcissist after this, but now I realize the hopelessness of this idea and that it is just best to cut them out of my life and move on.

@YellowFressia

Жыл бұрын

I've had exactly the same experience. So glad to have realised what I was dealing with and to have moved on to being at peace. He clearly hasn't moved on and still occasionally lashes out.

@crzynites6754

11 ай бұрын

I went through the same, it was horrendous & it did break me for a long time, I had to walk away before the estate was settled & hire a solicitor to deal with the rest of it, through these video's I now know what sort of people I was dealing with....

@beaglerescue5281

10 ай бұрын

My narcissist brother cancelled my mother’s funeral the morning of. The funeral was scheduled in his church and that’s how he was able to do it. He couldn’t be there because of a child in the hospital and accused me of planning to disparage him publicly when giving the eulogy. Insanity is all I can say. When his son died a few months later only a handful of people came. My one brother said it was the worst funerals he had ever seen because he stayed on stage for two hours showing slide shows.

@kw25627

6 ай бұрын

Ugh! I’m getting ready to face this. I’m totally anticipating to have to fight for my inheritance. I know they will feel entitled to it all. I just feel sick.

I didn't think I was with a narcissist until I watched your videos, and it all made sense to me! I was grieving the loss of a relationship, but now, thank God I realize how much I was in a narcissist relationship!

If you start to tell him about something that happened to you, he interrupts and starts to talk about him. Every sentence from a narcissist starts with I.....

@lindarose3547

3 жыл бұрын

If you broke your foot, they broke their head in the year 1700 when they were in the army lol

@Elenakotronaki

3 жыл бұрын

When you start a sentence, they raise their voice, to cover your voice and they start their stories. When you are referring to someone, easily can stop you, saying "oh, he is stupid, he's just stupid" and they continue with their ego.

@lindarose3547

3 жыл бұрын

@@Elenakotronaki yessssssssssss!!

@fussa7913

3 жыл бұрын

Lol every time, never fails! Lol!

@DivineEmpress1810

3 жыл бұрын

Yep so true! Or you are telling them about your day and they want to "critique" what you did right or wrong that day...I stopped sharing! It was totally exhausting to even get a sentence out!

Don’t we wish we could put these children on an island together, far far away!!!

@miss.l.c.minister

3 жыл бұрын

Yes I agree with you 100%, take all of them and put them on an island and have a psychologist psychiatrist do rehab but remove them from the cities the towns etc and put them on their own little island until they get help

@freerangeboogie7293

3 жыл бұрын

😆

@douxry6580

3 жыл бұрын

Peter pans Neverland

@xgwke5867

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, North Sentinel Island

@sheilanelson89

3 жыл бұрын

God is gonna do it!

I had my first true encounter with a full blown Narcissist and it was quite the rollercoaster. Now that I'm fully aware of how these people are, I'm finding myself surrounded by them all the time. They are not that hard to recognize once you've experienced a full blown one. I'm so surprised at how the number of them have increased over the years, it's almost like its invading and becoming the norm. I'm beginning to think that being an empath is now the abnormal. God please help us all because we are being torn apart by these very troubled people. No care or concern for others is a recipe for disaster.

@SurvivingNarcissism

2 жыл бұрын

#TeamHealthy

@Sam48772

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. I could not recall knowing them earlier in my life too. Little capacity for rational thought and action, me me me. Team work doesn't happen. They often claim religious belief but are the anti Christ.

@aurora8749

Жыл бұрын

Just keep to yourself. I have noticed they make up about half of all ppl. Be reserved and the narcissist won't latch on to you

@sanctuairegaia5213

2 ай бұрын

We truly are being torn...

@mytruthbekind5793

Ай бұрын

They get rewarded. They are achieving oriented. The ones I know are successful but awful. They put on a good show.

"They refuse to take responsibility for personal a relational difficulties" why is this such a gem? Those of us who enable the N cannot SEE THIS; our objectivity has been so compromised by the FUGUE of dealing with and living with the sickness of a narcissist. I was groomed from age 17; married him at 19 and finally at 48 was divorced after 12 years of on/off counseling and thinking I was crazy. I am here still learning about them. I am in a whole natural normal uncritical and loving marriage....I am only codependent to certain relatives and I am still studying my own reactions. Damn - those years of participating in his sickness made me a cripple.

@SurvivingNarcissism

2 жыл бұрын

You're figuring it out, Lisa!

Real person: I'm trying to be better each day. Narcissist: I'ma put everyone else down so I feel like I'm better each day.

@andyozzzz

3 жыл бұрын

Way easier to talk shit and criticize everyone instead of working on yourself thats how these narcissistic freaks roll

@kardoyle

3 жыл бұрын

YES 🙌🏻 so well said . Runs in family for generations...

@gobblelevclass3nuclearsubm393

3 жыл бұрын

totally indeed !!

@pointsbeingmade7996

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha yes. And I do this!

@eleniglinia2798

3 жыл бұрын

your humor make it a lot easier

This is so true. They never say "I'm sorry". They never say I made a mistak. NEVER! UGH! :) Peace all.

@wildhorses6817

3 жыл бұрын

NEVER heard I am Sorry over 30 years. Still a mean, nasty, cruel man. Glad I am Gone and At Peace.

@elizabethbrauer1118

3 жыл бұрын

My stepmother is the queen of narc - charming, intelligent, deceitful. She studied my weaknesses as a child and prepared for the hunt. Never apologized for anything.

@klddere3734

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes they do to suck u back in

@ajaymalhotra8576

3 жыл бұрын

U mean all wives are narcissistic

@heatnicoleher

3 жыл бұрын

What i heard was "I apologize". Period. Not for what they were sorry for. Like a broken record. As if "I apologize" was supposed erase the wrong.

Excellent… after 70 years of being with narcissists I’m finally understanding what’s wrong with me…. Nothing !!

Before I started the video, I was like "lack of accountability". This was on the money. Was in 2 relationships with covert narcissists, both different breeds though; one was more passive aggressive and the other aggressive, but the main common red flag between the two was lack of responsibility for anything really.

@SurvivingNarcissism

2 жыл бұрын

You get it. Dr. C

Never admitting culpability, for anything. Even when faced with irrefutable evidence, it is still always someone else's fault. Once you see their tools of manipulation, their power is gone. Thank you Dr Carter for opening my eyes to this cruel game. After 26 years, I'm able to see my way out to 'team healthy'. You are a life saver to so many!

@SurvivingNarcissism

3 жыл бұрын

Ding, ding, ding. Dr. C

@Rock_Girl_Daze

3 жыл бұрын

J S yes, once you figure it out, and accept it...it holds no power. ✌️

@bernardhilario4395

3 жыл бұрын

Lifesaver indeed...

@evi4761

3 жыл бұрын

@@SurvivingNarcissism v bbbb xv

@carolnahigian9518

3 жыл бұрын

And when I tactfully confront K.N toxic brother he has RAGE ,meltdown and writes 5 page letters of critiqueHE MAILS ASININE SHREW LETTERS!!!!!

Responsible people is something the narcissist makes you forget to be. They make you sick irrational and guilty. And by the time you figure it out that’s it’s not you. Your already in a very dark place.

@wendipasa7109

3 жыл бұрын

Oh how I know tbis its so sad

@jewelsbarbie

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, this is exactly what I experienced.

@Lifetalk849

3 жыл бұрын

Description, but not prophecy. It's your game, and you get to make the rules!

@gmohler

3 жыл бұрын

Maro- Your right on! Well put! Agree 100 I experienced this ...Can make you crazy until you separate fact from fiction.

@feliciajuliano7645

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks everybody.. you're describing my sister! I'm so relieved; I thought I was losing my mind! She never remembers anything she's ever done to me or said..But, I remember everything!! She is now know in my past!+ God Bless!++

I love how you define guilt as a temporary restorative emotion (as opposed to having it used against you.)

This is so spot on. My ex cheated on me for years and told me he isn’t that type of person-it was just that he wasn’t getting his needs met by me. He also did admit to years of verbal abuse but again brought it back to me-said it is because we weren’t compatible and he was frustrated

@PATISLAV

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, it was so painful to constantly hear we are not compatible. I guess she knew something I didnt at the moment :)

@la6136

Жыл бұрын

If he was so unhappy he could have just ended the relationship. He was straight trash 🤢

When a narcissist's position has been exposed as false, arbitrary, or untenable, he will suddenly become evasive, articulate half-truths, lie, flat-out contradict themselves and freely rewrite history (making things up as they go along).👍

@SurvivingNarcissism

3 жыл бұрын

You're tracking with me! Dr. C

@234forte

3 жыл бұрын

This is the truth

@sage9836

3 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@hilarystubbs9538

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, and mine likes to turn it around and say I am the one doing exactly that instead of him. It literally makes you think you’re crazy, tries to devalue you, and some months ago this person drove me to a suicide attempt because I let the demon, or whatever the hell it is, win. But not anymore. I’ve never met a more sick and twisted individual that can spout ‘I love you’ one min and the next they don’t even like you and don’t care if you live or die. GET OUT folks if there is someone like this in your life. Cut them off. It is literally dangerous to have them around you, because your mental health is your safety. If they are there, run. It is NOT you, it is them.

@Itsunclegabby

3 жыл бұрын

Reminds me of someone 🍊

The ones that strike me the most are: 1) lack of empathy 2) need to show superiority 3) controlling 4) stubbornness 5) avoidance of responsibility 6) won't accept input ESPECIALLY if it does not agree with their agenda or beliefs There are others that I haven't listed but the majority stem from these 6 with #1 being the most important sign to me. Thanks Dr C and all for letting me know that I'm not alone.

@LadyMngwa

3 жыл бұрын

Stubborness does not seem like a pure narc thing and sometimes this can be a good feature. Narcs are not as much stubborn as unable to accept anything that does not fit into their reality, but that is not stubborness even if it can seem so sometimes.

@june-mariehamilton5455

3 жыл бұрын

wifferste ss Exactly, but add dishonesty, manipulation and stealing.

@salonsavy6476

3 жыл бұрын

Spot on 👍

@christianone6611

3 жыл бұрын

Be wary...covert narcs are EXCELLENT at showing empathy (for awhile) as they mirror you during love bombing. But later...you'll find the same hot/cold crap as the overt narcs.

@barbarapope349

3 жыл бұрын

Yes great list 👍🏻And I also put manipulation high up also which like you inferred this list is long and distinguished 🤣

This is really good to know, as we who have escaped from a narc are always questioning ourselves to see if we are really understanding that person correctly, as they have very skillful means of making you doubt yourself. So just knowing that their refusal to admit they were wrong, or that they made a mistake, or their refusal to ever apologize for anything proves who they really are.

What is the worst, is when you call the person out as a narcissist and then the person learns the term and calls everyone else narcissist when they don't put up with the abuse. Crazy.

@jonathanmarois9009

Жыл бұрын

Spot on!

@warrenbradford2597

Жыл бұрын

@CancelledOpinion Never tell a narcissist that he or she is a narcissist, never tell a gaslighter that he or she is a gaslighter. It is not worth it. It will be scary day when you let them know that you know.

I wish a big warm embracing hug to everybody in the comments section. Thanks Doctor for bringing us together. Another thing they do is drive and park like major jerks.

@ruthyoung1032

3 жыл бұрын

To be trapped in the car with a narc driver is the worst experience😡. They enjoy risking your life just for supply.

@HappilyAnonymousGirl

3 жыл бұрын

They get scared even if you drive like a grandma. Give you directions to places you’ve taken them several times just to “be helpful”. When they drive they “know what they’re doing”, but you’re sitting in the passenger seat holding your breath and secretly about to crap your pants.

@HoneyDrops2023

3 жыл бұрын

Same back atcha Kev!

@HoneyDrops2023

3 жыл бұрын

@@ruthyoung1032 had a friend who was so distraught after the back seat driving of a narcissist she was trembling. They can be the absolute worst.

@hadessimpett6477

3 жыл бұрын

I could use a real hug, haven't felt any comfort for a real long time lol.

They refuse to take responsibility for emotional reactions..blame shift, go into denial...but will not take responsibility. Narcissists don’t change.

@sheilamatthews6975

2 жыл бұрын

My sister never her fault or I don't remember after 50 years I am completely free and first time happy

Dr. Carter...you are a blessing. Thank you for your consistent clarity in explaining this most challenging of personalities and behaviors. Narcissism is one of the most toxic things a person may ever encounter. Peace to you good sir.

@SurvivingNarcissism

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Christopher. Dr. C

@lisacranmer8005

2 жыл бұрын

@@SurvivingNarcissism I have issues with the PTSD..I had no IDEA why people was in.. Never have been told I'm sorry for dropping you on your back... leaving you in hospital with SEPSIS, pancreatitis and gastroparesis with 2 back surgeries...it broke my heart that his wicked sister and mother continue for lie to cover up the lies...

All my childhood, I remember my mother blaming her life being miserable on EVERYONE but herself. As a kid, I remember thinking to myself that it didn't make sense and maybe if she looked in the mirror and really thought about what was going on she would see it was HERSELF who was the problem and she needed to change for her life to get better....still hasn't happened. Thank God I have removed myself from that toxic relationship.

Once you tirelessly leave the fog following these relationships you can finally see all of these traits clearly. Initially, it takes grueling months blaming ourselves. It’s an insidious experience

@lioydwilliams1850

3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Tara Lawson,I admire your pretty smile!

@ENZIO90

3 жыл бұрын

Hi doc

@libbyp5013

3 жыл бұрын

Literally!!! Took me a week after out break up for me to realized none of anything was my fault and that he’s a narcissist.

@eightfigs3508

3 жыл бұрын

How do I get over it? I ABSOLUTELY HATE THAT I MET THEM.

@jessicariddell1976

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. And then you realize it is EVERYWHERE!

My favorite statement from my narcissistic ex: "Let's compromise and do it my way." He was totally baffled (and annoyed) when I laughed, because he was serious.

@wolfie498

3 жыл бұрын

Hey, he's your ex now, glad you can laugh. And tbh, that's hilarious 😂😂😂 what a nutjob 😂

@venusessentials

3 жыл бұрын

Lmaooo its unreal

@firebunnii3536

3 жыл бұрын

This made me lmfao 🤣 perfect comedy, they really are hilarious once we can see them clearly without emotion lololol

Again, thank you!!! I’ve been married to a narcissist for 48 years and I always thought the problems were because I wasn’t good enough. After researching narcissism for about a year, I finally have peace within myself, and a name to put to how my husband has treated me. I’m still working out my options because I know he will never change. I didn’t sign up for a marriage like this, but I also felt I needed to hang in there for my 10 kids’ sake. I am learning to get myself back and to self love. Love your videos.

@SurvivingNarcissism

2 жыл бұрын

Keep learning, Shari! Dr. C

@patriciamonroe5984

2 жыл бұрын

Honey, I am in your shoes right now! I am just starting to do my research and am totally blown away! Fits my spouse to a T. Hopefully in a few weeks, months or a little longer, I will be much more healed as I can recognize what is going on.

@marwaniarbak5804

2 жыл бұрын

yes me too.. been living with a narciss for 22 years.. could not get out from my marriage for my kids sake.. learning more to be self love and self worth.. and put a stop to all those negative things said by him.

@Mcgrandma

2 жыл бұрын

Sadly I’ve been on a rollercoaster ride with a husband who has anger problems, name calls, swears and puts me down continually. I’ve tried asking, “Did you mean to say it like that?” like the counselors suggests, but then he gets madder. He knows when he’s been a tyrant and will apologize but it never gets better. He’s nice when we’re around other people especially our seven children and our beautiful grandkids. Life’s been a struggle, and I feel alone most of the time, but now that I know he's a narcissist, I’m able to get on better. We’re celebrating our 50th anniversary in a few months. Crazy life but it’s as good as it gets.

@windtunnel5267

Жыл бұрын

@@Mcgrandma God Bless.

Responsibility=The Ability to Respond. Not react. This is spot on and where I am at in my healing and moving forward with people in my life. No time for drama and insecurity on a on going pattern anymore.

@TawnaTV

Жыл бұрын

Very good comment..thank you ❤️

“The search for a scapegoat is the easiest of all hunting expeditions.” ― Dwight D. Eisenhower

@Lilyloo82

3 жыл бұрын

Love this. Would love to say this to the narcs in our lives right now, but I know they'd get supply from it so grey rock.

@GymRowboat

3 жыл бұрын

@@Lilyloo82 Agreed. The most productive communication I've had with full-blown narcissists is to say nothing. Sadly, many of them are incapable of self-reflection.

@georgiavela5276

2 ай бұрын

I like Ike!

This hurts when it's your own mother doing this and then turns both siblings against me. I had to cut the ties and live my own life

@sirtedricwalker2979

3 жыл бұрын

This is what's happening right now in my family with my mom...I didn't think my twin was going to survive but she is now moved in with me.

@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD

3 жыл бұрын

Scapegoating. That’s what they did to you. I’m the golden child turned scapegoat.

@lindsayschilling8707

3 жыл бұрын

That's my mother: the human wood chipper!

@karenkushla3975

3 жыл бұрын

I cut ties with my sister because I was always responsible for her poor actions. I am much happier now.

@ddcub

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations that you have the resilience and the strength. Remember people that mind don’t matter, people the matter don’t mind.

I come from a very loving family, I was totally unaware of narcissism, these are shallow people that have no feelings nor remorse. Am soo glad I was able to get over one, 6 months into a relationship with a narc I has no idea he was a narcissist, am so happy I was discarded, he hates that I never stopped being happy and loving. A narcissist will never be happy or loving they lack the capacity. Thank you Dr. C YOU ARE AMAZING!

There is something quite strangely comforting that narcissists are so predictable in their narcissistic behaviours. So once you learn more about their narc traits the more you see the red flags and warning signs. And when you know, you know! I was in such a state of confusion and self blame for the longest time wondering what the heck I doing wrong to receive such meanest and disrespect from my narc ‘friend’, but thanks to Dr Carter’s videos I’ve seen the light at the end of this dark narc tunnel. With each of these narc markers I could attribute an event or a time when my narc said or did these things. Thankfully for us narc survivors there is some great advice out there on how to escape or handle these people. I’m personally putting everything I’ve learnt (and still learning!) in the last couple of months into action and I’m already starting to feel better about myself. It’s like I switched a light on and can see clearly now. Thank you Dr Carter for your valuable advice, it really has saved me from probably years more of future abuse.

@impaktstories

Жыл бұрын

I ended the relationship with my ex because living with him became intolerable. I had a suspicion he was a narcissist, but I hadnt researched it and had no true understanging. One million brilliant KZread videos later I see he is a text book case. Amazingly so. I keep finding videos explaining arb. things - like why he was so difficult with birthdays. Understanding definitely brings healing. The worst is the confusion one undergoes when you assume your partner wants a healthy, loving relationship and is acting towards that end.

“I am sorry I didn’t measure up to YOUR expectations” - that was his apology... how every word he says is twisted to making me feel horrible...

@steviep9780

3 жыл бұрын

You deserve better!

@andyl.8223

3 жыл бұрын

@@steviep9780 thank you. It’s hard to explain what is going on to anyone who hasn’t gone through it... from the side... here... you know... he apologized - how petty am I right? He is sick, and now my ‘replacements’ are not the right ones for the current job... I feel like such a screw up that I actually still want to help him. (No worries... I literally get nauseous thinking about what he did to me and could never be with him again)

@conniedenton319

3 жыл бұрын

I told my ExNarc (after loosing my patience) Well maybe, If I lowered my expectations, then maybe, you could meet them.

@steviep9780

3 жыл бұрын

It's because you're such a warm and loving person that you still want to help him. But on narcissists... it's wasted energy. Nothing should surprise us from these people, right? And yet we're always flabbergasted, and feeling dumb because we were surprised once again! Please dear... give yourself a break. Lean on those you can trust to not knock you when you feel most down. And YES, it really helps me when someone 'gets it' and can help me understand it! I need that now. So do you. Be kind to yourself.

@jensbasement3862

3 жыл бұрын

Yup. its always twisted around to you. EVERY. TIME.

The narcs weakness and vulnerability is buried so deep that it terrifies them..If you sense it they react like you are trying to set fire to them.

@jogriffiths5766

3 жыл бұрын

if only...

@keyshasonmcgee-perry2706

3 жыл бұрын

That was a Extremely Hilarious Truth!❗😂

@kardoyle

3 жыл бұрын

YES 🙌🏻 Ellen yes

@pointsbeingmade7996

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@mish375

3 жыл бұрын

Be careful. Narcs will burn down the village just for bruising their egos when you tell them the truth. They think they're always right in their own minds.

Wish I had learned this 40 years ago. I had no clue what a narcissist was. It would have saved me years of stress if I had ended that relationship decades ago. It was my sister so I kept forgiving and hoping for her to grow up. Well, she's 63 now and is worse than ever. I went no contact a year and a half ago and my life has improved. I'm angry at myself for not figuring her out sooner. She has been trying to contact me and I don't respond at all. I will no longer be bullied, belittled, screamed at, lied about or manipulated. I just hope her next victim is quicker to catch on than I was.

Some narcissists actually will say "yeah, I sometimes do get angry too easily" or whatever (insert insightful self confession there), but only to make themselves seem humble or like they're able to admit their mistakes. And the difference is clear because they never do anything about it and they don't actually truly see it as a problem. But for the sake of looking fair and cooperative infront of others, they'll say it. Which usually blinds outsiders to your plight.

Narcs know all the right things to say when they need to act as though they're taking responsibility and are sorry for their behavior. The goal is to have the victim of their behavior immediately forget it, accept the insincere apology, and act like nothing happened. When the victim of the behavior reacts with pain and anger, the narcissist will immediately turn it around, complain at how horrible you're being and how badly you're treating them by being upset with them and tell you that your feelings are damaging them! It's absolutely amazing!

@AwakeningLeela

3 жыл бұрын

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@samryon3615

3 жыл бұрын

Wow! You summed that up perfectly!

@adoRebelstyle

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this. A past person in my life would say "why are you trying to make me feel bad" when I would point out a behavior that was not right, and I never correlated those statements also as narc statements but I realized now that they are.

@lioydwilliams1850

3 жыл бұрын

Allyson F, you are too precious to be with a narcissist!

@Jlrobinson034

3 жыл бұрын

ABSOLUTELY

This makes me feel better as a survivor of narcissistic abuse. I feel validated as a responsible person.

@barbwaldron3514

3 жыл бұрын

KB! I am so glad you feel Validated as a Responsible Person. You are! I see, value, and honor you! Stay strong. Better days are ahead

I have a plan to get away! I can’t stop celebrating! I’m so excited, I can hardly sleep. I don’t think I would have figured it out without this channel. I’m so thankful!! 🙏

@bettyboohadapoo

21 күн бұрын

Did you get away?

Thank you. I have been following your lectures and others about narcissism. I prefer yours because you calmly illustrate the characteristics. The internet is incredible, because we can learn so much. It is very difficult and it is a process to release oneself from those who make life a misery. It has taken me many years. I do not respond but that person cannot leave me alone. Not responding is a very powerful response!

When they never listen to you, or even acknowledge what you say. Always interrupting you and disrespecting youre boundaries. Youre point of view and thoughts are always devalued and up for questioning.

@bethhurst6231

3 жыл бұрын

I used to find myself wondering if we both speak English since they so consistently failed to hear what I was saying.

@bronzino8213

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! I have a childhood friend I've had to cut off recently. It was that or continue to be devalued and disrespected. She made a lot of bad life choices at a very young age over the past 15 years and now she's dealing with the consequences of her actions. Instead of taking responsibility, she has chosen to become angry, bitter, defensive and short-tempered. She will not tolerate a perspective, feelings, UNDENIABLE facts, etc that is different from her thinking without verbally and emotionally attacking you.

@dreamscape405

3 жыл бұрын

This describes my parents! I was half way through an explanation, and my step dad just started talking over me, mid sentence, about a totally unrelated subject. My mom acts like she doesn't hear me.

@Fefe559

3 жыл бұрын

imagine growing up like that. That was my life every single day, it was brutal. Still goes on today, but now my narcissist sister is in charge, runs whole family & she is even worse then our parents were. It’s HELL. Thank god god my bf & my daughter. My family have tried to torment me for over 50 years.

@barbibutton9619

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

Person: "Please stop your unprovoked anger at me." Narcissist: "Then stop not provoking me."

@mikieemiike3979

3 жыл бұрын

😆

@e.conboy4286

2 жыл бұрын

Do you mean to say: ‘Stop provoking me.” ?

@RideAcrossTheRiver

2 жыл бұрын

@@e.conboy4286 A narcissist will never be so honest.

@Susileedean

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes they don’t even need a reason to get angry. Even if you haven’t said anything they launch into an attack.

@RideAcrossTheRiver

2 жыл бұрын

@@Susileedean Everyone can be touchy and reactive sometimes; but most people are that way for normal reasons and will account for it afterward. The narcissist will ACT touchy and reactive to control others' behaviour for the purpose of winning more power for themselves.

Dr. Les. I SEE YOU!! You have such an amazing gift in the way that you educate others. The world needs more people like you. I am 61 years old and never even knew the word Narcissism existed until recently. Listening to you has explained so many things about my parents and myself. I never even knew the true damage that my childhood left me with. I have lived in the darkness with my issues my entire life. I am on a mission to figure all this out and you are shedding light on many things. I am not a praying man, but I do believe in hope and change. I have many issues of my own that needs improvement, I am ashamed of the fact that I never figured out how to grow as a man and what it truly meant to be responsible. Drama is not my thing but there is room for much improvement in the way that I view things. One thing is for sure I have never considered myself better than others. Thanks for being the man you are and what you do for others. S-Henry.

Thank you so much for this. After a year of being divorced I am still healing and dealing with my habit of blaming myself for the failure of my marriage when my ex never really showed up emotionally.

@kathleen3292

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@miss.jenny.b

2 жыл бұрын

JUST STOP. You were not ever the problem, they were. They take up your time while with you and then they take up some more after. Its amazing how many people narcs have sent to therapy. If it wasn't for them we would probably not have any therapists at all.

@nickcancelliere5638

Жыл бұрын

You will be fine.... They have 0 emotions Empty shells

Here's a quick test. See how they respond to unconditional "no". Most will get angry or manipulative. They can't take a no for an answer.

@tulanzuya

3 жыл бұрын

I think this is still the best and fastest way to spot narcissistic tendencies in a person.

@rg-mi5hh

3 жыл бұрын

No is a word they cannot stand. Too bad.

@priscilla.colburn444

3 жыл бұрын

@@rg-mi5hh THEY SURE LIKE TO USE THE WORD NO TO YOU.

@honey2desire

2 жыл бұрын

I finally built courage to tell my mother and other people NO.. its so refreshing 😌.. the visceral anger that come out of them 🤣🤣

@mikajohnson8331

2 жыл бұрын

I remember when I use to say no they would look crazy

They will sometimes seem to take some responsibility, but it's all for show. They only do it because it's expected of them. In such cases, any apologies they make ring hollow. You sense their insincerity, and they revert back to their normal asshole behavior shortly thereafter.

@beckypeterson6771

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, normally trying to get him to talk about anything hurtful he did would result in raging and gas lighting.....once in a blue moon though he would get so backed Don a corner he had no choice but fess up.....and the very few times he actually gave me a sincere apology (because he could tell I was nearing my breaking point with him)I would find out pretty quickly that it was just telling me what I wanted to hear. Like the time I caught him talking to another woman again, and he said I'm so sorry I was just looking for attention I don't need that anymore I'm going to work on us. He seems so sincere I thought maybe we were finally getting Well I found out a few weeks later....after He gave me this speech and a hug, he walked outside and got right back on his phone talking to other women again.

@lindaknox5047

3 жыл бұрын

Yep

When I brought my Narc to meet my family in different settings and four of them said there’s something about him but I still married him June 2023 after six months of dating. Moral of the story we have been no contact since 01/24. He literally drained everything out of me. I’m on my healing journey. These videos have been so helpful in seeing the core of the Narc. Thanks Dr.

I Thank God that more & more people are learning about narcissism, because I believe narcissists are a danger to us all 😳!!! The more people that learn about narcissists, the safer the planet will be 👍

Where were you in the 70's, 80's 90's? Could have saved myself a lot of grief.

This is so spot on. These people are so damaged, and they leave all kinds of destruction in their wake.

@patriciamontoya9049

3 жыл бұрын

KILLERS of everything.

@keyshasonmcgee-perry2706

3 жыл бұрын

Yea, ALL Types Of Chaos!! #WoW

@marioperic7482

3 жыл бұрын

My female narc talked (as every so-called helpless victim) how everybody has done wrong to her: her parents, brother, ex boyfriends, boss at work... Needless to say she most likely had trouble with them but by directly creating it as that's how narcs work through their life: tell a sappy, teary story of how the whole world has been after them ever since they were born with many made-up stories and characters or in best case some of them do exist but again: everything bad that has possibly happened was their fault-it can't be the other way around and anyone trying to convince himself of such lies is a delusional nut who trully deserves to be stranded on an island completely alone!

@keyshasonmcgee-perry2706

3 жыл бұрын

Preee-cisely! And it's so Ridiculous!

@adaegookegbe5939

3 жыл бұрын

They should come with a warning label.

You are so right - it is the drama! It is almost attention seeking, any attention even negative. Most people don't enjoy that, the narcissist thrives on it.

@aurora8749

Жыл бұрын

My ex once text my sister from my phone pretending to be me and deleted it, so when my sister text me back insults I was so confused and said where tf is this coming from? And then she sent me a screenshot of the text! I was so mad. I showed it to him and asked why tf he did that and he just smiled. He has his own phone. He could have said how he feels about her from his own phone but he wanted to stir up drama so he text her from my phone so she'd think it was me.

After many arguments about what I did wrong, i asked her what was her part of responsibility. She said 'that i dated you'.