Want To Make Better Friends? Watch This.

Your friendship is falling apart and you are wondering why.
That “friend” who you were so close to before, now seems so distant.
And you are wondering if you are forging friendships with the wrong people.
You are wondering who is the right person to make friends with? - Who is the right person for you?
In this video, I discuss exactly this with you - who are the types of people you should make friends with and why. Which are the friendships that last, and which don’t, and why.
Friendship is that one relationship that can refresh even a tired soul, and in this video, we talk about how to nurture this most important relationship.
We talk about real friendships and real friends.
And we talk about toxic friendships and toxic friends. And how to avoid or improve these relationships.
We discuss what the great Indian Sage Patanjali talks about in the Patanjali Yoga Sutras - different types of people and the types of people that one should make friends with.
I hope you take away something valuable from this video.
Happy Friendship Day to you!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Intro
0:46 - The 4 types of People
1:23 - The Happy Person
2:31 - The Unhappy Person
3:51 - Are YOU an Unhappy Person?
4:10 - Your Life, Your Responsibility
4:58 - The Virtuous Person
5:48 - The Sinful Person
6:54 - What the Sage Patanjali said about Friendship
7:44 - Outro
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Пікірлер: 201

  • @AnitaBokepalli
    @AnitaBokepalli2 жыл бұрын

    “I am a saviour” 🤭 A very Happy Friendship Day to all of you! I hope you take away something valuable from this video 🌹

  • @anubhutisingh9633

    @anubhutisingh9633

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ma'am you summed it up perfectly! Couldn't have said better.🙏

  • @sukeshbabu4440

    @sukeshbabu4440

    2 жыл бұрын

    Happy friendship day 🎊

  • @sonurr

    @sonurr

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello .....I would like to ask you something not from this video, from the video you had made earlier about surya namaskar ..... My question is can I do surya namaskar during my periods week if I can tolerate the pain ....please answer 🙏

  • @artwithnisha8965

    @artwithnisha8965

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤❤

  • @sasankatanniru7044

    @sasankatanniru7044

    2 жыл бұрын

    🍔

  • @srilakshmi6368
    @srilakshmi63682 жыл бұрын

    Mam you know what I was thinking about this from 3 days, I am an introvert and many people say that introverts don't make friends but it is not the case we do have friends but only 2-3 or very less number , I found my friends are jealous of my victory and felt bad, they fake themselves in front of me. But being an introvert is blessing for me I never depends on other for happiness, so I loved that quote "MY HAPPINESS-MY RESPONSIBILITY" completely relatable

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤗🤗

  • @ukoopbs
    @ukoopbs2 жыл бұрын

    I try my level best to make friends and then keep them happy but they are just toxic they mentally torture me. I still kept bond with them for many years but at a point in my life they were taking tol on mental health and that was the time I decided to cut off with them and trust me that was a life changer step for me. I completely cutoff with them and i started living happy and peacefully then slowly slowly i started making new friends from different colleges and tadaaaa now i have friends which are not my besties but they are there when I need them. And next year moving to city for further studies I will definitely make new and good friends who will not mentally torture me and support me and accept me as I m. Stay away from toxicity u guys ✌

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wow, all the best on your journey!

  • @user-ssg212
    @user-ssg2122 жыл бұрын

    Oh my God! I cannot believe the timing of this video.. its as if this was a wake up call for me. There is so much profound wisdom in this one video, perhaps even more than 10 self-help books combined. Thank you so much 👍

  • @kumkumkriplani40
    @kumkumkriplani402 жыл бұрын

    I love how you come up with different topics every time 😍 Thank you for this !!😊

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you 💖

  • @chandanashivannagari6812
    @chandanashivannagari68122 жыл бұрын

    I am happy that anita garu is my joyful and happy virtual friend ♥️♥️

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sending you love 💖💖

  • @kulturtonagenturfurdiversi1764
    @kulturtonagenturfurdiversi17642 жыл бұрын

    Love your energy and spirit. 💜

  • @YORN_Ff8232
    @YORN_Ff82322 жыл бұрын

    I have many goods friends. Happy friendship day

  • @alison3776
    @alison37762 жыл бұрын

    Concise & wisdom! Thanks for the enlightenment. God blessed. ❤

  • @TheAnnegallien
    @TheAnnegallien2 жыл бұрын

    Mantra: I am a joy to be around I Add value wherever i am 💙🙏🏼💙

  • @alinahamirani1040
    @alinahamirani10402 жыл бұрын

    i loved this VIDEOOO, I honestly look forward to when you upload, your aura is contagious, KEEP KILLING IT QUEEEENNNNNN1, 100K IS ON ITS WAYYYY! also the small skits are so cute, this video was definitely helpful, the moving on part for the peace of mind was spot on!

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hahaha, HI 🤗🤗🤗

  • @juyeejadhav2320
    @juyeejadhav23202 жыл бұрын

    You talk so much sense into me!❤️👏🏻👏🏻

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤗🤗

  • @devanshiverma9457
    @devanshiverma94572 жыл бұрын

    I totally loved it! Yes! I am the saviour types and it does drain so much of the energy

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Haha, yes, you know it does!

  • @karakol86

    @karakol86

    2 жыл бұрын

    You can help people without draining yourself. Meet their energy levels and set boundaries early on and stick to them.

  • @sanjanasaraswathi2431
    @sanjanasaraswathi24312 жыл бұрын

    thank u for this! genuinely needed this right now?

  • @skergurl
    @skergurl2 жыл бұрын

    Nice...a nice version of the 4 kinds of people from patanjali yoga sutras!

  • @lantzeerie2481
    @lantzeerie24812 жыл бұрын

    friendship and compassion are different things. Very deep.

  • @rekhajain3695
    @rekhajain36952 жыл бұрын

    Great stuff! Genuine advises and amazingly simple content. More power to you Anita.

  • @swetapalit7575
    @swetapalit75752 жыл бұрын

    Yes, hell yes. This is very relatable. No one had ever put these into such apt words.

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤗

  • @komal4815
    @komal48152 жыл бұрын

    Thanks di for sharing ur beautiful vision with us🤝

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hugs 🤗

  • @mamtasuryavanshi7459
    @mamtasuryavanshi74592 жыл бұрын

    You really well explained this book . I personally found it very valuable .

  • @srp9136
    @srp9136 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video 😊. It's the same teaching thought in art of living

  • @vinodhbandu3505
    @vinodhbandu35052 жыл бұрын

    Respects ...

  • @Deep59117
    @Deep591172 жыл бұрын

    Happy friendship day 😍😍 you are really like my friend who can give a positive vibes to me. I always watch your videos whenever I feel boring and depressed

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sending you lots of love 💖💖

  • @aronikyama1987
    @aronikyama19872 жыл бұрын

    Lots of love You uplift my happiness with your charm and vibe Happy friendship day ❤️

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Happy friendship day love 🤗

  • @NayanaPKumar
    @NayanaPKumar2 жыл бұрын

    I'm sooooo happyyy that I found this channel... You're such a wonderful human being.. and l Love to listen more. I think you're helping me to improve myself...

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’m so happy you are here ❤️❤️❤️

  • @anjaneya2987
    @anjaneya29872 жыл бұрын

    Thanks.... 🙏

  • @thirumalasrivemula3181
    @thirumalasrivemula31812 жыл бұрын

    This is very helpful. Thank you!

  • @thammisunil
    @thammisunil2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing ur knowledge 🙏

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️

  • @jincykannampuzhavarghese3392
    @jincykannampuzhavarghese33922 жыл бұрын

    Loved the fact thar you changd the title to a positive one…now i feel like watching….comments will come up shortly..🤗❤️

  • @Woahlookitthemoon
    @Woahlookitthemoon2 жыл бұрын

    OMG!! Wow thank you. My bff was not happy people... neither was I. No wonder we were a match! I was a giver and so was my bff but we started resenting each other when we decided not to share! Wow! I miss him. I'm also grateful to be happy now. ☯️ hope he is too

  • @ashr.9337
    @ashr.93372 жыл бұрын

    This made me share it as much I can........you are an amazing person❤️

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤗🤗

  • @bprasad5188
    @bprasad51882 жыл бұрын

    Indeed..! rightly said Anita, happy friendship day 🤝 from Hyderabad 😀

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤗🤗

  • @YY-fj9yl
    @YY-fj9yl2 жыл бұрын

    great video, loved ur energy, very educational video, will put it into practice! 😊

  • @TheAnnegallien
    @TheAnnegallien2 жыл бұрын

    I am hypersensitive so it can be difficult to do dispassion. Knowing how to Look after your energy is essential Maybe a new video for you Anita ;) ? Namaste Ishq

  • @Chandrika55555
    @Chandrika555552 жыл бұрын

    You are very inspiring...

  • @bhagwatiiyer2704
    @bhagwatiiyer27042 жыл бұрын

    Hey, can u make a video on this: why do I need people to make me feel good about myself, my situation, my life, my existence, my actions. Why am I not self sufficient to be happy and positive? Why those negative thoughts about our own existence, actions and situations come along all the time

  • @deepajaggal8050
    @deepajaggal80502 жыл бұрын

    Amazing video

  • @eshanideshmukh4443
    @eshanideshmukh44432 жыл бұрын

    It definitely resonates😎

  • @ros1237
    @ros12372 жыл бұрын

    Very nice Anita 💕 luv from Texas

  • @cuttostah
    @cuttostah2 жыл бұрын

    I have a friend. She's really close, but these days I just can't relate to her. (We haven't spoken for months now) She wants to laugh or the conversation gets boring (as I was kinda the clown in the friendship) I can't keep on making her laugh and gossip about god knows who. I am writing this out here as I don't have anyone else I can say these details to. It has come to the point that I get a bit annoyed with the way she even tries to act on social media (as that's the only place I'm seeing her these days) She's a good person but I just don't feel like the friendship is serving me for the better anymore. Last I spoke to her on call I felt sooo drained don't want to get my energy that low again.

  • @srujanatenneti4827
    @srujanatenneti48272 жыл бұрын

    The way u speak,completely relates to me..... happy friendship day mam🥳🥳🥳

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Happy friendship day

  • @susmitha2601
    @susmitha26012 жыл бұрын

    Lovely content

  • @tejaswiniputta1136
    @tejaswiniputta11362 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️

  • @shivangibhatt6264
    @shivangibhatt62642 жыл бұрын

    ♥️

  • @anishpasupathynath7697
    @anishpasupathynath76972 жыл бұрын

    Knowledge sheet made alive in a very creative way. More power to you Anita 💪

  • @eshanideshmukh4443
    @eshanideshmukh44432 жыл бұрын

    From where it came to you da ...... Very well said 🎉

  • @akankshadubey722
    @akankshadubey7222 жыл бұрын

    Ahhh you are sooooo happy ( first category person🤩)..... Bdw love all what you make 👏❤

  • @shiprasharma9572
    @shiprasharma95722 жыл бұрын

    Ok... This is what the science of friendship is..... U r so on point sista.... 😇I am a happy person, I take full responsibility. 🤣

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤗🤗

  • @rakshitha2460
    @rakshitha24602 жыл бұрын

    Happy Friendship Day Anita 💐

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Right back at you 💖

  • @kumkumkriplani40
    @kumkumkriplani402 жыл бұрын

    I loveee your editing 🤩

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Haha, it takes me AGES!! 😩

  • @AR_19-11
    @AR_19-112 жыл бұрын

    Happy friendship day ..u rockzz 🔥🔥sage Patanjali quote was awesome

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you 🤗🤗

  • @TheAnnegallien
    @TheAnnegallien2 жыл бұрын

    I used to be a saviour. To take responsibility to me is to be able to ask for help and show vulnerability then take action on changing my way of thinking so that there is a new way of feeling then action.

  • @thevibe3507
    @thevibe35072 жыл бұрын

    Anitha di, your videos give me a lots of positivity, It improved my vision towards life. Hope you will put such self improving, sort of videos. Your presentation is just so awesome. 🤗🤗🤗🤘🤘🤘

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    So glad you feel it's helping you. I'll absolutely keep sharing all that's helping me be a better version of myself each day ☺️❤️

  • @ephphathaoracle
    @ephphathaoracle2 жыл бұрын

    Helpful! 😊👏👏👏

  • @gauripandit8866
    @gauripandit88662 жыл бұрын

    This is amazing!!!!!

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!!

  • @aayushiverma1314
    @aayushiverma13142 жыл бұрын

    There is so much wisdom in this little video! 🥰😇😇😀

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Nikhil is saying there is so much wisdom in your little head 😁😁😁

  • @aayushiverma1314

    @aayushiverma1314

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@AnitaBokepalli that's because I have you both 😅😂😂🥰

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@aayushiverma1314 aren’t you the cutest!

  • @vineeshavinni5805
    @vineeshavinni58052 жыл бұрын

    Hi akka.. Doing 108 suryanamaskar😘

  • @arushi3037
    @arushi30372 жыл бұрын

    Sis you are doing great job & perfectly told. Actually I become your fan

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️

  • @prachitisinkar4974
    @prachitisinkar4974 Жыл бұрын

    “I am a saviour” 🤭

  • @lalithakurapati9384
    @lalithakurapati93842 жыл бұрын

    I love your voice and accent ❤️😘 ofcourse subject 👍 happy friendship day in advance

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Happy friendship day 💖

  • @abufashion7260
    @abufashion72602 жыл бұрын

    Hi I am me subscriber .. I just love u r way of conveying .. and thanks for suryanamarkar .. u open my eyes

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    💖

  • @deepikaa
    @deepikaa2 жыл бұрын

    Helpful video 👍 Happy friendship day ! 🌸

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🌸🌸🌸

  • @kritii777
    @kritii7772 жыл бұрын

    Today I need to tell you di that I love your channel and you 💓💓💓

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    And I have to tell you that your comment put a sweet sweet smile on my face 😁

  • @aritrikaroy4286
    @aritrikaroy42862 жыл бұрын

    Love you super lady you are soooooooooo amazing!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️🤩🤩🤩🤩🌻🌻🌻🌻✨✨✨god bless you

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 🌸🌸🌸

  • @vinitgeorgevarghese8447
    @vinitgeorgevarghese84472 жыл бұрын

    😍😍😍😍

  • @nekosenseifan100
    @nekosenseifan1002 жыл бұрын

    meditate and always be happy. Happy friendship day my dear youtuber

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Indeed! Happy friendship day to you 💖

  • @thalarisuprajasupraja6738
    @thalarisuprajasupraja67382 жыл бұрын

    Hai Anitha Garu ..... happy friendship day... ❤️

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Happy friendship day to you Supraja 💖

  • @girinadimpalli4864
    @girinadimpalli48642 жыл бұрын

    For all problems My one solution is.. Your channel Thanks alot❤️

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Awwww 🥺 🤗🤗

  • @girinadimpalli4864

    @girinadimpalli4864

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@AnitaBokepalli 🤗😊

  • @SahityaBilluri
    @SahityaBilluri2 жыл бұрын

    All your videos are really good 👍🏻

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 🌹

  • @prajwalsharma5877
    @prajwalsharma58772 жыл бұрын

    I subscribed to your channel when you had very low subscribers. But you consistently uploaded videos and boom 70k+ subscribers.

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for being there from the beginning!

  • @shreyasdsouza1581
    @shreyasdsouza15812 жыл бұрын

    Why am I huge freaking saviour!

  • @adithyabiju720
    @adithyabiju7202 жыл бұрын

    Happy friendship day 🎉🎉😍

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Woohoo 💃🏻

  • @healthybabyfoods987
    @healthybabyfoods9872 жыл бұрын

    Share the name of the books u read and the one u were telling about in the video. And yeah by the way it was just a month or two i subscribed to u when u were at 5k. I felt really bad for why such a sensible thought provoking lady is not being noticed. And now look at your number. So very happy for u Anita.

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Gayatri ❤️ thanks for asking, I have added the link to the book I showed in the video, to the video description! Happy reading ❤️

  • @rodkakarot2553

    @rodkakarot2553

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@AnitaBokepalli are you by any chance a telugu woman. Just curious as your name and surname are quite familiar here

  • @medicozchannel1698

    @medicozchannel1698

    2 жыл бұрын

    It is Patanjali Yoga Sutra by Sri Sri Ravishankar

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@rodkakarot2553 yes I am :)

  • @DoctorGayatri
    @DoctorGayatri2 жыл бұрын

    😍😍❤️❤️💕💕

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    💖💖

  • @Coder008
    @Coder0082 жыл бұрын

    Happy friendship day di

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤗

  • @srisatya4528
    @srisatya45282 жыл бұрын

    I like being with many friends talking spending time etc but I also feel like that i cannot maintain a constant relation with them.Is it require to be constantly in touch with everyone?is it not sufficient whenever i feel like talking to them then i will call them or will respond to them if they need me?Why are some friends very demanding?Ugh i don’t at the end i avoid everyone because of their judgmental views and spend alone with myself.I am loving more of my ‘me’ time but at the same time lonely

  • @heavenonearth1161
    @heavenonearth11612 жыл бұрын

    Anita you would be my beeeeeeeeest friend eveeeeeeeeeeeer 💖💗💕🥰😍😘

  • @aravinthraja5842
    @aravinthraja58422 жыл бұрын

    Hii sis..🖐 I'm your new follower..😍your videos are very nice...👌 lovely...♥️ cute...😇 really really amazing... 💫my best wishes to continue your journey...👍🤗💐

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much 💖💖

  • @mitaliladdha7713
    @mitaliladdha77132 жыл бұрын

    Hi di.. You looked like devi from never have I ever in thumbnail😇 ,don't take it in negative way.. Love your channel.💓🥰

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Oh, that’s a beautiful compliment, thank you ❤️

  • @mitaliladdha7713

    @mitaliladdha7713

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ohh. thank you for replying.. Happy friendship day😊😊

  • @madhuvanthikomanduri
    @madhuvanthikomanduri2 жыл бұрын

    Perfectly said… can’t put the same in any other way …

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤗🤗

  • @shivanshusharma568
    @shivanshusharma5682 жыл бұрын

    Ya, am unhappy 😨 but meri wajah se kavi kisi ka time ni kharaab hua or na hoga... It's my life, my problems and my solutions... 😑

  • @meghdeepapaul1391
    @meghdeepapaul13912 жыл бұрын

    I am a savior 🥺

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    I feel you!

  • @karakol86
    @karakol862 жыл бұрын

    How would you categorize those who are the motivators and inspirers? I have heard from many people and friends they are inspired by me - i got for what I want, try to be a good person, level headed and motivated in many areas of my life, and do my best even though I have my moments (not so happy moments) lol.

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    A happy person who in a space where they are doing what they want to do and are at peace with what’s happening, usually inspire others. And it is usually good deeds that inspire others - hope this answers your question :)

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    And of course, everybody has their moments - we all go through all the four categories through time :) how much time we spend in each category id what matters

  • @drikali
    @drikali2 жыл бұрын

    I am that unhappy person. But I have a bunch of friends who always run to me when they want any help. I am an introvert and don't talk much. But that's the reason friends call me when they want someone to just listen without interrupting. One day I'm super lazy, next day I'm very productive. So what category do I fall into??

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hmmm, it appears that you are yet to find your centre, find your peace. But that fact that you are aware of where you and why people might be coming to you - is a step in the right direction.. maybe you could put some of the time and energy that you put into those people who want to talk to you, into yourself - maybe that might make a difference? As to type of person - we all do have some mixtures of the different characteristics in us.. and they change with time too. The idea is that you identify what is needed at any given moment (depending on the person you are interacting with and also how you are feeling) and respond accordingly - so that your own peace of mind is intact :)

  • @drikali

    @drikali

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@AnitaBokepalli Thank you so much for replying. You're right, I do need to put in more time for myself. Most of my misery stems from being exhausted from fulfilling a thousand responsibilities. I have been meaning to do daily meditation to find some peace and that elusive 'centre'. Would you consider making some videos about meditation for beginners and guided meditations. Thank you. Love and regards.

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@drikali ooooh, hopefully something’s coming up real soon on meditation on this channel 😁😁

  • @TheAnnegallien
    @TheAnnegallien2 жыл бұрын

    My joy is my job

  • @vasuk5741
    @vasuk57412 жыл бұрын

    Sis im seriously trying to do yoga at last 54 times but I can't do that.... I'm done only 30 times and my hands are very painful... Please give me any suggestions sister

  • @madhushree5410
    @madhushree54102 жыл бұрын

    What if I feel I have become friends with the 2nd category...ie unhappy person? How do I cut off ....after I made friendship instead of compassion with them!?

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    In this situation, you need to first accept that it is not a typical “friendship” - meaning, it is likely your needs won’t be met and your growth won’t happen in this relationship. Once you accept this it becomes easier to be natural without any expectations in the relationship. Now you can be compassionate towards them, without expecting friendship from them. You can this transition from friendship to being compassionate. But be aware of how this is affecting you and energy levels and your leave of mind.

  • @madhushree5410

    @madhushree5410

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@AnitaBokepalli Thank you so much akka!😇

  • @NaniNani-nr7lx
    @NaniNani-nr7lx2 жыл бұрын

    Mam, make a video on back posture

  • @aisiriskalmady4486
    @aisiriskalmady44862 жыл бұрын

    💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    💖💖💖

  • @himabindu480
    @himabindu4802 жыл бұрын

    Or we can do mrg and evening

  • @TheAnnegallien
    @TheAnnegallien2 жыл бұрын

    Mutual growth is friendship, yes but you mean a mutual purpose? I found it difficult to dissociate friendship from compassion.

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hmmm, one way to look at it is, when you are being compassionate it is important to understand that you can’t expect equal friendship from the other because they might not be in a position to give that. Right now they might need your love and compassion, without being able to give in return.

  • @AR_19-11
    @AR_19-112 жыл бұрын

    Mam..I have a doubt ..I am like friend with one person , saviour with another..I can't find out what kind of person I am...but how can u say u r a saviour...may bcoz of your age ..u have crossed so many people in your life and so many stages and currently u r a saviour kind of person..is it like that mam.....btw awesome video...

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    We do behave differently with differently people - meaning different people bring out different traits in us. If someone is very happy - you usually tend to be relaxed and happy around them, especially if close to them. And if someone close is sad - you behave and react accordingly too. So don’t worry about feeling different with diff people and scenarios. Let yourself flow through your interactions - and if you do this consciously, with love and awareness - you’ll start to find yourself 💖

  • @AR_19-11

    @AR_19-11

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@AnitaBokepalli thank u mam 🙏👏👏

  • @TheYazmanian
    @TheYazmanian2 жыл бұрын

    Saviour here!!!!😅😅😅

  • @rejithanair329
    @rejithanair3292 жыл бұрын

    ❤️.. God.. ❤️ Where were u ❤️❤️

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤗🤗

  • @simantini1737
    @simantini17372 жыл бұрын

    I used to be a savior.. now I am happily not one😇

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    💃🏻❤️

  • @simantini1737

    @simantini1737

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@AnitaBokepalli ❤️

  • @Youtubewaliaartie
    @Youtubewaliaartie2 жыл бұрын

    Baaabe! Just saw this video ! you know I love all your videos❤️ Haha But im taking time to process this one. I mean Im sure it comes from vedas and must have some widsom. But don't you think this differentiation of people is so black and white! Like the same person can have some virtues and some sins. How can I pick a virtuous one over another. And same goes for happy unhappy. If I choose to be friends with only happy people, what kind of a friend am I to people going through serious shit in life. My intention is just to dicuss your POVs on this :)

  • @Saral_Lekhi

    @Saral_Lekhi

    2 жыл бұрын

    An unhappy person is different from a happy person dealing with unhappiness. Big difference. One never leaves a person in a mess if one is a friend, but it is often not good to be with a person who is a mess. That's a very very big punishment to endure. Yeah some do it anyways....as a familial duty or some deep love....but no one does it with everyone in their lives. So any which ways people will chose the relationships for which they are ready to suffer but stick to.

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hellooo! I’m so glad you asked these questions, I’m sure a few others must have the same questions too. I really want to pin this comment, also because what a nice way of saying something constructive, instead of resorting to hate - which some people may do! ❤ You are right, this is not black and white. People go through different phases - what this sutra is teaching us is how we need to interact with them during those different phases, so that we keep our peace of mind and they benefit as well. We aren’t saying drop unhappy people from your life - but our attitude needs to adapt to the current situation. The right attitude during those phases is one of compassion. We can either at that time go into their sadness and inhabit their space at that time, or stay in our stable space, keep some emotional distance and lift them up to our space (with kindness and compassion as mentioned in the video) :) We often either sympathise or reaffirm their reasons for their sadness out of our love for them, but this doesn’t lift them up and risks us getting pulled into their emotions. This also enables more complaining and unhappiness, and takes away power from that person. Similarly for people who are virtuous and who are not - you are right, this is also not black and white. We of course will embrace all good qualities in one, and do our best to educate our friend about things we feel they can change for the better - but sometimes pushing them too hard on these things will have only negative impact - they might not change and we will deplete our energy too and the relationship can turn sour. In this case, better to be dispassionate - people will ultimately change when they want to :) It might help to look at these characteristics as changing parts of people, and not classify one person as one thing forever. Sorry for the long answer! ::))

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    @kitty-Corn Sisters “an unhappy person is different from a happy person dealing with unhappiness” - wow! :)

  • @Youtubewaliaartie

    @Youtubewaliaartie

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@AnitaBokepalli phases!!! Aah! Love this. Now this sounds so much more convincing ! And authentic to the human experience. We all definitely are in all these diff phases at diff points in time!

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@KZreadwaliaartie babe, thank you for asking me these questions - they definitely made me think about how to make future videos better! I realise now that I could’ve have added the “phases” point and above points too, to the video to make it complete! ❤️ it’s a learning curve!

  • @steinyrussel761
    @steinyrussel7612 жыл бұрын

    Mam, do you read any books, regarding wt ur channel is intuitional living. Pls suggest some books

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hey Steiny! Sure. I'll keep sharing the books and people that inspire me. In fact I'm talking to an author whose book inspired me a lot. Making a video on it. Out soon! Lots of love ❤️

  • @kavya0102
    @kavya01022 жыл бұрын

    First of all, Anita, I loved your expressions while depicting the different kinds of people and while talking about ignorance. On point! Are you trained in classical dance by any chance?🙂 Next coming to the types of people that you described, I feel that ideally it would be easy to typecast a person into one of these categories. But practically, we are all never white or black; never just a happy or an unhappy person; never just always doing good deeds or bad deeds. We are all a mixture of all these above, aren't we? When we meet a person, it would be very difficult to put him/her into one of these four categories and evaluate if we need them as a friend or not. Everyone will have a mixture of good and bad qualities in them. The friendship formula, so to speak, becomes more complex then, wouldn't you say?

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes indeed :) the knowledge in that sutra would be best applied when we look at it with respect to time as well - everybody and everything is changing with time, plus people are a combination of various characteristics at the same time too. The intention of the sutra is to give you the knowledge that helps YOU remain centered and keep a peaceful mind whilst also dealing with people in a way that benefits THEM the most too :) it definitely isn’t black and white, but is written in a way to lay the foundation in a simple manner :) I hope this fills in some gaps :) Haha, thanks, no I’m not trained in classical dancing, but I have always been inclined towards learning this art :)

  • @sunithav.l1384
    @sunithav.l13842 ай бұрын

    Book link please

  • @umangpanjwani4525
    @umangpanjwani45252 жыл бұрын

    I am a saviour 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @AnitaBokepalli

    @AnitaBokepalli

    2 жыл бұрын

    Join the party!