Not only telling the truth, I always go out of my way to be extremely cordial and gentle and accommodating and respecting and tolerating and sensible, watching the tone, choosing words carefully, keeping the argument rational and never personal, and still I get the feedback that I'm aggressive and offensive - while others around the table become emotional, raise their voices, use personal attacks, and they get sympathy. It's frustrating and heartbreaking.

@NicoleForbis

Жыл бұрын

I so identify with that scenario... it happens to me all the time. Ugh..

@lindasapiecha2515

Жыл бұрын

😓❤️❤️

@MesoCarib

Жыл бұрын

Preach Supreme Lord! 🙌That's my daily work life. It's infuriating since showing justified anger just makes the situation worst. People often ignore your good acts and helpful efforts, and instead solely focus their grievance on a *word* they do not like-often a word that you never said! Even when choosing your words carefully, people often do not carefully listen and think before reacting. Constantly defending oneself is exhausting.😥

@michellewatts4613

Жыл бұрын

I experience this as well. I think it is because I am not liked, so my mistakes are not forgiven so easily, whereas others are liked, so their potentially irritating comments are just dismissed as “Well, they didn’t really mean that” or “They must be having a bad day.” I don’t seem to be given such leeway.

@gzoechi

Жыл бұрын

Me as well, but this only seems to be a strong signal to be the ideal victim for bullying and/or exploitation

I keep conversations short because I don’t want people to notice that I’m different and start to feel uncomfortable around me. To be honest, I’m uncomfortable around them as I feel that I cannot be myself. It is exhausting.

@leilatimeful

Жыл бұрын

I keep relationships short for the same reason. 😅

@tbu_drachenkater5397

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, same. I only can talk to my friends, because i know them so well

@tiarrasmusic

Жыл бұрын

I feel this way and I am NOT autistic. I have ADD/ADHD. This is sad but true.

@terrimeakin-rosario9189

Жыл бұрын

@@tbu_drachenkater5397 its good to have friends...they are the boundary between the real world and the comfortable world.

@BenjaminKtotheE

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I’m always afraid I’m going to say too much and go off on some topic or tangent that no one cares about. It’s amazing how I can watch in real time how people get uncomfortable around me the longer they’re around me; at least I actually notice it now, it took many years of practice.

5:04 “It really hurts. Nothing is more disheartening than someone who does not accept you for you.” That line says EVERYTHING 😭

ITS THE LONELIEST FEELING IN THE WORLD

@joycebrewer4150

Жыл бұрын

I doubt that. Lonely was just part of it for me. Unwanted, unloved, unworthy, impaired, hopeless, not understood, not believed, angry, bombarded, frustrated, all of that, and more I could never articulate even to myself. Utterly without ally. It took me a very long time, and some outside help to notice the few allies I had. And forgive them for not understanding enough to do more. They had their own struggles.😢😢😢

It feels like the world around you is louder and overwhelming and no normal person will ever understand it

The most hurtful thing, I agree, is that people don’t believe my experiences as a neurodivergent. Being misdiagnosed with borderline personality disorder was almost fatal for me because I was led to believe that my neuroprocessing differences were character flaws. When I’ve used the words “not accepted by my peers” with mental health practitioners they misinterpreted it as me needing validation or codependency. It’s hard to explain, that it’s less about acceptance, and more about needing to make a living and not wanting to be the person unintentionally annoying everyone. I just don’t want people angry with me because they are misperceiving my intentions and then not believing me when I explain my reality and experiences. I have absolutely experienced everything you are describing you have experienced. I have felt exactly the same ways as you describe as a neurodivergent.

@anniestumpy9918

Жыл бұрын

Wow, your experiences resonate so much with mine! In theory I'm quite eloquent but in practice I often have a hard time putting my thoughts/feelings into words the way you did. Thank you!

@NicoleForbis

Жыл бұрын

Speaking can be an absolute disaster, it's only through writing with many drafts, that accurately represents my position, yet I still get flack. I just don't get it.

@BenjaminKtotheE

Жыл бұрын

Omg I got misdiagnosed with BPD as well! I recently figured out I have ASD and my entire life clicked together. So sad looking back on some of my life experiences.

@HeatherLandex

10 ай бұрын

The feeling of not being believed is worse than being accepted. I think I've always drifted to fit in with the misfits. Although I was "popular" according to them, as I did sports with the popular kids. I couldn't explain I didn't like it there. I must be good at seeking out the others 😂

Like being lost in a foreign country, not knowing the language or customs and accidentally offending people all while trying to process the entire situation, and all the new sensory things and unable to get my basic needs met because they don’t understand my language and I don’t understand theirs and they wonder why I don’t just go wherever my people are 🤷🏼‍♀️ Hard to say.

I got tested and properly diagnosed in late 2017, when I turned 53. I missed early detection by a half century, and it truly feels like a life wasted. My Autism feeds both my Major Depressive Disorder AND my Insomnia. Life has typically been horrible. May days, I wish that I could be cured, even though that is not possible. The people who call it a "gift" drive me nuts, because this "gift" got in the way of every single thing I've ever wanted to do in life, and it still does. I feel sick to my stomach all the time.

@lolaleslie66

Жыл бұрын

I am 52 and I was just diagnosed a year ago and I feel the same. And I am trying to heal from the resentment of needing help and not getting it while being misdiagnosed and over medicated. I hear you.

@christenagervais7303

Жыл бұрын

My adult child feels exactly the same. They were diagnosed in their late 30's... As a parent, I wish I had known about autism in the '80's. I know I would have raised them differently with more understanding...

@lindasapiecha2515

Жыл бұрын

😓❤️❤️

@gzoechi

Жыл бұрын

I just discovered that ASD seems the explanation for my troubles. I worked so hard to become better in my profession and as a person to overcome the issues me being different caused. I'm not sure I would have worked so hard if I had known earlier. I surely would have suffered a lot less. There is no point rummaging over spilled milk.

@BenjaminKtotheE

Жыл бұрын

I can relate so much to all of this. It’s weird when you look back on your life and put all the pieces together through the new lens of ASD. I used to think I was just a blunt a-hole because of the way people reacted to what I said, but now I realize why. I think back on all the girls I tried to get and it makes so freaking sad to now know why I struggled so horribly with girls. Oh my heart is breaking right now as I think about it. I’m sure you can all relate.

Autistic, GAD, RSD, ADHD ... I always felt "too young" or immature to join normal adult groups. Once I hit 50 I felt "too old" for the same thing. All the time it was just "feeling different" really. I've lost some really good friends for being too literal. I honestly don't know what I'm like, unmasked. I've had to hide myself for so long. I don't really know who I am. I really lucked out with my special interest being electronics and computers. I've been programming since 1982 and managed to turn that into a moderately successful career. I can also look at almost anything and figure out how it works, how to take it apart, and how to put it back together. However, thanks to ADHD, I cannot recall even my special interest knowledge on command. I need time pressure.

@Songwriter376

5 ай бұрын

Exact same here😊

As far back as I can remember, I've felt like I was either too much or not enough for everyone. Including my family. Life = making yourself acceptable to others.

@Lioness_of_Gaia

4 ай бұрын

Too much or not enough... Well put. ❤

your "weird" couch routine is similar to what i have to do after work. i work nights anyway so its easier. get home, feed cats, pajamas, take meds, and live in my laptop. if i dont get my laptop life, i hate everything. especially when i have too many interactions in one day. thank you for letting me vent. your channel has been such a good healing of my weird brain i never had before.

6:20 "your entire life. Your. Entire. Life." 💯

A common experience for me as an old man is to realize how disruptive I have been to people because of my differentness. My parents had the very devil of a time living with a person with such intense needs as I. They worked very hard to accommodate my oddness. My response, at the time, was to punish them for any lapse. It all seemed sensible to me then, but later I looked back and felt sorry for acting like a jerk. I spent many years filled with anger that family members had caused so many of my difficulties with life, until I realized that living with me must have been excruciatingly difficult, and they were often working hard to be supportive. I now see that wife, my kids, my sister, my friends, my colleagues at work, my friends at church all paid a high price for my differentness. I feel sad about that.

@notwhatiwasraised2b

Жыл бұрын

I try not to darken anyone's day (when I remember to) ...that usually implies speaking as little as possible to avoid saying something likely to be misconstrued

@joycebrewer4150

10 ай бұрын

I, too.

Always feeling different was a big one for me. Whenever I began to question the autism possibility before my official diagnosis I always came back to that and that reminded me that it was real. Stating that the only place you can be your real true self is at home is accurate. I often feel like I don't have a special interest that I always hear about other autistic people having, at least in regard to having an expert level of knowledge or expertise about it. And part of that is because I was also diagnosed with ADHD so I feel like my brain isn't patient enough to take that kind of time to become an expert in anything. But if I had to nail it down my special interest has been entertaining and wanting to make videos and vlogs as well. I haven't started it yet aside from a few videos on TikTok but I just recently got some more time in my schedule and I plan to do more. Thank you for constantly reminding the viewers that are not all autistic people are the same and that you are speaking for yourself. It is so true and you are doing such a great job

@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026

Жыл бұрын

I'm also on the spectrum with ADHD, and I definitely relate to what you said about special interests. I do have them, but I've have at least 10, likely many more. I do know a lot about each one, but I wouldn't class it as "expert" knowledge, the way someone studying a single thing their whole life. I more have a series of temporary and recurring obsessions. The obsession could last for a few days to a few months on end, but it's always changing and going back and forth. Usually I'll have multiple interests being indulged at a time and flit back and forth. I'm a huge fan of variety and novelty, but I still have things I go back to even years later. It makes it really hard to clearly state what my interests actually are, because there are so many that I don't know how to narrow it down on the spot, and often end up tossing out some random ones that I'm not even that into at the time, forgetting what I'm actually currently obsessed with. There's also trying to find the most relatable ones or ones that someone else would understand, because some of my interests are pretty specific or "out there".

@BenjaminKtotheE

Жыл бұрын

@@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026 you nailed it for me. I’ll be obsessed with one thing at a time, for example graphic novels. I go through phases where I want to compulsively buy as many graphic novels as possible and then go nuts binging on them-often neglecting things like my job or family. Other examples would be a movie or show. When I was younger, I would actually act like a particular character from a movie or show as my own personality a lot of the time. I used to literally act like Ace Ventura in school when I was 10. Lol

@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026

Жыл бұрын

@@BenjaminKtotheE I feel you. The worst is when you spend a lot of money on an interest or potential hobby that you're 100% SURE you'll dive into and love forever...only to forget about it days or weeks after the stuff you ordered arrives. For me, it's sometimes even BEFORE it arrives. Hundreds or even thousands of dollars pumped into what you see as a legitimate investment for the future, only to shelve it in a closet, to barely ever see the light of day. Loved both Ace Ventura movies as a kid. Had "Nature Calls" on VHS and watched it countless times. I used to act a lot like Johnny Depp's Jack Sparrow from "Pirates of the Caribbean" with my mannerisms in middle school. There've been many partial impersonations since. It was a shortcut to masking that, based on reactions, I thought would both entertain people and keep me socially engaged. To be fair, it sort of worked...to a degree lol

My five year old grandson is nonverbal autistic, I’d give anything to know how he thinks.

You described everything perfectly!!! One request: please.... the background music was too agitating.

@lisadesertwoman5213

Жыл бұрын

Yes, he makes good content. But less than 4 minutes in, I had to stop the video due to the horrid, grating sound.

@susanhartline7539

10 күн бұрын

@@lisadesertwoman5213 Yes - I know the video is older but I Really had to struggle to stay with the content because of the background music and I was obsessed with why - why was there music going on distracting from the content - anyway - good content.

OMG! This is so relatable! I have to get tested! I grew up feeling something wasn't quite right like perhaps something was wrong with me. I didn't fit in with anyone; really did always feel like I was the odd man out. I would randomly lose control of my emotions, which felt like I hit the reset button in my brain, and I was able to function again. Growing up, I was constantly told I wasn't "normal", and would never be normal, because normal people don't have problems and I have problems, so I'm not normal. Over the last 20 years, I have accepted myself for who I am, not because others think I'm a certain way. I do still deal with ignorant people, who think "something's off". Something I don't think I will ever understand is why do people lie? Why not just be honest with others? It's so much easier that way. It actually takes a lot of effort for me to lie and even then, I fail miserably to hide it. There are still people who assume that different is bad or not to be accepted. What I have learned about myself is although I haven't gotten tested for autism officially, that it is possible that I am on the spectrum and that is perfectly ok. I still am a person with a big heart, loves to joke and laugh, and am an all-around decent and honest person.

Your videos on autism are the best I have seen…. unbelievably articulated and accurate.

My initial experience, when I started listening years ago to various autistic people share how they experience the world was "but that's not so unusual, I do that, I feel like that, too." I only became interested in seeking out autistic voices because it was slowly dawning on me that the reason they kept sending me to the school psychologists, the child psychologists who could never figure out why I seemed extremely capable and gifted when they tested me one on one, yet completely incapable of functioning socially or academically among my peers in a classroom setting, may have been because I was autistic. Since I was highly verbal, intelligent, and a girl, and it was the 60s/70s, autism never even occurred to them. It took a few more decades for it to occur to me, and when it did, everything people like Orion had to say about being autistic just seemed normal to me. It surprised me to discover this isn't how everybody processes.

Hi Orion, I've been gobbling up your videos lately. I haven't been diagnosed autistic (yet) but am resonating with a bit too much of what you say. However, you mention you often don't have friends or no long term friends. I kind of feel like you need buddies that are also autistic. Some of my best friends in life have turned out to be autistic. Sometimes we don't speak for a year or so and when we meet again we pick up right where we left off, no judgement or grudges for not being in touch for a year. It's pretty good. I'd be your friend but I'm in Belgium and I don't think we could go to the cinema together haha.

I’m almost 60 and am seeing a therapist (for a multitude of reasons). After watching videos on adult autism I asked him if was on the spectrum, as I’ve never fit in… even in my own family. I don’t like having to fit into what society tells me I should be/do, but tried hard to emulate societal norms for much of my life. He instantly said that I wasn’t autistic and drove it home with a humbling, personal tale. He has a 19-year-old nephew who is truly autistic, i.e. is still non-verbal and is totally dependent on other to survive. As far as neurodivergence goes, everyone is different. There are no two people who think, feel and behave in the same way. Not everyone is good at everything, equally. We have our strengths and weaknesses and the degrees of these things are what make us all reliant on others to bring their particular specialties to the table. Not everyone is comfortable in a social setting, nor are they happy to make small-talk, but that doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. Nor is there anything wrong with anyone who finds a situation overwhelmingly stimulating - or boring - and needs to leave. And it’s fine to be a geek or nerd… we need geeks and nerds just as much as we need artists and “doers”. Everyone has something to offer the community in which they live. So, to espouse being on “the scale” when you are able to fend for yourself, albeit with considerably more difficulty than (seemingly) most others (but they don’t let you see the turmoil they actually live in… that would shatter the illusion of “having it all together”), it does diminish the plight of those who are not afforded the luxuries of people who can live independently. I hope this has provided food for thought, and I have no intention of belittling those who are less adept at social situations but more adept at pragmatism and abstract thinking at all (I’m one of you). More tolerance, less labels please 🙏🏼❤️

Oh gosh, I can so relate to that negative by default way of thinking about most aspects of life! I am an 33 year old Swedish woman and I have just started my autism investigation because I have always denied being neurodivergent because of a strong fear of being labeled disabled. I have always seen my self worth only in what I am achieving with my creative special interest and that I am intelligent and humorous. Thankfully I have loving parents, but when I was 12 my teacher got mad at me for a breakdown and told me I was too weird to have friends. This concept just makes so much sense!

I thought I was losing my mind or something, I'm 28. Thank you for sharing your experiences and so much information. I need to make an appointment with a doctor. I do believe I am autistic as well.

You have no idea how good it feels to find out that somebody feels like I do in a lot of ways. I had no idea that I could possibly be autistic until a few years ago and your videos have really helped me so much. Thanks for what you do. You've got me and my wife talking non stop about things that make so much more sense when you put Autism into the picture. Makes me appreciate the people who have stuck with me in my life til this point. Much love man.

I love the fact that you emphasize that everyone on the spectrum is different. Excellent video keep up the good work.

I used to try to mask, but I wasn't good at it. Not only that, but I just recently realized that I had somewhat lost sight of who I really am. I now strive to be myself as much as possible. If people can't accept me for who I truly am, that reflects more who they are rather than who I am.

@srldwg

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for commenting this! I am the same way! I not only get exhausted and confused masking, I also think "Hey, this is me. I am who I am." You are so right about if people don't accept us for who we are, it is on them!

@jhcoverdrive9287

Жыл бұрын

I don't think any of us are too great at masking, if anything I think it helps to make us seem less neurodivergent. My goal used to be to fit in but in my late 20's I think I found it more natural to just not stand out negatively...there's also less expectations if people maybe view you as similar (with obvious differences) as opposed to just fitting in with them. It allows a little room to be more yourself without being (or just feeling) alienated. Doesn't change my desire to sit in an empty room and watch paint dry after a particularly heavy day of masking.

I was adopted as a baby. So I had some reason to feel like I didn't fit in. I felt like the odd one out all the time. I have no friends even at the age of 65. I've never had close friends and none of the friends I've had I loose contact with. I've had so many people dismiss my lived experience. Even to tell me we're all a little autistic. Yeah whatever.

@marthavanderpool6829

Жыл бұрын

Very honest response. As we age it can be more acceptable to really be ourselves and not be judged. There’s some freedom in that.

@kwilson5832

11 ай бұрын

Me too. I was adopted, so always felt this was the reason I wasn't 'close' to my parents or siblings. I had a strict upbringing, when anything I did out of routine was 'wrong'. I just didn't fit in. I have had two long-term relationships, but in hindsight, it was my autism that caused the breakdown of both of them. Both partners gave me ultimatums (but these could only be detected by 'reading between the lines', something that I just can't do), and I didn't respond well, so that caused them to end. I also suffer from derealisation, so when partners asked where the relationship was going, it was like I was in a film of my life. I didn't know what the ending was, so my response to the ultimatums was along the lines of 'I don't know, we'll just have to see what happens'. My autism has cost me so many great opportunities and has resulted in me being homeless for over a year. What I find particularly frustrating is that my last partner also had mental health problems, which she dealt with well. Her mother was a GP and we saw her most weeks and went on holiday together, yet neither my partner nor her mother ever suggested I may be on the spectrum, even though I can now see I was displaying so many symptoms. As it is, I'm now living miles from my friends and work. I haven't seen anybody I know face-to-face for nearly a month. (I'm currently working from home and communicate by video call). I often go for more than a week without even seeing or speaking with anybody. The diagnosis is a relief in a way, but I can see how much of my life has been wasted, which really depresses me.

@StephanieElizabethMann

11 ай бұрын

@@kwilson5832 yes. I have many of the same feelings about my past. I try to remember that my life has been like trying to push shit up a hill with a wide tooth comb. Despite everything though, you have survived every poor choice, every negative comment and so many circumstances caused by a geneticly inherited trait. You have successfully made it through where others would have failed. Being autistic is being unique. No one is like you nor are they gifted like you. Yes lots of times when life sucks and the movie has an ending that is never written but Rocky got to the top of the stairs by being him you can also simply because you are you.

I have HUGE PROBLEM starting conversation and even BIGGER PROBLEM ending them. So a lot of times I will say - I am Autistic and I do not want to communicate. And then sit there quiet and lonely :)))))

Even though I am a female autistic I can so identify with you and what you are saying, it makes perfect sense to me and I totally get it, I totally get where you are coming from

I am a people watcher. I've been observing people and studying them well adapting to "joking around". I get that too on occation but when people ask I always feel like eventually I'm having to explain my differences with a nuerotypical. So I can relate to them better and help them to understand that my straight forward answers and opinions although they may appear to be out of context or character are how I relate to people. I'm no longer trying to cover up my autism. Instead I choose to talk to people who choose to listen. They interpret that as rude to intergect when we don't pick up on the ques that it is our turn to say something. I am educating them better to understand me or us as autistics. For so long people have been raised as children that the "nuerotypical norm" is the only way to be. Getting through to the right people that will listen will cause nuerotypical people to eventually have to take interest in becoming more advanced in there awareness of our existence and that we are just as interested in "fitting in". Achieving this balance of neurodiversity will help emencely to alieviate the fear of the unknown being that they were "taught to cact that way in the first place". Get them to open their minds like I have. It is working for me.

As usual , perfectly said! This is the autistic experience. You nailed it.

I recently realized that I am probably autistic. The main feeling I get from this realization is relief because now I know why I struggle so much with communication and social interactions. Now I have a little more compassion for myself instead of beating myself up for not being like other people. Strange experiences make a lot more sense now.

8:41 on the timestamp of where I'm at in the video and it hurts because unfortunately this is exactly how I feel and very described in the exact way I wish I could express to my wife. If everything matches up exactly perfectly on this part of the video I'm definitely going to share this with my wife I hope this helps her understand me more. I really want to cry but it hurts to much to cry I really feel the same by %92 the same. I will show my wife this! I hope 🤞🥺 she will understand me better I love her!

As an autistic person, I'm actually kinda curious of how other people see life. Well actually I'm not curious. But kinda like, how do others see life? Like, in that sense, not personally. Do you all feel like you're in this clear plastic ball looking out? Are others also enthusiastic during work but as soon as you're off work, you're absolutely mute? Do you actually know when to laugh? Do you actually know when to talk in a group setting? Do you actually think about others? Why do you gossip? How does love feel like?

This describes me to a tea. High functioning autism, but only discovered that in my early 30s.

@orionkelly

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for watching and I'm so grateful you could relate to the video.

I feel as if I am a stranger to people and they to me, no matter how well or how long I've known them. Is this similar to "feeling different" in autism?

@BarbaraMerryGeng

2 жыл бұрын

Stranger ? How do you mean ?

@SilentClouds

2 жыл бұрын

@@BarbaraMerryGeng Like they are just people I know, not friends or acquaintances.

@blaqkdown

Жыл бұрын

no

@foljs5858

Жыл бұрын

@@blaqkdown why no? Actually sounds quite like it.

@Mahlinka

2 ай бұрын

Yes!!! Definitely how I feel too

You even provided us with a link to part 2 unlike most prototypical people do. Saves us floundering around on YT looking for it.

I definitely have anxiety issues as well. It comes and goes, but when it comes it gets really bad. It is nearly debilitating

You literally described me perfectly. How do you know so much about my life?? 🧐

Once again brother, thanks for helping me understand me. I’m learning in my mid to late 40’s that I’m autistic.

I really like the rhythm of your voice. Also, I can relate to what you say extremely well.

My forced routine/behaviour has to do with the house. It doesn`t matter if I had worked all day and my wife was at home. If there is something in the house that was not done (because my wife planned to do it the next day) I have to do it. Because it has to be done. If it is not done I will not rest. This does not mean the house has to be in tip top shape. It has to do more with certain basic things. If I come home and the floor is dirty. I will say hi to everyone and I will start cleaning the floor. Because it HAD to be done before the person who worked gets home. It is not something we agreed on. But it is something I agreed on. And I always do before my wife gets home. Same goes for sundays. I always do things in the house, eventhou I know my wife has 3 days to do it because she does not have to work. But is has to be done. If it is not done I feel uneasy. The only exception to this is when I also do things that interest me. Like watching videos like this to get more informed. My current interest. And I want to know everything there is to know about it. But by the end of the day. It is still done. Even if I have to rush it in the last hour before my wife gets home.

Really like your videos. I think you're great. Im pretty high on the spectrum. My biggest issues are tactile issues and VERY hyper-sensitivities to light, noise, people talking too much, etc. I have so many melt downs on those issues alone. Routine is also very important to keep. If it gets interrupted that brings so much anxiety I cant even tell you. Yeah, honestly just being alive and aware is just about all I can handle.

Yes. I need to get away into my shed, the garden or my snug and be quiet and alone. I can't fully relax even if my wife is there too. I have to have time to myself.

Thank you for these videos. Both of my kids (6 & 3) are autistic. My youngest is non verbal so far, and my oldest only says 2-3 word sentences. I have read many books on autism from a medical standpoint, but it’s so nice to hear from someone with first hand knowledge.

Love the show! I was wondering if you , Orion, could turn the background music down a bit. I wish it didn't, but the sounds from the music is sometimes all I can hear.... 53 year old autistic here and the sound "thing" has never lost its grip.

I try not to darken anyone's day (when I remember to) ...that usually implies speaking as little as possible to avoid saying something likely to be misconstrued

This is awesome, thank you so much. You manage to explain things so well that I know are so true for every day life and yet, I could not even begin to put how this feels into words.

I do the same! My parents kept telling me I’m being lazy when sitting in front of the tv and watching the same shows was in fact the only stable thing in my life haha

I am two years late to the party, I realize, but I just wanted to appreciate you and your work. Really interesting and very well done video. Great job and thanks for the video.

My autistic son has a special interest. He loves all things Titanic. And Star Wars Lego.

@turtleanton6539

2 ай бұрын

Hope he can get spme LEGO😅

That's funny. When you talked of the lack of skills, you spoke of how easy it is for you to entertain but how you're unable to use tools or do things with your hands. I am the exact opposite. I can look at something and determine how to fix it very quickly. That comes natural to me, but creating and entertaining people is virtually impossible for me. That's interesting.

epic man.... epic!

What dies my autism feel like? I see non autistic adults as childish, even growing up. Non autistics saw me the childish one, and still do. We are both frequently (but not always) right.

I notice you used a similar microphone preset to news presentation of fox news/similar at the self intro I see what you did there very good stuff 👍

Yes I do agree with most of those facts plus I have always a way that I can go in my mind and being in my own fantasy world or the strong urge to talk to myself when I’m alone or feel lonely even though I’m around people who care about me. But I always feel better when I’m playing this inner monologue.

Yes to all of that! Thumbs up doesn't seem like enough. Someone understands!

I love your content. Thank you for offering it. I really struggle with background music in videos. So hard for me to concentrate on the words being spoken. But I pushed through bc I really wanted to hear what you had to say.

There is one thing about special interests that I find missing, that would take it to the next level of entertaining - the possibility to have someone to talk to about it at the same level of understanding. I say I find it missing because I know how it is when there is a person like that in your life. It happened few times for a short period of time there was someone suitable around.

Thank you for this video. The insight you give will help in my quest to connect with my grandson.

Hi Orion, very informative video. I’m not on the spectrum personally but I am interested in autism and understanding people who have it. Your evening routine of watching tv and zoning out is not unusual at all. I think most “neurotypical” people do that exact same thing or some version of it. I know I do. I think most people find it important to unwind at the end of the day, maybe particularly introverts. I enjoy your videos. Take care and wish you the best.

@stevenr5149

Жыл бұрын

it is not the same thing.

I like how willing to be vulnerable you are. It takes a lot of courage to describe our deepest insecurities. Your video is very useful to me understanding what my 6 year old is experiencing and how he may grow up to feel with the condition. I’ve always been super encouraging of inclusion and downplaying the labels and treating people as they are, as great humans. Great perspective, thanks for the video! Very informative. Also I know in the 2nd video you say that your default setting is thinking that people look at you and immediately notice that you’re different. Honestly I would’ve never guessed anything atypical; everyone has such different personalities... you seem friendly and interesting. Your way of articulating your perspective is engaging. You could read a phonebook and I’m sure most people would be all ears! It’s hard for me to imagine that there’s any doubts of potential friendships in relationships. Awesome communication!

@orionkelly

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much. I’m so grateful my videos are helpful for you.

Such a great video!!

I relate so much to every word of this.

You are really good at this.

Thank you for this information.

Orion (the man behind the curtain I can't ignore as I see he's not who he's been pretending to be all these years...) Hey O - no music? It's so so sooooooooooooooo hard to ignore I simply can't and I just wish I had two mute buttons; one for just muting whatever it is I'm watching or listening to - and a second mute button which would allow me to MUTE THE BACKGROUND MUSIC! (please?) You're the best and thank you.

Orion, hey! Still working through your videos. Your voice and content is unbelievably soothing to me, as someone discovering more about who i am. Please don't stop.

I appreciate you sharing your knowledge on autism. Your videos are changing my life!!! ❤ You are wonderfully made!!!

You've really helped me to understand my newly diagnosed adult child and husband. Thank you! 🇨🇦

Keep up the good work 👍🏼 Every single point, I recognise. A really great great video.

Your content is very good. Thanks for posting these videos.

Most helpful for me is daily physical training in movement arts, Tai Chi Dance Martial Arts forms especially Yoga/Cranial Sacral Therapy, concentrating on moving thru space forming figure-eight, this requires visualization and willful intent for symmetrical forms and sensations, right left side w same feel/form, this re-trains the brain imbalances via the physical first before Psychological BS therapies ~~

Thank you so much for sharing insights, knowledge and experience in your own an detailed way. In one of the comments below I read she would've have loved knowing about autism in her children's childhood already. In your channel is what we need to know about each other. Embrace diversity: neurodiversity as well as all others. We need to be taught urgently in public. No one needs to hide! I myself struggled for decades with high sensitivity after having claimed myself a first burnt out, then bipolar, after that I was sure being a messy, further suffering from self-doubts. Finally I came over being a creative chaot to finally finding me being a high sensitive person and having struggles with an autistic person in common. The most confusing and longest lasting was feeling like an alien. Unsuitable and always wrong. Fortunately there are ways - and acceptance (of ourselves a n d others) is an essential starting point! Highly appreciate your intention. All the best!

Thank you for these videos ❤❤

Hey Orion - Stumbled across your channel today. Subscribed! Great work. So much or what you say I experience too - I'm loving it that all this stuff i'm watching and reading is resonating. There are so many people in the same boat it seems (I'm 44, awaiting diagnosis but certain I'm Autistic), looking back on my life and seeing it make sense for the first time is a real boost and it's great to see that it's the same for others who are coming to this awareness later in their lives. I'm grateful for the work you and others are doing to raise awareness, it all helps.

@orionkelly

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so grateful to hear that my videos are resonating with you. And I appreciate you taking the time to check them out. You’re not alone.

Great insights Orion, thanks so much for sharing!

@orionkelly

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for watching, I really appreciate it.

100%! You verbalize so many aspects of your experience so well. :) Thanks and best wishes. subbed. thumb up. FYI. many people on the spectrum might not be on social media at all like me.

My mother loves to change her house around constantly. That drives me insane. I like things to stay in the same place all the time. I don't change anything unless I have a reason to. If there is no reason to change something then there's no reason to change it, so I don't.

@Songwriter376

5 ай бұрын

Same here except it's my spouse.

I understand all of this and it really hurts me when I try to fit in when I’m at the pub and people give me verbal crap when I’ve not even spoke and if I tell them to leave me alone or shut up the lady behind the bar who is the manager always says “stop it Liam, that’s enough” and makes me look like a kid which humiliates/embarrasses me and that’s why I wish I didn’t have Aspergers Syndrome

@buttercxpdraws8101

3 жыл бұрын

Just don’t go to the stupid pub. Find some Aspie friends and a decent place where the manager treats her customers with respect.

@n.w.owhoknowstheshadowknow58

Жыл бұрын

@@buttercxpdraws8101 where do you find these friends? I'm not diagnosed but as IV got older it's become obvious to myself that something a miss. Where are they because IV never come across them who I fit in 40 years so where the fuck are they. When I have came across them we fit for discussions on topics excellent but daily friendship no. Not my experience

Thank you...

Great videos and you nail it! I do mot have it om paper yet but Will soon :). I have a gard time listening to different sounds, so I do not only hear your voice but also your background music at the same time, a bit frustrating 🤪😅. Otherwise it is lovely work! Thanks

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I used to feel different until I realised….I’m the Master of my own destiny. Now others follow my example.

Me..has 4hr in person conversation..looks up at other person .direct eye contact..total 30 seconds combined between the 9 times i looked up at them

Same

It's getting hard to not ask because I'm developing tics now..

recharging time!

At home I can sing my made up songs as words and melody pop into my head but kinda loud and with my Ethyl Mermon impression while making up old timey musical dance moves. Not everyone appreciates this lol

When I was at uni the site homepage would be changed every new year. It used to throw me every year.

For me, it's like being an alien.

I'm seriously leaning towards getting diagnosed. There's no doubt in my mind - both my kids are autistic and I'm finding we have things in common that I thought every one else dealt with but now I'm seeing that's not the case - it's just people on the autism spectrum that deal with it. It wouldn't change anything beyond a label superficially, but I could stop beating myself up and feeling guilty over so much. I mean after 50 years, you expect to have certain things figured out, but I still feel like an alien; almost entirely unable to relate to people and the way they behave, and unable to conform to anything resembling "normal."

As a Brit I feel like I don't fit in in the UK but have felt at home in The Netherlands where people mean what they say and say what they mean: unfortunately however because of Brexit it's very unlikely that I will be able to go and live there now

I think that I am on the spectrum but haven't gotten tested as I'm dealing with lots of panic and anxiety right now. I have noticed that since I have been teaching at home via zoom I am so much more rested and I think it's because I"m not masking as much. I'm "on" while on zoom but after my class then I can just be myself and then am ready for the next class.

@orionkelly

3 жыл бұрын

In the end diagnosis is a personal choice. I found it helped my anxiety and identity.

Omg I'm 39 and realising I could be Autistic.

@orionkelly

3 жыл бұрын

You’re not alone my friend.

do you think there's a similarity in severe depression and austism in the sense of not fitting in, being two different people to mask you pain or discomfort so people aren't concerned? the intensity in which i talk about my depression and steps of failure or success in battling? where most people can't handle the language or emotion in which i talk about it, or do you think they go hand in hand and can have both. idk im not diagnosed but i have a really strong feeling this explains a lot of my inability to socialize in a lot of situations unless alcohol or substances were involved to temporarily rewire my brain which of course doesnt help depression; and at times i would go into a pure anxiety ridden meltdown. and just recently had a major breakthrough in my own personal struggle with depression, but now am exploring other avenues or options/ideas that my contribute.

“I’ve got hands and i’m a man…but i’m not a handyman” -orion kelly 2023 😂😂

I feel like the compulsion to control to have the illusion of certainty, thus relieving the anxiety uncertainty creates, is a common theme for many! I have seen some NT be SO controlling and anal about "the right way to do things" it's baffling how impatient some are to autistic's compulsion for structure. I understand for pwASD is an accommodation we must make, but please do not be tyrannical and entitled about it. I will gladly accommodate anybody who really needs it, just ask me nicely, please.

I was bullied, pretty severely, as a child. Could this have caused autistic traits in me that I'm dealing with now as an adult? When I read about autism, or watch these videos, so many boxes are ticked for me. So much of this resonates. But then many of the key indicators don't resonate at all. I don't think I'm on the spectrum, but I'm adjacent. Because of my childhood experiences that created many parts of my personality and my traits. Does this sound possible or reasonable thanks?