What every new parent should know: Diana Eidelman at TEDxBGU

Drawing from her experience as a mother and a Family Counselor, Diana Eidelman shares her insights into challenging and often contradictory experiences that define parenting in the modern world. By drawing on keen insights into the psychology of both parent and child, Diana encourages listeners to consider the importance of active interaction, emotional stability, sustenance and physical touch to both infants and parents during the early, critical stages of child development.
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  • @iyambeanz
    @iyambeanz6 жыл бұрын

    The key is to slow down. Housework, hygiene, health, none of it has a time limit. If you slow down everything will get done. It goes so much faster than you can possibly imagine. Remember that there will come a time when you'll miss nursing and pooping at the same time and you will miss even the most intense tears and screams that come from your beautiful baby. They cling to you for such a short time. Embrace it. It's such a special time. Just go slow and prioritize everything. Nothing is more important than this time. I have 5 kids ages 10, 8, 6, 2, and 1 month. A decade has blown by and many regrets and guilty feelings have come and vanished. I teach my kids that when you make mistakes you can't dwell in that space. You have to let go to make room for something new to come in, and when you let go of that mistake you will learn a lesson from it. And when we learn better, we do better the next time we face a similar situation. Parenting is go with the flow. Don't force your child into your world, learn to blend and flow with one another.

  • @jralph920

    @jralph920

    6 жыл бұрын

    That was beautiful, thank you :)

  • @jennboyermusic

    @jennboyermusic

    5 жыл бұрын

    such good advice

  • @alexvidu4517

    @alexvidu4517

    5 жыл бұрын

    Many thanks, I been tryin to find out about "tips to get baby to sleep longer" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my brother in law got excellent success with it.

  • @pinwheelart2825

    @pinwheelart2825

    5 жыл бұрын

    💕🖖🏽

  • @jlj5487

    @jlj5487

    5 жыл бұрын

    Maitri Bodhi You assume we all like the super needy stage that much. I didn’t. I’m much happier with 2 year olds. WAAAAAAAAY happier.

  • @ReneeLoves
    @ReneeLoves5 жыл бұрын

    This brought tears to my eyes because she hit the nail right on the head for me. I have a 10 month old and 7 year old, and life has been soo overwhelming, being a working mum and a wife. My husband works 6 days a week and long hours, so is hardly around. I feel alone and stressed most of the time, and on top of that I am exhausted, and feel inadequate. I also feel like no one understands, but this video made me realise I am not alone and it's a relief. Thank you for this!

  • @VegAnns

    @VegAnns

    5 жыл бұрын

  • @char12322

    @char12322

    4 жыл бұрын

    Exactly how I feel and so many Mums I’ve spoken to. You’re certainly not alone 🙏🏾❤️

  • @ulymartinez9736

    @ulymartinez9736

    4 жыл бұрын

    Shia M i have a group on FB called Let’s Just Talk!! A group for all moms, dads, people who struggle will talk about whatever they need to talk about. You won’t feel alone ❤️

  • @houseceo9741

    @houseceo9741

    4 жыл бұрын

    So true!!

  • @jeffpunz5337

    @jeffpunz5337

    Жыл бұрын

    This just hits a cord with me because I now have a first hand glimpse into the requirements and challenges a mother endures. I hope 3 years later you and your family are healthy and happy.

  • @shanahaim5935
    @shanahaim59354 жыл бұрын

    I had my first baby at 35. Before that I had a successful career. Let me tell you; being a mother is by far the hardest thing I have ever done. I look back and wonder how I managed it especially the first couple of years X

  • @subhashreevenkatesh3868
    @subhashreevenkatesh386811 ай бұрын

    She hit the nail on the head.. 4 months pp and she precisely described my experiences.. and happy to know I'm not the only one experiencing these.. Love for this tribe of women..

  • @DellTewahdo
    @DellTewahdo5 жыл бұрын

    Great talk! I feel that the concept of the “village” has been forgotten! The reason people are so anxious and find themselves isolated and thinking negative thoughts is because there is no village anymore and people are raising their babies/children alone which was never meant to be the way for centuries/millennia, humans have raised their children together. It’s very helpful and the way we are doing things is leading to more post partum depression and overwhelmed parents.

  • @b.martin9344

    @b.martin9344

    4 жыл бұрын

    True to a certain extent. I think some people isolate themselves or take on everything single handed because of what the village has become. You hear so many stories about babies or children being murdered by the babysitter, daycare worker, the boyfriend/girlfriend, the grandparent or even a family friend. Sometimes people know they need the help, but they have no idea who they can trust in this day and age to actually care for the child as they're expected to.

  • @TGold-uy5rb

    @TGold-uy5rb

    4 жыл бұрын

    I was chatting to my family about this today actually.. difference between grandparents generation raising in a village vs us trying to be self sufficient.Hence the older generation explains that they all went though it but lacks the understanding of why it’s “so hard” for our generation.

  • @rikianageorge1577

    @rikianageorge1577

    4 жыл бұрын

    We need Jesus same yesterday today tomorrow here one memory can regenerate that dormant element of village (tribe) . Yea One god is enough slow down it will get done it will go fast . Keep on

  • @ambera.408

    @ambera.408

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@b.martin9344 You are absolutely correct! 👏🏾👏🏾

  • @eyebutterfly

    @eyebutterfly

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@b.martin9344 a very valid point...our time is different to say 30 years ago when it was easier to trust others...especially now with the dark web and a plethora of people exposed to child exploitation

  • @MrSeanjbaker
    @MrSeanjbaker5 жыл бұрын

    I think that if you worry about being a good parent means that you are already on your way to being a great parent. We hold ourselves sometimes to a unattainable standard which can prevent you from a realization of achievement and success in being the foundation of a growing and thriving little human. My 5cents worth as a Dad

  • @chioma2983

    @chioma2983

    4 жыл бұрын

    I really needed to read this! I just want to be a good understanding mom that is able to provide my daughter with opportunities

  • @MeetMeOnTheMoon

    @MeetMeOnTheMoon

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @sumipun5856
    @sumipun58564 жыл бұрын

    I did 8 years of Sales before I had my baby. Before being a mum my whole week was about KPIs. It was stressful but when you hit your KPI it was super satisfactory. You can calculate the incentives by the amount of work you put in. My whole life was dominated by numbers. So when I had baby, guess what No quantitative measurement of the effort I am putting. No ROI. It drive me crazy. I was confused all the time. I kept having this anxiety that I was doing something wrong. I made an excel chart to track my babies feeding and pooping. Lol My mum told me to relax. She said that if they cry than that means they are either hungry or wet or sometimes they just want to cry. Hold them love them and forget the rest. I was scared that if I hold him too much he will get used to it, but my mum said that this moment will pass so soon and I will regret that I didn’t hold him enough. And it was so true.

  • @sofiang9022

    @sofiang9022

    4 жыл бұрын

    Let me tell you I was basically feeling and doing the same things as you described. I keep track of my baby's feeding, sleeping, pooping. I got anxiety feeling like I was doing something wrong or my baby had acid reflux, colic...I was worried that I held my baby girl for too long. I was crazy for the first 6 months 😰 I feel much better now and ready for baby no2, my baby is 14 months old now btw. I think this 2nd time around will be better 🤞

  • @sumipun5856

    @sumipun5856

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sofia Ng thanks for the comment. It’s wonderful to hear from someone who went through the same thibg

  • @sofiang9022

    @sofiang9022

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@sumipun5856 same here, I'm so glad I'm not the only one who gone through something like this. Thank you for posting this comment! Wish you and your family all the best!

  • @gwensanders5162
    @gwensanders51625 жыл бұрын

    I noticed that since I picked up hobbies and mommy friends I’m so much happier. She was pretty hard on me the first year but my love for her got us through. Her hugs are the most amazing thing in the world but sometimes I need a break to refill my mommy gas tank.

  • @hannas6407
    @hannas64075 жыл бұрын

    I have a son who's 2,5 months old and I can relate to everything she described. This talk was so comforting. Thank you.

  • @mahuexvii
    @mahuexvii6 жыл бұрын

    I'm noticing a lot of mothers questioning their parenthood or what they did while pregnant. Ladies YOU CAN ONLY DO SO MUCH. We are all looking for guidance just like our babies are looking for it. You never know what's right for your baby because all babies are different. I ended having to experiment different methods of sleep training because my child would take a while to fall asleep and would only sleep 45 minutes to an hour most the time. It takes time and effort, my sister told me and it does. It's not easy. No one said it would be. Eventually your baby adapts to your routine and it gets more and more better for you both but do not expect the first 3 months to be easy because within that time they are learning how to sleep and when to sleep and how to put themselves to sleep. Don't feel guilty. It's not worth the time. Sometimes you will feel like an awful mother but the only thing that would make you an awful mother is if you gave up and abandoned your baby. Be proud. As women we work hard to do these things. If anything instead of being mean to ourselves, just give yourself a pat on the back for making it through the day.

  • @MaliksBoy
    @MaliksBoy4 жыл бұрын

    I'm only 8 weeks pregnant and already feel overwhelmed and anxious about this whole process and wondering if I'll be able to be a good mom when I know I'll be so tired and sleep deprived. So thank you for somehow rationalizing this absolutely crazy time

  • @pastapanda4042

    @pastapanda4042

    4 жыл бұрын

    Good luck! You will be a great mom

  • @alexislane1035

    @alexislane1035

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sleep with the baby and take naps with the baby. I did this and I didn’t feel tired. I researched it and it is safe if you are not obese or on certain medications

  • @Iknoweverythingaboutyou

    @Iknoweverythingaboutyou

    9 ай бұрын

    HEY HOWS IT GOING NOW?

  • @taojoy5371
    @taojoy5371 Жыл бұрын

    I'm already 22 weeks pregnant. Right now I am anxious about how to take care of the future little creature. Her experience brings tears to my eyes and also encourages me to embrace my boy and become a good mother. Thank you very much!

  • @flowerpower1577
    @flowerpower15774 жыл бұрын

    Moral of the story: no ones ever ready.

  • @Succeshero-yw1rl

    @Succeshero-yw1rl

    4 жыл бұрын

    Flower Power No this talk is about the conflict we as parents have with our babies.

  • @danielled840
    @danielled8405 жыл бұрын

    This really made me feel good. She got right into the heart of it all.

  • @Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye
    @Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye2 жыл бұрын

    As a first time parent, this is so helpful and reassuring. Thank you. And the comment section is so thoughtful and useful too. great video and community section.

  • @Succeshero-yw1rl
    @Succeshero-yw1rl4 жыл бұрын

    Great talk! I went through the exact same thing. Everyhing you do is interrupted...absolutely true

  • @maxruth2579
    @maxruth25795 жыл бұрын

    Woman you make me cry that's exactly how I feel thank you very much at at least somebody understand

  • @fl_snorkeldork
    @fl_snorkeldork Жыл бұрын

    I relate to this so much. The first 6 months were the hardest adaptation period I've ever experienced. To become a mother is almost to go through metamorphosis. My son was "high needs" also. He was born looking around, blue eyes wide open, taking in everything. The nurses called him "bright eyes" which is coincidentally something my husband called me in our very early days 🤍 You want an alert baby...my son met all of his milestones early and at 16 months old is the happiest, cuddliest, and smartest baby I've ever known. He plays independently. He can problem solve. He amazes me. And he's still just as alert lol 🤣 he literally doesn't stop moving until he sleeps, his energy gives me energy!

  • @HannahNuhi
    @HannahNuhi5 жыл бұрын

    Amazing tips. First time mom, mother of triplets here 😉

  • @KINGMATHEW

    @KINGMATHEW

    5 жыл бұрын

    Wow RESPECT

  • @dudeabideth4428

    @dudeabideth4428

    4 жыл бұрын

    How on earth did you do that. You need to write a book if you ever get time that is

  • @kirbierose2589

    @kirbierose2589

    4 жыл бұрын

    God bless you

  • @alyssaisnotdoneyet

    @alyssaisnotdoneyet

    4 жыл бұрын

    Wow! I just had one little girl a week ago and I feel so overwhelmed. All the best to you dear!

  • @maribelsandoval4405

    @maribelsandoval4405

    4 жыл бұрын

    Congratulations and practice the gift that she talks about. Reach out to your friends even just to talk about what you’re going through. Good luck.

  • @stacy3448
    @stacy34484 жыл бұрын

    Fantastic talk! I have run into a very frustrating rut with my toddler recently, and we need to reboot our schedule so that we are both happier. Thank you for this information.

  • @fraumorphose7507
    @fraumorphose75075 жыл бұрын

    Such a nice speech. Thanks a lot for sharing your experience and the G.I.F.T.😍🙏

  • @orozco80
    @orozco805 жыл бұрын

    Awesome video! Thanks for sharing. Really needed to hear this.

  • @NitishKumar-yj6yo
    @NitishKumar-yj6yo4 жыл бұрын

    I have twins in initial days it was very hard to manage every thing and I feel depressed about everything but after few days I realized that it's all in my head and as you said it's all about ourselves your advice really helped me thanks a lot.

  • @jeffpunz5337
    @jeffpunz5337 Жыл бұрын

    This is incredibly helpful at the moment, and perhaps forever. We're currently enduring the newborn phase (3 weeks) and he's ultra fussy. We find ourselves constantly reaching for solutions and reassurance and this video/talk gives me hope and catharsis with a fresh perspective.

  • @nintale1250
    @nintale12503 жыл бұрын

    Here after a week as a new parent. This was really helpful

  • @edaguilars
    @edaguilars4 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful, sensible and inspiring little talk. It comes as a timely g.i.f.t. to my wife and myself, less than two weeks into parenthood :)

  • @prernasharma1009
    @prernasharma10094 жыл бұрын

    I loved your talk. I didn't want your talk to finish. I want to hear you more.

  • @julieturner1865
    @julieturner1865 Жыл бұрын

    Based on recent brain research, I would add an extra T to the GIFT acronym - Talk! Language develop occurs through the social interactions between parent-caregiver and the child. It is through language that children build more brain connections leading to stronger thinking skills, problem solving skills, and social/emotional skills.

  • @AMPuthran04
    @AMPuthran044 жыл бұрын

    Useful. So needed to new parents. This needs to be told to all “to be” parents.

  • @dolkerdolker3069
    @dolkerdolker30695 жыл бұрын

    Amazing thoughts🙏🏻indeed truly said crawl away, walk away n fly away.. fly away is my saddest part.💞

  • @user-zo4jo5pz9w
    @user-zo4jo5pz9w4 жыл бұрын

    BTW I am not a western mom and I can relate to every word of this. I was disappointed when the video ended after 12 minutes. I wish it lasted longer!

  • @KarissaLissette1023
    @KarissaLissette10233 жыл бұрын

    Needed this! Thank you

  • @shilpabhatia7465
    @shilpabhatia74654 жыл бұрын

    Great start of the talk. So real and practical words...

  • @leannegwakeling3177
    @leannegwakeling31775 жыл бұрын

    Sounds like my younger son, no3 child. Even as a 3rd time new parent, so resonate with this.

  • @feefriz
    @feefriz5 жыл бұрын

    Very well said.

  • @AnneliseBlackbriar
    @AnneliseBlackbriar4 жыл бұрын

    This was my exact experience as a new mom.

  • @elizabethmayorga8916
    @elizabethmayorga8916 Жыл бұрын

    This was so beautiful and I’m glad I watched💛

  • @tristybrooke33
    @tristybrooke335 жыл бұрын

    I really appreciated this

  • @zenlifetv4837
    @zenlifetv48375 жыл бұрын

    I just had a baby 2 weeks ago and I really needed to hear this. I’m most definitely giving him the G.I.F.T.

  • @bohosoul13

    @bohosoul13

    5 жыл бұрын

    Congratulations! All the best to you and your little one.

  • @NeverTooSleepy
    @NeverTooSleepy6 жыл бұрын

    Amazing talk!!! You described exactly how I feel!🙌🏻

  • @glennamercado6975
    @glennamercado69755 жыл бұрын

    I was really able to connect with everything he was saying!

  • @charlesfrankswerph4144
    @charlesfrankswerph41442 жыл бұрын

    Thank you ♥️

  • @tishsmiddy71
    @tishsmiddy715 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @maipham4766
    @maipham47664 жыл бұрын

    This was so helpful ❤️❤️❤️

  • @jmlady17
    @jmlady172 жыл бұрын

    @5:00-10:00 Hearing this portion, I looked to see possibly how old the video was. Such a difference in the perception and state of being women present now from 7-10 years ago.

  • @seerootravelworld
    @seerootravelworld7 жыл бұрын

    Parenting is the most challenging task. It grows you as well along with your kids. there will always be contradictions between parents and kids. as a parent you may fail and feel like giving up many times. I will recommend reading a book " Mom Dollar Money" by angela Reuss, its the best parenting book i have read so far.

  • @baruchservant5132

    @baruchservant5132

    Жыл бұрын

    Great 👍🏻. I will also recommend "Child Guidance" by Ellen Gould White, you won't regret reading it.

  • @BellaLouisaatje
    @BellaLouisaatje4 жыл бұрын

    I'm 7 months pregnant and freaking out about this. But this helped. I realise it will be hard and different. But I will find a way to get through this.

  • @ConscienceLearner

    @ConscienceLearner

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hi Bella. Also 7 months currently and having a mini freak out. Seeing you post this a year ago, I wonder how you feel now?

  • @BellaLouisaatje

    @BellaLouisaatje

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ConscienceLearner well I'm doing fine. But also in the first year I had a burn out. And I got diagnosed with autism. So it doesn't mean that you won't be able to cope. I have learned to re arrange my life and I'm doing good now. You can too!

  • @PENQUINSCORNER
    @PENQUINSCORNER4 жыл бұрын

    thank u so much

  • @yoshitagandhi9639
    @yoshitagandhi96394 жыл бұрын

    What u spoke is exactly what happened with me. Same lifestyle that u had, i had. Same like you, no experience with babies. N same pain n screwed up after my first!!! No guidance. Totaly with our self.

  • @blacksmithperformance
    @blacksmithperformance3 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful! Great video as I'm going through week one as a father. Thank you for this awesome collection of your thoughts and experiences 🧡

  • @kimzales87
    @kimzales874 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this. Baby has been going through a sleep regression and hasn't been moulding to what we think he should he doing. I ended up frustrated, exhausted and sending him by my in laws (I'm also dealing with mild ppd). He's on his way back to me now and I promise to try giving him the GIFT and letting him just be a baby

  • @littlehouseinthebigapple5716
    @littlehouseinthebigapple57164 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad i heard about high needs babies pretty soon after having my girl... i thought i was taking crazy pills...I'd never seen a baby like this! I was so happy to know it was a "thing" so i wouldn't have to wallow in thinking I was doing something wrong. She is fabulous... but a high needs baby will show you what youre NOT going to do!

  • @ellypretty

    @ellypretty

    4 жыл бұрын

    Little House in the Big Apple is it your girl still like that? I have a son and he is always on me. I so neev some alone time 😭😭😭

  • @dotheyrock8637
    @dotheyrock8637 Жыл бұрын

    Amazing, great ted!

  • @lissetteferrei8703
    @lissetteferrei87038 жыл бұрын

    she is right!! i have an 8 year old and 1 year old and i learned with my 2nd baby

  • @elisagriggs7825
    @elisagriggs7825 Жыл бұрын

    I needed this right now ❤

  • @ranjinig9370
    @ranjinig93707 жыл бұрын

    that's a wonderful speech very soothing voice it inspired me

  • @jessicaramer6630
    @jessicaramer66304 жыл бұрын

    What a child will remember is whether or not you cared. My mother feels guilty about "mistakes" she made with me decades ago. I don't even remember the stuff she is so stressed over and feels so guilty about.

  • @weebeng2497
    @weebeng24974 жыл бұрын

    Nice video. Many parents are not aware of the importance of touch to early brain development.

  • @anjubhoytekumar8583
    @anjubhoytekumar85835 жыл бұрын

    Just wow!

  • @Jamila-gz4ls
    @Jamila-gz4ls5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, that was very interesting, true...and funny! 😊 (...dying to plug my eyebrows😊)

  • @rosameijering5161
    @rosameijering51614 ай бұрын

    This is so interesting

  • @MagdaEnigma007
    @MagdaEnigma0075 жыл бұрын

    Great tips! 👶🏻👏🏼 The one things I hate the most is sleep training. Parents don't realise that babies are born 9 months early which means that once they are here, the beginning is like another stage of pregnancy. Touching them and making them feel safe will prevent an anxiety in the future. We just want to control too much.

  • @JHaleyBeauty
    @JHaleyBeauty Жыл бұрын

    Up at 5 am after the 3rd blowout from my baby. Really needed to hear this, thank you ❤

  • @shawno3012

    @shawno3012

    Жыл бұрын

    Just finished breastfeeding at 3am and trying to get some me time . And to wake up at 6am 😊

  • @regularguyanonymous3248
    @regularguyanonymous32487 жыл бұрын

    9 months pregnant and already crying and feeling guilty....did I talk to my baby enough? Does he feel loved, did my stress affect him to much? I keep forgetting to take my vitamin...I am already a terrible mom, I feel guilty for being tired of being pregnant.

  • @inquisitive99

    @inquisitive99

    7 жыл бұрын

    Like she said breathe..inhale..let all worries go away when you exhale..you are alright and its normal to forget..its not on purpose :) so smile.

  • @relaxation-Corner

    @relaxation-Corner

    7 жыл бұрын

    Regulargirl Anonymous almost eight months and feeling similar things! already feel like a failure! :/ especially feel guilty about stress while pregnant etc

  • @aimsical285

    @aimsical285

    7 жыл бұрын

    Regulargirl Anonymous that's the opposite of what you should be feeling! By this time your baby may be barely born. There's still SO much time for you to do those things. Learning this now and not 9 months ago should not deter you from doing the best you can for your baby NOW. Just start now, be positive, listen to your instincts, and move forward.

  • @JeniWithOneN

    @JeniWithOneN

    6 жыл бұрын

    30 weeks pregnant and that's exactly how I feel!!!

  • @DellTewahdo

    @DellTewahdo

    6 жыл бұрын

    I am pregnant and have stress through my job which concerned me but the fact that you are concerned & working on it means you are already a good parent. My doctor said when your baby is born, they will learn from your facial clues and you will teach them how to deal with stress and that they are loved by smiling at them. She said smiling at your baby often will help them a lot.

  • @sophien5416
    @sophien54166 жыл бұрын

    I so needed this. I am expecting my first child and I'm nervous how I will be. My hubby works all day until late at night, six days a week... so I worry that I will feel like a single mom. I already feel the pressure of high expectations for myself and know my role probably won't be appreciated like I was as a career woman. I am going to shift my focus to GIFT and let myself go with the flow.

  • @enoshut

    @enoshut

    6 жыл бұрын

    Dear Sophie, I wish you a wonderful beginning. Our greatest luck as parents is that our children offer us continuous opportunities to fall in love with them. You will experience your baby trying to connect with you again and again, even if you feel stress. you will flow into love, even when it is hard...(:

  • @karaa7595

    @karaa7595

    5 жыл бұрын

    Sophie N how's it going?

  • @veronikavonschert5688

    @veronikavonschert5688

    5 жыл бұрын

    diana eidelman gaqexqxzeetyGyghuioofpllnnmmkppp

  • @pattybi6506
    @pattybi65064 жыл бұрын

    Hope I listened to this talk two years ago

  • @SBGJansen
    @SBGJansen6 жыл бұрын

    We had the same and we got a sling and started baby carrying, we started co-sleeping and last but not least, lowered our expectations!

  • @motherwolf1529

    @motherwolf1529

    5 жыл бұрын

    SBGJansen yes!

  • @karmichaelblue

    @karmichaelblue

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bedsharing is extremely dangerous...the CDC has statistics about this.

  • @alexislane1035

    @alexislane1035

    4 жыл бұрын

    Depends on what studies you look at. Assuming you are not obese or on certain medication it can be safe

  • @sansewai

    @sansewai

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@karmichaelblue We have an American.

  • @karmichaelblue

    @karmichaelblue

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@sansewai yes and?

  • @skyleonidas9270
    @skyleonidas92705 жыл бұрын

    The problem is that parents dont invest enough time with their babies, a baby is two full time jobs

  • @amadahycatori6198

    @amadahycatori6198

    5 жыл бұрын

    I say 3 full time jobs, I say so now that I'm going through this experience.

  • @gwensanders5162

    @gwensanders5162

    5 жыл бұрын

    It’s impossible to not spend time with your baby. The baby is number 1 and if you forget that they will let you know.

  • @parissshams7192
    @parissshams71925 жыл бұрын

    All I can is I love you diana thank you so much for your amazing talk :) I really needed this perfect timing what you said it described my beautiful daughter I'm a new mom with no support no help shes with me as you said 24 hours I feel I give her all of me but back of my head I still feel guilty that it's not enough I feel that way because shes gifted after trying to get pregnant fo so many years weeks before doing ivf I found out I'm pregnant then I felt the world is mine shes my world I'll do more of what you suggested g.i.f.t. God bless you ♡

  • @miraim-b5572
    @miraim-b55726 жыл бұрын

    beautiful 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @enoshut

    @enoshut

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @vaskadi77
    @vaskadi775 жыл бұрын

    5:40 SO TRUEEEEE

  • @graciepelsue1591
    @graciepelsue15913 жыл бұрын

    Truth!

  • @leeleemaggs1347
    @leeleemaggs13474 жыл бұрын

    This is great, especially go. It is so true. Babies need to Goooo. Although I do think F should be Fresh air. Whenever I bring my unsettled baby out into fresh air outside, they always seem to feel peaceful. Watching the world around them. Or when my kids got hurt and they are crying hysterical. I step out side hot or cold, rainy too. And they just shut it down. Its amazing.

  • @berryberry7983
    @berryberry79835 жыл бұрын

    After 9th minute speech becomes meaningful

  • @energyreflecting9779
    @energyreflecting97795 жыл бұрын

    Glad Ialready treated my baby's like this

  • @lhamotseringkhotsenang2763
    @lhamotseringkhotsenang27634 жыл бұрын

    A new mommy of a beautiful babygirl here 😃

  • @rikianageorge1577
    @rikianageorge15774 жыл бұрын

    This is building

  • @xo7499
    @xo74996 жыл бұрын

    one must think a whole lot before removing their birth control or deciding to forgo it. think long and hard .

  • @curly23lash77

    @curly23lash77

    5 жыл бұрын

    xoxXOXO l no matter how much u think about it it doesn’t make it any easier when it happens

  • @marykaykeller7978
    @marykaykeller79782 ай бұрын

    Check out the book by Dr. Ted Nugent, "Your baby is speaking to you. Ninety (90%) percent of human communication is non-verbal in both directions." It is why I do what I do, teach "Baby Whispering." I have three courses that help those first couple of years. Sign Language, watching their body language un understanding combine with Infant Massage (healthy touch that releases oxytocin in both the baby and the parent) dramatically supports the bonding and connection. I just love her talk!

  • @dudeabideth4428
    @dudeabideth44284 жыл бұрын

    I am a new dad of a baby that is 5 days old. And yesterday I started counting the number of sucks to measure the efficiency of feeding :)

  • @jlynnrosado8025
    @jlynnrosado80255 жыл бұрын

    I talk to my baby a lot from the start,she spoke early and I wasn't as stressed. BUT I try only to say positive things to her,"no" was Okay but not negative comments.

  • @muslimah_peace1907

    @muslimah_peace1907

    4 жыл бұрын

    JLynn Rosado how do you mange your sleep

  • @Odaytatime
    @Odaytatime5 жыл бұрын

    I am still my 19 month old son's teddy bear when he wants to sleep.

  • @ayaan8877
    @ayaan88775 жыл бұрын

    Currently feeding my 6wk old

  • @aniles1989
    @aniles19894 жыл бұрын

    Separation Anxiety

  • @Hro_Kst
    @Hro_Kst4 жыл бұрын

    I LOVE youtube!

  • @skyleonidas9270
    @skyleonidas92705 жыл бұрын

    Turns out it was all about me hohoho

  • @sukamtokamto7053
    @sukamtokamto70535 жыл бұрын

    Anyting . example immunization, planned family, breastfeeding, et cetera

  • @bessyisyourbestieforever3164
    @bessyisyourbestieforever31645 жыл бұрын

    Our room is 2 king size mattresses in the bedroom and our baby and toddler sleep with us otherwise we would get no sleep.

  • @ddfelder2

    @ddfelder2

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bessyisyourbestie Forever smart! I’ve gotta try that.

  • @aka6153
    @aka61536 жыл бұрын

    While 3months pregnant I do for the most part consider myself pretty much prepared for baby pretty soon:-) This preparedness is not based on my lawyer’s career, but on 15years of active preparation/reading and practical experience with kids! It shocks me to see that this lady and all my colleagues think they are prepared for baby BECAUSE they’ve had a successful career for ten years, a husband and a car!!!??? That just goes to show how UNprepared they are, because the more control and effectiveness they have in life the harder the baby years will become. I wonder, would they prepare for a pilot exam by flying airplanes or by getting married?

  • @xo7499

    @xo7499

    6 жыл бұрын

    okay, lady who is pregnant and never had a child of her own. dont think anyone should take advice from a non parent, whether u worked in day care or not

  • @FasBreh

    @FasBreh

    6 жыл бұрын

    xoxXOXO just cause someone has a child it doesn’t automatically mean they know what they’re doing! You need to educate yourself about human development and child growth by reading and researching. Each child is different but science is constant.

  • @aka6153

    @aka6153

    6 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, I could not agree more. That’s exactly what I meant by “15years of active preparation/reading and practical experience with kids” in my first comment. About 100 books did not make me a perfect mom. But over time I became a prepared one. So happy that I held on tight to my own intense childhood years that were full of love, laughter, understanding, nature, real experiences, creativity and all day free play with open ended materials. Can’t wait to prepare this environment for Alex and get to know him

  • @Duszka

    @Duszka

    6 жыл бұрын

    It's gonna be harder for you...my career is in elementary education and I spent years working in daycare and my biggest challenge was the ego getting hit repeatedly.

  • @test1test219

    @test1test219

    5 жыл бұрын

    xoxXOXO l Amen!

  • @kavunicibalik0
    @kavunicibalik02 жыл бұрын

    09:10

  • @stephanieh5478
    @stephanieh54783 жыл бұрын

    Parenting is terrifying.. maybe because I study psychology and early childhood education! I'm truly debating if I want children. We're overpopulated and not having children sounds selfish to society. However, having kids also sounds selfish since none of us asked to be here. I'm a teacher, maybe I should stick with my career. I have the opportunity to see children grow and learn without them being mine.

  • @test1test219
    @test1test2195 жыл бұрын

    I didn’t care about people’s opinion. I knew my baby and myself and I co-slept. You think back in the day cavewomen left their babies to sleep alone in their own cave?!! No! They co-slept!!!

  • @t.r.1457

    @t.r.1457

    5 жыл бұрын

    Right?! It's terrible to see so many mothers and fathers put their young baby in a bed of their own, let alone leave them in a different room for the night - without any body contact during sleep.

  • @stiles05s

    @stiles05s

    5 жыл бұрын

    ​@@t.r.1457 It's "terrible"? What's terrible is rolling over onto your baby and increasing SIDS risk. Just because it didn't happen to your baby doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Also, to the original comment, please don't use cavewomen as a barometer for good parenting. Infant mortality even 15 years ago was significantly higher. I'll pass on co-sleeping.

  • @roughpatches

    @roughpatches

    5 жыл бұрын

    You don't care about people's opinion, yet happily vomit your nonsense on other people.

  • @JourDUH

    @JourDUH

    5 жыл бұрын

    I co sleep too !☺️

  • @karmichaelblue

    @karmichaelblue

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bedsharing is extremely dangerous. The CDC has statistics about this. It is one of the number one causes of SIDS typically due to suffocation. Yes it would be so much easier to sleep with the baby on the bed, but it puts the baby at risk of suffocation and as parents we must sacrifice comfort to keep them safe.

  • @beautifulscarsband
    @beautifulscarsband6 жыл бұрын

    “Gift” en Danish means “poison” or “married”:)

  • @aka6153

    @aka6153

    6 жыл бұрын

    Ja, det tænkt jeg også😉

  • @MissPopeyes22

    @MissPopeyes22

    5 жыл бұрын

    Natasha Thomas in german it means poison too ☠️

  • @harekrishna108

    @harekrishna108

    Жыл бұрын

    but you pronounce totally differently,

  • @jonmoscowful
    @jonmoscowful5 жыл бұрын

    Would have been really helpful if the video was titled, "What every new mother should know"? That's fine, videos for mums are great and it would save dads time when they are looking for relevant info for themselves.

  • @miyounova

    @miyounova

    5 жыл бұрын

    So...fathers should not take care of their babies and feed them????

  • @crece-digital
    @crece-digital Жыл бұрын

    I do not agree with the distinction between developed and undeveloped countries, it is the same no matter the country

  • @giedre8921

    @giedre8921

    Жыл бұрын

    In undeveloped countries usually few generations live in a same household, it makes everything easier.

  • @TrojansFirst
    @TrojansFirst7 жыл бұрын

    easy solution: attachment parenting.

  • @mariasokolova5615
    @mariasokolova56154 жыл бұрын

    "But when your spouse comes home it's not something you are going to brag about." Why not? I would.

  • @veronicaalvarenga5284
    @veronicaalvarenga5284 Жыл бұрын

    For someone who brags about working in education!... I wonder what is the difference with the parents in developing and developed countries?!!.. They are human beings too arent they?!.. She talks about technology and material advantages those dont have anything to do with raising a baby.. Raising a baby is a strictly related to human interaction.. This woman had a perfect material life before having a baby.. Guess what having a child is beyond that and anything we could think so dont make a difference in between ppl in one part of the world thatn the other we are all the same and the work of raising a baby and the feelings we experience are the same for all parents... She should educate herself on being a human being

  • @indiemerick
    @indiemerick4 жыл бұрын

    ... "in developed countties?"... Why?

  • @davekavana8945
    @davekavana89453 жыл бұрын

    I'm a stay at home dad of a new borne and this is still so much easier than construction.....