The discussion will always turn back to the man being the problem... The topic is the uprise of infidelity amidst married women.

Edgar may sound so funny, but his points are valid. We need to approach marriage with less of emotions and more of a "duty" mindset. That's why previous generations had more marital success.

@TroverTube

16 күн бұрын

Exactly 💯

It would be nice if Ms Osime could allow her co-presenter to speak without interruption.

@aramisa528

9 ай бұрын

It will be nice if the presenters are not talking over each other, so we can hear each presenter

@blessedokosun2072

9 ай бұрын

Correct, but the co-presenter is reactional for she too wants to be heard. Ms Osime is the principal anchor and she sets the pace.

@bigelow4490

9 ай бұрын

She is a cheat

@UnknownTraveller-fz9mw

8 ай бұрын

Edgar is a chronic cheat and champion of sleeping with married women

@patrickifeanyialozie616

8 ай бұрын

Gosh!!! I thought I was the only one who noticed.... why have a co-presenter if there interventions count for nothing.... She is clearly a bully and extremely high on her opinion. She actually made a categorical statement on International TV that there is no honest and faithful Nigerian Man walking the face of this earth....phew! Such shallowness and weak projection of insecurity....😢

When adultery is called cheating; it becomes traditionally acceptable as the new norm

@hakeemojulari7392

8 ай бұрын

agreed

@pedroolamide3285

8 ай бұрын

Yh, that's a root cause misperception. Calling it cheating is a problem on its own

@user-vq9os9kh9r

8 ай бұрын

Please, what is it called when someone cheat on their spouse? Weather a male or female.

@rekiyaE

8 ай бұрын

​@@user-vq9os9kh9r😂😂😂 funny question. This flew right over your head!

Very important topic. Infidelity is bad both from males and females. We know about men but women are far better/smarter cheat than men and it didn’t start today. Only a woman knows the father of her child. I think poverty, greed, loneliness, lack of appreciation/love/romance, revenge, unforgiveness, childlessness, unsatisfied sex, lack of sexual education in our men, lack of good communication on sex or how to satisfy each other, bad influence from social media & bad friends and of course promiscuity, really contributed a lot to this infidelity in some married women.

A topic that most people shy away from. Arise TV has done well again.

People cheat because they choose to whether men or women. Cheating is a choice!

@talk2minie

9 ай бұрын

💯 and full stop. People making excuses for the man or woman cheating is driving me insane!

I disagree with the Lady who said there's no honest Nigerian man. I've been married for 5 years now and have never cheated on my Wife and will never do such even as I wasn't living together with her for our first 3 years of marriage. It wasn't easy especially living abroad and having all it takes to do what ever I want and being exposed to lots of beautiful girls who are always trying their luck up to this date. Coincidentally, 2 of my best friends back in Nija are also faithful to their wives. We're so proud of our beautiful wives. It's awesome being faithful in marriage 💑. My wife has the pin code to all my 3 cellphones and I have no regrets to be open and faithful to my lovely wife. Guys it's so difficult to cheat, always hiding.

@egoagbo8574

7 ай бұрын

Welldone Bro. Don't mind the woman. My husband is also a faithful one woman man. Some people just think that it's difficult to stay faithful to one's spouse because of their own personal experiences....or mindset they've imbibed over time.

@paschalukpabi697

3 ай бұрын

5 years, and you are talking. I have been married for 21 years. If you cheat on your wife now, you never really found her attractive.

@paschalukpabi697

3 ай бұрын

These women should just shut up. Africans can have multiple wives. Is the North not part of Nigeria.

@elizabethomoruyi9769

19 сағат бұрын

FIVE YEARS. Come back in more years time and repeat this comment.

This Edgar Man is something else, in fact he killed the whole conversation. Thank you

Most at times we only know one part of love and once it's no longer there, we think love has gone. Please let's stop using love to mean only that erotic emotional feelings, love is too way more than that. Love is feeling Love is understanding Love is sense of duty and responsibility Love is forgiveness Love is kind and patience. Love is everything and anything good that makes human relationship good and functional. Try to know and have all this kinds of love so that you can use them when appropriate and needed.

@israeli8167

7 ай бұрын

P is

@AtalkwithRichi

7 ай бұрын

Your point?

@jessicabassey6787

7 ай бұрын

ZS

This is a very important topic. Thank you all for your contributions. Ms. Kadiri seems to be an expert on the issue due to her academic background.

Fornication and adultery are SINS . Repent and give your lives to Jesus.

Very interesting pls bring them back again.. Everyone contributed nicely to the topic and was well educative.

What most women don't understand is that a cheating man don't bring home another woman's child for the wife. But cheating women bring in other men's children for their husband to take care of...

@tribeofjudahlion1484

9 ай бұрын

God bless you

@ikpoegee

9 ай бұрын

This is not logical at all. Men bring in sexually transmitted diseases like HIV to the home and women do too.Your logic is neither here,nor there because,if he gets a child outside,the child will eventually come back to his or her father's house. So, your defence has no logic to it. After all, he will still be taking care of this child whether in his house or outside his house in a baby daddy way. So, what's the sense in your argument?

@talk2minie

9 ай бұрын

How about I tell you I know of men who have done this and brought home mistress' kids to their wives. 😒 Regardless, let's not make any excuses for anyone to cheat. If you can't be faithful, just don't get married!!

@ifeomaakunnaya4208

9 ай бұрын

​@@talk2miniethat immediately makes the child his..

@chidiobiukwu5728

9 ай бұрын

@@talk2minie there's no woman that would allow her husband bring another woman's child without her concest or condition either the man had no child from the woman at the meantime or under adoption for the child...

Standing by your duty in marriage is Love.

Wonderful presentation. The more the quality of a person the more the quality of choices embraced.

This lady shouldn't be moderating such topic if her emotions or experience with her partner or life style wouldn't allow her to give room for her invitees speak, they are professionals and we all see things from different perspectives not always will everyone agree or see things through the same lense as to yours.

Bible blueprint on marriage remains the best to go to, and will always be my final authority. The world has gone berserk.

The moderator should enforce decorum at discuss tables. This debate is chaotic

Spouses should be faithful to one another. STD is real

sometimes i wonder why people keep saying married men cheat more than married women, my 8yrs of working in 3 guest house in Nigeria made me to just say waoo, if we have 50 customers per day, 47 of them are married women, if we all go for DNA today, 78% of us will go looking for our biological father....

There is this statement someone made, he said" if a man catches a woman she will go and if a woman catches a man also cheating she will also go" because the woman can't deal with a cheating husband and most men don't forgive their cheating wife ...everything still falls on the woman because of African culture. They want the woman to endure the marriage... now things are changing, it's not business as usual, that's why this kind of topic is being discussed. Faithfulness pays more.

16:12 Arise please allow only Ruth to bring Topics and run the show. Why are there other participants in the Studio when Ruth will never allow them complete 3 sentences without interjection

i WILL NEVER FORGIVE A CHEATING WOMAN

@ogomailechukwu9422

9 ай бұрын

Can you forgive a cheating man?

@K-ONE16

9 ай бұрын

@@ogomailechukwu9422a man is entitled to so many women as he can take care of. If you say men and women are equal due to your modern mindset, then a woman is entitled to so many men as she can take care of . .. but are women ready to do so???

@ademolaabolaji9130

8 ай бұрын

I Hope You Are A Guy And A Saint 😂😂😂😂

@Oysf5277

8 ай бұрын

Honestly, a woman that will cheat wouldn't care for yur forgiveness, will spend days to plan NOT to get caught for that ten to fifteen minutes of pleasure.

@Mummyhood833

8 ай бұрын

If you find out noe

No no no, this is wrong approach madam Ruth. Marriage and family are vital social institutions to human existence otherwise society is doomed as it is increasingly becoming. And pls it is absolutely wrong to be so generic about Nigerian men been notorious for infidelity. I lived with my father and mother until they both left this world and there was no single incident of infidelity. I am a living Nigerian man who have been faithful to my spouse. I am sorry to say this madam but you are obviously too bias and angry to handle this program

@damianikeri7808

9 ай бұрын

Oh! So someone else feels same the way I felt about her sense of judgement about Nigerian men?. Let me use myself as an example. I left Nigerian in 2019 for Germany for study purpose, and only visited my wife in July this year. 2023. All through, I had never had any sexual affairs with any lady be it black or white despite all the temptations. Many white ladies pushed themselves through but we're all disappointed. I am a human though but I was just being faithful to my vow on the alter. Is that not faithfulness or am I not one of the Nigerian men she is saying rubbish about? It seems she is just angry for never ever been married, period!

@modrikisadopted6337

9 ай бұрын

The fair woman is pushing a narrative and she knows she is wrong.@@damianikeri7808

@taiwograce3547

9 ай бұрын

I also hate that aspect of her generalizing infidelity of Men. My Boss who is at his 50 is not part and so his my Husband of 11yrs. She should not be generalizing infidelity of African or Nigerian Men, it's so discouraging to those that's making effort or dislikes d act. This is the second time of seeing her saying things like that about Men.

@nosashuly

8 ай бұрын

You guys can be angry all u want but what she says about men who are not faithful to their marriage is real. Yes there are a few men who keep to their vows of which u may be among but the truth remains that a larger percentage of married men sleep around.

@wallace6623

8 ай бұрын

A larger percentage and "all" doesn't send different to you, right?@@nosashuly

Thumbs up to Mr. Edgar for his courage on this topic and being real. Good discussion with maturity

The lady with red glasses is speaking wisdom. The man with earings is a modern play boy. If that guy can tolerate a cheating wife, he's such a cheat himself. He lacks values and discipline! The fair anty is a "do me. I do you" kind of woman!🤷

What an interesting conversation. It was undiluted and really, especially from Joseph.

This still is a typical News setting, the studio used for shows like this should have a more relaxing look.

A woman with this bias against man cannot see a faithful man and recognize him. It is offensive to assume that all men are unfaithful and then try to justify women's unfaithfulness by blaming the men for all of it. If men act the way you say, it is still your choice to either walk away or make the obviously bad choice of cheating.

U can't judge women's infidelity but u are judging men's infidelity, definitely double standard.

@samuelfeso5734

9 ай бұрын

The world reeks of hypocrisy.

@jonathanogbone9925

8 ай бұрын

dont mind her, she has nothing good to say about Nigerian men, my dear, not all men cheat

@knix9014

8 ай бұрын

​@@jonathanogbone9925she should go and try east or south African men and understand Nigerian men are saint compared to them

@Michael75557

8 ай бұрын

FACTS. REASON THIS IS DISGUSTING

@oladayosaka

8 ай бұрын

She admitted she's a feminist, so we shouldn't expect less. She keeps interrupting her guests. She definitely change the topic from uprise of infidelity amidst married women to that of men.

There is no rise. This has always been there, but now social media has socialised the act.

I enjoyed this programme. Thanks Arise

Marriage is love/feelings between two people which heralds a lifelong sense of duty.The sense of duty is beyond feelings it is action whether you love or not.

Ruth should give a co-presenter time to finish her tenses. She keeps cutting her off.

The man is so right 100%. I am a man and I know this. Egar, you are apt and truthful in all aspects.

Imagine this woman condemning Nigerian men because of her own experience.

@samthecreator10

9 ай бұрын

Honestly. She's purely speaking from personal experience. She's given up on fidelity.

@modrikisadopted6337

9 ай бұрын

They are forming psychologists and simply do not know how much Women are built to be led. If not they will bear what they see. Our culture is appreciated by foreign cultures bcos most Nigerian men are disciplined..

The purpose of marriage is for companionship and procreation and what sustains understanding and quality communication.

Please the lady in black should allow other people to talk, she's always cutting people off, or interjecting. The show has great potential , Weldon 👍

@postivity9279

9 ай бұрын

Agree she is jarring

A Man was needed in this panel

I married at 31 and I married as a virgin. I met my wife also as a virgin and we are married for close to 5 years now, I never cheated on my wife. Neither does my wife. There are a lot of people who are like that. I do not believe the generalization here that there are no honest men. There are millions of men in Nigeria who are honest. My submission.

Thanks for this conversation, at least away from useless politics.

Some women and double standards. Ask them and you'll find a number of them have gone off track quite a few times. Then they come on a show and go on a rant against men. Well, your opinions remain what they are, your opinions.

God bless this woman for saying that not all men cheat

Very interesting and educative topic

Marriage is for the protection of women and children.

You have never been married but talking with so much authority and finality, abeg park somewhere.

Very good discussion. You should this mo r e often if you want to curb infidelity in Nigeria.

This is absolutely interesting ❤❤❤

Women are attracted to friendship (attention) and comfort (provision of available fund to their needs and wants). Further, friendship and comfort are catalysts and sustainance for love. As soon as a man seizes to provide both, women become venerable and take the next favorable decision. Please note; women are content in most cases. However, today, women are empowered where by possess necessary comfort, even more than their partners. So if the man seizes to provide comfort and friendship, the empowerment status of women kicks in. That is. She’s empowered, so she doesn’t really need the man anymore. She may either stay by herself until she’s ready to move on or she moves on immediately where she can get friendship outside because she’s already empowered. Therefore only seeking for attention and all that comes with it.

Osime is so unfit to lead this conversation with her ridiculous bias against men. The fact that she refused to outrightly condemn female infidelity & terms it “not judging” while trying to find non-existent reasons but harps on male infidelity & for lack of better words, tags it 2nd nature is clear indication of her stance. Infidelity is wrong across all genders & there’s ZERO reasons for it. If you would mutilate your body if your partner does it and you clearly don’t approve of it, why would you sleep with someone else because your partner did, when you can clearly walk away from his or her life and find yourself.

@chakadaniel7457

8 ай бұрын

You have spoken the murmurs of my heart. It is little wonder that she is yet to be married. She sounds like one who would cheat on her man on the whims of flimsy reasons.

@ovie10

8 ай бұрын

You can see her aggressive nature! Compare her to the demeanour of the other lady; she was just passively bullying her…. What a shame! An unprofessional being parading herself as a journalist lmao

@honestyameh9397

8 ай бұрын

​@@chakadaniel7457I won't be surprised if she's from the same village with Nedu's ex wife 😂

@Guzmies

8 ай бұрын

so true

@eddyekpo7381

8 ай бұрын

Exactly my thoughts

The reason for this problem is lack of faithfulness before marriage

@omothefavoured

8 ай бұрын

Have you considered the bad economy ?a woman ll go to any length to feed her hungry children and cover up for a mansa irresponsibility inthe place of provision .#i dont support infidelity #may we not become so vulnerable

To generalize that no such thing as faithful Nigerian man is shocking. I know of many and some of us can speak for ourselves

@Rigel-fo4ye

8 ай бұрын

I was shocked by that too. Seems they have accepted low standards

The presenter on point. I love her perspective.

R Osime, u know the truth, u are just trying to defend and give excuses for women. U can only for urself not for all women.

This is an important topics. Let's start with the church. these days when I see our women in church I will be so afraid because I don't know if there is any innocent one among them again including pastor's wife. They are involve in this and still go around as still holy sister even joining in condemning the same infidelity they practice. It's terrible. Even some G O. Wife are not exempted. My profession grants me the opportunity to know all these. Johnson Ndukwe

Thanks for this interesting topic

This will destroy the family and remove the protection that women have.

Very interesting discuss. Arise please make this a daily post. Thank you guys

I think it is somehow culturally tolerated among the Yoruba.

@fs5024

9 ай бұрын

What is wrong with you? Why must you bring tribe into this?

One of the most important factor in modern marriage is finances and if i bring in money enough to fulfil the lavish expectations of ten modern women, no woman can stop me from have the women that i want. Imagine me being Davido and you telling me to stick with just Chioma no, that won't stick.I will not go round sleeping with every tom and harry but, i will marry 2 or 3 that will satisfy my desires. I don't think men should hide their intentions about wanting more than one woman as long has they can satisfy the needs of those women in most areas of life. Women know men they can cheat on. If a woman cheats on me despite me doing everything within to please her, she is a goner, no second chance.

@ehigold1358

8 ай бұрын

You are Immature. How long will you do that for.

The guest on Pink is getting it right while the anchor on black is exhibiting i think her personal experience and she look domineering.Sorry for her husband if she has one.Cheat is a choice, don't blame it on nobody.

@fs5024

9 ай бұрын

She stated that she has never been married.

They're too emotional to discuss this topic. I had to switch off. Get logical thinkers to discuss this next time please.

@samthecreator10

9 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯

@leslieugoh5629

8 ай бұрын

Honestly

Very interesting conversation and great panelists

Amazing show. As for the presenter ur body language and choice of words clearly shows u av a biased perspective on the subject. Stephanie is very objective I like her vibe and Edgar is a very practical man. In my opinion, it is petty for a woman to cheat because the husband is doing same. I av met women dt av not cheated in their marriages despite their husbands doing the exact opposite. My perspective is it comes down to the value system of the individual. We are responsible for the choices we make and shld be prepared for its attendant consequences.

Ladies let me ask you one question. These single girls hanging on the roads at nights will eventually get married do you think they will be faithful or not?

@nancyokosi1

9 ай бұрын

You've answered the question 😊

@chukwuebukavictor5919

8 ай бұрын

😂 they might not oo. tasting different sizes and then comparing hubbies own .... lots of fantasies

@luckywhite7241

8 ай бұрын

When you married then you will find out the hard way

I will adopt his words from now, is the simple truth

These women doesn't know that they are on the losing side and helping men concentrate on fashioning out the main goal in life which is not marriage actually but realizing their trueness and true identity which is obviously to walk in the purpose of their birth as reason to why they came on earth. Firstly a man's purpose is not marriage, a man's purpose is wealth, health, and happiness, and he can only find these in the field of his purpose as destiny. Listen, marriage has never made any man on earth achieve his destiny and dreams or goal, rather marriages weakens men's quest to successiveness.

@ihemehelen1454

9 ай бұрын

Yet you want kids??

@suanuagabus3527

9 ай бұрын

Well stated. Only few men of knowledge know this.

Fidelity in marriage occurs when sex is a completion of oneness. If sex is transactional then like the other lady said what is marriage The Bible says Adam and Eve knew each other and were not ashamed. Love is not an attraction otherwise it is erotic but marital love moves from friendship to Godly love. Many without God or the power of salvation are inherently unfaithful. The book of Proverbs says a faithful man who can find. But women should strive to be virtuous. Many men I know are faithful to their spouses. We know like proverbs stolen waters is sweet but the results is death

Every child born should have a DNA

A very good discussion, the fair lady host was making great points, sorry i didn't catch her name, , she was saying it like it is.👍👏👏

@victorisimi2331

8 ай бұрын

Ruth Osime is her name

Until you guys are ready to define the word "lust or sin" and how it is to be dealt with, you will not have a reasonable conclusion.

"Love is for teenagers" - Edgar I totally agree. It is some fleeting feeling we get when our hormones have gotten the better of us when we are adolescents. Eventually, we will all outgrow the giz-giz feeling.

THIS MAS HAVE A VERY BETTER EXPERIENCE. THIS IS TRUE, WHEN A CHILD ARRIVES WHAT MOVES PARENTHOOD STRONGER IS NO MORE LOVE BUT DUTY AND RESPONSIBILITY. LOVE IS VERY FRAGILE WHEN IT COMES TO PARENTING DUTY AND RESPONSIBILITY STANDS IT ALL

@obiobi9378

9 ай бұрын

Duty and responsibility is also Love.

This is an important topic but the conversation is poor and myopic. There's a psychology behind infidelity. Next time, let a seasoned psychologist be part of your panel of commentators.

Marriage is a human concept to control man......like organizations, religion,Govt.

I ❤love the topic.

You can see their outrage against Men

So glad I'm not a fan of this TV station, your discussion is the same reason young men are not willing to get married.

"when they are single, we are trying to force them not to touch each other but when they are married, we are trying to force them to touch each other" And you wonder why? Have you heard of the law of diminishing returns? exactly.

I am so glad that finally women are beginibg to know their worth! Marriage is a duty, and with that comes mutual respect, understanding, and compromises.

@ubongambrose4066

8 ай бұрын

Did women just start cheating/committing adultery today? What a use of the brain? Cheating is sex with someone who is not your partner/spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend. It takes two to tangle, if for you men have been cheating, do you think they have been cheating with manikins? Women control the gate to sex, and the one who opens the door to the thief has done even more cheating as well. I don't know if they have started also to pay/spend to marry the men in Nigeria if that's part of what you mean by knowing their worth. Although women's worth depletes with the more different men they sleep with, unlike men's. But good for you for demonstrating your worth by cheating/sleeping with countless men...

@user-uh6jr5rf6f

7 ай бұрын

I am glad for you too . Only stupid men get married

@user-uh6jr5rf6f

7 ай бұрын

I am glad for you too . Only stupid men get married

HOW CAN HE SEPARATE THE MOTHERS PAIN FROM HER ABILITY TO BE A GOOD MOTHER. IF SHE IS SUFFERING SHE CAN NOT CARE FOR HERSELF OR CHILDREN AS NEEDED

A discussion regarding "Uprise of infidelity amongst married women" turned into a dissection of why men cheat.

He is really correct

You talk over each other...

Its so heart wrenching knowing I was raised to serve another human being😢😢😢😢😢. However, the bright side is to raise the next generation to understand the liberation if equality, equity, and freedom.

@Geeconcept1

8 ай бұрын

My dear, Nature made it that way. the issue is that women are fighting for gender equality just like LGBT is fighting for eqaulity, no matter what the westerners do, it will never work in some countries especially, Arabic countries. So nature never made man to be equal with the woman, take it or leave it. God created a woman to be a helper to the man and in as much as marriage is concern, it gives the man more right over the woman, why? Because the man will come to the woman's parents and ask for their daughter's hand in marriage, pay a dowry over the girl and take her away from her father's house to his own house and at the same time gives the man the right to change the girl's surname to his own.these things gives the man an edge over the woman. I know that so many women will not like what I am saying but that's a fact whether the next generation will change it or not is not the issue. in as much as these things are still in place and it still remains a woman's job to carry the pregnancy, a man will always remain at the top.

@user-uh6jr5rf6f

7 ай бұрын

Even your children will serve men forever

What if your wife doesn't have feelings for the husband?

Relevant topic and conversation. But which survey are you referencing? I can't find any link to the report on the internet. Can you share where it was published?

You can't expect a women who had multiple boyfriends as a single lady stay faithful in marriage. There is no woman who slept with more than one men at the same time as a single girl ever stay faithful in her marriage. She will always find a reason to continue it in marriage. And secondly, most women who love money and position will compromise her dignity to climb the corporate and financial ladder. They will sleep with men who will provide them with opportunities

@lindao.ezenwammadu7056

8 ай бұрын

No be every woman o

@gold4joey

8 ай бұрын

@@lindao.ezenwammadu7056 the people I am talking about know themselves 😄😄🙏

@luckywhite7241

8 ай бұрын

@@lindao.ezenwammadu7056 keep deceiving yourself, if you can't stay faithful while dating how are you going to stay faithful in marriage?

Once the children are involved, cheating could be forgiven, cheating cheapens a woman.

@lindao.ezenwammadu7056

8 ай бұрын

And it doesn’t cheapen men? 😂 Y’all think we women don’t see promiscuous men as dirty?

@chidiobiukwu5728

8 ай бұрын

If not for the sake of kids involved in divorce, no gender worth forgiven of cheating... cheating is not by a mistake, is indeed intentional. ....

This guy is really right

Osime, allow people talk na. Learn to listen and let others air their views. 😢

This bleaching woman presence in this program is just defeating the whole program.

God bless you 😊

It's not possible for women to address their own issues without roping in men.....They said the survey was for women and madam anchor is bringing men into the story....

@diligenceeke3023

9 ай бұрын

Because they hate to take responsibility.

@ogbonnanwachukwu9281

8 ай бұрын

Anything a woman does blame it on the man and anything a man does blame it on the man, so convenient eeh?

You guys made the topic so hilarious.😂

Without injecting. So shameful, she might be a Good presenter but not a Listening Anchor.

Some women do not know how to be in a monogamous relationships and they do not know this. Some women are not meant to be married, and they know it. But Nigerian society looks down on women who do not wish to be married.

I see a lot of shallowness on the part of the presenters, especially Ruth. Very poorly-researched and myopic submissions

I am honest, honestly and faithfully faithful