Friends and i try to ask each other, “do you have the bandwidth for this right now?” Before venting. It’s a great practice.

@naomifowler5224

4 жыл бұрын

That is such a fantastic phrase! Thank you for sharing it!!

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

I love that you guys check in with each other first. That’s such a healthy habit to have in friendships 💖

@KittysHealingParlor

4 жыл бұрын

I love this , so respectful in a like a, cool, hip way hahaha 🔥❤

@TheKairosCollaborative

4 жыл бұрын

I love that!

@danicag.1310

4 жыл бұрын

Same! I always try to ask my friends is they have the time and energy to listen to me about x thing Sometimes in the moment I forget, and I have some friends that say they’ll always be there to listen no matter what but it’s always nice to ask before

I love how you're branching from just talking about DID to other things that are not talked about as much. Its fantastic.

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

I feel like it’s not possible to cover one mental health topic without spreading into others. There’s so much overlap!

I grew up believing that giving and giving emotional labor was the bare minimum to be a “good sister/daughter/person”. Learning to set boundaries and rest is so hard, but I’m so glad you made a video on this topic!

@TheInfinitySystem

4 жыл бұрын

Same. Our 'mother' was a relentless narcissist and you just nailed it. She is also no longer part of our lives due to the toxicity.

My soul-sister (friend) and I had a deal that if we knew that we couldn't handle the emotional labour that it was ok to say no, and the other person would accept that as a part of looking after ourselves. One of the things my friend would say is "please look after my friend Kiri". She expected me to care for myself, and she taught me to accept that she was looking after her emotional health. It was one of the most healing and growing relationships I had.

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

What an amazing friendship!!!

@lookitsdebby

4 жыл бұрын

I'm sad you wrote this in past tense, hope you guys are ok!!

@celebkiriedhel

4 жыл бұрын

@@lookitsdebby She died of throat cancer almost 2 years ago. We were friends for 18 years. I didn't want to say it in my top reply, because I didn't want to bum people out.

@Rainy-In-The-Desert

4 жыл бұрын

@@celebkiriedhel I'm so sorry for your loss 😭 you'll see her again someday

The giving of excessive gifts etc is sometimes referred to as love-bombing. It's often a narcissistic/gaslighting behaviour, used to trap an individual in a relationship or community.

@erinlovescheese

4 жыл бұрын

oh! i just learned this term recently when watching a doc on cults.

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! That’s very true. However, sometimes people give gifts simply because that’s the way they show affection. My message is to that kind of gift giver.

@erinlovescheese

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheEntropySystem i think you explained the difference well. :)

@tuckettk

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheEntropySystem I appreciate the message - I love giving gifts because it's a way to show people that I care about them (and demonstrates that I know them well enough to pick out something that they really want.) It always felt weird to me that some people didn't seem completely happy when receiving them. It felt like rejection of me as a person and of our friendship. It took a close friend sitting me down to talk about it for me to begin to understand why, and this video helps too. It's something that I'm working on! And though I feel sad going to a birthday party without a gift in hand, I know that's what some people prefer, and making the other person happy on their day is the point after all!

I feel like this also applies to those of us with things like aspergers/ASD. It's exhausting to keep up small talk, maintain eye contact, not stim, etc in public for the comfort of others. But I do it so I don't freak people out. I know how it feels to be made uncomfortable by someone else's actions so I don't want to so that to others. But it does mean I'm not as social as people would like. It's give and take.

I have CPTSD and ADHD....I spent my whole childhood (unawares) expending great amounts of energy on Emotional Labour to mask my deficits and my trauma/abuse. Then as an adult continued to do that and try to live a full neurotypical (That's what I thought I was) life. 25 years of that and at 43 I am a wreck, can barely bring myself to care for my basic needs, clean, go out....I just hit a giant empty wall and couldn't do it anymore. I have been diagnosed now and am starting to get help. Learning to turn down the volume on how much EL I do is key to me being able to control my emotional dysregualtion and keep myself physically and emotional balanced so I can have a better quality of life. Love

I’ve had this conversation among my online friend community about understanding sometimes the person you “expect” to be there for you isn’t able to perform the emotional labor at all times, and you can’t just write them off as bad friends for it.

You have been such a valuable resource and y'all will be missed. Thank you for everything. I don't have any words, other than the truest: you are valuable, valid, and loved.

I definitely related to the part about explaining/teaching others about your disability to others. I am autistic, and I love to teach people about what that means, but sometimes it can be very tiring to have to explain things like stimming or overstimulation to every person who I come in contact with. I wish I could just exist without constantly having my reality questioned or invalidated by people who don't understand. Thank you for talking about this, Wyn!

@rory4623

4 жыл бұрын

I have ADHD so I relate to the stimming and over (and under) stimulation and it can be exhausting to explain.

@nemnyoom

4 жыл бұрын

i think masking counts as emotional labour, too. in order for other people to be comfortable, we have to put our own needs of sensory input aside

@catphelps94

4 жыл бұрын

Nemnyoom I totally agree. I’ve just recently realized how exhausting and overstimulating school is for me. I put in so much effort to contain myself there, but I still regularly have shutdowns and nonverbal episodes. It’s hard to be neurodivergent in a world that’s made against us.

@anonnymouses7134

4 жыл бұрын

The look on their faces when I explain that sometimes I stim to cope with understimulation in one of my senses while avoiding something I’m overstimulated by. Even worse when the sense I’m seeking for is triggering to the one of avoiding. It’s like I’m explaining astrophysics.

Thank you for providing me with words for what most of my energy goes to. I'm currently in the middle of mental health self care and a part of that is taking time alone to recover.

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

Good luck with your self care and healing

Oh man this video hit me hard. I can’t go into a lot of detail because I don’t wanna doxx myself, but I can tell you how exhausting emotional labor is. I wished so much that I could just relax and talk normally with my peers, but I always had to be smiley, positive, and never express a negative thought (and if I absolutely HAD to express something negative, temper it with comedy). When I was finally alone, I was so exhausted and would always let out a breath I didn’t even know I was holding. I envied my peers who didn’t have to carry that emotional burden, and who didn’t even realize what I was doing for them. All that to say, if you’re in a situation where you’re constantly performing emotional labor, it’s not only okay but necessary to take time to yourself to decompress. You’re not being selfish. And Wyn, if you see this, your hair looks amazing!! You look like a badass anime chick!!

@FaithsLifeOnFilm

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate so much to what you shared. I hope you’re doing well

I have never heard of this before but I think it's very important. I'm a black person and I always have to make sure by smiling or laughting that sentences and jokes are funny even if I think they are discriminating black people. I was always told to smile and make others happy even if I don't feel like it. Emotions are so important and you shouldn't have to always hide them for the sake of others.

Ok I'm SO glad there's an actual term for this! Because it's so true, and will help me explain why teachers and childcare workers should be paid more. That is NON-STOP emotional labour right there! Also I'm in LOVE with your hair!!! Ugh it's so cute!!! - Daisy

I'm so sorry The Entropy System has decided to stop making videos. I appreciate the videos you are leaving here, and while I wish you well, I hope you will return someday. Best wishes to everyone in the system, thank you for the informative, funny, smart videos.

I love that you addressed this topic! I have a history of spending too much emotional labor on everyone else and not saving any energy for myself (childhood survival strategy). It created a lot of one-sided interpersonal relationships and attracted more toxic people. I've been working hard at this issue for a long time, and it's starting to get a little easier. During this pandemic, my partner and I talked openly about my energy issues. We made a promise to look after our own needs first, then if we have enough energy left for support, we can ask the other if they need help, emotional or otherwise. It's been AMAZING in these stressful times. I used to do 95% of the emotional labor in the relationship a couple years ago and now it's more like 66%.

Thank you Wyn. This is so true. My system and me have been doing this relentlessly since the body was 9 years old. Now 25 and after our 25th birthday, we said no. Time we think about us. Since then the EL ( Emotional Labour ) is leveled out with self care. - Harlem, 25, host

@harlieghholmez1302

4 жыл бұрын

I know what you are saying. For me though I've been doing this since I was 4 years old. I feel like if I think about my self, I'm being self centered. I don't know how to stop, because its hard for me to stop. I have learnt how to be an adult from the age of 3 and emotional labour is something I'm good at. I have been trying to keep everybody happy for 22 years and yet its hard for me to show my own feelings. Harlem Holmes your my twin and if you ever need someone to help out. Call me and I'll come.

First of all, love your hair. You look amazing.

@Alydragon

4 жыл бұрын

Came down to comment just that

Such a great topic to address, and I love how it has a broad scope for all, even as you explain it through the lens of your personal DID journey. Well done! Thank you for this. ❤

I have definitely felt this. There were times friends became too much for me and I didn’t know what to do beside taking a break from them, and then felt awful and did everything I could to correct it because they needed me.

I really needed a word for this. Thank you. My entire family uses me for emotional support without reciprocating, and it wears me down so much - now I at least have a way to describe it.

A really good book on emotional labour is “Care Work: Dreaming Disability Justice” by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha if anyone wants to look deeper into it. It was a reading we had to do in one of our classes and it was my introduction to care work and emotional labour.

@percivallavoie4415

4 жыл бұрын

I've met Leah, magnificent human being!

Excellent information as always! Love your videos! Also, thank you for allowing Leia to make appearances. We love her so much!

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

It’s less that I allow her to make appearances and more that I’m powerless to stop her 😂

I think recognizing emotional labor is a big step for self-care and recovery. I grew up hearing "In an airplane crash, put on your mask first because you can't save others if you're not breathing okay yourself" and it hit hard. It is hard work to pretend to feel a certain way, but it's good to recognize your own feelings and be aware that you deserve self-care too. We all deserve a break sometimes, and it's okay to keep boundaries

Recently got diagnosed and this channel has helped more than u will ever know, thank u guys for always sharing and being such a caring amazing system💗

This video couldn't have come at a better time!! It has helped me put into words many of the thoughts I didn't know how to express!! THANK YOU!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Your hair looks AMAZING by the way!!

This just made me cry. As I’m lying in bed thinking of the work I have to do for my students. I have to record instructional videos today and can’t get out of bed. Cause I know I’ll have to put on a smiling face and sing happy songs.

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

Sending you love and healing. I hope you’re able to rest soon.

@anacrus2

4 жыл бұрын

The Entropy System thanks! After watching your video I was able to record all my videos and my songs. So hopefully the kids in my county will enjoy their music lesson next week. Every time I messed up and made a mistake and wanted to crawl back into bed I remembered your words and kept going. Thank you!

I always describe myself as a social introvert - someone who loves being around people but gets exhausted by it very quickly and then needs lots of time alone. But maybe I just perform too much emotional labour when I'm with people and that's why it's so exhausting for me. As a system we always put on a unified mask no matter who is fronting. Even I as a host do it. And because of our trauma it's hard for most of us to be comfortable and relaxed around people. We always try to be as pleasant as possible, attentive, fulfil expectations, force emotional response even when we feel numb and disconnected (especially around family and old friends with alters that have lots of emotional amnesia). so maybe people don't actually exhaust us, we exhaust ourselves around people.

I am living for this hair cut Wyn 🥰😍 Gorgeous! Fits your face, you look great!

If this is true, I've been emotionally digging ditches for years. And years. And years...

This was so good to learn about! Explains why I'm sick of talking to people right now, cause there's a lot of emotional labour involved with a lot of my current relationships. It's nice to know the actual reasons behind things and not worry about me being weird. Thanks!

I needed this like... 6 years ago, and I'm so happy about the fact that this video is going to help at least one person. Thank you for making this.

I learnt about the concept of emotional labour (the social side mostly) with a video by Sarah Z a few months ago and it's a very interesting subject, thank you for that video. I've had to set boundaries for myself before with a friend that I genuinely want to help but whose messages and tweets can be a lot. A bit triggering even... And it's hard to do that without feeling like you're a bad friend but it's important because if you're too overwhelmed it doesn't help them either.

I appreciate that you took the time to make this video because I have never heard of this concept and have now learned something that I can use in my everyday life. Thank you for your videos and take care, much love. X x x

Thank you for covering this, its making me look at myself differently and respect the labour I've done for people and give more grace for the straight of emotional fatigue and anxiety ive gotten from it.

I don't know if or when you will read this. You once said that after being diagnosed, you found Multiplicity and Me. My system found you. Thank you so much for everything. We will miss you and I hope you are well and can stay that way. Hopefully we see you again sometime in the future but if not, please take care. You don't know me at all, but I care about all of you. Your system walked mine through an incredibly difficult transition to accepting multiplicity. Be well and thank you again.

This is the main reason I cannot bring myself to get a job at this point in time. I am a Pre-T trans man who gets misunderstood as a woman in public, and that emotional labor of masking/trying to hide myself for the sake of a manager, customers, family, etc, is just way too exhausting for me to handle anymore. Thank you for talking about this, I feel a little less alone now.

Thank you for covering this topic! It’s something most people don’t think about, which can make it hard to set boundaries. Learning to stand up for myself and not feel super guilty about it was something I had to work through in therapy. It’s really important for people to know they have the right to say “hey, I know you just need to vent sometimes, but I can’t help with that right now.” You gotta recharge your own emotional batteries, you can’t always be giving someone a jump

This is a great way of articulating the exhaustion that I often feel from certain kinds of personal interactions. Wonderful video!

This video called me out, grabbed me by the head and told me take a break oops. Thank you, Wyn 💜

I love the intro so deeply, holy moly. I'm a mostly secret (diagnosed) DID system host and that intro was.. just beautiful. 10/10.

Back in the late 80's this was called 'seizing your personal power'. The idea being that we all give part of our 'power' (look, it was the 80's and New Age was BIG) away each day and that we also ALLOW it to be taken from us involuntarily. So once you realize(d) that, you were more in tune with the 'flow' and could be more firm about marshaling your resources for what really matters rather than allowing your 'power' to 'bleed off'. Same basic principle as the Spoon/Fork Theory- just purely on an emotional basis. Thanks for another thought provoking video! PS: Hair is CUTE!

Great wake up to a new video by you! Going to watch now

I never thought of my empathic behavior as emotional labor. It's something I'm working on more now and since I have more time to rest than I did living with my parents my mental health had gotten so much better. I hope I don't ever put emotional labor on someone else without asking first. But I might have. Thank you for bringing up this topic!

Wow! This is something that is never talked about, we’re so glad you made this video! 💗

Thank you for making this video Wyn. We hadnt realized why we felt exhausted sometimes and this helps us to know how to change that and grow and heal. We are so grateful for your videos. Theyve helped all of us a great deal. -😊 Kay

Thanks for covering such an important topic. It needs to be addressed more then some people know. 💗💗💗

I am the too empathetic person I'm sometimes afraid to contact my friends because it's tiring my ex would rant to me constantly and would yell at me for feeling as though she was the only thing holding the relationship together when my mental state was too bad and I tried taking a break

@silverdeer2515

4 жыл бұрын

Ive learned that if you have real friends you dont need to be at 100 with them or even cheerful. It helped me alot to let my friends know I was in a bad mood or anxious, etc. Friendship needs to be a 2 way street

@therookesystem3930

4 жыл бұрын

@@silverdeer2515 yeah my best friends are super open with me and I them I legit couldn't ask for more I just don't have a good history with people

@silverdeer2515

4 жыл бұрын

@@therookesystem3930 I'm so glad 😊😊 it helps so much.

This was such an amazing video! I'd never heard of the term emotional labour, but I think this sums it up amazingly! All your videos are fantastic, and this one is no different! Thank you for this!

Terrific job of explaining this! I’ve learned a very useful new concept, thanks to you. It certainly explains why I have ZERO interest in socializing when employed full-time!

My parents could always learn a thing or two about "emotional labor". I swear, when they ask me to do something, and I don't respond w/ 1000% enthusiasm, they think I'm mad. It's great! I fucking hate them.

Your hair looks so fluffy and fun. You are fabulous xx

This popped up in my subscriptions scrolling, and I realized tomorrow will be the 1st Monday after y'all parted from the public eye. Y'all will be on my mind tomorrow, sending love and positive energy. Hope you're enjoying the freedom!!!!!!

At the risk of discounting the rest of your videos (which i truly love) this is my favorite video...hands down and i think its in my top 5 of all time favorite videos on youtube. Thank you so much for this!

Is this how codependency can be developed if no boundaries are set

Well said! Big implications for those in the helping fields.💜

Only a minute in but this seems super cool! Thank you guys for doing what you do. And your hair looks amazing!

Another interesting and informative video 🤗 I'm really excited 😍

Thanks Wyn, for an excellent description of emotional labor and the cue to be mindful of how much we are putting out may cost us. Being aware helps avoid burnout! As a therapist who is both multiple and physically disabled, your comments struck home in several ways and seeing your video today was incredibly timely. Keep up the amazing work and keep taking good care of your selves!

I had a period of time recently- I'd say around two months- where my entire life was nothing but constant emotional labor. 20 hours a day, it didn't matter if I was in school, trying to work, with my family, someone was always needing my help and attention. It exhausted me to the point where I couldn't feel anything anymore. Some of these people treated me like absolute garbage, but I just smiled and said it was all okay, consoled them, because I could no longer feel upset. It was just empty. Numb. Nothing was left. I got out of it, but sometimes I wish I could go back. It's the only time I've ever felt appreciated by anyone.

This was a great video! Thank you so much for making it! I think emotional literacy and understanding is something the world needs more of, and this video is a great step forward! ❤️❤️

I now have words for what I've been doing for my brother. He's been having a rough month and I knew I was getting tired and frustrated but now I know why. Thank you!!

So the reason I'm good at customer service, is because I'm good at something called emotional labor? And the reason I'm good at emotional labor, is because of all the practice I've had from hiding mental illness? ... okay, then. I always felt like my illnesses had to with me being good at customer service, like making me more sensitive and stuff. But i never had it explained so simply. Dope. Also. I wonder if all the emotional labor from everything is the reason I'm constantly physically exhausted, too.

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

Emotional labor is definitely physically exhausting.

@TheInfinitySystem

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. You've got nothing left for yourself. Seems weird, but in order to help others you have to learn to be selfish. 👍

you totally nailed this. very well done. (the hair looks great!)

I’ve actually never heard of this concept before, but it’s super resonant. As someone with bpd, this concept is especially tricky for me to navigate because I’m often completely out of emotional bandwidth but have to keep doing life anyway, and the misunderstandings that come from that can be rather devastating at times. It’s hard to explain to people you can’t be there for them emotionally when you want to be without compromising your own mental health, so you have to choose between running yourself ragged or feeling like a bad person. Thanks for introducing me to this concept, you’ve given me a lot to think about.

This video is something that is greatly needed during this time. Thank you.

Thank you, i never thought of it as labor and that i need rest, and that not everyone is ready to receive the "work" that you want to put into some relationships more than others, it scares some people, we just have to realize there is a healthy balance for everything ❤❤

Love the t-shirt. :-) Thank you so much for discussing the topic of emotional labor. It's really important for people in general. And you've done a great job educating about it.

i love your bangs!! really gorgeous. the topic of this video was very helpful and insightful, so thank you for sharing.

Thank you for explaining to me why I'm so tired and why I feel guilty for being upset "for no reason"

What a wonderful message, I really needed to hear this today THANK YOU

Gonna miss u all

You have, yet again, caused me to think more about my friendship with "The Tribe". My love language is giving so in one sense, I have lots more fun giving to four separate people in the same body (and occasional hmphs because I'm a solitary) but I'm putting each of them to emotional labour by constantly giving. It doesn't help that I'm financially somewhat better off than they are so I CAN give (relatively) big things. I'm going to have to think harder about my behaviour and maybe institute some sort of rationing. That's the best word I can come up with atm. Thank you xxx

i really needed this video. thanks a ton, yall always come through for me when i need it. imm trans, gay, vegan, disabled, and autistic livving in the bible belt, so my life is veeerrryyyy emotionally laborous lol

@pattiwicksteed3731

4 жыл бұрын

I really hope you have a positive image of goblins (and slugs) because if you do, your name is EPIC!

@somedude172

4 жыл бұрын

@@pattiwicksteed3731 heck yeah!! i rescue slugs from my grandparents yard before they put poison out if that tells you anything lmaoo. thank ya kind stranger!!

@pattiwicksteed1809

4 жыл бұрын

@@somedude172 When I had a vegetable garden I used to send the caterpiggles on flying lessons (into the overgrown bit about two feet away). :D

Really enjoy watching and rewatching your videos.

This is a very important message... In more ways than one. Would you allow me to share this? I will, obviously, give you 1000% of credit! Thank you Entropy, John

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

Oh of course!!! Share away :)

@johnaskings527

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheEntropySystem danke!!!

Woah, I really needed to see this thank you so much. I have terrible social anxiety and it’s getting to the point where I don’t even want or care to interact with people anymore because it is just so exhausting. I had no idea that “emotional labour” was a concept and I’m so happy to have stumbled upon this video. I will definitely be doing more research into self care techniques and how to set boundaries, (I am sooo terrible at keeping my boundaries, they crumble at the slightest push back) because I miss having close relationships with my friends and family. I’m tired of letting my anxiety win!

Thanks for covering this. Much like dissociation being a normal thing but constantly dissociation is not. Putting on a happy face for a crappy gift is a small and often beneficial thing. Putting on a happy face for your whole life results in a schism that can ruin any enjoyment of anything. I am speaking from the experience of currently trying to hold on to the pieces of my soul before I give them all away. This was timely and I needed to hear it. I struggle so hard with emotional labor boundaries, until it reaches a breaking point where I just dissociate entirely and end up "not caring" at all and turning numb in the face of anything I feel requires me to labor emotionally. Love you guys. Always. Thank you for making me realize I am an Us. My life has improved so much over the last year. I got my first job at age 28 and I can partly thank you personally. Take care

After this video, after two years, I finally understand why I have a burnout. I'm autistic and very empathetic and somehow I make people feel like they can tell me anything, but because of my autism, that social interaction is so exhausting. This gave me some really good insight into why, so thank you for that!

Not only have I done a lot of emotional labor putting on a happy face in front of family when mental health is bad because they don't understand but I've also been working a lot with littles lately and me being the caregiver I am have had to learn when I need to take a step back.

This video is giving me language that I need! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

I think your gift metaphor is more emotional manipulation than labor, ie. the person gives you a gift and maybe wants your affection etc. in return.

@TheEntropySystem

4 жыл бұрын

There definitely are people who use gift giving as a form of manipulation. Not everyone who loves giving gifts does that, though. Gift giving is a love language and so some people give gifts to show affection.

I really enjoyed the video, it was very educational. Thank You for the work You do!

I just heard you might leave KZread. I hope all is well. I will miss your videos and thanks so much for being there in the first place. You helped me tons!

Wow! This is so validating. Thank you.

Thank you for what you do and thank you for who you are.

Great video!!! I love your videos!! Keep up the hard work!!!

Only just learnt this will be your last video. Really ending it with an exceptional video - though all your videos have been amazing and done a lot of good. We’ll miss you but we hope things are better for you soon

Thank you for this educational piece, You made it clear and concise and helped me massively with my assignment

Wait... what? You're leaving? Say it isn't so! But if it's true, totally get it. System health has to come FIRST. But we want to thank you for helping us along our journey since our Dx last year. Your channel and system 'clicked' for us and the content and information you provided was without price. Your System spurred ours into starting The Infinity System channel to address Male Body Systems and Older Male Body Systems. It was your example that has helped us to begin turning a terrible experience into something positive. You began a ripple. We're picking up another stone and throwing it into the pond in your honor. Thank you so much. Love from our system to yours. Be well. 💕💕💕🌻

Yes! I love your hair too, it looks great!!

I had to pass on a trip to Africa because I was experiencing post traumatic stress. I would have been going as an interpreter for a deaf couple. This couple had known me as a child. I learned ASL to be able to communicate with them. And they were the ones who invited me. I was not approved to go because my family thought I couldn’t bear that emotional labor. It was difficult for me to accept.

Great video about a great topic!^^

Idk why but I’m totally digging your makeup in this video. Beautiful 😍

Emotional labor is actually a big reason why I developed the alters I have. In the medical field at my young age you had to be a certain age to be diagnosed with autism. I read my medical history and school history to find out the school and drs 100% believed i was autistic but because I was just out of that age to be officially diagnosed I was never diagnosed. Growing up in a time where being nerudivergent was unacceptable I had to expend so much emotional labor and deal with traumatic home life that expended even more emotional labor my mind developed did in order to cope. I never had a resting period where I could reset my el so in order to not have a mental breakdown (which was a traumatic thing for me) I developed a way I could have that rest period.

Your hair looks so great!

An ex friend was extremely bad at making it clear that we were exhausting them with emotional labor. They cut us off completely with no explanation as to why (I believe because we had been too open and taking their listening for granted). It really hurt and too this day was one of the worst moments of out lives to hear that they refused to talk to us again. If they had just come out and told us that we were stressing them out with all out venting, then we would have stopped and found other coping mechanisms. But instead it boiled over to the point that they got so annoyed with us they completely shut down the friendship. I guess the moral of the story is to please tell whoever is venting too much that you need a break from emotional stuff

Thanks friends!😊💕

As soon as you went over the examples of emotional labor, subscribed. ( hair stylist of 10 years)

I loved the video!