Met and married my amazing hubby before either of us were saved. I came to Jesus first and, thank God because all glory goes to Him, but he came to Jesus about a year later. I pursued him. I’m the lucky one for sure.

Love how you break it down.. God bless..

I hope my 9 grandchildren (ages 8 to 21) find this advice. I will recommend it if given the chance. Blessings from New Zealand 🇳🇿.

Great answers Thanks for sharing

I’m a little old fashioned I’d rather him pursue me and not be nervous about it.

@Lemons19902010

4 жыл бұрын

Same here

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

4 жыл бұрын

As long as you do not obnoxiously play 'Hard to Get.'

@lovelylady715

4 жыл бұрын

Marlon Moncrieffe Never would I do that Marlon, I don’t have time for those type of games...If I’m playing hard to get that means I’m seriously not interested and I’d let that person know that I’m not interested before I’d play those hard to get games. If I want to be you I want to be with you if I don’t I don’t. I like it keep it simple.👊🏾😊

@marlonmoncrieffe0728

4 жыл бұрын

@@lovelylady715 Members of my gender and I thank you. Courtship is hard enough with silly and unfair games.

@sam_the_davidson

3 жыл бұрын

God bless you, sister.

In the Boaz & Ruth story, the Naomi and Ruth took the initiative and boldly pursued Boaz bordering of breaking cultural norms of their time, but today's culture, especially in the church, tends to tell woman the respectable thing to do is to wait for the man to come to you.

@viniciusalbuquerque8030

6 жыл бұрын

It must be said that Ruth's attitude was bold, but she did it in a feminine way. Basically, her strategy was to be around Boaz until he noticed her and asked what she wanted. So, there is a balance that must be respected, I think.

@inukordra

6 жыл бұрын

I was thinking about Ruth when he mentioned women taking the lead. What she did was considered very bold at that time and Boaz told her to make sure no one saw her when she left from the threshingfloor.

@inukordra

6 жыл бұрын

Vinicius Albuquerque good point. She was very bold yet not overly, like someone who's domineering.

@Vic82toire

4 жыл бұрын

It's also good to think about context. Ruth and Boaz were living in the very different times. It's hard to just carry that over into the modern dating scene. Ruth was basically following everything that Naomi was telling her. She wasn't really taking the initiative. She was being obedient to her mother-in-law.

I saw a 'secular video' on KZread of a guy who wanted to ask a girl out. He started chatting with her, then asked if he could borrow her phone to make a call. He got 'dad' out of contacts, called her father and asked if it was okay if he took her daughter out for something (coffee or whatever) in front of her as an indirect way of asking her out. That was 'alpha', clever, edgy, but also conservative and patriarchal all at the same time.

Hey, zero dislikes. How crazy is that?

What about 'God told me so', I have been said no to because God didn't tell the other person I was 'the one' :(

@viniciusalbuquerque8030

6 жыл бұрын

I think you should keep watching Tim's videos, but reformed preachers generally believe that there is not such thing anymore. Everything God wanted us to know, he said in the Scriptures. So, if I were guessing, I would say that the other person just didn't wanted to begin a relationship with you, and said it as an excuse. If that person showed you biblical reasons for not doing so, then I would say God really told the other person you were not "the one". Just an advice: If you haven't already, study the Westminster Standards. They give us a very broad overview of the Scripture's teaching, what will give you knowledge and wisdom to chose better a partner for you.

@majesticmelvin

6 жыл бұрын

If someone ever told you “God told me [...]” you should ask them: “which scripture and verse?”

@rachelcarpenter3965

6 жыл бұрын

That person didn't deserve you, and I don't believe God "tells" someone from the beginning that the other person is "the one". I don't even think the concept of the "one" is correct. See the other replies...they did a good job. Just know that you deserve better that that person.

@jacobgarcia4826

4 жыл бұрын

I had a similar experience as well, when I was in high school. So you're not alone in that; I know how you feel. My experience was five years ago, and I've grown a lot in the faith since then. I'm now engaged to a wonderful woman, and it wouldn't have happened if I listened to the voices in my head saying, "Don't date this girl" or "Stop talking to her". Rather, I went and stuck with what God's Word says and it's brought so much peace and comfort. I don't know where you're at now being that your comment is from two years ago, but I highly recommend that you listen to Biblically Preparing For Marriage by Voddie Baucham. He gives Scripture's view of marriage and he exposes the false ideology that Christians have of marriage and "the one". Also, if someone ever says "God told me...", you should stop them and say, "I hope you're aware of who you're claiming to speak for".

@sven179

4 жыл бұрын

@@jacobgarcia4826 As a small addendum, Voddie's book "What he must be if he wants to marry my daughter" is an ok book-version of his sermons on the subject (even though it's not directed at men wanting to get married, it's still a good read).

Be nor equally yoked with long winded speakers that look & speak like geeks & believe in Calvinism .

@bilbobaggins5815

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed! This guys sphincter is so tight....lol.

@TheJpep2424

4 жыл бұрын

He's saved and you're clueless

@TheJpep2424

4 жыл бұрын

God chooses man, man doesn't choose God.

@liamhoogendoorn1652

4 жыл бұрын

That's rather hateful towards reformed brethren. I encourage you to repent.