Props to you for sharing your story. It takes strength to be vulnerable and this will certainly help other men going through similar issues. Prioritize your recovery and don't worry too much about making content. Cheers!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I appreciate it. I've prioritized it for a few months now and am doing better. Finally got some good news for the first time in months which helps. Now I need to get back at it for some normalness. That was part of my goal was to get others to speak up, men or women, but especially men because we never do

Jesse I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I cant say how much of a difference you made in people's lives around the world through your thoughtful videos explaning the art of woodworking because its immeasurable. I'm from the Caribbean. My island is very small and its far from Canada but even from here, I can tell you are a good person just from the friendly approachable vibe you generate in your videos. That door may have closed but only for you to see another open in the future with greater things to come your way! My thoughts and prayers are with you and thanks for giving me the confidence to know I can build things 😊

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks very much, I appreciate that! I'm working through it all finally and much better than I was only a short time ago. Take care of yourself and thanks for reaching out.

Divorced twice, homeless for about 6 months, lost my kids for a few months. Nothing like sleeping at a Walmart parking lot. Long story short but keep 1 thing in your mind that is so positive that you can’t let it go no matter what. My positive thing was I wasn’t going let my kids grow old without their dad. Years later and I’m doing pretty good. Keep your head up

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Ooof, sorry to hear that. We'll if it wasn't for a family member I may have ended up homeless for a bit. A roof over my head right now I about all I have, but I'm not complaining about that because it's more than some have. I'm glad to hear that you're doing better now tho. It takes a strong person and a strong mind to get through that and come out the other side, so good on ya 👊 Thanks for reaching out and take care of yourself

As someone who comes to this channel for woodworking, this is the last thing I expected to see. As men, we're kind of taught to "man up". But I think opening up like this is the manliest way to go about it. I'm sorry to hear everything you've gone through. Please keep pushing forward, life is like woodworking, there'll be imperfections, but there's always a way to fix them and make it workout in the end.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Yeah, I'm sure it's the last thing many people thought to see. But it's that exact stigma that made me make this video, because I was at a breaking point and being told that never fixed or made anything better. It wasn't fun to relive it again, took me 5 hours just to film that 18 min video, but I think it was worth it. I'm pushing ahead and have finally received the first bit of good news in 5 months which helps a ton. I like that analogy, it's pretty true. Thanks for reaching out, I appreciate it. Take care

Sorry to hear about all the troubles of 2023. Well it’s a new year so good luck. Your shed build series really really helped me learn not just to build a shed but squaring, plumbing and true builds. Thanks for the clear informative info. You are a great teacher and it’s a gift. Don’t forget when god shuts a door, there’s a window opened and sometimes more……

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks. I know everybody has things they go through, I just wanted to let everybody know that struggles happen to us all and that it's OK. I'm super happy that you built it, that's awesome! I think that's the best thing about building a shed that I never spoke about is all the things you learn while doing it. I love teaching and helping so hopefully this year gives me the chance now to expand and do even more. I've finally received 2 bits of good news so hopefully soon I'll be back at it in my own place again. Thanks for reaching out

Life has seasons. Many ups and downs. Always remember each one has a beginning and an end. Here's to a better season for all of us soon!!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Very true, seasons are a good way to put it. I think I'm finally starting to reach the end of this. I've received my first bit of good news in months and had a breakthrough mentally. Hopefully everybody who speaks up or is having a tough time can look forward to a better season. Thanks for reaching out! Take care

Oh man - I am so sorry you have gone through all of this. Sending good thoughts, prayers and support your ways. You are a very good person - I can tell from your videos. Take care Jesse! Please keep us updated.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

I appreciate it. Things are finally getting a bit better. Thanks for reaching out

Jesse, I just discovered your channel because I want to build a shed. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I have crushed 3 vertebrae and it has been hell. The additional strain of the relationship breakup was clearly truly traumatizing. I also know that one day, you will find a partner who won't care about your medical issues and help you know that you are in no way less a man. Thanks for all you do! I've never built anything before, but your instructions are so clear and helpful, so I think I can. Here's a hug for you, Jesse. Keep on being you.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Hey thanks, I really do appreciate it. Being injured sucks enough, and I can completely relate to back trauma, not fun. Well I'm glad you found me and my channel. I'm also glad I could help you learn, that's my whole goal here. I've finally received the first bit of good news in months and am getting back into it here. Thanks for the hug, hug back. Take care and good luck on your projects!

You are passing thru a hard time, but better times will come after the storm passes. You inspires me a a very nice person and God will guide your way to health and peace. Stay strong and always try to keep a positive mind. You are my favorite DIY wood worker. Don't worry for making video content for now.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you. Hopefully the storms have passed now. I finally received a bit of good news which helps, and so do the people commenting. I appreciate it but I finally need to get back at it and keep myself busy. It's been a few months way now. Take care

Sorry to hear you are facing these challenges. Kodos for sharing. This may help others. Hang in there.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Appreciate it. That's my goal. Take care

Jesse, I don't know you from the next guy but I watched 2 of your videos on concrete counter tops tonight and I appreciate you providing that information to the world. You'll have a prayer from me and I bet a bunch of other people based on reading the other comments. Take some time to grieve, be patient with yourself, and ultimately you'll pick yourself back up. Set some new goals and keep yourself busy and focused. You'll be good.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I appreciate it. I'm just trying put what I can out there to better the world how I can, I'm glad it's working. I've Ben working on myself now for a few months and it's helping. Take care of yourself and thanks for reaching out.

So sorry to hear this Jesse! The health problem alone would be enough for some people , but you have certainly had more than your fair share. All i would like to say is take care of yourself, keep plugging away and it's got to come good for you sooner or later!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks, I appreciate it. It's been a slog for sure, but I feel like I'm finally coming out the other side just in the past week. Finally received the first bit of good news in awhile and have made a breakthrough mentally. Thanks for reaching out

@kevinmorton2520

6 ай бұрын

Great news, keep your chin up!@@JessedoesDIY

Jesse it takes time to heal from the blows you've been dealt but I'm confident you're gonna get there. Godspeed brother.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks, I appreciate it. I feel like I'm finally turning a corner in the past week here, finally received 2 bits of good news in a while. Thanks for reaching out

Appreciate your openness on this topic. I have a friend going through this too - he doesn’t like to share anything though, so I just respect his space. Stay positive on your future as you never know how it could just turn a corner ❤

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you. It's rough, but thats while I felt like I had to make this. Feel free to share it with him. Then you aren't openly talking about it if he doesn't want to, but maybe he'll reach out to me or just feel a little better seeing others talk about it. Either way I just want it to help people, but men are always a harder target that I wanted this to overcome. I appreciate you reaching out, take care

Jesse sorry to hear you have been facing difficulties my friend . You are brave and courageous for sharing your story. Your situation is not your choice- as hard as it is, be kind on yourself. The fact that you can’t have children does not make you less of a man. You are not a failure and can still use your masculinity in other positive ways. Try and keep your focus on your blessings, and plough your energy into things that give you joy- it will both take your mind off the struggle and renew your focus. Life has many chapters, some of which are very challenging. Stay hopeful that other new exciting chapters will unfold. Praying for you and the ease of your suffering. Chin up my man..

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks very much, I appreciate it. Yeah, you're right, and I'm finally seeing that myself. I feel like I've mostly come through it now and can look forward. It just takes a lot of soul searching and grief, but I've received 2 bits of positive news lately and can start looking forward, which will help. Thanks for reaching out and take care

I just found your channel today because I was looking for an easy shed build, and you honestly helped take away the fear of building my own shed. I just want to say thank you! I hope that it encourages you. I've been in your shoes. In fact, her exact words were, "I'll see you living in a box on the streets." Well, the roles have reversed, and I'm loving my split-level box. I'm going to pray you find the strength and healing you need. I'm currently on your paver videos. Thank you for the courage you are giving me.

@melinda5777

2 ай бұрын

Your a good man! No one should be told what she told you. It's funny, not haha, but I found his channel today and noticed you found it 5 days ago. I believe you don't appreciate and know the good times until you hit that bad one!! You make it through, learn, and be a smarter and better person. If she left you for the reason his wife left him, wait, you have kids, whatever the reason, she's a terrible person for that. I'm a woman and never had kids, sterile. But, there is a Reason and Purpose for Everything,, according to GOD, Eccl: 3: 1-11. I'm pretty sure that's the address. It ALWAYS helps me. We' are not perfect. 😊

@walkedawayjoe

2 ай бұрын

amen to that. God is always good!!

@JessedoesDIY

Ай бұрын

I'm glad I could help with the shed! Thank you, I appreciate it. Ooof, that's tough to hear, but I'm glad you came out the other end of it, makes you feel good to persevere. Keep going, I'm glad you're learning things. Take care

God bless you. It take a real man to share what your going through, Time heels.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I appreciate it.

Last time I was in the hospital, kids had decorated one wall with messages. One message said "IT'S OK TO BE SAD". Sometimes just being sad is the medicine that you have to give time to work through. Somethings you NEED to be sad about.

Hi Jesse, It's so difficult. I also cannot make babies (I am femaie). Hard to know. Divorced now for 5 years. I did find a great therapist. It will get better for you. There is hope. It will take time. But you will be okay. You won't be the same, but you will be okay. Thank you for sharing, it is very unusual for men to talk about anything. It takes courage. And for the record, when it comes to being a human being, there is nothing "wrong" with you. Start telling yourself that because it is true. It takes time to believe it but it is true. We don't ask for how we get put together. But being put together differently, doesn't make you "less than". It is just part of who you are, and when you accept yourself, you will be better for yourself, and your future life partner, (if you want still want one). Maybe a woman with kids of her own, on her own?

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Hi. I'm sorry to hear that, it is very difficult and something that most people won't understand. Male or female doesn't make it easier, is a gut wrenching thing to be told. I'm working though it, have been for awhile now and it's getting better for me. I wanted to open up because exactly that, most men hold it in, like I did and it crushes them from the inside out, usually negatively. That's a good way to put that, I haven't thought about it quite like that but I like it. This is who I am and I'm allowed to be happy regardless of it...thank you! I do still want a partner, hell I probably need a good woman in my life lol I appreciate you reaching out. Good luck and take care of yourself too, you've made me feel better and you deserve good things as well.

Jesse sorry to hear that brother! Keep your head up everything will get better!!!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I appreciate it man. It's finally getting better now, just in the past week especially.

You are AMAZING!!! I feel for you and all you have been through and applaud your strength in sharing what happened. To me, a REAL MAN can face and work through life's issues while sharing feelings because we are all HUMANS with feelings. That is YOU! Wishing you the best for your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing and happiness. I'd bet anything that you'll find happiness again. Keep on keeping on!!!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I don't feel like it, just trying to help others but I appreciate it. It's finally starting to get better as of just last week, had a bit of a breakthrough and got 2 pieces of good news. Thanks for reaching out

@NowYouKnow9

6 ай бұрын

@@JessedoesDIY YAY!!!! I'm glad you got some good news and things are looking up! Just keep moving forward and it will all come together!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks! That's all we can do I guess, but it could definitely speed up a bit here now lol

Just watched one of your videos for the first time, enjoyed it! You are a good teacher and talented. This is my first time commenting on any video. I am praying you will find peace and joy in the God who created you, Jesse. He has good plans for you. Jeremiah 29:11. Verse 13 of that chapter tells us when we seek Him we will find Him. Seek Him, He loves you!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you very much, I'm looking you liked it. Teaching and helping others are what I'm trying to do here, that's my goal. I appreciate you reaching out

I never commented on your videos before but I think this one deserves a big thank you, for having the courage to talk about what's been going on as open as you did. I also would like to give you a big hug, but my arms aren't long enough to reach you all the way from Germany. I really hope 2024 will have lots of much better things in store for you. And hey, it's absolutely okay to not always make happy /fun videos! You are a real human being, with real emotions, after all.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I'm glad to hear from you and appreciate the virtual hug 🫂 Here's hoping it does, it's seems like it might. I've finally received the first good news in awhile which helps and have had a breakthrough mentally. I'm doing better and am excited to get back into it. I just wanted to do this and let people know that times can suck, and it's OK to be hurt. But sooner or later with some grit, you come out the other side. Thanks for reaching out and take care

You're an incredible human being... incredible. Thank you for sharing your story, and more importantly don't lose hope. Miracles happen every day. Wishing you nothing but the best

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you very much, I appreciate that. I just hope it helps somebody because we all have something that we're going through. Take care

Love and prayers to you. Facing truth is the only way to truly heal. God is close to the broken hearted.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

I appreciate that. Thank you

Mate, I must admit you’re probably a stronger man than I am. I don’t know if I could be as strong as you are given all that you’ve been confronted with. Stay strong man! I’ve got problems and I probably am not dealing with them as well as you’re dealing with your issues. Wishing you nothing but the best man.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks man, appreciate it. I know we all have some problems, sorry to hear about yours, but I wanted to put this out there because I know many struggle with them. I've definitely had some hard times, but if I could offer some advise...even if you don't necessarily "believe" in therapy, it definately helps to just talk it all out and get it out of your system, lay it all on the table. There will be tears but after a few months of it, it was helping and I've definitely had a couple moments where something just clicked, things were associated that I've never thought about before and it's amazing how much better that felt. Also, just know that you're worth it. I know it sounds lame, but it helped me to know that I deserve to be happy regardless of not being able to have kids, and if the person I'm with can't see that, I still deserve to be happy. And so do you. Nothing can be so wrong that coming out the other side with a positive view isn't an option. It's hard, but it's true. Take care of yourself and thanks for reaching out 👊

I pray your hard times will turn around soon. I pray you can find strength and wisdom from the harsh realities life can throw at you. Bless you.

@JessedoesDIY

17 күн бұрын

Thank you. It's better now most days, but like most people sometimes you still can't help but think back about what could have been

You've been dealing with a lot the last couple years!! We'll all keep you in our prayers. My next project is a fence when the weather gets better. I've been hoping to see you build one. I know they're pretty basic, but you always have little tips here and there that I never think of!! Keep your head up my brotha!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

It's been a rough slog and I can't wait to finally put it all behind me and move forward again. I think I'm finally turning the corner now, I finally received some good news, first in months. I appreciate your thoughts tho. Well I would love to build one because I feel like there is lots I would show, but unfortunately I can only show what I have access to as I'm not a very big channel relatively speaking. When I finally get my new place I'm fairly certain it's going to need a fence as it'll be an older property, but I'm also still in the dead of winter and won't be able to until at least me for the ground to thaw out. Thanks for reaching out and good luck on your fence!

It's not your fault Jesse. I think your reaction is completely natural, sometimes circumstances just have a way of making things difficult, or impossible. If you're not pursuing therapy, I would suggest that you do, it takes time but it can be a game changer for a lot of people. I wish you all the best and take care.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks, I appreciate it. I know that now and am doing better. I've had a breakthrough mentally and have finally got some good news for the first time in months. I've been in therapy for 4 months now and it has helped a lot. Thanks for reaching out and take care

My sympathies, I know your pain, only my son was with me for 19 years before a drunk driver took his life. It has been 12 years and the hole is still in my heart that was created that cold day in January of 2012. I can tell you that things get easier but I’m afraid the pain never leaves, you just learn how to cope and move on through life forever changed by that time in your life 😢

I've had seasons like this and can relate.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

It isn't fun, that's for sure. But hopefully we all come out the other side. Thanks for reaching out and take care

Hi Jesse, my husband also cannot have children. We lost twins at 13 wks after trying fertility treatments. Nothing since has worked and we have stopped trying. Unfortunately, mentally, he has had a breakdown, I believe, from not dealing with it. I applaud you for speaking out and getting help. Thank you for your shed content. I have used it to build my own. Your life matters. This is just a leg of the journey along the way. I pray You will eventually be a dad thru one of the other MANY avenues.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Hello, I'm so sorry to hear that. It's an agonizing thing to go through, and you made it further than we did, I can imagine it was even harder 😔. We stopped as well, it's hard to make that choice. I can understand that, because I believe that's where I was headed. Men especially don't deal with things correctly or talk about them which is why I wanted to share what I did. I'm so glad I could help you out in that at least, it's a small thing but you learn so much while building a shed so enjoy it. I appreciate it. Take care of yourselves as well. And see if he will open up, and if he wants to, I'll throw my hat in if he wants to speak directly to me on the phone, I can understand what he is dealing with. We all deserve to be happy no matter what life throws at us. Take care

@ohheavensme

6 ай бұрын

@JessedoesDIY Thank you for offering. He is at the point of getting professional help with drug intervention to combat his depression. This is why I appreciate you being courageous to speak out on this silent battle for men and those who love them. Hugs and Prayers Jesse

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

That's good to hear, I hope it helps and works for him. I'm just doing what I felt needed to brought up and hoped it helped somebody out there. And it is a 2 person battle much of the time. Unfortunately I lost mine with my partner, but I have hope for you.

I suffered a spinal injury in the first week of June. Hands down thr most painful experience of my life. I herniated 2 discs in my neck, C5 & C6. I was working on my Best Friend's motorcycle and must have tweaked it just wrong. Ive had multiple car wrecks so the theory is I triggered my whiplash weak points and pissed it all off. I'm also Polyamorous, if you know what that is great, if not the TLDR is i have multiple partners and its all very consensual. My two Wives and my Girlfriend has been with abother Girl for five years, last year she split with us. Its been an absolutely soul crushing breakup. I cannae even imagine if it were 12. Im so sorry honey. 2023 was the worst year in my memory for me and mine. I see you, stay safe. May the Wings of Isis shield you from harm, and may the Light of Ra guide your path.

You are in a very distressed state, and talking about it eases and gives perspective. We all live in expectation, and that's the pressure. Unfortunately, the ancient adage "time is a great healer" probably applies, cold comfort at present obviously, but I read here a lot of thoughtful comments and support. I like your bookcase design, better than others and in metric too, thanks

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Yeah, it hasn't been easy but talking about it has made it better. I've made a bunch realizations about myself. You're very right, the expectation is hard, especially when family and friends keep asking when are the kids coming and then you find this out. Thanks for reaching out, I appreciate it. And glad you like the bookcase. Take care

So sorry to hear about your struggles! It seems like the devil is really trying to attach to the good people out there the last few years. I know that sounds a little crazy, but I went through sometime similar to you, and I swear it felt like evil was testing me. It’s been the toughest period of my life, and it’s literally made me believe in evil.

I have been where you are at 24 years old. It is hell to go through finding out you can’t have children and divorced. I am now 64 years old remarried 6 years ago. No kids. Married a man with no kids. Omg we are so happy to have found each other and grow old together. I do have 5 nieces and nephews who I spent a lot of time and energy with. They still come to hang out with me and have told me how I had a big influence on their lives. If you don’t have children in your family join big brothers and mentor a young man. It really helps. Sending healing thoughts from Alberta. 🇨🇦

@JessedoesDIY

5 ай бұрын

Thank you, I appreciate your story. I don't have any nieces or nephews either, but I may look into that. I hope to find somebody like you did.

Nothing but respect for you Jesse. Takes a lot of guts to post a video like this publicly. Came upon your videos recently while researching building a shed. Your series was the best by far. I subscribed -- will be excited for whatever you post, whether it's in a few months or a few years. Take the time you need to heal. Tough times don't last, but tough people do. Hang in there man.

@JessedoesDIY

Ай бұрын

Thanks very much, I really appreciate it. It was and still is tough when you brood on it, but you have to plough forwards sometime. I'm glad you found me through the shed build and that you liked it! Videos will start coming more regularly now, plus it helps to keep the mind and hands busy. Take care

Stay strong and I know it's easy for someone outside your situation to say, but grab whatever positive thoughts you can have on a day by day basis. Good luck and good fortune to you.

@JessedoesDIY

5 ай бұрын

Thank you, I appreciate it. I've been trying, some days are good and others a hard. Thanks very much for reaching out. Take care

I’m so sorry. I know there are no words of comfort but know that I’m praying for restoration between the 2 of you. I can absolutely relate to mental health struggles, due to circumstances I can’t really mention here, and woodworking has become super therapeutic for me. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows working on projects, I definitely go through about every emotion possible, but the end result is always so gratifying ❤

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I appreciate it. I'm sorry to hear that, it's a rough slog to go through and usually a silent struggle others don't know about. I hope things get better for you too and I'm glad you enjoy it, and if it helps then keep at it. I know I am. Thanks for reaching out and take care. And again, welcome

I'm praying that things improve in your life soon! You do great work and I know we all appreciate you here in KZread Land. 🙏

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I appreciate it. Things are finally, slowly starting to turn around just in the past couple weeks. Thanks for reaching out, take care

Hello from Australia new sub here also am a male and it is hard for us to open up about many things I guess. Best for 24 I did run through a few of your videos and Jesse you have the ability to show and explain things on many levels and I am sure you have helped many more people than you realise , even saw that in the comments.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Hey there, welcome to the channel! It is very hard, that's why I decided on the video was to get rid of that "man up" stigma. It doesn't help anybody. Took me over 5 hours to just record that video. I know I have helped many, and probably many more that haven't commented or emailed, that's my whole goal in my little corner of KZread. Because of that, and others like you I'm going to keep on keeping on. Thanks for reaching out and take care

I just subscribed to your channel today. There are 100s to choose from, and I stopped on yours because of the recent end tables (and your authenticity).More importantly. My heart goes out to you. I am a praying man, and I will pray for you. All is not lost. Thanks for your courageous transparency. If I can find an email address for you, I will send more thoughts your way. God bless you.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Well I'm glad to hear you liked them. Welcome to the crew. I appreciate the kind words and prayers. I know it isn't and I don't give up easily. But it just takes awhile to get back up after being kicked so many times. I'm doing better even just this past week. Finally received the first good news in 5 months which helped. My email is Jessedoesdiy@gmail.com, thanks again and take care

Jesse. Please know that you are in my wife and My prayers tonight. I am sorry you have to go through these struggles. I am looking forward to your tutelage in future projects. I am already halfway through several of your older projects. My wife would like me to finish one someday. Your a good man. Keep your chin up. It's not what happens to us that make up our lives, it's how we react to the things that happen. God bless you.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Hi. Thanks very much, I appreciate it. These are just my life struggles I have to deal with, as hard as they are, but time and talking helps. Sounds like you have some work to do, finish a couple and enjoy them and continue with the rest. I will, thanks for saying that. Take care and thanks for reaching out.

Jesse I am so very sorry to hear that you went through this. It saddens me to hear that you have been robbed of having children and I agree with you. There are people out there that do not deserve to have children, yet there are good, decent people out there like yourself that would make wonderful parents. Life just sucks sometimes, and even though it might not seem like it, things will get better, other aspects in your life will improve and you overall will come out on top. Thank you for sharing, I can only imagine how difficult that would have been for you. Most men do not speak up, stay strong, I hope you receive good news soon regarding your injuries and get a decent recovery plan, please be safe xx

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

I appreciate that, a lot. It does suck and I'm trying to roll with the punches, it's just hard to get back up after a few big blows. But we do, and I am. Take care and thanks for reaching out

Hang in there. I got injuries as well. I finally recovered. I just paid in time

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks tho, I know what you mean. Glad to hear you've recovered. Seems like that's the boat I'm in as well

@truth4293

6 ай бұрын

@@JessedoesDIY ya mate. Funny thing is. Im now back to work. Just takes time. Im on youtube with my hands all plaster dusted haha. Lifes good.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Nice! Good to hear

Found your channel today and watched 3 videos and bought the plans for your chair. So sorry to here. This news. It really is just as bad for a woman. I never had kids, I'm sterile. But i know GOD had a reason and a Purpose for this. HE said so in Ecclesiasties 3:1-11. If she left you for the reason i think she did, she did not love you unconditionally! Just like I was not loved unconditionally!!! I know this is 4 months old, your getting ready for some painful surgery. But at least you can have surgery which is a positive thing. I hurt my back years ago in the service. I've had cronic pain that I could live with 7ntil 5he end of Jan 2024. I've been down with my Rt Sciatic Nerve sinces. This pain is not muscle. Oh know, i can't put a boot or brace on it. I hurt from my Arse to my Ankle. Im pretty much been bed, couch or chair, mainly the 1st two since January! Do you know how useless i feel. But i go take my Mom to all her Doctor Appts and i go to mine. The VA in the US is a disaster! I'm finally going for Physical Therapy on Wednesday. I told my Dr months ago to take the nerve out and my leg off!!! That's how bad the pain is. So cheer up, yours and mine will get better!!! I'm really sorry your hurting. Try group counseling with men and women together. I tried it a couple of times for a differenti ssue, and I really learned a lot, from the guys perspective. ✝️🙏❤🇺🇸

@JessedoesDIY

Ай бұрын

Hey thanks, I'm glad you like the chair. Oh I imagine it is, it's not an easy thing to go through no matter who you are. Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine what you're going through. I'm grateful mine can be fixed, I never meant to sound like I wasn't, just letting people know why I might be gone for awhile. But wanting the leg removed, that sounds intense, but good on you for still getting up and out, that takes strength. Things will improve for us both, I'm glad you're finally getting help. Take care!

Hey Jesse, firstly thank you for the DIY videos! They've been very helpful!! Secondly, I have the same issue as you...couldn't have kids naturally and found out when I was 28 years old when my (then-now ex) wife and I were struggling to have kids. Same story as yours...she was checked out first and then me...and of course I was the problem. We were lucky though in that we did have not one but two kids together with the help of the infertility specialist.......... That was 39 years ago. I wish I could say it was a happy ending here but the truth is 6 years ago my wife asked for a divorce and I have two sons who don't want anything to do with me now because they think the breakup is all my fault (so I haven't seen or heard from them for 6 years). I won't go into details because I don't want to sound like I'm trying to defend myself but what I would like to do is offer you some advice.........Find someone who will accept you for who YOU are...someone who is willing to go through life with YOU no matter what. It's hard to find someone like that, trust me, I know. There's a reason that 50% of all marriages end in divorce, but on the flip side, there are reasons that 50% stay married. I do believe in marriage but it's finding the right person that is so very hard. God bless, hang in there and love yourself too!!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Hey thanks, I appreciate it and I'm glad I could help out. I'm so sorry to hear all that, I can and can't imagine that at the same time. It's extremely hard to go through all that. Well I hope things get better for you yet, you never know. I'll keep on doing me and helping those I can in my little corner of KZread. Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing, and take care. Head up!

Very painful. So sorry for what you're going through.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

It was, still is. But it gets better. Thanks

I just seen your foundation clip for the 1st time today, then the walls,then this.... i just had to hit you up on this one after hearing it my man, 1. its all about YOU brother, You came in single and your going to leave single so take care of YOU first. 2. I seen that Alaskan husky in your first clip and mite i say "Dogs are man's best friends,they will never leave your side" 3. Your a youngman, you have a lot of time left, that house will show up if your focus is on it with no distractions. My 2 cents is... this world is messed up and its hard to just focus on yourself vs having 2/3/4 more mouth to feed... but there always adoption (plus they pay) and helps a kid to have a real dad like yourself to show them the ropes. Keep your head UP brother...its all we can do!!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Appreciate it. We'll I'm glad you found me and my videos. That guy has been with me through some rough times, we have eachothers backs. I am much more open to adoption now that I've worked though a bunch of my personal issues, but was too hurt at the time to consider it, but it's good for them and me. I've finally received some good news in months, and you're right, my head is back up. Take care and thanks for reaching out!

You are a man among men. One thing we don’t know is what the future holds but for a man of your strength and character I can’t help but feel the future for you will be rosier than you think. Hold on and keep letting your soul shine through. People like you are the light of the future. Hold on, dear friend, hold on.❤

@JessedoesDIY

Ай бұрын

Thanks you very much. I appreciate the kind words.

Don’t blame yourself, doctors aren’t always right and it’s not to give you hope but to lessen the stress. I agree with you, so many people that have kids they harm and aren’t deserving. Race is big here (TN) they took mine and I warn people not to have kids so they’re not abused by the government employees and life is a living hell that’s getting worse.

Wow, praying for you. That’s a lot to go through.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you. It's getting finally, appreciate it

Many parents abandoned their children. Many fathers doesn’t support or love their children. There are people who can’t have children….. doesn’t mean you can’t be a father. A responsible, loving and supportive person to a child makes a great father…. many children needed a father, doesnt need to be your own blood.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

That's true, and it's something I'm open to now. But it took awhile to come around to that mentality after being told I couldn't have kids of my own and after the IVF failed. Really takes the wind out of your sails. Unfortunately now the relationship has ended and it's too little too late for us. But maybe I will either by myself or with a new partner in the future, we will see what happens

I feel like you will find a way to fill that void in your life. You will meet someone that wishes to contribute to the world and find happiness without biological children. There is a lot out there for you to be associated with that will return satisfaction and pride of accomplishment and a sense of place. You will find it

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

I will, and I am. It just takes the wind out of your sails after the failed IVF and separation. But getting back in saddle of making content will help big time for now, just need a place. 1 day at a time. Thanks for reaching out

sorry to here about all the brothers. keep your head up

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Appreciate it

❤

Thank you for normalizing this ❤

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Appreciate it

Keep your head up bro!

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I am finally again

@Brax55

6 ай бұрын

@@JessedoesDIY good! I randomly came across your videos last night dog looking up how to make a fence and then one thing led to another.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Yeah lol that's usually how it goes, welcome tho. I finally received some good news lately, first time in months. Thanks for reaching out and take care

Good things will happen again in your life. Not being able to have a biological child doesn't mean you can never be a dad. Hang in there.

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Thanks. I know, but it's something that really took a lot of soul searching and grief to finally be able to recognize that. Thanks for reaching out and take care

We also chose not to have kids. Why have kids to give you a headache for 30 years

@JessedoesDIY

6 ай бұрын

Choosing not to and basically not having the option are different