This week's theme was just what I needed. And perfect timing😅 it came out just as I was about to start my walk. I love your podcasts

@progressivedragon6664

Жыл бұрын

Same!!

Timestamps! 0:48 1. Why do I think that I am a bad person, and how do I stop hating myself? Whenever anything remotely bad happens or I "inconvenience" someone the slightest bit (ex. "taking" a doctor's time during my appointment, telling my boss I can't come into work because I am sick, someone giving me a gift, someone holding a door open for me) my brain starts the mantra of... 10:15 2. Hi Kati, could you talk about how childhood trauma and ptsd can affect brain structure/function? (COMMENT: Can trauma also result in other mental health disorders like anxiety disorders or eating disorders instead of PTSD? // To add to this, can you talk about how childhood trauma can affect the parents of... 21:14 3. I have a really hard time opening up to other people and accepting help. I have worked through old memories and realized I didn't get proper emotional care as a child. I was mostly ignored and left alone with all emotional struggles i faced growing up. As a result I now don't feel worthy to be considered with my emotions. Today i am in a way better spot in life. I have two... 31:12 4. I was at your inner child workshop and it was very helpful. I want to create a trauma timeline like you suggested, but I am wondering if you happen to have any visuals for what a trauma timeline could look like? I’m a visual learner and I’m having trouble figuring out how to... 38:27 5. How to get out of a freeze response if grounding techniques don’t work? I’ve been sexually abused as a child & S. assaulted once as a teenager and that's when it started. I want to process what I’ve been through but it’s hard since I’m still stuck in that freeze response and don’t... 52:11 6. How can you tell the difference between an anxiety disorder, and something like CPTSD? What symptoms would you look out for to differentiate the two? I definitely have social anxiety and have had this since childhood, but I’ve also experienced childhood trauma... 1:02:14 7. I was abandoned by my therapist back in November. Everything had seemed good, I had been with her for a year and a half. I went into crisis and hospitalized myself, at which point she completely cut off contact. I have struggled ever since, I have tried working with 7 different therapists in the past 9 months or so... 1:12:43 8. How do you deal with a sick or dying abusive parent? I started grieving a few years ago when I realized my father won’t change, he said “he was always like this and he is too old to change”, but seeing him sick now make me sad and at the same time I feel relief...

@nikkimckay860

Жыл бұрын

Anniekate76. As always so helpful with the timestamps always appreciated 🙂

@wanderingbelleasmr1054

2 ай бұрын

Thanks!!

The tampon analogy! So funny to me. I had a hysterectomy back in 2019, so any time someone says something related to a period I think oh yeah, I used to have that. 😂 I can say one thing I don’t have PMS anymore and that is beautiful.

@gwen3822

Жыл бұрын

hi! I'm just curious, I'm considering getting one and I've been wondering if that affects one's sex life in any kind of way?

I find that getting my hands in dirt, making a planter , replanting a plant helps my soul.

The looking up thing helps me! I didn't even know it was a science thing, I just do it naturally when I get stressed and it helps! I realize now that I did it as a child too, crazy!

@dr.ginamosergolub

Жыл бұрын

Can you explain in more detail ? Thanks. I have PTSD.!

@dr.ginamosergolub

Жыл бұрын

What exactly do you do?

@MzElaineMarie

11 ай бұрын

I think you might be referring to the brain's tendency to compensate for HPA injury.

Happy Thursday Kati and viewers!🤗

I have been trying to reach out to people who have been though hell. The short version of my life is I went through hell for the first twelve years of my life. And the next fourty two years trying to climb out. Thank you for the video's

I think I understand this first question as I tend to get this (& have low self esteem which I thought I’d recovered from years ago).

Def agree with grounding needing to be what works for you. My therapist tried so many with me but the only one that works is her putting music on and then asking me what song is playing. It completely moves my focus to the song and thinking about it and the artist.

This really explained much of my behaviour. I have done a lot of EMDR which has done wonders for me and am on an anti depressant that works for me. I still failed (or passes, depending on your outlook) a phsyciatric review that could have given me an almost living wage. Now I’ve got nothing and am living off my partner.

Comment on I am a bad person question; I have been through therapy for Trauma, but I often feel like I am a bad person. One thing I did was get a jar and every night for a while I would write down one reason I was good that day and put it in the jar. When I needed it I could read through them. It kind of helped me reframe that I am a bad person thought to something more positive.

What’s the opposite of people pleasing? What’s hurting the people that don’t deserve it, and people you can’t help but don’t think you deserve?

Wow… i can really relate to even just the first 2 minutes of this vid.

I found one article about the eye movement and dissociation but it seems that there is really not much out there. The name of the article is „Peritraumatic dissociation revisited: associations with autonomic activation, facial movements, staring, and intrusion formation“ The important part: „Peritraumatic dissociation and staring In concordance with theoretical models, therapists anecdotally report staring in acutely dissociating patients (Kozlowska et al., 2015). Moreover, when healthy participants had to visually follow a moving red circle, higher overall dissociative symptoms tended to be linked to less eye-movements (Cardeña, Nordhjem, Marcusson-Clavertz, & Holmqvist, 2017). Indirect evidence also comes from experimental stu- dies (Holmes, Brewin, & Hennessy, 2004; Lickel, Nelson, Lickel, & Deacon, 2008): Participants who intensely stared at a dot experienced higher state dis- sociation than control groups, which might even indi- cate a causal relationship between staring and dissociation. Altogether, clinical observations and related studies suggest a link between peritraumatic dissociation and staring. Yet, direct empirical evidence is lacking“

Good evening everyone how s everyone been doing today hope your weeks been manageable I am here spreading surpport care and advice to anyone who needs it ❤️❤️

Thank you so much.

During your story about the brain and ptsd, it made me wonder if it would useful to do some sort of brain scan to decide the severity of the trauma, or to better diagnose it. It took me years of therapy before I got the diagnose “cptsd”.

@aj32384

Жыл бұрын

I was recently evaluated by a neurologist at the Cleveland Clinic for cognitive impairments that I felt might be unrelated to my psychiatric diagnoses. She spent over an hour discussing my condition and what testing, if any, would be useful - NOTE: Everyone is different - a neurologist's recommendations are patient-specific. Anyway, I asked her whether a positron-emission tomography (PET) scan would be useful - PET scans are usually the kinds of scans researchers perform when they're looking for brain changes in mental illness. She explained that it would definitely pick up changes in the brain, but that information wouldn't be helpful. she didn't explain beyond that, but from previous readings, PET scans just aren't useful for diagnosing mental illness or deciding on treatment - so that's why they're seldom used outside of research.

Great podcast there were many moments I paused to video to really reflect on your thoughts and advice.

There has to be some acceptance that understanding situations/experiences and using coping skills is a balancing, multiple skill use and in the beginning is a little wonky to bring all that together. When we are making changes to care for ourselves we have to build a foundation n add things, so 1st step might be bridge statements then other things. This was all new to a lot of us, keep going, take your time....

Thank you so much for the visual example of the trauma timeline! I've started working on a digital version of what you drew so I can edit it along the way❤

So, am I so different then? I remember most things from I was a baby, in details and I tested it on my parents and aunt and grandparents. I can tell where everything from memory was in our house between I was born and five years old when we moved from there. I remember many, many things from the troller since I was born and can pinpoint what I saw, what I heard for kind of sounds, my parents emotions in the face. as well as later when I was able to sit and walk and understand words, when I was two and my father and grand father began putting me on skies and held me between their legs going downhill or when my grand dag and I built a ski Vasa race with track to follow for cross country skiing and small snow hills in the garden going up and down as well as memories later when I started ballet at five. as well as much , much earlier memories when I sleet outside as a small baby in the troller on the outside of the house and lied and looked up on the big tree that blow in the wind and how I wanted and studied the leaves and the moon, and heard the sound of the thick stone grain on the parking lot when my parents came and went to check in on me as well when my father took me in the golden coloured Volvo and drove around the block many times to make me fall asleep and I lied in my baby troller top in the back seat watching the houses, the lamp posts passing by until I recognised the same lamp post lights coming bak nxt block and next and heard the same sounds when my father turned the car and the engine speed up and slow down until I fell asleep which was the point of the trip at those nights and worked very well to make me comfortable to fall asleep when in a car and hearing the car engine and seeing the houses and lights outside the car. I was just a few months, but is super clear in my mind, even how the internet of the wagon top felt to the skin, the cotton blanket with fishbone stitches in blue on a white blanket. I liked biting in to it. I remember the details of the kitchen we are in every day and when I sat as a two-three year old getting food from my father watching the robin singing in the tree outside the window and how I told my father , lookie birdie lad then swallowed food and turned my head back and forth between the bird in the tree and the food coming in on the spoon. and the excitement I felt when the bird moved around on the stick and wanted to keep seeing it before it flow away. I also remember my first best friend when I was 2 years old, a little girl adopted from Thailand how we played and played , held hands and walked around all over the kindergarten and how adults, kindergarten teachers smiled to us and pointed at us and liked we were like ying and yang, I had totally curly golden hair like a huge ball on my head and she from Thailand had silk black long hair and smelled really good. I even remember an instant where they put is in a swing in one of the play rooms and put her towards me face to face and we swung back and forth while she sat on top of my lap in the swing and I had my first erection and I was not more than 2-4 years old. and I got very excited what was going on with my body. and it was very innocent and in the moment, but is clear in my memory. Honestly everything is clear to me, both these kind of things but also traumatic things as when I was only 3 months old and my mother was holding me in her arms in the kitchen and my father began to argue with her and then kicked her down on the thigh with a hard karate kick and we fell together to the floor and I remember my mother's pain and I remember watching from under the table on the inside of the room when my father's feet walked around and out of the room and left us on the floor. I remember his violence as well. I also remember when I was four an my psycopathic and narcissistic father treated me like shit and pushed me too far and I took a chair in my room as I was told to stay in my room and I smashed the my own aquaria in my room and all the fishes ran out with hundred liter of water on the floor and out on the smal balcony and down in the tulip flowerbed down below the house. and how mother came in and helped me to save all my fishes and I was shocked how they could not breath on the flow and how they ran down the flood of the water out of the balcony and down the tulip floor bed on the outside of the house, and how we found small fishes there and ran downstairs and had a bucket with water and my mom trie to save those we could. I can tell you thousands of instances both normal days, special situations , bad traumatic abuse, and what the house looked like on every floor, where things were locked like the odd bathtub in the basement that was connected directly to water heater in the 1970s and how it made a jump and a sound when the heat went up and I reconizwed it as funny and told my mom, is ready!! and laughed. So, this thing that we cannot remember our lives, I do not buy it at all! I even remember much earlier things as well, but won't write them as they would put people here off from believing in me... but I tested all I remember on my parents, I drew up the whole house and where everything was placed and could pinpoint everything and my parents were shocked I could remember it all so well. but there it is, reality is people do remember their lives !

I have personally seen people who have had trauma in the past who don't have ptsd or cptsd but have other mental health issues due to there trauma, and often trauma is what causes learning and intellectual disabilitys also.

If your mind just wont shut up I recommend this "song". I dont have ADHD but it helps me so much to just get a break from my brain sometimes. Maybe this helps some of you! Its called "Cure for ADHD - 30 min of Breakcore!"

@nikkimckay860

Жыл бұрын

Natasha jaromor. Hello how have you been

@natascha_mephisto

Жыл бұрын

@@nikkimckay860 it has been really difficult these last few weeks but I have a flat now and will soon live with my best friend!^^ How about you?

Love this Ask Kati Anything (!). Thank you so much. One observation / suggestion: when you frequently -- seemingly reflexively -- say "Dos that make sense?" as a verbal rhetorical marker for wrapping up a section or topic, in this format I experienced it as a little jarring. Maybe because your content is coming to us in one direction, in this moment

@10144viewer

Жыл бұрын

If no one else has mentioned this "maybe it's just me." I love that your level headed humility is so foundational. Even saying "Let me know if that doesn't make sense in those comments" might make a difference? Just mean that as a suggestion. Overall this is such helpful content!! So much appreciation.

AKA & OTDM. Good evening Kati looking nice in that pink top ready to watch and listen to your soft calming voice and everyone s questions and your answer s I'm still struggling still waiting for a phone call or letter for my start date for therapy iv had a lot of bad days ❤️

14:50- what if after a traumatic memory recollection or just after being in that stressful stimuli....makes you want to sleep. Like makes repeat "I need sleep" till you fall asleep.

Yes of course you can be traumatized just by hearing about a loved 1 going through something traumatic, on top of all the trauma I went through myself like being abused and neglected, there are some things that I heard about that sort of traumatized me, like here are some examples my grandmother on my dad's side died in a car accident, and that incident happening is 1 of the reasons why I never have drove myself, and that happened before I was even born, another incident that happened to my sibling was once attacked by a German Shepard and I wasn't even there either, but because of that I was afraid of German Shepards, I wasn't afraid of dogs except for just German Sheppard for a while, so yes you can be traumatized by an event that you simply just heard about.

Time stamps anyone 👀

@anniekate76

Жыл бұрын

on it, see my other comment :)

Haha. I have the fastest fingers. First view and first like 👍

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

Avoid processed foods and eat mostly organic 😋

About looking up. Andrew Huberman has a fair amount of research. This might not be exactly the video but it’s in the kzread.info/dash/bejne/mZ6Kj7urmJrTqM4.html