When my cousin was 18 weeks she went to her doctor because she was having pain on her right side. Doctor rolled his eyes at her, told her it was pain from being obese and pregnant and that she should leave because he had actual patients with actual problems to see. She took herself to the er and they told her she had appendicitis and needed to do surgery asap. I’m not surprised so many women die, doctors don’t listen to women, pregnant or not.

@ShopaHolli50

3 ай бұрын

And they always say it’s because of weight. 😢

@breadbrown7708

3 ай бұрын

Research isn't even done on women first off,secondly male dr's are always trained to believe that women are over dramatic,if they are in pain it's not concerning and women are ment to tolerate pain because we are beasts of burden. Sad😢😢

@joeb2384

3 ай бұрын

It's very odd their misconception I just got appendix surgery 2 weeks ago finally healed from a full recover but it was awful. I felt like I was dying in the morning and my sibling just took the pain as nothing thinking I was being over dramatic. I couldn't even stand. Get to the hospital and the check in person was extremely rude... even after 2 hours of waiting in extreme pain I just went up to the window and asked, "I'm in extreme pain, is there any way I can just know the wait time?" And she arrogantly responded YOU need to wait, just like everyone else has too. Got checked out finally after waiting 5 hours, and my symptoms were just push aside a bit and told it was a stomach bug, because I have a High pain tolerance it didn't seem that bad to them until they saw in the scan what it was. Thankfully there were some really kind doctors who took care of me overnight which I will never forget to this day. I've had a hard time I'm only 16 and left my parent home because they were extremely horrible, it's been such a struggle trying to raise myself for all this time and feeling like I was being mothered again made me feel better, Hospitals Def need to be better when it comes to people's needs, symptoms, and kindness, not everyone handles things the same

@kingapilart

3 ай бұрын

Our pain tolerance is greater so if we say we are in pain male doctors and some females should listen 😤

@dac6157

3 ай бұрын

I had a similar issue except I was 8 weeks and it turned out to be a tubal pregnancy, but the doctor said “your fine no s3x for a week” didn’t feel right to me went er

History has taught me one thing, men ruin everything. Thank you, Bailey ❤

@khirsch5828

4 ай бұрын

@cindyhesson9213 Please remember that the hospital is there because of men.

@cindyhesson9213

4 ай бұрын

@khirsch5828 Really?? Well, that makes sense. 🤔🙄🙄

@cindyhesson9213

4 ай бұрын

@khirsch5828 Guess insurance is on you too, huh?? Thanks 🤬

@Maya_hee

4 ай бұрын

@@khirsch5828 this is some bs right here bro. And also, hospitals mean nothing with no doctors around

@arianebennion

4 ай бұрын

Strong bodies weak minds.

I am a doula and diving into this topic is crazy. The amount of women who experienced postpartum depression and postpartum PSYCHOSIS is wild. We really need to do better.

@LaurenJones-lh2df

3 ай бұрын

I had postpartum psychosis with my first baby. With my second and third, I specified like as soon as I can eat, give me my antidepressants back. Both doctors acted like I was crazy. Like yeah, that is the point 😂 😬

@mutoidliz2320

3 ай бұрын

PostPartum Depression has wiped me of 3 years of my almost 6yr olds life .I can't remember even giving birth,attending baby classes,or any of her firsts (steps,words,tooth) yet my partner remembers it all and rolls his eyes if I ask about her baby and early toddler days 😭

@tara_m_e

3 ай бұрын

@@mutoidliz2320you’re not alone. I had postpartum depression after my 2nd that eventually led into just regular old depression. I look back through pictures of her & realize I really don’t have many of her just because I was struggling so bad. Night & day difference between her & my first. She was a preemie so her birth didn’t go as planned & I feel like we were robbed of so much. Then covid hit just a few months later & my grandpa had a horrific death (not covid). So yeah it’s been a craptastic 4 years with one thing after another. I’m just ready for things to return to “normal”.

@jibyjiby5424

3 ай бұрын

I had severe prenatal depression. Hormone issues for women are still not addressed properly but it’s definitely better than the days women would get sent to asylums for lobotomies when experiencing postpartum depression.

@leahv.2537

3 ай бұрын

​@@jibyjiby5424lobotomy because of depression, that's horrifying!😮😢 So they basically gave a woman an *intentional* traumatic brain injury, thus crippling her in a way and for what?!

Thank you for speaking on the maternal mortality rate in the US, it is unreal. My mother has been a midwife for 40 years doing it in secret in the beginning & helping women who don’t have the money for a hospital birth or are terrified of a hospital birth. Midwives are essential to life & to bringing life into the world.

@CrochetBaba

4 ай бұрын

Back in the nineties I had to have my baby at home on the downlow because it was illegal where I live. But I didn't care I get it anyways. It's about me and the baby and our safety.

@CrochetBaba

4 ай бұрын

Yes yes they are!!

@usmc_sunscreenqueen

3 ай бұрын

Please thank your sweet Mama for me....she must be a precious lady & I'm sure you feel blessed having her as a mother. You must love her so! ❤

@iriswright5060

3 ай бұрын

I had a midwife for both of my kids births. She was amazing!!

@caradelsol1

3 ай бұрын

Love that! I had my son with a midwife because 1.) The Midwife Model and Midwives themselves are Amazing and 2.) I refused to go into the hospital setting that my nerves and nephews were born into.

Australia here, it’s free to have your baby here. The government supplies a “baby box” it has basic baby supplies, discount vouchers etc. when you return home a midwife will visit weekly for 6 weeks to make sure your healing properly and coping at home. If your not coping there are free services to support you. There is also a payment for low income mothers of aprox $1900 to help with the cost of having a baby. Lastly if you have a hospital birth a midwife is with you in the birthing suite at all time and a dr comes and checks on you regularly. I really think America needs to do better

@trinitylace1101

4 ай бұрын

Wow. Yeah, I go on maternity leave soon and we don’t get paid while on maternity leave as well as that it’s just terrible giving birth and going home with no care towards the women. I’m so nervous to give birth but I know I’ll be ok💞

@marnie9063

4 ай бұрын

Scotland does baby boxes too!

@desireeadams1261

4 ай бұрын

Wow! For real. Wish I was there instead of here in the USA for both my births plus many other reasons!

@natashajane8162

4 ай бұрын

@@trinitylace1101 you don’t get paid Maternity leave???? Seriously that’s crazy! We have 20 weeks paid maternity leave (includes if you adopt a baby) and 2 weeks parental leave for your partner (government pays this) you can also use your annual leave (vacation time) which is 4 weeks full pay a year.

@Maracchan

4 ай бұрын

Baby box is a finnish invention, btw! In Finland you can choose an x amount of money (don't know the amount) or the baby box...

Did you hear about the baby that was born decapitated and the hospital staff hidden it from the parents and told them that they should think about getting a cremation? If it wasn't for the funeral home they would have never known what happened to their baby. You should look into this, it is very sad

@sam-salami

3 ай бұрын

oh gosh 💔 was the hospital the one to blame for it or was the baby born like that?

@ThePacificQueen

3 ай бұрын

Oh my Lord. I just looked this up after reading your comment. How truly horrific and heartbreaking. That poor baby, those poor parents. And that disgusting hospital.

@TheKeeperMadz

3 ай бұрын

​@@sam-salamiyes it was the hospital that pulled on the baby during birth until it's head came off.

@jeanellenosbisch

3 ай бұрын

I believe the couple won the lawsuit. But nothing will bring that baby back. It is so heart breaking for that family to go through.

@barbaraaly6186

3 ай бұрын

This happened in a week after I had a C-section. My baby was in the NICU and I was still riding the postpartum hormone train. I was devastated for this family. I cannot imagine.

I'm 28yo and 18 weeks pregnant right now with my first child... I am super scared of child birth. But more scared of American hospitals and doctors. I hired a group of midwives and am planning a home birth this August.

@bridgetthenry7795

26 күн бұрын

You got this!!!! Wishing you the best and fast labor!

@rachelbrzoznowski4816

7 күн бұрын

You got this. I just had a home birth.

After I had a traumatic birth in the hospital with my first child, I promised to never do that again. It left me with diagnosed PTSD. With my second I had a midwife. The midwives made my birth feel like a sacred ceremony as it is. Birth with a midwife was so healing. I was able to be in control of my own birth/ mind/ body. I felt so safe with my midwife’s. I wish everyone could experience outstanding care that midwife’s give.

@k8marcella156

4 ай бұрын

100% this!! I just had my second/redeeming birth with midwives at a birthing center! So healing!! My hospital birth was awful!

@beccawurfel6757

3 ай бұрын

This makes me so happy for you ❤

@Cacastinkyman

3 ай бұрын

Yes! My first was traumatic. So I did my research and found Women and Infants Hospital in RI. They let me try a VBAC and it was an amazing and healing experience :) I would have done a homebirth if I could.

@myadavis4560

3 ай бұрын

I agree, I wouldn’t say I had a traumatic birth with my first, but they were in a rush to have me progress (pop my waters) so that the ob could go home… i had midwife’s at the hospital, with my second birth I found a midwife who runs her own small business and she’s been doing it for over 20 years and she does home births, it was the best experience I could have ever imagined:)) highly recommend

@supklop1477

3 ай бұрын

This is amazing! I was the other way around. My first birth was absolutely BEAUTIFUL and I was telling my boyfriend, right after she was out, I’m ready for #2 as soon as he was! I just had my 2nd almost 4 months ago and it was absolutely horrifying. They made me do many things I specifically learned to not do and they physically forced me into my back. I wanted a 3rd so bad but at this point..if we can’t afford a birthing center I’m going back to my home state to give birth and I’ll do it alone rather than doing it again where I am now.

Bailey, I think this is probably one of the most important Dark History episodes you have ever done. It is so vital for women to know that they have a choice of how they give birth. I think women finally started speaking out about birth experiences in the last few generations, and their bad experiences may have contributed to the number of women who are chosing not to have children. Not that there is anything wrong with chosing not to have children. That is every woman's choice. I realize there are many other contributing factors, but it is important for modern women to know that they are in control of their birthing process and their bodies. I had my 1st baby 23 years ago and did not know my options or even how to take care of my thyroid disease while pregnant. I had 3 very traumatic births. I want better things for women today. Thank you for making this episode. ❤

@aubreyandsarahstanfield4326

4 ай бұрын

Perfectly stated ❤

@lindapickford5062

4 ай бұрын

I really don’t want to have kids. Just the whole experience does not appeal what so ever. I don’t like babies at all. Animals all the way. All the horror stories i hear from my friends who have given birth. It’s hideous. One of the most scary, risky and painful things a woman will go through. And all these doctors and nurses seem to have no care or empathy at all. I get they see it everyday. But we’re people not statistics! No thank you!!

@meghanm.5169

Ай бұрын

I love women. I love you for saying this. I love how we so appreciate other women giving advice. Being a woman is so hard and we need to help each other more often.

@DarkFire1536

Ай бұрын

@@meghanm.5169 That is so kind. I agree. Women definitely need to support and care for each other.

Canadian here. Birthing a child is free. The whole 9 months of pregnancy, you have doctor's appointments for free and really thorough check-ups. It's pretty great!

@CelleSleuths

4 ай бұрын

Nothing is free. Trust me you are paying for it in one way or another.

@sabrinakelly7408

4 ай бұрын

@@CelleSleuths employer's pay a tax based on the gross total salary of the company and workers pay income tax etc. I prefer having amounts taken off from my income regularly (a bit like paying for insurance) than having to fork out a huge amount all of a sudden and stressing over the bill for added pain management (epidural) or extended stay for complications/nicu for premies etc.

@CelleSleuths

4 ай бұрын

@sabrinakelly7408 we already get copious amounts taken from our paycheck and we have income tax as well. Taxation is theft.

@JujulieHH

4 ай бұрын

You're confusing Universal Healthcare with theft@@CelleSleuths

@breadbrown7708

3 ай бұрын

​@@CelleSleuths😂😂 taxation is theft,the problem we really have is that we don't get to see our tax funds working for us.😢😢😢😢😢😢

The day I went into labor, my doctor was unavailable due to another delivery (my son had a popular birthday haha). A midwife delivered my son instead - I was upset to learn a doctor wasn’t going to deliver my son but that quickly changed. The midwife was an absolute angel. I couldn’t have asked for a better labor/delivery because of her.

I am SO glad you're covering this topic! This is something I am so incredibly passionate about. Just had my 5th and last baby and I birth naturally. I had the most amazingly magical, primal, and empowering labor 🥹. I even caught my own baby after pushing for a few minutes while kneeling. What we are doing in childbirth isn't working, it's leaving women traumatized and even dead. 60% of women have birth trauma. Almost half have cesareans- most of which are unnecessary. Going to midwifery school soon to help make positive change.

@JessicaCheape

3 ай бұрын

Best comment here. 🙌🏻

Before even seeing the video, I thought about how doctors have lied to us about how to give birth. It’s so unhealthy how it’s done.

@solene2014

4 ай бұрын

Bsr tatie Bailey j'espére que tu vas bien je suis présente pour cet nouvel épisode d'histoire sombre ça parle de l'accouchement tout le monde ma félicités pour la naissance de mon frère il s'appelle Clément je t'aime tatie Bailey merci d'avoir aimée ma réponse 😊❤

@MountainPearls

4 ай бұрын

It seems OBGYNs are either fantastic or terrible. I took me 12 years to get an endometriosis diagnosis-“medical gaslighting/shrugging off my symptoms). Yet, another OBGYN saved my friend and niece lives’ both because he knew his stuff and listened. (I go to him now…he is reasonable, listens, and always says “in the end it’s up to you.” He lays out all the choices and points you toward research if you want yo think on something. I have heard he* works with mothers to give birth as they want-from where ti pain and positions etc. He also oversees quite a few Midwives for uncomplicated pregnancies/birth-including home births). He also does “Gentle C-Sections” if a woman should need one scheduled. He refuses to steal a woman’s arms down unless her and baby’s safety calls for it. HOWEVER, with her first child, my first niece, I’m fairly certain she had a c-section because they gave her Pitocin too soon (after she had gone into labor naturally ON her due date). This was, apparently, to “move things along.” She’s researched since then, there is some literature to say you should avoid taking it when possible (not if you need to be induced or whatever. But not right away when you get to the hospital after going in your labor naturally). They should have just let her body be in labor for a bit longer before “helping her out” …she doesn’t think it gave her body time yo prepare itself for the birth (she was so close, almost like giving birth both ways).

@whitneyanders5945

4 ай бұрын

Yeah so terrible… considering that death during or after birth has dramatically decreased in the last 100 years. Let’s go back to the olden days where women had a huge chance of dying during birth and where infant mortality was very common.

@hannahleemarie8631

4 ай бұрын

@@whitneyanders5945America has some of the worst maternal mortality rates in developed nations. It’s gotten better because medicine has gotten better, but there are still huge margins for improvement to be made.

@MarySunshine25

4 ай бұрын

Yep, back birth is slower and causes more trauma you know? (Trying to not use specific words and get the comment flagged) It's so messed up.

Bailey is uncovering the bs and I'm so glad it's all coming to light

I had both my babies at home in my bathtub! I paid $2,000 for both my midwife and a doula. Both were beautiful experiences and my babies were both healthy happy kids!

@papabear5506

4 ай бұрын

Same! First was naturally in the hospital. I said never again! Next two born in my shower with just my husband and midwives arrived minutes after 😅 both great experiences and happy healthy kids! Cost $2k and $500 respectively. In the USA.

@user-xk6nm8wd1b

3 ай бұрын

do they take insurance?

@JetaimeBoricua

3 ай бұрын

That’s so awesome to hear! ❤ I’ve always said I’d want to have my future babies at home/ water births because the birthing experience looks so much more peaceful and less traumatic than in a hospital . This makes me feel more comfortable in my decision lol

@papabear5506

3 ай бұрын

@user-xk6nm8wd1b mine didn't, but they are really willing to work with you. The first go around they just discounted for me. The second time they were able to use a grant 😊

@makal6232

3 ай бұрын

I always wonder what happens in case of emergency? For instance , when I gave birth, 10 10 minutes I started bleeding bad…. Apparently At one point there were at least 8 doctors in my room 😅If I was giving birth at home, would I have time to go to the hospital in this case?

As a healthcare worker, I’ve heard a Dr (not OBGYN, but still a Dr ) blame their patient for something that is in their control to fix. (A fixable complication) “Preventable deaths due to diabetes, etc….” I heard “not my fault, they weren’t perfectly healthy.” 😡

As a retired midwife, I say thank you for this thorough episode!

@usmc_sunscreenqueen

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for helping women with the birth of their precious babies. I'm sure every one of them remember you with nothing but love! ❤️

@sweetlisajohnson

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for being there for us women.. my daughter had a midwife. I was worried..but she's did a beautiful job..better than my DOCTORS DID..

Kneeling during birth was actually the most comfortable for me, and the baby just plopped down into a soft bed. My first birth was on my back in styrups..not as effective.

@Natlatify

2 ай бұрын

I've never had a baby but when you think about it, it makes so much sense. Gravity is your friend in birth! If you have a ball in a tube, you wouldn't lay it flat to try and remove the ball, you'd tip it so the ball could fall out. I can only imagine what a help gravity is in child birth that if I ever have a child I will opt for the choices that use gravity to assist (as long as its safe to do so)😊

I had a miscarriage inside of me for 3 weeks and the obgyn didn’t acknowledge my worries enough to give an ultrasound. I had to wait till 12 weeks to confirm it and they let me and my husband go without giving us options on how to pass it. My mom had to demand them to give me options before it caused an infection and become fatal

@sheilawhitener3819

3 ай бұрын

Wow in some states today you would DIE

@ArelimedinaB2

18 күн бұрын

😢 waooo I'm sorry you went through that!!

We happily paid to go to a midwife in the USA and had such a beautiful experience.... I'm a huge advocate for it and love this episode! They'll take you to a hospital if you need it, but trust your body ladies! ♡

Everyday I find new reasons not to get pregnant 😂😂😂

@TheMightyBlackPearl

4 ай бұрын

I find new reasons to never do this again, and I'm due in July. I love my kids, of course lol, BUT I'm literally writing every horror down in a journal and reminding myself why two is a perfect number of children to stop at in case I have the crazy idea to ever do this again 😂

@lolitagslay

4 ай бұрын

@@TheMightyBlackPearlI have 1 kid & if I could’ve just had pets, I would have!! I never planned the one I have now but wouldn’t change it for anything! So I totally agree with you / same page! I was due in July & my daughter was born the 12th instead of the 16th. Congratulations!!

@aprilmason3328

4 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@mackenziegerdes5239

4 ай бұрын

Oh lord

@PorchHonky1975

4 ай бұрын

Smart… 🙏

I'm so glad you talked about how WoC often are ignored by their doctors when they are having complications. Implicit bias is very real and can definitely have negative impacts on others. I'd suggest checking out the Harvard Implicit Bias test; it's quite interesting.

As a birth center midwife, I really appreciate this video! Thank you!

My sister almost bled to death because the doctors would not listen when she said my niece was crowning. She stayed with her in the birth canal for 2 hours and when my bro in law moved the blanket, there was blood every where

As a 20 year, Labor And Delivery nurse. I find this episode absolutely amazing. And yes, bring back the midwives. While I value our physicians and the resources that they bring to the table, everything that you said in this podcast in my opinion was spot on.

@allihagen1180

3 ай бұрын

You should definitely read the book Act Natural by Jennifer Traig for more historical context on child bearing!

@annaadams326

3 ай бұрын

@@allihagen1180 I’ll look into it. Thanks! I really enjoyed this Bailey episode!!!

Home birth midwife here 👋. Looking forward to watching this! Lots of horrific things going on in this day and age!

As someone who is doing medicine history as a gcse at the moment, hearing barber surgeons actually brings me joy. Then medicine topic is so interesting to me. I literally went on a hour rant to my mam about it because she mentioned penicillin 💔

Totally choked on my coffee in front of all of my coworkers when I heard baileys rhyme for Aristotles theory 😂

Almost died during childbirth, rare condition that effects 3% : Retained placenta didn't deliver, almost bled out, had to be rushed to emergency surgery at 2am. If I wasn't at the Hospital, I would have died that night before ever really getting to hold my daughter. Thankful for the doctors who saved me & helped my baby.

@breadbrown7708

3 ай бұрын

Did u give birth in that same hospital?

Why is it that I'm thinking about Dark history of CONTRACEPTIVES 😬 i hope Bailey would cover this ❤😅

@Vampirefreak2282

3 ай бұрын

The woman who is the founder of planned parenthood was a raging racist who practiced eugenics. And birth control was used for sterilization. Including the mass sterilization of Puerto Rican women about 80+ years ago. Many women did it because it was an experiment and they needed the money. While others were forced. But they really just used Puerto Rican women as test monkeys :/

@bookieworm17

3 ай бұрын

She does in season 1 of dark history

I gave birth in a hosptial in 2021. I had a truamatic experience, and later when reviewing my medical records learned the doctor lied about what occurred during my birth in my records. After this discovery, I decided for my second pregnancy I would give birth in a birthing center with midwives. Those women were so incredible. They cared about my birth experience so much. My second delivery was everything I could have wanted and more. I urge any pregnant woman to at least tour their local birthing center and consider it for your delivery.

There is a pharmacy museum here in NOLA (it’s in the oldest pharmacy in the country) and they have a little section on midwifery and the rise of OB/GYN. And how awful Sims was. It is an AMAZING museum and AWESOME little section. (Even has an old school birthing chair that reclines or something)

@nataliemcd9318

2 ай бұрын

I've been there!! (I'm a CPhT) Very cool place! I spent HOURS in there.

My great grandma was a midwife back in the early 1900s in their small town on the coast of NC. She went to the farms and delivered babies of most people in my grandma's generation of that town.

You should do a follow up history of child birth in Indigenous communities. As an Indigenous woman, the birth practice is sacred. ❤ love you always!

@JennAmazed

2 ай бұрын

I'd love to know more about that

Doula here, I absolutely LOVE this episode!!! We need the truth about the history of childbirth discussed honestly on more platforms! Thank you Bailey!!!

Hypnobirthing really helped me on my birthing journey and the stories of how ancestors used gravity to help a natural process. 🙏

This is perfect timing! I'm 34 weeks pregnant now, preparing for childbirth

@trinitylace1101

4 ай бұрын

Me too💗congratulations mama🥰praying for a safe delivery and healthy baby💞

Thanks Bailey😮!! When i had my Daughter in the delivery room back in 1973. I was on the table. and the JACKAS NURSE straps my wrist and ankles down.i fought with them i said i am not going to jump off this f###% table, after this experience i never had any other children.😢

@mariemedina257

4 ай бұрын

P.S. I wrote about my delivery and then you said that laid the pregnant women on a table and strapped them. I would tell my friends and family members do not have your baby at this hospital and do not let them strap you down fight. Also my daughter was born with two bottom teeth at Birth

@desireeadams1261

4 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry your experience was so horrible 💔

@checkoutchick9023

Күн бұрын

I had a traumatic labour and delivery almost 30 years ago... My Son is an only child!!

Got this notification for this upload while in labor with my first child 😅😂 love ya Bailey! So timely ❤

I feel like this was just a drop in the bucket regarding the history of child birth. You could totally do a part 2 talking about the way women had to go into confinement for weeks, and then wouldn't be allowed out until they were "churched" and made "clean" again. Watch call the midwife for stuff in the 50s, plus the thalidomide babies scandal, and so much more!

@cannibalamoebas

3 ай бұрын

My family is from the east end where call the midwife takes place. My grandmother had her first child in the 1950s, his name was David. He died shortly after birth and she didn't get to see him or say goodbye. She was told to rest and so she did. When she woke up and asked for her baby, they told her he passed away and it's okay, she will just have another baby. She knows what cemetery he was buried at but doesnt know where in the cemetery since they didn't tell her and didn't document which ones the babies were buried in. It was another time and another world. I often wonder if we was a thalidomide baby bc of the times. She did go on to have my uncle and then my dad, but they all knew about David and she was forever traumatized by that. She was only 18 :-(

@lmurphy2203

3 ай бұрын

@@cannibalamoebas that is heartbreaking. My grandma had the same happen to her. She delivered prematurely in the 50s and my aunt lived for 45 minutes and in that time my grandma wasn't allowed to see her, my grandpa did but they wouldn't let her, then she had a stillbirth and she felt the baby kicking right up til it was time to push, the Dr looked and told the nurse to "knock her out" and when she woke up she was told the baby was stillborn. She did go on to have 9 more pregnancies and 7 living children including my mom (number 5) but she was definitely tormented the rest of her life for her lost babies.

@HaileyAngele08

3 ай бұрын

It’s still like this in some countries

@MommaSullens

2 ай бұрын

Call the midwife is amazing

@HealthyandLovingLife

2 ай бұрын

The thalidomide babies are so heartbreaking to see.

Great episode. I've had a hospital birth and a home birth, and there's no comparison in terms of care. Midwives all the way. Highly recommend the documentary The Business of Being Born for anyone who's interested in this topic.

The quality of your True Crime KZread series is unparalleled, weaving compelling narratives with insightful analysis effortlessly. Your unwavering dedication and professionalism establish a benchmark within the genre. Heartfelt appreciation for your exceptional contributions, eagerly anticipating your next captivating installment.

I was with my daughter just a month ago, as she was giving birth. She was given so many options on positions, as well as ideas on how to sit during the labor itself. She sat on a Yoga ball for a long time, and then was able to lay on each side to help the baby move down. It was much different then when I was having her 24 years ago. They were so helpful, understanding, encouraging, and thoughtful through the entire process. This made the experience so much less stressful for her, and put the focus back on her and the baby's health and wellbeing.

My birthing story is a little crazy. I was intimate with my partner's and didn't realize my water broke. I honestly thought I peed on him😂. So hours later he was at his job and I didn't feel right. Called 911 to have them take me to the hospital. The ambulance was full of men who said " we'll have the nurses check you".All while telling my partner what was happening over the phone. By the time I got to the hospital they told me to push 13 minutes later I had my son on the 13th of August. His father ran into the room at the perfect time.He was a premature but just perfect.

as a labor and delivery nurse I have never clicked on a video so fast!!! thank you for doing this QUEEN

I am an OB Surgical tech & we still use the Delee retractor (aka bladder blade) & Simms retractor in surgery to this day.

My cousin was paralyzed from the neck down from my aunt's doctor using forceps. My Dad's face was partially paralyzed for the same reason. When I had my children, I refused to let my doctor use them.

@MsAleje4

3 ай бұрын

That's still something that they do?

@jartisteobscure3992

3 ай бұрын

​@@MsAleje4Yes...you may have the option to refuse depending on where you live

@ShannonWaitas

3 ай бұрын

As of my last child being born in 2016, yes. I refuse to let anyone use them. But without knowing how dangerous they can be, it's not something that's thought about.

@lirosespurposefullove5422

3 ай бұрын

I know a few people who were messed up by forceps.

@strawberrycherrybaby

3 ай бұрын

@@jartisteobscure3992you can refuse regardless of location. They can’t force it.

The way Bailey read the mothers wills had me cracking tf up. 😂❤ the voice over was PERFECT! Really set the mood.

I was in labor with a broken water for over three FULL days.... 72+HOURS, COULD NOT DILATE PAST 4. At that point it became an emergency.😮 Time to have a C-section. My baby was sunny side up, and pinching off half my bladder!! Even though I had a catheter!!! I'm one of the rare cases where the C-section was actually done to save my life... Not just the doctors convenience. 🙄 **He had to deliver my bladder and operate on it before they could deliver my baby** 😂😂😂. My midwife and my nurses were awesome and my OBGYN surgeon ended up being awesome too. Every time I look at my scar I realize that if we had been in the hospital even 20 years earlier, But Definitely 50-100 years ago I DEFINITELY would be dead. THANKS DR. G ROD. We appreciate you!

@KS-zc4jn

4 ай бұрын

Three days in labor AFTER your water broke. I was told that once your water breaks, you are on the clock and only have 24 hours to birth your baby or a C-section would be done.

@zoecoote3746

3 ай бұрын

So much of this happens, it’s extraordinarily serious and yet woman are considered complainers when they have ptsd after childbirth .

@JennAmazed

2 ай бұрын

​@@KS-zc4jnthat's the way they do it these days. 24 hours after breaking waters the baby is delivered because of risk of infection.

@KS-zc4jn

2 ай бұрын

@@JennAmazed Right. That's exactly what they told me. I was just surprised hearing that poor lady was in labor for that long after her water broke. Yikes!

I almost died giving birth with my second. I went to the hospital 5 days in a row saying something was wrong. On the 5th day i went in and told them I am going to die. I feel it. I probably had 20 minutes left. And they finally tool me seriously and performing an emergency c-section. I was in the hospital for 7 days afterward because i got a staf infection from a bi-weekly check. So, yeah it's not great every time.

As a student midwife, this was honestly fascinating. I learnt so much! I’m in awe of the amount of research you had to do for this episode. Thank you!

When I told my ob I wanted a water birth and had specifically picked a hospital that offered that she went on to tell me SHE isn’t trained in those (okay sounds like a YOU problem) and then later mentioned I might not be able to do a water birth anyway but gave no reason as to why… that alone made me less trusting of her because now I feel like how I want my birth to go doesn’t matter. I also dislike that they have been pushing induction and c sections on us rather than letting things happen naturally. Obviously there are some legit reasons to need them but it’s starting to feel like the rule not the exception.

I have one child i will never have another one after the trauma and the way i was treated . Cant wait to see this love you Bailey!!! You are so smart putting these all together!!

@zoecoote3746

3 ай бұрын

Same. One child. Horrific. I used to see pregnant ladies and feel afraid for them,

My midwife was incredible, I got everything I asked for and was advocated for. I actually loved that it was so relaxed and I wasn't rushed to deliver faster

Sweet Bailey, I can tell by your voice that you are sick. I wanted to thank you for still putting in the work and giving us wonderful videos every week! I listen to you every Friday while I do my bill pay for the week at my job. Not sure I could get through all that without you! ❤

I had a Dr. during my first pregnancy who neglected my worries and concerns. Well I ended up having a full placental abruption at 36 weeks. I almost died and it was so traumatic. This all happened in 2021. I now see the dr who saved me and my son for my second baby. Always listen to yourself and do not let your dr neglect your worries and needs because it can be deadly!

When I had my first baby at 19 I had THE WORST experience. My daughter is 16 now but it was wild the way that man doctor talked to me and even threatened me. I was just a kid myself and he made it so traumatizing and hard. He even threatened to cut me open with no anesthesia. Awful awful time!

@jkwellness1639

4 ай бұрын

Ooooh! 😠 😡 This makes me so mad for you. If you are in nj my family is in law. I'd love to help you get justice.

@kathernandez6682

4 ай бұрын

@@jkwellness1639 thank you so much I appreciate the support I’m in North Carolina!

@jkwellness1639

4 ай бұрын

@kathernandez6682 I'm in New Jersey. Thank you for sharing your experience I'm so sorry you had to go through that

@kelleydeclue4100

3 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your experience, if they have no ability to help patients, why they become doctors?$$$$$ that's what it all comes down too!

@kelleydeclue4100

3 ай бұрын

@@kathernandez6682 really? I used to live in North Carolina with my former husband. What part of North Carolina are you from? I lived in Trinity North Carolina

Hi Bailey, I just wanted to say I've been a huge fan of yours for a couple years now. I just got cochlear implant on my right ear so I been listening to your voice to train my brain to understand speech. Love you B! ❤❤❤

Gave birth in Florida 8 years ago. Medicade provided a doula from the start and during labor the nurses showed me all the different positions I could give birth in with all the attachments, had nitrous oxide and they waited 3 minutes to cut the cord. Gave birth almost 4 months ago in Texas. The closest hospital that had nitrous oxide is 3 hours away and insurance would not cover it, the doctor stripped my membrane 2 days before my due date without telling me and they physically forced me on my back and cut the cord before even a minute.

I knew when I gave birth in 1974 that my treatment by the hospital, nurses, and doctors was substandard and cruel. I was only a teenager and was treated horribly. The Hispanic lady who spoke no English was also mistreated. I have horrible memories of how the nurses treated me and the awful things they said to me. The nurses were absolutely horrible people. In the early 90s I went to visit my sister-in-law in the hospital and I was so surprised at the kindness with which they treated her when she was giving birth. It was so drastically different.

I had my baby in June in a birthing center with midwives and a doula with no meds and it was a beautiful, empowering experience. I feel awful about all of these mothers who experience traumatic births.

@zoecoote3746

3 ай бұрын

You were very lucky. Birth is not beautiful for many people. I hope all your births are blessed like this ❤️

@cortney8493

3 ай бұрын

Must be nice. 🙄

Actually, barbershop quartets originated during this time. They would sing in the waiting room to mask the screaming of the people being operated on in the next room and help calm the nerves of the people waiting to be operated on next.

I needed surgery 3x because my GA obgyn was incompetent. Insisted I give birth laying down, tore all of my muscle and flesh. Then I bled all my blood. Couldn’t sue because baby was fine. So no lawyer would take my case.

@PathologicallyIncurious

3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry 😢

@professionalinsomniac8338

3 ай бұрын

What does the baby’s condition have to do with your own? Warped logic…

Midwives are the norm here in Australia. Most of the gyno doctors are male but the midwives are all female. With my first both he and I nearly died. I came to to find 3 midwives, two female gynos, and 4 male paediatricians in the room. All of this because no one listened when at 16 weeks I said I was getting pain in my ribs on one side. I still had the pain a month post birth and my gp, who I hadn't brought the pain up to, instantly worked out I had gallstones from where I put my hand. He couldn't believe that 6 midwives, 4 (male) gynos, and 5 ultrasound techs didn't question it

A mom here...childbirth was scary. Oh the pain and frustration. I had a scheduled c section and went in with no worries and as soon as I saw the nurses and the doctors I lost it. I was so nervous. Idk if I would do it again. The pain after and scar you're left with is wild.

@strawberrycherrybaby

3 ай бұрын

The fact that they have to cut the scar open for another c section, I decided I wouldn’t have additional kids if I had a c section previously. Through sheer dumb luck I got two uncomplicated vaginal deliveries. I recovery for a c section is insane too, and I definitely think it’s harder than an average vaginal birth recovery.

@barbaraaly6186

3 ай бұрын

I had a C-section 9 months ago. The incision site is numb sometimes then extremely painful at other times.

@naomiboard6783

3 ай бұрын

It's evem more traumatizing when they don't warn you that they will strap your arms and legs down for a c-section. And the pain afterwards... I learned through tests that my body only metabolizes 10% of medications like ibuprofen, so when I said I was still in pain - I really was!

@cassandraolivarez

3 ай бұрын

@@naomiboard6783 I remember the nurses put heavy blankets on my arms cause I was moving them when I was on the epidural and they were in my stomach getting my son out. 😨

@nataliemcd9318

2 ай бұрын

​@@cassandraolivarez I was still wiggling my feet and toes and borderline panicking right before they began to cut me open.

Love the way you give the history lessons. I'm learning more at 43 from you than I did in school. You would have been the most popular teacher ever!

I love you, Bailey! Women's Health is my JAM - my biggest area of activism. Big props and major thanks for doing this episode!

I think the big reason that you still give birth on your back is because of epidurals. When you have an epidural you cant bare weight on your legs. When i was in birthing class, that the hospital provided for free, they said that being on all fours or squatting was the most comfortable. But if you get an epidural you have to remain on your back. Anyways..... LOVE YOU BAILEY!!! Always look forward to your videos

@MessageViolation

4 ай бұрын

You'd think if you couldn't stand, they'd have a special squatting station chair. In ancient times, two people would hold you up while squatting. You'd think someone would have invented a special padded chair that could freefall your legs and apply body weight elsewhere. I mean, we have massage tables and what-not. Maybe a chair that has padded armpits and straps. Maybe an inventor will come up with one and change the course of history.

@zoecoote3746

3 ай бұрын

If that’s the case why do they get women to lay on their backs that aren’t having epidurals?

@samnslider

3 ай бұрын

@@zoecoote3746 🤷‍♀ dont know that they can lay another way? All I can comment on is my personal experience.

@nataliemcd9318

2 ай бұрын

I was actually able to get on my hands and knees while I had my epidural. My midwife and a nurse said they would have to roll me and hold me up, and before they could even finish speaking I was doing it myself. She said "OH, alright then!"

I had midwives for both of my babies in a hospital setting I loved it she was helpful and made me feel so much more comfortable.

After giving an all natural water birth, I am so traumatized from the act of giving birth that I never want to do it again. I am also traumatized from the postpartum hormones and having no help and no one to help me with the horrible pp anxiety. Worst feeling ever.

@urskaspan4598

25 күн бұрын

If you have anxiety and depression check your ferritin, transferin, saturation, B12 and folate immediately! But most importantly the ferritin!! Anxiety, panic attacks and low ferritin go hand in hand.

I love this!! I’m a labor and delivery nurse and I decided to give birth at home if that tells you anything. Thank you for speaking the truth!!

My oldest sister is a midwife of 5 years! She delivered my baby and followed up with wonderful postpartum care❤️ we are very blessed and privileged to have had midwifery so accessible to us and I pray that midwifery becomes more accessible to the general population and less frowned upon as time goes on. I often hear woman saying they can’t deliver a baby unmedicated because they aren’t strong enough but I promise you that you are❤️ you were built for this sister and you’ve got this! All births are beautiful, medicated, unmedicated, c-section and all the above! Woman should have the right to deliver their baby however they choose and no one should be able to tell you otherwise!

I knew about the King making this a thing but I didn't realize there was some more back story to it all. Thanks Bailey

My friend had severe dental problems during her pregnancies. Something with the baby taking the calcium and other vitamins nutrients etc. Yeah, pregnancy is super dangerous. The antichoice people be like "just push it out for someone else." But what if you and the baby don't even survive?

@lilmisskiss692003

3 ай бұрын

friend of mine has dentures in her 30s because of pregnancy

@nataliemcd9318

2 ай бұрын

Yup, your body sends all of those nutrients to the fetus in order for them to develop. I became extremely anemic during my pregnancy, and had constant low BP issues. That's why prenatal vitamins and extra supplements are so important during pregnancy.

@sunflower-gj7jk

Ай бұрын

Exactly! It can mean death still for us.

Bailey, I think that's a beautiful thing you pointed out; midwives are advocates for women when they are at their most vulnerable. ❤️

Glad I'm not the only one who has NO DESIRE to have kids!! "I'll get a puppy." 😂

Bailey I feel you so hard! Child free for life

@CrawfishEnchiladas2002

4 ай бұрын

@brittanywilcox7377 Yes! Amen!!

Your True Crime KZread videos are a testament to excellence, masterfully blending gripping narratives with insightful commentary. Your unwavering commitment and professionalism shine through, raising the bar for quality in the genre. Heartfelt thanks for your outstanding contributions, eagerly awaiting your next captivating episode.

The AMA did a smear campaign on chiropractic care as well. I wonder how dark the history is on chiropractic practicing.

I’ve had 4 safe births in hospital; One came so fast that the dr had to catch him and he spent a day in the nic unit: he’s 20 today! Do whatever you feel best about but if things go south a hospital has a lot more options than home

@cannibalamoebas

3 ай бұрын

I am someone who had two high risk births and would have died 100 y3ars ago. My first child was frank breech so we would have both died had it not been for a c section. My second child I labored for 14 hours and physically tried pushing for 4 hours. I was hemorrhaging and went on oxygen multiple times, and had to sign documents that said if I had to go into emergency c section I was looking at a mortality risk of around 80%. I grabbed the back of my delivery bed and squatted and got him out. I would have died if I tried to deliver at home or in ancient times. Child birth is still very high risk and dangerous, which is just another great reason that birth control and abortion should be accessible to any woman. Period

@TEDOGIRL02

3 ай бұрын

@@cannibalamoebasI’m glad you got through all that. Breech is a variation of normal tho, and midwives are trained in them. Drs aren’t, so they turn to cesarean. One of the midwives/doulas I learned from had 11 home births. Her very 1st child was a breech baby and she wasn’t about to go to a hospital for it. She said it’s her most memorable and the others after were smooth and easy. I really hope more drs learn breech delivery. Were you medicated and on your back for your other births? I’m glad you squatted that one baby out. Spinning babies helps with those advanced positions and techniques.

Today I buried my 49 years old dad, this is what gets my mind off for a second. During the funereral I thanked my dad for giving me 2 younger sisters and one brother, looking at my brother reminds me of him

@jennifersaunders5547

4 ай бұрын

Oh darling I am so sorry 😢🫂 I lost my dad suddenly 4yrs ago and I know how much it hurts. ❤

@BlindGirlCreations

4 ай бұрын

❤ to you in your healing and grieving

@ardenalexa94

4 ай бұрын

I’m sorry. It’s not easy. Lost my dad two years ago

@jenniferc8306

4 ай бұрын

🙏🏼so sorry for your loss! My dad died 11 years ago. It's was tough seeing my brother for awhile . He looks so much like him.

@kaebelle3000

4 ай бұрын

Sending hugs your way love 🫶🏾

Bailey, you are the best thing to ever happen to KZread since its existence. Idk what I even watched before you showed up and bless your soul for being here and giving us CONTENT. Girl. Love you lots

Hi Bailey 😊 absolutely love your podcasts. Just to let you know, the 70's did start over 50 years ago. I was born in 1971 and like it or not I'm 52 going on 53. Thanks so much for this Dark History on childbirth. I've concluded from this that men in general are out to take women's lives no matter what.

I broke my tailbone delivering baby number two. He’s 12 now and it’s never gone back to what it was.

@ruthiecolby7554

4 ай бұрын

You tell him he’s an actual PITA.

Thank you so much for this episode, Bailey! 😍 No one tells a story quite like you, and we are forever grateful ✨️❤️ I'm realizing just how lucky we are in Norway and many other places in the world to have midwifes running the show in the delivery rooms 👏👏 Also, definitely trying the squatting or kneeling position next time.

I have had 2 homebirths with a midwife and I'm a doula. Thank you for this because people who don't understand birth or its history are still demonizing midwives and women for their choices!

My chiropractors wife told me that she gave birth standing or squatting, and it shocked me, but it makes so much sense!! Thank you for making history 😁 fun and accessible for all!!!

Haha you sound like my youngest daughter, no babies for me. I'll be the cool aunt & get a dog! Great video Bailey.

All of the comments of people sharing their stories is so wholesome and sweet! What a lovely community🖤🖤

I think it’s absolutely amazing that you are learning all of theses things now if you choose to have babies. Childbirth is supposed to be beautiful and hard but it has become dangerous and scary. My favorite episode by far Bailey, bravo.

Bailey… bravo!!! Awesome episode. I’m a nurse and have a 9 month old baby. What great info you’re putting out there girl, bravo 👏🏽

I legit have watched every single video you have, you have no idea how you get me through work and panic attacks you help me alot with these stories and help me escape my thoughts thank you so much ❤️

The put it in the mouth thing with the delivery was so funny. I have not laughed out loud at you in quite a while but you did it

My husband was born in the late 70s and he a twilight baby. He said his mom doesn’t remember anything about his birth, which blows my mind.

Dear Bailey! Thank You for your informative podcasts - I am looking forward to it each week! :) I gotta mention one thing though, what as a hungarian I am missing from this episode - and his name is Ignaz Semmelweis, who is considered to the saviour of mothers. He was deditacted to reduce the deaths occuring surrounding giving birth. He suggested the hand disinfection to reduce the childbed fever. After they started doing the handwashing and stuff the maternal mortality rate dropped from 18% to less than 2% in one of the clinics he worked at. I wonder why they haven't thought about this earlier - that is the true mistery here. :) P.S.: Shoutout to the mothers who chose to give birth against all the odds! Thanks again and cya next week, bye! :)

Love that you covered this topic and the way you did it 🔥🔥

Bailey, please make an episode about Funerals, wakes, graveyards, and cremation??

I love your quote to remember what Aristotle said . Your personality is amazing ! ❤

Love how you referenced the forceps box to the Deal or No Deal show. I was cackling.

This was the most hilarious, as well as informing episode that I have watched so far. Absolutely, love listening to these while I am working.