This is one of the most IMPORTANT videos I've ever made! Please watch it til the END 🙏🏼 It's worth it.

@1260brighteyes

3 жыл бұрын

It's really a good video

@superfabulman

2 жыл бұрын

I have a list that I give to the couple to send to their guests : the name of the list is: I WILL DANCE IF YOU PLAY (works every time).. I even suggest to purchase cheap comfy sandals for the ladies to take their high heels off and get their bootie on the dance floor.

@brittanyshank6563

2 жыл бұрын

Omgsh i love your vidoes i actually just found you and have been watching some of them! I wish you could do my wedding so bad! it really sounds like you know what your doing!

@tjsherlock0546

Жыл бұрын

have you done any mix lesson? i would love to learn from you. ie, you bounce around so many different tempos, grooves and styles, you could match it with the best. much respect and thank you

@djkool8699

Жыл бұрын

ALL U GOTTA DO IS PLAY MY SONG " LET ME CLEAR MY THROAT " AND THAT'LL GET THE PARTY GOING EVERYTIME GUARANTEED 💯😎🤣🎤🎶

A huge lesson learned for me years back was a wedding where I couldn't get a single soul out on the dance floor, for hours! I was shitting my pants the whole time and then at the end of the night the bride and groom came up and gave me a hug and said what a good time they had. That's when I learned not everyone's idea of a successful wedding was the same as mine, some people just wanna crush drinks and talk shit while they listen to some good music!

@one.t.official

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Had this a couple of times aswell with some birthdayparties and they gave the same feedback,. So that really puts things into perspective!

@NickSpinelli

3 жыл бұрын

Love this!!

@rickcroll1366

3 жыл бұрын

That's a fact, jack!

@MBrulla

2 жыл бұрын

Nothing confuses me more than the end of a night where I think it was a slower one...and the come up to say it's the best wedding they've ever been to...and I hand out a dozen business cards. Go with it, but in your head...that WTF is warranted. lol

@shanethedj

2 жыл бұрын

@@MBrulla I had a wedding where the B&G requested all sorts of Alternative or New Rock and not many favourites. Only they danced, didn't see the parents dance at all. I thought I really shagged things up. At the end of the night, the B&G were happy and I met their parents after and I said, I am sorry that I wasn't able to play more tunes to your liking and they said, this was their night, not ours. For that they thought I did a great job. That was a huge lesson learned for me.

I am a FIRM believer if people are not dancing but are vibing to the music, enjoying the music, you as a Dj have succeeded. I dont care who you are..You cant make people dance..period.

@Stewcrew8

2 жыл бұрын

So true, found out, everyone don't dance, they just like to " chairboogie"

@MBrulla

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed - hell, sometimes I'll shout out to those dancing at their tables or at the bar and throw one out dedicated to them. I don't care where you are, what you're doing...if you're having a good time that's what matters.

@Stewcrew8

2 жыл бұрын

@@MBrulla move their table to the middle of the dance floor 💯😊

@MBrulla

2 жыл бұрын

@@Stewcrew8 I have had more than a few dance on their tables before...and I thoroughly encourage such recklessness.

@fatherprincipal

Жыл бұрын

Had a gig I thought I flopped I played almost all the hits you can think of even asked myself what have i done wrong today. Long story short at the end of the wedding the bride and groom came to me and gave me a generous tip and thanked me they said they had the time of their life and had a good time so my worries were all in my head

If noone is dancing....play suavemente, people will come out of nowhere and start dancing.

@BTP40

4 ай бұрын

every friggin time!

@bionikcruz223

3 ай бұрын

hahhaha facts! I hate that song!!

@ronieGirl327

3 ай бұрын

I mean that beat possesses your hips and it be over 😅😂

@kasrakh86

2 ай бұрын

It's FIRE 🔥

@brianglenary

2 ай бұрын

Facts

you can talk to the guests at cocktail hour..ask what they like as well. Yeah, daylight barn weddings with a lot of smokers...not a lot of dancing. i've had weddings where they only slow dance, or only dance to participation songs (shuffle, slide, ymca, etc) And i've had weddings where everyone dances no matter what you play. I also tell every bride- YOU are the reason everything is there - if you are on the dance floor so will they, if you spend all night in the bar, so will they.

I’ve had a couple events where the venue is loving my mixing more than the guests hahaha

@nuwmaas

2 жыл бұрын

I always take that as a compliment, cus think of how many DJs, the venue have heard over time.

@integrity2719

2 жыл бұрын

@@nuwmaas facts! I tell them “you’re the reason I came to DJ tonight.”

@Pokergenie

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. But then again. Their wedding was at 11am-3pm.

I DJ Latin dance events (salsa, bachata) and corporate gigs. These are my observations: (1) flow is key, smooth transitions but with subtle cues to inform the crowd next song is coming up. I also freestyle, and not having fixed sets allows me to adapt quickly. (2) prep, prep prep. Prepping is key [beat gridding, set your cue points etc]. Last thing you want is to be prepping music at the gig! (3) impact. Don't ever be afraid to do massive bpm/energy changes, I find that this works when you build a crescendo( with high energy bangers), then drop the night by bringing out the slow stuff. Timing is key to this so you gotta pick the right moment to do this. (4) have fun. As the DJ, if you are not having fun, the crowd will feel it consciously and subconsciously and are less compelled to dance. (5) Hifi sound files. Personally as a dancer, I value high quality tracks. So I download all my tracks at 24 bit + sampling rate of 96 khz (FLAC) and then use platinum notes to get rid of clipped peaks. I use a Traktor s4 controller and it allows 96 khz sampling, this does make an audible difference, and the percussion feels a lot fuller.

I've had 2 covid weddings that I was crapping myself because nobody would dance no matter what I played. Both times the couples thanked me up and down and said everyone had a great time and that so many people hadn't seen each other in so long due to covid that they were all visiting and catching up instead of dancing

Sometimes I wonder if reading the crowd of the room might be better than just trying to get people to dance. Some elderly people and others at a wedding like to hear music but not dance. Should I not play something for them even tho I know they won't dance. Perhaps it's good to play some for everyone in the room, regardless if they dance or not. I'm probably talking nonsense, but does anyone else ever think like this? Probably just me I know 😂

As a bride who's worst nightmare is that my lame family will not dance -- this makes me feel a million times better.

"Every wedding is the Super Bowl" great advice brother! Thanks for the video

@abnrgrtr

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely. As I've always said, it could be your 300th, or 700th, or 1200th wedding, but it's (usually, lol) the couples first, and you therefore still need to treat it like it's the most important event you've ever done.

As a DJ of 40+ years, you absolutely nailed in here Nick. I had to figure all this out on my own and it took time. Much respect to you for sharing this DJ wisdom. Mixing dinner music is a valuable gem to get a feel for the crowd to do the initial connect. This is the single best psychology of the art of DJ'ing I've ever seen.

One of the pros I shadowed under for a number of weddings turned to me one night as we gazed out onto a truly empty dance floor, at a wedding, was: "If you're playing songs you've been asked to play, playing them well, and your sixth sense of good music/timing/beat matching is on point, it's not your fault if no one dances. There are some people who honestly never learned to or don't like to dance. That's no one's fault" Best advice I ever heard other than buy active speakers instead of passive.

Also, remain SOBER as a Dj to be 100% alert and to be able to exercise the things nick talked about! And 1 more suggestion (it works in these types of situations, simply ask "If there are any dancers in the house, I TAKE REQUEST! AND THEY WILL GET THE DANCING STARTED!

I’m a club DJ transitioning to weddings (yay more money) but STRUGGLE mentally so much with groups that don’t dance. This mindset shift I think will really help. Give it everything you got and you can leave head held high ❤️

I DJ for 30 years before I stopped, this is wonderful advice. Sometimes I give up and others I just followed the routine I practiced. It’s frustrating but If you rocked 70% of your gigs mostly likely it’s the people. I also experienced situations where only 10 people dance all night but everyone told me they enjoyed the music. Some folks don’t dance much but they enjoy hearing good mixing

Thanks Nick! I always learn something when I watch your videos!

Good video Nick! Your next one should be “what to do when you have a packed dance floor but the bride & groom never come out to dance? This happened to me 4-5 years ago. Had a packed dance floor pretty much the whole night with the guests but my bride & groom never danced. At the end of the night, they were very quiet when I thanked them for hiring me for there wedding and congratulated them. The next day, they sent me an email saying that they were disappointed and that there wedding was ruined. So from that wedding on….communication is HUGE for me and ALWAYS ask your bride & groom for a do not play list!!! No exceptions!

You sir are the man...Love the videos! Informative and entertaining! Keep em coming!

I've been a DJ for 25 years, not a SINGLE COUPLE knew what's working. It's not their job. I always waited till some promil... play 2 killers, take it from there and never had an empty floor the rest of the night... just playing my own shit. "Never thought they liked this" blablabla... Style doesn't matter, just play with the energy. Good sound is key.

I’m glad you do these. You say a lot of what I’m thinking when this situation happens. And this break down is pretty much how I navigate through. 🤙🏾

I had a wedding where a trainee was with me and the dance floor was packed until the groom came up and asked us to play really hard-core rap music. I'm talking back yard cook out weed smoking rap music. It killed the floor which sucked, but at the end of the night the groom handed us a $200 tip and I knew he and the bride were happy.

First Off, You have Songs In The Key Of Life Hanging On The Top Shelf! My Mans for life

Great informative video Nick! I started as a DJ in the early 80'S and did many weddings and you reminded me many situations when the floor got empty, even for just a minute, I was freaking out and always asked myself "what am I doing wrong??" But now when it happens I just prepare the other song and sometime I will go for another musical genre. But I noticed that something is different nowadays (especially the younger generation): A lot of people are stuck to their cell, iPhone or whatever tech they have and are more interested in texting than dancing!! I also did a wedding just before the pandemic and it was weird (to me at least) the crowd would dance like crazy and have fun and suddenly leave the floor to go outside and come back 2 or 3 songs later...I was very unconformable with this but the bride told me that it is normal that it is what theit family and friends always do at parties and it had nothing to do with me, she also said: "just enjoy yourself and put whatever music you like while we are outside"..Ok so I put some gold old school house music, and even a Bee Gees song (Staying alive) that bring back everyone on the dance floor and they had a great time trying to dance "à la John Travolta" :)

I have my first wedding coming up in August. As an older DJ getting started, I am glad you have listed all the songs that I have in some of my playlists to get prepped.

Absolute GOLD thank you brother!!!

Nick thanks for making this video it's awesome! The best part Bangers, bangers, on top of bangers.

I can so relate. This such good stuff. Thank you Nick!

Doing your thing Nick. Great content and thanks for sharing your knowledge.

been watching your channel for awhile and i gotta say you definitely have the best information on youtube regarding the psychology behind DJing. appreciate all the info!

Wow bro. I ain't a DJ but really enjoyed this.

Absolutely TOP NOTCH information for new and even experienced Wedding DJs. You rock, Spinelli!

Hey Nick thank you for all the information you take the time to share.

Just wanted to say thank you for posting these videos. A lot of it was already common sense for me, but definitely learned a few things/learned new perspectives.

I'm not usually a big fan of DJ vlogs but you get right to the point and have useful advice. Props

Great video. Thanks!

Oh my, this is all sooooo relatable. Everything exactly as you mentioned happened to me multiple times. It makes me miss our beautiful art even more! Fingers crossed we'll all be back in business soon....

Nice video Nick thanks! Tough crowds suck but its the way we handle them that sets us apart from other DJs. A lot of the stuff you mentioned I know is true through experience working weddings but it was nice the way you articulated it and the tips you gave are priceless. Love your videos! We all should be constantly improving ourselves as mobile entertainers thanks for helping us along the way.

Dope information!!...Yes..Yes!!..Thanks My Man!!😎✌

Hey Nick , awesome video . Not a wedding but a surprise 40th. No one danced. The wife who hired me came up to me after and apologized , sorry my friends are boring 😂😂😂.

Great advice! Thank you!!

This is awesome, thank you

Thanks man, I needed this. 🙌💯

Hello From Calgary AB Canada! This is some great info and you have a wealth of experience that all aspiring DJ's /wedding DJ's aspire to have. Thank you for sharing your knowledge!

Great video again Nick!

This was fantastic advice. I definitely FEEL panicked when I cant get the dancefloor going. Luckily, my instinct always was to put my head down and keep mixing without seeming too desperate.

Awesome information man, appreciate it

Super dope, helpful, and real advice. Good shit.

Banger!!!!

Solid advice Nick!

No words to describe how much I enjoyed this. Invaluable advice. Thank you.

Spot on Nick

Good stuff - I appreciate the tips!

Uplifting video. Thanks

Your tips are fire bro!

Alcohol can make a difference, a dry wedding sometimes is meh

Wow! You hit the nail on the head. All the DJs I speak to never admit that they may have a slow crowd. They say they that they Always rock it all the time. And I know they're full of s***. I respect your honesty. Everything your saying is very true. Especially the part about not giving up and putting your head down and mixing. And getting out on the floor with the mic trying to motivate the people and using the bride and groom's name. All these techniques I do as well. And like you said you will get crowds like Doctor Residency.Or a early wedding. A religious wedding. A wedding with no alcohol. Certain corporate events.. you have to also consider all crowds drink different. Meaning they might take longer to get intoxicated or more fired up. Sometimes you're doing everything properly they're just not fired up yet or intoxicated enough. This is one of the reasons why weddings are formatted. Cocktail hour and dinner hour. All these things build you to the point where the Dancefloor finally gets going .You can't push it early if there not ready.. I've done some weddings where they didn't rock until the last hour. And that played to my advantage because they were now drunk and they now wanted me to do overtime and not stop.

Good tips, thank you. Mix 😎🎧

Nick I consider you the best wedding Dj I’ve ever seen/heard, this will help me out a lot bro thanks, I had this problem at an surprise birthday party once, I wasn’t prepared because they asked me to do it a week before and I was lost, thanks for this advice 🤙🏾

Gold, dude. - I hope your followers appreciate everything you give them!

@NickSpinelli

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Tony 🙏🏼🙏🏼

your videos are always great thank very much !

Wow your're the best! You know everything..thanks for the tips

Great video!!!

Doing your think Nick. Great content my friend.Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

These tips are indeed instrumental. I personally use many of them, but I especially like the end where you discuss making eye contact. That's a great idea!! The idea of playing like you already have a full floor is a proven technique because I've used that a few times and eventually the fols start feeding off your vibe. That's another key... if the DJ looks or acts bored, that energy spreads. I ALWAYS make it a point to be bobbing my head and having fun with everything I play. Great video!!

Oh my god at 8:30 in the video when you said "what's happening around you" one time the dancefloor was packed rocking it then like 2 songs later it was dead it was around Midnight so figured they just were ready to end, I'm a 7th degree Black belt in Shaolin Kung fu my girl says I think you should wrap it up I was like sure I'll play like two more songs, she said no, I mean like you should wrap it up now they might need you outside, something is happening. I went outside and there was what could be described as a race war, as the party was a Vietnamese wedding and they were all outside arguing with several Mexican gang banger looking guys that had already taken off their shirts to reveal their tats I jumped in between the two groups and told both of them to calm down, I calmly apologized to the Mexican group saying I'm sorry if there seems to be a some kind of misunderstanding but this is a wedding and the last thing we want to do is have a huge fight on this blessed day. I turned to the wedding party and said I suggest you guys all head back inside as this fellow here has a small hook knife, and I suggest you guys all leave before the cops arrive as I'm sure someone must have called them by now. I then apologized again saying I'm sorry if there's been some kind of misunderstanding but would appreciate it if you guys could just head out for me. I don't know if it was my calmness or the fact that I am Puerto Rican and stand out from the rest of the Vietnamese crowd and just changed the entire dynamic, but in my head, I was already like, well they are out of their shirts no way I'm calming this down, so first the guy with the knife I may have to break his arm, second the guy right behind him just be quick and then move to the third guy, do enough damage nobody will want anymore after they see what happened so quickly to their buddies, either they end up in the hospital or I do. They backed down, then a girl from the group started hitting my Girl's brother and she said "Bitch I'll beat your ass" and all of a sudden it escalated back up again, somehow I managed to calm it down again so nothing ended up happening but I think I saved the lives of that wedding party LOL - DJ Emir Santana of DJEmir.com and DenversBestDjs.com

Lots of great advice here!

It is so cool and important that you bring up this topic. I've been DJing at weddings for 30 years. At every preliminary meeting with the bridal couple, I draw their attention to one fact: the dance floor may be empty at times. And any DJ who guarantees his is always packed...is lying. As a club (resident) DJ you know your audience and can concentrate on your mix skills. As a Wedding DJ, you need to read the dance floor. And that's a skill you can't just learn. That is a matter of experience. But you're right about all of your advice. These reduce the chance of this happening to you. One of the most important videos I've seen from you so far. RESPECT

Great Video 👊🏾

I've been performing live acoustic weddings and parties for 10 years, and just recently, after flexing as a tech house prog DJ at festivals, I thought, hey, why don't I book some DJ party gigs. Books filling up, super stoked. So happy to hear everything you're saying, and actually know the songs your speaking of because I was worried about not having the library. But I got this! Two birthdays next weekend, come at me! 👌

This is an awesome video, thanks for the advise!

Nick your information is GOLD I've been watching your videos for years great stuff thank you 🙏

Wow, you really broke it down brother. Thank you very much.

Excellent video Nick! I was a Dj for more than 10 years, a couple o them in clubs and making hundreds of weddings the rest of years. You made me remember lots of feelings and battles behind the turntables. One of my strengths was to read the crowd, and I must say you’ve given great tips ❤️

Thanks Nick , that was a great video and advices!!

really good...lots of chuckles and great info...l like the mention of music too...gives me confidence that im playing the right stuff....thanks Nick

This is so on point. I've done hundreds of weddings and you are out here distilling all of this trial and error into one fact filled video. This is life affirming for me haha. You just ran through so many moments i have lived alone in my head and it's so real. Thank you

Great video! A big lesson I've learned is that sometimes what the couple requests, the guests hate and don't dance to. Once I had guests ask me why I was playing this music, and it was because it's what the couple asked for. At that point you have to do what it takes to get people to dance, couple requests have to be sandwiched in sparingly. The environment is huge..day time, lights on, no spirits...that all makes a difference. LOL! 7:50 is so true! I ALWAYS bring a sub no matter what I'm being paid. Many times if the dance floor is empty, it's time for a slow song. Counter intuitive, but often works. You can often judge the crowd from the first song. If they run out on the first song...will probably be easy. It's also amazing what turning the lights down will do. Speed mixing is also helpful until you find something they like. South Georgia, summertime, heat, humidity, mosquitoes...that's tough.

Great video! Best ive seen....

Bruh the way u explain it doe !! 💪🏾💪🏾💯

Dude...you rock!

Where was this video when I was starting out! Love the content Nick!! 😁

Woow, thank you so much for your video. Im been Dj since 10 years and these Dj tips are solid. Thank you for share. Greetings from México, new subscriber.

Good tips Nick! Need to try that line "It's illegal"

Great video and very entertaining to watch thanks for sharing.

Hi Nick , you are so right - this is to what every Pro DJ should listen to!

You are very thorough thanks for the info

Great video. I’ve found myself using many of the techniques described but there are sub-techniques I hadn’t thought of or considered. Thanks for the intelligent and oft humorous insight!

you really know your stuff, Nick!

@NickSpinelli

3 жыл бұрын

🙏🏼🙏🏼

Awesome 👏

Great tips, Nick. BLUF, as a DJ we have our portion of responsibilities, however there is only so much you can do. Long as you are doing as much as you can, that is all you can do. Something you said rang truth with me....wedding couple coming up and saying to me (after the fact) that they knew their crowd was not a dancing one.... in my mind...(why didnt you mention that to me earlier :) ) regardless, still did what I needed to do, and they knew it...Keep up the good work, bro!!

Great info brother 👍

8:27 Love it, "And bring a dam Sub - your two top are not enough!!!" 😂 😂 for real,, how are you playing dance music without real bass.

Wonderful video.

This guy really goes on and on and on...

You hit the nail on the head with this video! I've been DJ'ing since '92 and I've had a couple of those "empty" dance floors, but always did my best.

awesome!

I had my own DJ company ( Rock-It Pro DJ) in the 80s in the Chicago area. I had the personality, but not the know-how. I started small and learned from my mistakes, but most would say they were happy based on the feedback. Now I am too old to do those gigs again, but your energy and knowledge will inspire new DJs to become great DJs. Thanks for sharing. It is by far the best advice I have heard so far.

This video was helpful, if only because you confirmed what I already do and have been doing in these situations is also what you are doing and it's nice to hear

Thank you so much it help me a lot , 🙏