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  • @blue8ify
    @blue8ify6 жыл бұрын

    Well done!!! I held my breath for a moment before watching this... I thought "finally!" then I prepared myself for another video of misunderstood opinions stated like facts. My daughter has Level 2 Autism (PDD prior to 2013) which sometimes is seen as high functioning autism, but she has cognitive development disabilities as well. Your info was spot on. Thank you for not being careless when you have a platform to educate.

  • @jerihill4739

    @jerihill4739

    6 жыл бұрын

    Yes, her info was spot on despite the functioning labels. And not to jump on this if I am wrong but is your name - blue8ify - a nod to light it up blue or in anyway associated with autism speaks because as an autistic person I try to advice people who do not know to learn that they are not a good company to support autistic people. Idk, I hate to do this and hopeI do not come off as rude.

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    6 жыл бұрын

    Awe I am so glad it was helpful.. and factual! I have waited a long time to create this because I wanted to make sure it was true and good :) xoxo

  • @markrichter2053

    @markrichter2053

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for another spot-on video Kati. Its exciting that the current generations of young people with ASD are more likely to be diagnosed and treated than my generation. I am 52 and got diagnosed and even had some support for my dyslexia. But Hanz Asperger had not published his work when I was growing up. So it has only been in the last decade that I have come to discover that I am autistic. I now have autistic friends. Before I moved, I joined a group for very high functioning autists. One was intellectually brilliant, with multiple docorates, an internationally cellebrated career as a biologist and wildlife photographer and a marriage. But like me, he still comes accross as socially odd and a little child-like. One friend has selective mutism and learning difficulties. But he has come right out of his shell since our friendship has developed. So relationships are really important to me, but I find social settings very tiring. I like to live with other people and have them in my routine. But I work for myself as a gardener so I can enjoy long stretches in my own company. I can also adjust my workload according to how I am coping with life. My marriage failed after 23 years and two adult children. This was due largely to my poor mental health and self-oriented behaviour. But I am still very close to my 25 yr old son. And the break up has braught me really close to my brother and sisters. For me my faith, family and friends gave meaning and support in the last 4 years when I went through an extreme trauma. I was carried through by God's love and some amazing professional help. The behaviour that has always tripped me up and still causes me problems is when I make a commitment that I feel overwhelmed by and become anxious. My tendency is still to forget that all I need to do is communicate with the relevant people. I have very high standards for myself and often just need to make an adjustment to my schedule and my anxieties subside. But because of my dyspraxia I find scheduling quite difficult. I still am vulnerable to relapsing into avoidant and addictive behaviours as a coping mechanism. My message to everyone affected by autism is always simple: C O M M U N I C A T E!!! I know your default setting when stressed is to withdraw. But there comes a point when you must reach out for help. Dont get isolated. The longer you leave it the more difficult life gets. But feeling trapped is only a feeling. Its an illusion . YOU ARE NOT ALONE! You may feel like an alien, but you re not the only one. Even neuro-typical people feel like they re the odd one out sometimes. We just feel like it most of the time. Look online or ask your doctor for local support groups.

  • @Saadia_1900

    @Saadia_1900

    6 жыл бұрын

    Hi katie

  • @blue8ify

    @blue8ify

    6 жыл бұрын

    Kei Hill blue8ify is in in NO way related to Autism. It has always been my favorite color and 8 is my favorite number. I am 40+ yrs old and that color/number is consistant in my usernames. Also, I do believe she addressed the label due to it being so common. She is very specific as she explains that is is not a legitimate medical term. I am not a fan of categorizing with "high/low functioning" especially since my own daughter falls into both of those and the labels have hindered her in many ways.

  • @barborahalova3514
    @barborahalova35142 жыл бұрын

    "they might seem mature for their age, but they are really just uncomfortable..." Is such a ruthlessly accurate statement ...

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @haylee7951

    @haylee7951

    2 жыл бұрын

    My mom was telling me about my childhood and she said that I always seemed really uncomfortable and honestly just uninterested in other children. Which. Makes sense. She also used to have to physically hold me and hide my face from people when they came over because being perceived at all in any way was painful. Speaking to people was also mentally painful for me. My mom says I was just shy but this past weekend she said that I was “almost like an autistic child” cuz of how I was socially. Now that I’m 22, this weekend with my mom we had family over and I found myself getting really overwhelmed and irritated by how loud it was outside. It was kind of sudden feeling but I really just wanted to cover my ears. But I didn’t want to seem weird so I left the room. But then I felt rude cuz people think it’s rude to leave a room full of people just cuz you’re uncomfortable. But I was feeling so irritable and I could have a much better time if I could cool off in the quiet for a bit.

  • @NopeSecret

    @NopeSecret

    Жыл бұрын

    @@haylee7951 Gen X did a horrible job socializing their children. I assume you are Gen Z... It is your parents job to make sure you are socialized before you began school and should not use school to socialize you. I was already making friends before school as well as being taught at home by my mother... Gen Z has some of the worst parents out there as Gen X is a horrible generation. I can only assume you were not really introduced to other kids too often and when you get home from school you do so to an empty house. Your parents then get home and there is no real family interaction.... This is what is causing your social issues not autism. If you had autism chances are you would not be in the comments section here posting anything as you would not even feel the social need for any sort of validation. Jus sayin...

  • @zadekeys2194

    @zadekeys2194

    11 ай бұрын

    Agreed. As a kid/teen I was often told I was mature, meanwhile I either spoke too much or not at all, due to feeling so uncomfortable.

  • @brianmeen2158

    @brianmeen2158

    7 ай бұрын

    @@zadekeys2194 as an adult in social situations - I find I tend to speak a bit too much because of the uncomfortableness of socializing and being with others. I’m 39 and I find most socializing to be strange and I simply don’t enjoy it yet it’s something that must be done occasionally.

  • @Holobrine
    @Holobrine4 жыл бұрын

    I have ASD and I’ve found it’s easier to communicate with others on the spectrum than neurotypical people. So it seems it’s not that we don’t communicate well, it’s that we communicate differently.

  • @BUDZRSTICKY

    @BUDZRSTICKY

    4 жыл бұрын

    @YnnyY&nne OilRyser hey not all neurotypical people are jack asses man.

  • @NoNumbersAtTheEnding

    @NoNumbersAtTheEnding

    4 жыл бұрын

    @YnnyY&nne OilRyser who hurt you?

  • @allhailthedarkprismarine2994

    @allhailthedarkprismarine2994

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same

  • @puppywolf1809

    @puppywolf1809

    4 жыл бұрын

    Why Bother I have met some people with autism that is mean and everything else you wrote sooo

  • @thicc_witch8235

    @thicc_witch8235

    4 жыл бұрын

    Definitely! All of my close friends are either autistic or have ADHD.

  • @shiny-collector-silver
    @shiny-collector-silver2 жыл бұрын

    As someone who has high functioning autism, i can confirm i get anxious when I'm at social gatherings. I feel like everyone is judging me and when people look at me and then go back to talking with others, i feel like they're talking about how horrible i look or about how shy i am. That's why i love being alone, because nobody can judge anything i do and my cats understand what i say and it feels like they're listening.

  • @sammynichaya

    @sammynichaya

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah!!

  • @Throatgoat420

    @Throatgoat420

    Жыл бұрын

    I know exactly what you mean.

  • @annikajohansson9171

    @annikajohansson9171

    Жыл бұрын

    Im literally playing with my cats while reading this comment lol

  • @ct4134

    @ct4134

    Жыл бұрын

    I 100% agree with you. It's the anxiety that makes it worse. Thing is I was carefree till I was made aware of it. Thanks for sharing.

  • @angee1906

    @angee1906

    Жыл бұрын

    Omg sound just like me and my kids. I honestly thought it was normal..isn't it?? Gahhhhh!!!

  • @ashleyshoemyer1216
    @ashleyshoemyer12164 жыл бұрын

    my husband has high functioning autism. i love him so much, he is the absolute sweetest person ive ever met.

  • @Blu_Moon_VA

    @Blu_Moon_VA

    4 жыл бұрын

    How did you react when he told you? I am afraid to tell people (in person) that I'm autistic out of fear that they'll reject me instantly (and this is just with platonic friendships, I've never dated). What should I expect if I told someone?

  • @PlantLifeEvaluator

    @PlantLifeEvaluator

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Electro Power rude much?

  • @joethejo-ker9480

    @joethejo-ker9480

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Electro Power no need to react I’m autistic and I found her comment very helpful and it increased my self confidence knowing that I can be loved and accepted despite my shortcomings

  • @46Bax

    @46Bax

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Jack Lampin dude when is the pill coming out? I'm 24 with aspergers and I'm happy to take anything that'll fix it lmao

  • @jaghatai_bulut

    @jaghatai_bulut

    3 жыл бұрын

    aaw. thats so cute. i wish you guys the best

  • @sirdime9957
    @sirdime99575 жыл бұрын

    Never been one to self diagnose. But...I cried watching this and seeing my life described before me. Just saying.

  • @quindixie6867

    @quindixie6867

    4 жыл бұрын

    Ive always known I was autistic. I was misdiagnosed as not autistic due to a faulty test done as a child. Even after I was told I wasn't autistic, I fully knew that was wrong. I still have never been properly diagnosed meaning I have never gotten proper help. I have never been allowed to stim and any issues ive had have been met with anger and frustration. Ive always been told to just get over it. It seems to be getting worse yet I'm expected to be an adult now.

  • @killertruth186

    @killertruth186

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@quindixie6867 It seems that not only the doctor who has done the test, your parents doesn't like the word "autism" to you. Which that is like giving a Tylenol to treat bacterial infection to the mouth.

  • @theautistic.teacher

    @theautistic.teacher

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same

  • @user-jn8cs1lt8m

    @user-jn8cs1lt8m

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sir Dime SAME

  • @dawnnn444

    @dawnnn444

    4 жыл бұрын

    me too. im literally sobbing rn this made everything click for me

  • @brittneyhoffman2789
    @brittneyhoffman27895 жыл бұрын

    There should be social skill classes for adults with autism too

  • @brittneyhoffman2789

    @brittneyhoffman2789

    5 жыл бұрын

    I also am diagnosed with high functioning autism

  • @shatteredglassart

    @shatteredglassart

    4 жыл бұрын

    I could definitely use some of those lol

  • @prizmcmyk3363

    @prizmcmyk3363

    4 жыл бұрын

    True. Like understanding others emotions, small talk skills, how they come across others, knowing what to say, self independent skills. Most emotional issues comes from loneliness & conflicts with others.

  • @fukkitful

    @fukkitful

    4 жыл бұрын

    I learned a lot of social skills from high school. Mainly bc I'd didn't talk and just watched how other ppl interacted.

  • @DC3Refom

    @DC3Refom

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yeah I agree there is fuck all here in England or the right support to get stability

  • @bunnyhunny6747
    @bunnyhunny67472 жыл бұрын

    One thing I hate is people who associate autism with stupidity. Just because some need different coping skills and methods to help make their lives easier does not mean they're stupid. I have ASD as well and I also have a friend who is on the spectrum a little more than I am. But she's so sweet and so smart and passionate about her interests. She just gets nervous when she has to make decisions or trying to start a conversation. She does have a bit of trouble fully pronouncing some words, but she truly is an amazing person. And I'm so glad I met her.

  • @MariaMoleEpic

    @MariaMoleEpic

    Жыл бұрын

    I hate that it’s labeled a disorder. Everything is labeled a disorder. And these labels are given out after one session. How does a professional label someone as bipolar, autistic, depressed, anxious, etc after 40 minutes? It really bothers me that a child is labeled autistic. Because of social cues or because of eye contact? Or focused on a certain way of playing? Who comes up with this stuff?

  • @weezeefreak1533

    @weezeefreak1533

    Жыл бұрын

    Autism has nothing to do with intelligence, but it has EVERYTHING to do with behavior.

  • @andyappleton3353

    @andyappleton3353

    9 ай бұрын

    We're usually smarter than "normal" neurotypical people. The masses of the 99% are usually illogical and predictable in their behaviors and mentalities. I no longer believe it is possible nor even desirable to make ourselves "acceptable" by their terms. The best thing for us Aspies to do is to recognize that we will NEVER be like them. Aside from neurotypical people who genuinely love and/or care at all about us (that number will be very small), we will NEVER be able to conform to their emotionally driven, illogical and animalistic way of life. If you are an Aspie, accept this. Hone your intellectual acumen knowing full well that it won't be understood by the others. When we persist in our efforts through discipline and focus, we can usually surpass the "normal" people in virtually any endeavor.

  • @brianmeen2158

    @brianmeen2158

    7 ай бұрын

    @@MariaMoleEpicbut autism Is a disorder! I mean, it has hampered my life in so many ways .. what would you want it to be called? A personality style? True autism is disabling in many ways

  • @LittleLostBaby

    @LittleLostBaby

    2 ай бұрын

    @@MariaMoleEpic Um, because their specially trained experts to recognize the symptoms? 🙄

  • @HiitSquadTv
    @HiitSquadTv2 жыл бұрын

    I was diagnosed as an adult . Just knowing why I was so different made a huge difference in my life.

  • @luguidubiela1654
    @luguidubiela16546 жыл бұрын

    my problem with autism is that everybody talks about it as if there is ONLY children in the spectrum. Edit: Not necessarily this case. I'm just a bit bitter LOL

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    6 жыл бұрын

    I did try to mention adults and offer treatments that can work for both children and adults. But if you have any specific questions about adults with ASD let me know. i am more than happy to keep talking about it. xox

  • @luguidubiela1654

    @luguidubiela1654

    6 жыл бұрын

    I'm sorry if it looked(sounded) harsh! I love your vids! And you did mention adults and work environment and stuff! Didn't mean to diss!

  • @luguidubiela1654

    @luguidubiela1654

    6 жыл бұрын

    anyway, it would love to see you talk about more specifically about adults, though. It's just that it is really hard to see people write/speak about adults in the spectrum, so its inevitable that kids would totally be mentioned much more. Plus, its the early developmental stage of a person and the sooner they get help, the sooner they'll lern how to deal with certain situation. I'm probably just a little bitter I didn't get the diagnosis earlier in life :P

  • @Jake12220

    @Jake12220

    5 жыл бұрын

    Autistic adults are coming into the light more and more, so while you don't see a lot on them now compared to autistic children, you certainly see and hear from and about them far more now than you did even a few years ago. It would be nice to have more help and treatments targeted towards adults though as most interventions are only targeting early intervention. While early intervention is great for those with an early diagnosis, it's of little help to those if us with an adult diagnosis.

  • @christianbuczko1481

    @christianbuczko1481

    5 жыл бұрын

    Agree 100% there. As someone diagnosed at age 35, I've had no help what so ever. I'm at a point where I'm barely surviving day to day. It's very frustrating when people tell me to get help, when no help exists. I've been offered counselling but cannot talk about my problems as i have a problem with selective mutism so its utterly useless. I did try, but the person didn't know anything about ASD so no effective communication occurred. It's so bad i couldn't communicate on a recent PIP assessment and have now lost my DLA. I was stable before, had a car to travel, could get to see family, travel to places ect. Now I'm stuck starving to death, hardly able to go out, have become mentally unstable ect and have no idea how I'm going to survive. And I'm told even IF i win the appeal, they will reassess me in a couple of years. The whole assessment process is mental torture to me. This so called help is now nearly killing me, and may well do before its solved. It's so bad i now need a social worker to assess me, I'm on anti depressants, or at least will be when they figure out which i can take which doesn't leave me needing hospital, I'm on anti anxiety meds, anti migraine meds, meds for my stomach all because i cannot communicate, and so called professionals who are supposed to help just don't know what the fuck their talking about.

  • @IanCullen
    @IanCullen6 жыл бұрын

    Speaking as someone on the Autism Spectrum. I've always thought of High Functioning Autism as a label assigned to those of us who are able to hide our day to day struggles from others with a view to trying to fit in.

  • @jaysonbickel671

    @jaysonbickel671

    6 жыл бұрын

    SciFi Pulse yeah, functioning labels are trash (i’m also autistic)

  • @IanCullen

    @IanCullen

    6 жыл бұрын

    Cool. There's up and downsides to labels. I'm more conflicted about them than anything else.

  • @paulnoecker1202

    @paulnoecker1202

    4 жыл бұрын

    High functioning, like "can talk" it's really a poor description of what is going on. I'm like severe math savant, I can talk but it's not pleb English, it's wonky and loaded with swearing.

  • @Eagles_Eye

    @Eagles_Eye

    4 жыл бұрын

    and some people with autism are better than 'normal' in something, and worse than 'normal' in other things, im only worse in things, i haven't yet found something im better in than 'normal' people.

  • @johnm3033

    @johnm3033

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yup.

  • @craigdaubbeats-rapinstrume9185
    @craigdaubbeats-rapinstrume91852 жыл бұрын

    I think the hardest part about being an adult with high functioning autism is being able to make a living. It's so frustrating trying to find work that we can handle, especially if you're the type of person that has extreme social anxiety. The only job really that I've ever been able to hold is dishwashing jobs, and even those are hard for me depending on the place. I have to be somewhere where I'm all but by myself the whole time, and I can't carry dishes to the kitchen for the cooks because I can't bring myself to give verbal warnings when I'm behind people. That and cooks and servers tend to be on edge if it's a busy restaurant. And everyone just seems to think you can get over it and act normal. People really don't realize that it's not that simple for us.

  • @MysticRhythmsYoga

    @MysticRhythmsYoga

    9 ай бұрын

    This is the most exhausting social situation for me. At every job I've held. And the extra pressure from our capitalistic system to perform and be productive, and follow all the rules and policies, but also follow all the expectations of the hierarchies and workplace culture in place, and be the exact same robotically normal worker every day who never has period flu or meltdowns or depressive episodes or panic attacks or even gets an actual cold, it feels so scary and inhuman, it makes the anxiety about work harder. I have always felt like I need to "mentally prepare" and "suit up" before work, whether a shift or a salaried job, no matter what time of day I work.

  • @brianmeen2158

    @brianmeen2158

    7 ай бұрын

    @@MysticRhythmsYogait makes the entire work experience exhausting. You work 6 days a week and get a day or two off to recharge but that’s never enough - then you you start the next week. Rinse and repeat - it’s not a life I want to live

  • @wiewioragaming5726

    @wiewioragaming5726

    3 ай бұрын

    I have worked from home all my life and never had a boss. I guess I'm lucky.

  • @Gemisnotmyname

    @Gemisnotmyname

    3 ай бұрын

    God i relate when u said a place where ur all by urselr

  • @MrMyst
    @MrMyst5 жыл бұрын

    *NO! MELTDOWNS ARENT TANTRUMS!* THEY ARE VERY SIMILAR TO PANIC ATTACKS. Parents, if your autistic child is having a meltdown do not punish them for it. Refer to these tips that will help. TIPS: - Don’t touch them. - Don’t yell at them. - Take them to a quiet room if possible. - If they are unable to move, politely ask, and if they want it then give them their noise cancelling headphones. - If your child likes weighted blankets, politely ask, if they want it then put it on their lap. - Allow them to stim if they are doing it, loud hands help them calm down. - Again, don’t touch or yell at them, they are overloaded and extra stimulation will make them feel worse. - Give them their comfort item. - Remember that they cannot control this. - Reassure that they are going to be alright. - Don’t try to get a verbal response out of them, they don’t want to speak right now. - Optional: Make them their favorite food or same-food when it’s over. Though sometimes they may lose their appetite from the meltdown. *It is always safe to ask.*

  • @marcusanark2541

    @marcusanark2541

    4 жыл бұрын

    ALL PARENTS should know this, it could avoided me so much pain.

  • @AvESNPR

    @AvESNPR

    3 жыл бұрын

    I try to tell my mom to stop yelling at me & when I have meltdown’s she thinks I’m crazy. Also my siblings don’t understand ASD at all

  • @jessicac391

    @jessicac391

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you 🙏🏽 love and patience always wins

  • @daniellockard4261

    @daniellockard4261

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! I'm grateful for this info my awesome nephew has autism. Thank you for taking the time to educate us 🙂♥️

  • @Imadroidgirl

    @Imadroidgirl

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@AvESNPR show them this post and tell them you want family therapy/support 💗

  • @ASLAnissaOfficial
    @ASLAnissaOfficial6 жыл бұрын

    I also worked with a women who was commonly referred to as “high functioning” and it lead to a lot of miscommunication. Because of how well spoken she is, people commonly overlooked her diagnosis and didn’t realize how much she misunderstood emotional dialog and metaphoric phrases. It lead to a lot of misunderstanding and unnecessary conflicts.

  • @mikelmontoya2965

    @mikelmontoya2965

    6 жыл бұрын

    ASL Anissa exactly. I would be consider high functioning because I don't look disable (even if I look really awkward and werid), I can talk and I have a high IQ, but right now I'm so dysfunctional I haven't gone to college in months, I hardly eat, I hardly shower or do anything really. So I don't see myself as high functioning at all

  • @ASLAnissaOfficial

    @ASLAnissaOfficial

    6 жыл бұрын

    Mikel Montoya it’s not a real thing. Which is why a lot of therapists like myself that work with ASD cringe at the use of it. It’s an unnecessary segregation of one diagnosis. I’d encourage seeing a counselor or looking into different types of therapy or therapeutic activities. I am a music therapist and sometimes creating music or art can be extremely grounding. It takes all your attention which can be grounding when your brain is used to managing a thousand things at once.

  • @alephnulI

    @alephnulI

    6 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, I'm considered high functioning because I have no outward signs at all (not awkward, not "weird", no problems with verbal language - I struggle to speak sometimes, but people just say I'm shy), but I'm completely unable to live on my own, and I've tried for 10 years now (I have a lot of problems with organization and memory, and trying to deal with society demands on my own is overwhelming).

  • @mikelmontoya2965

    @mikelmontoya2965

    6 жыл бұрын

    ASL Anissa yeah, I've started going to a therapist a few weeks ago, but I don't have the diagnosis yet and the process of getting it seems soooooo slow (everybody is so skeptical about me having ASD just because I'm 18 yo...) and I need it soon or otherwise I don't know what I'll tell my parents when they find out I've failed almost every subject in college (they'll be very angry and will tell me how ungrateful and lazy I am and how I'm wasting all my potential), I don't want them to send me back home, I like living in a big city (and I think I could manage living on my own here if I had the accomodations that as an autistic person I need...), but I'm so scared to tell them that I have ASD without a diagnosis to prove it... so yeah, my life is complicated 😂

  • @mikelmontoya2965

    @mikelmontoya2965

    6 жыл бұрын

    zeldahime living on your own as an autistic person is sooo difficult, I didn't know I was so impaired until these year when I left home for college. It's because we usually have really bad executive function skills (in my case I really think I completely lack them honestly, I'm so clueless)

  • @pumpkinface8151
    @pumpkinface81512 жыл бұрын

    I was labeled a shy child in my youth and now an introvert into adulthood. As a child I would routinely pretend I was sick to get out of school because of the terror I felt being surrounded by other students, which in retrospect shows my ability to adapt to change was something foreign to me. I always felt comfortable at home, in my surroundings, a safe haven where I was familiarized with everything and without change. After all change was scary even with no initial threat for some reason. I knew since I was a child that something was different about me and went far beyond what you label as just traditionally "shy". Part of me believes that my parents were in denial that there was something wrong but how I would adapt to change, my inability to connect with others, and my unwillingness to put myself in any social situations or activities gave me insight into that I may just be a high functioning autistic. I've never been professionally diagnosed to this day but I know I am.... I still find myself withdrawn from social events or parties, my inability to communicate with others while stumbling on my words, severe anxiety when put in crowded areas, upset with sudden change from routine, and an inability to make eye contact when communicating with others. At one point I relied on alcohol to help cope with these feelings, as we all know alcohol lowers your inhibitions and with that could help bring some sort of "normality" within my life. I would communicate better, I could make eye contact while conversing, I felt confident, my anxiety was gone, and I wouldn't question the things that terrified me so much. Of course this all ended up being a temporary crutch that lead me down a deeper rabbit hole of dependency, health problems, and an enhanced feeling of my autistic tendencies when I was hungover only to delve right back into drinking again. I now have acceptance and an understanding for who I am now. I stopped drinking and have decided to force myself to get out there to try and overcome some of these more debilitating feelings I have as a form of therapy. Everyday is a struggle but I've noticed that even with some of the baby steps I've taken over the past couple years that I do have the ability to make things more bearable to where I can achieve a new level of happiness while feeling a form of achievement all with a sober mind. Keep fighting the good fight for those who struggle the same as I.

  • @myles5388

    @myles5388

    10 ай бұрын

    I have never read a paragraph that’s described my experience of life more😂 I have social plans later today with literal family and have been considering drinking before we get there so I can be semi normal. Hope your coping through life okay, your comment made my day

  • @myles5388

    @myles5388

    8 ай бұрын

    @lilylaura6955 what’s your herbs? Had a google couldn’t find anything

  • @9ightdreamer
    @9ightdreamer2 жыл бұрын

    I was recently diagnosed with autism/Asperger's and when my mom told me about it I was shocked yet relieved because it explains everything I've been through and the events that happened in my life.

  • @anjachan

    @anjachan

    2 жыл бұрын

    very good you know it now!

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    I used this doc herbs for my son and now my son is completely free, his speaking and behavior is ok. His herbs is 100% working on ASD. I met Dr Oyalo on channel and I’m happy to share my experience about it

  • @9ightdreamer

    @9ightdreamer

    Жыл бұрын

    @@bolinhong2598 Thats not how autism works....? It cant be cured though.

  • @9ightdreamer

    @9ightdreamer

    8 ай бұрын

    @@lilylaura6955 Thats not how autism works. If your son is autistic, hes autistic. The only thing that can done is help improve certain skills.

  • @Daniel-jl6fb
    @Daniel-jl6fb4 жыл бұрын

    You have hit the nail right on the head with this at timecode 3:10... I have found it so hard and demoralizing being in a situation where I'm not severe enough to warrant treatment but not being normal either. I feel like I live in a bubble, I can see what's going on and interact with people but at the same time I feel so isolated and and detached from people. So thank you so much for saying it, its like somebody finally understands.

  • @smokevicious14

    @smokevicious14

    2 жыл бұрын

    I feel you bro. I'm 39 and i just learned so much about myself.

  • @rickspalding3047

    @rickspalding3047

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm 42, I feel the anxiety is getting worse, I see no solutions

  • @rexs.5188

    @rexs.5188

    2 жыл бұрын

    i have accepted my strangeness! since childhood i knew i was going to be alone

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @SharlenesJourney

    @SharlenesJourney

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same 😔😔😔

  • @alexs2351
    @alexs23515 жыл бұрын

    I am really suspecting that I'm on the spectrum. As a child I nearly fit all the criteria for diagnosis on a test designed for boys. Today, I work in marketing, sales and studied psychology. I can skillfully profile and analyse others, seeming to have a deep understanding for them through years of obsessive research. I appear bubbly, outgoing and socially skilled but when I get home the mask drops. I become crabby, lonely and selfish in my demands for conversations about what I want to talk about. When you get to my core, I struggle to maintain relationships, I push peoples boundaries and can be egocentric. Its hard because I understand how Im supposed to behave. Maintaining the facade is just tiring. I used to have severe sensory sensitivities, poor posture and eye contact trouble. I no longer have these but Im still very clumsy.

  • @playgrounddolls7766

    @playgrounddolls7766

    4 жыл бұрын

    I don't know. My relatives often were angry on me because I often refused to respond on their questions and didn't involve in their toppic. At the beggining. And I was struggling because I undertood their feelings but couldn't help. I just value my life time and I can't waste it on stupid toppic or on toppic I am not ready to share(like privat like etc). I just even can't fokuss on uninteresting for me - my brain and eyes go away automatically and I hate to pretend I am listening when I am not. But - I am able to do that when I am ready for that by my choice. Then I can listen anything. So to be short I don't see its a illness or ego - it is something absolutely different. Different vision. For me - other people should realise how their behaviour, demands, jokes etc. abuse other feelings, steel their time without asking permission etc. And iff You don't want to listen - they think You are egocentric?:-)) but in truth they are because they ignore Your needs and force you to accept their needs immediately now. Anyway I said to my relatives. Well thats me. Take it or leave it. I love You but I will speak , do or involve in any other people needs only when I will be ready for it. No force. And now we have great relationship.

  • @uhmmmFU

    @uhmmmFU

    3 жыл бұрын

    Clumsy isn't the right word. Your brain getting distracted from your current time and place is an entirely different thing than poor motor skills or hand eye coordination.

  • @KAHHHH8548

    @KAHHHH8548

    3 жыл бұрын

    It may just be dyspraxia, a type of learning disability, it's related to autism but isn't. If you're having relationship troubles it might be related to borderline personality disorder. Just a few suggestions

  • @samanthanoellesmith

    @samanthanoellesmith

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@KAHHHH8548 ummm WOAH! Do not EVER EVER EVER diagnose someone online the way you just did. You clearly have no knowledge of what BPD is. And someone having relationship troubles does not warrant such a diagnosis. True BPD is rare, and true BPD is marked by extreme highs and lows of feelings towards someone all within a very short timeframe. You clearly don't have a PhD in psychology, because you wouldn't be making online diagnoses. If you said that to the wrong person that could really mess with their head.

  • @KAHHHH8548

    @KAHHHH8548

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@samanthanoellesmith you're clearly talking shit. Yes I definitely do have knowledge of borderline personality disorder, you don't even know me or what my knowledge is

  • @brendanramsey8311
    @brendanramsey83112 жыл бұрын

    I have high-functioning autism and I was only diagnosed this year, at 21. I wasn't able to finish school because of it, but because of my ability to communicate and my ability to mask, nobody ever tried to help and it was always treated as me just being a disobedient child. I have fairly good social skills. I do some autistic seeming things, like chiming in with huge information dumps about things I hear people discussing, and also tend to go on "rants" at length about various topics. I just hate social situations most of the time. They're very tiring, if I'm out and about for more than about 2 hours I am utterly exhausted and cranky, not to mention unable to further function as a social entity. I tend to be fairly rude when I've got a low social battery, as I've heard some refer to the phenomena. I have an unspecified bipolar disorder and also general anxiety disorder. I feel as if my heart is going to explode for a few hours every day but maintain some level of anxiety the vast majority of the time. I have had some fortune due to my upbringing, however. My father is autistic, about the same as me, but never learned to function well socially. He met my mother wearing sweatpants and a looney-toons t shirt in public at the age of 25. I only wear plain black t shirts and black jeans and boots, every day, and have since I was 13. I do now also wear t-shirts for musicians I like, mostly metal bands but I recently got a shirt for the industrial band Ministry. My mother raised me in a manner as to correct the faults my father possesses, since she believed it was all just personality. I have several special interests. Mostly music and philosophy, but also more specifically I like linguistics, psychoanalysis, chemistry, and various forms of art. I am mostly and artistically minded person, however, since I was never able to be properly educated in mathematics. I hate haircuts. My hair is very long, but I take care of it because I get really anxious about how it looks. It's hard for me to get small tasks started. I have dishes I am supposed to be doing right now. I can't bring myself to do them, it feels like my brain is short-circuiting when I go to do them.

  • @strongindependentblackwoma1887

    @strongindependentblackwoma1887

    2 жыл бұрын

    Damn your comment is relatable, plus i also have long hair (at the elbow). How was your life in school Brendan? mine was like (summarizing): I didn't know how to properly behave towards others, it was like i just didn't know what to do! -> classmates seeing me as a weirdo -> me acting even stranger -> classmates making fun of me -> i hate them -> they hate me. That was truth until i realized thanks to 2 classmates that...MOSTLY OF WHAT HAPPENED WAS MY FAULT IN THE FIRST PLACE, there was something really worrying happening to me since i was a small kid that led to teachers and some psychologists that i was just rebellious and had bad behaviours because hell yes. Btw what your mother saw on your father attractive?....i guess is because he had this charm of: innocency, honesty, and shyness. All that packed into a unique human being ^^. And i'm not even thinking in his earnings back then lol.

  • @tayroarz1108
    @tayroarz1108 Жыл бұрын

    You literally explained my whole existence in 10 minutes.

  • @beans1557
    @beans15575 жыл бұрын

    Having high functioning autism isn’t easy, glad to see this support. Thanks

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @odar9729

    @odar9729

    Жыл бұрын

    What is it like?

  • @fallensoldiertragni5178

    @fallensoldiertragni5178

    Жыл бұрын

    @@odar9729 well if you don't mind me telling you I have high functioning autism and I'm very socially awkward I always have anxiety my depression is way worse than normal and like I dwell on things more than a normal person I would say would like I'm stuck on a break up from 5 years ago still cuz I feel bad about it yeah it's not easy as in you have the assholes on the internet places that will just be rude and call you retarded or I had one that told me that other day oh you're autistic you probably can't even count to 10 and then apparently coming from me taking offense to that she claimed that I would being a victim and I was against autistic people associate like that pretty stupid

  • @fallensoldiertragni5178

    @fallensoldiertragni5178

    Жыл бұрын

    @@odar9729 but there's good things about it too I'm really passionate about stuff like guitar and metal music stuff that I like that's the thing with autism autistic people that you a lot of times I noticed and this is not sounding I hope it's not sounding mean but as an autistic person at least I think that there's stuff that is kind of weird because like for me weird facts about like bands I can tell you the exact year they got together I can name all their songs what when when they came out and everything about it so that's a cool thing I would say is they're really passionate about a lot of things and people kind of hate on them because they know your one-track mind but it's just we're so passionate that we get hyperfixated and that could be a good and a bad thing

  • @Emsliepaperart
    @Emsliepaperart6 жыл бұрын

    This is so encouraging. I was diagnosed with ASD two years ago, when I was 32! My whole life I felt like I didn't belong anywhere. I struggled to form relationships, I cannot cope with having a job and I couldn't cope with large crowds and noises. My whole life I resented myself for not being able to cope with day to day situations the way other people do. I felt like I was failing in life. But now I understand that my brain works differently, I'm super creative, and although I have always been teased about not being able to catch a joke, I can actually be funny at times! I have now come to embrace my weirdness and awkwardness. And it's so true what you said, ASD will not get better with time, and it's NOT something that needs to be cured! Thank you for this!!

  • @alittlepieceofearth

    @alittlepieceofearth

    6 жыл бұрын

    Hugs. I know adults on the spectrum. I have seen this play out.

  • @benflap9374

    @benflap9374

    6 жыл бұрын

    I was 23 when diagnosed, but now at almost 33, I still feel like life is a total joke that's mostly full of struggles... I learned a lot, but you can not change the way people prejudge you or, as said in the video, say things like: you don't look/act like someone with autism...

  • @RedVelvetUnderground333

    @RedVelvetUnderground333

    6 жыл бұрын

    Glossy Bubble exactly this, they will say that's rude, or that's a funny comment, but I just said the truth at the time

  • @ambergreen6714

    @ambergreen6714

    5 жыл бұрын

    Leslie Berner what made you think you should get checked out? I question if my closest child who might. brilant but has some thing that are off ... 1 % education wise.

  • @Emsliepaperart

    @Emsliepaperart

    5 жыл бұрын

    Amber Green Hi. My son was diagnosed, and then I was.

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior Жыл бұрын

    I'm grateful for this video. I'm 41 and last week was diagnosed with adhd and she mentioned high functioning autism. It was actually a breath of fresh air. Life makes so much more sense now. I always knew I was different just didn't know why.

  • @VioletRaya
    @VioletRaya4 жыл бұрын

    I knew that there was always something “different “ about me.. it was very difficult for me to make connections and social interactions. I get overwhelmed just thinking about talking to people. And usually it’s just surface stuff small talk when I do have to. I’m on the Inside looking out. Seeing everyone laugh and joke and relate. But me.. Also I have a very hard time with comprehension. It’s just hard.

  • @abadazadytgaming7200

    @abadazadytgaming7200

    4 жыл бұрын

    X seeds 3 we ed

  • @aaroninclub

    @aaroninclub

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, it was horrible when I always felt I was different to those around me, but didn’t know why or what it was exactly.. It wasn’t until I was an adult when I had somebody approach me and give me awareness for this, and only then could I give my feeling of feeling different a title....Right now I’m hoping to someday get a diagnosis and the recognition that I’ve waited a long time for...

  • @sternarosenfeld407

    @sternarosenfeld407

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me too

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @jcrosslin8

    @jcrosslin8

    Жыл бұрын

    Big same here. Also, has anyone told you that you deeply resemble Tiffany Amber Theisen? (Not sure of the spelling. Kelly from Saved by the Bell lol)

  • @LittleLostBaby
    @LittleLostBaby2 ай бұрын

    The first mistake I noticed in this is the failure to separate melt downs from tantrums. They are NOT the same. Meltdowns are usually sensory activated. It's like an electrical storm goes off in your head and you don't see it coming. A temper tantrum is something that people have, mostly allistic people/children, because they're not getting what they want. This is a HUGE difference. An autistic meltdown has NOTHING to do with not getting that you want. Again, it's like a storm goes off, a sensory overload occurs and no amount of willpower can drop the meltdown which might sound like anger OR sadness OR a kind of fugue state. Meltdowns are hardest on kids when they're with parents in public spaces because the meltdown hits and then the parent is worried about how THEY look. It can sound like they have the biggest spoiled brat in the world but the kid REALLY cannot help it. It's not a seizure exactly, but it's kind of like that. So please, IF you see an adult or kid in an autistic meltdown, please don't mock them. It's possible to hear and sense disapproval but the largest portion of the meltdown is taking everything out of the autistic person. These also occur less commonly in people with mild autism, but they DO happen and autistic burnout can intrude as a result. Some people with autism also have ADHD and/or depression. That's not uncommon at all. Anyway, I just wanted to add to this because it's important to understand that ANYONE can have a temper tantrum but ONLY autistic people have meltdowns. :)

  • @LittleLostBaby

    @LittleLostBaby

    2 ай бұрын

    PS I have had providers specifically discourage seeking ABA therapy. It's been known to actually traumatize the person with autism and create more, not less, dysfunction. I definitely would tell anyone who has experienced trauma to NOT seek that therapy out.

  • @calibum97

    @calibum97

    2 ай бұрын

    I was just thinking that my daughter gets highly irritated with her ABA theripist, as do I, lol

  • @calibum97

    @calibum97

    2 ай бұрын

    My daughter is 11

  • @jeffkaplan8142
    @jeffkaplan81424 жыл бұрын

    I'm crying. So much. You just described ME, like every characteristic about me, Tysm.

  • @hoosiercrypto9955

    @hoosiercrypto9955

    3 жыл бұрын

    I care, brother. Better to find out now then never.

  • @SylveonMujigae

    @SylveonMujigae

    2 жыл бұрын

    All of this information is exactly what I go through! It is an absolute shame that nobody cares or takes me seriously.

  • @azariyahraelynn5957

    @azariyahraelynn5957

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here. I’m a woman so I was able to mask better. I’m happy for you.:)

  • @ya_boy_lilb2073

    @ya_boy_lilb2073

    2 жыл бұрын

    Stop crying Jeff and release overwatch 2

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @sparky1669
    @sparky16695 жыл бұрын

    I just gave up on "friends"

  • @OrangeKnickers13

    @OrangeKnickers13

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sparky me too.

  • @cortezfilms8511

    @cortezfilms8511

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sparky don’t give up because of the ignorance of the general population. There are plenty of people out there that would make great friends

  • @paulnoecker1202

    @paulnoecker1202

    4 жыл бұрын

    Cortez Films no they wont

  • @aidenrhodes4456

    @aidenrhodes4456

    4 жыл бұрын

    Refer to them as acqaintences

  • @Xslices

    @Xslices

    4 жыл бұрын

    I don't think I'm autistic but I do have a mental disability but it's less severe as I've gotten older. It took me 29 years just to make one real friend. Most people are fake better off with few friends or none.

  • @azrielkingdom
    @azrielkingdom Жыл бұрын

    I’m coming terms with this Now for the first time in my life, at 29. Several years ago my friend became a teacher for autistic children and told me she thought I may have highly functional autism because of my mannerisms. Years later people joked about it then I became friends with someone who was very similar to me who was diagnosed when she was a child. It actually gives me relief in knowing that I always felt different because I am literally wired differently. It’s like the missing piece of the puzzle I never came to terms with until now and it’s honestly shaking up my word. It also explains why I’ve been bullied and hated so much by those who misunderstand me. It’s almost as if most people think I’m purposely playing dumb my whole life.

  • @extraterrestrialpenguin
    @extraterrestrialpenguin4 ай бұрын

    I am Autistic, “high-functioning” and 19. I’ve known for 5 years. You’ll probably never see this. but I just want to express how beautifully well done I find this video to be. Almost everything hit the nail on the head and even helped me to understand why I do some of the things I do. My little sister is unaware I have ASD (I’ve been putting off telling her 😬). I have been trying to figure out how to explain my situation in a way that helps her understand I’m not “disabled” or “slow” or any other connotations/misconceptions she might get from hearing my diagnosis. I think this video might just be it. Thank you! ❤

  • @ASLAnissaOfficial
    @ASLAnissaOfficial6 жыл бұрын

    I work with ASD as a music therapist and I cringe at the term “high functioning”. And I’m so happy with how to explained everything in this video! Labeling a child with a nonexistent standard can hurt them. I use Sign Language and PEC with some nonverbal clients and have found that being nonverbal is NO indicator of comprehension or intelligence. And I’m glad you mentions ABA. I know there are some that completely reject the idea. And I know why. I’ve seen how abusive it can be when used inappropriately. But when used appropriately, understanding what the clients needs to develop autonomy, it can be extremely helpful. And I use Floor time! I use it all the time in sessions! When you add musical instruments, floor time can be an amazing experience for both the therapist and client.

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    6 жыл бұрын

    Yeah I know the term "high functioning" can be used in bad ways.. but I am glad you felt I explained it well. Since so many go without the care and support they need, I am just hoping that more people become aware of that entire spectrum and that everyone deserves support. xoxo

  • @cetkat

    @cetkat

    6 жыл бұрын

    I personally like the term "high functioning", but only in reference to the Asperger's part of the spectrum. A high IQ is very common in those who have ASD or ADHD. There's a definite link between the two. Those with ASD shouldn't be underestimated.

  • @ASLAnissaOfficial

    @ASLAnissaOfficial

    6 жыл бұрын

    cetkat I see what you’re saying... the problem is, you can’t separate ASD into high and low functioning AND not underestimate them. By separating the singular diagnosis, you are both underestimating all people labels “low functioning” and possibly over estimating (or ignoring the diagnosis) for people labeled “high functioning”. Someone labeled “high functioning” still has ASD and may need accommodations, but won’t get them because they are labeled “high functioning” and dont SEEM to need them. And vice versa, some labeled “low functioning” are looked over and sometimes left unassisted because it is assumed that they simply can’t do things. The labels hurt more than they help.

  • @cetkat

    @cetkat

    6 жыл бұрын

    ASL Anissa I do believe that in terms of others assigning labels to kids and using that to dictate help and expectations is wrong. It is a spectum and there are other factors like IQ and learning disabilities & styles that further complicates things. You can't just make two categories and treat everyone in them the same. I believe in individualized IEPs. Autism itself is a label though. You wouldn't want to just lump it into a more generalized developmental disability category either. So, although labels can be used negativity, I don't consider them inherently bad. However, I'm thinking more along the lines of adults and using labels in positive ways, for increased clarity, understanding of needs, and creating connections with others who face similar difficulties. In that regard, I see being able to break down the overall Autism label into sub-labels/groupings as helpful.

  • @ASLAnissaOfficial

    @ASLAnissaOfficial

    6 жыл бұрын

    cetkat I agree! But there is a difference between a label and a diagnosis. If using the term to help distinguish need, I’d use different terms. I (and many others) hate the phrasing. A person has their own functioning level. There is no standard for functioning in life. Would you tell someone in a wheelchair that they are low-functioning? Or someone who is deaf or blind? No. So who is to tell them that they aren’t functioning well? It’s a weird phrasing that’s kinda offensive. So in my practice I use phrases like “neuro-typical” and “neuro-diverse”. We all know autism is really just the brain working differently. So someone who behaving in a more typical way, I would say is a little more neuro-typical. Their brain works in a way we understand. I hope that makes sense. ☺️

  • @XavierGreyWolf
    @XavierGreyWolf5 жыл бұрын

    I've always felt that I was on the spectrum, though no one takes me seriously. I have learned to make eye contact, but it is forced and I'm not really sure I am doing it right. It just isn't natural. I am extremely sarcastic, but it isn't on purpose at all. I have to have my house set up a very specific way and if someone changes it, I go in to a meltdown. I live with other people a LOT and if they change their house, I get so anxious and I don't feel at ease in the home any longer. I have a lot of issue with loud and/or sudden noises, touch, social interactions, hugging....so much more. But I can't get anyone to take me serious because I also have C-PTSD and so they just shrug it off as part of that disorder.

  • @soapolt

    @soapolt

    4 жыл бұрын

    I relate to the eye contact part. I forced myself to because I saw somewhere that making full eye contact is good and I realised I wasn’t actually making full eye contact with the people i was talking to. It was weird and uncomfortable but I learnt to mask it because I know that stuff shouldn’t be weird. normal interactions shouldn’t be weird.

  • @thicc_witch8235

    @thicc_witch8235

    4 жыл бұрын

    I have a similar experience! My partner teases me about our apartment because I like everything to be kept a certain way and my standards of cleanliness are higher than his. He says we have the cleanest home out of everyone we know but if there is even a little bit of mess or something out of place I get so anxious I can't calm down until it's fixed. Don't put yourself down about suspecting you have ASD. No one in my family believes me even though I have been diagnosed. Might be worth seeing a specialist and see what they think. Although I saw several therapists over the course of a several years and they all thought I had depression and anxiety instead.

  • @elliethinggoes9952

    @elliethinggoes9952

    4 жыл бұрын

    Waa, i can relate to everything you just said.. I told my dad once about this. And he just laughed at me. And the look in his eyes, I felt very small, as if he thinks what im saying is very insignificant. I still cry myself whenever i remember about this. Idk if i should tell my mom. I just dont know if it can help me. I just want to keep it to myself and act more normal and think more mature as possible. Plus, im also not sure who i can actually trust. Or if i ever meet a doctor, i dont want them to change my beliefs about myself or my autism, im afraid it might just get worse.

  • @nazeem4240

    @nazeem4240

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same!! When people touch me I freak out. When people touch my stuff I freak out. When my classmates are too loud I *_freak out_*

  • @dylangoodman6624

    @dylangoodman6624

    3 жыл бұрын

    I can’t keep eye contact unless I look at myself in their eyes, I tell people about my asd and explain to them I can’t be touched, splashed with water, and they can’t mess with my stuff. I get made fun of and bullied. Since my family can’t afford therapy I throw very bad tantrums and can’t do certain things. Sometimes if I can’t do a few of my routines I will punch and kick and break things.

  • @hannahm753
    @hannahm753 Жыл бұрын

    Just recently I was diagnosed. I'm 22, graduated college, have a job and rent a house on my own. I talked with my psychiatrist about symptoms I had written down and concerns my mother had when I was younger. He seemed impressed and confirmed that I have mild ASD (or, as it would be ten years ago, Aspergers). All of these treatment options sounded very interesting and I may just do some looking around to see what is available for me. Thank you for educating people and myself!

  • @traceysmallwood7489
    @traceysmallwood748922 күн бұрын

    I have ASD. I was a youth worker for 9 years. Have a BA in Psychology, Bachelor of Criminology and Criminal Justice, Masters in Forensic Psychology. I find it easy to talk to people. Regulating my emotions is an issue for me. Music is a huge help for me it calms me down. I'm 56. I have never had any therapy or help. I was diagnosed at 50. I felt so angry cause I showed all the symptoms as a child. 53 years ago they only looked at the male brain. So many woman are being diagnosed late in life.

  • @alaskalife4035
    @alaskalife40356 жыл бұрын

    I have high-functioning autism. Although it has its quirks, it had its benefits (ex.) Enhanced vocabulary, observance, loyalty etc etc ETC!

  • @music-ty5we

    @music-ty5we

    5 жыл бұрын

    If you don't believe thats true your most likely dealing with people deep on the spectrum where it's much harder to see past the barrier most of us put up I've certainly found that people on the spectrum can be very loyal and have advance interest in whatever their area of expertise are, believe what you want but some people on the spectrum are smarter than those that are not and vis-versa.

  • @music-ty5we

    @music-ty5we

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@ziquaftynny9285 what's that suppose to mean??

  • @music-ty5we

    @music-ty5we

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@ziquaftynny9285 OML if you feel superior for being normal you are sadly mistaken

  • @nothinglastsforever0000

    @nothinglastsforever0000

    5 жыл бұрын

    Ziquafty Nny poor soul

  • @seansands424

    @seansands424

    5 жыл бұрын

    until you want relationship with the opposite sex or people want to rip you off

  • @morganr.2368
    @morganr.23685 жыл бұрын

    16 years old and I was just diagnosed. My whole life we missed the signs.

  • @scarlettlasweet

    @scarlettlasweet

    4 жыл бұрын

    I'm getting assessed again soon. Saw a doctor when I was 7 due to me showing a multitude of symptoms but my parents were told I was fine, just needed alone time occasionally. I'm 14 now and everything's just getting harder as I'm getting older.

  • @cheesybread5156

    @cheesybread5156

    4 жыл бұрын

    Me too, i got diagnosed when i was 10 or 11 and I'm 13 now.

  • @alycimjau

    @alycimjau

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same

  • @CaitlinSullivan

    @CaitlinSullivan

    4 жыл бұрын

    28 and getting my assessment now

  • @RaffyPadDT

    @RaffyPadDT

    4 жыл бұрын

    I got diagnosed at 16 as well, and now I'm 20 and still having difficulty to cope with pressure, specifically peer pressure.

  • @jaeline9352
    @jaeline93522 жыл бұрын

    Today I had a huge melt down, I was overwhelmed about the internship. Other people may find it easy to solve but for me, it was hard. I couldn't absorb all of them at once. My family noticed I seem different because I'm throwing my phone and I have a distorted face. When they shoutingly asked me what was wrong, my emotions starts to flood. My thoughts are all over the place that I couldn't speak clearly. They kept saying "WHAT?! WHAT?!" Shouting at my face as if I did something bad or I'm guilty about something. I felt pressure about it that I started ugly crying like a child. My parents got mad at me and they started to say that I need to grow up, change blablahblaI that I have bad attitude, I'm just acting out or being bratty. They even mocked and ridiculed me because I'm being immature for my age.I wish I could control what I feel, I wish they feel what I actually feel. Instead, all I hear is being compared to other kids. They think if they told me hurtful words it will help me toughen up. Thanks to that I feel worse, I feel horrible, I feel miserable. They're not a bad parents, I really love them but I don't appreciate what they did to me. I just hope them to be MORE understanding. Here I am confiding in social media because I have nowhere to talk to. I'm sorry for the long comment whoever will sees this. I'm struggling, I'm a mess and my thoughts right now is not really good. I just wish to be better but I don't know how. I know there's something wrong about me, I'm very much aware about it but I don't have the courage to get help even if I needed it.

  • @sweet_veganmomma4188
    @sweet_veganmomma41882 жыл бұрын

    Although I am uncomfortable with the term “high functioning” I’m very happy to see this video. I did not know I was autistic until age 45! This automatically puts me in the “high functioning” category. I can tell you now, much of my life has been anything but that! After years of abusive relationships, lost jobs, substance abuse and friendships disintegrating…. ASD diagnosis was a huge aha moment followed by a lot of tears. If any of these therapies had been a possibility for me then maybe high functioning could have been achieved much sooner. On a good note, I’ve found my way and am now in a beautiful marriage with an autistic man and a career that works well for me so it is possible but man did I go about it the hard way! Anyway, back to my point. Thank you! Thank you for making a clear video and pushing that NT people need to ASK the needs of their autistic person directly. We are all just people too and have very different needs and personalities.

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @user-ol3dy9rg7y

    @user-ol3dy9rg7y

    7 ай бұрын

    thank you for sharing, I totally relate. I wish I had known earlier in life and that there were high functioning groups in which to make friends.

  • @jameson7300
    @jameson73004 жыл бұрын

    Teachers in all district school boards should actually be teaching kids about this kind of stuff like OCD, High Functioning Autism, Anxiety, and Depression and so on, y'know? Instead of things we'll all probably forget about when we all get home from school.

  • @OhmVibe

    @OhmVibe

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, our current systems of academia are majorly outdated for the 21st century. Technology and many other facets of society have progressed exponentially, but schooling has mostly remained the same for centuries.

  • @legendkillersshittyduffleb932

    @legendkillersshittyduffleb932

    2 жыл бұрын

    They just want workers they don't want us too actually think for ourselves

  • @mikexxxmilly

    @mikexxxmilly

    2 жыл бұрын

    Teachers also need to be taught how to deal with kids with asd 1 instead of sending pissed off emails to the parents because a kid responded in a negative way when they scolded them in front of the class. (Currently dealing with this)

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @REDSTU1

    @REDSTU1

    Жыл бұрын

    I kept asking the schools to help me figure out what was wrong with my child. All they would say is he gets good grades. It took 8yrs before we found out he has Autism and Adhd . I wish just one teacher or counselor had giving me suggestions to look into

  • @ChrisStumer
    @ChrisStumer6 жыл бұрын

    I'm 31 years old and I have Asperger's Syndrome. I was able to get my driver's license and I've been working for over two years now. It was a very good video too.

  • @pixychx2418
    @pixychx24182 жыл бұрын

    I'm an adult mid 30s with a late diagnosis. I had all the other labels (ODD, ADD, Bipolar, OCD, etc) and was misdiagnosed but because I have been high functioning my whole life they never figured it out. Social-zing is still hard, but I am excellent at masking. I spoke to my grandma and she saw it but said they couldn't go against the diagnosis. I thought at least I would have gotten the support I needed and not put on psychosis meds. Finally figuring it alll out a little too late

  • @JonatanAllgulin
    @JonatanAllgulin2 жыл бұрын

    Ultimately what heals is the experience of being seen, met with presence interest and love, respect, accepted, understood, appreciated, in how we are right now... Someone supporting us in being our most authentic selves, both autonomously and intimately, the sense of healthy connection, which our current relationships and society in general cannot give us. Regardless of "diagnosis" or "disorder". It's not primarily the goal, strategies etc that helps. It comes down to every single one, people are emotionally hurt into these disabilities whether its in this life or past lifes, our "baggage and personality". The only thing that "heals" more is the experience of our essential unblocked being. To meet people where they are isn't about meeting them as "autistic" etc, but to meet them in their actual emotions and memories while seeing their essential being.

  • @hiimfrickincc687
    @hiimfrickincc6875 жыл бұрын

    I cried when I found out because all of this describes me to a T and I know I won’t ever get better but it feels good to know what it is

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @ruthlessadmin
    @ruthlessadmin2 жыл бұрын

    I'm 38. This video had me in tears in how much I relate. I turned to alcohol & self-isolation to cope. Idk how to escape this prison within a prison.

  • @stevew1973
    @stevew19732 жыл бұрын

    I am currently being assessed for autism at the age of 48.there's little things that I've been hearing over the last couple of years about autism and thought "that sounds like me". I'm sort of scared, but intrigued what my diagnosis will give me moving forward. I hope I can embrace it and progress in life.i think a lot of things in my life up to this point will make a lot more sense.

  • @DamonLeonin
    @DamonLeonin5 жыл бұрын

    I got diagnosed yesterday at 26 years old. I don't honestly know how to process it yet but I found your video while looking for information and haven't heard anyone articulate how stressful insight into your condition can be. Thank you for making this video, I shared it on my facebook wall so my friends could get informed too

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @jetson_

    @jetson_

    Жыл бұрын

    27 and I just got the bomb dropped on me too. Not really sure what to do with this information. I’ve gone so long masking and imitating other people am I allowed to stop now?

  • @brianmeen2158

    @brianmeen2158

    7 ай бұрын

    @@jetson_try getting diagnosed at 38 - it’s a whole other thing.. there are others diagnosed in their 50s. It’s daunting to look back and realize you have been acting the entire time. Like what now? More masking? Why ? Oh man

  • @bryce3721
    @bryce37214 жыл бұрын

    Breakdowns when extremely stressed isn’t normal?

  • @maddy4180

    @maddy4180

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bryce right lol??

  • @schonlingg.wunderbar2985

    @schonlingg.wunderbar2985

    4 жыл бұрын

    It depends on what "extremely stressed" means to a person.

  • @chancewindham1718

    @chancewindham1718

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@kasandramullins9890 I would hate you too

  • @playgrounddolls7766

    @playgrounddolls7766

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes normal. But it is not an excuse. Have to find out ways to let out anger and confusion in unabusive way. Like boxing bag in room, tredmil, walks, meditation, whatever.

  • @amazinglove4312

    @amazinglove4312

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@chancewindham1718 TF?

  • @ACE360x
    @ACE360x3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for opening the video with an explanation making it clear the High functioning doesnt mean you live with no issues. Here in the UK Asperger's doesn't exist at all and is more often a slur than a diagnosis. Thank you for highlighting the fatigue, depression, OCD and anxiety that is often Comorbid

  • @jcp5890
    @jcp58902 жыл бұрын

    I have spent my whole life on sensory overload until the last 3 years! My whole personality has changed for I can tell I am not as hurried or stressed. Don't let yourself get to busy folks and make time for alone time. And sleep your heart out!! Oh and let go of the perfectionism .....if ya can. That is a hard one.

  • @joldendoves2795
    @joldendoves27955 жыл бұрын

    I think that we're just another race. We get on fine within our own group. We're better in relationships with our own. I am normal, my brain just functions differently. I don't need treatment.

  • @musicwithms.brittney8424

    @musicwithms.brittney8424

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yep. “Some can even have jobs!” Felt so demeaning. Of course I have a job. There’s nothing wrong with me.

  • @Juniperberry1

    @Juniperberry1

    3 жыл бұрын

    I accept you as you are ❤️

  • @ARSD219

    @ARSD219

    3 жыл бұрын

    Something about you saying "another race" doesn't sit right with me. For some reason, it makes me think autistic people function as a hive-mind. I find that a little disturbing. I'm not saying you shouldn't have said that- it's just a personal opinion. (Disclaimer: I'm autistic)

  • @shinobi-no-bueno

    @shinobi-no-bueno

    2 жыл бұрын

    Legit, my theory is they will find autistic people to have denisovan dna

  • @sarahjessicaparkersnose3774

    @sarahjessicaparkersnose3774

    2 жыл бұрын

    Precisely. It’s not that the mind has an issue. It’s like trying to cure the mind of a different species just because it works differently. Everything about every mind is perfect.

  • @ariannabotaku
    @ariannabotaku6 жыл бұрын

    One problem I am having and most of us Autistic adults have is that some insurance companies like Blue Cross Blue Shield of Nebraska believe that basically all of us with autism disappear or are no longer affected at the age of 21.

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    6 жыл бұрын

    Ugh!! That is so frustrating!!! hopefully by talking about it more we can change and improve peoples access to care for their entire lives. xox o

  • @rebeccasrawvlogs3234

    @rebeccasrawvlogs3234

    5 жыл бұрын

    🤦🏼‍♀️ my son had to get rediagnoised every year because they think his ASD will disappear as well. I understand the struggle.

  • @Kit91875

    @Kit91875

    5 жыл бұрын

    I’m from Nebraska too and I agree

  • @drummerchilipepper
    @drummerchilipepper Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! This video is 4 years old, and I'm discovering it now. I've dealt with this my whole life and never knew much about it.

  • @talliwyler101
    @talliwyler1012 жыл бұрын

    I’m on the autism spectrum. I was diagnosed with non verbal learning disorder, ADHD, Dysgraphia, and “symptoms of bipolar”. I sometimes get extremely manically hyper and my mood does go up and down. I wasn’t diagnosed with OCD but I’m pretty sure I do have that too. The social party is such a struggle honestly. I tried occupational therapy for my handwriting when I was younger (I’m 27 now) and it didn’t help at all. Thank god for my bf who helps me out with the social aspect of things 😊

  • @gothboschincarnate3931

    @gothboschincarnate3931

    10 ай бұрын

    you got some ghost stories for me?

  • @kpaxian6044

    @kpaxian6044

    9 ай бұрын

    I am on the spectrum and very intense too. I wonder how much of that is having grown up without accomodations and having a lot of comorbid issues like social anxiety. I also read that chronic pain or sensory overwhelm can cause of over excitability... Imagine a person who is very anxious, right before a panic attack ...they often speak faster, start to pace, and so on. I think the anxiety and the overwhelm leads to physical and mental intensity which can be a way to push back against anxiety by physical distraction, mental distraction or as a sign of anxiety itself. I am much calmer when alone. I exhibit most of this intensity when socializing. I feel you.

  • @ashleywills553
    @ashleywills5535 жыл бұрын

    My daughter was diagnosed with aspergers syndrome at age 7. It's been hard, but she's 14 now and doing great. I hate that she struggles with peers, has joined friends, but she is truely a unique amazing girl.

  • @ciciman3
    @ciciman36 жыл бұрын

    Kati - Do Not use the word "tantrum" to describe a sensory overload meltdown. It gives the general public the idea that it is a choice. (I am an aspie, the daughter of someone on the spectrum, and I have multiple kids on the spectrum.)

  • @theapostleofpeace

    @theapostleofpeace

    5 жыл бұрын

    A tantrum = making a fuss to get your own way A meltdown = overloaded by sensory sensitives and multiple stresses Things really went downhill when neurotypicals appropriated our word. Just thought I'd add to your post.

  • @cityguard4847

    @cityguard4847

    5 жыл бұрын

    Tracy well let’s be completely fair here, in some cases, it is. That’s only in some cases though. Otherwise it’s overload.

  • @bellisperennis42

    @bellisperennis42

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@cityguard4847 As an autistic person myself I strongly disagree! A tantrum can lead to/develop into a meltdown - but a meltdown IS NOT a tantrum! Just as Shanti 'Sanjay' Roy explained above!

  • @sarahpfeuffer1396

    @sarahpfeuffer1396

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes, I agree that meltdowns can be wrongly mistaken for tantrums! thank you for mentioning this!

  • @Nipponing

    @Nipponing

    5 жыл бұрын

    What? Nothing wrong with that word. I don't get the idea that it's by choice, I get the idea of the opposite... Any kind of outrage or whatever is associated with less control.

  • @Quit3Cut3
    @Quit3Cut33 жыл бұрын

    I always struggled with socializing as a child. Took me years to make friends, and even when I did there were still problems. They diagnosed me with adhd as an adult, but I wonder if they misdiagnosed me and it’s actually autism. Sensory overload is a real thing for me, I freak out a lot over what seems like nothing.

  • @annikajohansson9171

    @annikajohansson9171

    Жыл бұрын

    You just described me lol. I got the add (without the hyperactivity), ptsd, gad, depression ..... But now wondering if just high functioning autism because i feel like i would be fine if i spent my entire life as a hermit.

  • @itisdevonly

    @itisdevonly

    Жыл бұрын

    it's extremely common for autism and ADHD to be comorbid. If you have one, it's more likely than not that you also have the other.

  • @nataliem3504
    @nataliem35043 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for your videos Kati. They often feel life saving and are always so lovely and positive and clear.

  • @sarahramsey289
    @sarahramsey2894 жыл бұрын

    i'm high functioning autistic it makes me happy seeing that so many people accept it as it is and don't degrade people who have it i used to get heavily bullied until my best friend from 3rd grade saw me getting bullied and stood up for me and the kids then left me alone :) she's an amazing person and i couldn't ask for anyone better

  • @adriel1478

    @adriel1478

    10 ай бұрын

    im glad autism is more acceptable in modern society. no one asked to be born the way they were we all deserve love n happiness

  • @TheAspieWorld
    @TheAspieWorld6 жыл бұрын

    We should collab...

  • @AUnicorn666

    @AUnicorn666

    6 жыл бұрын

    YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS, is that too many sssss's, you should also work with How to ADHD

  • @MWCG

    @MWCG

    6 жыл бұрын

    I definitely would watch I find both of you very informative

  • @WatchHeadsRoll

    @WatchHeadsRoll

    6 жыл бұрын

    That'd be great!

  • @mikelmontoya2965

    @mikelmontoya2965

    6 жыл бұрын

    The Aspie World YAS PLEASE

  • @doctornobody611

    @doctornobody611

    6 жыл бұрын

    Nick Lane strait to the point huh aspie? Just trying to get a pretty autistic girls attention 😉

  • @dorothykendall-priest4999
    @dorothykendall-priest49992 жыл бұрын

    My daughter was just diagnosed with ASD HFA at the age of 16. After years of fighting the medical system, multiple meds not working, and multiple misdiagnosis (anxiety, depression, etc). We are just so relieved to finally have a proper diagnosis and long term care plan.

  • @Stuckwthme
    @Stuckwthme Жыл бұрын

    For the longest time, I wondered why I could not work a "typical" morning job and only trived working a third shift, quiet job. I thought I was just antisocial, but it's more than that. When I worked during the day, I would come home drained from all the social interactions, I would be irritated and just want to sit in silence. I was being so overstimulated from everythingg in the environment without being able to pull myself away from the stimulents. I love the routine of my third shift (mostly just cleaning and doing tasks by myself.) I also love the silence, not having to interact or have expectations of how I look to others. I can also stem by bringing a small soft thing to hold and squish while I'm working, which is how I like to calm my mind.

  • @radioheadtv3131
    @radioheadtv31315 жыл бұрын

    Explains my life in 10 minutes

  • @chrissarah9174
    @chrissarah91746 жыл бұрын

    the way she says "welcome" always makes me so happy idk why

  • @azarx5915
    @azarx59152 жыл бұрын

    i was diagnosed at a very young age and I never thought to get help for myself. thank you. i cried during this video. my sister is an aba therapist. thank you for your video

  • @a7c777
    @a7c7772 жыл бұрын

    I’ve sent this comment on another video about music and autism but i want to repost it here because i think its the most elaborate way i have ever explained what it’s like to have autism for me: I feel like music is a life saver for people with autism. Mainly because its a portable media platform that can have simple stimulating or soothing beats/rhythms or even complex poetic lyrics that can be enjoyed without a specific technique/pace expected to be appreciated by the listener. These genres, volumes, sounds and even bpms can be chosen at full control to the listener and can be skipped or played on repeat to their desire. This is a huge contrast to living in a normative social space where you’re expected to listen to people and respond in “acceptable” rules to hold a conversation and be charming or appropriate. As someone with ASD myself, to neurotypical people i would describe social interactions and social masking like “speaking to people with an annoying static radio playing at medium volume in the background that only you can hear. (At least for my level of ASD,) It’s not impossible to tune out this static noise to concentrate on your conversation with people but its pretty frikken distracting/exhausting and requires a LOT of energy to do when it’s something you cant control or turn off.” And sometimes the only way to drown out that static, is with music. It’s not that autistic people dont want to talk to people or dont like people, it’s just that it’s VERY frustrating to talk to people and speak as “normally” as you’d like with this distracting stimulation thats in your head. As for stimming, If you have ever been frustrated to the point where you want to hit something or whatever, that’s basically the feeling autistic people get when they need to stim. Stimming is like unloading all that frustrated energy into a soothing physical outlet in a way that isn’t violent or destructive.

  • @lailakirkham
    @lailakirkham4 жыл бұрын

    I’ve always shown symptoms of Aspergers when I was younger, it was so severe when I was younger, because of this I got bullied heavily and I learned how to mask it. I became so good at hiding it, that even my gp and school didn’t believe me. It’s caused my anxiety, and I’ve never had an older female role model who I knew to be autistic. So this made me both happy and cry, thankyou so much for this 😭

  • @micaholson7293
    @micaholson72934 жыл бұрын

    What makes me angry about Aspergers is that when people hear that you have it, it's like they have the reaction of, "I'm so sorry." And basically a lot of people treat you as unwanted, like your life is over. I'm trying to get into the mindset that what I have doesn't bother people if I don't brood over it. I actually do have a good job and I'm making good passive income on the side. When it comes to relationships though, it's very hard. I work at home. And as such, I barely need to deal with anyone.

  • @RandomSkyeRoses

    @RandomSkyeRoses

    4 жыл бұрын

    What's your business and how long have you been working?

  • @elizabetqueen7566

    @elizabetqueen7566

    4 жыл бұрын

    True Its better to keep that info to yourself. Try and build more confidence if you believe in what ur saying or doing without worrying about anyone eles things will get better for you

  • @MrWeAllAreOne

    @MrWeAllAreOne

    2 жыл бұрын

    Asperger's isn't a thing...what you are describing is high functioning autism....which I have btw. Asperger's is a posh way of saying a child is not autistic. X

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @YenPeregrine

    @YenPeregrine

    Жыл бұрын

    @@MrWeAllAreOne It's not posh... You might want to watch the video again. Asperger's was a commonly used term used until 2013 by the WHO. It is still used commonly now, and is a diagnosis in some countries... It said it in the video you are commenting on. How did you come up with this?

  • @biohackshq4072
    @biohackshq40728 ай бұрын

    understanding and supporting individuals on the spectrum is a step towards creating a more inclusive and empathetic world. Keep up the great work!

  • @whatthefuckisalommy9854
    @whatthefuckisalommy98544 жыл бұрын

    My God... I've always felt different. People said many times over the years I was too mature for my age, I'm depressed since I can remember. As a child I talked very little, being scared even of conversation with a family member. For example when my parents dropped me off to my grandma and she was asking me questions I only shook my head or nodded and never spoke. I'm 24 and still struggling with people, noises, crowds, small talk and all the shit. My family was too poor to diagnose me as a child and honestly... I live in Poland and I don't think they would find a proper doctor here in those times. Reading about autism has brought me some sort of relief. I hope it's not rude to say it and that diagnosed people won't feel offended, but I strongly believe I have autism and I'm so scared of actually hearing the official diagnosis. I'm scared of being even more rejected by people. Edit. I can't look people in the eyes, it literally hurts me. I have a job and I have no idea how 70% of my co-workers look like. I have many obsessions, such as when I like an actor I have to see all of his films and series. I also collect vinyl records and books. I like spending time alone. I feel better since I got myself a dog, because he makes me go outside and overall improves my mood.

  • @luckygirl1able
    @luckygirl1able5 жыл бұрын

    This is absolutely amazing. I’m 19 years old, and there have been certain, what I thought of as “quirks,” I noticed that I did that made me different from other people growing up. I’ve tried for years trying to understood why I was the way I was, as my parents have no knowledge or even respect for the existence of neorlogical related disorders. Unfortunately they peg those people as making a decision to be how they are. One day I stumbled upon this concept mentioned in this video, and suddenly it all made sense. I’ve come to terms with how I am now. It’s amazing the impact raising awareness can make.

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @britneybain8383
    @britneybain83835 жыл бұрын

    I have it too and I often find myself being frustrated with myself at work and in everyday life😩

  • @celestinae.8847

    @celestinae.8847

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same

  • @redrwby8135

    @redrwby8135

    3 жыл бұрын

    It sucks because i am more toxic online but I try not to be

  • @NancyHernandez-hx1hj
    @NancyHernandez-hx1hj6 ай бұрын

    I’m somewhat on the spectrum, and I have a physical disability on top of it, there are days where I don’t even want to be inside my church because it’s so loud and people often speak very loudly, nobody seems to understand that. A congregation that I was at almost 2 years ago basically treated me like I’m crazy because being understood is another problem especially within communities that don’t even want to do their research. I have never been able to fully talk about that previous situation with anybody, but I do know that I am a very different person. I do not like changes I don’t like crowded areas I’m like unless I’m standing in a corner or in the side. However, I am pretty high functioning. I live on my own, in spite of my disability and my brain health.. as for being uncomfortable with people,, yes, especially after seeing the way people acted with me over a year ago

  • @kaleido9631
    @kaleido96313 жыл бұрын

    I was dx'd with mild/high-functioning ASD as an adult, and now I stim every day for an hour or so, and it really helps a lot. And sensory management has been really helpful, too. It's been one of the biggest reliefs to have the dx and actually know why I am the way I am, and how to calm myself.

  • @XSpecxify
    @XSpecxify5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, this video have showed me that i have had this disability all these years and never knew it i always had questions in my mind but i never thought that it was something strange. This have now unlocked a piece of a puzzle in my body and i am eternally grateful for this to have showed up on my KZread recommended list. And also Kati Morton, Thank you for spending you own time to research and providing it to everyone else who have access to the internet. I am about to turn 24 this year (actually in 2 days) and i am about to make some major differences in my life.

  • @waifubreaks1572
    @waifubreaks15724 жыл бұрын

    I don't know, I don't have any friends, I never really learned how to communicate with others.

  • @hoosiercrypto9955

    @hoosiercrypto9955

    3 жыл бұрын

    I'm your friend. We have to stick together. Not let the real crazies hurt us anymore.

  • @LycanVikin
    @LycanVikin10 ай бұрын

    When I give up on life. Videos like this give me hope that I might just, get help I need. Than I remember I don't know how.

  • @mathiasszenko
    @mathiasszenko3 жыл бұрын

    I wish I had someone like you when I was younger.

  • @MicahBuzanANIMATION
    @MicahBuzanANIMATION4 жыл бұрын

    I didn't talk until I was 3, I lined objects up for hours, and I was always lost in my own world. I never got diagnosed with anything - but as an adult, I relate to so much of this. My social skills are pretty good though. I'm shy but easy to talk to (though I have to remind myself to make eye contact - over time eye contact doesn't feel awkward anymore).

  • @albertocampos9593
    @albertocampos95934 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for explaining this, I’ve been told by 3 doctors that I’m a highly functioning autistic person. When I was a kid I told was diagnosed with adhd but a lot of the feelings you described were on point. Especially on the feeling overwhelmed and exhausted as well as really anxious.

  • @Savageshadow777
    @Savageshadow7773 жыл бұрын

    Thankyou. So much. I needed this more than anyone knows.

  • @yoniversum9416
    @yoniversum9416 Жыл бұрын

    wow. i could hear you for hours and i dont know why. I like your clear, direct and empathic way of speaking, every word is easy to understand 😊

  • @needtoknow1989
    @needtoknow19896 жыл бұрын

    So I like my job because it doesn’t require much in person communication. I tend to prefer staying at home then going out. I don’t mind speaking in public but I have to know what I’m going to say first, spontaneous conversation/ small talk is uncomfortable. I remember in a highschool English class 15% of our grade was class reading discussion participation. I never participated because by the time I figured out what I wanted to say, we were on to the next topic and I felt stupid going back. So then midterms came about and we had to read a banded book and do a in class report. That I was able to do. The teacher later saw me and told me he was surprised and that he was worried I wouldn’t show up for it. But while he was talking I felt anxious, I wanted to run but then I also didn’t want to attract attention. I’ve just figured I’m an introvert and socially awkward. But then I think of times like this and wonder if it’s something else. But then it’s not really interfering. Well maybe at least not daily. I didn’t attend my moms funeral because I was terrified of what I would say or how to respond to things people said to me. I also felt awkward because everyone would be crying and I couldn’t find a reason to. To me she wasn’t suffering anymore so I didn’t think her death was something to cry about. I wasn’t celebrating it either. It just was what it was. So anyways long story short I’ve always just thought I had social anxiety but is that different from not knowing how to take part in social situations.

  • @lisagren
    @lisagren6 жыл бұрын

    I got diagnosed with aspergers syndrome after 2013, but I live in Sweden and here some professionals use the ICD, and not the DSM. So the ICD still has Aspergers syndrome I guess.

  • @mikelmontoya2965

    @mikelmontoya2965

    6 жыл бұрын

    Lisa Gren the next update of the ICD (ICD-11) won't have Asperger's Syndrome anymore as a diagnosis either. It will just say ASD too

  • @Katimorton

    @Katimorton

    6 жыл бұрын

    Oh that's very possible.. every country has different diagnosis and manuals they use. xoxo

  • @Araanor

    @Araanor

    6 жыл бұрын

    same here. got diagnosed last year, i live in Denmark.

  • @lisagren

    @lisagren

    6 жыл бұрын

    :D hi neighbour

  • @NekoOxO

    @NekoOxO

    6 жыл бұрын

    Heey im swedish too!!

  • @CheyennefromTaos
    @CheyennefromTaos4 жыл бұрын

    A lot of this indicates high level empathy and trauma reaction. Im a mental health therapist but suspect im on the spectrum despite being an extrovert.

  • @powerofediting1657
    @powerofediting1657 Жыл бұрын

    I have high-functioning autism, and it’s great to see people talking about that. More often than not, when people talk about those on the spectrum they like to talk about those who are pretty far on the spectrum, and they don’t think about those who have high-functioning autism, those who may not be as obviously spectrumy but are still a little different in their own way. Thanks for talking about this!

  • @colonchan4353
    @colonchan43535 жыл бұрын

    They said I'm on the spectrum. I love to go on festivals and clubs to spend time with people. I'm high school student and I want my own flat after school and job. I want family when I became older... But I am always depressed and anxious. I hate it. The only struggle this gives me is the diagnosis. No one takes me serously... And I'm so... Lonely....

  • @zootycoon2king
    @zootycoon2king5 жыл бұрын

    I have higher functioning autism and I just started my second year of university despite being told by teachers at school I wouldnt ever reach uni because of my GCSE grades. I feel over the years my autism has gotten better thanks to my mum who drilled it into me how to act around people and how to socialise properly and also teaching myself body language and stuff like that by reading books and reasearching it. there is hope for people with ASD and we can achieve so much Im studying a subject I am passionate about to get the career I want and Im with a partner who understands my autism. great video kati keep it up 😊

  • @Imadroidgirl
    @Imadroidgirl3 жыл бұрын

    🥲 finally there is an accurate description of what my daughter deals with on a daily basis. I can't believe we have pinpointed it and can get help. It's been a long rocky road

  • @PepinoG699
    @PepinoG69910 ай бұрын

    This was the best video Ive ever found...Thank you!

  • @madigangang
    @madigangang5 жыл бұрын

    I've wondered for years if I have high functioning austism. Most of the time I could care less about social interactions, but have a lot of anxiety when I have to engage. I'm extremely selective in who I like to interact with. I have a difficult time understanding people I'm not familiar/comfortable with. For example, I only know my mother in law is joking when she gives a "oh come on," verbal cue. In high school my grades were slipping, which my parents assumed was because I was too focused on gymnastics. When they pulled me out, school got so much worse. Shortly thereafter and ever since, we've assumed I'm ADD.

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @jerihill4739
    @jerihill47396 жыл бұрын

    Okay, so I have ASD and a lot of autistic people are trying really hard to get rid of functioning labels so while I appreciate this video it hurt a little bit to me for someone I admire so much who does research was still using functioning labels. Everything you said was very true though. And I do appreciate that. I experience SO, and I also have Auditory Processing Disorder due to ASD and C-PTSD. But yes. I would have "high functioning" autism overall but some things I do and happen would mean I am "low functioning" autistic because I am incon, and find it hard to drive/get a drivers license. Which is why functioning labels dont work. And yeah. I just. I dont what to think of this. I also noted you used a lot of person first language, while some autistic folks like it most of us do prefer disorder first language - which you used sometimes. Thank you again for this video but I noted when you said you did research you didnt say you spoke to Autistic people but to parent blogs and a lot of parents of autistic kids do not do well. Therapies are awesome and I am actually looking into aquatic therapy! (And I am training to be a music therapy) Thank you for not mentioning autism speaks though because they are AWFUL and need to be shut down as soon as possible... Im sorry uf this is all over the place. I just didnt know how to feel. I love your videos Kati and i hope that as you learn more about ASD you discuss more.

  • @mikelmontoya2965

    @mikelmontoya2965

    6 жыл бұрын

    Kei Hill I agree 100% with you i everything you've said in this comment ❤️

  • @leitenperger

    @leitenperger

    6 жыл бұрын

    I'm diagnosed ADHD but suspect I might be on the autism spectrum as well. I've been trying to get educated and been reading a lot of blogs by autistic people. From everything I've learned so far, I totally agree with your comment and was also disappointed with some aspects of the video.

  • @mikelmontoya2965

    @mikelmontoya2965

    6 жыл бұрын

    L Leitenperger it wasn't that bad, Kati's always being a bit reluctant about talking about ASD, and she's always said that she didn't really know that much about it, but I think a lot of her followers have ASD (I do too) and a lot of us requested her to talk about the topic. I honestly thought that when she finally spoke about it, it was gonna be worse than this, but it was actually pretty good

  • @marisadaniela6

    @marisadaniela6

    6 жыл бұрын

    I noted the parent blogs but lack of autistic adult and teen blogs, too. And i am right there with ya on the rest of your insights. I love Kati and her videos, though, and don't hold this against her as I'm sure she just isn't aware of these topics that are discussed widely within the autism community, but unknown outside of it. Kati, if you see this, check out the Autistic Self Advocacy Network. Many self advocates have blogs!

  • @jerihill4739

    @jerihill4739

    6 жыл бұрын

    I am sure she just didn't know, but I feel if she wanted to know about autism she should go to autistic people first. But I still love her and support her.

  • @enfieldjohn101
    @enfieldjohn101 Жыл бұрын

    Good video that lists so many options for helping people cope with daily life, and maybe even become more independent and successful. I'd not even heard of most of these. Thank you.

  • @gailhandley4974
    @gailhandley49743 жыл бұрын

    I am so pleased I happened to come across you today

  • @amyrosalind285
    @amyrosalind2855 жыл бұрын

    This is such a great video so far. This is helping me understand and accept myself so much. Thank you for posting this!

  • @MH-ys2cx
    @MH-ys2cx6 жыл бұрын

    I like how u explain things & the weather is nice

  • @ToHalcyon
    @ToHalcyon2 жыл бұрын

    The thing is, I have no idea how much eye contact I make or if I know when to speak or if I don't know when to stop talking because I've spent the past three years of my life just not talking to anyone out of fear. I thought I had social anxiety or that I was just weird but I relate to this video and I took a few tests and now I'm starting to rethink my whole life.

  • @DanniGSD
    @DanniGSD4 ай бұрын

    As a “high functioning” autist that’s now unmasking after being trained to act human from 2 years old, all the concepts you’re talking about are really thought provoking about even just conversations I need to have with myself But I will say, the term high functioning has caused me a lot of pain because I had absolutely zero accommodation for most of my teen years, it’s kind of a label of “you’re not so inconvenient we don’t need to worry about you” AT LEAST in my community at the time And I learned very early that being convenient meant being loved which is only just now unraveling Like previous diagnosis with outdated terms, don’t shame someone for using the term, but I’d rather not spread the usage of it

  • @empresselizabeth4310
    @empresselizabeth43105 жыл бұрын

    I recently found out I am on the autism spectrum. This video was amazing thank you for making it. Not being able to communicate the way I want makes it so much harder to explain how autism feels to the people around me and having this video to show them makes it so much easier for me. Thank you for being the voice for people who can't get their point across.

  • @juniormako6184

    @juniormako6184

    2 жыл бұрын

    Reach out to Dr Oyalo on KZread channel for herbal and complete autism cure for kids. his herbs helped my son he is verbal and autism free now

  • @curiousbystander9193

    @curiousbystander9193

    Жыл бұрын

    consider diet change

  • @DanielMartinez-bn5gh
    @DanielMartinez-bn5gh4 жыл бұрын

    Past 4 months I’ve been taking my 3yr old daughter to a Speech therapist and OT she is delayed in her speech, toe walking still. And does not like to get messy although she is very particular She will be evaluated for autism some time this year we are on a wait list. This video was so helpful, and took a lot of stress off my heart. This is an awesome outlet to help educate not only parents but the entire world 👏🏽🧠

  • @kylebrotzel
    @kylebrotzel3 жыл бұрын

    Yesterday was Autism Awareness Day! I have High Functioning Autism. I can tell you there are many challenges, but also many rewards. I get overwhelmed in the blink of an eye; especially in any loud environment. Some of this also came from a slow development in social skills. A great example of this would be a wedding dance with loud music and lots of people. I'm very much a creature of habit. Many of you may hear that those with autism are often highly intelligent. I’m a big believer in this being true. I have a high intelligence in tv, movies, and books. Although it is only the ones I'm interested in. Growing up, I would repetitively watch the same movie THREE TIMES per day for at least A MONTH. I'd lose himself in the movie to the point of him becoming one of the characters from that particular movie.

  • @SylveonMujigae

    @SylveonMujigae

    2 жыл бұрын

    This explained why I was so scared of fireworks. Some people say I am dog-like and I am not normal, but I am autistic and experienced a traumatic event back in 2010: a sudden blast of fireworks by an ASU game after a touchdown. I was in Tempe Beach Park that night. That is why my mom couldn't take me to places like Disneyland or 4th of July celebrations.

  • @brittanybruton3874

    @brittanybruton3874

    2 жыл бұрын

    This describes my son right now. His hearing is fine, but he plugs his ears when things are loud. He cries a lot, too. He also watches the same movies and listens to the same songs over and over. He just got diagnosed with stereotypes (like stemming) so we’ll be following up with our pediatrician.

  • @roni1451
    @roni14512 жыл бұрын

    Wow, you're pointing out all the areas I've noticed in my life. I've been looking into setting up work accommodations and just doing a little research watching some videos as this.

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