You can’t be friends with someone who has complete disregard of your boundaries and your feelings.

@cafe4cat2nap

2 жыл бұрын

or family ...

@ewtwetrwerwteet

2 жыл бұрын

You can, you'll just have a miserable life

@merlinsvdd

2 жыл бұрын

True..

@moirapretorius9775

2 жыл бұрын

So true been there.

@JesusCross144

2 жыл бұрын

Or even children! He's tried to turn my son away from me.

You can't be friends with the Devil, he'll take you to Hell. Narcs are his children. Run as fast as you can and never look back!

@ruthiedavis8786

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️RUN

@msliberated3899

2 жыл бұрын

Like Lots wife did, died and turned into a pillar of salt. Terrible ppl

@cindyg3396

2 жыл бұрын

@@msliberated3899 , that's exactly what will happen. If you go back, you'll die, maybe not physically, but in every other way. Lot's wife was warned, but she looked back and died.

@katyams

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, well said!!!

@jannlewandowski5540

2 жыл бұрын

You nailed it Cindy! Never go back to a Narc! RUN LIKE HELL!!

Friendship is based on trust. Narcissists are unable to trust. The narcissist can be friendly all he wants , I will never forget the dark times of the narcissistic abuse, before I obtained the knowledge about narcissism. Now that I know what narcissists are about and what level of meanness they are capable of , I will not let my guards down around them again.

@blya8978

2 жыл бұрын

True

@hollylorn131

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely true!

@catlady6938

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@jettb64

2 жыл бұрын

So true...stay strong! 💪🙏

@murielmartin3288

2 жыл бұрын

We definitely can't trust them. Their life is filled with lies and cheating

They want to be friends when they see what they lost and the new supply is far from your level so they try to acquire all of your benefits back. Don't let them.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙌💯😉

I say “Oh hell no” in my mind if I have a clue they are narcissists. My ex wanted to “be friends” after the divorce. Told him we weren’t friends when we were married so it was too late now.

@miss.jenny.b

2 жыл бұрын

Lol. Good answer! And its so true. They have no idea what friendship even means. They just say that can we be friends nonsense bc they can't stand not being liked. I told him flat out I did not like him. And he doesn't like me so I have no idea why he pretends to. I can feel it when I am liked versus when I am not just like lots of people can. He was much nicer to the next supply who was actually a married woman with 2 kids he literally moved into his apartment 'to help' lol. Right... he's 'helping' her and she'a 'helping' him. Or was rather until her husband came to his door emabarressing him in the neighborhood for trying to steal his family from him. Like, can you imagine having a wife that takes your kids to a random mans house to live? I would be livid. She was a narc and so was he so they matched of course. But the kids are baggage he hadn't thought of, he was just seeing the kitty kitty if you know what I mean. Anyway, she got to move in and I never even got even a measly slice of pizza lol and you know what he told me when I brought that up. He said... "Yeah well, I liked her." The translation is that he liked her so he helped her whereas he didn't really like me so when I explicitly asked for help the few times I did I was never helped.

@oklahomaisok

2 жыл бұрын

@@miss.jenny.b I believe he wanted to “be friends” because he didn’t want to pay child support and if we got back together before the 6 month waiting period the divorce & child support would be dropped. Also wanted to be privy to everything going on in my life whether it concerned him or not. He came over to visit the parents, just a “friendly” visit to drop by. He only went over there with me a handful of times in the 10 years we were married and suddenly wants to visit and didn’t ever want to stay more than an hour or so. I told them not to encourage him because all he was wanting to do was pry into my business and get information from them.

@hibbertsh

10 ай бұрын

They are not a friend, don't be fooled. Slam that door!

@oklahomaisok

10 ай бұрын

@@hibbertsh I sure did

Friendship with narc post relationship does not work. I tried this, but it was just a constant reminder of all the bad memories with him. In my opinion, to maintain even just a friendship, is sending him the message that it is okay how he mistreated me. He doesn’t deserve any kind of relationship with me. He burned that bridge.

@racebannon96

Ай бұрын

Well written. Thank you

Just being around them drains the life out of me. So no friendship. I put up a wall that no one can get through unless I let them through. I've learned that in childhood.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏🙌💯

@deb2319

2 жыл бұрын

I like how u went back to your wiser inner child, it’s key to remembering who we truly are. 😍😎🥳

It actually hurt me more that he wanted me to be friends like nothing happened. Absolutely not! Get out and stay out once you are aware.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💪🙌😉

@jerrycharbin6505

Жыл бұрын

So True,it's a Shit Sandwich,un fortunately in today's society we all gotta take a Bite!!

The bottom blunt line. When someone treated you like shit, it wasn't an accident, it wasn't one isolated incident, It was a habitual affliction, To transfer toxins into your soul. Never ever think it was a one off. Too many of us tried, and through accident or fatigue, Could have easily died.

@Eighties-Jadie

2 жыл бұрын

True words brilliantly and poetically expressed! ✨

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Agree completely 💯💯💯💯💯💯

@Eighties-Jadie

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 😊

@Eighties-Jadie

2 жыл бұрын

Your poem also reminds me of "when people show you who they are believe them," because like you said it's not a one off. When you said "through accident or fatigue could easily have died" hit me hard because it's so true. We are nothing but collateral damage to the narcissist and supply to quench their neverending thirst. Best wishes ☀️

@bradmcewen

2 жыл бұрын

@@Eighties-JadieIt may be that one of those "hard hits" is what finally frees the trauma bond. I'm as old as Andrew or more. My narconutz had a lengthy narc history. Ofcourse you dont know until you have to learn what the hell was this. Paranoid and carried heat. When you learn of all the people they have pissed off really bad, yes it would be easy to be collateral damage from misplaced anger when someone doesn't rationalize that all who come in contact, all who bought the illusion, are all victims who naivety was their only fault. Heres the thing....Ive never felt as good with the narc, absolutely never, as i do now free and clear, beaten hoovers and stuck to zero contact. I know she has cycled through many. Her realtor occupation is fertile hunting ground for vulnerability. A thousand, million times better being us than them. We have now got the power to say good riddens. Narcfree since 2017 ! All the best...

You can't trust the narcissist, and if you do, you will be deceived. Not only will they cheat on you, they will steal every penny you have and are ruthless getting it from you.

Friends that's absurd how can you be friends with somebody who did you so wrong financially emotionally spiritually... They are the enemy.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

😉😉💯

I thought about it... "ummm a narcissist is not capable of being a friend, not worthy of any investment." 🤔 Choose to turn and skip away joyfully!

When you have hit rock bottom because of a narcissist, you will want absolutely nothing to do with him. Forgive, but never forget. Never go back to the vomit. You are not a dog. And a narcissist is not your friend.

Every time I watch these videos I become HAPPIER that I blocked the narcissist and made it as difficult as possible for him to contact me again. #DoneWithThatMess

No! to friends with narc. Forgive and stay away.

@paulfairbairn1066

2 жыл бұрын

Forgive but don't Forget! Don't get drawn back!

I thought my narcissist ex was my best friend. What a joke. I was in the fog. Now I realize he was 100% toxic all the way. Once he was gone I felt such relief!

We appreciate all you do for us. I'm certain it has saved lives. 😉

@gratefultobehere

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with this

@hollylorn131

2 жыл бұрын

I agree too!

@sharonshim5046

2 жыл бұрын

Certainly! I agree.🇯🇲🙏🇯🇲💕

@jbatlanta

2 жыл бұрын

Got ME to come down from the ledge, yes.

@gratefultobehere

2 жыл бұрын

@@jbatlanta wow. Powerful

I definitely declined when she wanted to be friends. I caused a narcissistic injury

This is all so true. This season feels like a vacation from so many things that I worked for all my life. I simply stopped responding to people with narcissistic behaviors. Walking away, not responding to messages, not engaging...one came at me through people I absolutely value who have no clue who the person really is. I'm learning to maintain the balance and not take the bait. That's new. The manipulative attempts slow down when there's no response held in place.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯🙌🙏

@ansumanamassaquoi3888

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@peterbahi0227

2 жыл бұрын

Went through the same situation. God bless you Chelsea and congratulations on your strength 🙏

@gratefultobehere

2 жыл бұрын

@@peterbahi0227 Seems to be a common story on this channel, but also glad to hear you are OUT - thank you and God bless you too!

I was told by one narcissist that he believed we would be together in the future… lol I laughed and said nope, You will hop from victim to victim but I am NOT one of those victims. I told him the only reason his exes (he bragged about his 4 exes always wanting him back) anyway I told him they think you are the loving, love bomber but once they see the truth… there is no unseeing It. Thank for all that you do and for creating this community. I think so many of us are just realizing how deep this goes… love and prayers to all 💜🙏🏻💜

@deborahkalavrezou2385

2 жыл бұрын

Same to you. God Bless.

@cobwebafternoon3737

2 жыл бұрын

Well said, God Bless 🙏

@denisesatt7044

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. All the exes want to get back'' and it was him that demanded divorces.(from the exes) what a crock ! Juvenile

@jannlewandowski5540

2 жыл бұрын

My ex narc & I were engaged. When I broke up with him, he rebounded and married her in 2 weeks. That's how narcs operate. The funny part is, he married a very RICH woman who he will bleed DRY! Poor thing!

@deborahkalavrezou2385

2 жыл бұрын

@@jannlewandowski5540 Yep, love doesn't come into it, with them

Downsizing a romantic relationship to a friendship is absurd - especially with a narcissist! They never cared about you since Day 1. This isn’t a normal relationship as we know normal to be. EVERYTHING from the first “hello” to their sweet kisses to “will you marry me” is FAKE! That’s what hurts. You believed them when they said they loved you. You were GOLD to them, and they laughed as you took the bait.

I recently learned that this desire to be a “friend” with their ex is a narc practice called a “narcissistic harem.” It happens with male or female narcs, but more common with male narcs . They keep in touch with ex’s to hoover occasionally and keep on reserve for supply and cheating whenever they want attention. Since people wise up and move on from the “friendship” the narc has to constantly be adding friends to the harem. These ex’s are their options to use, and the narc already knows them and what they will give. Also, if you meet someone that has a lot of opposite sex friends they claim are platonic, that is a Red Flag 🚩

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏

@sgtmuffinbadger6147

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@Icecat21

2 жыл бұрын

I knew in my gut it was going to be a problem when Facebook was invented. My wife got an account and added all of her family and friends. Then looked up all her old boyfriends, friends with benefits, and hookups from her 20's. Said at the time they were her "friends". Over the years our relationship was classic Narcissist relationship, but I didn't know what it was called. Lots of fighting and ups and downs. Found out this spring she had finally arranged to meet one of her old boyfriends for the day. I caught her and she swore it was only lunch. Why tell me you were at work, but drive 2 hours for an innocent lunch? Preparing the divorce papers.

@sgtmuffinbadger6147

2 жыл бұрын

@@Icecat21 this sounds familiar

@Merbella

Жыл бұрын

​@sgtmuffinbadger6147 it sure does. In fact they reconnect with them as soon as they met you. No x is ever left alone! Social media really helps them.

Stay strong and be silent. Silence is our path. You have the right to your silence. Move on and love yourself.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏💯🙌

A cat only drinks hot milk once. Thank you Andrew for your brilliant support to everyone here on the channel, including myself. I hope you are a cat, that gets the cream. So deserving of great happiness!

Yep, my ex husband narc wanted to be friends. He even thought I could have a beer with him and his new supply (that he dumped me for) someday. I truly think that, in his twisted mind, he thought our 25 year marriage just "ran its course". Not only do I not want to be friends with someone who cruelly hurt me, but I run from unstable/illogical people.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏💯😉💪

Today is my 3 year anniversary of no contact! Thank You Andrew for your forethought! Folks, look up the frog and the scorpion theory! Narcissists do what narcissists are! They sting! You can paint over a skunks stripes, but they are still skunks 🦨! Remember who you are folks!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💪💪💪💯🙌☀️

Why would I still want to be friends with the ex narc? He treated me like shit for 5 years and the rage that came out of his mouth was despicable. No thanks Buddy. Keep it pushing.

Hey everybody 🖐🏾 Blessings 💯 NO friendships with the Narc. Our definition of friendship is different from theirs, as I am sure we've all experienced it. I'm forgiving but I not forgetful. I am not doing that drama ever again. Now would be a very good time for Us to go back down memory lane so when the Narcissist shows up again wanting to be friendly and too become our friend, all of these should go off in our head at the same time 📣⏰📟⚠️🚩👹🎭if it doesn't Houston we've got a problem 💯Hold fast to what you have heard and learned from Coach & Teacher Andrew and others. Thanks for tonights video Andrew. This is a warning too all of US. Keep Us informed and ahead of the devil game. Have a good night everybody ❤️✌🏽🙏🏽

Nah no thanks ! With those type of friends who needs enemies 🫤

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯😉

"Your life is a manifestation of where you put your energy. Wherever you put your energy in your life, that’s what starts to manifest in your life. The people around you, the things around you, the opportunities around you - they are all a manifestation of where you are investing your energy. Learn to direct energy by mastering your mind first." -Dandapani Thank you for your continued contribution to educating us all. ✨️ Namaste 🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Namaste 🙏 💯☀️

@sixthsenseamelia4695

2 жыл бұрын

A baby manifested their own narcs? This theory only works if you're an adult & the relationship is a romantic one.

Worst idea ever. No! We cannot be friends. That’s not a thing. I will be decent and cordial, but absolutely freaking NOT! No way can a curled up cobra be let back in! Nope! So we can go to toxicland Again……brick by brick destroying my life for round x 2??? Oh no. We are not doing that. ☹️😡

@ER-lj3de

2 жыл бұрын

Great comment. I love it ❤️ exactly

@Indyghurl

2 жыл бұрын

That is where i am at, decent and cordial, as he's got cancer. But no way will I ever be his friend again. Should hopefully have decree nisi in a few weeks, will see where that takes me

@tracydean3678

2 жыл бұрын

Good description!

Thank you again for your words of wisdom, advice and comfort. Remember to take care of yourself too. Take a good rest every now and then. Thank you again, you are irreplaceable.

I tried to be “friends” with my ex husband and found out very quickly that was not going to work. I can now recognize a narcissist and know that cutting them off completely is the only thing I can do to save my well being.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💪☀️🙌💯

On or about the 3 week after the Narc was out of my house, he came up with that question to me about being friends now. Thank God after the 2nd day the Narc was out of my house I had found these Narrissit channels and I was learning what was happing to me in this relationship and what could happen if I continue contact with the Narc. I told him straight out No, I told him how can we befriends if we couldn't be partners which is suppose to be a level up from friends. I am not going backwards. He really doesn't want a friendship, he wants to hold unto my supply while he finds or works on new supply. I don't want any part of it. I keep telling myself I am done. The Narc is almost finished getting his stuff off my property and when he does I am going total no contact. This is hard, this is painful, this needs to be done while I still have my inner strength. It will all be worth it to keep my peace and serenity and to continue to enjoy life and breath again.

@lamueldagon7618

2 жыл бұрын

Well done, you can do it. Ive been there too and feel so much better for it. You will too, believe me...

@brianlane9534

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly. How can you be my friend when you couldn't be my partner?

@sharonshim5046

2 жыл бұрын

I've been there too,and I'm so happy loving myself first, so you will be happy soon, by the grace of God.🙏

@jannlewandowski5540

2 жыл бұрын

YOU CAN'T BE FRIENDS WITH A DEMON! Good luck to you!

Andrew, your channel is so good! This information is invaluable to people that have experienced this type of abuse. You get it and the way you explain things is very helpful 🙌

yes family members too .I just had a incident with a family member this weekend at my birthday wow I never Saw it coming I caught it quick and am sad to say that relationship is on its way out too .

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏💯🙌

Not even an inch, to be friends, they will only take you down a mile. Not even when time has past, years past, and they put on their mask, that says, hey look at me, I'm nice, I'm caring, want to be friends. Not, it will only be their shallow mask, tempting to draw you in. Friends with a narc, is an insult to the word friendship. Namaste, strength, love peace, and true friendships are meant to be with ones that truly care.😊💯🙏🌎❤🌠

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏💯😉🙌💪

WOW…..This is exactly what is happening in my life right now. Thank you for posting this! I’ve been too kind & too forgiving in the past, but I didn’t see how this “frenemy”is a Narcissist until maybe right now. How embarrassing! It’s been 35 years (off & on) of dealing with her. This video describes her & her mean games so well!

The narcissist sent me a message on my birthday. During the relationship he never remembered about my birthday. I blocked him ( again) . I was already practicing no contact but he broke (again) through my boundaries. Thank you Andrew , thank you everybody l love you from Italy.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🇮🇹🇨🇷🙏🙌

He's gone, I paid for him to be out of my life!!! I love my superpower of freedom! Myself and the Cat have the place to ourselves and we got it good!!!

I wish I could get rid of this disasterouse humiliating toxic hurtful feeling that has been impeded in me from all the yrs of abuse she has left me with! I know time will heal me as will God in my life I'm in my sixties had heart problems because of the stress and anxiety she has poured on me over the yrs. Thanks to this young man Andrew and his knowledge here God bless

So true Andrew, my ex would call and leave messages thanking me for being his friend. i wouldn't respond. i would think to my self i dont' ever want you as a friend you don't know how to treat people. l'm so glad he stopped calling. these narcissist are a piece of work . I also had to change my number.

I really needed this . My narcissist ex from 3 years ago still comes back. He is blocked on everything and always finds a way to contact me from a fake account, tried hacking my social media, leaving reviews on my business, calling from burner phones, emails from random accouts. It made me paranoid . What he did to me was so horrible and he doesnt care he says hi beautiful i love you why cant we be friends. like friends dont say hi beautiful. I can see through him now.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

😌💯😉

This one applies to me exactly Andrew. My narcissist ex (who abused me for almost 23 years) has a new boyfriend and he speaks to me on occasion. I really feel for the new guy because he has SO much for my ex to take physically AND mentally. He is a lawyer, has lots of $$$, a new home, great personality... a really stable, wonderful guy. I no doubt think the narcissist considers him an "upgrade" from me. I have met him and honestly, he is just a great human being. I however know what will happen to him over time because I lived it. Even though I am civil with my ex, I maintain my distance and am VERY cautious during any interaction with him. I am not under any illusion that he has changed or learned his lesson... I know what he is and will always be. What's funny is that when he interacts with me, he uses the "mask" he used to use with every one else when we were together. It is REALLY weird to experience... seeing someone I know so well pretend to be a different person than I actually know with myself and others. You are great and so wonderful... thanks for all that you do! Your videos have truly changed my perception of myself and how I interact with the world! MUCH LOVE!!!

@305ChiiKo

2 жыл бұрын

Something very similar is what I went through and what happened in my situation, but luckily for me it was only 3 years. 3 horrible years. I know exactly what the new supply is going to have to deal with, but it’s not my place to say anything. I just feel bad for them.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this beautiful message 🙏💯🙌😊☀️

@irishcladdagh3

2 жыл бұрын

Michael I know what you mean...I found out about my chaos through the new gf....I call her a lil girl 12 yrs his junior and she now knows the truth....i feel bad cause she is still young with only 1.5 yrs in and I know she is getting sucked into the void....not my circus not my monkey anymore 😞

@morganadavies8319

Жыл бұрын

Yes my ex husband of 17 years uses his mask when interacting with me now. Its actually really scary.

You are exactly right, Andrew! What I have found was that if I allow the narcissist to possibly be “friends,” my ability to heal becomes impossible. I can’t move forward on a positive path. I get pushed backwards and it’s so toxic and has absolutely no benefit to me. Thank you for the validation on why we can’t be “friends” with the narcissist. Namaste. 🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Namaste 🙏

Exactly- they wait for the vulnerable moments when they think you are in the right emotional place like sending two word Happy Birthday message.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯😉

Wish I could have heard this 20 years ago! Not as many resources back then, sadly.

After getting dumped by my gf, I learned that she was a narcissist. I would give, give, give and she wouldn't give nothing in return. I loved her but I felt alone and dead inside. She came back after 5 months apart and acted like nothing happened. She would call me whenever she wanted. She would say things like "why didn't you answer". Finally I told her I can't continue doing this, she said she wanted to be friends because she misses me, which I think is bs. I told he no I don't want to be friends and she kind of played victim and got so mad and just left. Lol I can't lie and say I don't miss her but life's too short, I don't need that energy in my life. Good luck with her and whoever she targets next. Thank you for your videos

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏🙌💯☀️

YES absolutely right Andrew! i find that when we have the education, whatever the narcissists say, we see right through them. And it is a real satisfaction to have this feeling. It means that we are healing and that we have our power back. I don't have narcs in my life anymore and it's going to stay that way. Have a great evening Andrew. From Marie France Québec city Canada 😘 💪 💯 💜

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing 💯🙏🇨🇦🇨🇷🙌

I wouldn't have anything to do with the narc even if he were the last 'human' in the universe

When I left 11 years ago I left no forwarding address. I dont think he knows where I live...but occassionally sends mail to my sis ( still has the old address book) to give to me. I told her...return to sender.

The abusers are so desperate for attention they want their exes back, the exes they discarded. Insane! I know one who was married and divorced three times and stayed close friends with all three ex wives. They even spend all their Christmases together. Wife number 4 isn't thrilled about that. I see a number 5 in the near future.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🤔😉💯

Never let them be friends..never ever..very important for us on the healing path…they are always keeping their supplies beside them🤢

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 ай бұрын

💯💯😌

Thank you for all the time and effort you put into educating people about narcissism! Your hard work is making a big difference in so many peoples' lives.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏 💯🙌

Even when he admitted his abuse on Facebook, some people still supported him 🤨

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

😉😉💯

He would do it on my birthday. He would make it the worst day of my life. I never knew he knew what he was doing. THANK YOU.

No! Never! That’s what I did. Never looked back been so much happier without toxic relationship. Love myself too much to tolerate that kind of relationship ever again. Thanks Andrew. You confirmed what I did. Blessings to you. Have a wonderful day

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏

👋 hello Everyone

Yes, he wanted to remain friends, after I left. I told him that the time to be friends, was when we were still together!! Done with that abusive life. I can now say “NO” if I do not want to do something. Feels good!!

Friends??? No way will I ever trust the narcissist again. Friends are trustworthy, friends care for you and have your back .not stab you in the back. No, that bridge has burned. I no longer trust or have respect for the narcissist. Be gone..Bye!!!

They were never our friends during the relationship so after the break up they are fill with hate

When I feel the control, disrespect, and is asked every detail about me, how I spend my time and to spend it with them. I go no contact and do not allow the person to drain me of my energy and waste my time with their fake kindness and control.

THANK YOU AGAIN, ANDREW!!! I'M NOT YET ABLE TO MAKE PERSONAL RESPONSE BECAUSE THIS REVELATION ABOUT MY NARCISSISTIC HUSBAND IS FAIRLY NEW TO ME!!! I'M STILL A LITTLE IN THE FOG, I THINK, BUT EVERYTHING YOU SAY IS LIKE YOU'VE BEEN A "FLY ON THE WALL!!!" AT LEAST, HE'S OUT OF THE HOUSE AND I'VE BLOCKED HIM ON THE PHONE!!! MANY THANKS TO YOU FOR HELPING ME ESCAPE AND BEGIN HEALING!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!! MUCH LOVE AND RESPECT TO YOU!!!

@brianlane9534

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the tribe. Do all you can to learn about narcissism and toxic relationships. I believe we've all had the feeling of "This guy (Andrew) must have been a fly on the wall during my relationship." The first narcdaily video I watched I had that reaction. "Has this guy been secretly filming my life?" It's scary, but also reassuring that I'm not alone, that these narcs are so predictable, most of us experienced the same exact thing. Do not fall for the act they put on to try to keep you, or how much they tell you they will change, etc. They have no intention of changing. THEY ARE COMPLETELY UNAWARE OF HOW WRONG WITH THEIR BEHAVIOR IS. Get away and stay away. Just knowing what you are dealing with is the first step in the recovery process. You have work to do, but with the power of knowledge, you should be able to maneuver through this as painlessly (emotionally) as possible. Good luck. AND DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK. EVER!

@judygregg47

2 жыл бұрын

@@brianlane9534 THANK YOU SOOO MUCH, BRIAN!!! I REALLY, REALLY NEEDED YOUR ENCOURAGEMENT!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!! I WILL SURVIVE!!!

Some time after I filed for divorce, during the desperation rekindle love bomb phase, she kept asking me to be friends. And to plan vacations and trips with her. She was still thinking I would be her yes man and servant after the divorce. She also tossed around the "friends with benefits" idea. I was thinking, "For eleven years you have not been my friend. Now, because we are getting divorced, you want to be my friend? You have no idea what a friend is, or how they act.' But I didn't dare say anything negative, I would just respond with general non-committal answers. "Let's wait until after the divorce is final before we make future plans together." Or, "We'll see." She was completely clueless that her actions were so hurtful. How disrespectful, how utterly selfish and uncaring she is. Her self-awareness on a scale of 1-10 is zero. Yet she just went along ignoring the facts that were in front of her. I filed for divorce and was making plans for 'us' to never see one another again. She just couldn't fathom the fact that I wanted (needed) to get away from her. She still believed she had control over me. I must say though, those last three months, she definitely put in the effort to make me forget the previous eleven years of nastiness even though it surfaced regularly. She was in full love bomb mode once again. I had to go along with it. What else could I do? lol

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯

You can't be friends with a liar.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

8 ай бұрын

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Very true. These people are users. They are unable to get the resources they want on their own for whatever reason. They feel justified in doing whatever they do to people. They feel entitled and don't care. They feel hurt and lack so they just take.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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I just left my narcissist husband. We share a son and I'm starting to heal. And I'm wanting to get across the message that Jehovah God helps heal. And I believe I can hold firm from being friends with my narcissistic husband. He really did hurt me emotionally and mentally drained me. My son is very young and I hope to God that he hasn't been harmed. Thank you

@lenavasquez2040

2 жыл бұрын

Pray for him, but keep your distance don't give him that chance to wheel you in to that life he once gave you. only communicate because your son. Stay strong.

@hummers7342

2 жыл бұрын

God watch over you and your son. Eyes wide open now - no fear. Stay strong.

@cobwebafternoon3737

2 жыл бұрын

God bless you & your son 🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏 💯🙌

Thank you for this needed reminder to keep getting stronger , the Narc I was entangled with dialed my number after 11 years , poor poor me stuff , his brother or imaginary brother had died , the Narc was terrified that he was going the same way , at 60 he is waking up to the reality of his fragile position and that he is now the vulnerable one having spent his life crushing everyone by taunting them about their need to be independent and boasting about the great strong father he had been reared by , oh what an outcome for Strong Bow.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

Been gone 5 weeks. Last week he got his son and daughter in law to get me to call I wouldn't call, then he try to get my attention tell his daughter in law call told me he was having problems breathing. You think I called or ran over nope. When I'm done I'm done

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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@Indyghurl

2 жыл бұрын

Mine did similar, had ignored calls from his nephew, so his g/f called me all worried, asking if I'd phone him as they'd not spoken to him in days. Told her no, as I knew she was being used as a flying monkey. Said if you're so worried phone his boss, to which she said I don't want to get him into trouble🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

@Indyghurl

2 жыл бұрын

That's what they don't realise either. When you're done, really at that enough is enough, you won't go back

My ex narcissist wants me to be friends with him so bad I do not want to have anything to do with him he hates it

12 years together 6 years married with my wife she discarded me and throw me away like a used tissue!! Then has the cheek when I move out to say let’s be friends for our child !! Hell nooo I’m done I’ve gone a month no contact and have a mediator in the middle for our child

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

10 ай бұрын

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' Oooo ' The nice Talk starts ' ! ' Andrew you speak the Truth ' ! !!! Mmm !!! ❤ !!! " Responsibility Matters for ALL Lives " ! '

I dated a female covert narcissist for 7 years I left three times and came back the last time she discarded me she hasn't talked to me in 3 months and now yesterday she sent me a message it would be nice if we could be friends. I'm still heartbroken over this.

A narcissist wants to be friends because it looks good for them. This of course is a lie! We can’t trust a narcissist. I had a vision that the narcissist that I lived with wanted to hug and kiss me, but in this vision, I pulled-away and I raised both arms towards him and said NO! Then my vision was gone. I’m glad that I live far from the narcissist. I will never allow no one to take advantage of me again. I have boundaries and the Zulema that once lived with a narcissist is long gone. I’m different, and no one is ever going to step all over me again. I’m not the violent type, but if I have to use pepper spray or even ammunition to protect myself, I will! I will never do-away with human life, it’s not right to take someone’s life, I would only use a firearm to defend myself if I have to, and I would most likely shoot down for a warning first. I learned to use a gun at age nine, YEP, and I’m not afraid to use one. I use to shoot cans at a farm in the upper states. We were seasonal workers in the summer, working sugar beets. My father never knew that I took his ammunition, his twenty-two, or he most likely would have whipped me blue and black. I watched my dad handle a gun, and I learned from watching him. He had his gun under his pillow. We lived in a farm with no lights at night. I always pointed the gun downward though! I was careful when I took my dad’s twenty-two. He probably wondered what happened to his bullets. My older siblings were in town while I learned to shoot with a twenty-two. I’m completely off topic, sorry!

Yeah… the answer is NO. Don’t do it.

What you said hits dead home. I left, we said our goodbyes and the very next day. She contacted me and offered frienship. I did say no to the offer.

LOL....think about that for a minute. NO-Never will I ever consider being friends or allow them into my life again. I've had to move away from those family member narc's. One stole my inheritance from me and got away with it.This one family member stole from me when we were kids-something that I've remembered all these 55 years later. It's true that they'll never change. Thank you for the reminder Andrew. Stay strong. Namaste. ;)

The thing is with a narcissist you give they take at their convenience, your always starting off at zero because they hold grudges and they will turn on you until their blue or fully love consciousness, so I suggest you move your FINE ass along and find someone BETTER. ☮️

They try to pull the friendcard. Strange since they do not understand what a real friend is. The one-way to destructionville is a guaranteed. Their evil loop continues & repeats itself. Nope, no more time to share as a friend - they blew it for good & they missed the train into a joyful good honest caring future with us for sure. No regrets, but also no more playing nice now - no you cannot be my friend. Ty Andrew

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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Actually feel insulated that she’s asked me to be friends after being discarded. She cheated on me mutiple times only after connecting all the dots. I feel sick

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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Wow this hits home she did this to me , unreal, I am having trouble leaving the house without wondering if I look good enough for people like my confidence got absolutely demolished, I can’t give up ty for what your doing for us you are helping me day by day

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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@spking492

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone at a stage where I’m just forcing myself to go out and live weather I feel like it or not , thankyou

I can only hope my narcissist lets the divorce go through 🤞then I’m on the road to freedom

@Indyghurl

2 жыл бұрын

I wish you luck and strength in going through this. Mine didn't contest, he's in total victim mode and it's pathetic to watch. Basically mirroring how he made me feel for decades.

So true the narc is ugly my ex always told me let's just be friends! I told him no why would I want a relationship with my ex, they are now with a new victim he actually told me he had a new partner, who was identical to me in every way, how weird is that. When he told me I told him gooooooo. Had no words after that, felt sick but getting stronger

My 83 year-old malignant narcissistic mother recently made a phony overture of interest in my life. I didn't respond. If she wasn't going to be my "friend" for 51 years (since I was nine), it's hard to believe it is an authentic impulse today. Life is too short to allow someone to abuse me for another minute. I am a little embarrassed I took it for so long. Thanks, Andrew. I truly appreciate your insightful videos. Take care.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 💯🙏🙌😉

I in no way want or need to be friends with a liar, cheater, or manipulator or abuser. The Narc that was in my life text me from an unfamiliar number on mothers day. After listening to this video I thought wow, everything is so planned out with them.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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Thank you 🙏🏼😊😊

This is the reason,can't be near her or speak at all...Took notes for 10 weeks of what she said, sent to her and told her no contact...We all care a great deal About You,you're one of a kind.....

The narcissist demon.

It was a mistake when I bumped into him on a walk.He said he was sorry and he like to be friends.Even when I took him back as a friend ,he got worse with his snarky remarks.I discarded him.Amen.I finally learned no more second chances

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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That's happened with me. I learn my lesson by the hard way.

We Love You Andrew 💕 Thank you for all your videos about these “ Narcissist “ we have in our lives😩 Your daily words mean everything 😘 Sending you Love, Light, & Blessings 💕

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏 ☀️🙌

Funny you mentioned they will reach out at key points, like your birthday, which happened to me recently on my birthday. NOPE! There is no get out of jail free card for the abuse they put me through. F THEM!!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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I don’t think he will want to be friends but I have decided that I can’t go through this again

The handfull of times my ex-narc showed up years later, I would shut the door in his face without saying a word. Hang up the phone (before cell phones and caller I.D.) when I would find out he was on the other end. It's the Best thing you can do for yourself. Absolutely NO CONTACT. They'll make up stories that you yelled at them, anyway. Even when you never said a word.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌

After a life time of thinking I was the problem, not understanding my empathy had no boundaries, this time I understand, finally I am coming out of being frozen, not able to move. I am feeling love for myself enough to make sure no means no forever.. I just needed to understand. Thank you, thank you, thank you.. Going through the pain is worth every step. I still can't let anyone close to me, and he used that very thing for 30 years bouncing in and out, keeping me afraid , now that I am learning, each video I watch brings out more stuff stuck inside.. and more freedom.. baby steps work, again my love and gratitude.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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I’m in discard phase…. Middle of divorce and he’s being so nice now lol but I do have to co parent so I have to choose to be kind

Someone I really love hurted me so much and my family it hurts too much 😓

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Sending healing energy 🙏🙌💯

They burnt the bridge. Pushed to far!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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So true! Why would you EVER want to waste your time on that!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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my exnarc even want me and the other supply to be friends. It's crazy

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Triangulation..😉😉