Lots of people can bash this lady but it’s the culture that created these kinds of woman. We need to learn and adapt. Love is a sign of weakness in our culture. Doing nice things and saying nice things, some men find that demeaning. But woman, we are soft beings who look for words of affirmation. It’s easy to sway when you’re constantly longing for attention, affection and validation. We need to adapt to the American culture of saying sweet things, celebrating random things and the relationship.. not the typical, I’m with you, that should be enough. Many bad decisions from different people in this story. It’s easy to bash and call her a cheater, but when you are or have been in her shoes, it’s a very lonely world.

@Leea209

5 ай бұрын

Well said! I’m with you on this. Hmong men need to change! lol

Zoo ua kev kawm kawg zaj neej neeg no. Thanks for sharing your story. Hope you find your happiness.

My husband hardly buys me flowers and gifts for my birthday, anniversary, and Valentine's. I don't care much because I know my husband loves and cares for my well-being every day.

@xgolfman

5 ай бұрын

My wife is the same. There were a few times, I sent flowers to my wife on her birthday and our anniversary. When she got home, she told me that money could be used for investments or groceries because she knows that I love her.

Txhob siv lo lus "yuam kev", koj txhob txwm ua. Yuam kev thiab txhob txwm nyias txawv nyias. Yog yus txhob txwm ua, yus txhob muab liam tias yog yuam kev xwb.

@STAR-lk3cl

5 ай бұрын

agree

Sister don’t feel bad is not your fault. I believe everyone wants to be loved and treated special. Nobody wants to be with someone that doesn’t care about your feelings and what you want. Actions speak louder than words. You can’t tell someone you love them, but never bother to do anything they want.

Men or women, I don’t support cheating, but I also do not stand with the “emotionally lazy” partners that doesn’t care to put in efforts to make their partner feel happy… and it’s also frustrating to see people purposely ruin “naive” people, just because they’re not in the best place it doesn’t mean that they deserve to get taken advantage of… it’s all the husband, wife and cheater’s fault

@user-ei9sl8tv8r

5 ай бұрын

Sister i agreed with you. Each partner need to listen to one another needs sometimes

@MissPeachie

5 ай бұрын

Everyone has a different love language. Flowers and gifts are superficial things. Faithfulness and trust are the real deal.

@user-pg9tj9tw5b

5 ай бұрын

Yes, emotionally lazy partners risk their partners to be vulnerable. Yes, it's the theater's fault, but it's still their problem.

@cuayang5827

5 ай бұрын

​@ethankeukeu you got that right. Everyone would love to keep the faithfulness and real love not flowers and gifts they don't last

@mv9073

5 ай бұрын

Perfectly said!

Why you blaming others for being a cheater? You did the deed, now own up to it.

@MissPeachie

5 ай бұрын

Ikr! Narcissists rather blame others than take accountability. It is always someone’s fault, not theirs. 🙄

@cindyvang9215

4 ай бұрын

It's like why blame the bully when the person committed suicide themselves? That's right, because the bully played a huge factor and impact on the person to the point where they mistakenly think death is the only solution.

Many men do not show love even they loved some one. However, I do not encourage to do 100%, but we (men) needed to update ourselves a little bit into the 21st century.

Tus me viv ncaus txhob tu siab os mog..txawm luag tej yuav tuaj sau hais phem li cas los txhob quav ntsej txog lawv tej lus os..peb ua neeg nyob ces leejtwg tsis rau yus sab khau ces yeej tsis paub es thiaj zoo hais zoo cem yus xwb..kuv twb raug ib tug txiv neej muaj pojniam dag kuv ib zaug kuv ris siab hlo txiav txim siab nyob ib leeg li no lawm xwb ho tsis nrhiav tsis tham lwm haiv neeg..nyob ib leeg kajsiab dua os..sim neej no cov txiv neej muaj pojniam lawv tsuas xav ua hlua tham thiab siv xwb yuav kom lawv yuav yus ces lawv yeej tsis kam no os mog..es qhov zoo ces cia puas ib zaug kawm cauv ib zaug xwb es nyob ib leeg thiaj tsis mob siab thiab raug lwm tus tsim txom yus lub siab lub ntsws no os.

You will never find happiness if you can’t appreciate what you already have.

@Hlubkoj.69

5 ай бұрын

Yes. That kinda of love she long for doesn't last its only good when it's new but when old is worst then what she already have, it not just her husband it her too, she never loved her husband at the beginning she married him only for a reason not for him and him only

We are in control of our own decisions. We should just blame ourselves for our own mistakes. If you're not happy in your marriage, just leave.

Lub neej nrog cov niag txiv 75 thiab xav txog nws tus kheej xwb mas dhuav siab tshaj plaws os! Yus nyob yus tsis need txiv os sister aws nyob li ko tau kev hlub thiab kev ywj siab tsis need txiv neej hmoob lawm os! 😊

Do you know why the man you cheated with did not want to marry you after you divorced your husband? Because you’re a cheater and you will cheat again and again. Well, it’s true like what my friend said. You just keep buy food and drinks and then you get into her skirt.

Congratulations! I hope you find happiness by changing the way you used to think.

Thanks for sharing your story. I don't blame you for what you've done. So proud of you for your honesty.

Karma is going to hit hard for this woman 😂

It’s ok nobody pay to bills. Do what makes u happy.

Txaj muag Txaj muag....,qhov tseeb koj yeej yog neeg yooj yim. Koj lub siab ib txwm ntshaw rwg seb hnub twg thiaj mam li ntsib tau ib tug sab nrauv los ntev lawm.😢😮

I think your problem is you’re just not satisfied. Until you’re satisfied you wont be happy.

Wow! Everyone who cheats should have been like you, get double crossed!

This is how infidelity starts.., just because he gave you flowers or tells you what you wanted to hear, peb ib txhia pojniam mas ruam tiag..tiag, He did not love you from the beginning he just wanted to used you.

You can’t blamed the other married man you cheated with. It’s your fault knowing that you’re both married and still cheated on your spouses. It takes two to tangled.

@MissPeachie

5 ай бұрын

Agreed. I guess he just landed on top of her and made her divorce her husband 🙄

Sometimes, it's better to be alone. You already know how it's gonna be with your ex...boring and no love, unhappy. Why bother.

Pojniam yeej ntshaw kev hlub os… I don’t support cheating either but if that’s what it takes to leave the current situation… it is what it is!

@solomoua5520

5 ай бұрын

What happiness you need when you have a husband that doesn’t cheat and provide for the family and love u but doesn’t know those little small things as buying you flowers on valentine,birthday and take you out 😂 This lady 🤦🏻‍♂️

Wow. May vang! You created a character that belongs to the streets 😅

Kv tau mloog kj zaj neej neeg no yog ib zaj ua txhua yam kj hais puas leej yog qhov tseeb tag nrho raug siab heev li

I understand, My man use to give me flowers and gift for birthday , Christmas etc but now he got lazy and don’t do it anymore but I understand, he already gotten me stuff at times so I’m ok but sometimes it would be nice to feel special and appreciated 🤷🏻‍♀️..

Koj npam lawm os nkauj hmoob. Koj tus hluas nraug Mekas ko tsis yuav koj. Pab koj tu siab.

Peb poj niam g ntshaws tu txiv zoo nraug tab g ntxhaws tu txiv hlub hlub yus thiab txawj txawj hai lus thiaj txawj2 coj xwb mog….. faj rau txiv neej coj mu xav nawb

Tsau siab hais neej neeg rau peb mloog, peb tos tos koj txhua nub os . Peb hlub koj os .

Poj nrauj txoj hauv kev thaum pib yeej zoo li no ntag nawb lawv aw...

Good for u

Well, it really takes two to tango! Unless he uses black magic or some kind to make you love him! But in most situations, everyone wants to feel loved, special, protected! Some people will never understand until they’re in your shoe!

We all make mistakes but some people never learned.

Viv ncaus peb ua neeg ces u ntshaw yam twg yam ntawv yuav los rhuav tsem u txij hnub no mus khaws cia ua ib txoj kev kawm txhob ua ntxiv lawm xwb nco ntsoov tias nyiaj los txhob ntshaw yog ntshaw nyiaj los nyiaj yeej yuav rhuav koj lub neej lub siab ib yam thiab kom koj nco ntsoov tias ua neeg nyob thov kom ntshaw txoj kev noj qab nyob zoo lawm xwb u noj qab nyob zoo txhua yam u ntshaw yuav tsum tau xwb li os viv ncaus txawm yuam kev lawm los tsis ua cas peb ua neeg yeej txawj yuam kev u yuam kev yog ib txoj kev kawm xwb os .

You are too naive and got played. What’s mind boggling is how you could carried on a relationship with him for 5 years while stayed married to your ex-husband. This takes a shameless, cruel and evil person.

@maryly09

5 ай бұрын

If a person could sleep at night knowing in her heart that she's cheating on her husband, that's evil.

Life is short! Your husband sometimes is not your true love! your cheater guy is the one but he is not love you he just plays around . Sad! sometimes you don't get what you want but it's ok just let the player go . Feel you how difficult to forget the one you're truly love😊

Hmong ces tsuas paub cem Xwb lawv tsis them yus nqe vaj nqe tsev os , lawv tsis Saib los yog tus yus thaum yus muaj mob nkeeg.. so don’t let those evil talked discouraged your future and happiness. Seek God and ask for guidance and forgiveness Good luck to you sister.

You fucked up by cheating but your ex also fucked up by not putting any effort in you. Marriage is about work. You have to put work into your marriage in order for it to last.

Yog kawg . Lub neej tog qws yuav tau ib tug txiv nyob li tug tog qws ces ua rau yus tag tag Kev cia siab li os lawv. Thaum cem yus tes txawj txawj muab lo lus phem Los cem yus tabsis li lus zoo zoo no tes ho tsi txawj hais tàu ib tug txiv zoo li no tu siab tshàj li os.

Life for us to learn Move on love ur self

When u dont get what u want, be a niam dev and and niam tsev. I dont know why we gottta ask for permission to do anything or go out. If u know its a nice way to love someone, y not so do it. Wait til the end, it will b too late. If its yheir bday, buy them a gift or take them out to eat.

Jev yuam.kev thiaj ya rau kawm thiab paub tab.

You got good things keep it

Lub neej uas yuam kev ces vim yog ntshaw ua lub hnub yug los yog ntshaw rev paj xwb tiag.hos kuv tsis ntshaw paj thiab lub 🍰 li os kuv tsuas ntshaw lo lus zoo thiab ncaj ncees xwb.

Wow, I want to meet you too!

Koj txhob ua li tsam neeg ntxub koj ces neeg g caum koj mloog koj cov dab neeg lawm nawb

He didn’t want you because you are a cheater just like him. Unfaithful people won’t last together because your heart is always straying. People like you should stay single because your heart will never be loyal to one person.

@maryly09

5 ай бұрын

Agreed. Most cheaters don't stay together bc they are both alike, just want to play around. But she's the fool she thinks he'll love her for real.

Sin usually all comes down to selfishness. Self love; Loving yourself only and instead of others.

If your spouse doesn’t love you unconditionally then leave him/her. But be careful for who you going with and be sure they are going to marry you.

Txhob tu siab os sister. Tib neeg ntiaj teb lawv tsis nyob koj qhov chaw, lawv tsis rau koj txhais khau, lawv yeej tsis paub koj txoj kev nkag siab ntawm koj os. Peb yug los ua neeg ib zaug xwb. Xaiv kev kaj siab taug zoo dua nyob tsaus ntuj nti rau ib lub neej. Nyob lub neej tsis sib haum xeeb mas meem txom siab ntsws thiab laj2 ua neej mus txog hnub laus. Txhob quav ntsej lawv tej lus cem koj os. Txiv neej hmoob yeej tsis txawj hlub poj niam. Mus ua neej nrog lwm haiv neeg zoo dua.

Maum dev liam os haha.. Thaum kawg yuav tsis muaj chaw tuag. Dej nrov yuav tsis tau dej haus 😅

Pog cob tsib

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lol, another case of, “Too good to be true.” Words from a stranger and here these women fell head over heels. Better learn Hmong women, just because he doesn’t buy, doesn’t mean he doesn’t love or more and more will be like this lady.

Txob tsawm tub tsis hlub yus lawm txob khuv xim lawm yuav tsum zoo siab qhov nw tsis yuav koj yog nw yuav koj tsej zaum koj tseem yuav siab tsaj kov thiab twb yog koj tseem muaj moo es nw thiaj tsi yuav koj os tus niam lau

Niam ntsuab teev koj twb yog ib tug neeg es sawv daws ib txwm caum koj mloog koj tej neej neeg dab neeg es cas koj mus ua tej yam g zoo tsam neeg g caum koj lawm os yus yog ib tug neeg nte thiab neeg nyiam yus es txhob ua li tsam lawv tua koj ob tug nawb

Tus tswv ntawm zaj neej neeg no na. kuv yog ib tug txiv neej tsis zoo nraug li koj hais ntag. Ua zoo xav nawb lub ntiaj teb vam vam meej lawm tiag, tiam sis xav rau peb tsob hmoo seb koj puas yog tus neeg muaj kev vam meej mog Tag los ntawd koj twb mus pom koj tus hluas nraug koj twb tu tu siab es cas koj tsis hloov koj tus kheej na , ua li peb txiv hlob nais phoo vaj pov hais koj xav noj lub txiv puag saum ntsis, los yog koj xav nyob lub tsev zoo zoo siab siab koj tsis ntshai tsam ib hnub koj poob tsev xwb lauv. Ua zoo xav es txhob tu siab rau kuv cov lus nawb.

Thaum tsis tau yuav ces lom zem xwb, you both just enjoyed that thrill of sneaking behind your spouse's back. Is it worth it? If you don't get flowers and gift but he does other things for you like fix your car, cuts the grass, fix broken things around the house, go to work then that should be enough.

😂😂😂 cov neeg ruam hlwb tsawg, lawv xav nrog koj pw xwb koj cav qhuas hais tias luag zoo thiab txawj hais hais lus tshaj koj tus txiv no ? Koj thiab nws noj mov cuav zos ces thiaj qab tshaj xwb ! Luag tus poj niam yog luag lub neej koj pom dab lospob zaum no na pos txaus ntshai thiab. 😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤

Poj niam yees loj

Yog lawm kuv los muaj lub neej zoo li koj lub thiab ntse tu siab dhau lawm ces ntse yuav mus thiab lau ua cas koj txoj dab neeg es yuav raug kuv ua luaj li os

Wowow good job 👏🏻 thov qhuas koj nawb koj ua tau zoo heev congratulations 🎊🍾🎈 to you wow Lwm haiv lawm thiab wow good luck to you no more cheating ok. He rich ok don’t be gold. Digger

Desperate woman that seek love and attention will eventually cheat.. vice versa as well end of story..

Cheaters are losers. When someone try to get you fire, they will give you all kinds of sugars, candies and flowers. After all those mean nothing. Your cup is still very empty, ntshe nraub qab ke lawm xwb os.

Txhob vwm rau txiv neej txoj kev hais lus qab zib os. luag xav siv yus thiab rhuav yus lub neej xwb.

All I hear are excuses as to why she cheated. However, I am that guy, who buys flowers for all occasions and have date nights with the wife. Celebrating the little things means a lot to your significant other.

Wuag yog txiv neej hais li ntawd rau yus mas ntxub kom tuag kiag tsis xav ntsib qhov twg kiag li os tus mi viv ncaus aw 😡

Peb ua neeg nyob peb tsuas ntshaw Tus txiv txhob ua hluas txhob haus cawv txhob quav yeeb txhob twv txiaj yuam pov xwb ces peb yeej zoo siab lawm tsuav yus Tus txiv rau2 siab nrog yus khwv xwb hos tej niag paj birthday xwb ces tsis muaj Lauj li os

Koj ua neej hauv ob ceg xwb ces pab tsis tau!

Cov pojniam zooli koj ces av tsis lim ces yeej yuav ua kev plees kom txog hnub ncaim ntiajteb mus. Tus txivneej twg yuav koj ces hmoov tag lawm.

Tus poj niam nos yog poj niam yees loj xwb xav Tau ntau

This woman wants to be treated like a princess. She wants a man who not only does everything for her but also needs to be rich AND handsome. She can't get all 3 in a man so she settled for an old, rich White man. He has it all, even handsome but just old. This fits the definition of a sugar daddy.

Hit and run.... effed up ur life..

cov poj niam coj li koj ces tsis yog yuam tab sis huam phev xwb

@yerthor4207

5 ай бұрын

Tsi Yog li Koj hai os Koj yeej Yog ib tug poj coj Tsi zoo Xwb os sawv daw nco ntsoov hai tia tu neeg twg txawj2 hai zoo2 hlub2 paub2 cov poj niam ntshaw2 ntau li Koj ko ce cov siab phem2 Ua zoo ce zoo2 Ua phem ce phem2 neeg tuag tau no nawb mog txawm Yog pheej hai yooj yim li ko es thiaj Tsi muaj neeg ua thiaj Ua ntaub si taw rau txua txiv neej Xwb lau txhob xav tia kho tau zoo2 nkauj ce zoo2 siab no mog lam zoo nraum daim tawv rau tib neeg pom Xwb hauv Koj lub siab thiab nruab nrog cev tseem phem thiab gia neeg tsaj yam khoom Ua neeg noj Tsi tau os nw ntxeev siab rau nw tu niam tsev thiaj tau txai txoj kev Tsi thaj yeeb Koj lo tib yam thiab tej yam me2 lo Lu zoo thiab hnub yug Xwb nim yuav Ua li Tsi tau ce yuav tuag Koj tseem ruam tsaj tu ruam2 lawm thiab os ghov no Yog Koj siab phem txhob txwm Ua said Tsi tau Koj niam Koj txiv tu muab txoj sia rau Koj Xwb Koj zoo2 Koj siab tab si niam thiab txiv Tu siab thiab txaj muag nyob hauv lub ntiaj teb no txog ntua hauv dab teb tia yug yuam kev tau ib ntxhai Tsi tsim txiaj li Koj ko lo ma ca tseem yuav muab lub ge tuaj ntuav Kom saw daw puab tia Yog Koj thiab na lo

Pojniam ces ntseeg tej lus dag lus ntxias. Ntuj aw. Yus ua yus lub neej puas tag es cas ho tias tim tus hluas nraug nas. Vwm tiag li os

peb pom niam txob tsaw tsaw ke hlub tiaj tsis yuam ke peb cov txiv neej moob ib txhawm yeej tsis paub ke hlub na

I understand her situation because people never wear your shoes they don’t know how much you’re trying to the point that your relationship isn’t healthy anymore do what going to help you service and happiness!!!!

Ham tsis yog maum dev co2 tw thiab los mas. Nws yog tus pib los koj twb yog tus ok thiab

Yus tus txiv tsis txawj ua zoo rau tus los twb tsis txawj ua phem thiab.cov poj niam zoo li Nov ces ruam dhau lawm leej twg dag los yeej tau.

Txhua yam tim ko xwb cov poj niam es ntseeg Luag tej txiv na,

Poj Niam siab dev tseem muaj jej muag coj tuaj hais thiab. Qias neeg tshaj plaws khaus ces khawb xwb ma. Tsis mloog222. Me os me tsum tau lawm txhob hais22 tej neej neeg dev liam Txwv no tau lawm nawb

Koj puas nrhiav tau ib tug neeg twg nyob hauv nriaj teb no ruam ruam thiab ua neej muaj muaj? Koj nriav tsis tau 2 tug, 1 tug xwb twb tsis muaj rau koj nrhiav vim tus neeg ruam ib txwm siv tswv yim yuam ua neej ces nws thiaj pluag dua tus neeg ntse. Tus niam tsev no ruam siv tswv yim yuam ua neej ces nws thiaj ntseeg lwm tus txiv neej ntxias nws lub neej puas.

Sounds like you like being a hand around. It is cool that is your style.

Idk why you get jealous when he still have a wife? What will his wife felt like then? Think before you act..

Tus poj niam yeej ntshaw kev hlub koj txiv tsis hlub koj tus txiv hlub koj tsi t'as tiag

Lub tswv yim ntxias yus lub cev siv ces nrhiav tag nrho yam zoo tej lus zoo los ua thiab hais zoo tib yam cov ntxhais hluas qhib lub cev rau cov laus saib es tau nyiaj

Koj ces yog ib tug neeg rua xwb. Luag tsi yuav koj ib zaug Li os. Luag siv koj xwb. Thaum koj tsi muaj qhi rau luag lawm ces muab koj thiab tawm xwb os. Koj lub neej yuav tsi muaj ncaw xawg tsua thaum koj laug.

Hnub twg yog av tsis npog koj ces koj yeej dhia tsis dhau txoj kev ua neeg zoo lawm os poj nrauj aws

I don’t understand some Hmong men. All the wife is just asking for a dinner on her birthday and some romantic walk together. The husband deserves what he gets. 👏for the wife.

Poj niam zoo li tus no siab phem heev thiab nws lub siab yog siab dev xwb

Mloog koj zaj neejneeg ces koj ua maum dev co tw lawm los mas. Koj hlub koj tus txiv, ua cas nws tsis ua birthday rau koj xwb koj cia li hloov siab.. koj paub zoo tias koj tabtom raug dag rau ntxias los koj nkag tib qees rau txij kev dag. Thaum koj twb yuav hloov siab lawm koj thiaj los pom koj tus txiv tsis zoo. Koj thiaj los sim seb nws hlub koj. Paub zoo txawm koj tus txiv ua tau qhov koj ntshaw los koj yeej yuav khiav qees hos. Hos Nws tsis kam ua li qhov koj ntshaw los koj yeej yuav khiav ibyam.. koj saib tej kev ntawd muaj nqis dua koj kev niamtxiv ib txhis raug ne... pojniam txiv neej ces thaum yuav khiav ces yeej ua ib yam nkaus.. phej pom yus tus tsis zoo npaum tus nraud...

Yus tsoo yus lub qe tsim nyog kawg !!! Tus ruam thiab tus ntse sib txawv deb txhob tos.

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Cheating is never the answer

Kuv dhuav that plaws ces yog cov cov neeg uas pheej Sim said yus tus txiv Los yog tus poj niam puas hlub yus tiag lub hlwb ruam2 no Mas kuv dhuav tiag2 li os

Sister you understand men it different..

Yes just like you. Your expectations too high you will now get it. Be careful what you want it might not be the one you want.

Wow txhob ntseeg ntseeg txiv neej nawb tsam yus lub neej puas tas li tus sister no os.

Player got played 😂😂 pog ruam aw lub qab zib thiab tau koj lub p10 mos