This is something I'm currently learning to do. I've fought and fought and fought. Trying to get people to understand. Then today I read the parables in Matthew 13. I'm working on walking away in love. I'm already feeling a change.

What a powerful message. Our greatest victory may be when we walk away from certain toxic people whom we think we can’t live without

This just saved my physical, emotional and spiritual life.

@nataliecortez7091

Жыл бұрын

Me too! Thank you Jesus for helping me! I felt like I was gonna lose my mind!God u are sooo good!

Churches need to learn about this. These toxic people are everywhere, even within the church.

It is even more challenging when having to deal with toxic siblings and codependent parents who enable them due to decades of guilt and dysfunctionality.

@alisanina

2 ай бұрын

Yes!

@DrLuke49

2 ай бұрын

@@alisanina 💯*PREACH*

We need more preachers to preach on this thank you

Facccts....its your health....learn when to walk away indeed. God will take care of you ❤❤🙏💯....its not learning how to get along....its not about adapting. Sometimes leaving is your healing❤ Do not give your pearls to swine...was the highlight for me. Thank you. God bless you all

@crystalclark2927

3 жыл бұрын

Walking away is not failure

@kelllygardnerrr

3 жыл бұрын

@@crystalclark2927 This is so true I cut out my grandma because she was to toxic and so evil she nice in front of me but in the back she not I try to communicate her I pray for her to changes but God want me to walk away he knows he was watching her how she behave she talk bad about my mom and my dad she just a horrible person she always compare to me and my cousin I don’t even know what to say but I cut her out I keep praying for her change but she still act the same I try to bond but she never spent time with me and she never visit me I’m so thankful God watch her behavior I walk out her life.

Wow I wish I heard this 10 years ago.

@laurajean1691

4 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@karoblee

4 жыл бұрын

Same.

@charitycox8303

3 жыл бұрын

Know your pain; thanks and praise be to Jesus for the gain (of information in this case)! But I am very sorry for pain: I'm saying a prayer asking Jesus to help you two.

@heavenbound7777

3 жыл бұрын

Me too.

@janesmith1862

3 жыл бұрын

Me too... Would have saved me and my kids a lot of pain and heartache.

Thank you so much for this, I would have hoped I found this sooner but I believe God had me go through things to make me learn. The reason I say this is because my first marriage we had four kids together and he was abusive, I would pray for him all the time because I didn't want to be separated due to coming from a divorced mom and dad but one day I was listening to a Preacher on the radio and he was talking about everyone has free will so if my husband didn't have the will to want to change God wasn't going to go against his will. Well, my second marriage he started being controlling and wanted to consume all my time being on the phone constantly and always wanted me to do everything he wanted but never asked me what I wanted and he also started threatening to hurt me, I always worked and would be independent but he talked me into being home and he would work. I had a job as a truck driver but my back had started hurting me so he told me to come home and he would help me get the surgery I needed but that was the worst mistake ever because he started being even more controlling and threatening to the point I was praying for God to protect me because I really thought he was going to hurt me or kill me but God protected me and my husband started putting all my stuff in the car and told me to leave never to come back. I drove 350 miles to my home I had before marriage where my mother and two kids that were in College were staying. I have been going through a lot because four days before my back surgery my house burned down but I thank God that I have family that has put us up while going through the whole thing and I am going through physical therapy to go back to my job that thankfully I never quit but I am saying all of this because through all my hurt and pain I am now going to be able to get back on my feet and share with others who are hurting and going through these things 🙏🏼❤

What a powerful truth!! Thank you Pastor Gary for reinforcing my conviction of walking away from toxic people (in this case - my abusive parents) so as to be able to function in the fruitfulness of the Holy Spirit. It was tough because in the Christian world there is a misconception that no matter how your parents treat you or rather mistreat you, you are to honour them. My question was HOW do you honour someone who was so horrifically abusive? I spent years feeling guilty not being able to do what I felt was the right thing to do - walk away and set boundaries. God healed me, I walked away and I heard this message. Confirmation!! 😀💖 My prayer is that ALL those children who have been abused by their parents come across this message.

@ruthvansandt9713

3 жыл бұрын

This one just did. :) I think both honor and forgiveness don’t require reconciliation or close contact. Sometimes the most honoring thing is to speak the truth (in love) and require accountability. Maybe they’ll wake up one day. Maybe not, but that’s their choice.

@Estiexo

Жыл бұрын

How did you walk away?

@MJ-qb5ph

Жыл бұрын

I think the message is applicable to anyone - not only Christians. It is such a dilemma for Buddhists too where dialogue is so important - yet sometimes going no contact is the only way

12:00 Toxic people discription 24:00 Jesus models when to walk away, Honoring God 25:45 sick people, Esther's story

@lizzymadrigal4775

2 жыл бұрын

G we 3

I stumble across this sermon when I typed in toxic relationships how to biblically deal with it, I have been married less than a year now. However in total my husband and I have been together inclusive of marriage 12 years now, I am constantly questioning what I have done wrong, even though I know majority of the time I'm innocent of sporadic accusations, I have decided that generation curse will not transfer to our two boys base on what he is doing. My husband struggles with the spirit of offense and bitterness. I have prayed. Fasted, sow seeds, make declarations in the atmosphere, but he keeps getting worst, I am beseeching the Lord to make my gift make room for me really going through alot, but I am confidently resolute that the God I am serving is stii alive and everything is going to work together for my Good in the Mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, please keep me in your prayers, Blessings

@kathleendwyer117

2 жыл бұрын

Your husband may be a narcissistic sociopath.

@jessicabarone1311

2 жыл бұрын

Are you ok?

@coalwarkocki4165

2 жыл бұрын

Hey hows are things now?

@raybowden2955

2 жыл бұрын

I'm praying for you right now

@brokegirl1452

2 жыл бұрын

Lord God hear her prayers and convict her husbands heart the hard way.

Gary Thomas did the work of the Lord in this sermon! Wow I can’t wait to read his book. What a refreshing Christ centered conversation on the truth that many of us run away from when it comes to our personal relationships. I am honored to be growing up in a day and age where the church is shining light on these matters. There’s still a longgg way to go for this to be more common place but every little bit counts. The church really needs to stand up for truth. So many souls are perishing.

AMEN!!!! My ex choked me 4 months after I gave birth...Yeah you gotta walk away and take your kids with you. Stay in God's light.

Gaslighting is when they answer your question with a question.👍

God, please, help me. Please limit the time I have to spend with Alex until I can move out in Jesus' name I pray, Amen

@juanvalles6008

2 жыл бұрын

How’s it go

@micky2225

2 жыл бұрын

How are doing?

my brothers and mother are selfish, narcissistic, toxic people and I need to cut them off. Thank you for bringing this Christian perspective into my choice of a healthy life

I was watching this in hopes that he would address an abusive marriage to a person who claims to be a Christian. This is the difficult thing that the church needs to address

@mommaof6

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry your going through difficulty in your marriage. I know what your going through. I recently left my very abusive husband. Since I left him I've grown closer to God in a huge way. God has been so so good. We are daughters to the King like any loving father He doesn't want He's daughter getting abused. I pray you find your way according to God's will.

@kathyarvin8155

2 жыл бұрын

I’m in the same situation. In an abusive marriage . My husband has been physically, emotionally, verbally, and financially abusive.

@lindakaye5321

2 жыл бұрын

Check out the KZread channel Gretchen Baskerville author of the life saving divorce. You will be so glad you did. God bless you!

@ashleyriosrizo

Жыл бұрын

Abuse is abuse. It's that simple.

@dianadanielle81

Жыл бұрын

Check David E. Clarke; he’s a Christen Psychologist and hates toxic men.

This is amazing, thank you pastors, for allowing God to use you in such a powerful and loving way

This just answered my prayer. Bless you all and thank you. And thank you Lord Jesus💜

The power of this message is so important and life giving! Thank you for shining the light on what it means to truly live for Him!

I just received Gary’s book: “When to walk away.” Thank you Gary, I needed this. 🙏💕✝️

A very painful experiance when Jesus leads you away from your husband. After 4 broken ribs and 2 years of fighting for our marriage I had to admit defeat. Jesus sent my husband away. Had him charged by police and slapped a restraining order on him to protect me. Jesus has been my rock and through all of this the realisation of how precious women are to Jesus. Jesus expects a man to treat his wife as Jesus treats His bride. There are not enough men stepping up. They have the lable they are Christian but still behave like Adams!!! We are to be born again and live in spirit not in our carnal nature. I think men ought to be embarressed of how men are behaving!!! They have failed badly and men need to help men to step up. Grow up. Quit the ego and treat the woman as Jesus calls you too. Its a epademic of enourmous proportians thats having a ripple effect throughout society. Jesus loves women and definatly cares greatly for us.❤️

@jessemcfarlane4384

2 жыл бұрын

All you “Godly” women are walking away from your marriages and claiming toxicity and using Jesus as an excuse to emasculate the Men in the church and build up the women. All of you women are under a spirit of delusion. Your leaders are destroying marriages under the guise of Christianity. God is going to deal with you all soon.

Wish I could get all the years I've lost back trying to be with a demonic person who's soul is çold and wicked. Now I hear the voice of the holy Spirit and it's telling me to go leave and never turn back.l know if I don't get out I'm going to lose my life mentally or physically she was never good for me and GOD has given me the strength to get out.

@mollymuch2808

2 жыл бұрын

Joel 2:25 English Standard Version 25 I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten…..

@PyrPupMom

Жыл бұрын

Leave

Let’s do when to walk away from a spouse !

@tanjalunney8032

3 жыл бұрын

It is in his book!

@daniellepearls6714

3 жыл бұрын

I believe we can definatly seperate ourselves from our husbands to protect ourselves from abuse but still commit the marriage to God and pray. Dont just rush into anything just wait on God to carefully give clear direction. I am seperated from my husband due to abuse but I have committed the decision for the future of our marriage to God. Ultimately the marriage belongs to God so He can decide. In time I will know. But now I pray and get on with life as a seperated married woman who is waiting on the Lord to direct her steps, one day at a time🙏🏻✝️

I'm having trouble making the changes that want to see in my life because I'm making excuses for the way my girlfriend lives her life. Ive felt the stages of grief in my relationship and I can't decern whether it's for myself or for her, and I think thats because i need to make a choice. I choose God and thats why I'm here looking for answers.

@HunterDillard

8 ай бұрын

I've come to the determination that this is not the answer. God does not turn away from you. You both must walk with God, together.

I believe predestination now. God knows, we do not. We need to move on and pray the Holy Spirit will move them. We are not solely responsible or have that poser, only God does. Walk away!

I live in a toxic marriage and I'm trying moving out but rent to high and I got no family left to help me, 😔 I been praying God removes me or opens doors for me plz pray for me ,Linda walker ty

Its hard to walk away if that toxic person is your spouse.

I so needed to here this , thank you jesus

Pastor -- I can't thank you enough for your final comments: I needed that as an eye opener for myself. Thankyou again!

100% correct happened to me I feel like I am dreaming do better people- believe -

👍🏻 Thank you, going to try now slowly to not waste my pearls on those who dont deserve it.

So spot on!!! Thankyou so much!! Wow I felt this to my core!!!

This is great information. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you so much for your word! is a big blessing!

After much prayer, I was given these verses and I'm hanging on to them: Jeremiah 15:19-21

@cjm537

Жыл бұрын

I read this & it's beautiful, comforting & inspiring 💗✝️ Thank you for sharing 👼 God Bless 🕊

@DoloresJRush

Жыл бұрын

@@cjm537 May God's word help you as much as it has helped me. Grace and Peace to You.

WOW!! Thank you I needed this big time.

Thank you so very much! I've been needing this information afresh.

Thank you JESUS 🙌

I so needed this now!!! Thank you so very much!!

What an amazing service 🤍

Preach Gary! Thank you for this message!

Thank while we walk away forgive.

Amazing! Thank you!

This is good. Thank you.

Is he meaning this to apply to marriage too? I would love to hear what he has to say about toxic marriages, considering a vast majority of christiandom refuses to allow someone to walk away from a toxic marriage without going into shaming mode.

I really needed this too.

Excellent message!!

thank's you.God bless you.

Alleluia!

Amen!

😭🙏🏻

🙏 Amen

I’m in a abusive toxic relationship I feel depressed sad I hope I can get thru this

@stacystewart7354

2 жыл бұрын

Are you ok?

I so appreciate this book!🌿

The old saying goes, “you can’t do nothing with stupid”.

5:16

I lived this 4 years ago guess I was not seeing the signs so he pushed right out that door

Is that in CA?

What if you can't get away from them...

@saintmarybulicek567

3 жыл бұрын

This is me fulfilling my promise, he’s my favorite after so many heartbreaks. I thought it was time to give myself a break and focus on my job while trying to heal from my previous toxic relationship. After about a year and half I met a man who turned out to be my daughter’s boss , I was reluctant at first but his persistence and high spiritedness got me submissive. We started getting along so well , no day passes without constant communication, I fell in love and didn’t want to be hurt ever again; told him my weaknesses and he told me his, along the line he came across his ex and his attitude towards me started getting cold. Seemed like deja vu all over and so I couldn’t let the anxiety tear me apart. I met a colleague who introduced me to the best set of Private investigators ultimate hack , I contacted and hired them almost immediately and they requested a down payment to commence the job after targets cell number was provided. After few hrs they responded with all the deleted and recent messages , Whats App Facebook Instagram Snapchat gps and archives of pictures he has been sending out; I practically had access to his phone without his knowledge. Turns out he connived with his young sibling to test my patience and tolerance, all the info was carted to me , thanks to the hackers I now pass his test with ease, lol . For assistance on how to track or monitor your spouse email ultimatehack003@ gmail com or WhatsApp/call/text +17202954268 I wish you well as You find out the truth about your partner just like I did

You are not God, stop trying to take on only what He can handle. Let it go, walk away.

What about love your your enemies?

@steffsrzz4971

3 жыл бұрын

Love them from far away.

@happycamper3561

2 жыл бұрын

Saying no can be the most loving thing you can do. We say no to our children to protect them. Some of these toxic adults are just overgrown children who need limits and boundaries. Letting them continue to abuse us isn’t loving them.

ppl are not toxic. relationships can be

@joyofjess

2 жыл бұрын

People can absolutely be toxic. Their bad character and lack of regard for the feelings of others poison all their relationships. When you meet a person who has no friends and their family has completely turned away from them, chances are they are toxic. People can only deal with so much before they throw up their hands 🤷‍♀️

@MJ-qb5ph

Жыл бұрын

Of course people are toxic - that’s the energy they take into the relationships they destroy

No wonder why the thumbnail looks like the cover from DS2

LOL 6.5 years late

Enough with the "humorous" upbeat stories, we want to know about what to do with an abusive Christian, as a Christian. This guy is looking at "toxic" relationships from the wroooong angle. This talk should not be about works or serving the Lord. This is not the time. Being abused doesn't just interrupt sharing the gospel & serving the Lord... it traumatizes you, destroys your life, isolates you, gives you lifelong PTSD, & even kills you. This is shit.

@stacystewart7354

2 жыл бұрын

Please read his book. He goes into way more detail and truly cares about people who have been traumatized and recognizes they need help.

@PinkyToe

2 жыл бұрын

@@stacystewart7354 A book won't help. Need a miracle.

@cjm537

Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Please do what you need to be safe from abuse. There are places & services to help people get away from abusive relationships. It is soo hard to navigate but there's people who will help. Reach out to your local social services for counseling & help. It is very important & helpful. God works through people & wants you to live your life to the fullest without fear of abuse 💗 Praying for you & all who struggle 🙏💗🕊

L have just left a man l met on line he's abuise controlling and used me for sex l said no to stuff he broke me down the lot l got pry and doing christen freedom cause with my christen freind l have left him he black mail me he took over dose last year cause l would not do what he said lm free at last

My husband won’t do consulting He won’t talk to me We haven’t been intimate in a year He’s told me he does not love and wants a divorce. We have 4 kids together I am just devastated. I am sick physically from the pain of this marriage.

@yourwillnotmine428

3 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry to hear this, I will be praying for you and your family

@AsiahAaliyah

3 жыл бұрын

Lynda I stand with you in prayer in this difficult time. Remember the Lord would not put more on you than you can bear. Seek his face and allow him to lead you to his all knowing truth. Whatever fears you have regarding the separation pray and seek wisdom on. If it be God’s will to heal your marriage he will but use discernment and don’t stay if indeed the Lord is leading you to leave your spouse. Be fruitful and don’t allow anyone to hold you back in life. God bless you and keep you and your children.

@SisterOliviaBrianna

3 жыл бұрын

I am standing in the gap for you Lynda, keep calling out to Jesus the waters will not overtake you

@lyndaroman5362

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you since thins post God has turn things completely around. We are in a much better space and still trusting God.

@GodsProphet23

2 жыл бұрын

@@lyndaroman5362 amen 🙏

I'm not sick because I've avoided the toxic church buildings you failed the people it's your fault you didn't practice what you preach Jesus and Paul never had a church building yet paul was a church planter and he didn't have a huge building or lots of people or a paid salary he had a job it was not ministry he knew the difference so did Jesus people in church houses don't understand the difference because they have religion not relationship.