I didn't choose to be lonely, but society is full of bullies and narccsistes that socializing has become a nightmare.

@carolsimpson4422

2 ай бұрын

@@RobertGarcia-wb4hy what a kind,considerate thing to say 😂

@JuliusTurner-hm6ff

2 ай бұрын

Please don't listen to these programmed Dr's and Psychiatrist. Isolation helps your find yourself and your purpose. All the negative affects she's talking about are for people who are on drugs, depressed or not doing anything recreational. Isolation with reading, learning new skills and finding god does way more than a social person going to a university. Once you leave your Isolation and enter the social world you'll have skills that you never had and more confidence. Being too social turns you into a programmed robot that plays monkey see monkey do.

@mansfieldfamily5389

2 ай бұрын

@@RobertGarcia-wb4hythanks for proving their point

@cs1645

2 ай бұрын

yeah, and it feels like people that socialize doing the stuff that makes u "cool" (u know """enjoy the youth""" f around, going parties, smoke, drink, post all of that on social media, etc...) they dont do it because they want, they do it cuz of what people would say, at least most of them... its sad

@goodenoughgirl8102

2 ай бұрын

@@cs1645For real. I found myself being dragged around by people like that (I was like do you people ever sit still)? Most times it was just a drag, a waste of time and pointless and I wasn’t having “fun.” I think in their case it was more like wanting to get wasted all the time and escape real life and then telling me how I had issues and “need to get out more.” (Their lives were total train wrecks). I think it’s more sad to think they need all that to be happy only while high or drunk. Very sad indeed. And it makes you think more about what “living it up” or “having a life” really is and isn’t.

I love being alone. I purposely isolate myself, although I recognize it may not be healthy; I think it goes beyond being an introvert, depression, and anxiety (generalized/social). It's literally a way of life and not many people can understand it.

@montripp9902

Жыл бұрын

It’s important to take time for yourself and be alone. I think we should have a personal relationship with ourselves just like we have with other people.

@justthetruth6896

Жыл бұрын

Hey girl,Are you wearing socks ??

@Leo-yn5fx

8 ай бұрын

It's only unhealthy if you are not feeling well. Otherwise keep going

@onenation8707

8 ай бұрын

Snap! I'm the same due to my upbringing and, naturally, over time embraced it. As a substitute, taking up hobbies like playing a musical instrument or learning a new skill can replace people. Edit: The most important thing is travelling every year for a month or 2. If you take that away from me, I have nothing.

@Mint-kj9kw

8 ай бұрын

@@user-pi3fc1qt1l Id like to know some of your hobbies and interests:)

Whatever damage is allegedly done by being isolated can't be worse than what evil humans will do if you give them a chance.

@kymma2589

2 ай бұрын

Bro go touch grass

@themobilemage2137

2 ай бұрын

@@kymma2589 bro get out of your ivory tower and see what people are really like

@evalehde3869

2 ай бұрын

@@themobilemage2137I don’t think you know what the phrase “ivory tower” means.

@themobilemage2137

2 ай бұрын

@@evalehde3869 aren't you snotty. You obviously don't know many people if you think they're just wonderful 😂😂😂 Precious little overprotected trust fund baby.

@Lucid-1111

2 ай бұрын

This is so real

I love being alone. I enjoy being around people in small doses. As long as you keep your mind active by reading and learning new things, I think you'll be fine.

@RevCeleste

12 күн бұрын

I agree! I like to pick and choose being around other people and in small doses. I generally prefer to be alone

@JamesRaworth-ng6ji

6 күн бұрын

@@RevCeleste agreed

@donm8363

5 күн бұрын

I agree

@ceciliadanielsson9530

2 күн бұрын

I agree!

I self-isolate to survive. I absolutely love and cherish being alone and being left alone. I am able to interact with coworkers and neighbors just fine, but when I get home I don’t have people over or answer the door for anyone unless it’s an emergency with a neighbor or something. I want to move to a very rural, private area where the closest neighbor would be a mile away. My solitude is my salvation. 🕉️🧘🏼

@coalblooded

8 ай бұрын

This is exactly me.

@danko5866

8 ай бұрын

Same!

@dmystify1381

8 ай бұрын

totally..!

@FalconPUNCHXXX

8 ай бұрын

Same

@85Funkadelic

8 ай бұрын

I do that as well and I value that time. However I also do social things like playing board games and role playing games at a table with other people. I also socially connect with friends both in person and over communication tools, You need a balance.

having social anxiety from a young age really messes you up, more than people realize. prayers and action we can all get through this

@TheSapphireLeo

Жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@wrldtrvlr4vr

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@AndersonMallonyMALLONY-EricCF

Жыл бұрын

I've been isolated for 10 years because of this

@aaronmicalowe

Жыл бұрын

I've reached a point now where I love isolation. It fills me with such a feeling of tranquillity. I love it. But I still seek out contact with one person I can trust every now and then to remind myself how it feels then return to the tranquillity of joyous peaceful isolation again.

@scootza1

Жыл бұрын

"More than people realize" lmfao. Tell that to the boomers who decided all of america needed to shut down for a few years because a wee virus was killing them. Remember; your mental health is only important when it does not incovenience others ROFL

I'm 68 and retired. Live alone with my 3 dogs and love it. Social media is destroying kid's sense of reality and friendship.

@happygrandma2732

26 күн бұрын

Pets are man's best friend for sure. They are loving and loyal and don't hurt you like humans do.

@msdecemberloveangel8236

15 күн бұрын

I agree

There are so many people who are either bullies, jealous, thieves, liars, backstabbers, gossips, tattlers, etc., it is really hard to socialize. It can be a lot of trouble or even dangerous in some cases. Loneliness is a problem but life is a problem. Finding the right people to spend time with is more trouble than it's worth in many cases. I like my privacy and spending time helping innocent animals. At least I don't have to worry what they're doing behind my back

@JamesRaworth-ng6ji

6 күн бұрын

Hilarious gold medal to funny😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣😭😱🤣🤣🤣

@JamesRaworth-ng6ji

6 күн бұрын

True

@JamesRaworth-ng6ji

5 күн бұрын

Thanks I needed that laugh 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

TRUST IS A BIG FACTOR. If people weren’t so darn untrustworthy most people wouldn’t isolate themselves from others.

@Sure743

2 ай бұрын

True however isolating yourself for too long makes you more vulnerable to manipulation and daydreaming (since you only spend time for yourself you only get to talk to yourself...) Too much and Too less is a bad thing.

@aceyage

2 ай бұрын

Trust, empathy and reliability.

@fumarate1

Ай бұрын

Yes life can have its challengers it will throw all sorts of things at you.

@NinorahDeux

Ай бұрын

The mystery is: why don't all the trusty people join to feel less alone ?" We all feel the same, so why not creating our own social media and network ?

@bringmehappydays

Ай бұрын

Correct and true

I have more damage caused by people. Prefer to stay alone, have my own peace. People traumatized my head terribly. Since I'm alone I feel much healthier mentally and physically.

@gohanblack5545

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for understanding, people are disgusting creatures that only want to cause harm to one another

@Nico42_

3 ай бұрын

I feel bad around people and being alone 😢

@Mytimenow123

3 ай бұрын

Amen. Stay strong.

@sonyalovest1016

3 ай бұрын

Perfectly Said

@RicardoLopez-ts3sr

3 ай бұрын

Couldn't said it better. All of a sudden I stayed away and everybody thinks there is something wrong with me.

I was isolated as a child, and had issues. When I got older I was a social butterfly. The butterfly syndrome drained me! As an middle aged adult now, the best thing that happened to me was learning to be alone. I absolutely love it!!!!

@samanthafox3124

3 ай бұрын

A middled aged...

@rmd4138

3 ай бұрын

Especially when you're experiencing what I term, 'A Job thing', i.e. processing grief and loss when others don't understand, and will say the wrong thing, and/or have intentional ulterior motives. 😶

@Sbsjakehsb

2 ай бұрын

Wait! You join YT 16 years ago? Wow

@Bldzera

2 ай бұрын

​​​@@Sbsjakehsbive been on youtube since the annoying orange fred days but my acc isnt that old but ive been on yt for 15-16 years

There are many commenters that are explaining "why" they isolate or the reasons they don't want to socialize. This presentation is not about why you isolate or the reasons you may feel lonely, it's about how to heal or regenerate your brain when you're experiencing isolation for long periods of time.

I was practically raised in a social isolation environment full of bullying and mistrust. It is extremely difficult to combat social anxiety and re-wire your brain when you are lacking even the basic social skills that most children learn in a young age.

@JohnSmith-if3iq

7 ай бұрын

Same childhood here, you are absolutely right. You are always on your guard, never truly relaxed.

@russ549

7 ай бұрын

Same here. I was raised off grid where there were very few, very far away neighbors. We were homeschooled , so we had no friends. Us siblings just had each other and that was pretty much it.

@bethelle9099

7 ай бұрын

Sadly, you are not alone! No pun intended!!!!

@SuperMiIk

7 ай бұрын

Real

@eventhorizon2264

7 ай бұрын

I resonate with this so much

I think it’s important for people to understand how to be “alone”, but not “lonely.” Many times “Growth” requires isolation.

@thunderlifestudios

6 ай бұрын

I think it's more that growth can require less distraction and focus on things that matter. Getting away from toxic people and situations and, of course, this includes toxic positivity.

@sharlaamysamuel

6 ай бұрын

This is true

@brainfreeze91

6 ай бұрын

I know this to be true, however it's such an infuriating comment to read. It makes me irrationally angry that some people are so blessed not being alone that they actively need to seek out aloneness. As someone who's been alone for years I am envious at how ignorant people who don't experience aloneness are.

@nicosanchez_music

6 ай бұрын

this. im mentally challenging myself every day and i purposely have to isolate myself to grow on the tasks i want to work on. However, i will say that i usually have to talk to 2-3 people most days of the week but i dont spend long periods of time with them. I think it's still very good to get out and socialize with people (sports, hobby meet ups, etc.)

@rosamartinez5468

6 ай бұрын

Indeed indeed

I love being alone and it is the best thing ever because people are worse than being alone. It is my way of life since childhood

@JamesRaworth-ng6ji

5 күн бұрын

True

Good to see there’s people out there like me it may feel like we’re alone but we stand out

@dennismclaurin1487

3 ай бұрын

.....as social outcasts

@999triple4

3 ай бұрын

@@dennismclaurin1487 💯

@Skyo.o

3 ай бұрын

lol there's nothing special about this

@smerchly

2 ай бұрын

"The Needle & the Damage done" (NY). The aftermath of the covid isolation is apparent . I could not visit my best friend before he passed away because I didn't take the needles and since then we have avoided all crowds and we like keeping a low profile from others except a few friends and family . The money saved allows us to buy better quality food , clothing ect . while shopping on line. The world has changed and do not like what is happening .

Crippling social anxiety, poorly managed depression/OCD/ADHD, and the pandemic took the last seven or so years from me, and the enormous weight of realizing just how much time I've spent in a state of derealization/depersonalization just recently hit. I feel absolutely crushed, but also grateful for insights from individuals like Dr. Marks. Sending an internet hug to anyone reading this, who may be trying to pull themselves out of their isolation. We can do this.

@ragnarok953

Жыл бұрын

feels like i wrote this. :) Been having these problems lately and it is though. Keep it up. Drink water, read and exercise daily. Get your protein intake aswell and we can do this.

@serengeti4027

Жыл бұрын

can i ask what makes you make the connection to derealization/depersonalization? why do you feel that's what you've experienced while isolating? I ask as i have experience with isolation also and wonder if i'm often experiencing something similar.

@ladyj8957

Жыл бұрын

YES WE CAN and just remember WE are still here

@AJBuddha

Жыл бұрын

Me too. You’re not the only one ⚠️🐐

@rust44

Жыл бұрын

You have been diagnosed with all that?

I used to be a people person, nickname Social Butterfly lol Now that I’m slightly older (late 30s), I’m finding being alone is the way to be for me. A lot of people are mental and emotional vampires, many like to gossip, others are just straight up rude and ignorant, and it’s increasingly harder to find people who are genuine and trustworthy. Being around people is exhausting to me, and that can’t be good for my brain either. So I choose solitude 😊

@AlteredEgo-tq1sd

4 ай бұрын

I definitely agree with you! I spend the majority of my time alone ..always have.. I'm NEVER lonely nor lonesome. It seems that no one is freaking out about spending time alone but nay-saying societal freaks (those clingy weak folks who cannot stand to spend a second alone with themselves.). The only way one gets to know thy self is to spend time alone with the self. Society has many people brainwashed about a lot of bullshit that's simply not true.

@AliPi7

4 ай бұрын

@@AlteredEgo-tq1sd yes! The extroverts are constantly trying to save the introverts. People with children are constantly talking down on people who choose to not have any! The fact that so many ppl are clueless that we are NOT all the same, is baffling to me. If I were to have ppl around me, those ppl would have to be top tier in personality, ethics, integrity, intelligence and character. Anything less won’t do. I don’t have any social media except KZread and sometimes I’m thinking what am I missing out on?? Absolutely nothing at all. Fake posts, fake people. No thanks. So until I find a friend or two who are absolutely decent human beings, I will choose solitude.

@jilokizito1705

4 ай бұрын

You just described me. Actually, mine was a celebrity. Today, at 35, people call me a loner. A lot has really changed. I think as one gets older, they become calmer, embrace solitude and shed off a lot of friendship.

@AliPi7

4 ай бұрын

@@jilokizito1705 yes I absolutely agree. I’m 39 and oh boy have I changed, and I absolutely love it. The confidence to choose solitude is something so liberating. I chose this, it’s not because ppl don’t like me lol Imagine loving yourself and respecting your own boundaries and standards, you choose YOU over superficial, draining “friendships”. Not many are that confident and I thank God I’m not desperate for connections where I’m compromising myself just to have ppl around.

@pyroblade452

4 ай бұрын

Another thing is finding someone you click with, but they have a large friend circle and they think that because you told them that it's okay to tell everyone else. If I wanted everyone else to know don't you think I would've told them myself?

I don't go out of my way to avoid people; I enjoy authentic interaction. But if I have to change who I am when around them in order to be accepted I'd rather be alone.

@masterlinx767

Ай бұрын

This. I have not met but two people that genuinely like having conversations AND let me talk about my interests without immediately changing the subject and shutting it down as I do listen and discuss their interests too. I can't stand talking to people who only want to gossip negatively or insult others, especially people I never met because they can't defend themselves. There's so much in this life to talk about, it pains me that most people would rather spend their energy on tearing others appearances, weight, and personalities down as the main focal point of any conversation. Space, the ocean, new scientific developments, anything in the world except gossip and negatively talking about other people would be great for once.

As a lifelong depressive who strongly leans into introversion, I've found that more isolation actually increases my happiness. I especially feel better when my job requires minimal socialization/supervision. I can't refute any of the research driven points made in this video, as they're probably true for most people. But I'm a weird loner outlier. And I feel better accepting that than trying to be normal.

@dennismclaurin1487

3 ай бұрын

I experience relief and peace of mind when I'm away from others----for the most part

As someone who's struggled to form long lasting connections: I've learned focusing my energy on myself, my hobbies and my mental and physical health has helped me to fill in the need to have connections. Sometimes I feel lonely but then I remind myself of the inconsistencies, drama and heartbreak that are associated with connections and I refocus my energy on myself

@BethanyGuajardo

8 ай бұрын

Have you considered joining a local church or volunteering for a local organization in your city or community? My great aunt was very active in her women’s garden club, a docent at a local museum, and children’s library in her later years. It’s a win-win for everyone. Or if you can’t get out of the house, there are video apps to connect with people all around the world to have random chats. Praying for you!

@l3gendbaap963

8 ай бұрын

I was like this at first, but then I realized that I was just telling these things to myself to hide the pain, deep down I knew the truth. Believe me everybody needs good socials connections. It will fill that empty feeling in your heart. You will experience what I mean when real social connection happens.

@AnnieCappuccino

8 ай бұрын

Isolation is a gift. It is the freedom to set your own schedule and use your time as you like. People can be fun, but many are just awful.

@coalblooded

8 ай бұрын

Yeah, I'd much rather be by myself. The rare occasions where I wish I had a friend is if I'm needing to vent about a problem I'm having with another person. By eliminating the person, I eliminate the problem, and therefore don't need someone else as a sounding board lol

@emobloom

8 ай бұрын

Speak only for yourself @@l3gendbaap963

Being bullied from the moment I started school to when I finished it, never learning how to make truthful and honest emotional connections has complete ruined me. I'm 25 now and all I do is go to work and go home - my only face to face social interaction is at work. Never had close friends, never had a relationship, starting to feel like it's just not in the cards for me but the loneliness and need for physical touch is killing me on the inside.

@shuiwahlee5836

7 ай бұрын

My son is the same... it's heartbreaking to watch him have no close friends...I feel your pain😢... how about going to a small local Church...you're sure to make friends there...all ages go.. doesn't matter if you don't believe...you can say youre curious...they should welcome you with open arms ...they usually want you to belong if it's a legit Church..

@totheverminwhofirstgnawed

7 ай бұрын

@svetapnantom Do you have anything you would legit like to learn about? Like some language, dance or any other hobby in general. If so, joining some group related to that could be a good steping stone: even if at first you feel too awkward to talk about personal stuff, you can keep your talks focused on the groups nominal purpose. Even if they find you weird and awkward, some people in these places tend to like explaining things to newbies. The church idea is also not bad, but I would actually recommend a big one since you might feel more comfortable with the relative anonimity and socializing at your own pace. But also only if you have genuine interest in knowing about a religion.

@nicolewright8833

7 ай бұрын

I understand what you’re describing! If you only knew how many others are living the exact same experience yet feel isolated and unique in their misery. Trust me, as hard as you feel things are, submitting to the hopelessness is not the way to go. Fight against your current beliefs about yourself and make the efforts to be healed from the past. For now it’s easier to be passive and avoid the pain, but you must resist sliding into the despairing belief that this is all life can be. It will only get worse if you don’t take action.

@Ryu_Shotokan

6 ай бұрын

Embrace it. Trust me when you get older you're gonna love it. You are in the best spot right now.

@Asolire

6 ай бұрын

@svetapnantom You're not alone in this, i'm in a similar spot, starting to embrace solitude completely and making inner talks with myself work like a conversation to compensate that need of having someone close to share with, it was a self-destructive descent into almost a schizophrenic behaviour fueled by the spite of wanting to love more than anything in the world but feeling like wasn't meant to at this point in life anymore. Would've kept following that route if it wasn't for one person that approached me and made me feel genuinely appreciated, i'm currently taking small steps into reintegrating into a normal life thanks to her. I still have a terrible perception of myself, most of the time there's been ups followed by huge downs in mood, but it really fuels my motivation to keep going having someone like that take the initiative so i don't feel like i'm forcing myself where i might not belong,. Hope you can find the same kind of motivation in something or someone, for me it's love in this case, i'm completely aware i might be too late to form a meaningful bond with her but i really feel so thankful with how she treated me at first, that the need to show how much it helped made me step out of the isolation to reciprocate that affection.

Having a relationship with yourself is the best. Only going within we find truth.

@gkarenstratton

Ай бұрын

🙏 "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?" Jeremiah 17:9 in the Word of GOD 🙏 "I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No man cometh to the Father but by Me." Jesus Christ's loving, SAVING words. John 14:6 ROMANS 10:9, 13 💜🤍💜🤍💜🤍💜

@robinyarborough4727

19 күн бұрын

This is not church

I was neglected physically and emotionally my whole life. So I just trust like a needy kid and it’s human nature to destroy weakness. I stay away from people now, I just don’t understand why people are so evil.

I thought I was autistic…now I’m realizing it could very well just be the fact that I’ve been homeschooled and completely isolated from the age of 12. I’m 20 now. There’s a lot of damage to be undone, but now I can at least start socializing with the intention of repairing my brain rather than coming off as “normal” to whoever I’m communicating with. The new intention should make things a whole lot easier :)

@Laurayt89

8 ай бұрын

I wish I was homeschooled. I forced myself to be very social and that was a waste of time and health. I didn’t know I was that unhappy until the pandemic, when I could actually isolate myself.

@millanferende6723

8 ай бұрын

It means that unfortunately your parents didn't know how important socialization is to a child. That is quite sad. If somebody homeschools a kid, they must know that developing friends, through extra curriculum activities or other homeschooled kids, is essential. I wish you the best on your road to recovery, you will make it! :)

@BethanyGuajardo

8 ай бұрын

Have you considered joining a local church or meetup groups, or volunteering for a local organization in your city or community? My great aunt was very active in her women’s garden club, a docent at a local museum, and children’s library in her later years. It’s a win-win for everyone when it comes to volunteering since you get to do good AND meet new people. Or if you can’t get out of the house, there are video apps to connect with people all around the world to have random chats. Praying for you!

@beckieeaves3942

8 ай бұрын

I understand your struggles. Some I am still working on to overcome. You are fortunate to realize the cause of your issue young. Good luck to you. It sounds like you are on the right path!

@Morec0

8 ай бұрын

While I'm not about to badmouth homeschooling in this day and age, I understand you completely and it's one of the reasons I'm completely against the spectrum theory of autism. Having been diagnosed myself but reaching the same conclusions you did was... infuriating. I have less hope than you do, but I wish you the best.

Damn, reading and exercising is what I spent most of my time doing as a kid because I was so isolated. It allowed me to maintain high level performance at school despite social isolation. Crazy how the brain adapts and unconsciously knows what to do to counter the problems it encounters. Prayers to all the isolated people out there. Let's try and form connections people 🙏🏾

@monejohn9973

8 ай бұрын

If you was Doing school online, then that makes sense. But if you actually went to a building socializing surrounding yourself with people, rather you talk or not, that's still socializing. So what you said would make 0 sense😅 Because you'd still be socializing and not being isolated, but like. I said if it was on the computer I understand but I don't know how old you are or what generation you come from. So I'm just taking everything at face value.

@basilcreates8146

8 ай бұрын

me toooooo i was like so obsessed with reading when i was younger and j exercised a lot, luckily i was smart

@Rune_Scholar

8 ай бұрын

No.

@saburiX

8 ай бұрын

thank you doc 🙏🏾

@kainickname

8 ай бұрын

@@user-pi3fc1qt1l How do you manage to make a living in isolation? I have a lot of trouble fitting into society, and I can relate to most of what you wrote...I'm studying computer science as well. Thank you in advance.

I love being alone. I'm fed up of controlling people who try to own me. They are everywhere. But I own myself, no boss, no government, no significant other half will ever own me. That makes life a perfect bliss.

I really only interact with family, pets, and co-workers, and honestly, that's good enough for me.

I have been socially isolated for years on years on years. Brain fog is definitely a thing for me, not understanding what people are trying to tell me when they're speaking plain English, losing empathy (I generally care about people I know but I don't know how to give them what they need in interaction) there is very little I can do about that at this point, at this point I'd like to just restore the clarity I used to have as a teenager, before I dropped off the face of the earth.

@gabbym333

7 ай бұрын

Same my dude, same

@lovffle

6 ай бұрын

I can relate to the brain fog part. When I was a freshman and somehow got friends this would happen a lot to me. I wasn’t used to conversations with people since I was basically mute in middle school. And ya I feel I’ve been losing empathy aswell. That’s why I care for animals more now. I just don’t like most people

@jimskeuh

6 ай бұрын

seems you might have autism spectrum.

@CreatorFrequency

6 ай бұрын

same😿😭

@Andy_JJ

6 ай бұрын

This sounds like autism to me, my friend!

I have social anxiety, and I've been isolated from childhood. I've always had the feeling that I'm getting "dumber" over time, but everyone shrugs it off when I try to explain what I feel, so I stopped talking about it. Thank you so much Doctor, This means the world to me, it really does … at least now I can show this to people so that they take it seriously.

@nessie968

Жыл бұрын

Hi, I feel this too! I've been socially reclusive from 14 to this day at 19 because I lost my only friends and never had one since. It made me depressed, I lost any interest in hobbies, going out, socializing and was at home all day watching YT. It made me so dumb. I'm in my first year of uni and it sucks. I feel like the slowest person there. And the guilt of wasting all those years doesn't help either:(

@nessie968

Жыл бұрын

@@TheLegless101 thank you for advice.

@rat7570

Жыл бұрын

So what, you can play the pity card now? What will happen if you show it to people (they take it seriously??) Take responsibility and start exercising, reduce social media and games to 3 hours a day, and start learning new skills, before bed you can read some fantasy story to sleep better. Social anxiety is a symptom of a problem, not the problem itself Deep journal if you have no one to talk to when you need to express your emotions. Journal your thoughts for as many pages as you can write, they shouldn't be written in a way for others to understand, it's just a matter of brainstorming your worries and anxiety on paper so that your brain finally relaxes and stops thinking about that stuff (helps because the brain feels like you don't have to remember it if it's on paper) If you want better more concise advice than mine, start watching Hamza, and maybe Andrew Tate. WARNING! Do not take pills for mental health, they ruin you even more. Therapy is just a place where you pay to be heard and get validation for 99% of people. A place where you constantly talk about sad things, so you turn even more nihilistic. Talk about happy things, go with the mindset that you are happy, your brain will trick itself. You should only go to therapy if you have some serious serious trauma, not just a place to vent.

@SmoltingWassie

Жыл бұрын

Isolated from childhood, but "everyone" shrugs it off when you explain what you feel, are you isolated or are you surrounded by people?

@rat7570

Жыл бұрын

@@SmoltingWassie he just FEELS isolated because he has imposter syndrome most likely

Im regenerating myself when I’m alone - as an introvert and I’m loving it.

I've lived isolated for 45 years, not everyone has a destiny to be with people, some people are born to be alone....

@kalifa______

3 ай бұрын

Damn

@youropinionsareshitandsoar1954

3 ай бұрын

Valid 💯

@livingtheloop3539

3 ай бұрын

If you had past relationships, you can get future ones

@Alucard_FahrenheitTepes

3 ай бұрын

@@livingtheloop3539 not really I used to be a model I'm too old and hideous now.

@samyakchhajed

3 ай бұрын

No one is born to be alone. In fact, you aren't born to be anything. You just be.

I chose to be isolated. The less interaction the better for me. Infact this is how I pursue my life now. But I do realize that the more I tried to isolate myself, I can feel that I definitely get tired of interactions easily. It's been years since I had proper interaction with people. I'm afraid of getting too much joy from interaction.

@missrainne

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing.

@atomict1974

Жыл бұрын

Dont b afraid any longer Kind regards 🤗

@kuni--9243

Жыл бұрын

Autistic????

@JohnDoe-cb3so

Жыл бұрын

Why the fuck are you wearing a mask in your profile pic?

@thinkingjohn2099

Жыл бұрын

I resonate with this and live my life similar and not worried about it as isolation suits me particularly after dumping toxic friends

As an introvert "high levels of social interaction" is not healthy for me, in fact it makes me feel awful. When I was younger I thought something was wrong with me because I was constantly being told you need to get out of the house more, travel, go to social events. The message was, if you're not doing these things you're depressed and something is wrong with you. I thankfully learned about introverts and realized I don't have to conform to society's beliefs that constant interaction with people is the best and only way to live, and I'm not a bad person. I'm sooo much happier on my own and I no longer feel bad about myself for being who I am.

@JADiaz10

7 ай бұрын

Facts man. I put myself in so many toxic environments with the hope that things would get better and they never did. Got tired of making a fool out of myself. I think I’m kind of autistic or just don’t have a good brain. Prolly the same but she talks as if the brain can be pumped up like muscles. Every has their limits on what they can maximize.

@crystalquartz11

7 ай бұрын

Amen!

@PEDALSnPROJECTS

7 ай бұрын

Well you trained your brain to do what it's doing now

@Barnee1897

7 ай бұрын

Congratulations and hooray! There is nothing wrong with you. 💕

@johnny6187

7 ай бұрын

@@PEDALSnPROJECTS Exactly. If socializing makes you feel bad it's most likely because you spent so much time isolated. I remember when I was younger I used to just play video games all day and then whenever I went out I felt out of place or awkward. It wasn't until I got up off my ass that I pretty much relearned how to socialize with out feeling immensely out of place. It's good for your brain to get out once in awhile.

Isolation has always been my thing since I was young. Some people aren't worth socializing with

Isolation showed me how to become more in touch with inner self through my inner dialogue. This taught me how to socially engage myself internally minimizing effect of external separation.

@chisomudeze7706

Ай бұрын

Through inner dialogue and using your phone.

@Fawe21

Ай бұрын

But ask yourself without a phone who are you?

I absolutely refuse to over exert my energy dealing with people. I only deal with people when necessary. Deal with people too long, they’ll find way to exploit you & take advantage of you.

@bloodmoney7968

Жыл бұрын

Right? That's the fate of the people that are too honest to live in this rotting planet

@dennismclaurin1487

3 ай бұрын

There's nothing more destructive than the rotten human spirit of those who think all is well with their soul

As a truck driver, this video hits close to home. Can you do a video on the mental health occupational hazards of certain careers?

@MrDominatord7

Жыл бұрын

Same here, working in maintenance can be so mind crushing Especially the days when you have to be at work although nothing really happens

@opulence_prime

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this comment. I noticed someone mention the easy example without considering it’s everyday ppl who deal with this as Dr. Marks eluded to.

@Texas.Gaming

Жыл бұрын

That’s such a great video idea. I wonder if there are good studies in this area.

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

@c22tch Great suggestion, I'll look into that and see if I see patterns with certain careers.

@HannahCrier

Жыл бұрын

I'd definitely watch that video! Great suggestion ☺️

You're right. We DO need Spcial Interaction. But I'd rather be alone than be with someone who sees the Worst in Me.

I’m thankful for the video and comment section, I thought I was alone in this world. Not that I don’t like being alone, I thought I was weird or something for liking to be alone a lot

As an elderly man living alone and having few others with whom I socialize, I am quite isolated. Dr Marks highlights effects in the brain resulting from isolation that I certainly identify with…slower thinking, forgetting words, brain “fog” and fatigue. It’s alarming. I exercise, read, and get what interpersonal and contact I can, but I’m lonely and frequently depressed and I know my intellectual abilities are decreasing.

@Jameschewingfoil

8 ай бұрын

Learn to play a musical instrument.A guitar will allow you to play those feelings.

@M_SC

8 ай бұрын

Yes, we need to actively do new things and meet new people. It’s difficult. Talking to yourself consciously is good for you. Don’t get stuck in your mind, always gently bring yourself back to mindful awareness.

@tpmedia3784

8 ай бұрын

Intellectual abilities are overrated anyway

@indee105

8 ай бұрын

It's the human experiment. There's nothing "wrong" with anything your doing. Anyone who thinks they have answers to this game are to entrenched in "societal norms" and full of bologna. Day by day, it's all we have. Take care man.

@carlyraewhittenberg5126

8 ай бұрын

Praying for you ❤

I absolutely love being alone. I need very little interaction with others. I’ve always been this way

@dennismclaurin1487

3 ай бұрын

I need the right people, to interact with. I'm surrounded by wolves in sheep's clothing

@poprocksminneapolis

2 ай бұрын

Commenting on videos is interaction with others. Do you mean you like to live alone? But still have contact with people? @@dennismclaurin1487

@hilarykoppen2776

25 күн бұрын

Doubt you’re truly alone

@user-re2xr3ni8u

25 күн бұрын

@@hilarykoppen2776 not sure what you mean?

@pattido777

24 күн бұрын

​@@hilarykoppen2776🤔

YOUR free KZread videos have been an incredibly important part of my daily progress. Finding a good therapist is an extra hard challenge beyond finding one at all due to schedule availability or lack there of. I have to sincerely thank you for your regular entries.

You are an amazing human being, touching on topics that no one talks about which shows how much effort and time you spend educating yourself to educate us. Thank you

This happened to my daughter. She was a lively 11 year old before the pandemic. She is 13 now and has anxiety, social anxiety, and panic attack. We are trying to help her rewire things now.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@Jeremy-mu6cd

8 ай бұрын

Poor thing, I’ll pray for you

@AthenaAphrodite1973

8 ай бұрын

@@Jeremy-mu6cd thank you 🙏🏽

@SpaceWalkerReal

8 ай бұрын

This same thing happened to my sister, hoping you can help her regain some sense of control over her emotions, mental health issues are a painful thing for all involved. ❤❤❤

@AthenaAphrodite1973

8 ай бұрын

@@SpaceWalkerReal thank you so much. I will 🙏🏽 for your sister as well?

@allikdoolb3

8 ай бұрын

These things are permanent.this video is being politically correct..the real scientific research shows something entirely different than whats shown on this video.the longer it is the worst....I'm telling from experience

Depression isolation for 5 years, even before COVID, has seriously damaged my brain. I've felt it. Thanks for doing a video on this. I regret not pushing myself out there more before so much damage was done. But after a long time of feeling constantly suicidal, I am finally realizing not only can I fix myself with God's help (I have to give Him the credit, I would not have survived my attempts without Him), but I WANT to. I want to get better. I want to and I can. I can be there for myself. I can be okay. If you're still in that dark place, they were right. It does get better. You can beat this. Take your meds, take a shower, brush your hair, don't give up. Don't brush me off. You will see the light on the other side of this tunnel. Even if you can't believe it yet, don't let the words leave your heart: I can. I will. Praying for you all. Thank you for the likes and lovely responses. I am touched you have all opened up to me. It's very brave. I know you can all get better. God bless. 💜🙏

@new_to_planet4424

Жыл бұрын

I feel ya!! I literally had my own emotional global shutdown 2 years before Covid. I guess I’m ahead of the curve! 😂😭

@charitymills442

Жыл бұрын

@kirstencorby8465

Жыл бұрын

I feel it too. I go to do something, and by the time I've walked to the other room, I've forgotten what it was and I have to go back to remember. This happens all day every day.

@cuixinshi

Жыл бұрын

Did you have a job during the depression or isolation? I’m just asking because I don’t hangout with people anymore, but I’m still cool with my coworkers when I come to work.

@corkyvanderhaven3391

Жыл бұрын

This is an elite comment top to bottom. Hoping to convince her if having live group

People shouldn't accept being alone because they're afraid of negative emotion associated with socializing, instead they should learn to become stronger mentaly to withstand all of what life has in store for you. Its defintely not easy but its better than giving up.

This is not true for everyone. From childhood through my thirties I was extremely socially oriented. From my 40s until now in my mid-60s, I realized what Sartre meant: "hell is other people." To suggest that self-determinant isolation while focused on pursuing ones interests leads to brain fog or an impediment of cognition, is ridiculous. Not only do I still read 1600 words a minute, I built and manage several dozen income producing websites and I'm working on a novel. I still go out to socialize a few times a year. I attend the occasional party, benefits and fundraisers, and family dinners at the holidays. Each and every time I'm reminded why I enjoy being alone.

Beign "isolated" might not be the healthiest option for people like us that like to be alone, are introverted, or just don't feel the need to be around people to feel good in general, but still, being around people often brings its own problems too. Stress, anxiety, expectations or having your inner peace messed up by other people are equally serious problems as the ones described in the video, in my opinion at least.

@ebbyc1817

4 ай бұрын

I share this opinion, it's been much healthier for me to stay away from people, perhaps because I don't have a lot of great people to be around, but still, better. Being in spaces I didn't belong in wasn't helping me long term, I might get endorphins from the interaction, but the effect it has on my self-perception, my ideas, what I'll tolerate, what I won't tolerate,...people 'train' you to be a certain way if you hang around them enough, but if you're on your own you get to decide who you are.

@LC-ur8gv

4 ай бұрын

@@ebbyc1817 Exactly. There's a fine balance to keep between being with people and being alone, to maintain your integrity and personality. Still, I believe that learning to be enough for yourself is a really key aspect people often overlook.

@nimbuscloud2385

4 ай бұрын

It's a way to cope. You never really know what someone's true intentions are. Finding healthy people to be around is exhausting and definitely comes with risks of its own. Plus people change. The dilemma....

@phantasma8401

3 ай бұрын

Being isolated is being trapped in an environment that ceases to change. People who like to be alone are capable of that change. If you're isolated you're trapped with NO ONE at all. No connections whatsoever.

Social anxiety guy here, like many people in this comment section I assume. When it hit, when I was around 17, I did the first thing I suspect anyone does when confronted with this: I isolated myself. Of course it was a downward spiral from there, I dropped out of college, lost all my friends, went through constant anxiety all day long and frequent panic attacks. The fact I was a fairly popular kid constantly surrounded by other kids only served to pull me lower, the comparison with the "old days" (which felt like they were from another life entirely) was killing me, I kept chasing that image of my former self, while I was... just not at all able to be the same person anymore. My self esteem was annihilated, I ended up not even being able to follow a conversation, feeling like I was crazy, I'd let myself starve for days because I couldn't muster the courage to get some groceries. This total isolation lasted for 5 years, which I would consider totally lost if I didn't learn english during that time, at least there is that. One day, I went to see a psychiatric nurse, she offered to take me in a psychiatric clinic for a month, in which I was forced to interact with others. Just that, proved I was still able to interact, to get others to like me, and this was the begining of my journey to healing. This was in 2017, and the healing is still an ongoing process. Over two years ago, I accepted a job at the frontline in a post office, directly welcoming and orienting customers. I saw it as a big challenge that could allow me to move forward, didn't allow myself to overthink it, just said yes. And so I started working, completely untrained, thrown right away into the lion's den. The first months were terrible, I didn't know what to do, what to say to customers, I'd go back home oftentimes feeling humiliated, out-of-place and exhausted. Since then, at the begining of this year, I got promoted. Turns out people think I'm very outgoing and chill. Don't know where the hell they get that impression from, but I'll take it. Still working with the public, and I wouldn't trade that for anything. It allows me to keep going forward. I ditched my very toxic two friends that I had, I started working out, recently took a big interest in hiking too and had the chance to meet a group of very chill people a few months back who turned out to share this interest too, and we regularly go on hikes together when our schedules allow it. Planning on going to a mountain hike together that'll last a few days soon. I'm doing better. Still struggling with anxiety and unhealthy amounts of stress on a daily basis, still have highs and lows, but I'm okay, overall. Today is a low, as was yesterday. Feeling anxious and stressed out, which might be a good time for me to take a step back and reflect on how far I've come over the past years, which would explain the damn wall of text I just wrote. Watching this video reminded me of these times where I was constantly fumbling on my words, couldn't even finish a single sentence. I was so miserable, alone and sad. Godness that was tough. Had to build myself back up essentially from the ground up, and I might as well try to become a better person than I was, that too is an ongoing process. To everyone who suffers from social anxiety, I want to say it gets better. Hang in there. That's what I clung onto when I felt at the lowest of lows: it will get better, eventually. Oh, and when you feel something's getting out of control, remember to breath, as calmly as can be.

@animepussy8356

8 ай бұрын

Hey man, this helped me, thanks :)

@oblivion3331

8 ай бұрын

Hey bro. Your story resonates with me. I was having depression and panic attacks at age 15. My parents do not how to handle it. I always got the blamed. Like you, I chased and prayed for my former self, former life to comeback. I cry so hard everytime I see myself at the mirror. I was a popular kid, top of the class, Mr. President chuchu. A lot of people expected I would achieved greag things in life. Yet, here I am now. My body wakes up in a tired mood. Idk why. The back of my neck just feels so painful. It has been at least a year since I went to self isolation. I gave up. I just celebrated my bday last sept. 10. I wanna die. Truthfully. I wanna undo all the memories the world have about me. I wanna slap and punch my irresponsible parents, for abandoning their duties or at least coaching me on little things about life. I always wonder what went wrong. I did everything to make my parents proud, but they did not even bother to ask me why I am crying. They only talked to me when I am already throwing things out, and causing them embarrassment to the neighbors. I hated my family. I wanna flip my life or just die. I always dreamed about the life I had. How happy I was. Perhaps this is the signal for me to stop? All I want was someone to talk to. Someone to hug. I begged for it to my parents. None happened. Kept explaining things to them. None happened. I hated them to the bottom of my soul. If there is a deathnote in my hand, I would write all their names. Life was so hard for me since little. I worked hard everytime just to put myself to school, and in college. Yet pandemic happened and my depression came back. None helped so I gave up. I am so angry and infuriated over the fact that I did the duties of my parents while they are lazying their life away. My rage, perhaps, is the only thing that keeps me adhere to this funereal flesh. I lost my touch. Idk how you are right now nor would I know you'll be reading this, but just know I appreciate your story.

@theyhatedenzel5163

8 ай бұрын

im not reading allat

@Janevelyn

8 ай бұрын

@@theyhatedenzel5163you missed out- was a great read!

@Iuffycs

8 ай бұрын

​@@theyhatedenzel5163lol

I used to be very sociable when younger, not i cant stand people that bring nothing but drama. I rather b alone and am extremely comfortable with that. Its been a long time like this and i find myself at peace.

@dennismclaurin1487

3 ай бұрын

Noone brings greater drama than corrupt, treacherous Authorities

The quality of your mental health education Dr. Marks is unsurpassed. I learn so much that helps me in my personal life and in my work with other people as a coach. ❤

thing is, making friends as an adult is impossible. especially if you’re not part of a couple or have kids and the friends you did have are all too busy with that and you need to find people you can actually relate to and spend time with which makes things even more complicated. makes me wish humans still lived in like small little groups like they did long long ago

@absue

6 ай бұрын

Yes. In a small group, everyone is aware of all the others, and any gain or loss for one is a gain or loss for all making everyone important.

@thekarret2066

6 ай бұрын

I recommend starting with finding people who have similar interests to you! C:

@dankline9162

6 ай бұрын

You can start by being the change. At least when you go out, like shopping, be more slow, relaxed, and aware of the people around you, instead of hyperfocused on the errand. Then you can better interact with others by being that way to joke or chat. Also, we used to have that small group feel more in small towns and the events theyd have, and extended families used to stick together more. Try to start reunions or potluck events!

I’m going to say this. If you’re not already socializing then there has to be a powerful reason why you’re not already doing it. It doesn’t help to be told that we need to stop isolating ourselves. What we need help with is how to go past this isolation mindset.

@rachelgraham7810

7 ай бұрын

Ty well put

@nassiac.300

6 ай бұрын

THANK YOU! 👏👏👏

@Beautifultome1221

6 ай бұрын

💯 yes

@Jdksneo

6 ай бұрын

Literally. These videos always make me feel bad but I isolate myself becasue my past relationships (friendships, family, whatever) have all been super toxic to me. During the time I’ve been isolated I have stayed sober and made positive changes for my diet and there is no way I could have done that with my family or old friends in my life. I think people isolate themselves to grow and maybe when the right time presents itself we will find healthier and better relationships than ever before.

@braytonnewell6807

6 ай бұрын

I think the answer is find like-interests. Play flag football or join a plant collectors club.

I am going to recommend this video to all my colleagues at work. It is brilliant. Dr Marks you are a breath of fresh air. Thank you❤

GREAT DOCTOR , she explains everything in a simple clear way

As someone who can never fit in anywhere, I kind of have no choice, but to chill at home and do my own thing I kind of have no choice and I love it. I’ve been like this, my whole life.

Im 22 and im very introverted because of my past trauma. I've been isolating myself for years. I tried to be social and go out with people everyday after 1 week I gott mentally exhausted. I'll feel so bad afterwards that it affects my sleep and eating routine. I've notice that I don't pick up things as fast when I was younger. My brain has become very slow even when it comes to problem solving. I'm bad with words, having difficulty to explain certain things. It feels like I'm aging faster and it terrifies me.

@GoogleAccount00

Жыл бұрын

I feel exactly the same

@TheMrVogue

Жыл бұрын

Go therapy, please please please. You're young enough that this problem is much easier to fix. Also, the stress you're giving yourself is making things far worse than they actually are. You're still super young, everything will work out. Trust me.

@Maelu-op9gf

Жыл бұрын

Pls check out crappy childhood fairy’s channel on healing trauma. She will tell you how to do daily practice that she recommends for free. You can heal

@Bantamawuah

Жыл бұрын

First start to exercise.. Go out or take a walk If ur a guy don't watch porn or masturbate. Get engaged in activities and avoid being home.. Try go to club one day not to chill but just be exposed to the loud music and euphoria of people there.. Trust me u will be normal within one month..

@Testicule

Жыл бұрын

Survey for autism, in my case it has explained my wellbeing with alone time.

Love that phrase, "Stay curious". Depression had me lose interest in a lot of things and people. Always sad even in the brightest of days. It felt like drowning in an ocean of negative thoughts and I can't seem to resurface for air. I'm scared of what it's doing to my brain. Thank you for this short yet informative video.

Wish I could find a Dr. or Psychologist like this woman!! Amazing!! First time watching her content!!

I love being alone. I’m an introvert and I feel nervous around people, I’m shy. I had to many bad experiences with people. Being isolated is beautiful to me.

@jimskeuh

6 ай бұрын

you might also check if you're on the spectrum

@palistrofruly

5 ай бұрын

I do get anxious and shy but depends on the environments,

@dennismclaurin1487

3 ай бұрын

Can relate to your comment

It was truly heartbreaking working in a nursing home to see how the elderly folks were barely encouraged or accommodated to receive mental stimulation. Of course they don't want to attend activities - they are in pain, they are exhausted, and their generation certainly never learned about neuroplasticity. And by far, most places do not do enough to reach out and teach other humans because they are 'already' in 'a state of decline.' As if people don't deserve mental healthcare through the end of their days. I felt like a crazy person for being scolded for trying to take a resident on a walk outside; this type of care seemed so intuitively obvious to me. Dealing with depression myself, it quickly became too much, and I had to quit from empathetic burnout in less than 2 years.

@Cathy-xi8cb

Жыл бұрын

You were unaware of how NHs work. No place for people who want to do a good and humane task. You are fighting a frightening business model.

@mudswallow5074

Жыл бұрын

God bless you for trying to help people who have the misfortune to end up in a skilled nursing facility. Their lives could be so much better if the businesses would increase their staffing ratios a little so staff would have time to perform these deeply meaningful acts for their patients.

@FreeSpirit47

Жыл бұрын

The theory of neuroplasticity was formed in 1948. By the 1960s it was mostly common knowledge. Even before the aspect was discovered then given a name, it was known by many. Just as people have known for a very long time that tobacco, when used as anything other than a poultice, can cause disease, many would start or continue to smoke it or chew it. My gr grandmother was staunchly against tobacco usage for anything, she knew. She also lived in goods health past the age of 100, was very sharp minded until the day she died.

@labrat7999

Жыл бұрын

Funny how if you dont post a comment with an idea or puffing smoke up her arse it gets ignored... I totally agree, nursing homes are a place to die and that's wrong on so many levels, we need more community engagement, school and college input and better government input with pay. In the UK theres a Tiny bit of social care funding and then its sell their house to fund the rest... careers are on minimum pay so get minimum care (especially when they dont get fuel allowance and UK fuel is ridiculously shit and no Grant's for hybrids or electric because we left Europe and are shit anyway) not saying that's the right attitude but below national average low pay attracts alot of people with no skills who csnt give a shit because they're not paid to. Polar opposite to Japan and their elders

@jameshadfield5624

Жыл бұрын

thank you for trying, it's a Lot more than Most people do. those Old-age Warehouse's are Holocaustic and a Disgrace to "Humanity" as we use to know it. Would never call them a Home

Thank you. I needed to run in to this. Love your work.

I don't want to be with people.

@lammy9733

7 күн бұрын

Same here, but structured meetings are a way to be around people, shooting class, grappling class instrument lessons.. any meeting that has a structure where you have certain functions to carry out that dont rely on small talk or random social connections where the focus is on the subject and not you.

When I left college and lost most of my social support and quickly became depressed, I found it much more difficult to do mentally challenging work due to how sad I was. Pretty sure I'm still not at my full mental capacity potential because of the continuing isolation and depression. We need to do better as a society and have more IRL social outlets for adults out of college.

@g.i.4144

Жыл бұрын

Exact same experience for me 😩

@bobbyallen4555

Жыл бұрын

I understand.

@vogonp4287

Жыл бұрын

I definitely agree. Mental health is just as important as physical health. It is sad that it is so taboo to talk about it.

@CoCo-yv3hl

Жыл бұрын

So true

@rohitvishwakarma7700

Жыл бұрын

Same happened with me.

I love that you didn’t necessarily suggest interacting with people, but suggested learning new things. Presenting the mind with new data for new stimulation. I have ADD and I suspect autism as well, and so I am a social disaster, so learning new things or doing puzzles or whatever is right up my alley

@devilsadvocacy

6 ай бұрын

I’m on the autism spectrum, and one of the things that helped me a lot was learning another language. After gaining competency at the conversational level (as of now I’m near-fluent) I rewarded myself with a trip to a country where that language is spoken, and found the people to be warm, friendly and happy that I went to the trouble of learning their language and a few things about their culture. They knew right away that I was a foreigner, and I felt really awkward at times, but I think they figured it was due to cultural differences and they didn’t judge me negatively for it. Just a thought as to some things you might consider, eg breaking out of your bubble/comfort zone a little at a time

@iiCounted-op5jx

6 ай бұрын

I wouldn't survive without youtube and discord

@alohaXamanda

5 ай бұрын

So much the same. I have craved isolation my entire life but love reading and learning new things.

@HouseofWeh

5 ай бұрын

❤

@tnt01

4 ай бұрын

​@@devilsadvocacycool.

I'm french and I listen your video to improve my oral comprehension, it's good 'cause you speak slowly and you articulate

After hard work and decades of social contact and a form of decay, silence is everything. Solitude and individual choises are bliss!!

Soooo.... I'm in danger of getting Alzheimer's because I'm very very introverted and a little bit of a misanthrope and I self-isolate all the time and still want more isolation! I don't believe it! My brain hurts when I have to deal with people too much.

I socialized way too much in my life and realized I was super unhappy. Just in the pandemic I realized that life could be incredible, because I could actually isolate myself 😂. I’m so happy now, knowing that I’m the exception to that rule.

@xEcuador1

7 ай бұрын

How sad

@Laurayt89

7 ай бұрын

@@xEcuador1 that’s actually not sad at all, I’m super happy now

@user-pj8ed8il9s

6 ай бұрын

NOT SAD AT ALL. SALVATION!!@@xEcuador1

I hate being alone. I’ve been living alone in Cincinnati since august 2021. As a black male analyst in corporate, I feel like I have no community that embraces me. I miss my bros from HBCU life and I’m pleading to God to elevate my life.

Excellent video, I feel the isolation since the pandemic, and working from home now means that you never see your colleagues. You never see people or have a conversation because you are alone all day working at home. It feels so isolating, boring, lacks purpose. Having alone time is great but when it's all the time you need a break from it. You need social interaction, you do literally forget how to socialise. It's a different world now and because companies have stuck to home working, not because of COVID now, just because it saves them office space to rent.

I was totally socially isolated from the age of 9-15. I’ve spent the years since trying to recover but it’s not easy.

@danielwells774

Жыл бұрын

Didn't you go to school?

@melialife05

Жыл бұрын

@@danielwells774 homeschooled probably

@Noahdaz

Жыл бұрын

@@danielwells774 Some people didn't have the structures in their lives growing up that many take for granted. Not everyone has access to a school environment, whether this is because of forced isolation caused by controlling family/guardians or for less malicious reasons like living somewhere so remote there simply are no schools. Some kids grow up isolated because their peers want nothing to do with them (kids can be cruel), others have such severe anxiety they cannot handle levels of interaction most people consider the norm. Lotta ways people fall through the cracks both today and throughout the ages. My family was basically a cult of doomsday preppers, so I grew up in an extremely closed social environment. No friends, no peers, no school, limited contact with extended family. No internet access and rarely left the house. Books were the only real way I gained access to different narratives and ideas about the world, and those were in most cases extremely restricted. I barely made it out of there and to this day I struggle a lot to adapt to a world that doesn't match up with my formative experiences. It's extremely hard to interact with others when you've gotten accustomed to being alone, harder still if you were ingrained with the beliefs that others want nothing more than to hurt you or that you aren't worthy of anyone's time. To any others entangled in situations like the one in which I grew up, I'm so sorry. Know that there are people on the outside who care and there is hope for a good life outside those walls. Your future is not defined by these circumstances and there are so many wonderful things to see and experience that are well worth surviving for. You may not yet be able to imagine finding meaning or happiness for yourself, but those will come in time. Don't give up, you have a lot of good discoveries and healing ahead!

@Xturnia

Жыл бұрын

@@Noahdaz I was raised in a cult/religion known as the two by twos. I broke away about 3 years and now consider myself agnostic. We were "lightly" homeschooled and didn't have nuch formal education. When I was 9 we moved from where I was born and raised (I loved it there and was happy) and basically had no social interaction or internet access for 4 years. It. Was. Awful. It still is pretty bad as we live rural. The internet (another huge source of frustration because rural internet so slow) is where I found differing ideas. It's my information source and where I basically have 90% of social interaction outside of my immediate family. It isn't the best but it sure is better than nothing. I was suicidal at one point. I am scared for the future as I am not in a position to move out but definitely don't want to stay as it feels like it is killing me and my spirit.

@firstnamelastname7411

Жыл бұрын

@@danielwells774 Ostracization frequently happens in schools, you're lucky you weren't a target of it

I am a high school student who has been completely socially isolated for the past 2½ years since the beginning of the pandemic. I have had brain fog, depression, anxiety & a lot, lot more. This is just what I needed. Thank You So So Much!❤️

@bmondal827

Жыл бұрын

How are you NOw?

@loysaaa2185

Жыл бұрын

Same.

@guitarszen

Жыл бұрын

This is normal for a person your age where you are supposed to interact. Overall in life, social interaction is less important and does not have the effects she claims.

@bobgreen2570

Жыл бұрын

If you socially interact with toxic and dysfunctional people, the negative effects could be even worse for you.

@fruitsarelife7073

Жыл бұрын

It’s really unhealthy, especially for young people who are still developing.

Rock solid info, im new to the channel but i live now you've presented this info in as informative but simple format as possible❤

I love how you got straight to the point Thank you

This explains so much. When I went back to school after the pandemic, I thought I was slower in everything, as if I was getting dumber each day regardless of how much I studied. And socializing? It was almost impossible. Even though I felt (and still feel) profoundly lonely, I didn't know how to make new friends. It has improved recently, I've gotten into clubs and participated in activities, which I think has helped my mental clarity, but talking to people doesn't feel natural anymore. All interactions are superficial and feel fake :[

@Shaolin91z

8 ай бұрын

Thanks Lord for your peace Thanks Lord for the lockdown 😛

@TheUntitledSimmer

8 ай бұрын

I completely relate to what you’re saying- and now that I’ve graduated college it seems even more challenging to form genuine connections with others

@nunes_6

8 ай бұрын

Your last paragraph hit me hard. I'm Brazilian and I feel absolutely the same, it's like I lost the faith in me, or have lost, but only now I'm aware of it, so I keep on thinking all the time if the other people are also aware of the efforts they're doing to socialize or if it's coming about really naturally, and meanwhile, time is passing by and I'm not answering the person properly bc of all this thinking, then later I regret everything I said, which makes me want to less and less try to socialize again 😓 it's a looping

@BethanyGuajardo

8 ай бұрын

@@nunes_6maybe practice your social skills on those video chat apps with people all around the world? It could help you exercise those social skills. It’s like a muscle. The more you do it, the stronger the bonds and relationships you form.

@BruceLee-xn3nn

7 ай бұрын

You're missing out on a whole life of social drama.

As an introvert, I absolutely LOVED the isolation. Not sure if I could do it for more than a few years, but a solid year without socializing did wonders for my mental health!

@vt-yp7yq

Жыл бұрын

Ditto. But I believe now the party may be over with this information the Dr. Is giving us. 🤔

@tajmahill4164

Жыл бұрын

Agreed! It was like heaven on earth for me too! 🙌 Don't really want to get fully integrated back into the pre-isolation phase of life either. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@kaglet4963

Жыл бұрын

No more going out, pretending and masking in front of people. That in itself was a stressful experience. It really is about finding the balance you need as an individual imho.

@Poirecorp

Жыл бұрын

I don't know man, at first I thought I had been "training" my whole life for that time, and then I started talking to myself and losing track of time. Even introverts need _some_ interaction.

@TheEnergyv

Жыл бұрын

Yes this is true. We are all different and this video is brainwashing people to be in fear of being with self.

I actually enjoy being alone. I have been alone for 9 years and counting and I absolutely love the feeling, the freedom, and the stress-free life. I do interact with people at work just fine but outside of work I always do things alone, travel alone, and enjoy life by myself, and I absolutely feel happy about it.

@s.a.6082

4 ай бұрын

Well then you’re not completely isolated. You’re still getting social interaction at work, and that’s the important thing. Not everyone needs a lot of social interaction, but everyone needs some.

With one video, you might have saved my life. Reminding of the principles for my mental health and focus.

I have forced myself to live in SOLITUDE. Being “socially isolated” has given me PEACE! No more drama! I want nothing to do with society! I love the SERENITY that I have created. No stress, no false expectations or hypocrisy’s. Living SOLO, avoiding fake people is better than absorbing the BS that you are exposed to! KEEP YOUR EDUCATED ADVICE! Words matter. The word ALONE, is a word that feeds and justifies a void, a sadness, no purpose. The word SOLO.. is a choice, a person who is not co-dependent, a person who is in control, a person who is an observer, a person that knows that their Greater Power is always with them!

@emobloom

8 ай бұрын

Correct

@danko5866

8 ай бұрын

True words right there

@Afroninjaa1458

8 ай бұрын

Yeah whenever people come into my life they don’t reciprocate energy thus ultimately dragging me down, I’m open to having people around but I’m not forcing it that doesn’t make things better it makes it worse!

@sandrashane677

8 ай бұрын

Wouldnt it be a good idea to find good people instead of making yourself sick with isolation? Ive met some great people the last three years who are wide awake to all the bullshit.

@emobloom

7 ай бұрын

No! If you get sick from isolation, it's because you don't like yourself very much. You'll never sort out a problem like that when you're surrounded by people, you're just hiding from yourself. @@sandrashane677

I am a 68 year old man diagnosed with autism at 60. I recognize that I am also an introvert and in many ways, I enjoy selective isolation and do not want deeper friendships.

@gregh4284

2 ай бұрын

And I don't even believe I can have much of a deep connection to persons who are uninterested in bettering their mind and body.

Short, simple, to the point. I love this content

Always wanted to build a relationship with the local elderly and others who lack social support, but it's hard to do a good job helping others when you are struggling yourself. Hope I can progress further in healing and training my own social anxiety.

As a person who went through neglect from a narcissist family structure i can concur that these happen and that the way to protect yourself is exercising, learning, socializing with others, puzzles, and mentally challenging work. I feel myself decline when I can't do those things so bless you for validating me

@realAfrican

Жыл бұрын

People will say all this then still vote for politicians who are pushing for more lockdowns and masks

@HUYI1

Жыл бұрын

when a narc takes over your life, believe me, you will be too distressed by the abuse to do any of these things, living on edge and fear does that to you unfortunately

@sethjoseph8152

Жыл бұрын

@@realAfrican facts

I loved the isolation from the pandemic. No traffic , empty stores. Didn’t have to see people. Loved it

@welshlady212000

Жыл бұрын

It felt like heaven shopping in empty stores, driving on empty roads and having excuses to avoid answering the door.

@Ashley-og9ti

Жыл бұрын

Yes! Also wearing masks everyone complained but I loved it lol, was my excuse to hide/cover up

@I1K5

Жыл бұрын

It was taken for granted low key

@Ashley-og9ti

Жыл бұрын

@@I1K5 right, I honestly feel bad admitting I was grateful for those times. I wouldn't tell anyone.. Ik people died and I would never want to be insensitive and disregard the pain caused; but what those times did for my introverted/isolated/insecure self. Oh man only a select few can understand 😭 truly the definition of bittersweet.

@lookaroundyou8108

Жыл бұрын

Sure but if you have this kind of life for the next 10 years you'll suffer immensely.. anything extreme has its consequences

Tracey, great that you focused on the solutions. If we build a growth mindset, we can tackle any challenges that arise. 💯

You had me at Mind Wondering, and confirmed my subscription at Social isolation. I'm listening.

I’m happier on my own tbh don’t have to deal with peoples’ constant drama, it’s much more peaceful. Isolating myself from society has been an absolute blessing 😌

@speedoflight3395

Жыл бұрын

I get your point but when you will need to start interacting with people then you’ll realise you’ve lost a lot of social skills and this will start troubling you.

@wonkygustav4457

Жыл бұрын

@@speedoflight3395 you are right but I worked on my social skills and associate with others as much as I need to which is not a lot and now I’m not caught up in other peoples’ negativity now. I keep people at arms length and it brings me peace.

@EB-gt1pq

8 ай бұрын

@@wonkygustav4457 I know what you mean exactly. Although I would love to be able to socialize and have a small group of friends… There’s so much drama that goes along with everyone. Stupidly I haven’t given up Hope on people…all I want is a friend. 😢

@cockoffgewgle4993

8 ай бұрын

I like being on my own most of the time but I've been basically solitary for a couple of decades and I've experienced everything mentioned in this video in a big way the last ~5 years. I need SOME social interaction, maybe an hour per day or something but I can't really acquire it.

@wonkygustav4457

8 ай бұрын

@@cockoffgewgle4993 why can’t you acquire it?

I noticed you didn't mention pets and nature. I got stuck living alone in the woods after husband left. I do not have anyone I see regularly. I can go for weeks. I make long trek to town once a month. Been here for years. I do most of the good things you mentioned like vigorous excersise, piano, educating myself but also find the company of pets, trees, other animals, plants to be very comforting. I do have to disagree with one point that was made. Isolation has made me a more compassionate person. I meditate and have had more time to read about human psychology so have come to understand that everyone is fighting some kind of battle. Use to think many people were just jerks. Thanks for your videos!

@wetter4293

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, this video doesn't seem to apply to introverts, LOL

@shripadgoenka8066

Жыл бұрын

That is such an awesome life, and yeah i totally agree, isolation can be a real gift if you do it the right way. It's pretty obvious that sitting in a room all day everyday DOING NOTHING is gonna damage our brains.

@TheSapphireLeo

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, it may need to be a bit of everything? Cities are also insufferable and deliberatly crammed to feed the colonial capitalist, marketed consummerist agendas and with noise, let alone when at home and you get spontaneous noise from neighbours, like doors slamming and also from cars?

@wetter4293

Жыл бұрын

@@shripadgoenka8066 Yeah - Solitary will absolutely induce insanity, HOWEVER, isolation is healthy. Learning to be alone is healthy...

@shripadgoenka8066

Жыл бұрын

@@wetter4293 I think it's about getting the balance right; As a human, we need social interaction as much as we need solitude. We need to be connected to other humans just as much as we should be connected to the world around us. Being in peace with both these aspects of our life and being happy with them, in my opinion, is the ideal perspective. :)

I social isolated after my psychopath mother pulled her last evil act... I broke down..for a very long time...I was a waitress , got my social interaction...but not person.. I am getting out of trauma...thank you for this helpful video

I'm an old man who enjoys talking with strangers. Sometimes, a friendly smile or remark will boost a stranger's mood.

I once joked that the pandemic actually led to me having a better social life because I spent a lot of time attending online lectures, theatrical performances where the cast would perform from home, movie hangouts, concerts, art lessons, and other events where I could learn something new or enjoy being entertained while chatting with others in the audience. All of which would have been more difficult in real life because of a limited budget and no driver's license. There was also a lot of reading, writing, and learning on Duolingo. And it turns out doing all that was a great way to shore up my cognitive reserves? Huh. Maybe that's why it ended up not being so bad when it came time to re-enter the workforce in person.

@just1desi

Жыл бұрын

Oh lovely. Do you have any suggestions for stuff still happening regularly online

I absolutely love social isolation. I’ve built my life around it. True it can be challenging at times and I do find myself seeking a change of environment. But that’s ok. I don’t think it’s possible or practical to be in complete social isolation 100% of the time. But I do feel it is healthy to practice it just enough to rest and recharge. Modern society is psychologically taxing.

@JonIcenhour-dn2tv

8 ай бұрын

Id rather be lonely then fake anyday

@stefonvarnedoe4375

8 ай бұрын

Don't forget god loves you. If you truly try to reach him and just trying your best to Abstain From the world and get closer to him he'll work in your life more. Also never forgot the holy spirit is always by you side and your angels are around you fighting to protect you. Don't stay asleep and confined to the world but wake up and truly live in the spirit fo the Most High. May you be blessed in all endeavours you partake in. Stay prayed up.

@BlackTourmaline25

8 ай бұрын

​@@stefonvarnedoe4375stop it please

@automnejoy5308

7 ай бұрын

If you have enough negative experiences with "friends" and "family" then being alone feels pretty good.

@PaisleyMarie80

6 ай бұрын

Relatable

This psychiatrist lady is helpful and appealing in a multitude of ways

In the immortal words of Greta Garbo..." I vant to be alone" Very very difficult to find 1 REAL friend. I'm alone most of the time and I prefer it to drama of faux friendships or shallow social interaction. Read study garden etc...keeps me sharp. My memory is better than most people 30 years younger. What a gift. Thanks for your concern. :)

@SuperBozz

17 күн бұрын

What's this garbage lady got to do with advicr

I used to have a social battery that was basically endless but after years of mistrust, bullying, and being made an outcast throughout highschool I started to isolate myself more and more. Apparently most of this came from my "strange behavior" (which turned out to be early signs of depression) I was ignored and treated like ass simply because I was depressed which... you guessed it... made me more depressed. I'd love to get myself out there and build social connections again, but even now I'm having trust issues for personal reasons I'm not willing to divulge. Hopefully things will get better for me, and for others who're possibly experiencing the same or similar things like me sooner than later. It's very hard to hold onto hope and keep on going.

@cameroonbreezygoat903

4 ай бұрын

I’ll give you an advice I wish someone told me sooner. 1. Find something you’re passionate about and go for it at full speed whether it’s through College or entrepreneurship or even starting a family. Friendships are overrated and 9/10 if you’re not on your purpose people will take advantage of you and bully you

@dennismclaurin1487

3 ай бұрын

I find it unlikely for me to trust anyone, when the false ( treacherous; deceitful) Christs and false prophets are spreading their gospel Mat.24:-5,11,24 is happening now!!! (+ 1TIM.4:1,2: 2 Tim.4:3,4; 2Pet.2:1-3; Acts 20:29,30)

Been by myself for 7 years no friends no family no significant other. I like being by myself and I feel like you don’t waste energy on short term people it takes a lot for someone to be in my life because I like my solitary . A lot of people are fake.

@B-Phantom.

4 ай бұрын

As long as u balanced it’s all good

@kamikeserpentail3778

4 ай бұрын

A lot of people definitely feel fake.

@AshaSelfsDemoFilms

4 ай бұрын

A person is the most dangerous thing on the planet. I don't understand being so nonchalant about having whoever around.

@Cosmic-Cat.

3 ай бұрын

Same. Very few people are worth knowing - and those only for short periods at a time!

Thank you for this clear, concise, and well-presented video!

WOW. You packed in a lot of ideas in 6 minutes. Well done.