I wouldn't go to the wedding either. Does your daughter understand what happened ?? The bio dad should have went to prison.

@zineguri8515

8 күн бұрын

initially she didn't know (she just thought her mum hates her ex) but then when she finds out, she still tries to force the mum to forgive/ get use to being around her attackr cause she "wants all of her family present on her special day".

@jayewrite1256

7 күн бұрын

@@zineguri8515If the mom really wanted to she could always use the wedding as an excuse for both revenge and to teach her daughter that her dad is horrible, move somewhere with no cameras that saying she want s to “talk” to the bio dad, claim it was to tell him to stay away from her and her daughter. But really use it as an excuse to begin beating on the guy or worse if the mom is inclined and just say it was self defense. More often then not if such a claim is made people will take the woman’s side even if sufficient evidence is provided and with the bio dad’s history of doing it to the mom before absolutely no one would believe him that he was innocent. Anyone saying that this is horrible, 2 things. 1.) this has happened in real life, an example was a woman punching herself in the face to claim her husband was physically abusive but was shown she did it herself in an elevator which happened to have a camera. 2.) in the previous case people believed the man was guilty up until the video but the woman got off with only a slap on the wrist. So even if the man is proven to be innocent mom risks like in terms of legality matters, and those around her might believe she did the right thing by trying to get a monster off the streets and especially away from her daughter. And yes the world is a messed up place, as for why I thought of that scenario, combination of watching castle and creative writing.

@user-qt1lt4ny1v

7 күн бұрын

@@zineguri8515is she STUPID?????

@user-us9wu1xk1z

6 күн бұрын

​@@zineguri8515 That girl is delusional.

@amashizaino

5 күн бұрын

@@zineguri8515 was he ever in the daughter's life? Did he play an active role? Did they become close? I really want to know.

„You’re stuck in the past“ the past being a grape that sired a constant reminder, that she raised and that is cozying up to the grapist, how can you even be close to such a person??

@emilyschomer6715

5 күн бұрын

She KNOWS right????? Why would you have let her meet her grapist father?

@louisasmiles

4 күн бұрын

Such a serious topic but you had me chuckling. I love the Grape analogy

@Dimensionalalteration

Күн бұрын

Ikr. Absolutely impossible to build any type of good relationship with someone who says that under those circumstances

The bio dad should be in jail

@user-fw5qx3qy7e

7 күн бұрын

Fr

@The_white_Lotus2006

6 күн бұрын

Yea but he’s probably out by the wedding

@Siltcat

5 күн бұрын

I watched full video I'm pretty sure it's cause there wasn't a case

@leyladaceleb

2 күн бұрын

There was a case but was proven not guilty because he had a good reputation

@GhostFox5067

2 күн бұрын

@leyladaceleb reputation my a**

How can she not understand her bio dad is a rapist? How heartless is she to disregard that fact.

@Harshstew21

2 күн бұрын

Guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree

@Dimensionalalteration

Күн бұрын

I don't think that it's that simple, whilst yes the conception of the child happened in the most abhorrent and horrific of circumstances she is still a human,a human who's entire life has been lacking connections,sense,an understanding of who they are etc. It's not as simple as saying, well hey ,you're Germanic and slavic if the child is for an example half Nigerian, it doesn't mean that the girl should connect with her bio father however it does mean that she might have a need to connect to Nigerian roots,learn the language etc. kind of bypassing Mr.Grapist and still connecting to their origin. It's a very horrible situation for everyone involved to be in and there are no happy steps down f*ck lane. I think that having a person other than the parents to support her might be a better option as they are too close and too involved to not get absolutely slaughtered in this mess.

I believe I heard this story before. After the mom refused to be at the wedding, the daughter demanded to know why the mom wouldn’t show up at the wedding over a small incident. Apparently, the daughter was in contact with her biological dad who told her it was just a small argument. After some pushing, the mom confessed to the SA to the daughter who did not take this well. She ran to her bio dad and demanded to get answers. He confessed that Yes he did SA her. The daughter tried to apologize through a diner but didn’t NOT tell her mom that the dude would be there too. The mother shouted and was going to storm out of the restaurant but the dude grabbed her arm. This triggered a panic attack and collapse and tried to get away while hyperventilating and the dude tried to calm her down but it only made things worse for the mom. Paramedics were called and unfortunately I don’t remember the details afterwards. If I’m right, she cut contact with her daughter after that

@Neverendingchange

4 күн бұрын

ty for the summary

@witchdragonfly2586

3 күн бұрын

Also OPs other children basically disowned the daughter and the fiance called off the wedding and him and his dad (?) came to apologize to OP and make sure she was ok.

@WolfODonnelfan

2 күн бұрын

@@witchdragonfly2586 Nice, so this lady decided that she'd rather have a dad instead of having a loving mom, loving siblings, loving husband and loving in-laws. Not sure the trade-off was worth it, but it's very much what she wanted to happen.

@frgmented-dreams6140

Күн бұрын

That girl is out of line and incredibly out of touch with reality.

@kaylamorgan9157

12 сағат бұрын

I don’t get why the mother didn’t reveal this truth too her daughter a lot sooner. The girl obviously found out who her true bio dad was and let her have a relationship with him. Yet it was only when her daughter sent out her wedding invitation that she finds out the truth. This is really messed up. To me this is something you tell your child when they’re around 15-18 years old. If they ask you earlier you simply say “your bio dad hurt mommy and I’ll tell you the full story when you’re (-) years old”. Kids deserve to know the truth and OP obviously never pressed charges on this man

I didn't need 10 seconds to know that OP is completely right. If you still want to associate with someone who did something like that, you're disgusting.

I’m so sorry that she is a terrible person. I hope she changes her toon if she ever ends up in the same situation as you. Don’t let her get you down. Smile and just stand your ground. And give your husband a hug.

@witchdragonfly2586

3 күн бұрын

If I remember the story correctly the daughter's fiance calls off the wedding. I can't remember the exact details but it was definitely after the daughter had said she wanted to meet with OP and "surprised" OP with her attacker in an attempt to get her to talk to him. 🙄

Daughter made a choice; hope she is happy and her bio father doesn't make a mistake with her.

@zineguri8515

8 күн бұрын

Na, all of the family find out what happened, her siblings cut her out and her fiance breaks up with her for trying to force her mother to forgive/interact with her attackr.

@potatoheadpokemario1931

7 күн бұрын

It won't be a mistake, it would be deliberate

I feel so bad for mother, she took criticism, those hurtful memories. And this how she gets Paid back. 😔

People need to watch the entire video of this, it is nuts! First you're against the daughter, then you're a bit on her side, but THEN, omg the daughter is such an awful person!

tell her everything you did for her and how hard it was and that since she's choosing the man who GRAPED you over you, she has to pay you for it all and she will no longer be considered yours or your husband's child, you will no longer tolerate any frustrations and inconveniences for her.

As an adopted child, this is why I advocate for adoption especially in grape cases and believe strongly in protecting abortion rights. As also a victim of violent grape there’s no way I could have kept a child that resulted from that attack. Pain, resentment, anger, and even fear towards that child all are normal and valid feelings. I can’t imagine anyone demanding that you face your attacker at your own child’s wedding. I wouldn’t go and I think this is where I’d tell her to choose a parent and live with her decision.

An ugly past is still an ugly past regardless of how many years have gone by. Good luck to you.

I have heard it elsewhere so basically the daughter wants her biological dad to walk her down the aisle not the step dad who raised her cuz of which op decides not to attend the wedding but eventually daughter agrees to have her step dad walk her down the aisle

@witchdragonfly2586

3 күн бұрын

And the wedding never even happens cause the fiance calls it off

Nah WHAT THE FUCK IS BRO COOKING

@immakitty88

6 күн бұрын

He's certainly making so creative choices

NAH WHO WOULD DO THAT!?🤬😱

I'm so confused. How does she even know her bio father? And why isn't he in jail?

That kid has an inner rivalry considering he’s half Russian and half German

So basically the rest off the story: An epic saga where the daughter later on tries to get the mum to see that her bio father isn’t bad and when her mum confronts her with a rescission to not go. Side note: The husband got into and accident couldn’t walk his daughter down the aisle So she wanted the bio father to do it Soon the siblings get involved and rip her a new one 😮

She could have got in touch if she wanted but she shouldn't drag her mom to him.

I sincerely doubt she "let" the laughter get close to that foul person. Furthering, shetried to protect the girl by not telling her she was the product of SA. You all are nuts saying the girl should have been told all slong. That would be domething a sensitive individual might have gone to "unalive" hetself over.

I'm also polish and German

@JanPrzybylo-sz3si

8 күн бұрын

19 mins ago

@beanreee

8 күн бұрын

I'm Polish

@danielwozniak8411

7 күн бұрын

Me too (well a mix of Polish, German, English, Irish and Scottish). I must technically be American then?

@JanPrzybylo-sz3si

7 күн бұрын

@@beanreee im also polish

I agree with you.

THE FUCK????? NAH

So can't concentrate bc of the food, that look so good !

Sorry daughter, but who raised you?. He didn't respect and brutally assaulted your mum. There was a reward, YOU, but don't hurt your mother like this.

Some people really should use gorilla glue instead of chapstick. That poor woman and husband after everything that they've been through, individually as well as together and now their own community decides to add on to the absuse by shunning and gossiping about them. Absolute shame on them. Try offering support and understanding instead.

Bro if that happened to me I would go either

You got sexually assaulted, and you didn't call the police to get the man arrested?

WOMP WOMP 😂

May be a bad recap of the story so check out the full video. Rest of the story: The mother thought if she should tell her daughter about why she was not comfortable about her bio dad being there Later the mother talks about the grape incident and that being the reason why she didn’t want him attending her wedding the daughter agrees. Day of the wedding; Mother arrives and guess what the grapist is there she gets a panic attack so runs out so the daughter gets to her and asks why she ran out mother is angry / upset that the daughter still invited the grapist and asks her why she did that daughter says she wanted her to get used to him and then tells her that he said that it was consensual and to get over it mother angry and betrayed left her wedding Unsure: And i think her therapist told her to write it down so she can let her feelings out

Im too polish i love poland❤

I'm so sorry that happened to you it's not that they were dating and broke up and over reacting about it you were taken advantage of by who you thought was your friend, your daughter Is being. Unfair

WAIT THE SAUSEGES HAD THE NAME "WIENERS" NOOOOO

My first senior lawyer always emphasized to our clients (usually ladies for probano bcz she's an established lady lawyer in the area) whenever they come with claiming that the baby daddy r*ped them, "Never say the CRIMINAL is the father of the innocent child; he's just a sperm donor and nothing more". And we never allowed those criminals to see the babys' faces simply bcz they don’t deserve to. Those conservative illiterate women always thanked her for finding the correct terminology and concept that they were unable to find and adapt to. And as a bio major, yk that the genes not only pass the appearance but also knowledge and intelligence plus certain behaviours bcz most behavioural patterns and thought processes are ingrained by our nervous chemicals? So, ig it's safe to say in this certain scenario that "the apple didn't fall far from the tree"

I'm ruthless with the truth, especially when it comes to trauma. I would have wound up putting it into a context the daughter could understand. (sorry for the wall of text but I had to get this out being a survivor of SA myself) "So, would you want someone around you who brutally shoved an implement into your body that ripped you apart from the inside out, making you feel the worst pain imaginable and having to endure it for what seemed like an _eternity_ and left broken, bleeding and crying when he was done. Then afterward you felt as if you were worth less than the shit that comes out of worms. Worthless, useless, powerless, hopeless. That you'd never be free, fear gripping you at seeing any shadow moving in the darkness, jumping at any random sound thinking you're going to be attacked again. And the feelings, even now, even after decades of therapy and learning to cope are _still_ there because while your body might have healed, your heart and soul has been forever scarred and will _always_ remember. Would you want someone that made you go through that to be around you? I love you a lot, but I fought long and hard to learn to love myself again too. Hell I'm _still_ fighting that war, and I'm not about to lose just because you want the object of my nightmares to be at your wedding. I'm not going to put myself through a silent living Hell to be around him. I hope your day is happy, I hope it's beautiful and full of joy for you. But if he's there, I won't be, this is a hard boundary I have to set for my own sanity."

Half polish and half German, then half Russian and half German….wow….😮😮😮

Erm I was just watching the food……is it just me😅😅😅

Why would the daughter want her bio father there?

I am also polish

The daughter has no common sense and clearly doesn't undeserved the trama you went through I would disown her and not go to her wedding cus that's messed up 😢

Damn, that's a tall ass family

@europeangardenflower9812

4 күн бұрын

Not exceptional for that part of europe.

I'm 150 cm tall and I'm 9

bro just think the peoples reactions after you tell them why it is not his kid

Don’t go

Uhm yeah no. Fck that.

Bro ik you raised her and believed that she was your real daughter but she isn't so stop feeling sad you were the victim and she put it on her self so she can be whatever she wants to herself for no so try to forget ger

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Sounds like the mother is also bitter toward the daughter, maybe she shouldn't have raised her. Just saying.

I’m polish tpo

The description dont even matterr

An abortion is illegal?!?!

@lorifiedler13

5 күн бұрын

In the US, some states deny abortion as early as 6 weeks.

@europeangardenflower9812

4 күн бұрын

In Poland: yes

Not attending your daughter’s wedding just because a person assaulted you is attending is just BS

@witchdragonfly2586

3 күн бұрын

👀👀👀 so you're the daughter or attacker from the story then?

I don’t ask about your height

I have a story of my own I have an ex his name is Jason and we broke up a month ago because he cheeted on me but i miss him anywase this new guy asked me out and u said yes but the next day he told me he wanted to the thing with me older plz help . P. S. I'm 11

@user-oj9nm6gj9s

6 күн бұрын

But I miss Jason and he whont take me back

@user-oj9nm6gj9s

6 күн бұрын

Older kids plz advise

@user-jv5pp8pv9l

6 күн бұрын

Girl, get off of the internet and stop asking strangers for advice. Go talk to your parents or another trusted adult in your life. Do not "do the thing." Especially if he is older than you. I knew a girl who did because her older boyfriend pressured her. As soon as she did, her boyfriend dumped her. Eleven is too young in anyway. Please, please, please talk to your parents.

Boo hoo

Seeing that you call her IT(or the kid) when describing her most of the time it lets me know you have held that sa against her and made her to pay for it and the fallout you precieved after, in subtle, maybe subconscious ways most of her life. Maybe her bio dad does not do this and shows her acceptance. Yes, you were a victim of her bio dad, but you made your daughter your victim as well.

I'm PO

I understand that you don’t want to see him, but just ignore him go to your daughter’s wedding it’s an important day

Ill take _"shit that never happened"_ for $400 ken.

It is messed up but married women should not by getting drunk alone with other men.

@lorifiedler13

5 күн бұрын

Victim blame much?

@gigaSLAYER66610

4 күн бұрын

​@@lorifiedler13he's kinda right

@lorifiedler13

4 күн бұрын

​@@gigaSLAYER66610 Are you saying that men are animals that can't control themselves?

@gigaSLAYER66610

4 күн бұрын

@@lorifiedler13 No. I'm saying that married women shouldn't be getting drunk alone with other men

@gigaSLAYER66610

4 күн бұрын

@@lorifiedler13 no I'm saying married women shouldn't be getting drunk alone with other men

Annoying narration

Womp Womp

This is why you should be age appropriately honest with your kids. The daughter has had her life obliterated while she was trying to work things out. The mom let her daughter reach out and get close to her rapist father. Then has the audacity to treat her like crap about it. She only told her the truth after people told her she should. She admittedly isn't close to her daughter because she is the product of rapw. She drops the truth on her daughter. Then is shocked when her daughter tries to have her work it out with the bio dad? That man convinced everyone it was consensual when it happened. He probably convinced the daughter it wasn't as bad as OP was saying. Of course the daughter will give him the benefit of the doubt. Her mother has lied to her and treated her differently her entire life. Then her mom tells her siblings who make public statements that wreck her entire life. And everyone is siding with OP? I'm sorry she was assaulted, but she had over 20 years to get therapy, be honest, work on her relationship with her youngest, etc. She didn't do squat until now. After she blew up her child's life. After she let her child get close to a rapist. If I knew someone was a rapist I would not let my child get close to them. She should have told her child the truth when her child was planning on reaching out to the first bio relative. She gets all the support while her child is all alone with THE RAPIST! This woman is awful.

This is a fake story. You didn't know you were pregnant until 20 weeks. SURE. I have 2 kids and you can feel the baby start to kick at around 15 weeks. Not to mention between weeks 1 to 20, you experience, missing period, morning sickness, food cravings, mood swings, growing belly, etc.

@Arsiana

7 күн бұрын

Ever heard about cryptic pregnancy?

@katsimpsforleviathan

7 күн бұрын

You can google it. There are cases of people not knowing they're pregnant until they're in labour! Don't experience lack of periods or show signs of weight gain for the whole pregnancy.

@ishikamakwana7204

7 күн бұрын

Probably took that as a sign of depression and stress as they are more over the same symptoms, and after being raped depression is granted

@Nekogal21

7 күн бұрын

​@@ishikamakwana7204as well as stress, anxiety and PTSD which all have symptoms of pregnancy

@user-bq8db6zi5r

7 күн бұрын

Maybe she was too disturbed and depressed to notice and associated whatever symptom she got with her trauma. I mean can you really think clearly in a situation like that ? Also many babies remain still for the duration of the pregnancy........or maybe it was just a me thing