Hi, my husband gave up his seats several times on the train in Tokyo.. but the seat was never accepted by the other person (the elderly).. LOL! I guess they didn't understand that is our Malaysian way of life, just like we didn't know that Japanese don't do that in general.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Some people feel a bit uncomfortable (for some reason). Thank you for sharing😊

@lonot903

2 жыл бұрын

I had the same experience too when I was in Tokyo. Guess it’s all about cultural nuances

@prishaha74

Жыл бұрын

I had the same experience.😅

It was abit culture shock for me when I was in Tokyo traveling in the train with my sis who was carrying her little girl during peak hours. My sis was struggling to carry her and I could not reach over to help because the train was very packed. I was abit shocked seeing people who sat nearby didn't even bother to look or offered a seat. If this was in Malaysia she would have likely be offered a seat even if it is fully packed. Now I understand why Japanese are generally more reluctant to offer any help/assistance to a stranger.Thanks for the enlightenment.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

It's really sad that I have to say what you saw in Tokyo is exactly what I am referring to... On my first day in Malaysia I got on the train with my daughters and we were surprised because many people right away stood up to offer my kids their seats, not just one person. Appreciate sharing your experience🙏

@catzania6827

2 жыл бұрын

Its not only in Japan, my mom who is an elderly in a packed MRT train was not offered a seat too, it was during our weekend trip to KL. Not all M'sian is kind nor helpful.

@fahmidahri6965

2 жыл бұрын

@@catzania6827 i think cause your mum probably look young 😄

@tulartv1921

Жыл бұрын

@@fahmidahri6965 absolutely dude ...haha

Oh wow, I didn't know this is how Japanese people think when it comes to lending a helping hand in Japan, all I knew was Japan is a nice, clean, beautiful, well organised and a safe place to live in. Anyways, thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, and hopefully we can improve ourselves from our wrong doings from a foreigner's perspective and point of view. In the meantime, do enjoy your stay here and warm hospitality in Malaysia, stay safe and healthy always. God bless you and your loved ones.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

It is called shame culture. Not everyone and not always, but I think there is some kind of mood and atmosphere. Thank you very much for your message and warm support😊 Stay safe and take care👍

@muramasa1984

2 жыл бұрын

Its sort of a weird etiquette in japan if u were to suddently stand and directly offer a seat to an eldery. U are sort of implying that the person is old and weak thus requiring the seat. The correct way is to stand and move away without implying anything and sort of walk to a diff area or seomthing, then the person can decide if he/she want the seat or not. Yea its weird.

I lived in Japan on and off for 7 years. Every time I open a door for people or let them pass first before I enter or help out the elderly to carry their stuff while climbing the stairs. They don't get used to this kind of stuff, especially the ladies... They always have 'that' suspicious face. In the train, When I see chou obaachan or chou ojiisan entering looking for a place to seat. What I do is pretend to look at my phone, stand up go to the doorway.. 99% they will seat without hesitation.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

🤣 You are an expert!!! You know more than me. I could have the clear image of 'that' suspicious face. Thank you for sharing!!

@_ABDUL-RAHIM.

2 жыл бұрын

Damn right! This guy is an expert!

@soupy_yty

2 жыл бұрын

So true. I'm a Malaysian living in Tokyo for 4 years and this is exactly what I do! "That" face they gave me used to make me feel as if I did something wrong for helping them 🤣

I would like to share that when I was in Japan for holidays , I found the Japanese people to be very very helpful. Once I asked a staff about which railway platform to go to , I later realised that she actually followed me from afar to make sure that I went to the correct platform. Another time , I even went to a police station once to ask for direction to a restaurant whose relocation was not updated on Google Maps but the policemen in the station actually asked around and pointed us the way to the restaurant Maybe the Japanese people are more helpful to foreigners because they are less worried about what the other people think

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy you had a good experience in Japan. Yes there are many helpful people in Japan too😉 Thank you for sharing your experience!!

Thank you so much for thinking highly of Malaysians. Also thank you for educating us about the "general" psyche of the Japanese with regard to helping someone in public. I learn something new everyday! As a Malaysian, I am glad that you've had positive experiences living in Malaysia. Kindness doesn't cost anything. It's free to give and free to receive. I'm from Sarawak. You should fly over and visit us. The people in Sarawak are also very warm and friendly. Take care and stay safe.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I loved this phrase "Kindness doesn't cost anything. It's free to give and free to receive." I found it interesting because we have saying in Japan "There is nothing as scary as something free." which sounds opposite (I like yours better!!). Sarawak sounds very nice and relaxing, want to visit to meet people there. Thank you for sharing😊

@kamaldaud2782

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. Sarawakians are warm people. Must visit Kuching.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

@Kamal Daud I got it!! Thank you for your comment😉

we were taught from the early stage of our life to be kind toward others and unconditionally help those who are in need of help. thank you so much for this video. it makes me appreciate my people more when I took our values for granted. looking forward to your next video, Samurai-Dad.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I understood more now after you explained to me. "unconditionally", that's exactly what I wanted to express! But I couldn't come up with that word. It is a great honor for my 2 daughters to learn such Malaysian cultures at school now. Your words inspired me a lot. Thank you so much for your thoughtful comments and support, Faiz Faiz Faiz-san!

we have only one problem in Malaysia 1) Politicians

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

We can say the same thing in Japan...😩 Thanks for your comment!

@akanmenghukummu.

2 жыл бұрын

they are always the problem. e.v.e.ry.where 😬

Ohhh about helping the elderly , I remembered when I was a kid there were a slogan or a campaign stated 'yang tua dihormati, yang muda disayangi' that can be translated as 'elderly should be respected, the younger should be loved' , and I'm glad that we always hold on that principle, Malaysian do taught since an early age to always be respectful of others otherwise you might be called as a shame or something like that

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Oh that's a wonderful slogan. That must be a wonderful campaign because you now still remember. That remind me of how people in Malaysia are nice to children. They always smile at our kids. We also love that. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for your support😊

@nornabilakarim6756

2 жыл бұрын

Teringat iklan adlin aman ramli tido dalam lrt😂

@riaalias4844

2 жыл бұрын

@@nornabilakarim6756 haah iklan yang tu hahhahahahaha

when i visited Osaka few years back, in a train I ask my daughter to give up her sit for an elderly women in a train. it was a crowded train and once we do that, everybody in the train looked at us. the elderly women also keeps repeating the words "daijoubu desu ka", I just reply to her daijoubu daijoubu 😅. After some time, I ask somebody beside me about where do I stop if I want to go (someplace i dont remember) and suddenly all people around start discussing where should I stop 🤣. I think both Japanese and Malaysian are kind hearted in general.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing!! Yes I agree both are kind. Happy there were kind people who helped you😊

Fun fact : most people in Malaysia already been teach to always think positively about a person such as maybe the person give the seat because he just wanted to help out.

I learned something today. Both from a Japanese and Malaysian behaviour points of view. I didn't realize that Japanese people worry about what other people think about them so much so that they, generally, will not help. Malaysians, again generally, are almost the exact opposite; they almost are obligated to help esp in situations involving elderly, persons with disabilities and pregnant ladies are involved. Even when a normal person needs help with a trolley, keeping the lift open and such. Of course, there are exceptions. It is just so polite and .... human.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your thoughtful comment. It is very interesting that you use the word "obligated". My wife says "Mostly nobody offered me a seat in train or bus when I was pregnant in Japan". There are kind of different mood and atmosphere even if the politeness is the same, I believe. People in Malaysia generally don't waste any time to help people. That's beautiful. I've learnt from you. I appreciate your support😊

Sometimes, when i saw foreigner videos about positive things about malaysia, i feel glad that im a malaysian and living in malaysia..many malaysian always talks highly about other countries especially japan, singapore, south korean, us, etc and condemn our own country..every places in the world have their pros n cons..so does malaysia..

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree that every places has pros and cons. I like both Malaysia and Japan!! Thank you for sharing😉

- Bagai aur dengan tebing. - Bersatu kita teguh, bercerai kita roboh. - Berat sama dipikul, ringan sama dijinjing. - Duduk sama rendah, berdiri sama tinggi. - Buat baik berpada-pada, buat jahat jangan sekali. These were Malays idioms (peribahasa) 😊 it's in our tradition, sometimes people tends to forget, but we must remind it always. Do good deeds.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing the proverbs!!! They are all words that show what's important in life. To me, people in Malaysia act like what's said in the proverbs in very natural way😉

Very deep... through this video alone as a Malaysian I learn a lot about Japanese psyche - too obsessed, perhaps, about what others will think. In work context this may be positive: you work hard and long hours in office so others may not think you are lazy or not important. In social situation it may be negative as in the examples you mentioned in the video. Thank you 🤗 Samurai Dad san 👍

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Your perspective is very interesting. I didn't think about "in work context". I can imagine exactly what you are saying😁 Thank you so much for your comment😊

@lindmohamad3726

2 жыл бұрын

Do Good Deeds in the Cause of Allah Only. Allah Most Gracious Most Merciful Most High Most Exalted Most Permanent. Everything else is *Temporary* including humankind. The Life of the present is *Temporary* The Life of the Hereafter is of utmost *Permanence*

This, I kinda shared the sentiment about those 'Mat Rempit' boys who once helped me with pushing my bike when I had problem with it before. Mat Rempit always seen in a bad light like they do illegal racing on highways or riding recklessly in between cars but speaking from experience, when you have problems on the road, usually these kind of 'troubled kids' came to help without asking for reward. edit : Now those rempit boys do Foodpanda (or other food delivery services) and you can see Foodpanda riders everywhere :D

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. It's touching and I can imagine the scene😊 It's interesting when I think that it is those kids who are now supporting society while this pandemic through Foodpanda.

I like your comment about the differences between Japanese and Malaysian culture … thanks for the information… it really makes me think to improve to be more realistic in life

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I am so glad to hear that. I really appreciate your comment and support😊

We have strong connection with religion teaching,most Malaysian in some way are religious or belong to a religion. Whether Muslims, Buddhist, Hindus, christians, Sikh teaches to be good to others. Religion carries weight in Malaysia society. In fact one of our nations founding pillar is faith to God,it is subscribe in our federal constitution. So much so we embedded our core foundation of good deeds in our nation constitution.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for teaching me how religion is strongly connected to nation and its people. In Japan not many people belong to religion but I think it is important that we have something to believe in. Thank you😊

@user-er8ob1bc1e

2 жыл бұрын

Most of people in japan is atheis

Once when I was in travelling in Japan, I offered my seat to an old lady. She was very suprise and keep asking where I’m coming from and why I did that. At the same time, I can feel that everyone in the bus were looking at me. Hahaha. But I also met a lot of kind Japanese people. They help me whenever I asked for help. ~Thanks for the Japanese subtitles. I’m learning Japanese and It’s kind of reading practice to me, especially the kanji...

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story😊 Yes there are many kind of Japanese and I'm happy you had a great time!!

Do good things and good things will come back to you....that what's almost Malaysian think....and for Muslims ...all good things got rewards from God...the rewards maybe in your good health,your work,and in so many more....and all good deeds is counted even if you only give smile to other people

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment😊 It's not that I know much about how Muslims behave, so this is very interesting for me to have a little glimpse of how they feel inside. I really appreciate you sharing🙏

@adadisini2898

2 жыл бұрын

Good comment

Was that why people stared at me for a while when I gave up my seat to a Japanese lady when I took a train in Japan in Oct 2019? I did that a couple of times, even for an elderly man, and people looked at me in a rather strange way..

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah that's exactly what it is. It's a great thing to do, but people just stare at you anyway. Thanks for sharing😊

That's why you can see how Malaysian help other Malaysian flood victims without hesitation. The help comes from all over the states in Malaysia. There are also a lot of personal peoples or organizations who donates goods, energy and money to the flood victims. I can say, every year Malaysians donates millions ringgit to other needed country all over the world. And this millions ringgit is from personal money of Malaysian.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I feel that Malaysia is a beautiful country and I really respect those actions taken in the situation of disaster.

I was travelling with kids to Japan in 2016. In train, I gave up seat to people looked older than me ( I was 48 not so young) usually grandmothers. They are either surprised or wary to ake the offer. and I saw no young person did that. But I continue to do so anyways because I had to set example to my kids to follow. It not about positive or negative. each culture has different way of approaching life. Indvidually japanese people do not like to be centre of attention or the person who want to help would also think twice as the person receiving held mgiht not like to feel not being able to handle the situation themselves. It ahs pro and cons though.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you sonnymak san for sharing your experience. Yes I agree it's not right or wrong it's just how we approach the situation individually. Thanks again😊

I had a similar experience when I was travelling at Osaka in 2019 (I was 12 yrs old then). I boarded a train with my family, and I was the only one sitting while the others stand. The train was not very crowded but all the seats were taken. Then a Japanese woman that was pushing her baby trolley entered the cart we were in. I stood up immediately but I didn't told her to take the seat, I thought the woman might take the seat automatically. But surprisingly, throughout our whole ride, she didn't sat once, and no on else sat in the unoccupied seat too. It was very strange for me, and also a big cultural shock. 😂😅 It never occurred to me that Japanese people were more reluctant on being on the receiving end or the one offering help, it just seems so natural for us Malaysians help others or get helped by others.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing!! You must have been puzzled but for me I could easily imagine what you experienced😂

When I was in Osaka subway train, my son offered to an old man to take up the seat as we used in Malaysia. But the old refused to accept my son's offer. It made us confused why the old man did not the offer.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! That actually happens quite often...I'm not sure how the old man was really feeling, but the possibility would be; 1. He was getting off soon 2. He thought he was not too old to be offered the seat 3. He wanted to be nice to foreigners (He wanted your son to sit) If I were him I might also not take the offer because I don't want to disturb you and your son sitting together and chatting closely.

This reminds me of my 1st experience in Japan. Where I tried to give up my train seat to a mother with a baby in Japan (I thought it's normal in Japan). But she refused so much. I made some research after that experience and the next time i want to give up my seats for elders or pregnant woman or anyone that I think needs the seat more than me, I would just stand up and walk away without saying anything hahahha. I miss Japan 🥺🥺

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

🤣 I agree 100%!! I sometimes do the same and walk away to the next car. It's amazing you research and realized the deep insight of Japanese culture😳 Thank you for sharing!!

@diladina8312

2 жыл бұрын

yeah.. it happens to me too. quite several times. after for a while I just assume that they dont want to feel in debt with other person.. is it true samurai san?

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

@Dila Dina It's more like...Some people just feel uncomfortable seeing other people giving up seats for them I assume. Thank you for your comment😊

@hawaadam784

2 жыл бұрын

Now i know why the middle age man didnt take my seat after im give up my seat to him in osaka

@wheeinshair5415

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad I don't speak for everyone, but for me helping strangers often goes with the mentality, I wouldn't want my mom/dad/siblings be treated harshly and not getting the help they needed, therefore I always go and help without being asked. What goes around comes around I guess. Be kind even when nobody saw you doing it, you may never know the kindness of others coming your way too.

I like Japan. And I dun think people are fundamentally different anywhere in the world. Malaysians generally do have a naturalness to their behaviours - both in good and bad ways. And hope it continues the way it is right now...

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Yes that's what I think as well. We are just shy and worry too much about what others might think. Thank you for your support😉

About giving out seats, I've been wondering for years since I went to Japan about it and you just gave it the answer. Many thanks! For most Malaysians, giving out seats are normal. We don't think much about it. So when I was in Japan, there was an elderly in a train and nobody is offering her seat. So I give out mine and then she couldn't stop thanking me as if its a big deal. in another occasion, my friends gave out seat in Japan and the whole train clapped them. Now I know the why

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience!! I hope you enjoyed your time in Japan😊

In Malaysia we've been taught to gives our sit in public transportation to the elderly, pregnant woman, kids so it's normal for us. I don't know if i remember this correctly there's also a sign in the public transportation that says you need to give your sit towards those people, and also there's a campaign about it too when i was little. Nice video thank you

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

We also signs in Japan... apparently not as influential as it was in Malaysia. Thank you for sharing😉

Ahaha I dont know others Malaysian opinions and I dont represent the whole Malaysian, but for me and most of the people I know , we will judge people expecially young and healthy person who do ignore people who need help we said "Shame on you". Eventhough they pretending to be nice we dont mind as long as someone get the benefit in some cases. One thing to be careful expecially in big city they are stranger peoples who randomly ask for a chat because it might be salesperson ( I hate if they too persuasive), scammer (avoid eye contact at all cost not to start a conversation move away immediately) . So you might find some relutant to talk to strangers without urgency. In your case people might have a good impression they will happy to answer your enquiries if they can help. Just be extra cautious when we on the streets its okey to have a doubt before accepting any help. Lastly have good life here in Malaysia

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

That’s very informative, I’ve learnt a lot from you! It's so kind of you. We will be careful and have fun in Malaysia. Thank you very much for your warm support. Please stay safe😊

@trive56

2 жыл бұрын

i think thats why most youngsters and people who have less stuff on them don't really sit unless their stop is like far.

wah. learn a new thing today. anyway, I think Japan is such a beautiful country. it was my first trip abroad. in the 90s during my uni days. Later, i went a couple of times for work. I missed Japan. Plan to go again one more time, this time with my son. Wish you have a good life in Malaysia!

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! Happy to hear you like Japan!! Hope you can visit there very soon and enjoy🥰

@lovev381

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad tq! i hope so too, and soon

So nice of you in sharing the stories that you've encounter here in Malaysia, glad you feel comfortable and enjoying your stay here. ^_^ It's our culture in lending a hand when someone is in need of help. Normally elders disregard of race and religion will advise younger generation to do good to others especially when they need help. But maybe some younger generation nowadays is neglecting it in practice ^_^ it is our believe too that by not lending a hand to others will reflect the weak way of our parents in bringing us up as a good Malaysia.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I truly respect this Malaysian culture where you mentioned about parents educating their children on lending hands to others. Thank you for your comment😊👍

@francis_hiroshi

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad you are most welcome 😊 you can see during mco when white flag were up, immediately many people came to help by providing food, help to pay their rental n utility, n medical. We even have the slogan of kita jaga kita which mean we take care of one another.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

@Francis Hiroshi Wow people can ask for help naturally...that's an ideal society. "kita jaga kita" is very beautiful slogan😊 Thank you for teaching me👍

@francis_hiroshi

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad Dohitashimashite you too now Malaysian 😊

I gave my train seat to an old lady in Kyoto. She thanked me likes there's no tomorrow.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sure the old lady was very pleased to see a kind person with warm heart where no Japanese offered her seat... Thank you for sharing😊

For us Malaysian, we know that elderly, kids or pregnant women are much more in need of assistance, & the younger adult have more strength compared to them. That's why we offered them the seats. I would feel rather ashamed if I let the elderly or the people in need standing, not offering my seat😌

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing😊

Hearing this made me emotional... I never realized this until you mentioned it.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Hope you liked it. Thank you for your comment😉

When we were in Japan, my older kids gave up their seats many times to the elderly and to mommies with kids but we were met with angry reactions. Like this uncle my daughtet offered her seat to made a lot of noise, and refused to take the seat. We didnt know why. Now I think I know.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear what happened. Some get angry some get embarrassed...hope they can just say thank you and sit down... Thank you for sharing😊

Helping ppl makes me happy!

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful🥰 Thank you for watching and sharing!!

@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad thanks🤗

I think that kind of problem with Japaneae people centers around big cities like Tokyo only because my friend who current studying in Fukuoka said people would gladly help each other like when an old man fell down.

i think it's due to the "mind your own business" mentality that's rampant in overly organized and complex cities. Malaysia always has this little inefficiencies in many things, everyone felt it so we took care of ourselves and each other.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Some Japanese likes to stick their nose in other people's business... Thank you for sharing😉

There was actually an advertisement on mass media here in Malaysia( TV, cinemas) about a local fit, healthy man chooses to ignore an elderly woman who is standing, onboard a train, a few seconds later, he offers his seat to that lady. In a way , by making advertisements like that, would teach the people some common decency , which are not taught in schools

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah!! I noticed those Ads on radio!! Thank you for sharing😊

When i was studying at the University in Shah Alam, I take the train a lot to visit my family in Kajang. Almost every other weekend i did it. One particular day, i was not feeling so well. When an elderly come and she stand near me cause there's no seat available, i was internally battling myself. Whether I should stand up and give up my seat when I'm myself really need it, so i didn't. I was dizzy and not feeling well the entire day. The other passengers choose to ignore the lady, and I feel so bad for not being able to do so .5 or more years went by and I still remember those moment very well cause the guilt and disappointment i have for myself.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I shared with my wife and my wife had the exact same experience after her gastrocamera and she still remembers after many years. Thank you for sharing your experience😊

It's a totally different insight from you because 7 years back I was alone moving heavy furniture in boxes in ikea The Curve and no Malaysian helped ! I was lucky one middle aged Japanese lady told the husband to help me !

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, that's a very interesting story...😳 Thank you for sharing your experience!!

The culture and the education system of Japan and Malaysia is very different. But we do learn a lot from the Japanese.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment😊

I 'm only in my fifthy, wether i look too old or malaysian youngster are too kind that they always give me their seat 😁

@azlanoceans9215

2 жыл бұрын

tua ler to 50 wakaka, joke je bang saya pun tua jugak, 40an hehe

@syazwanie2206

2 жыл бұрын

Betullah. Nasib sayalah bertemu dgn budak2 yang beradab macam tu. Pernah jugak tolak tapi kesian kan dia malu dgn kawan2 dia, niat dia baik. Lepas tu kalau ada yg offer saya ucap terima kasih dan duduk saja. Agaknya diorang bayangkan saya macam ayah diorang agaknya 😂.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

@Aziz Abdul My kids are now 9 and 12 so not that small, but kind Malaysians still sometimes offer them seats on the train😁 So maybe same thing. Everyone is kind. Thank you for sharing!!

ありがとうございます!🙇🙇

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

こちらこそ、ありがとうございます🥰🙇‍♂️

Personal experience. Japanese also kind just that it is not that common to see other helping others. Whenever I'm in Japan and struggling with finding direction it took me few attempt before someone willing to help me out. But when I'm in Malaysia I don't even need to ask sometime Malaysian who saw me will immediately offer help lol.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

Жыл бұрын

I think that many Japanese also want to help, just that they are a bit afraid that the offer may not be appreciated. Thank you for sharing your story😊

I experienced the same when i went to japan 2 years ago, my family and i was having trouble on getting a bus to kyoto i think. Then we want to ask for directions and help from locals. We asked this one girl where do we take the bus, the girl was shy and rejected at first. I thought maybe it was a language barrier. But the next 10 min she came back and told us where to go. But still after that she kinda hurried away. We thankex her but she was too far already i hope she heard us LOL.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe she thought she was standing out in the crowd and got embarrassed about that (but there is nothing to feel embarrassed when she is doing something good). Thank you for sharing😊

wow this is really an eye opener for me. i suppose the only thing that deter small number of malaysians to help is being shy to approach strangers haha.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I understand. We love how so naturally Malaysians help and assist each other. Thank you for your support😊

Just wow!

thank you for the video samurai-san...gambate👏👏💪💪

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

You are so kind and good at Japanese😊 Terima kasih🙇‍♂️👍💪

@sallehrazilan1637

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDadsama-sama,✌️😀

If we think too much about what other people think of us , it will be very suffocating. It will be too self conscious, not good for our self well being. As long as we don’t do any bad things, annoyed people we shouldn’t be too rigid, relax & loosen up a bit, life is more meaningful than worrying about what other people think. I help people because i often put myself in the other’s people shoes. Once i saw a girl is panicking because her purse is missing, i saw her almost crying face, i told her don’t worry, i will pay for yr bus fare. She told me she will pay me back, i said don’t bother it is not a big deal. I helped because i think i would be panicked as the girl if i was in the same situation,

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience and thought😊 Yeah life is too short to worry about what others think. I hope I can do the same as you in that situation.

Budi bahasa budaya kita👍🏼

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Terima kasih😊

My mom always said you can't make everybody happy..so do what we think is right and let others think what they want to think..

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing😊

just DO what you gonna do... don't think about other people think... just relax... chill

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you😊 I love that way of thinking. I try to be naturally like that👍 Chill

@leeoppa3910

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad people just can judge... that's all

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

@Lee Oppa I agree. Thank you for sharing😊

@leeoppa3910

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad and you will get punish if you doing wrong.... but everything have a reason... 😊 okay... just my opinion... stay safe here... samurai - kun

Thanks

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching😊

We Malaysian have our flaws too but we try to do our level best to be kind and helpful.

I just recently found your channel and watch a few of your videos! The difference you highlight might be due to the culture too. For example of respecting elderly, it is a good value that we, Malaysians practice and it is one of teachings in Islam. So, it could be one of the reason why we are not hesitating to give priority to elder people. Also, in Islam, there is one encouragement to spread kindness. Therefore, personally for me, we are not too perfect or very kind person, but we try to initiate the kindness so that the people who see it will take lesson and follow it. Plus, we know that sometimes we are not able to help people or do kind, but don't hate the kindness that was showed by others and respect them. I think maybe at first we shy to do it, but when we see people do it, it encourage us to do it too. It will make the world a better place for everyone 👍 still, Japan and Malaysia both have the good and bad, be open-minded take the positive vibes

I think the way of thinking is different. We have the way of thinking, what if that stranger person that need help is our father, mother, sister, brother or children..wouldnt we immediately help without hesitation? For example, if we see elderly person on the train or bus..we imagine that person is just like our parents..although he/she is different ethnicity. That's why we call elderly person as Uncle or Aunty..even if we're not related.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

That's very beautiful culture. I love people in Malaysia call each other Uncle, Aunty, and Bro because it feels very close, friendly and also shows that people do care about each other. Thank you for sharing!!

@pijanmadinil

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad , and don't forget everybody is "Boss" no matter who they are... Hahaha...😂. Nice video. Thanks for sharing 👍

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

@Pijan Madinil Yeah I love "Boss" too😆 Thank you for your comment!!

Tbh, it's quite the opposite really. Malaysian do think about what others would think, the difference is, we often think what people around us would think if we DIDN'T help. You will get this sharp, malicious stare from people around you if you still have your ass on the seat when an elderly standing nearby you in public transportation.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing😉 I hope to see that behavior in Japan too!!

@ar3l4n23

2 жыл бұрын

LOL i agree with this.

@peppergirlrocks

2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha true2. Same thing in Singapore too.

When I watch this, I remember this mother who seen me as university student waiting at ATM because the machine have problem and take some time. I was really anxious because this was the only ATM here and the bus will depart soon. She ask me and then give some money 🥺

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story😊

When i went to kyoto, I gave up my seat to an elderly lady in a bus. It was so packed that day and she was having a hard time trying to balance herself. When I offered my seat, she held my hand and said thank you many times. I really felt bad for her because to me, it is a right thing to do. I could never forget her reaction.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing the story😊

Hi Samurai Dad. I went to Kyoto, and I saw this granny standing in a bus so i offered her my seat. Then almost everyone were looking at me, and i was puzzled for a moment. After watching your video i finally got the answer why they were looking at me. 😂😂 Anyway, hope you enjoy your stay in Malaysia. Cheers

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

😆 Thank you for sharing your experience!! I will enjoy my time here in Malaysia. Stay safe ya!!

Keep posting Samurai san..we really like u to be here as long as u can..perhaps a little bit on the religion maybe ...

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!! I really enjoy my time here😊

When i was i Japan, people were very helpful. I Asked for direction and even with limited english, he really did his best to explain which way to take. And met some high school students with very good english tht pointed clear direction to me somewhere in Osaka. And also met with a friendly old uncle tht very friendly and said he really like talking with foreigner to brush up his English 😂. And his english is good by the way.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy you had a great time in Japan. Thank you for watching and leaving your comment😊

March 2019 me and a friend traveled to Tokyo and while getting off the train on the way to Shinjuku there was a Japanese woman who fell and her makeup stuff was strewn.. this woman got off the train ahead of us .. And while we were walking but no one came to help this woman then we stopped and turn back to help (perasaan macam nak tolong ke tak? nak tolong ke tak?) The woman seemed surprised because we suddenly came and helped pick up the items that fell and this woman bowed her head to us many times and we bowed back and said '' 'r u okay? it's okay! it's okay! and please take care" She's didn't answer but keep bowed her head to us.. then we running to another station to find another train because we got the wrong train! That's why not many passengers got off at that time haha

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Wow! that's exactly what I was trying to explain in the video. It happens so often. It is sad I am ashamed to hear that nobody helped the woman other than you. At the same time I was saved to hear that you were there too🤗 Ahaha train roots in Tokyo are too complicated I also get lost👍 Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts🙏

同感です😉😉

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

コメントありがとうございます😊

No wonder people stare weirdly at me, when i gave my seat to elderly people in Japan . Now i know

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

It's a kind action but yes sometimes people just star at you... Thank you😉

This makes sense in so many way. I just came back from japan last month and when I see an elderly person who are looking for coins the the machine, i quickly hand out some cash to give to that person and i receive so many glares from japanese people. I didn’t give it much thought until I watch this video.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

Жыл бұрын

Welcome back. Hope you liked the stay. Thank you for sharing your story in Japan😊

In malaysia we also have the tend to thought what other people will say about us, but the value was different, what we tend to thought is people will say why is it you not helping someone when you there at that time..

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing!! I think that's a very natural way and that's what makes Malaysian people kind.

We would be proud if we can help others. 😅😂

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I think that's a great thing😉 Thank you for your comment!!

This would probably explains why I can't understand japanese writers like Kenzaburo Oe and Osamu Dazai. Our way of thinking is simply different.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah it's more obvious when it comes to Japanese literature. Thank you for sharing😊

I think it's more impressive of you to read and reply to everyone's stories here 😂 Sasuga, samuraidad-san

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

It does take time to read and reply but I enjoy reading them and also feel very thankful😊 Thank you for your comment!! Arigato👍

I remember back when I was in Ueno station, I don’t know how to operate the storage machine there so i saw a man dressed in security guard walking pass by me and he looked like he’s going to bathroom maybe? I called him to ask if he could help me and I was surprised that he suddenly shouted at me so angrily so I wondered what did I do wrong. There were a lot of people there so when they saw what happened, one from the crowd came to me and helped while the security guy left just like that.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for the bad experience. Thank you for watching and sharing😊

Sir, I would like to ask... If I do the same Malaysian behaviour in Japan & I don't care what other people think, as long as I help the people in need, will that be okay?

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah it'll be fine!! You are very kind!! Thank you for your comment😊

@ryuukakhadijah7766

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad Thank you to you for answering too, sir 😊

Helping People does not need a reason. The saying goes.....someday it maybe your turn.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

True. No reason required. Thank you for sharing😊

our parents taught us at young age to respect the elderly. it's a cultural and religeous thing.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing😊

As muslim its a duty to help other people. People do it for the sake of god so normally dont care what others think. Intention is important as muslim, if your first thougy or intention is good then just do it. If bad intention like showing off comes first then dont do it.. i think

Wow, I just happened to stumble onto your channel. I am super surprised to read what you wrote. Japan is always portrayed as a very civic minded society so I never thought that there is another side to it. It sounds almost sinister the way you describe what goes through the average Japanese mind in your example of an elderly or pregnant lady in a crowded public transport. On the other hand, it's nice to read that you are enjoying yourself here in Malaysia. We do have something incredibly unique here and thank you for reminding us of that. Sometimes it does take someone from the outside to see it for what it is. Hopefully we continue to remember that and not let the bad politics spoil it all.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment!! Yes I'm really enjoying my time here in Malaysia😊

Doesn't Japan provide priority seats for elderly, pregnant women, mothers with young children and people with disabilities in public transports? I'm a bit baffled by your wife's experience. It's a surprise to me that Japanese people are afraid to be kind. In Malaysia if you don't give up your seat to the ones who need them more, that's when you should fear the public eyes. People here give dirty glances at selfish people, we don't do that to generous people. Also, thanks for your perspective!

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

We have priority seat called "Silver seat" but not everyone who sit on silver seat give it up, unfortunately. Thank you for your comment😊

What about all those anime with slice of life genre, full of warm gestures, kindess,etc? Are there not really happen in japan?

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

They are nice people in Japan too😊 Thanks!!

im malaysian, when i stand up to offer a seat to elderly which i alwaysss do..that because my religion stated that respect/ help elderly, or it stated the best sadaqah " gift" when its effect goodness in society as a whole..well at least tht is my motivation..dont know abt others..for what people gonna interpret it or implying it ( by me helping them) well it never distract me or make me pause..in my religion that somehow shaped me..im doing so my Lord please wth me and may the person tht i helped please wth it too...that is it! nothing more nothing less! i found your subject on this quite interesting as i learn the psyche of different culture

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story😊

I think in Malaysia it just the same sometimes but mainly it just people mindset, some people just don't let us live happily the quote " You pretend to be nice " is also applied to this country, I keep been told "don't be too nice" or just " stop pretend, I know you for so long and you never done that " I be like :........... I guess human never change huh? But here is more like just common sense and I'm quite tired of it. Luckily Malaysian people is so open minded and "experience" (in getting bullied mentally everywhere) that it just immune to us time to time Breh my comment is so confusing

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing!! It's very difficult to put these matters in words but I understood what you are trying to say😊

Never knew that catching attention is embarrassing to some people. Don't worry, it is not embarrassing as long as you do nothing wrong.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Many Japanese get embarrassed just standing out in the crowd... Thank you for watching😉

I never seen the KLCC this empty......

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah.. because of MCO... Thank you for your comment😊

@Hellibra

Жыл бұрын

Masa masih PKP.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

Жыл бұрын

@Helly Ibrahim Terima kasih!!

But in malaysia, if you lost your bag, you have to say goodbye

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I see🤣 That's one sad thing about Malaysia... Thank you!!

@ar3l4n23

2 жыл бұрын

That applies to anything i think.. like phones, wallet, even spare tyres i put outside my house LOL. Well like the old saying, 'finders keepers' 🤣

@Hellibra

Жыл бұрын

Dependslah. I left my purse in the toilet hanger. In the bus I realised my purse was not with me. At that time, a lady boarded up and ask 'who left a purse in the cubicle?' Second time I dropped my purse again, in a taxi. It slid under the seat. I managed to trace the taxi driver. He returned my purse next morning. All happened in Malaysia.

Is not that we dont think of a reason to help someone. The reason is always there. We can so we do.

owh, I never knew this, I thought we have same mentality and opinions in this matter, but still even if I'm traveling in japan and some people need my help, I'll still do it, it doesn't even matter what's their opinion.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

You are very kind to think about helping people and take action. Thank you for your comment😊

I am a Singaporean so giving up seats to elderly and mothers in train are common. I did that in Tokyo when I was traveling. The elderly man gave me a death stare instead of taking the seat I offered. 😅 I was wondering what I did wrong cos it was a natural instinct and not kindness showy thing. I found it strange, but then after seeing this video, I sort of understand his hesitation cos all eyes were on us and maybe, he didn't like it or feel embarrassed. So I sat back down.😅

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

Жыл бұрын

🤣 I see the situation Thank you for sharing your story!! I really respect your kindness.

@prishaha74

Жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad 🙏🏻😃

We let God decide about our intension, if we are sincere/ ikhlas then we get a good deed/ pahala.if we are helping because we want to show off then we get nothing.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing with the new vocabulary😊

This is something new to me. Japanese are nice people but why would they care so much about what other people think? Giving and accepting help is a normal thing among humanity.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

Жыл бұрын

We are just brought up being told to think what others would think when you take one action... Thank you for sharing your thought with me😊

4 years in Japan was the hell of my life. It explains the suicide rate. It explains everything. It explains the cruelty during WW2. NO human being shall be in such negative dark society.

@whisky3k

2 жыл бұрын

Japan in the 1940s is not the same as Japan in 2020s. Nor are people in KL nowadays the same as they were in the 60's or 70s. What happened in WW2 has more to do with the warped sense of bushido in the Imperial Army and ignorance/racism prevalent in that era, and has nothing to do with social issues in Japan that you may have encountered. FYI, there are plenty of people (foreigners) who live in Japan, and quite happily as well. Perhaps you might want to consider what you, your personality, and your own expectations contributed to your negative experience, since it generally takes two to clap. Cheers.

@internetjalurlebar

2 жыл бұрын

@@whisky3k i wasnt talking about 1940's Japan...i was there during early 2000s...this overromantization must stop.. Japanese society is a blackhole that will suck in any happiness/qualities that you as a foreigner has and left you expressionless, lifeless, muted like most of them.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

@Ismail Abdullah Some like Japan some hate Japan. It's sad but it's true.... Thank you for sharing😊

I kinda understand how he feel being treated good in Malaysia cuz 'most' Japanese are racist! I appreciate my people here more after I travel a lot. Malaysians are super kind, super friendly and super funny too. We are kind to outsiders first like guest, visitors, travellers from other countries to the point prioritize them first cuz we thought they need 'guide' and feel home. Malaysians are not flustered with 'uniqueness'....cuz we are so used to the differences. But, we become very personal when it comes to the race, religion and family matters...we got very personal. As long as you are not crossing that boundaries....Malaysians will treat you as a long time friend!

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing😊 Yes super kind!!!

@T.W.T_TV

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad Not all but yeah..most of Malaysians are ..

Malaysians have alot of Extrovert mind while Japanese have complex Introverted mind, from the stories i heard from you lol

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I never thought it that way but that might be another way to put it. Thank you for sharing your thought😊

I was once a tourist/foreigner in a metro train in Dubai. My kids were very little at that time. The seats in the train were fully occupied. Mostly by men. Young & strong men, i must say… but… they were “not gentlemen at all” because they did not bother to give up their seats to my kids… they just look at us & did nothing!!! 😅 #malaysianthebest 🇲🇾👍🏻

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Never been to Dubai... maybe same reason as Tokyo maybe not. Thank you for sharing your experience😊

sorry sir may i know what happens to the japan tourism now because lot of video the stranger guys in japan follow women travel alone ...can u explaind that ..Because i so confuse if i go travel to japan ..still save or not ..and this can gift back impact to economy tourism in japan ..and i really want to know what the government action from that case..?I hope you read my comment and do an explanation on video about it..because i really want to go japan country one day.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry I never noticed this kind of video so it's hard to comment. I can say you are safe as long as you avoid walking alone late night especially in cities. Thank you for your comment😊

@jjacksontv2079

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad kzread.info/dash/bejne/o5etrrKGqZyZk5c.html

1st rules do not park your car at klcc parking space, it cos tons of money :D

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah...KLCC parking is so high😵 We better take the train sometimes. Thank you!!

Yes. In Malaysia, if you did not give out your seat to the elderly, I will be eyeing you like a hawk. Hahaha Just kidding

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

I think it's how it should be😉 Thank you for your comment!!

This is an eye opener for me on the Japanese psyche. Now I understand, having been there a couple of times. Could you then share the reasons that the Japanese seemed to be able to get moving or help out during a natural disaster occurence in Japan? It is as if it is like clockwork. Or that the Japanese psyche is so ingrained that it must be written in precise procedure, then it will happen. It is never natural. Meaning if it is not instructed, written or in procrdure form - naturally it is not in their nature to help or do anything at all.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

It's very hard to put into words and state one thing since there are many kinds of people. However one thing that came to my mind reading your comment, is that when a person helps out on a train he would be the only one in the crowd which is a minority so it stands out. But when people help out in a disaster, since many people do the same, that makes them a majority. So I think the situation itself is a bit different, but we could say many Japanese would feel comfortable when they belong to majority. Hope I answered your question. Thank you for asking😊

@azmiragel8803

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad I see. So, it is a collective action that will get them to move with such efficient action. It speaks a lot about mindset. It has to be precise instructions, procedures, rehersal, everybody knows their own roles and action by the majority - then there will be action. Its not something coming out naturally as a person/human being. This translate similar to decision making in Japanese corporation. Now, I understand why it was always so difficult to get a decision and undertake action when dealing with Japanese corporation. Its about collective, commune action, face savings and individuality is not welcome.

@azmiragel8803

2 жыл бұрын

And it must be difficult too for someone to express themselves individually, want to buck the trend, be creative, be collourfull, be individualistic, want to make own decision, want to think oitside the box, etc. And, it translate to difficult decision making and action in Japanese corporation too. Thank you for responding to me. I learn another new thing about the Japanese psyche.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

@Azmir Agel You may already have heard of this but there is a saying "A protruding nail will be hammered down." This shows well how it's considered as a bad manner to stand out in a crowd. Thank you for sharing your thought again😉

@azmiragel8803

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad 👍

the first line in the Rukun Negara is believe in God, in my opinion, we don't have to think too much of what other people will say, we should race to do good deeds for God.

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Very interesting. I never thought the religion could relate to this topic, where people care too much about what others think. Thank you for sharing😊

Just for thoughts and wonder. "To sacrifice your own virtues for the sake of others to moralising your own faiths are the hallmark of the falling society. Politeness became the facade of the person's souls while kindness will be systematically meritocratic which became the benchmark of the social greatness."

@SamuraiStayAtHomeDad

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thought😊