It hurts 100000% more when you don’t even notice other men & you consistently see yours looking at other women 😅.

@richardtiscareno63

Жыл бұрын

Thissss

@harmonyhandsbytami

9 ай бұрын

Agree !!!

@zainzera3115

9 ай бұрын

Going through this now.its painful

@msve3730

3 ай бұрын

I am goin through this now. 😢. Evertime I call him on it he acts stupid and dumb like he didn't see the woman I'm talking about 🤷🏻‍♀️.

@Devorshe

2 ай бұрын

I agree!!

It's even worse when you catch him staring and then he lies and says he wasn't. Childish

@missybella9046

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!! Then they throw it back calling you insecure or jealous

@christineporter9914

3 жыл бұрын

I know I've been there with my ex when I caught him looking and he lie about it.

@reddfoxx5938

3 жыл бұрын

That's what I'm dealing with for the first time ever! Smh

@mrs.c.bentley3319

3 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!!!! 🔥👏🏼👏🏼

@melissamiller3345

3 жыл бұрын

Very childish, rude and disrespectful

Checking out other women is a great way to inspire your wife to have an affair

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

Boom!💥🔥

@daniellarhode3409

Жыл бұрын

Boom

@godlovesme3422

Жыл бұрын

I know this post is old but wooooooo. That's the truth 🔥

@Chafalota

Жыл бұрын

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻💯💯💯💯💯💯

@quietstorm2974

10 ай бұрын

Yeap

If a man doesn't control his eyes he doesn't control his mind. If a man truly loves you he will control himself.

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@patriciadukes4343

Жыл бұрын

Amen!💓

@happysimple6015

Жыл бұрын

Agree

@guy-lc5oi

Жыл бұрын

Why only men women does that also but i guess its okay for woman to do that

@aiguts

Жыл бұрын

@@guy-lc5oi it’s not okay for women to do that but mostly men are prone to do that

I think it’s disrespectful for a man OR woman to be “ eying “ other people lustfully, especially when they are with their spouse/partner. Yes, we all have eyes. But, You don’t HAVE to do that. Its not even the point of being insecure, it’s just DISRESPECTFUL period.

@contrinadurant9846

3 жыл бұрын

I agree 👍

@reddfoxx5938

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!

@oldsexy9425

3 жыл бұрын

Years ago he wouldn't look at a woman when I was with him. During the times just before our break up he'd look at every big booty, thick woman younger than me walk by. I said you looking while I'm here, he said "yeah, I'm gonna look"! As I play the mental tape, I saw warning signs I paid no attention because I never thought he'd ever do that me. Now I feel like such a fool to disregard the signs.

@aliciasmith5012

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@vickies.3701

3 жыл бұрын

It's ABSOLUTELY disrespectful for either spouse to do "eyeball other people."

Mature and respectful men know how to see, and don't see. Wandering eyes have no self control. This is a turn off for me.

@LBoogy202

3 жыл бұрын

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@breianafrance8634

8 ай бұрын

YESSSSSSS!

If a man looks at other woman it's deeply disrespectful. And shows a truly immature heart and mind.

@Rahkiya

3 жыл бұрын

It’s women, did you listen to the whole video ?

@shutit4024

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

@RoycesRant

3 жыл бұрын

I disagree

@terrikelly2762

3 жыл бұрын

Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Tumblr.... I hate them all. 😭😭😭😭

@Wholelottarosie-lc8ed

3 жыл бұрын

I noticed no one in the comments is talking about how some women intentionally try to get attention from any and all man. They enjoy it even more if you are with them, because now they think they are better than you. I know men will look, men are visual. But some women with jezebel spirits need to be called out as well for purposely tempting.

If a man or a woman has a habit of doing this, the relationship is in deep deep trouble. Regardless of people saying that's just how men are wired, I believe it's just an excuse used to allow them to make their partner feel like sh*t. His eyes should be front and centre whether he's by your side or alone. Every man I've known who had a roving eye was not fully committed to who they were with and later actions on his part proved it. Don't look for someone who likes you, demand someone who RESPECTS you.

@elizabethhennessey6437

3 жыл бұрын

Right! A brief look is not the problem - it's the turning the head to watch, smiling at them etc. makes a woman feel like she is some kind of consolation prize and he's still looking for someone better.

@angelicaangel2624

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Elizabeth. We've all had it done to us at one point or another and it feels horrible. If he's trying to catch their eye that would be automatic dumping for me.

@reddfoxx5938

3 жыл бұрын

Right!!! My man looked a woman up and down in the restaurant I started to smack tf out of him ! Plus she couldn't touch me !

@RoycesRant

3 жыл бұрын

We are not robots

@nalecejones2791

3 жыл бұрын

Front and center 🤣🤣🤣 that man covering every angle, his need to be aware is far more than your insecurity 😯

DON'T CONFUSE INSECURE WITH DISRESPECTFUL.....!!!

@yamimngomezulu8402

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! This is just pure disrespect!

@LBoogy202

3 жыл бұрын

💣💣💣

@TheFabulousLV

2 жыл бұрын

Right! Like don't get it twisted!

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@tawana251

Жыл бұрын

True

Staring at someone else while you’re with your significant other is a slap in the face to your self esteem. What’s the point? What does a look do for a man while with their woman?!? I don’t mind a if man glances a attractive woman approaching. But if you turn your head to the side, then turn your neck back.. it’s a wrap 😆 I don’t care how confident a woman is… a man lusting for another woman in front of your face is disrespectful and nobody can convince me otherwise.

@rosettajones1161

2 жыл бұрын

Totally!

@rosettajones1161

2 жыл бұрын

@@missrose9795 very true and those men are carried away with their lust. One woman isn't enough for them.

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@tundereinhardt4676

10 ай бұрын

True! There is a slight glance where nobody noticed!! But they look sooo hard their neck almost snaps off!!!

I think that staring is the problem. Especially if the woman being looked at notices. It's uncomfortable to see a woman's man staring at her.

@TheHighclass26

3 жыл бұрын

Very true

@Unordinaryvisionary

3 жыл бұрын

This happened to me on this past Easter. My ex and I went to botanical gardens in Georgia for Easter . We were walking to see the flowers . Im 18 , turning 19 and he’s 20. As we were walking this tall beautiful chocolate girl was walking past us . I seen them lock eye contact as we were walking past eachother . He kept looking at her even when she started to look down and laugh . Once she walked all the way past , me and her looked back at eachother and watched eachother for a little then I finally loooked forward . Once we got around the corner from Her , he had the nerves to say “that girl was starring at me Like she wanted me right infront of you “ . But I seen him looking at her first . I couldn’t understand why she laughed and I brushed it off . There was nothing spectacular about her outfit or her shape (still beautiful ). She was a tall slim built girl that he gave INTIMATE eye contact with for a prolonged time as we walked past eachother . I questioned him and he made it seem like it was nothing . I let it go .days before that he went through my phone and in return I went through his (because he had a guilty conscious ) . He was texting his ex girlfriend and told Her to “call me anytime love “ he deleted the messages and only saved the last part that I just typed . That night was horrible . I called her from my Phone and asked myself she said she deleted the messages but I felt like she was protecting him . Haven’t heard from her since . After all of these altercations we went to Jamaica together . On April 18, 2021. That was when I was going to decide whether I was going to go with this or not . We had fun, but he still showed his ass . Even on the plane April 28 on the way back . So I decided to end it . Then we were on /off for 2 months .

@Unordinaryvisionary

3 жыл бұрын

But. I finally ended it last Monday because I couldn’t do it anymore .. even when I have the urge to contact him god intervened and now we can never talk again because of phone issues ONLY with his number .. it’s time for me to heal

@wonderfullymade9750

3 жыл бұрын

It's embarrassing.

@officialwatchamber

3 жыл бұрын

This is facts!!!

I usually leave when the eyes wander to much. Ain't no body that special to me.

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

Whew Chile!! I'm in the process of that now.

@tawana251

Жыл бұрын

Amennnnn

@coreyhabbas

3 ай бұрын

I agree! I just ended it with a man after 6 months when this behavior didn’t stop. It was extreme and constant. You can’t have a healthy relationship with an oggler! Once I dropped that relationship, I instantly felt better. I never did that to any partner, they best not do it to me. It’s all about having code of conduct, maturity and integrity in a relationship. When people are serious about protecting the quality of a healthy relationship long-term they willingly guard their gaze and respect their partner. Mates who have a wandering eye is definitely linked to infidelity studies show. Partners who do this typically exhibit other micro-cheating and shifty behaviors. Cut your losses quick! Men who are high on the narcissistic scale keep oggling and tend not to care about how much distress it causes their partner- they gaslight, show no remorse and tend to be very self revolved. Peace is priceless!!! Trust your gut and cut off. You deserve better!

My ex did this all the time and it was deeply hurtful and disrespectful. It made me feel really insecure and got to the point where I hated going anywhere together with him. If a relationship you should treat your spouse the way you want to be treated. This is why you have self-control. You may want to look, but you don't have to. I think I'll do a follow up KZread video on this. Thanks for starting the conversation Tony.

@RN1BSN

3 жыл бұрын

Was married 25 yrs to someone who did this...my insecurities increased To the point I didn't like looking in the mirror

@antithesiscoaching

3 жыл бұрын

Similar experience ladies! Glad 2 be done with that mess.

@alicjathesinger

3 жыл бұрын

Yes please make a follow up video

@kgodsmasterpiece6625

3 жыл бұрын

A man can look at an attractive woman, you don't have to lustfully stare her down. If he does, then do the same and see how insecure it makes him feel!

@whitneymwangi

3 жыл бұрын

We’ve been conditioned to think that it’s normal. To stick it through as long as he’s going home with you. Little things build onto bigger problems

Easiest solution: if you need to keep looking after you’ve made a commitment then you need to STAY single. If you stay single you can LOOK until you’re so old that nobody will want you. Point blank periooodt.

@jenni.getstrongxo

3 жыл бұрын

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@breianafrance8634

8 ай бұрын

Yesss lol!

@patwilson1257

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for that👏🏾

@cathybutcher4826

29 күн бұрын

Women need to hear this a lot more. Even most "professionals" will gaslight women and tell them that this is normal behavior. As far as I'm concerned, it's predatory to the women who they are ogling and mentally abusive to the women that they are with. Run!!! It's like a drug, and they are never going to stop doing it. You will end up being an insecure shell of a human, and they will love it.

This is the absolute STRUGGLE when you’re an attractive single woman you get stared & lusted at by MARRIED & taken men everywhere smh and its not flattering and very awkward on my end because you don’t know how the wife/gf will react They sure don’t mind risking their marriage or relationship I see and even have the nerve to tell me out their own mouth they found me attractive but theyre married SMH like where is the respect for your significant other nowadays 😒🥴

@naimam3976

4 ай бұрын

They might find us attractive but most married out their to use young beautiful girls they wont break up with her to be with you.

When my eye meets the woman of a man who is staring at me, it always feel like telepathical communication saying to each other “You need to run, sis”

People do not do this in all relationships.. thank God ... I would say if a man is doing this run ...

@carmenm.478

Жыл бұрын

It's so wrong and too disrespectful

So when men are staring at other women do they stop to think of all the other men staring at their wives. Men seem to think that there is always another woman that looks better. But did they stop to think that there is another man that we think is more handsome or more sexy?

@k-p1425

3 жыл бұрын

Boom!

@micheleprice9771

3 жыл бұрын

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021

@lalatarantula9981

2 жыл бұрын

We definitely all notice other attractive people. There’s a respectful way to be in the world and there’s a disrespectful way to be in the world. If you’re with someone who is ogling others, looking others up and down like they’re a piece of meat, turning their head to trail a behind down the sidewalk and just being creepy every time they see an attractive person…..No. You are not going to publicly disrespect me and the other person, potentially offend and embarrass the other person and think I’m going to be seen with your immature and creepy ass in public or private. I don’t give or take disrespect. End of.

A man with a wondering eye is likely to cheat, this type of disrespect is a red flag and its also a form of abuse

@susanmartin2757

5 ай бұрын

Yes I agree it's abusive and if it happens often and for a long period of time, like in my case, it's a constant undermining of a woman's feeling of confidence and safety in the relationship.

@solitatorres3682

2 ай бұрын

If he looks or has wondering eyes in-front of you, wait til you are not around or he is out alone.

My child’s father has ruined our relationship. Anywhere we go together he continuously has this wandering eye. We recently took our son to a birthday party. I paid no one there any kind but started to notice the female staring at me. I started investigating and noticed he just wouldn’t stop looking at her. I held my composure but I wanted to flip that table over and leave. I at that point felt so low inside and I’m pregnant? Ladies and gents! Remember u don’t have to settle for a man who doesn’t love u enough to respect and not embarrass u.

@tammyross7227

3 ай бұрын

God bless you I understand completely how you feel I deal with the same exact thing is total embarrassment is humiliating and he thinks that I want him after he does that what do you think I feel like it's completely repulsive and I don't want him near me I'm sure you feel the same way God bless you and protect you

A glance or noticing is ok imo. Staring and breaking your neck to watch a girl walk by, then turn and watch her walk away is a total deal breaker!

There are also some women out there who are so into their partner that they just no longer see other good looking men. They just don't notice how good looking the other guy is. And for those women, an indicator that the current relationship is going down the drain is when she DOES notice how good looking other guys are. Those women likely have a difficult time understanding that other people don't work like that.

@movingforward2711

3 жыл бұрын

Truth

@brittanymitchell5382

2 жыл бұрын

I like the way you framed that!

@socialdistancingon8333

2 жыл бұрын

@@brittanymitchell5382 thank you.

@Stormy1984

2 жыл бұрын

So true! Preach all day! Thank you for someone with my kind of brain and speaking out with it. I get laughed at for saying this exact thing. I really thought I was a lone breed in this way of being and it hurt me to my souls core until now.

@socialdistancingon8333

2 жыл бұрын

@@Stormy1984 It sucks you get laughed at for being different. There's no shame in that. And it doesn't mean that anything's wrong with you. I hope that one day you'll find your person that doesn't laugh at you for that.

I agree that men should be able to look but not stare. I was in a relationship like that and I eventually let him go. Women see it differently, you are looking at another woman while you are with me that is disrespectful. Just like I know he was looking at her, most likely she also saw, or feels him looking at her too. Depending on the woman she may feel like, "look at her man looking at me", why give the woman that satisfaction to think that when you are in a relationship.

It's one thing to observe and mentally grade someone as beautiful or attractive because it's in our nature to notice all around us AND it's another thing to intentionally break your neck looking after someone else, to show your partner lack of respect by making them feel not special in your life, by showing them you are still considering other people even though you are in a relationship with them. When true feelings are involved, it will be natural that no matter how handsome or attractive someone else is, you will look and notice, but they cannot make you take your eyes off your relationship because you already have something special that is more important than their looks.

@socialdistancingon8333

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@dublingirl1691

3 жыл бұрын

Love your comment Carmen! It’s when they break their necks, and keep looking that’s where the disrespect shows up. If men experienced this behavior when out with their partner, and she stays glued looking at a guy, then they would see how it feels when the shoe is on the other foot.

@micheleprice9771

3 жыл бұрын

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021

@CarmenLifeCoach

3 жыл бұрын

@@socialdistancingon8333 Thank you !

@CarmenLifeCoach

3 жыл бұрын

@@dublingirl1691 Thank you very much, i appreciate it ! Unfortunately some even have the audacity to think that is normal behaviour for a man but unacceptable for a woman. And women shouldn't even try to pay them back the same because when a man does that, he is not in love so it's not worth it if she wants true love. "Go where you are celebrated, not merely tolerated" - that quote also applies here. She needs to be with a man who is with her because he thinks she's the most beautiful, not one who thinks she is acceptable, is with her out of various needs and looks around to see what else is out there.

I read in a book called ‘love & respect that most women have the need to feel that their husbands have ‘eyes for me only’, it was such a relief to read that, as I thought I had a jealousy issue because I was so sensitive to my husbands looking

Tony and Shari are on vacation in the Maldives and Tony STILL took the time to record before hand and release a video for us. Shows a lot about his character! Thanks Tony

@c.l.9344

3 жыл бұрын

Dedication! Point blank periyod!

@officialwatchamber

3 жыл бұрын

I’m sooooooo motivated by this!!! He’s walks it like he talks it!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥

I remember my ex looking back at females and he really believed I didn't notice but it is very embarrassing. I saw many attractive people when I was walking with him but would purposely avoid eye contact with them out of respect for my man at the time, its not that hard to do I think it has a lot to do with greed if that makes sense

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

💯

I know it's wrong, but if my partner starts doing this around me I start reciprocating the gesture. I also make sure they look nothing like him as his eye candy is in comparison to me. I know it's wrong but it eases the pain for me.

@socialdistancingon8333

3 жыл бұрын

It's not wrong though. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. If it's okay for him to check out eye candy, and he is the head and the role model, then he should be confident enough to be okay with you doing it too.

@missybella9046

3 жыл бұрын

@@socialdistancingon8333 Thank you

@socialdistancingon8333

3 жыл бұрын

@@missybella9046 you're welcome.

@beac8238

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. 😅

@wandamajette5000

3 жыл бұрын

Now both of you are wrong.

Its ok to acknowledge beauty but it becomes disrespectful when a man breaks his neck or goes out of their way to look at another woman and their significant other is walking next to them . Their has to be a little bit of boundaries there

@micheleprice9771

3 жыл бұрын

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021

@aliciasmith5012

3 жыл бұрын

@@micheleprice9771 Thank you for acknowledging this🙌

@micheleprice9771

3 жыл бұрын

@@aliciasmith5012 Yr very welcome. GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! BLESSED TODAY!THANK U LORD!!

@aliciasmith5012

3 жыл бұрын

@@micheleprice9771 Agreed and amen🙏

@sharchannel1836

10 ай бұрын

Exactly

Sorry Tony, I understand the human aspect of relationships. However It sounds like you are trying to excuse this or at least make woman more tolerant of this disrespectful behavior. I have never seen a man casually look at a woman to acknowledge how pretty she is. He is typically doing the most especially if he knows it gets under your skin and cause insecurity in the relationship. If he's like this when I'm around what is he like when I'm not around? My experience, I couldn't continue being disrespected with the grunting sounds and licking lips when he saw a women then told I'm making it up. Yet he wouldn't look at an attractive woman that was with a man because he knew he had to respect him but the the man I'm with didn't have to respect me. Hmmmm.

@user-rx7uh9mg4f

2 жыл бұрын

Woah that last past! Ouch...

@cathybutcher4826

29 күн бұрын

I agree. I get sick of men making excuses for other men. It's downright disturbing and disrespectful. Gross Tony!

Looking is okay, but I think staring is what drives some women up the wall.. Either way my ex didn’t look at any woman in public while with me, and he was for the streets..lol..

18:18 Tony is right. Know your worth. "If somebody shows you who they are, believe them...". -Maya Angelou

I’m sorry Tony but I am a psychology major and I have a different perspective. In reference to your wife not tripping off of you and your interaction with women. I believe that it has nothing to do with confidence in herself. It has more to do with how secure you have made her feel based off of your values and your treatment of her. People don’t fear who they know is “into” them. The more a person is “into” us the more secure we feel with them PERIOD!. The issue of the wondering eyes has more to do with values and being totally 💯 “into” the person you are with (Man or Woman) the only reason why men justify it is because society has backed them on their behavior. If it is said that when a woman has tunnel vision when she is in love then the same can be said with a man. So if he is in love then it is possible that he can have tunnel vision as well. The problem is that most men are not with women that they are in love with (PERIOD). They may like her, enjoy her company and are comfortable with her but he is NOT in love with her. The reason why you are able to be with your wife and not look and feel a little jealousy when she is giving another man a little too much of her attention is because you are in love with her. It is a natural human emotion to feel a little threatened when the person you are IN LOVE with is too attentive and entertains the opposite sex a little too much for your taste. Again, understand that she doesn’t feel threatened because you’ve already exposed that you’re threatened. You being threatened is what has made her feel confident to the point of being too comfortable with the opposite sex in your presence along with being too unaffected with your dealings with other women. You’re also faithful because your wife Unaffected. It’s the greatest reverse psychology. So in all respect ✊🏾 I agree that the less threatened a woman acts with her man is what makes him behave better just like the less affected your wife is makes you behave better. The more affected we behave the more the person exhibits those behaviors. Over all, if a person is really IN LOVE they will not have a desire to look or cheat and as for the looking, it won’t happen in the presence of their partner. Being IN LOVE is the causality in this dilemma. Both men and women do different things and behave different with different partners. The more in love they are the better their behavior is with that individual. POINT BLANK. Your wife is unaffected because she knows you are 💯% IN LOVE with her - PERIOD those men that are looking in the presence of their women are not 💯% in love with that woman. I’m sorry but this is facts -

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

Omg you are spot on?💯

@BamBam-un5pz

Жыл бұрын

Omg I’m so glad a man wrote this too!!! This is exactly bang on. It’s not necessarily the looking, it’s the messages it conveys. “I’m just jot that into you enough to stop admiring other women aka potential life partners)

@hannahjayden7169

Жыл бұрын

Spot on

I feel like staring, especially when your partner is in your presence, is disrespectful. I’m not talking about a glance, I’m talking STARING. Lusting is def cheating in my opinion, idc. I see many men I personally know, who are married or engaged and will literally post a photo of a celebrity or influencer woman on social media, lusting after her. And their wives/fiancé’s be following them!!!! And majority of the women/men ppl publicly lust after look nothing like their partner. That’s a slap in the face.

@Crystal-dr2xi

3 жыл бұрын

@@RoycesRant why are you trolling the comment section sir. Just leave you weren't invited to the party. Wander on....

@waldofrm8701

2 жыл бұрын

That's true she's right

“Is your name Kevin?” 💀💀💀💀😂😂😂😂

@officialwatchamber

3 жыл бұрын

Girl!!!!!!

@2010buttabrowncups

3 жыл бұрын

“Kevin? Kevin Heart??”😂🤣

I caught my ex several times and the last time I caught him I was so over it. It turned into a huge fight especially after he told me, "her body was beautiful." 🤦🏽‍♀️

But men will go out they way thinking they got all the sense to try to look at another woman. Let you walk in front of them, go to another ale in the store to get a look etc... And I'm just laughing inside because I know exactly every game they pulling and they get mad because your not going for what their talking about. It don't matter how cute, pretty, fine etc you are men will look at any and everybody. It's childish and disrespectful to your partner. It's ok to see someone and noticed they are nice looking and go on bout your business but to go all out your way braking your neck etc.. your crossing the line period. Half the time their with their partner when they're doing so that tells you when they by their self it's much worst

@RoycesRant

3 жыл бұрын

It’s actually much less. The ones who stare into nothingness are the ones who break they neck when you gone🤷🏽‍♂️

@micheleprice9771

3 жыл бұрын

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021

Just love your honesty and transparency! It’s so refreshing and a rare quality to find these days! 🙏🏼👏🏼

My ability to rate how attractive someone is to me correlates with my relationship status. If I am single then when I look at a man I automatically rate his attractiveness. However, if I am in a committed relationship then I have tunnel vision.

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

Same here

@breianafrance8634

8 ай бұрын

Speak!!!

Love when you bring the Word in along with your word, brother. God bless you! 🙏🏽

Your Dad is a wonderful man of God. So are you. We all are BLESSED with both of you living out your calling, Ty 💗

Women know when a man is looking at them even when a man is standing right next to his woman - Do men understand how hurtful it is to a woman to know her man is looking at another women while next to her ? It’s a terrible feeling for the spouse / significant other ! I will leave a relationship where I become invisible over other woman ! It’s disgusting and super disrespectful! But mostly hurtful! It’s a hard no for me !

Staring is a behavior of cheaters and if he still looking he is still struggling with being out there. A man staring at another women is like a women actually speaking to another man. If your looking your still lusting.

Looking becomes wrong when it goes from looking to staring. That's hugely disrespectful to your significant other. No one wants to be on the receiving end of that.

He said, “Ol’ set of Hams walkin’ by”- Omgeee-uhhh🤣😂🤣😂 I can’t with this one-uhhh!!! ☠️☠️☠️☠️

@Candaco2000

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 I can never with him!!!!!😂😂😂😂

Omg.... I have a male friend that looks at women and women's booty..all the time! I keep telling him that's why he is single 🤪🙄 cuz it's so obvious and most women will not be ok with his lack of self control.

For me when I’m in love I see nobody else so wandering eyes is not hard for me. I can recognize a good looking man but not lust

"Come here, you going to the office." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Thank you for explaining it. I've wanted to know about that so much. I really needed fo hear this. Love how your wife said those to you.. 💖

Confidence makes you secure in YOU!!

@greatt.5131

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds great, but if a man do this all the time, no matter how secure ,and confident you are, your man doing that will affect you.

@officialwatchamber

3 жыл бұрын

@@greatt.5131 confidence will also make you leave a person who disrespects you!! 💖

@rosettajones1161

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@hlomphopege

2 жыл бұрын

@@officialwatchamber 👏🏾👏🏾

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

@@officialwatchamber 💯

Thank you tony for your wonderful videos! May you and your beautiful wife have fun at the Maldives🌴🌺

How you think all these extra-marital affairs/cheating situations started??? With a look. Although he may know his "innocent" intentions for looking/staring, he does not her intentions on the receiving end.

My ex did the exact same things. It really screwed with my head! He told me I was insecure. He began to enjoy hurting me

@wandamajette5000

3 жыл бұрын

That's the intention. Especially if you are very confident in other areas of the relationship. Perhaps he was looking for a way to humiliate you.

@rosettajones1161

3 жыл бұрын

That is what some will say because they want to lust and have you accept it, when it is unacceptable. A man will do only mostly what you allow them to do and get away with. Set your standards high and do not lower them for anything or anyone.

@blackcurrantpop

2 жыл бұрын

Usually the men that continue to look even after you say it hurts you don’t respect you or care to lose you. Watch their actions not their words. Get out of the relationship early bc they will do other things further down the line like lying and cheating. They only care for themselves. It has happened to me and I was naive not to get out early. Ended up he was cheating behind my back.

Not acceptable, respect women , don't wound them, we need to feel we have a safe space when we are with a MAN a real man wouldn't hurt the love if his life, a BOY will🙌

your realness is what keeps me subscribed. Appreciate your lessons💎🙏

Hey Tony! 👋🏽This sounds like another good video. My dad used to always get in trouble with my mom for his wandering eyes. That used to start some deadly fights in my household. I just think ppl should be more respectful in relationships. U ain't gotta break ya neck and turn around to look at her. At least wait until I'm not around. Geez 🤦🏽‍♀️

@Demetha_Khuba

2 жыл бұрын

How about not doing it at all, whether around or not. Self discipline is what is needed…

@cathybutcher4826

29 күн бұрын

​@@Demetha_KhubaAgreed. Why cause so much pain over something so gross and immature. Just don't do it.

My opinion those are lustful eyes! If you don't know that person why are you staring at them 🤷🏽‍♀️ another man can't catch my eye.

@rosettajones1161

3 жыл бұрын

Another man might not catch your eye but looking is a natural thing. I think that when it comes to lusting and looking these are obviously two different things altogether. Also, you will most likely know what they are staring at when you see them looking so hard, whether at the top, mid section or legs, etc...You will not have to guest you will instantly notice most times.

True and straight to the point. I agree and I get it. Years ago, my ex husband would look at women’s upper body and make comments. It was irritating!!

@rosettajones1161

3 жыл бұрын

That is by far one of the worse things a man can do right in front of their spouse. I have not had that to happen to me, but I can imagine that it is Very disrespectful and irritating.

Thank you for this man of God! My man having wandering eyes is hurtful, but hearing your spin on things makes it easier to stomach.

I enjoy looking at beautiful things. Staring and turning my head is something different.

Shared this message immediately! I guess it's easier to aspect concepts like this 1 when it comes from a man 💯💯💯

When a man look at me I sometimes look back but I break the stare. Cause I think some men use it as a fishing pole. Next thing you know that man walking up trying to holla and you gotta to turn him down. So if I can avoid that I will keep tunnel vision and keep it moving.

I've been going through this for awhile too ...Your right what do you do tho when you say tho its hurtful and disrespectful and youve already been doing what you can on your side by not trying to stirring the pot and by trying to be communicative and still giving a chance to let him prove himself even though there outcome is that they tell you they can look at them its not cheating and message them and watch too even when your out with him and he looks for so long but you dont .😢 I really liked how someone said you may want to look but you dont have too ... And that its about self control 😢these are all things ive been saying and im told im wrong but seeing all your answers really helped me out today i really want to thank everyone cuz ive been lost about this situation for quite some time i hope everyone has a good day but my days have been mentally hard and sad

Tony couldn't be more right!! Adding on, when men- single or not- stare at me, it's like they are using xray vision to take my clothes off. It's so uncomfortable if it's like a HARD stare! Even if ion even wanna look their way lol. Anyone else experience this?!

Look me and my bf had a huge fight over this. He was lustful before me and he would stare at woman. He began doing it in front of me for months and my blood would boil! Eventually I had to say something and he said it was natural. I said, “Even though it may be natural doing it in front of your woman is unacceptable and disrespectful. If you want a strong woman in your life you must nurture that woman she’s turning into with your actions.” Don’t be surprised if she’s everything but that because of how you carried yourself around her. That was the last time I saw those eyes move. 🤣

Tony your wife is definitely a Queen. You are truly blessed. Thank you for all that you do!

Ok thanks for bringing it in and revealing your truth😊 development and growth👍🏽

I was with one who looked at EVERY behind that walked past us, I mean EVERY woman’s behind while we were in conversation. Got so bad he started wearing sun glasses in the grocery store.

Bro Tony you have me laughing when you talk about your experience of the story of a set of Hams you see lol 🤣🤣🤣 . I've been enjoying these videos they been so on point . Continue to enjoy your time with your family 🌴⛱️🌺

@dublingirl1691

3 жыл бұрын

Tony has a thing about “hams” 🤣😂 He is a “ham” man! 🤣

@christineporter9914

3 жыл бұрын

@@dublingirl1691 Ikr, yesss he does 😂😂

@Getitgirl816

3 жыл бұрын

😆😆😆

When you said women look at other men, I agree. We are humans and we all acknowledge beauty/handsomeness

I think we all understand this Tony but there are limits . I had an ex that would just be eye locking and making the other girl smile she knew he was looking and would make her feel beautiful by doing this instead of having a good time with me there he was trying to eye lock with someone else. The girls where beautiful yes and I dont have any jealously I also looked at these girls but I would get sad because this was not acceptable what he was doing.

Well said Tony, great words for sure. I like the parallel of you make well at the end and differentiating whether or not a 'human is just being a human'; or are there other strong signs of blatant disrespect which should raise the red flags. Appreciate the video.

Keep doing what you doing brother, you really help me understand life and grow closer to god.

Totally relate to this one!!!! It's so True!!! I dealt with this with my ex for 9yrs. It actually started feeling like abuse!!!!! I was 100% faithful to her for 9yrs...

@patwilson1257

3 жыл бұрын

It felt like abuse because that’s what it was.

@megancrawford9959

3 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@butterflyangel75

2 жыл бұрын

@@patwilson1257 💯

@bronkysboxing6273

Жыл бұрын

Bro I been married 11 years and with my partner 16 years. The year of my marriage Mt wife started staring at other men INFRONT of me ..i though it was done until 6 years later still the same. Lol. I'm.still married to same woman somehow

@mikeconell4311

9 ай бұрын

@@bronkysboxing6273 my fiancé has the same problem and just to throw the cherry on top…she always singing these songs about sex

This video message was very insightful. Thank you

My favorite Tonyism is "Medicine in the glasses"! 👓 😂😂

Well said Tony, well said! When you're confident in yourself you don't stress on what your mate is doing, cause what's done in the dark will come to the light! 🙌👏🙌👏👏👏

@sylviagaston9453

2 жыл бұрын

Not always...some creeps get away with it.

@shereewhite4828

2 жыл бұрын

@@sylviagaston9453 They may get away to the human eye, but my God sits high, looks low, & sees everything! God can give better vengeance than mankind, so trust they're not getting away with it.

@sylviagaston9453

2 жыл бұрын

@@shereewhite4828 Yes you are so right!

Funny that you mentioned that cuz I met a Pastor at the Casino yesterday. He would just stare and talk about people. Grown boy in his full glory.

@rosettajones1161

3 жыл бұрын

First of all, why is the Pastor even at a Casino? He should be at home studying God's word so he can be the epitome of what depicts God through his son Jesus. Yes, he can and should go somewhere other than church, but don't let it be the "boat" or gambling casinos.

@theonerealestatesecret

3 жыл бұрын

@@rosettajones1161 that's what I'm saying. Thank God that Tony is showing me how to handle these grown boys.

My ex did it with purpose to enoy me or he tried to make me insecure with his narc games ! But i got him back, if we were in a bar, i started to look a bit further away behind him...he straightaway looked behind him to see what I was looking at !!!!🤣😉 it is very enoying if a man looking in such an eccesive way! It ís disrespectfull !! But as soon as you do it back as a woman, they are in distress! Not knowing what happens here???! I knew his 'game' !!

Sometimes you do get treated based on your attractiveness in life. It should be based on the outside as well the inside but it’s not. Sometimes the pretty people in heart are the ugliest and the ugliest people can be the prettiest in heart. Weird but true. That’s why I hate when You-tubers put people down based on looks. Do you know their heart? No you don’t. That’s the problem. It’s s okay to look at the cover of the book. But will you read it based on that!? If you don’t it’s your loss.

The Bible says to keep your eyes looking forward, if you don’t stare you can’t be tempted.

If I point out to the person that I'm with, something that I feel is disrespectful and they keep doing it, then they're not the person for me. I should be able to rest in "my" person and they should be able to "rest" in me. My Father told me that the person that I'm with should always bring out the best in me, not the worst. So if you "tell" the person you're with what makes you feel disrespected and they willingly disrespect you....in the famous words of Tony Gaskins, "Go head bout ya business".

It’s one thing to look with admiration, I don’t mind that. LOOK because I’m looking too in admiration, it’s in our nature to do so. But when your staring in a flirty way trying to make eye contact opens up the possibility for the other women to think there’s a chance. It’s beyond disrespectful because depending on the type of women she is there’s one to two things she gonna think to herself and that’s 1. He likes me although he’s with his women and they start eye dancing. Or 2. She notices him in her peripheral never making eye contact while thinking he’s stupid to flirt with his women beside him because she’s smart enough to know that his woman sees his stupid ass but she dares not play that game with him because of the self respect she has for herself. Sorry not sorry, I will not stand to be disrespected AND made a fool of. I’m out!

I always peeped this but felt it was a insecurity to my self . But then at the same time I’m losing interest in my girl because I be catching her do this and it’s like damn is it me ? But yea man this disrespectful because when we out and when her friends and shitt around I don’t stare but I can’t say the same for her . It makes me wanna seek outside of the relationship no cap

I'm REALLY trying to get to that place of putting up with this cuz this has happened in all of my relationships and whenever I brought the conversation up respectfully, he'd say I was tripping or jealous and he'd start a fight. I don't feel like it's a matter of confidence because I am very confident but it's a matter of simply accepting this behavior and I'm having trouble with this. People should train themselves to look away. It may take some work but if you truly care about someone...just sayin'. Everyone recognizes people but when it gets to the point of staring to get eye contact or keep looking over at the person, it's more than a notice.

@jaib3937

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯 wow yes so true going thru this now.. idk if I can accept the behavior and I’m tired of speaking on it so now I just say nothing makes me feel less

Hi Tony Lunch break right on time.. . Many thanks 😀

TONY, YOU ARE ALWAYS ON POINT WITH EVERY VIDEO YOU MAKE.. 😊😊😊😊😊

“Is your name Kevin…?!” 👀👀👀🥴🥴🥴🥴 WRONG GUY 🥲🥲🥲 That man sitting in the dark.. COULD NEVER ❗️❗️❗️😅

The key to what was said was "look/notice and keep it moving" and "consider the person's track record" Either way, there is no problem with noticing or looking because I can appreciate beauty as well, it's blatantly staring and even pausing a conversation to look at another woman. That happened to me. In my opinion, it's super disrespectful and that's when it's time to have a discussion and re-evaluate the relationship.

Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Tumblr.... I hate them all. 😭😭

I wouldn't be saying he's going home with me. I'd be like your going home alone because I'm going to dinner with the guy that noticed that I deserve better. True story, but you can only take so much. 🤷

Honestly, I'd expect him to look at a pretty woman. He didn't GO BLIND after we started dating. It's all in the way he does it. If he's stopping, and doing a 360-degree turn to look, or UNDRESSING her with his eyes, it's VERY DISRESPECTFUL. Better sleep with one eye 👁️ open after this ❗ 🤣🤣🤣

"Humans are going to Hume!" Never heard it said like that but it works 😂😂😂

He said, “comea’ you goin’ to the office” -😂🤣😂☠️☠️☠️ I’m deaddd-uhh!!!

So the problem is me? This one thing is stopping me from saying yes to him and marriage. I do not look at other men in a lustful way in or out of his presence. I view his looking as disrespectful and hurtful. I cannot move pass this, and it will never be ok.

@susanmartin2757

4 ай бұрын

I am in the same place. I can't get past all the many years of my boyfriend checking out other women. Too disrespectful and he just wouldn't stop, despite my protests. The wandering eyes felt abusive right from the start, and I'm really waking up to it all now finally and the damage it has done to me and the relationship, and I'm just coming to terms with it all now. I will be many years healing from this level of betrayal and I can't wait for the day when I will be more in a state of peace once he's out of my life soon.

@SorrowfulBeauty

2 ай бұрын

Maybe us women, if we're not single and looking, should start glaring back or even verbally calling them out when we notice all these dogs with their women gawking at us. Too often the woman who is being stared at will just lap up the attention. We need to start putting ourselves in his significant other's shoes. It could easily be us in that situation and probably has been. We have to remember how painful it was and resist the temptation to enjoy another man's lingering gaze on us. Shut them down. Shame them. I, honestly am the only female I've ever seen do this. If more women did this it would diminish a lot of this inappropriate behavior. Women need to respect themselves and each other. We also need to act and dress more like ladies and less like thots desperate for attention.

The Word of The Most High says whoever looks on a man/woman to lust after her has already committed adultery in his/heart. It's a very fine line we all have to walk. However, it is hard not to look at beautiful people. A pastor at a church I attended said learn to have a neck up ministry when looking at people. 😁😆😄

8:37 No Tony, your wife is GORGEOUS! 🎯🌺

@rosettajones1161

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, you are right his wife is gorgeous. However, all men must be careful because sometimes they can be attracted to women less attractive. Men and women need to stay before God and ask the Lord to keep them focused on their spouse, not on another woman or man just because they look good. Spend life with who you are with and put aside who you are not with since they don't belong to you.

A man will notice EVERY woman in a room. Men keep their head on a swivel, they'll notice any woman regardless of if their attracted to them or not. And regardless of status: Single, Dating or Married. It's all about confidence in yourself and what you have with your partner.

@HeLpLOstGOdAny1

3 жыл бұрын

Not all men

to me it's how you look;when I was younger I had a boyfriend look at other women and when I saw it I would hit him in back of his head lol

My husband pursues these women to try and get their attention and when he gets their attention he comes back to me all proud of himself

@susanmartin2757

5 ай бұрын

That's disgusting. I had been in a relationship for many years with a guy that stared at other women in the hopes they would notice him. None of them ever did. Except I always noticed him. Insanely humiliating and disrespectful. I understand your hurt. In my case, I was inconsolable and had to end things.