Guarantee NOBODY ever needs to be told they're gaining weight. I promise you they already know!

@jenbas4788

Ай бұрын

As the boys would say, "FACTS!!!"

@deejellyjay1731

Ай бұрын

But what I’ve experienced is when they complaint about it and then give up and then start complaining again about the weight gain

@sarahnakidien957

Ай бұрын

Nope. I for sure was unaware how much weight I gained until someone pointed it out. Not everyone is looking in the mirror like that

@myshiteu4934

10 күн бұрын

@@sarahnakidien957same. when COVID hit and I stayed home most of the time, I didn’t even noticed until i got back into school and a kid told me I gained weight😭

To even say "love is blind" in modern times is ITSELF blind 😂😂😂

Bruv… the clear contrast in “self accountability” is BLATANT…

Am I the only one but is James behaving more than usual

@srideout91

2 ай бұрын

He’s only doing it because they have the two ladies on their show. If they were not on the show, he would be his goofy very inappropriate self.

@mr.jameson218

2 ай бұрын

Man is fidgety as fuck tryna to not call Fuhad Daddy.

@daniahkitten

2 ай бұрын

He's tired of the rumours 😅

@Buttafli

2 ай бұрын

@@daniahkittenwhat rumors??

@yusufalex6832

2 ай бұрын

What rumors

These girls live in a fairytale

@Lauryn_Gayle

2 ай бұрын

AGREED and im a girl😭

@whewchile9818

2 ай бұрын

@@Lauryn_Gayle😂

@iluvdissheet

2 ай бұрын

Facts.....

@iluvdissheet

2 ай бұрын

​@@Lauryn_Gayle same 😂😂😂

Every time I see content like this, it adds another topic of conversation that I want to have up front when starting a relationship. For example, asking questions like "how important is it that I maintain how I look now? Will you stop having attraction for me if I gained weight or did my hair a different way or get older or whatever? If you become a person I don't like, whether it be physically, emotionally, or spiritually, how would you like me to address that issue with you? How should I start that line of communication with you?" I believe that if this couple had a conversation like this from the get go, it might have been easier for this person to start a, seemingly, needed conversation with their partner. However, I get that most of us do not want or do not think to have a conversations like this, so I would say that a check-in might help with addressing it. Check how they are doing emotionally and physically because there might be an outside factor affecting your partner that you don't know about. Ask if losing weight is a still a goal for them, because people change their minds all the time, and act depending on their answer.

@anywallsocket

2 ай бұрын

news flash it's always important

@galaxylucia1898

2 ай бұрын

This sounds like what MATURE loving ppl do in relationships. Since 98% of ppl are toxic in & of themselves, they’ll either cheat or lie and stress each out instead of having a real convo. Or just breaking up.

@YourFriendlyNeighborhoodBuug

2 ай бұрын

@@anywallsocket what's always important?

@YourFriendlyNeighborhoodBuug

2 ай бұрын

@@galaxylucia1898 indeed

@anywallsocket

2 ай бұрын

@@YourFriendlyNeighborhoodBuug maintaining oneself -- obviously getting older or changing your hair is different, but if you start laxing on self-effort, gaining weight or just not trying to be your best self, it's universally a turn off.

If you cherish peace in your home and it's not her health at stake, don't mention it until she does.

@demonvictim

2 ай бұрын

If you want quick results just go to your girl and say recently there has been a girl chatting me up at the gym and i need you there as moral support

Just be straight forward open and honest but also supportive show them your there for them and your bringing it up because you care

@23651l

2 ай бұрын

I’m like Vince staples in an interview. If you fat, you fat and we just fat now. Either we gon work on it or imma leave if it’s too much to accept but I’m very transparent. If i leave it won’t be any surprise cause i would’ve been told you. Fuck yo feelings, this is about health and i take that very seriously, even more so cause i had discipline myself to get back right. Unless you are fatally ill I’m not taking any excuses from anyone. We have enough time.

The fact that women will prioritise their own feelings over telling someone something they need to hear is something that will always bother me. You cant hear the truth OR speak the truth because of "feelings" but how do you think that person will feel as their problem gets worse on your watch? Ive had so many female friends tell me that something their boyfriend is doing is unattractive but they dont want to tell him because they "dont want him to feel bad" but then they eventually break up with him because of that exact fixable thing.

@beewest5704

Ай бұрын

Cause girls are taught to be nice (desire to please others even at own expense ) polite & well behaved from a young age. You learn pretty soon that the girl who are too honest is unlikeable & punished. I'm talking from the point of a girl whose better judgment & personality would not allow her & man was & am I punished. If I'm in a relationship & I cannot be completely honest with the guy or even a friend than we are not compatible & it will not last.

@mariakhan7986

Ай бұрын

No, we don't want to hurt THEIR feelings.

@kezzykizzy5386

Ай бұрын

THESE women. Labradors can be tekky. It's a whole different culture

6:34 shawty turned into a cat with those sounds…😅😅

Woman; "Men need to hold us accountable" Same woman 30 seconds later; "Men need to hold our hand and tell us we're beautiful while tiptoeing around their issues with my behaviour"

I'm 33, and came out of a 5 year relationship because of this very topic. I stayed with her for an extra 1 year and 7 months to help her lose weight but at the end of the day, her love for food and lack of priority she put on her health, made me leave her. When I met her, she was thick (its my type) so her putting on weight didn't bother me. It was when started talking about having kids and marriage that it really dawned on me that I can't have a baby with someone who isn't healthy. You can be chubby, and more but at least have the ability to train or diet for HEALTH benefits. As someone who was his mum struggle with weight issues before she died aged 44, when I was 15.. It really stuck with me that my life partner needs to prioritize health when its needed. So it was very emotional for me to leave her because my feelings only changed when I realized she wasn't the person I thought she was and in the end, I told her I left because we are 2 different people with different priorities in life. PERSONALLY - It really annoyed me that I couldn't be direct with her like I would with my boys. The year I spent training and eating with her was mentally exhausting because not only did I have to motivate and keep her disciplined, I have ADHD so I have to discipline and maintain my own self as well. No regrets, but wish girls would accept the lose weight talk the EXACT SAME as the we need to make more money talk. You want an ambitious man career wise? Then be an ambitious woman health wise IMO.

These women are super sensitive. My man should just tell me straight. He doesn’t have to be mean but all the sugarcoating is unnecessary.

@maddison5154

2 ай бұрын

Yes, there are people in the world who are sensitive. If you care about someone and they're sensitive you can approach the topic with care, if they're like you tell em straight. We arent all the same.

@HappyMe-sr7vr

2 ай бұрын

I’m sorry, but are we not aware when we’re gaining weight ourselves? Your loved ones should not be bringing up your weight to you. They should be helping and supporting with the other stressors going on in your life that are most likely contributing to the weight gain, not making you feel more self conscious about something you’re already aware of. That’s just cruelty

@23651l

2 ай бұрын

I appreciate people like you. Stuff like “you a fat fuck” is unnecessary. But a “get your shit together” is valid. Just like time, if you not moving forward you living wrong. There’s nothing wrong with being in a bad position, but staying there is inexcusable. I can’t be with someone who’ll allow reversible insecurities hold them hostage. Everyone needs someone to tell them exactly how it is. And it’s not being mean it’s just truthful. If the shoe fit type beat. Trust me. Later down the line you realize who have your best interest at heart, and 100% of the time it’s those who are willing to break you down so you can build yourself back up for the better. Don’t burn bridge with these people because it make you feel bad momentarily. The next person would rather see you die early than for you to ever be in a position that might threaten their own perception of themselves.

@HappyMe-sr7vr

Ай бұрын

@@23651l If you’re around people that break you down, those are called toxic relationships. There’s a way to support your loved ones without tearing their self confidence to shreds to make them do what you want or to look the way you want them to look. Weight gain happens for all kinds of reasons and the majority of time it actually has nothing to do with diet or exercise. Also, if you’re going around telling people to get their sh*t together, you better have your sh*t all the way together as well. 9 times out of 10, the people saying these things to others don’t have a life worth emulating and need to take their own “advice”.

@crayothewarrior7713

Ай бұрын

@@HappyMe-sr7vryou can be aware that you are gaining weight, but not really know why at the same time. If you have a partner that would address your weight gain, then it may make you realize that you need to look internally for why you are gaining weight. During Covid, I was going to college and I did not even notice that I gained so much weight. It wasn’t until I went back to campus that I realized that I was way overweight. I could barely walk across campus or workout without needing a break. Simply notifying someone about their weight gain should not be cruel

Look if weight truly is a problem for you then saying "I'll love you no matter what and no matter how you look" is a lie and your just gonna create future problems, workout together, tell her it's gonna build your trust and health together, cuz it ultimately is gonna help the relationship in those ways. Look at me stoned as fuck speaking like a therapist 🤣.

@74lisaevans

2 ай бұрын

Or just get stoned as fuck with your lady, grab some munch, have a cuddle and be chubby happy little stoner folk. Its not healthy but its a much nicer way to spend your time and it doesnt involve lycra.

@crayothewarrior7713

Ай бұрын

Loving someone no matter what is based more on things they cannot control, from my understanding. Sickness, disfigurement, chemical imbalances, age, death. You can control your weight. Likewise, does unconditional love mean that you have to accept someone who cheated on you?

What?! Gaslight, platitudes, and that is the expectation. Disillusion

Wow! Such delusions

You need gym but the partner needs to hold you accountable. Madness

Yeah, open and honest. You've told me you want to lose weight. Let's do something fun together that you want to do. Swimming? Let's make good food together. It doesn't have to be a chore, and tell her how you adore her. I would want to feel supported, you have my back and you're still loving me.

@NaturalAegyo

Ай бұрын

That sounded really sweet the way you phrased it!

How about just DON'T. If someone said this to me that would be a relationship ender right there. There is just no need.

@MitchMighty253

2 ай бұрын

If there’s no saying then sexual attraction can fade and that’s a bigger issue. Not all people go for all body types sexually. I can love my girl and not be physically attracted to her because of her shape and we’re very transparent about it. I don’t hide stuff or sugar coat and that’s one of my best traits to her

@sarahwbs

2 ай бұрын

@@MitchMighty253 well that's why it might be a relationship ender for me and not for you. That said, I've been married for 18 years (together for 27) so I'm probably coming at this from a different perspective at this point in my life 😅

@disclaimer.imjokin

2 ай бұрын

Then you'd be crying why did he leave me. He should of said something... women are literally the worst 😂

“That’s 20s chat” is also a crazy response 😂😂

Key question was missed: The boys should have asked the girls how would they tell EACH OTHER if one of them was gaining weight!

Love them… don’t bother being attracted physically… just love them… that’s it, they have feelings.

i left my partner because theu kept saying they were gonna go to the gym and never did. and i got tired of encouraging a grown ass asult human being to achieve their own goal.

Saying someone is growing outwards is crazy😂

say it nonchalantly. itll be fine.

The whole “you need to love me regardless” is a cop out for being lazy. Na you tell her she Gota lose some weight

If the person you're dating or married to. Cares about your health then you're lucky.

Bars. I'm holding that in my bank jic.

You get her ozempic or mounjaro. It will interrupt the flip flopping cycle because her insulin resistance would start healing.

These girls are so dare I say it boring?! Why are they on the show?! There are so many iconic people they could have had on 🤯

No, it's not the partner's job to be your coach. I'm no therapist (and neither are these women) and the last thing I want to hear from my man is get up, we're going to the gym. F that. I want to hear, I'm making this delicious salad. Want some? Let's walk to the park, store..

Imagine there are two planets. Planet 1: men and women are equal. Women don’t even need men. Planet 2: A man has to pick his words carefully when telling a woman about accountability as it pertains to her weight and a goal that she herself has set. Now, what if I told you that these two planets are actually just one planet. The one we live in?

U just gotta tell her. If she cries she cries. Cuz if u dnt say anything. You gonna resent her.

If you love me, that means everything that comes with me regarding my health I highly advise that you tell me because if you can’t talk to your partner about something so important in regards to health that tells A LOT because it’ll be selfish of you to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about themselves, so imagine…do you expect them to care about the relationship itself?Talk about it but that’s when that’s when it’s important to know your partner you have to talk to your partner in a way that it’s a approachable for them but the same time if you love your partner and love the relationship, you care about them help and well-being in total.

Mi name man. I rubbed my wifes belly and told her soon sit up will be needed. She said a barber wont be needed....

james started rambling

Reveal yourselves, walking corpses 😂

....BUT WHY CAN'T THE 'BEST VERSION OF ME' BE A LIL CHUNKY/ THICC? IF I DIDN'T KNOW YOU HAD AN ADVERSION TO "FATTY'S", WHY WOULD I CONSIDER SKINNER TO BE BETTER...ESPECIALLY IF I'M COMPLETING MORE IN A DAY PLUS ULTRA THAN BEFORE IN MY SKINNY MINI PHASE?

Of course the women think they should be loved “at all shapes and sizes”🤣 If I, a man, says “I should be loved despite being ugly” I’d be the laughing stock of the town

they can start out by walking together every evening and talk. That's the beginning to working out. Also, ask her how can he help her achieve her weight loss goal. Encourage her to set goals and motivate her to stay on track.

I feel like this topic is even more wild because James constantly can’t reach his gym goals. Lol. Respectfully. I think he looks great but his words

As a woman, I don’t understand the issue with not being able to tell us. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤧🤧

Attraction is very important like it or not if she's real honesty beats beating around the bush.

I'd bet all my money she'd lose weight quick af if they broke up.

I literally couldn't disagree more to what the ladies were saying. I think this is the reason relationships are so fragile and cold because partners can't be upfront with one another. This whole walking on glass thing is nonsense and why us women have such shallow friendships. Not being able to tell someone you love that they are going down a bad path just because you don't want to hurt their feelings is straight up bullshit and you are not helping the person one bit. I'm in a relationship and the best thing is to be straight up, guys do it to one another but women for some reason always have to sugar coat it. It's nice to make it a mutual goal to get healthy together and push through together, but it's not something you need to do. Personally I don't want any kind of relationship (romantic or friendship) were you can't be straight up with me and me with you. It's giving me the vibes like everyone is beautiful no matter what everybody is smart and so on. Nahhh bro, be up front, that's not rude. Obviously don't make fun of your partners weight or be straight up horrible, just say it how it is because it is how it is 😂

So they need to be told when they’re getting out of shape because they deem it necessary but wouldn’t clarify with their girl that she’s their girlfriend. She just has to figure it out from “how they behave” 🤔

That vague ish James said at the end didn't tell his gf she was getting big at all. Sounded hella pretty though.

If a man can't tell his woman the truth is not a man in control of his relationship

@amandafrancis9168

2 ай бұрын

As long as he can cope with her being truthful as well. Although " controlling" men often can give it out freely but can't take the truth in return. Fragile egos.

prizes are always a strong motivator… something tangible to work towards maybe a trip away or a shopping spree or x amt of $ … if he telling me I fat and to get in shape, it would be wise he also tells me he got a carrot worth chasing! Lol

🙄🙄 why people are soo sensitive? If your partner cannot tell you “baby we need to drop that weight off” then why u with them? Not everything needs to be taken to the heart ladies, specially because you have mirror and you know he is just not being an asshole

@vernonwhite6856

2 ай бұрын

Facts!!

If we can tell men, “Hey, I love you but tighten it up.” So can they! Partners should take care of themselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually for the other person and we should take care of each other. Sometimes it’s gets REAL. 😂

Best way to approach it is by being concerned with their partner's Health rather than physical appearance ....

You can't really tell her that without a little blow back, but you can take the lead by saying, "I want to take a walk; come with me and keep me company." Start cooking more healthy together. My boyfriend is losing weight and looking delicious naked, so I'm like well dang I need to look just as delicious so I'm getting fit. He hasn't said anything to me, I just observed him looking so good.

Why he gotta be dragged into her goals.

I call bullshit.

That's definitely advice from girls who've never been in that situation before, which I respect, but I just wish that when giving guys advice women would be more realistic and down to earth. I've tried that "helping her lose weight" shit before with 2 different women and both retorted that I was was being "controlling" and "manipulative" 😂😂😂.

I’m genuinely curious about everyone’s personal reason as to going to the gym?

Stay single kings. Avoid. No accountability.

Yeah ok, but it goes both ways. If he has to stay silent, she better do the same... If the dude packs on a couple pounds and it's the first thing out of her mouth during the smallest disagreement (as it always is), he gets to charge it and scream "Hit the gym tubsie wubsie you're making my struts squeak."

Men are so interesting! Low key there is nothing a man could say to me about me gaining weight (if i have not discussed it) that i would respond well to. So you think i'm fat and that is so hard for you to accept that you would hurt my feelings just so that i will change for you. You are better off leaving because the resentment i'm gonna feel and that i'm no longer attractive to you would be more than our relationship could handle.

@zionjeffers7204

2 ай бұрын

You big ain’t you

Absolute bull about the losing weight part, if you meet and hook up with a guy/girl and they were 52kg or even 9st and a guy 6ft and 13st and a year in they are now 11st woman or a 15 -16 stone man. Then at what point are you able to come clean and say that you don't find them attractive anymore. Not being able to speak out creates a toxic situation and more often that not the relationship breaks down.

I don’t say anything, I just start to change the diet slowly and I say “ I don’t feel right, I need to loose weight… let’s do it together… I need your support till I’ve gained the wait I want” 😊 and if he/she loves me, he/she’ll stick to it till I got my weight and by then I’ll changed our diet to a healthier but still delicious one😊 so it’ll be 80% healthy and 20% cheat meals 😋wonderful balance 😋💯

So I love your podcast but I want to say saying love is blind is ignoring the portion of people that actually find big girls or people attractive. Focusing specifically on size imo strays people away from health and risks eating disorders and body image issues - if we all ate and moved the same, we’d still all have different bodies. I’m a bigger girl and find people that are attracted to me as is - I can still exercise and look after myself like anyone else. The convos I’m hearing here (I say with love) are reflective of how people are afraid of how they’d be treated if they were fat. If you’re watching or reading this as a bigger person, you are lovable and desirable. I get this convo comes up, but I wanted to offer a different perspective

Who are these brauds btw? and why are they there? Is this a thing now?

@simplyaries127

2 ай бұрын

do you not know what guests are? why would you be rude to people james and fuhad CHOSE to be on the show. this is a clip of the whole podcast they were featured on. it’s not that hard to figure out.

@Peachez_and_ThePits

2 ай бұрын

Being misogynistic while not being able to spell is WILD 💀

@D415h4n34

2 ай бұрын

This sounds like a bad impression of a caveman and it made me laugh😂 thank you sm

@jameswatson5807

2 ай бұрын

@@simplyaries127 🤣🤣🤣it was the "brauds" that triggered you.

@simplyaries127

2 ай бұрын

@@jameswatson5807 well typically regular humans don’t speak to or about other humans that way. but i’m sure you’re proud of yourself.

I cant get past 4:27...folks need to grow up bruv

In my opinion, most women are more accepting of a guy's body. Think Dad bod. I know I am.

No one should be confronting anyone about their weight. Especially not a man to a woman. Sorry guys, but if you’re with a partner for any length of time, their weight is probably going to fluctuate or outright rise. Pregnancy, hormone changes, stress, no money, no time, depression…. any number of reasons could make you gain weight. I’d hope that your relationship has a stronger foundation that doesn’t crumble just because your partner gained a few pounds.

@beewest5704

Ай бұрын

It doesn't need to crumble but not getting to bring it up when it is a issue that bothers you is weird. As long as you are not being a @sshole who is talking about weight while she is still breastfeeding or dealing with a medical issue.

How is this a sensitive topic, I love her and I will let her know about it lol, there is nothing about setting her off, if she wants to break it off she can, I dont care 😂

so you need to coddle them and treat them like a child ..lie to them an trick them into doing what they originally wanted to do ??? makes sense

Tell her if she doesn’t get fit ur gone. Simple as that, no third chances.

@sk8102

2 ай бұрын

Please tell me you're just really bad with sarcasm... because if that's your approach Lord help any women who have been unfortunate enough to ever come across you smh

@sdfsdfsdfsdf1644

2 ай бұрын

@@sk8102 🤓🤓🤓☝️☝️☝️

@mr.jameson218

2 ай бұрын

​@@sdfsdfsdfsdf1644Rejecting criticism and edging to Andrew Tate keeping you big as hell.

@Idan_researcher-de4yr

2 ай бұрын

Because I love her, I will tell her, if she gets pissed on that and she is throwing tantrums, I'm gone lol

@Idan_researcher-de4yr

2 ай бұрын

@@sk8102lol telling her she is fat and she needs to work on it is a bad thing, Mehn I hope I don't meet women like you 😂😂, you look like you would throw a tantrum if I told you I don't like your tummy

Women ☕️

Nothing to see here folks, just women refusing to take accountability again