The reason I talk to myself is to focus my thoughts. Also, I didn't have safe relationships growing up. I don't have a lot of close connections in my social life now that I'm older. I need to hear a voice, so I use my own, since I usually can't rely on other people. I talk to myself on purpose.

@resolvetorise

4 күн бұрын

It seems many people do the same for similar reasons. I don't think that talking to yourself outloud (in and of itself) is a bad thing. Actually, dissociation is often adaptive. When these things start interfering with the core areas of your life, that's when it deserves attention. Sounds like it's been helpful for you.

@suedarr197

4 күн бұрын

i think thats a pretty good assessment of yourself.😊

The first time I made the decision to leave my reality, truly knowing and making that decision, was a powerful moment. I learned to use that power to survive my worst parts.

@resolvetorise

Ай бұрын

Dissociation is always the result of adapting; sounds like you were very intentional in making that shift. It does serve a purpose!

@MizrahiChick

5 күн бұрын

It's remarkable to find your comment, thank you . I am dealing with C-PTSD , in a long term stalking without legal remedy , no restraining order possible. Dissociation was tearing me apart until I made it a friend . I can now walk outdoors knowing perfectly well the stalker is often around and feel little. I have come to embrace the freedom in emotional numbing . No one can feel fear 24/7/365 so I just don't. Wishing you well.

@resolvetorise

5 күн бұрын

@@MizrahiChick That makes a lot of sense.

@MizrahiChick

5 күн бұрын

@@resolvetorise Thanks for what you do and the discussions that come from it.

@jesussaves1827

Күн бұрын

Turn to Jesus He loves you, He is the healer of the body And savior of the soul, There is True Hope in Jesus, God protects Psalms 91, He is the God of miracles Acts 2:21 And everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved Jesus alone saves Trust Him with your salvation John 3:16 1 Corinthians 15 1-4 Moreover Brethren, i declare unto you the gospel which i preached unto you, which also ye have received, and with wherein ye stand By which also ye are saved, if you keep in memory what i preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain, For i delivered unto you first of all that which i also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures And that He was buried, and that He rose again the third day according to the scriptures, Take care

At 62 I’ve learned there’s no such thing as “safe”. Ever.

@janinejohnstone468

Сағат бұрын

There is no true peace - except in the Lord Jesus Christ. And the world itself shall not be at peace until He returns. He's given me my life back, and the strength to carry on.

Glad to know that I am not going senile, but "only" experiencing dissociation a lot of times after years-long chronic traumatic stress (and loneliness which, for primates, is extremely stressful on the brain.) Grounding, yes, helpful. Working on reducing stress and healing from stress, critical.

Thank you for a clear and understandable description of a condition we are all susceptible to. Here is a POV from the perch of experience: Have you ever been physically close to an explosion? Have you ever had a soul wrenching life experience? I have had both happen to me. I can report that they have similar effects but on different parts of you. Disorienting is a term that can be applied to both physical and emotional trauma, only, the physical recovers in a more predictable and observable way. The emotional/mental/spiritual trauma is more subtle, often less observable, but can take a longer time to recover from.

@resolvetorise

Күн бұрын

I like how you framed that out. By physical trauma, I assume you are talking about physical injuries. If so, I agree entirely. I only ask that because the impact to your nervous system can be significant and complex to treat... because some treatments that help some a lot, trigger others. So, finding the right approach can take a bit of effort.

Many people talk out loud to themselves

@PolishBehemoth

4 күн бұрын

many people have mental problems. Straight up.

@resolvetorise

2 күн бұрын

I absolutely agree.

@lisamoag6548

5 сағат бұрын

It is a sign of intelligence. You are reasoning , organizing your thoughts verbally. For example, practicing speaking skills before a speech, or studying for a test , memorizing important facts. This is recommended by teachers and professors to learn new information or practice verbal presentations. Thinking out loud is not an illness. Ridiculous!

I have parts, lots of parts. Over the years dissociation was my way of truly surviving; horrific things. I remember the 1st time I left my body all the pain disappeared and I could see Monster hurting my body. Dissociation is a very honed in skill of ours. A quick, magical escape. But see time is different in a dissociative state. It doesn't move, it doesn't matter, it doesn't give you a "heads-up" either. I'm free from the horrors now. I'm safe and far away. But 27 years of abuse and torture is stored inside me. As if the trauma is every hair on my body! I'm safe, but my body doesn't know safe. My senses don't know safe. My brain doesn't know safe. I'm safe now. -- but I can't help but ask myself.. or my parts, "what the hell is safe?"

@resolvetorise

4 ай бұрын

That is really well said! I think it really captures the nature and function of dissociation. It sounds like you've reconnected some just to be in touch with the question of what safe is!!

@noturbo

Ай бұрын

🫂🫂 i read this just started crying🫂🫂 i understand 🫂🫂 sorry 🫂🫂

@MizrahiChick

5 күн бұрын

I so understand this. I tell myself that safety was always an illusion and to learn to live without it, like being in a very cold place but dressed warmly. I have to be own safety.

@Grombow45

4 күн бұрын

💗🙏💗 For all of us.

@elainstill1671

Күн бұрын

My heart hurts for you and am so sorry terrible things happened to you, please know, we who are stranger's to you really do care and shed tears for you and others who were helpless. 🥺

I have 8 of those symptoms on a regular basis. I'm diagnosed with Depression and CPTSD. I never thought of those things as forms of dissociation. I do feel more grounded and more "myself" when I'm playing my guitars. It's become like a therapy for me. I should probably talk this over with someone. Thanks for the insights.👍

@resolvetorise

18 күн бұрын

That is so great that you found the guitar!! I think music is such a powerful tool for healing!

Once I move from a place or quit a job. I disconnect from everyone and everything. I can literally forget about people, which feels great. I try to never look back😒🤦🏽‍♀️ Unfortunately, other people can’t let go and move on. I keep everyone at a distance because I don’t have time for the nonsense that people indulge in🥴

@sxwrtr918

3 күн бұрын

Similar deal here. Also with exes. I've heard so much from people who are still 'friends' with exes. Why? Truly, I don't get it. It's like keeping a dead plant around. What are they clinging to? Not to mention that subsequent gf/bfs are forced to see/deal with/hear about their old baggage they're still inexplicably lugging around, which is very unfair and disrespectful to the new person. For me, once we are broken up, you simply cease to exist. Over and out, like I never knew you, no matter how long we were together It's very easy.

@resolvetorise

2 күн бұрын

Do you have some people you know who do not indulge in nonsense? Or have you found yourself surrounded by only people you want to move on from period?

@justagirlnamedshawn

Күн бұрын

This is sorta me..I leave people behind after I have left a job. I this is how many friends I have:0.

@resolvetorise

Күн бұрын

@@justagirlnamedshawn One of the recommendations to help heal from C-PTSD is social support and I have heard from many people that is an absolute "no go" for them. Seems like there are many people who experience that.

@justagirlnamedshawn

Күн бұрын

@resolvetorise I think, or at least for myself, I lost trust in people. I am just numb anymore.

i can sit on a plane and stare at the flight tracker the entire time. i should put this super power to good use, maybe make somethinf of myself.

@resolvetorise

4 күн бұрын

If you have enough presence of mind, maybe you could be air traffic control! :)

@PolishBehemoth

4 күн бұрын

you could be a yoga insyructor and have them do the hum in a relaxed pose with the stare at object in the room. Easy money. Every busy yoga instructorni know makes great money. Austin has tons of them.

I’m in awe of this video.

@resolvetorise

8 күн бұрын

Thank you!

Have talked to myself most of my life. Always thought of it as thinking out loud. I am ADD and have an issue with processing. I don't have a conversation with myself. Just work through things in my head outloud. Have spaced out when driving. It usually happened when very stressed out. Also forget things all the time. I also attribute that to my ADD. I am easily distracted. I don'feel dissociative. As a former clinician I have worked with people who have DID and would see severely dissociate. Very differen't from the simple stuff.

@resolvetorise

3 күн бұрын

I agree. Dissociation absolutely varies from mild to severe. The most extreme forms presenting as DID. Also, most people dissociate a bit here and there with no negative impacts to their life.

Yeah, basically all of this. Sent this to friends and family so they can better understand what's happening with us on the day-to-day. Thank you 😊

@resolvetorise

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

Oh, no! I talk to myself all the time! I even have imaginary conversations with other people. They never respond, though. It helps me clarify my own response to conflict and how I could have responded to it differently. Sometimes, it’s hilarious!

@resolvetorise

2 күн бұрын

You seem to be in good company! As dissociation is adaptive, it would so, especially is talking to oneself (out loud)! I'm honestly in awe of how people have used this particular item to cope with some pretty troubling circumstances.

I found this video very helpful. Thank you!

@resolvetorise

18 сағат бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to let me know!

Thank you

Is it wrong to enjoy disassociating? I have no intention of even trying to recover from disassociating unlike how much I'd like to recover from my off the charts anxiety, depression & CPTSD. Except for the clumps of memory losses I find dissociating very pleasant.

@annahgibbus8

6 күн бұрын

I just looked at your list of videos & read your description. I've subbed & looking forward to watching all your videos. Blessings to you & your new channel🤍

@resolvetorise

5 күн бұрын

It is not wrong to want to continue dissociating at all! It is completely understandable! After all it develops as a means of coping with extreme stress and psychological overwhelm. And the anxiety and depression that can come with CPTSD can be extremely disruptive (to say the least). And, I've seen individuals lessen the dissociation before they are able to self-regulate and it can be pretty rough. All that said, it doesn't mean doing things to decrease the fight or flight (hyperarousal) isn't worthy of doing... as that lessens than your need to dissociate does too.

@simpleflight34

3 күн бұрын

I hope this feeling never ends. It's so freeing

@annahgibbus8

3 күн бұрын

@@resolvetorise Thank you that's very good to hear.

I’m unsure if I’m experiencing dissociation or just depression. The typical not being able to bring myself to care about much. Could be a part of getting older. That lack of relevancy they say you get although, I’m pretty content, I’m not being relevant, to the nothing that I see going on nowadays.

@resolvetorise

5 күн бұрын

Not being able to care may or may not indicate you are experiencing depression; however, whether it is depression or dissociation, the fact that you're "pretty content" seems positive.

I call it unravelling. Being half out of body half the time does help the chronic pain tho.

@resolvetorise

4 күн бұрын

"Unravelling"... that's an interesting term and likely very descriptive of your experience. Dissociation is adaptive mechanism that disconnects us from ourselves and our pain for sure. This is why working to lessen it needs to be done in a manner that respects its adaptive function.

@N8_R

4 күн бұрын

@@resolvetorise Yeah if my life were at a point where I could work on it thatd be nice. My situation wont let me heal.

@resolvetorise

4 күн бұрын

@@N8_R I'm sorry to hear that, and I understand. I'm sending you positive vibes. Hope things change for the better.

I can't remember most of my childhood and it had gotten to a point I couldn't make it through a 20 second conversation

@TerraAnn44

Күн бұрын

I have been healing for the last several yrs though so it's so much better

@resolvetorise

18 сағат бұрын

I'm assuming since you mentioned the conversation issue in the past tense, things are improving. Memory loss is all to common when you have a troubling childhood; it's actually adaptive.

@TerraAnn44

18 сағат бұрын

@@resolvetorise yes much better. Thank you.

@resolvetorise

16 сағат бұрын

@@TerraAnn44 I'm so glad!!

Was that list at the beginning a progression in order? Because I deal with random points on that list from all over.

I seem to experience lots of these issues, but never took much notice of it, some days i wont look at myself in a mirror, no idea why ?

@resolvetorise

Күн бұрын

Maybe it's enough for now to be curious.

All of it

@resolvetorise

3 күн бұрын

I get it. Good thing new approaches are emerging everyday that actually help make things better.

Can you get too far and not be able to get yourself back?

@resolvetorise

3 күн бұрын

Dissociation can absolutely become profound and impactful and it can be extremely difficult to get yourself back for sure. I have not experienced a case that was irretrievable. I love brainspotting, heartmath, and other approaches that help to self-regulate to start the journey back to yourself. It should be a slow and thoughtful effort.

@jasonvoorheis1332

Күн бұрын

If you can get that far, why come back?

@janinejohnstone468

Сағат бұрын

@@jasonvoorheis1332 to not be at the mercy of others.

What is the difference between disassociation and a psychotic break? I was put through some pretty severe trauma by a long term partner that didn’t like my new career path.

@resolvetorise

26 күн бұрын

When dissociation is severe it can be hard to differentiate from a psychotic break. That being said, disconnecting to protect yourself from the psychological impacts of trauma when the trauma is severe and repetitive is commonplace. Psychological testing can sometimes help you differentiate, but is somewhat limited.

@michaelgarrow3239

26 күн бұрын

@@resolvetorise - The damage is done. The bad people are gone. I’m trying to get my life back. 🤕

@resolvetorise

25 күн бұрын

@@michaelgarrow3239 Sounds like a worthy focus

@michaelgarrow3239

25 күн бұрын

@@resolvetorise - I have lost millions.

@MizrahiChick

5 күн бұрын

@@michaelgarrow3239 Never give up. We'll find our way back.

All these things aren't grounded in reality for they're reported from people that are susceptible to being irrational after something happened to their body. Notice how I said body rather than "them"? That's a clue for you. Good luck.

Balderdash! Do you know this from experience? If not you do not know.

Oh shit

Ok..ok...Just lock me up.....but you got to find me first...😊🕺🤸‍♀️🏃‍➡️

@resolvetorise

2 күн бұрын

😂

Not sure what's wrong with talking out loud yourself from time to time. The others tho are way too common in me to be normal. *Sigh*

@sunburstrose7860

5 күн бұрын

I don't think the doc said anything about talking out loud to yourself as something wrong. It is a coping strategy. I think the doc was simply informing that this can be a coping strategy that *may* become maladaptive, but isn't necessarily. Talk away! To yourself, I mean. I do. (lol)

@resolvetorise

5 күн бұрын

I would imagine talking to yourself out-loud is one of those things people just sometimes do... not necessarily (on its own) out of the ordinary. Remember, that dissociation is a pretty powerful adaptive mechanism... it's the reason it is so common with complex PTSD... checking out can protect you from the impact of psychological overwhelm.

@MizrahiChick

5 күн бұрын

I am really isolated . I haven't seen a visitor in five years , had a hug since my best friend died in 2019. My health keeps me shut in most of the time , point being , I was beginning to fall into my own mind from days and days of not talking to anyone. I had to devise a method to cope with walls of silence ..so I began to talk out loud, laid on my bed and talked to my best friend now gone, for hours. Prayed out loud, sang songs and it really helped. Let me organise all of it, let me hear a voice, hear myself and helped me survive. I believe there is research on why it helps as a Gestalt type therapy.

@resolvetorise

5 күн бұрын

@@MizrahiChick The way you put that is beautiful and makes so much sense. What an incredible way to cope with so much and find solace in the silence. Thank you for sharing that! It's truly inspiring.

@MizrahiChick

5 күн бұрын

@@resolvetorise Thank you for your kind and understanding words. It has been powerful to do. Many cultures recognise the power fo connecting with our lost ones by speaking it out, It caused pleasant memories to combat the presence of the nightmare. I laughed with my lost friend, remembered all the wonderful , all the magical things she ever said or did, her beautiful soul and it made the grief worth it. It placed me in the prsence of her remarkable love and kindness and made the monsters go away for awhile. Best wishes to all here 💕. Never give up !! #WeCanWeWill.

You need a new camera. 😅

@resolvetorise

2 күн бұрын

I learned I needed to make sure things buffered entirely first... HAHA!! Got to love learning!

Way too much hand movements! Distrscting.

@resolvetorise

5 күн бұрын

Thanks for your feedback. I do tend to move my hands when I speak. :)

@nadineelizabeth195

3 күн бұрын

😂😂

@angelwings7930

2 күн бұрын

@@nadineelizabeth195need a video for that 😂

@nadineelizabeth195

2 күн бұрын

@@angelwings7930 mine are waving all the time 😅

@angelwings7930

2 күн бұрын

@@nadineelizabeth195 I use my hands too.

The video quality is horrible and it's bothersome to look at!

Is one of the signs seeing a poor quality, fuzzy video? 🤔

@resolvetorise

2 күн бұрын

It might be... I cannot confirm or deny that reality. 🤭