My ex boyfriend passed from lupus..before he did his hair texture changed completely and his skin did in fact lighten.

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss, and also thanks for sharing your/his personal experience.

@tiffanycates3825

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have lupus and my hair texture changed from methotrexate and my skin got lighter from no sun exposure. I didn't know I could be as pale as I am now. Again I am so sorry for your loss.

@CharlisDailyDiary

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss.

@BlackGirlLovesAnime6

3 жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss🙏🏾. If you don’t mind me asking, have you been able to find love since his passing? I only ask because my last boyfriend died almost 4 years ago and I was just curious to hear from people who have been through similar experiences.

@SnozBerryQueen

3 жыл бұрын

Hey guys I appreciate all the kind words truly. It wasn't out of nowhere so it softened the blow a bit but still was tough nonetheless. I appreciate yall though thanks . 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

I’m not going to say Toni isn’t bleaching, but as a woman with a dark complexion and Lupus, my skin is the lightest it has ever been. The sun can cause Lupus flares. Between the layers of sunscreen, staying in the house, heavy Retinol and steroid use to prevent scarring, my skin just hasn’t been tanning lately. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@WoolRevival

3 жыл бұрын

It’s exactly what I was thinking about Lupus and the sun sensitivity. I have this issue.

@akiadima3814

3 жыл бұрын

Wait what does retinol do? It's in my face lotion so I'm wondering

@Christine.Stewart

3 жыл бұрын

@@akiadima3814 As you get older, the rate that your skin cells turnover slows down. Retinol speeds it up and helps your skin function properly. It can help with wrinkles, acne, and discoloration. It is great for your skin, but can make it really sensitive to the sun.

@akiadima3814

3 жыл бұрын

@@Christine.Stewart okay cool! Thank you 🙂 I wasn't too sure with all the things people put in creams and such

@mariajones9102

3 жыл бұрын

My thoughts are that because Toni has Lupus and other health conditions , skin lightening could be harmful to her health.

It's the fact that I truly thought the Karen movie had to be a joke...the preview dead ass triggered my flight or fight and I just sat there like..."WHO TF gave this the green light?" I hate it here🥴

@victorybeginsinthegarden

3 жыл бұрын

See DeAngelo Wallace video on this apparently the director made a movie titled who made the potato salad

@TahtahmesDiary

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly the new version of The Witches being in the South during the height of Jim Crow as a Black grandma and grandson are chased by a white woman with powers also triggered me. They clearly think the trauma/ fear of how they've ruined entire families is a joke or nbd and not a daily reality and there's no denying that there's huge portions of their population that relishes in this sick energy.

@SH-wk6po

3 жыл бұрын

I also see the heat on Twitter that apparently it’s a knock-off “Get Out” or something to that effect. 🤨😤

@prettytalia143

3 жыл бұрын

Right! Why can’t movies like The Photograph or Love Jones be green lit? I guess movies that normalize and highlight Black love aren’t seen as worthy projects, but this bullshit Karen movie is? 🤦🏽‍♀️

I am not a fan of bonnets outside the bedroom but that is just me and my opinion. I wouldn't wear any outside of the house.

@nnenne4

3 жыл бұрын

Me too, if you are having a bad hair day then wear a hat

@louenatnine51

3 жыл бұрын

That’s not really the problem, individuals can do as they please. The problem is people not knowing how to mind their business and allow others to present as they please without getting attacked, or “sneak photo-d” and publicly humiliated

@MsBrooklyn11232

3 жыл бұрын

I don't wear bonnets in public either, not my cup of tea!

@MystiqMiu

3 жыл бұрын

I dislike it it when my cousin does it and I @ her about it when she does, but I'd never go to a woman I have no relation to and insert my negative opinion

@ad2094

3 жыл бұрын

It's one thing to not want to do it, it's another to criticize someone else from a misguided idea that they represent you. I don't understand black people invested in making individual black people representative of the entire group. We are individuals 🤦🏾‍♀️

Everyday I’m so confused that we’ve really inculcated men (black, in this case) with the audacity to think a soon-to-be decorated Olympian would want anything to do with them. Incredible.

@AC-xf6sw

3 жыл бұрын

Inculcated in a comment...

@louenatnine51

3 жыл бұрын

@@AC-xf6sw Clunky, but I couldn’t think of another word at the time lol

@TheDivineMsM245

3 жыл бұрын

Lol…..and she is happily in a relationship with a woman….she een checking for them at all😂😂😂

@louenatnine51

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheDivineMsM245 That’s what got me, too! Sirs, you’re barking up the entirely wrong tree lol

@getoffmygrass4857

3 жыл бұрын

Man we got so many young black people in the Olympics breaking records. I'm just happy to see my people in a positive light.

Lupus can basically do any and everything to you. The skin getting lighter can come from the fact that once you have lupus you don’t have the right to expose yourself to the sun and also the medication you take 🥺 your hair can also change and that is only the physical part... what happens INSIDE of your body is even scarier please be nice and understanding 🙏🏾

@glw5166

3 жыл бұрын

Lupus wreaks havoc and much pain on the body. Flare ups can't even be described.

@EshhhaBenjamite

3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment. Love me some Toni. She can do whatever she chooses.

@b.j.dee2702

3 жыл бұрын

Yasss this! 🙌🏾

@clarabennett8596

3 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🏾

@blessedqueen555

3 жыл бұрын

@Soglam101 you nailed this . This is all true. I was diagnosed with Lupus and my hair texture changed from the meds, sensitive to the sun and yes.. internally it's a war. Thankfully my health products helped me greatly. Yes, skin color can change as well. I am so sorry for the lady's lost

Yes more of this format is needed.

I'm not a fan of Beyonce like that but I respect her talent and work ethic. She's not out here disrespecting herself or her family, she doesn't deserve that from Trick Daddy

@ad2094

3 жыл бұрын

Not to mention his statement was just a flat out lie by any definition of vocal talent

@pamelamelton7724

3 жыл бұрын

TRICK DADDY CAN HAVE HIS OWN OPINION ABOUT BEYONCE. . SHE CAN'T SING!.. YOU SEEM LIKE YOU WORSHIPBHET..MORE THAN GOD÷.

@kokolatte825

3 жыл бұрын

It seems to.me he and whoever he was talking to was merely saying Beyoncé is not like a "sanger". They are all very deliberately saying "sang" and not sing. It's an opinion and truly is not a big deal.

@nnenne4

3 жыл бұрын

@@kokolatte825 the problem is I do not like the negativity that I keep hearing from black people. we need to stop this black on black negativity there's more than enough room for all of us to enjoy different music without getting on each other's nerves. I don't hear white men and white women say that Camila Cabello can't sing even though I think she can't sing. Do I think that Beyonce can sing? yes, do I think she's the best no, I think Beyonce is a recipient of the light-skinned privilege and she would not be nearly as successful if she were dark-skinned and that's because white America does not want to see dark skinned success. Trick Daddy was wrong because he is not adding anything but negativity and I don't see him singing and dancing half as well as Beyoncé.

@znayJ

3 жыл бұрын

I thought Trick Daddy said Beyonce can't sang like Aretha, Patti, Gladys, Diana Washington you know Mahalia Jackson but she can sing that's for sure

Society will quickly call a woman a hoe but men... Nothing! I guess he's going for the Eddie Murphy record of 10 kids (or surpass him have 11) I told a friend it is more than having the money to take care of them. Can one person give enough time, love, attention, support, to each of their kids if they have 3 vs 7? No. The kids miss out.

@woodswal

3 жыл бұрын

Most of Eddie Murphy kids are by one woman.

@SweetsHarmony

3 жыл бұрын

@@woodswal He has four mothers to his children

@woodswal

3 жыл бұрын

@@SweetsHarmony Most of his kids were by his ex wife and his new wife.

@woodswal

3 жыл бұрын

@@SweetsHarmony Nicole birthed most of his children...5 total and 2 by current wife. I knew he had 3 baby mother but 4.....wow.

@SweetsHarmony

3 жыл бұрын

@@woodswal He has twin by Mariah and Abby, two with another and one on the way with someone else. I'm talking about Nick Cannon

Lol, I love when you said "eye weave" when putting on lashes. I am going to start calling my lashes eye weave.

Nick and his cannon...😁😁😁 Giggles uncontrollably...

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

💁🏾‍♀️

@NoLOVEinFEAR333

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this, April- it made me giggle too😁💙

@DH-uw3us

3 жыл бұрын

Her puns are epic.

@pri2x0x

3 жыл бұрын

That floored me, solid wordplay

@gigiarmany4332

3 жыл бұрын

always loaded 👀😝🤣

Sha’Carri Richardson is an entire lesbian 😂. The fact that any of these men would think she cares what they think about how she looks to them is hilarious. Straight men truly crack me up at times.

@melpho3635

3 жыл бұрын

I was so looking for this comment. I’m sure they don’t understand that concept because ALL women want men and need to change to get them.

@seliahh9451

3 жыл бұрын

@@melpho3635 & we don't know if all of them running their trapjaw are actually straight. They act so much like jr high school girls.😏💅🏾 As a collective, they're not even willing to protect BW, but rather, want BW to mule on the front lines of "their" protests & causes. How manly is that? So on behalf of Sha' Carri, because she's too busy to be bothered, she does NOT care sirs, none of us do!😅✌🏾

@tiffanyferguson829

3 жыл бұрын

@@seliahh9451 I heard that. What group of men is so fixed on hair and nails? Not the straight ones I know.

@ChefChevyTv

3 жыл бұрын

Dats a female 😳😳😳😳

@dezinechic

3 жыл бұрын

well thats men for ya.....theyre delusional enough to think that every woman everywhere wants them...........ofc there is only one group that cares about black girls and women like this😏😏 ive just been trying to find other groups of men that care as much as these certain men do about wigs weaves tracks u-part installs makeup nails accessories as opposed to actually building a patriarchy for their women.........guess ill keep waiting eh?

To Trick Daddy’s defense, Clubhouse just dropped on Android like a month ago so his gas station phone just got the app 😂

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

Not a gas station phone! 😭

@dezinechic

3 жыл бұрын

i cant......

As soon as u said "Puttin on my eye weave," I almost fell out 🤣🤣🤣. Great dialogue as always!!!!!

I think Toni still looks golden, she was never super dark?

@marymiller6188

3 жыл бұрын

She was definitely a buttery brown check the old videos...although I do think the lupus is impacting her complexion not necessarily bleaching

@ahub87

3 жыл бұрын

@@marymiller6188 I totally agree. She is probably having to wear sunscreen because of her meds...which her lighter skin is probably why she bleached her hair because that black hair color would make her look paler. She doesn’t have that boo berry or frankenberry look ppl get when bleaching. She just looks like she hasn’t had sun for a while.

@customfittedinc

3 жыл бұрын

That's how black people skin is melanin does its own thing ... You can be pale redbone golden all in the same year

"Nick and his cannon." Well played.

Monique said that the photo was sent to her, she clearly stated that because she said we need to do better, but hey it’s your tea

@xoJaee

3 жыл бұрын

She still posted it, reguardless of how she got it. And do better how? Its a damn bonnet 🤦🏾. If sis wanted to wear a bonnet at a damn fashion runway show thats just her choice, simple. It takes $0 to mind your business and look the other way 🤷🏽

@10misstyson

3 жыл бұрын

@@xoJaee 🤷🏽‍♀️ idc what other people wear, I just said that she said someone sent it to her, because one thing I hate is when someone lie on me so I was clearing it up that someone else sent it to her. BTW the only business I’m in is mines WHICH IS (my husband and kids etc.)✌🏽

I said this on another video-I feel like Precious was worse than the bonnets. And for me-it’s the classist and elitist attacks on black women I saw. I responded that we have no right to judge and instantly I’m ghetto/ratchet/hot Cheeto/low class- It feels weirder coming from other black people.

@judilynn9569

3 жыл бұрын

Precious was a movie (about a wretched woman). We have never seen Monique out in real life looking like she just doesn't care. She is always presentable. We don't have a right to "judge" how a person lives, but we are human and have a natural perception of what we see. If you walk around in public parading your worst look, it WILL send a clear message to everyone around that you have no respect for yourself or anybody else. It's just gonna happen and grown people should know this by now.

@E.P.7131

3 жыл бұрын

It should feel weird! You make us ashamed to call you our sista. Upgrade your self respect and standards. Tf!

@ashdacraft

2 жыл бұрын

@@E.P.7131 You read my paragraph above and gathered from that everything you needed to know about my self respect. That’s not how that works; I’m sorry. You’re literally doing what I described and it’s again…weird. I’m a highly confident and successful woman and you should honestly commend me on that instead of rushing to try to tear down ones character -sista….

@E.P.7131

2 жыл бұрын

@@ashdacraft Greetings. At no point did I presume to "gather everything I needed to know your self respect." I simply addressed the way one's appearance & how they carry themselves is a reflection of self respect.. as well as how it makes other family ashamed. Also, nothing I stated was to tear anyone down, I'm far from that person, sweetheart. I love you and every other Black person, so much so that I encourage us all to do our best... again representation matters. Be blessed. -Brotha

@actualwakandangirl7121

2 жыл бұрын

@@judilynn9569 Very well said!

Hi some medications used to control lupus namely steroids can cause skin thinning. Also lupus patients are advised to avoid sun exposure (photosensitivity) as it may exacerbate their disease.

@deeh9563

3 жыл бұрын

I have lupus - 100% agreed

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

Another commenter mentioned that lupus patients are told to avoid the sun -- did not know this! Thank you!

@visionofewe

3 жыл бұрын

Hi, nurse here. I agree with above comment Depending on type of lupus (autoimmune disorder), not only sun exposure can cause skin problems but can trigger flare ups in joints and general body like fatigue. Conversely, some lupus medications can cause hyperpigmentation or skin altering side effects.

@jayfab4689

3 жыл бұрын

@@visionofewe This Nurse agrees.

@user-zx5xw4yw2e

3 жыл бұрын

@@nappyheadedjojoba Yes there's a lot we don't know.

As a lupus survivor, I’ve gotten noticeably lighter, my docs are calling it hypopigmentation. Lack of sun, meds and secondary illnesses I’ve developed are some of the causes I was given. There’s some uv light therapy docs can do but I’d rather stick to the self-tanners they suggested instead but I do that once a month. None of my makeup before meds and diagnoses match any longer.

"Summertime in the apocalypse..." horrifyingly accurate

I still can't believe goofy, wholesome little Nick Cannon from back in the day is doing what he's doing now.

Tony has always been light. She is golden. She looks lighter because she is platinum. Yep you missed that one!😘. When the sun is shining in you, it’s like a spot light that the camera picks up as light.

People taking pics of random strangers is weird af... it's why I don't like "the people of Walmart" thing bc...wtf is wrong with you that you think this is okay? I can't imagine some rando taking a pic of me without my knowledge and posting it to social media so people can laugh at me. Nope!

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

Right -- I've 100% done this _privately_ with friends, because someone might be wearing something that relates to a private joke, or whatever (most recently, I remember actually doing this with someone's vanity license plate, of all things), but to post strangers publicly to shame or humiliate them -- even if we can't see their face(s)? Really?

@NoLOVEinFEAR333

3 жыл бұрын

So much yes to this!!💜

@marshmellowminion264

3 жыл бұрын

I've had to stop people from taking pictures of my students or myself. No..you don't take pictures of ppl without their permission. It's tacky.

@miab4594

3 жыл бұрын

I get it and I also believe that you can’t humiliate someone that’s not humiliated by walking around publicly like that with hundreds of cameras around.

@marshmellowminion264

3 жыл бұрын

@@miab4594 I can see your point. But I guess for me there's a huge difference between being under surveillance and some strangers taking pictures of ppl unknowingly without their permission with the sole intention of shaming them or casting judgement on them publicly. :)

I’m so glad someone shared their experience with Lupus and how it affects the skin. But I wish we would stop accusing fellow women of changing parts of their body. It’s there’s to change or not change as they wish. No body knows what anyone is going through.So please, I really wish we would just let people be.

@marie-francoiset9402

3 жыл бұрын

but it's horrible to talk about bonnets but ok to discuss TB body and skin colour. hmm

@clarity2974

3 жыл бұрын

💯

I feel like airports are stressful enough, without having to worry about someone secretly photographing you, and putting you on blast for the whole internet... Yikes. No thank you 🙃

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@TahtahmesDiary

3 жыл бұрын

I just don't get how Mo doesn't see how hateful this is. This ain't Charm School. Sis is trying to check bags and an icon in the community dragged her. Heartbreaking.

@DH-uw3us

3 жыл бұрын

Preach!

@13579hee

3 жыл бұрын

Granted Monique can keep her opinions to herself, what's so difficult about keeping nightwear in the bedroom?

@Ang.143

3 жыл бұрын

@@13579hee thissss why is this so hard for people.

Toni is doing her thing. Getting slayed by younger guys as she wanted

From the information I got from a news report, Monique didn’t actually photograph the woman. The photo was sent to Monique with a caption regarding the woman being in public like that and she reposted it with her own caption.

In toni's defense, we've been in quarantine for 1.5 years.. being inside for so long will cause you to get a bit lighter..

@Farzee49

3 жыл бұрын

Toni Braxton is lighter these days but staying out of the sun has me super pale and I am around Toni's complexion. I agree we can attribute Toni's lightness to the aforementioned sun avoidance.

@user-qz3ls9od9n

3 жыл бұрын

I'm about 2 shades lighter myself from this.

@ChefChevyTv

3 жыл бұрын

Don't forget... she can wear a 2piece 😳😳😳

@BriteBlaze

3 жыл бұрын

@@ChefChevyTv right!.. nothing wrong with that

@kokolatte825

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. We can't complain that people are policing Black women and then police Black women immediately after. Most Black women skin tone gets lighter or darker depending on how much sun exposure we get. It's nothing new. I was looking wondering what I was supposed to be shocked by.

GURL THAT FILE PHOTO OF TRICK DADDY....IM D.O.A!🤣😆😂💀👻

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

😊

NOT "PATHMARK PRINCESS OF TERMINAL TWOOOOO"!!!!! HAAHAHA!! THIS is exactly why I love you!

Toni Braxton has lupus and she looks amazing. She always had short dark hair. I think we all just want a color change. She has a great shape and a great voice.

Hello Ti! I enjoyed the video. Keep the "Lukewarm Tea" title that's perfection. Also I wouldn't call this gossip necessarily. Making salient points about how pop culture intersects with politics/greater society is giving more than just gossip I believe. Hope you are well!

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

Hey girl hey! Glad you like this format. I had fun being able to talk about a bunch of things, all in one go.

Trick Daddy need to sit his ass down and worry about his health before he come for anyone.

I think sometimes we forget the 90s had everyone looking damn near the same complexion. Toni Braxton has never been dark skinned the cameras back then definitely made her appear darker ...also as we know brown skin can easily become darker or lighter ...depending on our diet ...weather ...with age ...losing or gaining weight ....hair color change can make complexion appear different ...lupus can also change someone’s complexion...medication ....every black woman is not insecure or hate their complexion...everyone does not have a desire to bleach their skin.

"Luke warm tea Volume 1" Love it!😂😂😂😂

Toni is aging backwards her body is fabulous 💃🏽 I like your bonnet by the way!

Flying for 30 years, I take pride in representing US on a major airline. The things I see my brothers and sisters wearing to travel in gives my shivers. What you wear to the market is not what you wear travel in.

@NYCCHOCOLATE7777

3 жыл бұрын

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Exactly

More please, I didn't find the lukewarm tea, gossipy or trifling. I've been of social media for months so honestly I didn't know about many of the things you said. And you handled each topic maturely 💯

The bonnet is beautiful! Thanks for adding the link!

have confused misogynoir with having an actual personality 😂🤣 But really tho, can black women just be celebrated??

@TheAudraReins

3 жыл бұрын

This is the ONE!

Monique’s posting of that photo is more embarrassing than that woman at the airport. She wants to be a “respectable representation” of black women, but feeds into the stereotype that we’re boneheaded, mean, and judgmental. She truly should point her “concern” toward her husband.

@sagittarius420cheefie

3 жыл бұрын

She still wasn't wrong though that s*** was ridiculous.

@louenatnine51

3 жыл бұрын

@@sagittarius420cheefie Personally, I’m not concerned with how others choose to live if there’s no harm being done. I don’t know if that woman was depressed, experiencing mania, or just truly wished to show up that way. Personally though, if I had to choose, I would rather be the woman looking crazy rather than the nationally renowned actress that decided, for some reason, now is the time to put individuals on blast for millions of people to mock. But that’s just me. I usually prioritize getting myself in order before lambasting others, and Monique has made it clear over the years that her personal nor occupational life have been in order.

@lototheflo9640

3 жыл бұрын

@@louenatnine51 worded so greatly!

@grandmamas.whor3500

3 жыл бұрын

@@sagittarius420cheefie so then why didnt she tell her quietly instead of humiliating her she should've told her but no she wanted to post a picture luckily her face wasn't in it

@louenatnine51

3 жыл бұрын

@@lototheflo9640 Thank you! I get a little overzealous about bullying, and had a family member end their life due to online harassment they incurred from someone posting a video of them during a mental breakdown. So this shit pisses me off to the nth degree lol

Whewwwww!!! Not the California Raisin/Trick Daddy doppelgänger 😆😆😆😆😆💀💀💀💀💀

Amber Rose didn't invent that hairstyle. A lot of women wore it before her (generations before her) and they have worn it since she did. Toni likes the style and has every right to rock it. Toni's complexion looks like it should look after (probably) not getting much sun during quarantine this past YEAR. She's not a brown girl. She's lightskinned - about the same complexion as you, from what I can see in your video. AND...she was out in the blazing sunlight. I think folk need to stop imagining things to drag people about. Toni looks fine and I'm glad to see her well enough to enjoy a swim after the rough year we've all had.

You sound like Monique while you was talking about Toni, judging an other black woman.

When I was growing up in the 70"s my mother also said that house attire (rollers/curlers/house slippers, PJ's, etc.) should not be worn in public. Back then, Black ppl seemed to have more of a sense of pride as to how we presented ourselves.

I was looking at that beautiful nail color and I was thrilled to see a link listed. Thanks!

Really liked this video concept. More please!

Instead of obsessing over what people wear, imagine if black folks focused on shit that actually mattered Nina Turner running for Congress, donate to her campaign!!

@marymiller6188

3 жыл бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@a.sydney5036

3 жыл бұрын

We can do it all

@marie-francoiset9402

3 жыл бұрын

obsessing over someone's skin tone is ok though? right. ok

@dr.ziegler6104

3 жыл бұрын

Cuz Congress does things for Black people?

@iancamp3211

3 жыл бұрын

@@dr.ziegler6104 if we had a Congress full of Nina turners it would

Yo, that California Raisin left me dead.

You just popped on my autoplay. I did a lot of learns. Honestly I didn't know much about mysognoir and I need to. Thank you for sharing. I need to do better

Love the new format.

Your make up in this video is simply gorgeous!!! I love this format of “in the news”. Please continue!!!

It seems Monique has jumped on the "disrespect black woman to build your platform" bandwagon. What Monique did was disrespect, disgusting, and disgusting. I dont care what her intentions were at the end of the day people dragged and humiliated this woman. I'm so disappointed in her.

@13579hee

3 жыл бұрын

Personally I think it's a stretch to say she disrespected black women because I know a lot of black women who are never going to walk out their front door with a bonnet on their head, and most certainly wouldn't be caught with a bonnet at an airport or grocery store. And it has nothing to do with classism, respectability politics or concern with the white gaze....... for them, its sleepwear and thus they would never have on sleepwear outside of the bedroom or home

@girlygirl1890

3 жыл бұрын

I am a black woman and I totally agree with you 1,000%. Thank you for saying that.

@pearlljewels7330

3 жыл бұрын

When she went out with her bonnet on...in essence she said I don't care who sees me...take a pic of me cause here I am. Let's do this! And someone did. Plain and simple. The woman disrespected herself. You can't get mad if someone gives you what you ask for...

@TASconfidential

3 жыл бұрын

She didn’t disrespect anyone. She’s trying to bring back class, dignity, self-respect, and pride among black women. Monique is right. It’s time to take the bonnets off, put the yoga pants away, keep the PJs at home, and guys needs to pull their pants up, comb their hair, and EVERYONE needs to bathe. Period.

@girlygirl1890

3 жыл бұрын

@@TASconfidential Very very well said and true. I totally agree.

Oh lawd the file photo of Trick Daddy!! Sis 😂😂😂😂

First video of yours I've watched! Love U already! Especially tha sarcasm.

I was thinking, “Trick Daddy must be ugly” because it’s only ugly men who talk like that, but I truly didn’t know he was. So I googled him and I said “oh that guy? So I was right.” The End.

@anbonner17

3 жыл бұрын

@V X Right! He was actually nice looking but you can tell he is swollen from medication, possibly steroids.

@TCt83067695

3 жыл бұрын

What an ugly thing to say about somebody smh

@TCt83067695

3 жыл бұрын

@V X sorry to hear about your friend fam. Hope she's keeping in good spirits

@KhaosDancer

3 жыл бұрын

@@TCt83067695 why? It's an opinion just like his opinion on Beyonce. Lupus didn't stop him from voicing his opinion on her talent.....

@TCt83067695

3 жыл бұрын

@@KhaosDancer you think it's ok to comment on someone's looks rather than the substance of what they're saying and call that "opinion"?

Thank you! As a teacher I tried to have dialogue with my male students about how women wearing makeup or wigs has nothing to do with them. It was hard for them to divorce themselves from visual images that say otherwise. I love your commentary!

@marie-francoiset9402

3 жыл бұрын

oooh you just helped me understand something. So are you saying that men are so like disturbed by these images because they are not used to not being centered or catered to in them? Is that what you mean? because I truly don't understand why they care. like shouldn't they be watching a ballgame somewhere? lol

@faithwilliams7978

3 жыл бұрын

I am so glad you are helping the youth. Men always think women dress and style for them. Maybe some do, but many don’t. I know I don’t. I just put on what I like. It has nothing to do with a man.

@sheilakosoff5806

3 жыл бұрын

@@faithwilliams7978while we were having this discussion, the young women in class kept trying to school them on this fact. The key point was that women usually dress for themselves and sometime other women. We also talked about ways to give compliments. Instead of saying”sit on my face” how about “that dress is very pretty on you.” I know I shouldn’t, but I do blame hip hop, advertisements, and Disney. Just my two cents.

@faithwilliams7978

3 жыл бұрын

@@sheilakosoff5806 I blame them, too. Especially hip hop.

Thanks Sis love your commentary! 😊

This was calm and on point, thank you and I agree with you

I needed your rant about men being insignificant. Thanks

I think 10+ years ago, Toni performed at an award show and she looked so light that I thought she was some biracial woman doing a tribute lol. She had light blonde (not platinum) hair at that time too, and the stage lighting was dramatic to give her that "angelic glow".

Your transitions are on point. ♥️it!

Definitely do more of these. I love this kind of content too!

Your videos are like a breath of fresh air 🙌🏾

LOVE to see the bonnet! idk why Mo (who won an Oscar wearing a bonnet) is sharing pics of Black women to mock online but its embarrassing & disheartening. This isn't love AT ALL.

@iCurvaceous

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Especially the orange one she is currently wearing in the video. Some bonnets are SO BEAUTIFUL

Loved this!

I enjoyed the multiple topics video!

The internalized thing is so on point. Monique is projecting her own experiences and struggles to be accepted onto other women. This is my personal issue with the whole Queen/bad bitch label. Why cant black women have the space and the grace to be average or not as well put together some days?

@shanellpride2377

3 жыл бұрын

No, we did put gave it up to be like everyone else. Our ancestors taught us to do and be better. No women should ever step out the house with a bonnet on there head.. period. Can we bring respect, dignity and so much more back to the black communities. So sick of us not taking responsibility and trying to be like the white woman..

@cupcake1065

3 жыл бұрын

The issue is, that's all we're ever portrayed as in mainstream media, so why are we feeding into that image willingly ourseves. The reason why the level up movement even began was to counteract the negative conditioning and programming that was out there about black women and particularly dark skinned black women. I don't think Monique is projecting anything. She said what she said and I don't think she said anything wrong at all. When you're trying to lift up someone who doesn't know they're down, it's going to feel uncomfortable for that person until they wake up and realise.

@patriciaduke5169

3 жыл бұрын

Girl ain’t no internalized projection. She saying comb your damn hair! Just take the comb and run it through your hair. That’s what she’s projecting!

@SynFlowers

3 жыл бұрын

@@cupcake1065 it’s hard to lift someone up who doesn’t know they’re down. I love that.

@iCurvaceous

3 жыл бұрын

​@@shanellpride2377 by trying to put black people on a pedestal, we are also normalizing whites more and more. I don’t disagree about respect, dignity etc. as I too would not walk out of my house with a bonnet, but please consider this view as well. What it means to be human (to accept we also make mistakes, faults and short comings and that we should allow blacks to also be human). I would say public criticism does not allow blacks to be, the concept of normal. We are either viewed as too good, or too bad. Never middle ground.

Ayyyeee Ti!!! Why do I feel like it’s been a long time since I seen you!??? Sending love and positivity! Stay safe 🖤

So glad you’re back! Loving this video style and the hair color.

I'm totally here for this type of format. This was great!

I like your take on these things in that it doesn’t feel gossipy. Keep it up!

Mo'Nique takes an *L* to the chest for reposting that pic! Some ppl said it was originally taken by a black man and then it was DM'd to her, but regardless, *SHE* should've been where the buck stopped. I don't hate Mo'Nique. In fact, I agree with a lot of her viewpoints on certain topics. But this was not it. I have walked my dog at dawn/dusk, in a bonnet, plenty of times. Nobody cares! I feel that black women should be able to wear any piece of fabric on their heads without decry. Scarves, bonnets, hats - ALL JUST FABRIC. Some ppl travel because *they have to* and so beauty takes a backseat. Going through airport security, waiting around, running to the correct gate (that sometimes switches last minute), boarding a sardine-packed plane, being up in the air, dreading the need to use the bathroom, surviving turbulence, etc. - IT IS ALL HELL ON EARTH for a lot of us. So Mo'Nique is going to have to forgive some ppl for not giving a single f*ck about their appearance while in transport. Can't believe a black woman has to be told to #LEAVEBLACKWOMENALONE .

@SynFlowers

3 жыл бұрын

The point isn’t wearing it outside. It’s about having pride in our appearance s as a collective group. As individuals you can do what you want but let’s look like we took a shower and tried for the day.. ya know? No one likes to work with someone who is constantly sloppy. She’s telling us to get it together a little before we present ourselves to the world.

@theamateurconnoisseur

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏

@iCurvaceous

3 жыл бұрын

@@SynFlowers Do you really think we should make the entire black community on a pedestal for the brothers and sisters who cannot achieve your unrealistic inhumane “black excellence” goals to be put down for being normal and human? To be taken a pic of without consent at an airport is indeed, a possible one time off day occasion. Not an everyday consistently sloppy moment. On average, the black person is well kept and put together (because we have to be to survive). It is only occasional do we see these moments. So no, she’s not telling us that at all. In fact, the only reason why we wear bonnets in the first place is to maintain health to our hair and be well kept in the first place. Aside from our bonnets, our faces are usually washed, we aren’t usually in our pjs. I think it’s safe to say, we still present ourselves rather well.

Ha! I clicked subscribed at around 10:40 secs. You are hilarious...lol.

Yes please do more of these periodically.

Just a correction: Sha'carri isn't the fastest woman alive. That is Shelly-Ann Frasier (a Jamaican). Another Jamaican, Elaine Thompson, is also faster than her.

@sandirichard5461

3 жыл бұрын

Dem Jamaican gyals be on 🔥🔥🔥.

@annmariebusu9924

3 жыл бұрын

I hear Sha carri has Jamaican ancestry too.

@Naturellona

3 жыл бұрын

Tell'em I love track and field as a American Shelly-Ann (you look good from your head to your belly aye)💃🏾 that's my girl her and Flo-Jo who I grow up watching.

@KR-nm6wm

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! It is normal for Americans to say they are the fastest, richest, smartest etc. etc. That's why I love it when Jamaicans dominate. Don't have to watch the excessive celebration by some of the US athletes.

Everyone has an opinion about Black women. We can choose to ignore their personal opinions, or allow it to control our emotions. I don't let their problems bother me. Also, I have Lupus and yes, it affects our skin to lighten and our hair to change, and I get judged about it from US. And if she is, it's none of our business.

@kokolatte825

3 жыл бұрын

Someone always talking about Black women and Monique just had to join in. I guess that's what I don't like about what she's saying. She's not necessarily wrong but why are you telling us what to do? It bothers me much more than Trick Daddy because honestly if a beyhiver didn't post this somewhere none of us would've even heard it and even more of us don't care.

@lilah337

3 жыл бұрын

Get judge by US too for trying to darken my skin with self-tanner from lupus making me noticeably lighter too. Sometimes it’s hard to wrap my head around it so I just focused more on minding the business that pays me as your comment suggests. Anything extra makes me more stressed and fatigued anyway so 🤷🏾‍♀️

@marypalmer2088

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you about it being none of our business. Instead of trying to shame her by talking about the color of her skin and looking like Amber Rose, let's hope she is feeling okay and let her know she is beautiful.

@kokolatte825

3 жыл бұрын

@@marypalmer2088 exactly how I felt. How are we going to complain about attacks against Black women and then attack a Black woman with a disease? 🤷🏽‍♀️

I love the commentary. Please make this a regular topic.

Love your bonnets, I know the "fashion police" are angry and trying to give you tickets 😆🤣

Monique posting that picture was setting up the lady in photo for verbally abuse. We know how horrible the internet is & she knows that too. She really could’ve just said “ma’am your dress is tucked underneath” or she could’ve minded her business, like most of us do 🤷🏾‍♀️

@lidrummond9342

3 жыл бұрын

That lady set herself up by coming out like hat. She wanted the attention

@inkaacrowe8429

3 жыл бұрын

That woman is part of the agenda! She isn’t for black women that is why she patronises first and then and then praises later, creepy narcissistic behaviour!

@iCurvaceous

3 жыл бұрын

@@lidrummond9342 ooooor she was just having a hell of a day. You know, being human with faults and problems that are not comprehensive to the privileged and those lacking of serious problems.

@lidrummond9342

3 жыл бұрын

Why are people mad at Monque. She wanted the attention or why would you be in Public like that. She has no Shame

@iCurvaceous

3 жыл бұрын

@@lidrummond9342 so you never had a hell of a day? You know, just uneventful unbelievable shit happen to you? I remember days like that. Getting my entire uniform soaking wet cuz someone speed drived water all over me, feathers falling all over me at a store as I’m walking on the side of pavement etc, you never had a bad day before bruh?

I haven't messed with Monique since way before the "netflix" incident. Her voice may be sweet but her judgemental attitude sucks and I find her kinda mean.

@ttopbugatti9430

3 жыл бұрын

She really is😫🥺🥺

@Honey_Vee79

3 жыл бұрын

She has that passive aggressive voice.

@monicacharming3123

3 жыл бұрын

Riiiiggght her and her open marriage

@nairabee245

3 жыл бұрын

We call it ✨nice-nasty 🔪 ✨ it’s annoying

@itsawetrain

Жыл бұрын

it's also kind of funny cuz how much you wanna bet that she was dressed to the nines when she had her meeting with netflix and they still fucked her over.

Thanks for showing me how to put my makeup on. Lol!

I don’t always agree with what you say but I love and respect your delivery and your slow mos 🤣❤️

Thank you for blessing us with a video, today. Would love to hear your thoughts on the Cosby news. Hope you had a beautiful month of June. Please stay safe & take care ♥️

Toni has LUPUS!!!!!!!! She looks damn good for someone living with lupus don’t worry about her worry about your own

Love this, more please!

Loved this entire video. New subscriber. Thank you!

I saw you on Sibling Rivalry's We're Here zoom last night!

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

That was so funnn! I love the Zooms with Bob/Monet! 🥰

Perhaps Monique is so used to being scrutinized for how she looks that she feels like other BW need to operate under the same kind of fear. “Stay on your toes 24/7 so they don’t see you slip and hurt you like they did me” is how it sounds to me.

Great commentary. Thanks for sharing.

Great wit format and channel name I subscribed thanks for being you😊

As a person with Lupus I can confirm that my skin has not gotten any lighter, LOL. I thought Monique was about tapping a Queen on the shoulder why didn't she say something to sis in private like she claims she would?

Quick question... How can you shame a person who's purposely doing something in public??

Loved it!!

Love the talk!

Hey Ti!!!!! I've been so interested in getting your take on these topics.If l hear Monique refer to us as her sweet babies one more time...... Yes Toni Braxton also had alot of facial surgery done too. Sha'Cari is not to be played with. Trick Daddy is so unimportant. Beyonce is beyond unbothered. I wasn't a huge Beyonce fan until l saw her in concert a few years ago in Germany when l lived there. I feel some type of way about the Karen movie.I am here for the lewk. I love it. Please continue this series. Your insightful commentary on any subject is always genius in my opinion.

@nappyheadedjojoba

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, girl! I'm hoping that I can do videos like this on a regular basis, because it's fun to talk about a lot of things in one go. 🖤

" Monique, how dare you? I hope Toni Braxton isn't bleaching." The confusion is real.

@marie-francoiset9402

3 жыл бұрын

ok it's not just me. the cognitive dissonance is real

I'm LATE but I love this format! ☕

I love your humor. Your energy is fun.😁