I have a Fortune 500 job and decided to go public with my ADHD for the reasons you said.

@rcre7052

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations... How did it work out for you?

@cameront8539

3 жыл бұрын

I also have non-hyperactive ADHD and I'm in my final semester for a tech degree. I was diagnosed a few years ago at 25. If you don't mind giving your opinion, do you think ADHD is a topic that should be brought up at a job interview? I'm not looking for a 40hr/week coding job or anything else that seems incompatible with ADHD.

@rcre7052

3 жыл бұрын

@@cameront8539 in my opinion that won't benefit you it will only hurt you.. why not tell them some of your strong points...?

@FelicityCrabtree

3 жыл бұрын

@@cameront8539 see my earlier comment on the video, you should consider mentioning it. After all, you surely want to work somewhere that will accommodate you and be willingly mindful of your needs 😊

@imonymous

3 жыл бұрын

@@rcre7052 Unfortunately I have to agree. This is not something to bring up at an interview. Hopefully in the future when you have proven your value you can share that but at the beginning you're just telling them they're taking a probably unnecessary risk in choosing you.

I hate this conversation >> "I just want to know why you do stuff. Nothing you do makes sense." > "You're just making excuses"

@rosamy2017

3 жыл бұрын

Anyone who asks you this is already being a jerk. You don’t have to explain yourself! It’s no one else’s business! Hugs, friend ❤️

@astrogirl133

3 жыл бұрын

I feel this so much.

@rayge

3 жыл бұрын

*I think you just don't care or are being lazy* ME: wants to slap the crap out of someone

@IncendiarySolution

3 жыл бұрын

@@JustMeAllDayEveryday the rage cry is inside. The people who bring this up are asking for an answer then rejecting the answer I give them.

@penelopefp

3 жыл бұрын

Feeling it with you!! You are in the right place to be understood and APPRECIATED!!!

the school system makes us fail . we already have a disadvantage because we think differently, but they can’t give us that extra time or help because it would be “unfair to the rest of the class” . it’s unfair for us already :(

@---nj7hl

3 жыл бұрын

In the US, you can be assessed by the school and have an IEP plan or a 504 plan. But its better to have one that is independent from a public school if you feel it was not correct. Good luck and Blessings. Hopefully there can be a video of how one can better Advocate for oneself. Learned all about these due to my children.

@davidfrend

3 жыл бұрын

I've failed so many classes because of my ADHD symptoms. I learned and understood the material, but, because I had a hard time organizing myself, homework fell by the wayside. There were some professors who were gracious, who worked with me, who knew that I was learning the material even if I was learning it differently. But I also failed many courses even if I understood the material because I didn't learn it the way they wanted me to or in the timeframe they wanted me to. I would ace the final and fail the course because, even though I understood everything in the course. It took me six years of trying and trying and trying before I finally just gave up. I'm unsure if they'll even let me back because of how much I struggled. Many schools won't let you apply of you've dropped out from other schools, which keeps people like me from even getting the chance to try again. I want to succeed. I want a degree. I want all of that, but I want to be able to do that in a way that doesn't leave me depressed and disillusioned.

@Audrey-on7si

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I think that was especially true for high school. At least in my experience, college is more understanding and they are more willing to give extensions

@davidhoran7116

3 жыл бұрын

Break our legs and ask us why we can’t run

@drashna

3 жыл бұрын

Don't blame school systems, at least in the US. The gov't has massively failed the schooling system (and in some regards, intentionally). I have a number of friends that are teachers, and they do their damnedest to try and help every kid no matter what. But there is only so much you can do when your school is (intentionally) underfunded

I was diagnosed in my 50's. My life is like one of those movies with an unexpected twist. The kind you watch for a second time and say, Oooooh! That's what was happening! Thaaaaaaat makes sense!

@outerheaven2k7

3 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed a few weeks ago, 39 IT'S CRAZZY

@annacclare

3 жыл бұрын

i really like your youtube/math vids, looks like they’ll be helping a lot of people especially as they look adhd friendly to my eyes ☺️ keep at it!

@billy_wastaken1603

3 жыл бұрын

I found out I had adhd in grade four and that was hard for me this channel helps people like adhd brains :D

@MathAdam

3 жыл бұрын

@@annacclare Hey, thanks! I hadn't thought of them that way.

@zebraroniancheez

3 жыл бұрын

Age 31 and just walked out of my first consultation for ADHD testing.

It took me 30 years to figure out how to explain my ADHD to someone...Since you're around I don't have to explain myself...I use your videos to educate friends and relatives...You already made my world More ADHD Friendly...

@jojo-wy7yq

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. I finally understand myself and my husband is starting to get the gist of it as well. I get more confident to explain to others as well without excusing myself. Thank you.

@therealraysiel

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. Only problem is only a couple of people I know speak English here :(

@dwood2love

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! I have sent this channel to some families of my students, to my own family, and even to my husband (who has since been diagnosed combined type ADHD)... They are so helpful to explain my experiences AND for ways to try to adjust and get things done! Or to even understand why "failing" is ok sometimes.

@Twintertainment

3 жыл бұрын

Annnnd now I'm crying 😢. I am the first in my family to get a diagnosis, and I have a feeling that with time my siblings, my dad, and my grandmother will follow. This channel has helped me understand, and now I just want to help the other fish swim.

@juandanieldobreespinosa7506

3 жыл бұрын

@@andreat184 Recompila la informacion con la que mas te identifiques y se sincera con tigo misma. Cuenta tu experiencia y lo que a ti te funcciona. No tienes porque ser una copia de Jessica. Si hay algo que he aprendido en la vida es que para triunfar en cualquier campo hay que ser un poquito diferente y por suerte nosotros lo somos desde el nacimiento.

Phrases that drive me crazy - "You can do this, just try harder!" "I know you're smart and capable, so, you've got this." "You speak so well and seem so well-educated, I'm sure you can do anything!" "I know it's not cuz your lazy, but......." "Maybe stop spending so much time on social media and you'll get things done." "Just do it!" Sigh.

@sophiekerr8964

3 жыл бұрын

"It's that damn phone! Always on KZread, always listening to music!"

@honorcollins6962

3 жыл бұрын

The phrase “just do it” genuinely makes me cry

@brianamoth4238

3 жыл бұрын

omg the your smart phrase is so annoying

@MiriamMillen

3 жыл бұрын

@@honorcollins6962 , I'm so sorry to hear this! People not understanding and then making you question yourself even more can be devastating.

@adriannafitzgerald3252

3 жыл бұрын

"Just get rid of distractions in your environment" respectfully.. as long as I have the ability to think I will be distracted

I was recently diagnosed at 25 - I'm a straight A student in university and at one point I had my accessibility advisor essentially tell me that my accommodations will be hard to justify because I'm doing so well. It was so frustrating to have to explain to her that I do well, but it shouldn't be this hard - I shouldn't have crippling anxiety everytime I have an assignment, I shouldn't feel like I'm going to die everytime I have an assignment. It was such a difficult conversation to have to explain that yes, I do well, but it shouldn't be so hard.

@amyl4142

3 жыл бұрын

My doctor here in the UK told me I couldn't have ADHD because I did so well at Uni and became an Architect..... I couldn't believe it. So people with learning dificulties are what..... not meant to do well?! It implies that anyone with learning difficulties wouldn't be able to get good grades or a good job, and really reveals a serious ignorance from a healthcare or accessibility advisor. Needless to say I had to change doctor!

@BornAScout

3 жыл бұрын

I didn't get diagnosed until university for the same reason. I wonder how many of the "coping" methods I employed in grade school were just anxiety induced to make up for something I didn't even know was wrong

@Backwardsman95

2 жыл бұрын

What accommodations did you request out of curiosity? I'm realizing several traits I have line up with ADHD. I made it through college with textbook procrastination, but I don't know what I could have done differently.

@locsoluv94

2 жыл бұрын

I don't know where you go to school, but i don't understand why accommodations are difficult to get if one is doing well. I was already doing well when I was diagnosed with narcolepsy. When i went to student disability services to get accommodations, the advisor didn't even care that i was doing well. One of the best accommodations i got was just the professors being more understanding and compassionate. This is an old comment, so i hope that you got the accommodations you needed.

@nikajarred7588

2 жыл бұрын

Amen! I'm very smart, but graduated high School late. If I'd have known I had ADHD when I was younger, then I probably graduated at least on time if not early. I justso glad that I know now, before starting college. I'm going to be spending Spring and Summer learning how to work with my ADHD and not against it.

What I wish the world understood about ADHD is that sometimes your struggles are invisible to everybody around you. We sometimes put on “masks” to overcompensate for our symptoms, and it might even look like we are doing amazing, but when you try to open up about your struggles, people just take it as a joke, or worse, they dismiss your concerns because *they* have never seen you struggle

@elevenoutof10

3 жыл бұрын

exactly this!! It's already hard enough for me to admit that I'm struggling and then when I finally do, people don't take me seriously - just because I'm so good at faking competent!

@victoriazwergmaus9813

3 жыл бұрын

🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼 i feel u

@CaitlynSpencer

2 жыл бұрын

@@elevenoutof10 Amen!

@blacksnakey2537

2 жыл бұрын

Oh yes, i have told my terapist about my struggle to make my homework because I get distracted so much, and she say "Well yeah, but I dont think is that bad, you still get your homework done" yes, i do, after i spend 5 hours in a homework that should be just 20 minutes.

I am from Pakistan and I can vouch for the need for the world to be more ADHD friendly.

@ShayanAli999

3 жыл бұрын

Here from Pakistan too! Couldn't agree more,

@BilalAhmed-dg6ve

3 жыл бұрын

Pakistan born, from Australia. A lot of people in Pakistan don't believe it exists.

@adhya3114

3 жыл бұрын

An Indian here! Yess, that seriously needs to happen soon! Sending love to y'all!

@ghassankhan7728

3 жыл бұрын

Pakistani too - move. They're intolerant about a lot of trivial things.

@sandypradeepk5799

3 жыл бұрын

@@adhya3114 adhd girl from India. Totally agree with u

I'm a university professor with ADHD and I want EVERY instructor out there to know about Universal Design for Learning. Making curriculum work for everyone is possible.

@suryanshshrivastava4681

Жыл бұрын

Hey congrats

@3dchick

Жыл бұрын

I am, too, and watching so many of Jessica's videos has made me determined to give a talk on campus. Too many of my colleagues are inflexible and, frankly, uncaring, and I've had it up to my eyeballs with students in my office crying became they've been shamed or humiliated or put down because their brains don't follow whatever procedure or policy that they literally can't do. I try every day to normalize neurodiversity, make my class adhd and other ND friendly and it costs me nothing. Super frustrated my much better paid colleagues can't be bothered. (ok, to be fair, many are great, but my institution does nothing about the ones who are terrible).

@muditafeeler8271

8 ай бұрын

​@@3dchickthank you for being this way!

@neomawzz

8 ай бұрын

I’m from nz and I had never heard of it before seeing this comment

@muditafeeler8271

8 ай бұрын

Universal Design!

The hardest thing to ask for help with, is when you "fail" at something and your parents tell you your never gonna go to college like this, you need to try harder, you just don't try. And it hurts so much, but I don't understand why.

@billy_wastaken1603

3 жыл бұрын

Same with me but there’s a bright side to know what we need to work on and then we can feel good about what we did and accomplished and that’s the best part about it.

@GingerIntrovert

3 жыл бұрын

I think it hurts because you ARE trying. You're trying as hard as you possibly can. But it often might seem like it's not good enough.

@rosamy2017

3 жыл бұрын

No no no your parents are wrong! College is easier than high school in a lot of ways. You have a little freedom to pick your own schedule, which means you can wake up later and have several hours between classes to eat, nap, study, or just relax. Most professors grade much less harshly than high schools do, so as long as you try your best you should do the same or better than high school. College is also about more than grades! It’s about transitioning to an adult, making friends, and figuring out what you like outside of your family. There’s also no shame in not going to college, going later, or taking longer than 4 years to finish. You do not have to fit into a one-size-fits-all box! You can make your own box!

@JustMeAllDayEveryday

3 жыл бұрын

watch her video about rejection dysphoria !

@Wet_Paper_Eater

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly my dad knows I want to be a vet he always says “if you get bad grades you’ll never get to vet school”

I was a gifted child so my ADHD wasn't a big problem in my childhood and I wasn't diagnosed until I was 19. Instead, all my life as school became harder and harder to follow I was told by everyone around me that I was just lazy and wasn't trying because I knew I had the potential, but I wasn't using it. I heard it so much, that I just started believing it myself. My diagnosis was the first time in my life that i actually started learning about ADHD and the first time I didn't feel misunderstood in my way of thought, but more like I finally understood myself. It was a huge revelation for me and I feel like if my surroundings were more ADHD friendly maybe I would've been diagnosed earlier on or at least not have struggled as much.

@s2cnappl

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds exactly like my story...😟

@brianpickford3031

3 жыл бұрын

Same. I was smart so I didn’t need to be tested then my sixth grade teacher said, “I think your daughter has ADHD.” Most people I know think I do but my parents won’t let me get tested, because I function normally so what’s the point in getting tested. I still want to cause what if I’m not. I want to know, ya know?

@pauline_f328

3 жыл бұрын

Whoa, same age! I'm 19, realized recently there's no way I don't have this for tons of reasons. Getting myself a diagnosis soon though hopefully, because I'm obsessed with not lying and it would feel like a lie to claim to be something when I haven't been officially diagnosed, but not saying I have it would also be a lie because it explains so much T_T

@brianpickford3031

3 жыл бұрын

@@pauline_f328 good luck!

@pauline_f328

3 жыл бұрын

@@brianpickford3031 Thanks!

Caught in the middle of a meltdown caused by homework built for neurotypical brains and exhaustion from work . Thank you for always reminding me there are other fish, and were improving our ocean

@Zay_M.

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn’t have said it better myself

@sew_i_did5257

3 жыл бұрын

OMG that was me on Monday this week. Not. Fun! It's super hard trying to get a neurodiverse brain to work with a neurotypically designed environment.

@jenniferschmitzer299

3 жыл бұрын

Umm is that like forgetting to do homework and being able to answer on the spot in class and the teacher is constantly disappointed at you or leaving school projects to nine o’clock the night before it’s due and have a meltdown?

@audriasullivan4353

2 жыл бұрын

I am having that moment right now. I am trying so hard to make this fit into my brain and it is just not working.

@Aroacerat

10 ай бұрын

YES! And school starts next week so ima get more and more.. It takes me anywhere between one and two hours for 15 math problems at home, and I don’t do any of it at school. (Homework at my school is work you didn’t do in class. In math, this means everything.) It is too distracting! I promise, mother, I TRIED to do 30 minutes of math in 30 minutes. I just couldn’t.

Imagine if one could work whenever, as long as they fill 40 hours a week🤷‍♂️ And if people were more forgiving of small mistakes 🙃

@Mr6Sinner

3 жыл бұрын

I’d probably end up working 2 days a week

@brendonmorehouse2889

3 жыл бұрын

This would be epic, but this wouldn't work in most industries. Think about manufacturing, retail, healthcare, emergency services, etc. Those would not work on a loose schedule

@mintbrownieangelfish-6114

3 жыл бұрын

That's the problem. Some easy mistakes actually have really negative consequences for the company/group. We can't just ask employers to let us off the hook if we forgot something, but it's also a guaranteed that we'll forget stuff, probably often, at least until we know the job completely. I don't really have an answer for how to fix it because it's a tricky situation.

@LukaJacov

3 жыл бұрын

Zemljače

@jocl88

3 жыл бұрын

40 hours a week? Ling Ling says 40 hours per day (I'll excuse myself now)

I'm so glad you mentioned the 'Tell me of a time you blank' questions. When I first left school, it was really hard for me to find work and I vividly remember a telephone interview where a lady asked me this and I had no answer so I tried to find an example from my life and imagine I came across as very insecure at the time. A nightmare of a question. x

@rev.rachel

3 жыл бұрын

Ugh yes. I’ve always struggled with those questions, and I had no idea it was an ADHD thing until this video. I had to write down example stories on a piece of paper for a big interview recently just so I could remember what on earth to talk about.

@vivianho7252

3 жыл бұрын

Ah yeah that's why I have a bunch of anecdotes in a word doc tagged with themes that they could represent like "a time where someone on your team messed up" or "a time when you showed creative thinking" etc etc because if I wasn't prepared, I would probably choose whatever first popped into my head and it probably wouldn't be relevant.

@goma3088

3 жыл бұрын

I loathe those questions but I never thought of it being a memory issue (in part because I have an excellent memory for random things) but always chalked it up to inflexible thinking on my part. I always feel like I have to find something that matches perfectly with their questions, and tend to interpret the questions incredibly literally, and I have a hard time trying to remember what the POINT of the question. It's definitely helped to prepare example stories and then try to figure out how they can be tweaked to answer questions that might be worded slightly differently (but are getting at the same concept).

@jaboulhosn3809

3 жыл бұрын

Omg yes!! 💯 Like honestly, I can’t tell you what I had for breakfast 3 days ago.. 🙄 another thing; my jobs stress me out so much that I try HARD not to take my “work home”... I used to, go home and vent about an awful day, reviewing details of events that triggered me.. but I just ended up carrying that bad energy home. So, no.. interviewer I CANT tell you a time because the way my brain is set up.. it filters that kind of data.. stores it in a recycle bin that get emptied out daily. I see you boast about diversity and inclusion, So tell me... why should I work for YOU?

The worst is when you meet someone else with ADHD at work but they are KILLING IT compared to you and then you just feel even worse about yourself.

@recovered4life

3 жыл бұрын

TOTALLY I'm feeling this one right now (newly diagnosed, age 45)

@darcielong3210

2 жыл бұрын

There are different kinds of symptoms for different people so that other person may just have symptoms that match better with the job. You’ll need your own modifications.

@ingeborgomahony5744

Жыл бұрын

If this is in any way helpful, see if you can find a person with ADHD who is successful and ask them to be your mentor. I didn't realize this myself but having that link to where you are now to where you want to be is so powerful.

@user-something19

Жыл бұрын

don't compete with them, learn from them

I really wish my college professors didn’t require my video camera on during zoom. I get fidgety and have a lot of texts while working at home and I don’t feel comfortable being on camera

@hobihope2981

3 жыл бұрын

Have you tried talking to the professor about it? Sorry if that sounds basic or condescending, but I used to suffer in silence with my ADHD issues too and after I told them what was up, they've been incredibly understanding! Like maybe dont ask to have your camera off all the time, but ask if you can turn your camera off once or twice per class so you can run around/fidget

@rev.rachel

3 жыл бұрын

That’s valid. It’s tough to teach when you can’t see someone’s face-but if you learn better without the camera on, that should be what matters more.

@naomiworth4551

3 жыл бұрын

I totally get this! Fortunately this wasn't required by my tutors but it was expected and I felt guilty turning it off. I just couldn't sit still and I also get tics in my neck and shoulders which make being on camera tough. Nice to know I'm not alone

@Madamoizillion

3 жыл бұрын

You probably won't see this, but asking for accomodations is a totally expected thing in college.

@Toyon95

3 жыл бұрын

Do you think you could email and ask them? Maybe say something like "I need to move around a lot/fidget when I listen to the seminar so I can focus better. But I'm afraid that would disturb my classmates- would it be posseble for me to have my camera off?" You might even suggest having it on for the beginning of the class just so the teacher can see you're there, and then turning it off.... For me this feels like a thing the teacher should be able to be flexible about if you ask nicely.

This channel is making the world more ADHD friendly. Parents being able to learn about their child, and people getting to learn about themselves is really helping. Having a resource that is ADHD friendly to learn is amazing! Many of us can't read really long long research articles. Also, being able to send these videos to people to explain why we do things when we can't even explain it ourselves really helps a lot of us. Thank you for that.

As someone who is trying to get an ADHD diagnosis (currently undiagnosed) and working at a bank, I teared up when you talked about how much the bank worker helped you with the forms. I help customers as much as I can because I know money and everything around it is crazy intimidating and overwhelming. Especially when you're already dealing with what life throws at you. This is very affirming to know that maybe the things I do actually help people out more than I thought. :)

@elfrog98

3 жыл бұрын

Literally same, I'm a teller being taught how to be a universal banker, and it's intimidating 😓 but I do the same for people, for the same reasons you said

@malittlekitteh

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for doing what you do to help the rest of us 😊

"if there is anything we have learnt from covid is that the world can change".........that's a powerful line

@MsDogleaf

2 жыл бұрын

Extremely to know that it’s even possible

Thank you so much, I got fired two weeks ago because I wasn’t fast enough due to my adhd. Hearing you talk about wanting to make the world more ADHD friendly is so important

@displayname9538

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you're doing okay 💕

@kristinlee19

3 жыл бұрын

Been there!

"These people want my business" is a very helpful thought. I don't have ADHD, but I'm not entirely neurotypical and I have a hard time asking for and ordering things. And remembering that businesses prefer dumb customers over no customers makes a big difference.

@dianarojo-jewell6091

3 жыл бұрын

And kind, dumb customers at any business are never a bother (unless the employee is literally just mean because it’s their job to answer questions anyway)

@josephineddarling5051

3 жыл бұрын

I really would like you to hear this because a lot of people don’t know this and it’s important You are either Neurotypical or you are not you can not be in the middle

8:07 The question that I absolutely cannot answer when asked is "where do you see yourself in X years?" I guess it's supposed to be a question about future goals and ambitions, but I can barely plan for a month ahead, let alone 5 years or whatever.

@lizchambers9893

3 жыл бұрын

I was turned down for a job opportunity some years back because I couldn't answer that question the way that they wanted.

@fadibokinno3465

3 жыл бұрын

I dont think adhd has to do with this. I have a goal

I don't have it together either. It's relatable. Especially when you have ADHD. It makes me feel better that you're not perfect because I've watched so many motivational speakers who seemed to have a perfect wonderful life after they took steps to have a better life and I've felt horrible about myself, but now I know, I'm not alone. Thanks Jessica. (:

@billy_wastaken1603

3 жыл бұрын

That’s true your not alone even when it seems like your alone and by yourself in a room filled with people your still not alone in the world and that’s good! I like to look at the bright side :D

@happymaskedguy1943

3 жыл бұрын

Motivational speakers show you and tell you what they think will sell you a product - be that a self-help book, an online class, a seminar. They only show you their successes, because failure doesn't tend to sell. It's the same as social media. People carefully curate only those aspects of their lives which put them in a 'cool' light. It's all an illusion.

@juandanieldobreespinosa7506

3 жыл бұрын

Alison Barlow... Welcome to our amazing tribe...You are not alone...

@GoADHDGo

3 жыл бұрын

Search KZread for David Rendall Freak Factor videos. Yes amazing and will inspire you, also.

@rcre7052

3 жыл бұрын

When I grew up there weren't any information about ADHD or even a diagnosis of the condition. I always knew there was something different about me in the way I learned thing.. So I figured out how to use that to my advantage. I'm not going to tell you that it was easy. But made my way in life Had a great career and support my family..The thing that helped me the most was going in the service. I didn't have a choice was drafted.. But that helped me the most as I look back on that time.

Sometimes it's just so hard to explain to people why certain things go wrong or are very difficult for me and to find a way to check a box or something to make people instantly get how you function would be the best thing ever

ADHD, ASD, and left handed here - I always mold the spaces I inhabit to better suit my needs because I feel like I’m living in someone else’s world when I’m out and about.

This channel has made me feel so validated and has helped me accept and begin to manage my adhd instead of pretending I don’t have it .

I took notes on my smart phone while being attentive during meetings at my previous company. My manager told me after that I should stop as it was not normal and looked like I wasn't there even when I looked back up as soon as I completed each note. Notes were a way for my to refine the tasks I needed to do for the day.

@krishanamurti2297

3 жыл бұрын

Same here..I fill diaries with my notes..everybody made fun of me at office for that but yeah It was acceptable as I always gave reasoning that I work best with notes.. hope that it ll get better in ur office too..

@byrontie1527

3 жыл бұрын

@@krishanamurti2297 The whole company is working from home for the past year :)

I have ADHD, and all of my teachers and classmates know But nobody’s ever clear with me. I was so overwhelmed today that I couldn’t do anything but cry for about an hour, and nobody did anything, no one asked if I was okay, or if I needed some help with the work because I get good grades and most of the time I’m happy, but the questions that my textbook asks are very unclear and definitely NOT ADHD friendly. There’s only 1 other person in the entire school with ADHD and he’s my history teacher, but he functions well enough that he doesn’t need to take medication and even he doesn’t take an extra ten minutes to answer a few of my questions. If this world was more ADHD friendly, then I wouldn’t have to struggle with stuff like this, stuff like not getting the proper accommodations My old school was a lot better but I graduated elementary a long time ago My old school was a Montessori school so it was easier for me to plan and get work done, as well as the fact that I was allowed to make tests in a separate room But at my current school none of that happens And I just realized I completely lost track over what I wanted to say so basically, I have adhd, and I agree that we need to make this world more ADHD friendly, as well as that I will try to find and watch/read that thing with the other guy in October (which I love that ADHD awareness month is October because Asexual awareness week is also in October and I’m asexual so that’s very cool)

@lirazaqua4526

3 жыл бұрын

I relate to that so much

@MatthewHartsuch

3 жыл бұрын

The worst part is that everyone around u can clearly see that ur going through a crisis, and rather than trying to help/comfort they will offer advice/judgement which u cannot handle because ur stressed and in turn u will push them away until u are completely alone 😞

@driamhane

3 жыл бұрын

ANOTHER ACEDHD???? I'm actually questioning, but I think I am ace

@Zay_M.

3 жыл бұрын

@@lirazaqua4526 😔✊

@Zay_M.

3 жыл бұрын

@@MatthewHartsuch exactly!

I'm getting a lot of "we're just trying to understand why some days your work is excellent and others that seems to drop off" currently, and it's so frustrating and I don't know how to explain without it sounding like an excuse. You highlighting that actually, that's really normal for ADHDers and isn't something wrong to address but a natural work pattern that we need to work with made a lot of difference to how I'm processing that. It's made it easier to not feel guilty and wrong for it.

"there is enough of us". Right on. And now we know it. The timing IS great to do less faking and hiding and more proud standing up when we can. I'm on board. lets go. COURAGE!

@LisavanDo

3 жыл бұрын

💚

I have been "recently" diagnosed. And after accepting the way that my brain works instead of fighting against it trying to be "normal". I have found your chanel supportive, I work at Microsoft and have come out clear with the company about it and I'm glad to announce that they have been very supportive, let's push this message out.

3:38 hit close to home. I dropped out of university this year, I only asked for help with my ADHD when I was already drowning in resits, assignments and stress. I felt like I had to do it on my own, I didn't feel worthy of all these extra tools.

@katiemiller8313

3 жыл бұрын

For anyone else that comes across this comment: I work in a college setting, and there have been students I've had where I ask if they had an IEP/504 (probably U.S. terms, so I'm sorry if you are not in the U.S.... basically accomodations) in high school, and they say yes. I ask why they haven't registered with our office of disability services yet, and while I get different responses, "I think I can do it on my own" or "I don't want to have that label" comes up quite a bit. Our university is set up so students can get "set up" with accommodations though the school, but then the students choose which instructors they share the accommodations. Even if the student doesn't want to use the accommodations right away, I always encourage them to at least "get in the system." Get the paperwork part out of the way, so when they do realize "hey, I think I need extra time on my math tests" or "maybe a distraction free environment would be better for me during tests," it's a much easier process to do.

@variyasalo2581

Жыл бұрын

if you are a college student and have ADHD get you butt over to the sped/ADA/student services department and sign up. it may not do a lot for you on the surface but it can help you win the day when you need more time on a math test, for example. it also will help others be heard, too

@reginacarr4633

Жыл бұрын

Several others (myself included) went to college professor, asked to take exams in testing center (more time and quiet was needed - we had a pen tapper in the class). She flat out told us no! She said that if we couldn’t take the exams in the same amount of time, in the same location, as our peers, then we didn’t need to be in her class!!

I'd like to start an awareness (and/or "you're not alone") campaign at my university for ADHD and other "different brains". After 20 years of rejektion I'm finally not ashamed anymore, having ADHD. I don't know whom to ask, but your positivity kind of inspired me.

@barttopo3392

3 жыл бұрын

Update: We created a Task Force within our students council. On friday we have a meeting with some university authorities.

This is amazing, I've always been told that I "shouldn't expect the world to change" to make it more comfortable for my ADHD because people have coped with it for so long and it's "nothing a good beating wouldn't fix"

@DavidPaulNewtonScott

3 жыл бұрын

We fed the during the hunter gatherer time they would not have survived without, us.

The one in your thumbnail about a quiet room for if people are sensory overloaded would actually be rly helpful for me. Me and my friend are both neurodivergent and we also are building a dream house together. There is a room that would be sound proof and quiet and very nice. I wish there was something like this in places.

@---nj7hl

3 жыл бұрын

Some libraries have study rooms where depending on the library you can reserve in advance or its on a first come first serve basis. I would love to see a Utube channel on how your soundproof room gets built. Blessings.

@Serpentrose

3 жыл бұрын

Oh man, a sound proof room to retreat to when the overwhelm hits would be sooo wonderful.

@TinyDinoo

3 жыл бұрын

@@---nj7hl oh that’s awesome I’ll look into that!!! Unfortunately it is just an idea at the moment so I don’t think it’ll happen for a bit but I’m sure there is a video of someone else doing it on KZread!!

@GoADHDGo

3 жыл бұрын

The bathroom. Yes, the bathroom. If their is a fan thingy in the ceiling, turn it on (works like white noise). Put a chair in their or put the toilet lid down and use it like a chair. A great place with zero distractions. :)

@GoADHDGo

3 жыл бұрын

Another great place is a closet. That is, if you have one big enough you can be in... like a walk-in closet. I have a room in my basement that I use for my KZread studio and as a “quiet room”. It has no windows, is surrounded by concrete walls, and it’s incredibly quiet. I painted the room black which makes it incredibly soothing to be in. Especially when I have the colored lights on. I love that room. If you ever happen to stumble upon my channel, you will see how neato that black room is.

As a med student that has ADHD here in Brazil, the daily expectations and productivity and bla bla bla just makes me feel sooooo incapable. Definitely gonna spread the message if this video ❤️

@chrishuntley8369

3 жыл бұрын

Productivity has been a big issue for me and the practices I’ve a part of. I’ve figured out a few hacks but it’s still so hard out here. When I have a scribe or dictation available in real time, I can rule the world. When I don’t, I’m stuck charting until all hours of the night.

@kukui79

3 жыл бұрын

As someone with ADHD whose job is helping doctors with their research, it would be sooooo amazing to work with a doctor who understands what I'm going through. And I feel like people like us are better at explaining complicated concepts for ordinary patients, since we know what it's like to need info presented in a different way. The medical world is way overdue for changes that allow people who aren't neurotypical to thrive. Anyhow, best of luck in your career - I think you would make an amazing doctor, but whatever you do, I'm sure you will be wonderful at it. You've got this. :)

@tanishasakthivel7974

3 жыл бұрын

Med student from India here! I'm curious to see how my life turns out, for better or for worse!

@JessicaChris1612

3 жыл бұрын

Hii I’m a med student with adhd too and I feel you 🥺 good luck!!

@carlottamassella2943

3 жыл бұрын

🙋🏼‍♀️Italian Med student. It’s amazing to see that there are other people in the same situation. I don’t know if this happens just to me, but whenever I see others with ADHD who are somehow successful, I think like “Well their ADHD is obviously not as severe as mine, I will never be able to do that.” But I don’t have a particularly severe ADHD actually, so maybe, I am wrong.

I’ve had a diagnosis of ADHD for over a decade but it was not until I found this channel that I began to accept that without (or with less) shame or feeling like a fraud-and this has helped me take concrete steps to make my life better. Thank you so much for making this channel and doing what you do.

Your channel being 5 blows my mind. It was when I was studying for my childcare qualification and studying the disability aspect that I first realised that I had ADHD, and while I was frantically doing research on it, I came across your channel, brand new at the time. It was your channel that made me realise I didn't have to hate myself, I wasn't lazy or selfish or flaky or slow, but that I had to curate my life around my mind and not the other way round. I'm studying my dream career now and even have accomodations made for me in college. When my country went into lockdown halfway through my course, I sent your working from home video to my PA for her to help me in the best possible way, because I was struggling. She thought your video was fantastic and we both worked from it together. We're still in lockdown but college has actually been great from home, thanks to your help. I suppose what I'm trying to say is THANK YOU SO MUCH for all you've done for us out of the goodness of your heart. Xox

Yay.. please make a video on how to deal with people who try to negate the seriousness of thi disorder simply because its effects play deep in our minds

@rosamy2017

3 жыл бұрын

My strategy is to describe how ADHD affects me rather than saying “I have ADHD.” For example, if I’m having trouble keeping assignments straight at work I’ll tell my boss, “can you send me an email about what we just talked about? I don’t want to forget anything!” This way no one has a chance to belittle me, my ADHD is none of their business, and they can either be helpful to me or be a jerk!

@turtlemorin

3 жыл бұрын

Try not using the word ADHD. "I have an executive functioning disorder that causes things like rejection sensitive dysphoria and makes me struggle with things like time management, organization, and completing projects on time"

@ShweetScience

3 жыл бұрын

@@turtlemorin i absolutely love this!!!

@user-xk6jw3wi5u

3 жыл бұрын

@@rosamy2017 Thank you. I focus on that strategy as well, and it's a win-win, because most perceive that as professional as well. I totally get the concept of making the environment ADHD friendly but for me it is important to have mechanisms, when I don't want, can't or shan't (I know that this construct is not used anymore, just love it, and it fits perfectly here 😂) tell the world.

I love how authentic you are

@raymiller1383

3 жыл бұрын

I read this comment, but my dyslexic brain switched it into a question... “how authentic are you? ... reading as if it was a survey question directed directly at me... My instant answer without thinking about it... “I don’t think I am...” I’m happy I reread it, and slightly uncomfortable with my immediate thought with the first read...

As I become more aware of what having ADHD means (oposed to beeing diagnosed and just.. given meds without any education), I tell people about the whys (like why I may interrupt them). I see people starting to understand, and its nice. Though I had some bad experiances with it too: "Thats a reason, but not an excuse" from a psychologist I play pen and paper with probably triggered my shame the most. Because that's exactly what I tell myself on bad days. Thank you for your channel and research and positiv energy. It helps a lot.

@MaskedNozza

3 жыл бұрын

This was exactly my experience. I was diagnosed at age 7 and just put on medication without any real attempt to explain anything to me, and was constantly told by my parents and teachers that I wasn't trying hard enough. That I was lazy. That I needed to have more self-motivation. Well, I no longer need medication to manage my ADD since I was able to figure out solutions to my problems on my own better than 5 different psychiatrists that saw me over a period of 15 years and charged $300 an hour.

@Anna-dd1tb

3 жыл бұрын

just a thought but maybe you don't need to apologize for the way your brain works ? You don't apologize when a conversation is interrupted because your bus is coming at your bus stop for example - I mean, you could apologize for having to stop the conversation but not for having to take this bus. You don't apologize when you interrupt the conversation to warn of a danger either. There are many more things that can interrumpt a conversation and you can't control them either and it's understandable. Or take for example being late. You could be late because you miscalculated time or you could be late because there was traffic or the bus was late or any other reason. Your ADHD is indeed the reason, because it is not the fault you're apologizing for. The thing you might be apologizing for is a consequence of it, but it could be a consequence of anything else. Don't apologize for having ADHD. I think giving people the whys is a good thing, so they can understand, apologize of the consequences if need be, but don't apologize for having ADHD.

@Anna-dd1tb

3 жыл бұрын

okay i read it wrong didn't i ? i'm blaming the fact that in Franc excuse means apologies. My point still stand and I will add : you can't change the way your brain works any more than you force your late bus to not be late just by sheer willpower. It just doesn't work. What you can do is warn if you know you will be late because of your bus, which you're already doing by telling people you have adhd and it manifests in this or that way, and if you know that you're bus is always late, you can adapt and take precautions by taking the bus before that one, which you already do as well by trying to adapt to a not very neurodivergent friendly world. It's not a question of making excuses, you can't change the way your brain works any more than forcing the bus to not be late, and no one should ask that of you.

I literally started crying. Making it okay to have ADHD and that it is okay to ask for accommodations really touched my broken heart. Struggling my entire life and still, feeling that we now live in a world where we can start to come forth, is so liberating. It gives me hope that there is a easier future ahead of me and that some of the bricks in the wall of awful can come out and let the light from the other side through. Thank you ❤️

i am actually in tears jessica, thank you so much 💙 please pat yourself on the back for yourself and all of us you’ve made feel like the space we’re taking up is deserved.

I really needed this video today. I'm still job searching out of college and even the application process really gets to me. Weighing my options and trying to figure out if I have enough qualifications is really nerve wracking.

@anotherperson655

3 жыл бұрын

Hey! I know it’s rough. For me, I ended up in a dark place. But, remember, things are exceptional right now. Your worth is not and will never be tied to a job (unless you want it to be). I know things aren’t going right right now, but you’ll get through it.

@ChanthaChean

3 жыл бұрын

Everyone commenting here is so wise :0

I made a program at my local high school to have students help teachers during their free periods. This was years ago and I heard it has been a great success. When I was making the program I didn't know I had ADHD, I just knew I had free time and I needed to help people. By helping people I was able to help myself feel better with my mental health. I already had made this contribution to our goal to make this more ADHD friendly, we do this!

Very much so, my sig other and I have decided that turning the garage into my brain safe haven and engineering lab is how we can compromise to keep the house the way she likes it. My last employer was absolutely HORRIFFIC toward an ADHD brain and when my boss did finally fire me I found I could breathe again for the first time in years. I'll never go back to feeling like my worth is less just because of close minded people. Turns out my ADHD brain likes other ADHD brains and every one I meet is told about how I discovered my real worth through your channel, thank you so much.

I'm so blessed to be working with my principal, like, I'm so lucky and I know that now. I originally worked in the chemistry industry. I had 5 jobs in 4 years and was terrified to mention my ADHD because I didn't think anyone would care or take it seriously. I lost what I at the time thought was my dream job because I made a mistake in protocol during a test to get out of my training (6 months of training) - GONE, with 1 mistake. I realize it was likely the pressure of this "test" that made me try to go to fast, and I messed up. I was DEVISTATED. So my husband suggested I work as a substitute teacher while figuring out what to do - he's a teacher in a huge urban school district and there's sub jobs every day. I ended up loving it, worked for 2 years as a long-term sub in vacancies (basically ran the classroom because there wasn't a teacher or medical leave) and then got my teaching license. I started at my current school about 3 years ago. I was open and honest in my interview about my ADHD and my ability to relate to students struggling and give them strategies that I have tried and that help me to try to support them. After a year, my principal was noticing that I was struggling and getting overwhelmed. I took on a huge project for the students by myself and while it was good, she knew it could be better. She has lots of anxiety and insomnia, and she honestly supports taking care of your mental health. She helps reassure me when I think I've messed up horribly (I literally walked away from my webcam crying with relief to get tissues and she yelled to my husband to tell him that I was ok), and she even told me that she was proud of me for taking 2 mental health days in February when I was feeling awful and falling apart a bit. It IS possible. While I don't have "official" accommodations at work, my boss is aware of my situation and my ADHD and helps support me. She was the one who invited me to interview, and she selected me for the position. I'm so grateful. So if you can, be honest! Speak up for yourself and help get what you need to be successful!

So much yes! I want to see Universal Design become the default standard. Making the world more ADHD friendly will benefit folks who are neurodivergent in other ways as well as neurotypical people. I'm so excited to see where you go with this Jessica!

I am on board! I’ve been imagining a company/collective for a couple years that specifically hires software engineers with ADHD. In fact, when I get the opportunity to create this dream, you would be one of the first people I connect with for consultation.

@rev.rachel

3 жыл бұрын

Ahh I love this!

@jasonbottle4033

3 жыл бұрын

hey Tim, same here... were you looking to be more a self contained ADHD powered software development enclave that does contract work or more like a personell leasing company for ADHD equipped human resources...? (there is a company over here in Europe that already does the latter for autism)

@timjeffries9833

3 жыл бұрын

@@jasonbottle4033 Great question. I imagined something more self contained. A mother company to start and then support ADHDers that have passions to start companies of their own with the same philosophies. Ultimately, the original mother company would be a hub for the ADHD collective, offering support as needed. It gets pretty deep in my mind. For instance, hiring neuro-typical tax accountants, bookkeepers, or counselors as a service to the ADHD employees. Additionally, having the hub act as a kind of “job board”. Employees would be able to move around to different roles/projects to help them tap into their hyper focus. I truly believe this would be an extremely viable and prosperous business model.

@priyas9751

3 жыл бұрын

I'm an aspiring web developer with ADHD and Aspergers I would love to be involved in some way

@LisavanDo

3 жыл бұрын

@@timjeffries9833 I've been thinking exactly.the.same!

I think part of this is redefining what success is. We shouldn't have to hold ourselves to the same standards as neurotypical brains to feel successful. Personally I will never be able to hold down a 9-5 jobs, and I'm ok with that!

@Serpentrose

3 жыл бұрын

Pretty sure part of the reason my dad decided to ditch the nine to five and do freelance work was ADHD related. (He's never been diagnosed and is now retired and unlikely to bother even should the possibility occur to him)

@CottonCandySharks

3 жыл бұрын

Same, which has been really rough on the self esteem. But we have other strengths we can use if others would give us a chance to do the unconventional!

I look forward to hearing this and how I can adapt it not only to ADHD, but my chronic pain. The one thing that covid has taught me is that disability and illness accommodations were always doable for many companies, but they never wanted to actually do them. And that's what hurts so much. Some of us could have been working from home if we were just given a chance. And I fear that now people are opening things up again and working in an office, they will just go back to the status quo and continue to shut disabled people out.

Jess, I've commented this on other videos but feel the need to repeat it: Your channel is the primary reason I acknowledged this is a disability and advocated for myself at work, when it looked like I was on the familiar path to losing my job (as I've lost every job I've had for 20 years). Now they're working to understand my needs and how I can shape my environment to be my best! 🧠🍍

Sometimes the hardest thing is just to allow yourself to do things the "easy" way when you've been told to do them another way your whole life. Letting go of other people's expectations that you have internalised and crystallised as your own is really hard. Still working on it...

Changing the way I organize around the house was a major adjustment when I found myself with an ADHD husband. I'm a 'hide it away' kind of person (lots of stuff in drawers and cupboards), but when he explained that out of site pretty literally means out of mind to him, we switched to open cupboards and shelving and it made a *huge* difference.

The ignorance I got towards my "flaws" back then (before I knew- just got diagnosed last week, after a long way to the result), crushed my self-esteem in a persistent and painful way. Always got the words "If you only could do a bit more...!" And was sure I did enough (not knowing I was not learning, because I didn't now how). And now I understand myself better then ever. Even though I'm 29 now. Thank you everybody. To a better world

Wow, I only just realised on watching this video that I am a one woman crusade in my company right now to make it more executive function friendly! I work in corporate governance and was recently diagnosed with Autism, but suspect I also have ADHD, and I keep saying that people can't be expected to know what the company doesn't tell them. I love governance because it's about making sure we do the right things, but also that we do them right, and making sure that if something isn't giving the right outcomes that we change it for the better! It's incredibly rewarding, but also incredibly difficult getting this through to people - we are only as good as the information we share, and if our processes and etiquette are friendly to neurodiverse people, then they will also be friendly to all, and will make the whole company better. Really excited to see what you come up with, Jessica!!!!

I was already trying to make the world more ADHD friendly Something I have learned is that people who don't accept you for you, they don't deserve you. I always talk about my ADHD when I apply for jobs and explain I need a bit more help than others. If they don't want to give me that, they don't deserve me. I'm not worth their time so they're not worth my time. In some jobs they can't give you those accomodations. I absolutely respect that. Acceptance and understanding is in my opinion the number one thing we need to get from the neurotypical world. A good example was last sunday with easter. Me and my family were together. I eventually got overwhelmed by sensory overload so I had to go home. My family knows I'm highly sensitive and I have ADHD so they understand and know that I'm not going home because I don't like it anymore. I'm going home cause I need to take care of myself and my brain just needs rest. Mom was very sad that I had to go, but she called me the next day to check on how I was doing. She understands and accepts this part of me. That helps me cause that way I don't feel guilty about going home. I feel sad about for sure, cause I would've loved to stay. But at least I didn't feel guilty. And my family knows it's not their fault so they don't feel guilty either. This should be the way it works throughout the whole world. Be compassionate and understanding of each others needs. Understanding that there's no one size fits all solution. Just like everybody has a different clothing size, everybody has a different method of being productive that works best for them. Brain or no brain. ADHD really doesn't have to be a disability. It should just be a 'difference'. And I'm more than willing to change the world to that!

You and your channel are wonderful. I’m so glad you have such a great sponsor! I’m physically disabled and am in the same headspace. The pandemic has shown how much can change - for many people with physical disabilities, work-from-home, online classes, and streaming of in-person events increased access tremendously. Often before we were told it was ‘impossible’! And accommodations for physical disabilities fall under the universal design umbrella (the curb cut effect!). I am inspired by the idea that being open about being young and disabled could help just a bit to make the world more accessible to others. And I’m inspired by you and your community! It’s exciting to hear you share so many of these thoughts.

I vocally promote your channel to all my friends and people I meet who have ADHD and think they might have ADHD! Your channel has helped me so so so much in getting my diagnosis in my early 20's, and has helped my friends as well. Thank you thank you thank you!

Your 'How to' helps so much! It's an ongoing struggle which comes and goes in waves. Trial and error. Thank you so much for making the unconscious consious, reminding and empowering other adhdpeeps. 🙏🏻💫🌞

I can't tell you how much your channel has changed my life. Your video 'Lazy, Messy & Stupid' finally convinced me to push my doctor for a psychiatric assessment. I'm medicated, learning strategies and going back to school. I flunked out of university 10 years ago, and now I've asked for accommodations and my lowest mark is a 79%. It feels unreal. I've also convinced my Dad to get diagnosed as well, and I might never have done it if I hadn't seen your videos. Thank you. Thank you so much.

OOOOOOH MAN. Im so into this. Seeing my son start to struggle with the stuff I did makes me want to make sure he doesn't get pushed aside like I did. in the 90s. LETS! GO!!!

Here in Germany nobody on my school knows something There ust nothing like an accommodation. Loud classes, exams after lunch (when my meds start to stop) It would already help a lot if my teachers would know anything about adhs (or even believe in it) Ones I asked my teacher if he could tell us the task in a shorter way and/or write it on the board instead of talking 15 mins about it I explained that it's harder to remember the task especially because of my adhd He smiled at me (in a really creepy way) said that he doesn't understand my problem and the others would understand the task alright I just have to listen That's not helpful

@KryssLaBryn

3 жыл бұрын

wHy dOn'T yUo tRy hArDeR >:[

@bemde

3 жыл бұрын

Your school should be able to make accomodations possible. Vertrauenslehrer + Schulsekreteriat ansprechen, www.adhs-deutschland.de/desktopdefault.aspx/tabid-18/75_read-7662/ der Link könnte hilfreich sein. Mach nicht den gleichen Fehler wie ich und mach es dir so schwer wie möglich, es gibt Möglichkeiten, man muss aber auf sie bestehen. Selbiges in Ausbildung/Uni :)

@annika222

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe try another school? It is legal, to give you more time for exams, so if they don’t do stuff to help you after showing them proof, they are ableist idiots ^^

I hope you know how valuable you are to this community. Thank you.

I just spoke up at work recently--I work for a large university hospital in the department of finance, and I've been struggling with my job since we moved home to work last year. I tried to fix what was wrong all by myself for a year--and I could have lost my job due to low productivity. Instead, they worked with me and are giving me a flex schedule. I'm also utilizing FMLA to address anxiety issues, depression, back pain, and treatment for my adhd. It's allowed!! What a concept!

I'm a nurse. I work a a shift superviser. Most of my coworkers know. Including knowing if they ask me a question I need to research an answer that I'll need to have it written down and I'm ok with them following up with me. Scripting common questions, checklists, routines are built into my job as is adrenaline inducing changes. It makes going to work enjoyable.

Oh, I love the idea of a virtual summit!

I have ADHD as an 18 year old college student. Your channel has brought so much attention and information for me it amazing. There are days where i feel like my ADHD is just dormant, and then i have days where it consumes and defines every single little part of my day. I was diagnosed when I was in 1st grade and have been on medicine for it since then. I have strategies that work for me, but i also struggle to voice my needs when it comes to working with people who aren’t my close family and friends. I have to remind myself that different is okay, and if my todo list does not get done for the day its okay. I think what i am trying to say is you are not alone, if you struggle its okay- just stand up and try a different way. Find what works for your brain: dedicated places for lists and reminder so they cant get lost, constant alarms reminding you what to do next, exercise, giving your self breaks. Be your own voice.

I’ve spoken at DisruptHR about Neurodiversity and will be a part of THIS SUMMIT! I’m so excited!! This movement is going to shift the world in a way that will be beneficial for everyone!

It’s so hard when there is so little easy to access info out there about something, and Jessica saw that problem for herself and made this channel, which makes it easier for all of us. Thank you so much!

I can’t tell you how much you’ve turned my life around in the last month. Because of you, I recognized my symptoms, got an ADHD diagnosis, started meds that are really helping, started communicating with loved ones and professors that I have ADHD, and started forming habits that work with my brain. Seriously. I found your channel just one month ago and my life is forever changed in a beautiful way.

It's for this reason I found the daily vlogs to be even more informational and applicable...watching you combat ADHD challenges while growing the channel and dealing with life is inspiring and built a great rapport with the community...it may not be as apparent in your more polished videos but we know the struggle behind producing each one...Proud heart since 2011 and supporter of HTADHD since Jan 2018

Once when i was in 8th grade and i had to an assignment in science class that would take the whole period (the class was about 1.5 hours) and I didnt do anything that day, and my teacher was really upset. The next day I completed not only the previous days assignment, but that days 1.5 hour assignment as well all in about 40 minutes. Oh yea and I got an A on both of them. The teacher didnt harrass me to work on her schedule again.

One of the biggest benefits for me of my current job is they're not super strict on when you come in and if you're 5 minutes late it's not the end of the world - there's exceptions like important meetings or supporting events, but you tend to turn up early for those anyway. It seems more entry-level jobs put much more importance on exact punctuality as opposed to actually being good at your job or putting the work in. Like most jobs if you're 5 minutes late it would have zero impact if you just worked those 5 minutes off your lunch hour or at the end of the day. The other problem with these entry-level jobs that ADHD people often get stuck in is that they're very unforgiving when it comes to screwing up, and tend not to bother developing people as opposed to just replacing them. This is particularly bad for young people with ADHD as they're much more likely to do something silly and impulsive - so instead of just getting a talking to and some help with being better at their work, or more training, they just get sacked and the cycle keeps going.

It's tough because, for me, I know my boss and coworkers are trying to help, but my Rejection Sensitivity makes me feel like having to explain it puts me in a negative starting space. Like, I get the accommodations eventually but it feels like I had to go through this emotional toil to explain why something is tough, why I forget about projects, why it takes forever, and why spinning many plates stalls out my brain. Sometimes that voice inside me telling me that I'm asking too much is so hard, but I so often forget how the things I CAN do matter, that those are the things that are others can't do or would struggle with. But after a meeting where I felt overwhelmed by yet another project that I feel is barely inching along (and having to give so many reasons why it's gone nowhere, while also stalling out when asked what a good time frame would be for it being done), I came back to my desk and found a card with compliments on my creativity, energy, and passion that helped me remember that while time and multi-tasking is hard, I come up with ideas no one else would think of and that eventually, my accommodations pay for themselves in great ideas. But even then, I just need help, and that is OK. Thanks for the reminder that we shouldn't have to feel bad about bending the world a bit to make the world work for us.

Alright! Tomorrow I am telling my boss I love his wiki for new employees he put the halfway together and encourage him to finish it. And I am telling him to start giving me feedback often, especially the positive one. What an inspiring video! 😄

I’m so thankful for your channel. I feel less alone. ❤️

The push for change and the feeling of being heard, knowing there are others out there like me moves me literally to the point of tears like literally, I'm crying and it's like a relief that things are being done to accommodate us and let us be heard

I've been with you for 5 years?! I am so grateful for you and I know teleworking is so awesome for my Brain. Most communication is written now, which is beyond amazing. I remember chatting directly with you about gaining accommodations in college. We are trailblazers! I am sooooo grateful for you, Jessica!

@pnut9995

3 жыл бұрын

@BRYAN WARNER It was in the early days of her channel, when she was first getting started. She also has a Discord account that you can access by contributing to her Patreon account. She is beyond amazing.

I am really sorry about your mom...Grief can be difficult to handle with ADHD. My condolences...

Thank you so much Jessica! You encouraged me to educate myself about my disorder and even start CBT. I’ve improved so much!! I can’t thank you enough!

Ur channel has helped me learn more about my adhd, I would love to talk to you. My parents have actually hammered ways into my head to allow me to have better control over my adhd symptoms but how ever they still have control at times

This made me tear up. I'm glad that people are talking about mental health more, and I've felt secure enough to be open about how I have add and my struggles in the past, and that medication has made things better. Despite that, and despite working in education, I still don't feel safe talking about what I struggle with on the job, and asking for accommodations or changes.

4:30 7:56 Feels like a constant stream of "that thing I've always struggled with and feared is an ADHD thing?!" ever since I've been diagnosed lol

This video was made for me I just got my meds and I need some of these videos and it helps me a lot your helping the adhd community I’m just a kid and I want to help people just like you I wanna help people like me with adhd and make there lives better so they don’t have to go threw the same thing I did and I want to help so I think I can help. ( I’m 12 )

This video made me cry because I realised a while ago that when I was fully ready, keys in hand at the door during my first year of uni, I would just suddenly take my backpack off and sit down and do something else. I was confused because I didn’t feel anxious about leaving or too depressed to go, and I wanted to. I think if the university had, for example, a body doubling buddy scheme that was like “hey let’s get a coffee on our way to class”, I would have had the novelty of the coffee and the urgency of having someone waiting on me. Found your channel a couple days ago, and am in the process of getting diagnosed. Thank you 💖

I really struggled in college after being a straight A's student in high school, and I got extremely depressed. I felt like I failed. Then thanks to your videos I realized I have ADHD and am in the process of getting a diagnosis so that when I go back to school I can get accommodations. I've also had to switch up my career goals because although I love animation, it wasn't good for my mental health, so I'm trying to figure out what I like and am good at, as well as what kind of job I can handle with ADHD and that I won't get bored or overwhelmed in. It's hard, but I've come to the conclusion that I need a job that has structure so I know what to expect each day, but that has enough variety that I won't get bored. People jobs.

This is so true for anyone struggling with any condition, disability, or difference. I had a situation recently that was overwhelming me - not just in my ADHD like ways but others as well. I finally accepted that I need help and in just a couple of phone calls (that still took a lot to make) I had not just support, but an advocate that was on my side, that could take on some of the things that were overwhelming me, tell me other places I may also find support, and who keeps checking in to see how things are going. It takes being honest with ourselves and it's not easy, when you're used to fronting like you've got everything under control, to show that vulnerability - but there is help.

Thank you so much for everything you do! You have been an amazing resource and sense of comfort for someone who has dealt with symptoms his entire life but only diagnosed two months ago. Thank you Jessica!

Got my diagnosis today!!!!! your videos have helped for the last 15 months while I have been on a waiting list for an assessment. Thank you for sharing the truth and giving so much hope! 😁

It's heart-warming to see us both growing and learning that just saying 'hey, I have a hard time with this, can I get some help?' will make a lot of things easier, and well... it helps. Most of the times I don't even add the explanation of having adhd, just ask for what I find difficult. We don't need to explain why we need help in order to ask and/or get help. However I do add that explanation when needed or when I feel it would help the situation. Keep growing and believing! (...and forgiving towards ourselves)

Nice to see a new episode. I really appreciate you and your channel. When I need someone who understands what I am going through, you are one of the few people that I look up to. Keep on keeping on. I believe in you friend. :3

That's such a great idea! 😊 It's amazing how much our brains can do in an ADHD friendly environment. I was struggling so much in an open plan office environment and was told there's nothing that can be done about it. But then of course C hit and suddenly everyone could work remotely. It just shows that accommodations can be done and they can make such a big difference! I really wish we would have a choice in the future... Thank you for starting this conversation, the work you do here is so important! 💕

6:58 - OH WOW, I just did this at work! I'm taking over as manager for a department that's been very fast/loose/"rockstar" led in the past, and with the shake up and new hires coming in I stipulated that we needed a full month to review our internal process for carrying out projects and I personally re-wrote every task list template to go step by step, with hyperlinks and with examples anywhere I saw ambiguity .... leadership team was very impressed and my response was "this is normal, I would need this kind of scaffolding to excel on the team, so we owe it to the newbies to get this level of instruction too"

First time visitor to your channel but amen to your world vision! As a wife, mother and employer to someone with ADHD, I see so much needless suffering because the "world" and those of us who don't have ADHD, don't stop, reflect, learn and shift ourselves to make life better for those around us. And due to my own complex chronic illnesses, I have days that mimic ADHD and it is SO ridiculously frustrating. I've had to make my own adaptations and shift self- expectations, which gives myself and those I love and care about, more grace.

So excited! You help me learn so much. Thank you for everything you've helped me with ❤️ Edit: can you do a video talking about adhd and @b*se? Ik that a lot of people with adhd have dealt with it either bc of their adhd or otherwise. I feel like it would help a lot of people that have dealt with it. Thank you 💗

@ruaoneill9050

3 жыл бұрын

Adhd and what? Sorry, I don't understand :(

@SnowySpiritRuby

3 жыл бұрын

@@ruaoneill9050 I think it's abuse, but that's just a guess.

@KryssLaBryn

3 жыл бұрын

@@ruaoneill9050 Yes, "abuse". We're a tempting target. :/

@ruaoneill9050

3 жыл бұрын

@@SnowySpiritRuby thanks!

@ruaoneill9050

3 жыл бұрын

@@KryssLaBryn thanks!

I asked my new boss recently for accommodation. She was so happy, there was something she could do to help me with my ADHD.

I also love the direction that you’re going with the channel. The world needs to be more ND friendly.

You said "low energy" next to "bad brain day" I didn't even realize anyone else says that one. I legit cried once again for feeling so seen, thank you for sticking with this.