I had a date with someone and not even 10 minutes in, she says that she noticed my nails were short so I explained it’s just a bad habit and she says nail biting is a huge red flag since it means I’m insecure and overthink and that’s just like all her exes. I was so blown away I just said well I guess we’re done here and walked up to pay for what we ordered and told em to give the food to the chefs or toss it. Didn’t want her to get a free meal. Guys felt for me so crossed out my bill. I lost a date but got a good friend. Love yah Ivan.

@TheWaslijn

Жыл бұрын

hey man, getting a friend out of that experience is worth a lot, you should thank the girl, lmao

@TheMastermind729

Жыл бұрын

Legend

@knightghaleon

Жыл бұрын

That’s a brilliant bro move man. Never reward her for wasting your time.

@user-qh9vh9em6r

Жыл бұрын

@@Kaldzi1993 yeah but he’s a millionaire lol. He can get him one of them filipinas or foreign girls

@RodrigoMartinez-si4oc

Жыл бұрын

Well done !!!

In the year 2009. I had this revelation that I was a massive loser. I started this whole "Self improvement" thing. I was 25. Now in 2022. I am definitely still a loser. But I am a happier loser, at 38.

@TheSonOfDumb

Жыл бұрын

You could say you're a winner at losing

@lucadesanctis563

Жыл бұрын

Rip

@Zerroth

Жыл бұрын

Ouch

@danielomar9712

Жыл бұрын

And that's what we all want , no? Happy?

@deepdream19

Жыл бұрын

Happiness is most important

W. Thanks for reacting to this and even sharing my links in the description

@JibanExE

Жыл бұрын

Not all that bad your take on Tinder But is a very small expectrum of peoples relationship, it was way over emphatized for the merit of the video I guess, but to reach the conclusion that "lack of love makes coutries go to war / to the ground..." is way way beyond your paychek. Is not that simple, expecialy using Tinder as the major parameter for "man not reaching love" is too litle for such a conclusion Also feminism doesn't have all this protagonism with these dinamics, if anything feminism would have a hard time agreeing with tinder, because is a APP with objetification as it front end; Machism explains way more of this "fenomenon" And is pretty evident you kinda seem to have the notion that every woman is like your average tiktok, only fans girls, ignoring how unique every individual tends to be, your analyzes needs to comes first from the culture then to individuals or else ocurs the risk to be similar to "Red pills coaches" And yes, is cringe using alpha/beta, those notions are false by every definition (including when analising wolfs)

@shaivjoshi4063

Жыл бұрын

@@JibanExE Those notions are correct when you see that the ones who are successful have many qualities that are theorised to be "alpha"

@JibanExE

Жыл бұрын

@@shaivjoshi4063 They are completly false, and hold no merits to any sociologist or psicologist A mere fabrication, a coplete romantization of liberalism and capitalism lies over false meritocracy I know, and a'm plenty suscesfull, and all those false "Apha, beta sigma" rethorics are just good to people that believes that porn is some sort of documentary

@ohmygodbecky6829

Жыл бұрын

@@JibanExE how do you spell tinder right the first time and then wrong the second time

@Arcticanine

Жыл бұрын

Btw, what's the hoodie you were wearing in this recording? I'm genuinely curious

"A man that you know will commit suicide within the next 2-3 years" That hit me hard as fuck, I know a suicidal person that I want to help get back on the right track.

@ericneo2

Жыл бұрын

Do it because no one else is going to help them. Even if you just call them to say hi.

@lukamagicc

Жыл бұрын

Start w mental health, then physical. Find out what makes you happy and avoid comparisons. Working out consistently also is a huge help IF you do it for yourself

@dp582

Жыл бұрын

oh shit am i that guy?

@drewber2006

Жыл бұрын

@@dp582 u need help fam? Real talk

@Glordial

Жыл бұрын

This is true, this happened to me. A cousin of a friend of mine committed suicide a couple of years ago, he was single and struggled hard before succumbing. He was a nice guy but one might call a 'beta"

It's disturbing how men's problems and mental health is just swooped under the rug to the point where suicides and people go out and becomes a shooter increases.

@lolizorz

Жыл бұрын

It's just biology bro

@iwantlee9510

Жыл бұрын

@@lolizorz everything that has ever happened to any living creature in the history of the universe existence is JuSt biOlOgY bRo

@lolizorz

Жыл бұрын

@@iwantlee9510 I was sarcasting but it's hard to tell over the internet I know

@lordhughmungus

Жыл бұрын

@@lolizorz I like the word "sarcasting". I'm stealing it.

@autisticphaglosophy7128

Жыл бұрын

@@iwantlee9510 Physicalism is false.

i am 30, have my own house, stable job, go to the gym 3x a week and live healthy. but i am introvert so still single,

@-PureRogue

Жыл бұрын

yes people overestimate looks alone, it might work on tinder , or social media behind screen, but it all falls when you have real interaction, you can be attractive ,but lack of confidence, or just personality alone can kill it.

@TheMrdrayerr

Жыл бұрын

@@-PureRogue yea confidence is not really my strong suit. but the rest of my life is going fine so i dont worry to much.

@diamondspear3328

Жыл бұрын

You need a social circle.Tinder copied grinder.

@bracedgod4505

Жыл бұрын

@@-PureRogue yeah I’m almost certain I have been masking an undiagnosed autism for nearly a quarter century. I got a girl or few in all that time but once I let my colors show they run for the hills. Apparently I have a modelesque jaw/face so it(the neurodivergence) must be BAD.

@Stefantius

Жыл бұрын

how do you go to the gym 3x a week and have zero confidence? what do you even do in there? stare at the corner?

I tried Tinder for a couple of months, a while ago. I didn't think that I'd have any problem with how shallow it all was. Once I actually got into that world, I realized that yes, I really did have a problem with it.

@ChesaYamisa

Жыл бұрын

i could honestly deal without the random swipe rights.....like...specifcally looking for people that have the same interest as me. N then i can go on from there, cus damn lol. People n mmos be way easier to get along with mho

@Goofygooberston

Жыл бұрын

@@ChesaYamisa Problem is that most people (yes including women) that use dating apps play it as safe as possible and only put in their bio stuff that's like a common denominator. Whenever I'm hanging out with friends and one of them is single we play tinder bingo. He just boots it up and we take a drink for any number of generic phrases used in the bio like "wine lover" "hiking" "wanderlust/love to travel". Everyone loves to travel. Everyone likes going on walks or hikes. Everyone likes a drink from time to time.

@dantehajime709

Жыл бұрын

Shallow is the perfect description of those dating apps 👍

@schangzz

Жыл бұрын

Its funny cause i used to use tinder and would get some likes, im not ugly. But my brother uses it who is less attractive in the face and personality, but cause hes in good shape and has abs he gets tons more likes. Its just the way it is

@ohmygodbecky6829

Жыл бұрын

@@schangzz i mean you can’t control the face you’re born with and you can’t always trust the bio’s of personality people put out there. But having a fit body is generally how people perceive someone who can put in energy or consistency towards something they want

I stopped dating because of bad experiences with women and their feelings towards my special needs son... There's only so much rejection a man can take.

@Abingdale

Жыл бұрын

My brother’s son has low-functioning Downs. He’s met a girl he’s been with for 4 years now (on OK Cupid after hundreds of dates). Whether it’s in RL or online compassionate, patient women are out there! Just def don’t focus on the hooking up aspect. ❤ don’t give up forever!

@wrhythm

Жыл бұрын

keep your head up! Wishing you and your son the best of luck, peace and happiness.

@francopanigaia2425

Жыл бұрын

Women with kids are 90% less value. Men with kids are 60% less value. You are only starting from there and taking it up a notch. Dificulty level: insanity.

@apreviousseagle836

Жыл бұрын

@@Abingdale lol

@ralkia

Жыл бұрын

@@apreviousseagle836 you're so cool

the more you replace social media and dating apps with talking to people or just hanging out being chill in public the happier you’ll be. And i’m not a boomer saying this i’m 10 years younger than Asmon and I used to use instagram like a psycho

@Zoomin69

Жыл бұрын

The further I've stray from social media, the happier I have become.

@JayBigDadyCy

Жыл бұрын

It's the truth. Left FB over a year ago (I'm 41 btw), I only have music stuff and tattoo artists and a few close friends on Instagram. Beyond that I don't engage anymore. Got tired of getting bent out of shape over shit that either doesn't matter or I have zero control over. Life is hard and complex enough and while social media on the surface looks to make it all easier, it really makes things much more difficult. And let's face it - 95% of the nasty shit people say to each other on the internet they'd NEVER say face to face. I love YT though, but it's different. I don't have to engage with people or get bent about shit. I just watch the stuff that interests me.

@hallowakers3d2y

Жыл бұрын

Really impressive for someone born into it and still younger, good for you 👍

@rightwingersexposed8800

Жыл бұрын

If you get a bad interaction from Instagram, that is your issue. I hate the fact that people are telling other people to get off it.

@janterri3539

Жыл бұрын

@@rightwingersexposed8800 The people there are strange though, it’s not entirely your fault for a bad interaction, in fact it may not be your fault at all.

This is why I don't do dating apps. It's so superficial. No genuine connection.

@elizabethm1203

Жыл бұрын

Yup even for women just no connection at all

@theshimario253

Жыл бұрын

yeah well sometimes its hard for people to find a date offline. Like where are you supposed to meet girls if you dont go to bars?

@Chopper140

Жыл бұрын

I know so many tinder babies all my friends use tinder because I’m pretty much a degenerate but I didn’t so now I don’t have to have one of these little tinder babies that cost so much life

@stephanybrown3226

Жыл бұрын

It's a catch 22 situation. Damned if you do damned if you don't.

@matthewdunann

Жыл бұрын

So you just don't date , ok.

Some advice from an old man who has been happily married for 20 years: If you are looking for a genuine connection with a partner the MOST important thing is to have the same morals / values. Obviously physical attraction is important, especially in the initial phase of the relationship, but having similar interests, or just being into someone physically, doesn't mean anything in the long run. Having the same fundamentals is what really leads to a long and satisfying relationship.

@lucadesanctis563

Жыл бұрын

Marriage is old. We should get rid of it

@simmerke1111

Жыл бұрын

Don't think I agree with it. As long as they're not dealbreakers or not coming from good intentions for everyone, just their group of people, disagreement is okay. I respect a lot of views I don't agree with, that doesn't mean I couldn't live a happy life with someone who holds those beliefs. My partner loves understanding people and why they think the way they do. And sometimes we disagree on certain things. But we keep each other intellectually honest by simply talking about it. We've both changed a lot since our relationship started. And that's okay. I'd argue we're both better people for it. My main point being: Morals and values are important. But keeping an open mind and being respectful will get you much further. Bogging yourself down into one way dialogue about too many things will make you old fast.

@stellarjayatkins4749

Жыл бұрын

@@lucadesanctis563 nope. The world is going to shit because we already have gotten rid of it.

@lucadesanctis563

Жыл бұрын

@@stellarjayatkins4749 ehm no? Marriage is simply too old considering our society. It was the right thing to do because had 0 rights back then...

@stellarjayatkins4749

Жыл бұрын

@@lucadesanctis563 what?

Watching Asmon give commentary and insight on Tinder, dating and women is like fish riding a bicycle

Tinder is not made for average men, but its made for average women, it is what it is

@vex080

Жыл бұрын

You're joking right?

@ZakuZuko

Жыл бұрын

@@vex080 is he wrong tho?

@vex080

Жыл бұрын

@@ZakuZuko Every third male account on tinder has "dtf" and "one night stand" in their bio. Maybe y'all should actually talk to women

@XxXgamerkidXxX1

Жыл бұрын

@@vex080 Do you think women's accounts aren't that?

@vex080

Жыл бұрын

@@XxXgamerkidXxX1 Oh they are, but not every third account like for the men buddy.

You know what’s destroying your mental health? Getting accustomed to quick rewards and thinking that reaching a real life accomplishment is like (or should be like) returning a 15min fucking farming quest.

@MatthewTheUntitled

Жыл бұрын

Unironically

@slendy1641

Жыл бұрын

Trueeeeeee

@ailbrown1000

Жыл бұрын

Do something else with you life rather than sitting on your ass playing games all day. If you can't differentiate video games from the real world you have issues.

@GreatJaggia

Жыл бұрын

Convenience is one hell of a drug

@SycosenMerihem

Жыл бұрын

The UPS quests in WoW give absolute shitloads of EXP. People are also forgetting they need to slay real dragons instead of virtual ones.

This has happened to me for years now on all swipe apps. Interestingly, there is research out about tinder and behavior. The results show that the mean of women swipe only the top 5% of men on apps in terms of peak physical/facial attraction. While the median to lower percent of men receive far less swipes. This notion changes within geographical location (i.e, rural, urban, and states). Overall, it's just not a good time to be a normal dude looking for love in all the wrong places, same situations just different faces.

@radiantveggies9348

Жыл бұрын

Hypergamy

@DragonBallsolosyourverse

14 күн бұрын

Dating is only for rich chads.

@DragonBallsolosyourverse

14 күн бұрын

Dating is only for rich chads

Even with social anxiety I've always managed far better in real life when it comes to talking to not just women, but people in general. Plus it's more fun keeping things low pressure for myself and seeing how they unfold through conversation.

dunno, I workout, got a degree, no debt, working, but I still can't find some girl that doesn't seem a landmine and it doesn't feel possibile. I'm even thinking about finding a GF in a foreign country lately, I'm so jaded.

@BrandonHeat243

Жыл бұрын

I feel you with that landmine comment buddy. Even in real life when I meet a woman that seem interested in me they always end up being crazy. Like there's this 20 year old chick at my work that has IMMENSE daddy issues and she likes to date all the older guys at our work. And since I'm one of the better looking and probably the most fit old guy at our company I've always been on her radar but I refuse to have anything to do with a nutcase like her. I don't even talk to her tbqh. Much to her annoyance. Lol.

@albertp3721

Жыл бұрын

Geomaxxing is the only way i can imagine right now

@AcidGubba

2 ай бұрын

Getting to know new women is a great way to combine shopping. I once encouraged a shelf filler to go shopping with me. I even got her number at the end, even though I never asked.

@oxydoxxo

2 ай бұрын

@@AcidGubba I'm sure you two make great friends

@AcidGubba

2 ай бұрын

@@oxydoxxo I never called

After a divorce and spending months alone, I turned to tinder and other dating apps just to find myself so consumed with it and basing my entire confidence on if I find a match or not. Got to the point where A girl would actually talk to me and I would just absolutely shut down and run thinking there was just no way I have a chance. Im still on that dark path but I hope i can eventually break out of it and find someone who knows

@elorateq3672

Жыл бұрын

Better to find something you're interested in doing, like a craft class or sport or helping out a charity like a foodbank. If you happen to find someone through that, then that's a plus. If you don't, at least you've had a day out rather than a day getting depressed. (Been there, done that, still living single because of it, and only just starting to like myself again).

@marcuskeil420

Жыл бұрын

Uninstall. Simple. Talk to girls/women outside. Practise small talk. Where you get your coffee. Your beer. Doesn't matter. Gain confidence. Confidence is key.

@Hectizzle702

Жыл бұрын

@@marcuskeil420 yi did, Im new to the city I dont drink at all lol But lately ive just been doing my own thing gym, hikes, fishing etc on my own and its been pretty nice. Own pace own time nothing to worry about has been pretty amazing

@abel6298

Жыл бұрын

Read your bible! (KJV, preferably) ♥‎ ‎‎ ‎ ‎‎ ‎ ‎‎ ‎ ‎‎ ‎‎

@dreamerlotus

Жыл бұрын

​@elorateq3672 this exactly. Never met someone decent on the apps, found my best relationships through mutual friends.

Sounds pretty spot on, I've been single since I was 22 and am now turning 30 in a few months. Definitely hard for average or what some would think of as below average men, I dont own assets or a vehicle nor a house so my odds of dating is basically 0 because nobody dates someone for just who they are anymore.

@TCPMCE7122

Жыл бұрын

And you know what that gives you a deadline to take strides to become better, strides to become more than what you are now… keep on fighting man because the fight isn’t over yet! ❤❤❤

@SkeletonYuth69

Жыл бұрын

@@TCPMCE7122 To become better ? I dont want to own any of those so if anything it would be to become more valuable to other women and in that case Im more than alright lol

@TCPMCE7122

Жыл бұрын

@@SkeletonYuth69 Awesome!

@apreviousseagle836

Жыл бұрын

I have assets, cars, house, job, etc. But I will never accept a woman into my domain unless she's proven to be humble and worthy. Guess how many have been here? Zero. But I don't own any of what I have to chase women.

@SkeletonYuth69

Жыл бұрын

@@apreviousseagle836 Is that suppose to be motivating ? Lmao

I saw the mess online dating is and just had 0 motivation to even start trying. I'll just stick to staying healthy, progressing my career, hanging out with friends, and enjoying life. I'll keep my eyes out and see if I find someone that is a good match for me along the way, but if I don't, it is what it is. A good relationship with friends and family is honestly already enough for a super introvert like me.

@angrycatalan325

8 күн бұрын

What if you don't have any familly or friends? Not that easy...

I used tinder 3 times. I lasted 3 days each time. There was a warm feeling of freedom each time I deleted the app.

I remember Tinder published some numbers on this a few years ago and yeah, the top 5-10% of guys are swimming in a sea of women, while the bottom 90%+ can't hardly get the time of day. If I remember right, OkCupib also had the same conclusion from their study on it. Online dating is GREAT for the Brad Pitts, but a nightmare for the average man.

@Highstar25

Жыл бұрын

more vindictively, they directly profit from ensuring that that is the status quo. That way they can sell expensive self-promotion subscriptions to desperate men who otherwise wouldn't even display on women's feeds.

@edgeofdecember_2880

Жыл бұрын

@@goodlookinouthomie1757 eh sure every man of every age is looking for a 23yr but hey most of us will take anything elce at the same time for a short time.

@DatAsianGuy

Жыл бұрын

@@goodlookinouthomie1757 23 year old is apparently the peak "sexual market value"

@MasterIceyy

6 ай бұрын

I remember watching something called tinder insights and one 40 year old women slept with 38 guys in a month

@MagicManAleister

2 ай бұрын

Hoe_math has a few videos on this, highly reccomend checking them out.

I'm at least a solid 6/10 and I can say that I doubt I'd even be able to get a 3/10 on tinder even though I'm relatively confident in my ability to get 7/10's or 8/10's in real life Just by being a reasonable person that people want to be around. Online dating Is a monster and I've never thought worse about myself than when I was trying to use it.

@karl7487

Жыл бұрын

Everyone thinks they are better than average, but the bell curve suggests otherwise

@PhillyCh3zSt3ak

Жыл бұрын

Most guys, as long as you have a stable job, take care of hygiene, and dress moderately well for your body type are average.

@gspcro9047

Жыл бұрын

@@PhillyCh3zSt3ak well, no shit Sherlock. Never thought that „most“ and „average“ make so much sense together. Always associated „average“ with a ridiculously small subset of men.

@flutterwind7686

Жыл бұрын

@@karl7487 What he's saying is that IRL > Online.

@vashlash6870

Жыл бұрын

5 is technically average. Think of what the average person looks like in the entire world. Not very handsome at all. So if you're even slightly attractive you might be a 7.

Imagine getting a lesson on being a responsible adult from a twitch streamer through a parable on how he should've failed high school math, but scraped by sheerly on the merits of how bad his school was. What the f*ck has life become?

@comdrive3865

10 ай бұрын

thing is life has always been this shitty for some people. But with the internet, we see more of it out in the open

@mariostiven5532

7 ай бұрын

not to mention the streamer is probably the farthest thing from what you would want to be, even said it himself

never use dating apps to find a wife lmao, as a matter of fact, just drop most social media as a whole, and see who your real friends are.

@blakecheboygan

Жыл бұрын

Don’t know anyone who is using tinder to get a wife. It is for getting laid my dude.

@Majin_Fuu

Жыл бұрын

And it gives you more to talk about not sharing your life on social media. Haven't talked to someone in a few months, easy to be on the phone for hours just catching up

@gamingking1

Жыл бұрын

I don't meet women in real life though. Dating apps are my only chance.

@BictorBerro

Жыл бұрын

@@gamingking1 L

@itsBOUBAKA

Жыл бұрын

your

Im 33 and had some good luck in my early 20s. I don't date anymore and essentially live a volcel life as the mental state of most women I encounter is in the absolute dumps. Also, seeing enough of my friends get railroaded really quick in their marriages, including my own dad, makes me extremely averse to dating now.

@Cruz474

Жыл бұрын

Yep. Quality of women is definitely down. I'm not mad about it, opens up a whole world of things for me to do for fun as a single man with a good job.

@gubzs

Жыл бұрын

@@Cruz474 Kinda based and true here, this is the way. I'm mostly chilling, stopped caring. I paid to see who likes me on those sites and I'm just hands off. If I'm interested in someone who likes me, then I engage, otherwise I just focus on me, my health, having fun, etc.

@inscription8099

Жыл бұрын

I feel like even if I get a woman, I'm gonna have to change everything about my life for her to just leave eventually. Maybe I'm pessimistic but I've had love before and now I have trust issues I guess.

@senjusan6359

Жыл бұрын

You should for sure stop avoiding commas in your sentences my dude

@jackzeldon2883

Жыл бұрын

Once you hit mid 30's all the advantage goes to men...... remember women are not Looks - centric.... if you have a nice personality & have your life in order they GROW attracted to you..... but you cant do that on a Dating App - so stay off them..... Girls want to feel safe.... be positive, funny & calm...... get involved w/ 1 or 2 local charities & you will meet lots of nice women - but be patient & don't pre-judge any situation...... it's like waiting for all the traffic lights to turn green at the same time before you leave for a trip..... that's Never going to happen - Nothing in life is perfect...... Once you get into your 30's & older any single women you meet are already divorced or have been through some bad relationships so they are desperate to meet a decent man let's keep it real - Dating Apps are short cuts.... & how do Most short cuts work out in life? Not good right Get involved w/ a charity or church or volunteer work so you put yourself in a No pressure situation where you can meet women w/ no expectations & practice talking people - that will develop your personality the key is ask a lot of Questions - focus on the person you are talking to - LISTEN, ask follow up questions, focus on making THEM feel comfortable Too many guys treat talking to a woman like it's a Job interview - they start listing their assets not even realizing they have been talking about themselves the Entire time & of course the woman starts to feel the Creep factor remember, expectations lead to resentment - so get involved in a charity & make it an exercise in working on your personality & over-coming shyness by meeting people, have lots of conversations, ask lots of questions & LISTEN & have fun..... & don't think "If I dont get a # I failed" - remove all those negative expectations - just enjoy yourself & relax Sorry this is so long....... & I know it's painful when you feel isolated & alone....... but I agree w/ my man here - once you go down that road of blame your lost b/c it just doesn't help you in the long run - it makes you feel worse So seek out solutions

I like how Asmon uses math to calculate the points he would be able to obtain for not studying for a math test in a math class that he didnt want to learn from.

I just felt tired of having no friends so I asked for friendships online on some random forum. I met this woman, we became friends, I was clingy AF and then several months later we're in a relationship. We've been together for 10 years now and have a child together. Thanks to her I have a great job and we own the place we live in and without loans. Some people are just lucky I guess :-) I've never dated anyone. This is my first and only relationship. And it's not like we're ugly. We're pretty decent looking. So it's not out of desperation. The relationship just happened by "mistake". She just wanted to find new friends and I just wanted to find any friends. And also, not every woman goes for the highest income and survivability. I had absolutely nothing and she had everything. Now we're pretty equal but in the beginning I wasn't far from living on the streets. I guess she fell for me and not for what I had, because I had nothing. I was in pieces. And neither of us is on social media. I use Reddit and YT and maybe that counts, but Twitter or any other platform where people desperate for attention is isn't interesting.

@Sorine9

5 ай бұрын

At which point the friendship turned into a relationship? How did that happen?

@shin-ishikiri-no

5 ай бұрын

Why do we men give credit to women for doing things when in reality they were just along for the ride while we worked? It's weird, and seems to be part of the justification for things like alimony. Just doesn't make sense to me.

The feels when you finally get a phone number on tinder, but when you called, all she talks about is your car's extended warranty. Or if you're open-minded when it comes to business.

@impressions1812

Жыл бұрын

“Something in the way”

@impressions1812

Жыл бұрын

@@goodlookinouthomie1757 Lamar got a point

@Tea_Dawg

Жыл бұрын

My last date complained about her past 6 exs and said it was said that I don't have exs, she ghosted me

Did tinder as a joke with a bunch of buds when we all turned 18. After 6 months, I was the only one using it non-jokingly. It sucked for a while, met some people, didn't pan out. I eventually got into my first relationship almost 2 years after I started using tinder. That relationship lasted 3 months and the whole situation of toxicity (admittedly on both ends) lasted until she blocked me 6 months after meeting her. So least to say after my experiences: Tinder is balls

@OLBarbok

Жыл бұрын

What did you expect going straight into dating without having a proper friendship first where you learn about each other?

@moth3804

Жыл бұрын

@@OLBarbok Trust me I know, I've already mulled it over and even whenever everything turned into a dumpster fire I knew I should have gotten to know her better. Was caught up in that little teen-romance/naive-infatuation to even stop anything that was happening. Didn't help she got with a friend I respected a week after me and her broke up so, least to say there was a lot of things I didn't expect lmfao

@beelbrother1648

Жыл бұрын

i met my wife through tinder in 2016 and our son is 2 years old now. we're both super introverted and wouldn't have found each other without it.

@beelbrother1648

Жыл бұрын

@Barbok the point of tinder is to connect and meet people so you can become friends and establish a relationship. I've seen your other posts in this comment section and you seem truly confused about that.

@moth3804

Жыл бұрын

@@taylorg8509 Definitely, I met some pretty good friends through a tinder match two years ago, so there were some good moments. Even that relationship I wrote about was great for a time. How I was able to get matches is beyond me

Never got why anybody would use dating websites/apps, they're so weirdly superficial and the thought of meeting a stranger for dates just on the basis of their looks is really weird.

Got divorced a few years ago and just said "fuck it" to dating. I'm more financially well off than i've ever been and I have 50% custody of my children. Life is good.

I cant explain how bad it felt for my confidence when i went on tinder as a dumbass 23 year old only to get no likes at all after 1000+ swipes, i felt like i was the most disgusting person that has ever existed. The matches i did get were awful too as some just liked me to roast me or not respond at all, ironically this all changed when i travelled to Japan and got a shit ton of likes because i was a foreigner and my brain went oh all these hot women like me so i cant be that bad looking and my confidence came back but in turn i understood the whole system that i had lost myself in and was able to go back to feeling good again. Never use any dating app seriously if you do because it will just fuck you up mentally, at best use it as a chance or entertainment

@flipina

Жыл бұрын

I have the same experience. Local Tinder, no matches few likes. Then I go to Europe or AU and I get tons of likes. And it's just what my friend said, I'm Asian and it's somehow a factor. So do I move countries now??? 😂

@Ren_1106

Жыл бұрын

Preach bro.

@kane2440

Жыл бұрын

man thank god my mentality isen"t any were near that weak holy shit and im 19 guess we all mature at different ages

@edilangsultan3522

Жыл бұрын

When I put my job on it though, I attract 18-20 years old lol. But I also discovered that erm, trans folks love me, so I got an option 🤔

@eetu45

Жыл бұрын

It's not just about getting likes and matches. People often forget that there are other problems as well like how tinder has changed how women behave. They have become entitled and full of themselves. I tried tinder for 4 years and in terms of getting likes and matches it worked pretty well for me because i'm handsome, i had hundreds of matches and likes but i didn't get a single one of them on a date. Usually when i messaged someone they either ignored me, were very passive towards me or just mean in general. Most of the time what ended up happening was that i messaged someone, they would respond in very short sentences and it was pretty much only on my shoulders to keep the conversation going and this is only 1 example and i would give more but this message is already long. This shows what i was talking about earlier how women have become full of themselves, atleast on tinder they literally expect men to do everything and someone like me who wants equality, that we split things up and you know share responsibility, this is impossible in tinder. You either do all the work and maybe get someone or you don't get anyone if you expect equality which is funny because at the same time all the leftist women yell stuff about equality, well it's not hard to figure out that men are left out of that equality. So my point here is that even someone that belongs to the top 10% and can get lots of likes and matches, it's not easy for us either and i refuse to play these stupid fucking games with these women, i refuse to be their servant. Things weren't always like this. Before tinder and social media women would have to do something as well to get men, it wasn't like now where women can just play tinder and let men do all the work. So don't feel bad even if you don't get likes and matches because they don't mean jack shit. If you want to get women through tinder prepare to lose all your self respect and be prepared to just serve women and maybe you will get some pussy maybe you don't, but it will be far from equality and you will have to do more work than women.

A lot of people often don't realize that most long-lasting relationships start in friendships, Im always baffled by who thinks straight up going down the relationship route without being friends first is a good idea. You gotta get to know someone properly first after all.

@Cbd_7ohm

Жыл бұрын

No one mentioned long term relations. It could be any relationship. The Male virginity rate is significantly higher than the female virginity rate. It has gone up over the last few decades while the female virginity rate has remained the same. The single motherhood rate has gone up. Marriage rate gone down. Divorce rate gone up.

@franciscopereira5760

Жыл бұрын

asmongold has absolutely no ideia what he is talking about, in the past he used to say, he doesnt like to talk about sht he doesnt know, and now, he is constantly talking about evertything

@crimsiden

Жыл бұрын

Guys are just afraid of getting trapped in that friend zone. Then proceeds to hold the girl's purse as she goes into the bathroom to screw his best friend.

@sere971

Жыл бұрын

@@franciscopereira5760 I'm sure you know a lot about the topics you disagree with him on though, eh? You're allowed to have an opinion and call yourself informed but the second someone says something you dislike they're "not qualified and don't know what they're talking about" without going into a *single* specific point. This sort of cringe vague comment is so pointless and lacks any sort of self awareness. If you wanna disagree with someone and say they don't know what they're talking about then at least point out what you're disagreeing with and present a counterargument, especially because nothing in the comment you replied to is disagreeing with something Asmon said.

@AnimosityIncarnate

Жыл бұрын

I fucking agree, the issue with this is obviously quite clear tho, tinder will very rarely ever lead to this panning out.

I understand the skepticism, and it's def mostly an issue of natural human biology as well, but the Tinder problem really does feel like a pretty big deal even in later 20's dating situations. I've been hanging out in a group with this girl recently (whom I had met naturally in person, not on a dating app), and I felt like we had a lot of good flirting and chemistry going on, but then right out of the blue she mentions this guy from Tinder she's just starting dating... Never mentioned this guy before in previous hangouts, even with all the flirting I thought we had going on. I felt cock-blocked so hard 😂 yeah, my fault for not being the better guy, but this also wasn't a guy she would have ever met in person without Tinder 🙄

@fiat_ow7876

Жыл бұрын

exhibit A. Girl finds a hot guy on tinder and leaves you in the dust. You did nothing wrong obviously but thats how it is nowadays.

@ShatteringBlade

Жыл бұрын

@@fiat_ow7876 haha, I'm sure I did plenty wrong, but I'm also just too average to be interesting for girls man 😂 next time I make a semi-decent friendship with a girl I'm attracted to, I'm just going to ask her out on a date a lot sooner than this time, it doesn't pay to wait on it forever because of the fear of rejection

@fiat_ow7876

Жыл бұрын

@@ShatteringBlade thats a good approach, I wish you luck my man. I'm too jaded from all this blackpill stuff to even try.

@ShatteringBlade

Жыл бұрын

@@fiat_ow7876 broooo, don't give up!! I definitely get pretty depressed from all the setbacks of recent years, but there's always a silver-lining. Sure I don't have a girl in my life right now, but recently I've been getting into rock climbing as a hobby after work, and that's been pretty good for me. This week I bought a nice new jacket that looks good on me, and my confidence feels a bit better. I'm trying to smile more and hold better eye contact with girls, and that's also making me feel better. Sure, we aren't going to build Rome in a day and that can be discouraging, but just placing 1 brick at a time can really make a difference. Don't give up man, I'm sure you can offer so much to a relationship, it just takes time

@fiat_ow7876

Жыл бұрын

@@ShatteringBlade I appreciate that man, you seem like a great guy. I'm not ugly at all, got some good things going for me right now, finishing college and going to get a good job out of school. Physique is good as well. Girls just seem to want more than that unfortunately.

Problem with tinder is that all your human values determined by your looks and probably money. So everything else is not visible, like your confidence, stability, strenght, courage, humor and etc.

I used to go to high school in a small town, like 30 people per grade. In my high school, everyone knew each other since they were little. There were some couples that were 3-4 years together already. That’s because they were the only options for each other. And, in my opinion, most of the girls in my grade were really attractive in comparison to the guys. I don’t think that happens often in bigger cities because there’s so many options + tinder. Tinder encourages relationships based off of looks, but in the real world people choose who’s best for them based on availability and compatibility. You can’t beat hundreds of guys but you can try to be the best option in a group. With all that being said, I’m a girl. I was at that high school for 4 years. No boys ever liked me because I was ugly in comparison to the girls. It doesn’t just happen to guys lol. Now I’m choosing to improve myself. I may never be a model but one day I’ll find someone, tinder just isn’t the place I’ll go looking.

@soonerthanlater8206

Жыл бұрын

Bet you a scratch ticket there were a few boys that slipped behind your vision zone ... its it's understanding that has me joking about your comment. Esp small town situations, often its difficult to even be understood when you are too eccentric or happy in your own. Then again, you may be hidious you may have big time visible flaws ... maybe not theres no knowing from my (our) end how less attractive you would seem. Oh, allright now. Thats enough. Come by our channel and say hello.

@ZapatosVibes

Жыл бұрын

Great perspective, nice to hear it from both sexes. Good on you!

@_Lumiere_

Жыл бұрын

Did you actually put yourself out there and ask guys out? Because most guys will do A LOT of that. Dont assume that no one would like you, even then, just because youre not being asked out.

@014Darkness

Жыл бұрын

I bet if you had tinder, only 1 pic would get you a lot of men. Men nowadays dont even look at people they are liking, they just swipe right one everyone

@pete5516

Жыл бұрын

@@_Lumiere_ a lot of guys don’t understand their boundaries and only ask out girls who are way out of their league (at least most guys I’ve known) Especially young guys, they often don’t understand why girls wouldn’t find them attractive… and just like asmon said, it works out 1% of the time but that makes other guys think they can achieve the same thing, so they ignore the ugly girls. This happens both ways with both genders, but in high school literally no one knows anything about what makes them attractive they only have positive and negative psychological reinforcement that may or may not be correct.

Men's mental health in general is not taken seriously. So I expect nothing to change

There was a time where I yearned for love and connection, but that was a long time ago; and I have since had my eyes opened to the cold, harsh truth of life: all relationships, be they between family, friends, lovers, or even mere acquaintances, are conditional, transactional, and ultimately superficial - you would be better off digging through dumpsters in search of gold than fraternizing with other people in hopes of finding pure, unconditional love or friendship.

That video took an insane turn. People get mad at the world and spend all their time complaining and shifting blame, but won’t take a second to take a look in the mirror and fix themselves.

@alexcannon9364

Жыл бұрын

He isn't wrong though. For an average guy Tinder is a waste of time. Go pick a girl up in a bar.

@KingOfBlades27

2 ай бұрын

In many cases there is nothing to fix. Being a normal dude just isn't enough anymore.

@kenkessler301

2 ай бұрын

@@KingOfBlades27 Thinking there is nothing to fix is a problem in of itself. Everyone has ways to improve themselves no matter who they are.

I met my wife on tinder, but my before I met her I loved tinder back in the day. If you have good pictures you can kill it on there (5-6 years ago), but I’m so glad I’m not swiping anymore. I can’t imagine having to go back to that, had to put so much into my online image (Instagram ect) it’s truly a degenerative place.

@KeytarArgonian

Жыл бұрын

Exactly the same story, and you would actually get more hits from just being totally brutally honest in your Bio. And then, have 2/3 OTHER apps on the go at the same time. But yeah… then I married one lmao 🤣

@matklm

5 ай бұрын

I also met my wife on Tinder years ago. The same thing happened to my best friend. So I don't have bad memories of this app

@sharkpyro93

3 ай бұрын

@@matklm try using it daily for 1 year and still get 0 match, a good picture can help but in the end its all about the look

@spankyspork5808

Ай бұрын

It's a lot harder to get matches now than it was 5 years ago. I get maybe 10% of the matches now that I used to get.

tinder sucks, its full of fake accounts with women that are too unrealistically hot. I used to get a few matches back in the day, but not anymore. Also, society is mostly made of average ,men, also average women. The percentage of people that look really hot is actually small.

@MrHued

Жыл бұрын

To add fuel to this fire: there are now filters on apps that beautify faces by fixing up unwanted facial features. The technology behind this has been increasing throughout the years to the point that it gets harder to detect a fake from a glance. Don't be surprised if people on dating apps abuse these beautifying filters to increase their odds at snagging a match.

@Dampfaeus

Жыл бұрын

There's also the chance that the hot, muscled guy, that works as a bricklayer, is really dumb and gets loud and aggressive later on. Yea, great job getting one of those :p Why do I say this? My neighbor is one of those. Got a hot wife and 2 kids. They walk to the house and the little girl (4-5 years) falls down and starts crying, and he starts shouting really loud "CAN YOU STOP LYING AROUND AND START MOVING!!" and the little girl starts crying even louder. What a great guy.

@will_9910

Жыл бұрын

Also left out the egotistical women who string along and play games because "they can" since they knowingly have 50 other guys in their dm's hyping them up to the stratosphere. Grown ass women playing high school games. I've always found that cringe.

@snook.1

Жыл бұрын

Move to Sweden.

I'm a 28 year-old man who is 6'1" and I've never been rejected! . . . because I never even tried asking a girl out. I knew that I was kind of a loser growing up, so I figured trying to ask a girl out would be a futile endeavor. Now that I'm older and feel more comfortable in my own skin, I'm never around people my own age. I'm almost thirty, and have never held hands with a girl or had a first kiss or even a date. Nowadays, I focus on my goal to be a self-employed illustrator/animator. And I work out a bit in the hopes that if I do meet a nice girl, she might give me a chance.

@dreamerlotus

Жыл бұрын

I hope you find someone wonderful. Being artistic and laid back about meeting someone puts you miles ahead of most people on these apps.

@bro918

11 ай бұрын

so ur gonna be a wizard in 2 years????

@WaywardZombie

2 ай бұрын

Bruh

@jacobmansfield-go9fz

2 ай бұрын

​@dreamerlotus no it doesn't.

I never thought I was consider myself lucky in this area because the heartbreak took form in 5 years of misery, but I am glad I had the opportunity to fall in love early and pre Tinder. It's rough out there these days, and I don't feel compelled to find a partner, been there done that, checked off my bucket list 10/10 would never do it again

Yeah tinder is brutal… I managed to get one date off the app I thought we hit it off well but after the first date I got ghosted.. and then anyone I’d match with after was just scam accounts. Tinder makes you feel more like shit than good especially if you are a guy.

@gubzs

Жыл бұрын

I got two dates, both times I thought they were cute, we got along, but there was no personality connection, like, at all. Tinder is horrible about that. Had much more luck on other sites where they actually try to match your personalities up.

@josiahclarke3535

Жыл бұрын

@@gubzs Grindr is better for this shit even. :^)

@gubzs

Жыл бұрын

@@josiahclarke3535 Wouldn't surprise me, it's dead in my region though. I live in rural hell.

@yerpderp6800

Жыл бұрын

I fucking hated Tinder, it made me feel like I'm being propped up for display with a bunch of other dudes for girls to go window shopping. It felt so degrading to me, I always had more luck talking with girls IRL.

@asteria9963

Жыл бұрын

I love how everybody swears they're a good guy. You never see anyone say "You know what? It didn't work out for me, and it's my fault. Because I'm a shit guy." Most men who are on these platforms are simply incompetent. That's a hard fact. If any of you feel insulted by that statement, good. Let it be your motivation to improve and become a better person. You're welcome.

In life everyone has to play the hand of cards they're dealt. Some people have a good one, some people have a bad one. You just have to accept it because there is no mulligan.

@kopicat2429

Жыл бұрын

@@liamashton645 True. But there are also a ton of things you can do to actually look better. Go to a hair stylist, hair styles can change how you look a lot. Same with clothes. Workout at a gym. Eat better. Use skin products(plenty of stuff for men too), and more. So while it's absolutely true that genetics decide your starting point, your foundation. It doesn't fully decide the end product. Not with so many options out there. And these things doesn't cost all that much either.

@SkaffaS

Жыл бұрын

most people just have mediocre hands.

@wowZhenek

Жыл бұрын

My squint eyes, balding head and missing frontal teeth kinda disagree with you. There is nothing I can do about it. I gave up on tinder after not getting anywhere. Life is just too hard. So, at 31 now I'm pretty much committed to dying alone. And I don't blame anyone but my bad luck, lol. I mean, at least I have 2 higher degrees, very well paid job, 4 working limbs and no drug/alchohol addiction or any chronic diseases that require permanent medication ... what else do I need to be happy ... right ... right?

@2kloco

Жыл бұрын

I Fold

@Darkclowd

Жыл бұрын

@@johanlahti84 only a small portion even try to play. People get caught up feeling sorry for themselves. Once that happens, you're fucked until you get out of that mindset.

20 years ago, already had all the problems of the dating apps and social media. The dating apps and social media just poured gas on an existing destructive fire. This is a multi-generational series of problems stacked on top of each other.

Lol. I love how he starts saying that the problem is Tinder and then he just moves to saying that most men are doomed and that Tinder just reflects reality

@inscription8099

Жыл бұрын

It's more like any woman who has hooked up on tinder already has skewed standards so it's essentially like the damage is done

@Nrt2Pnt0

Жыл бұрын

We know male nature, dudes will thirst until the end of time. It's the skew from reality that's hurting everyone's chances of pairing on their level. But like Inscription ^just said "the damage is done"

@arnejeder840

Жыл бұрын

topic is ambiguous itself, thats where the interpretation comes from. I have friends who regularly dating and sleeping with women but give very little thought about their looks beyond basic hygiene and have absolutely zero game and dont want to leave to house except to work EVER. but with enough swipes and hours of carefully crafting text messages, they actually get to meet woman.

@haruyanto8085

Жыл бұрын

Tinder is trash don't use it lol

@jcon2060

Жыл бұрын

Hamza is a problematic content creator. He's a gateway to MGTOW and TRP circles. Stay away.

I don't like dating apps. using them feels like I'm window browsing for people. It's one of the most egregious examples to me of how people are just another product to be pushed. And that's a very scary thought. When people are akin to the produce you examine at the store, something is wrong.

@asteria9963

Жыл бұрын

So true it's scary

I’ve never had a problem with Tinder, I usually am pretty open and honest with whoever I talk to and we have a good time and know we aren’t committing to anything too serious.

When I used dating sites, the one thing that always annoyed me was "just ask" or "I never know what to say" single sentence profiles. Unless they're doing something I'm interested in, there's literally nothing for me to go off of with a pic to start a conversation outside the same questions everyone asks, or going "dur, pretty." At least if they bothered to write a profile I can ask a few details from that, assuming it doesn't scream "RUN!"

@xelatonivs8691

Ай бұрын

And “down to earth” and “love to laugh.”

The best advice i can give you, a total stranger to save your life and mental health. Leave all social platforms and with that you wont compare yourself with others. Every comparision adds little by little mental health damage eventhough you dont think of it. Quit that,get a job if you dont have one and probably most stereotypical advice is go to the gym. You can thank me few years later.

Im an average looking guy im 36 years and my whole life ive been miserable as fuck when it comes to dating😂. Most of my experience with women sucked , and for the most part I never have no one interested in me😂 it is what it is

@ildisiri

Жыл бұрын

So was it just bad luck or what is/was the problem?

@Finalape

Жыл бұрын

I was in a similar situation and decided I didn't want to be alone. I went to real dating sites (not swiping) paid the money for the site so I could meet other people who want a relationship and willing to pay some money for it. I realized messaging people is worthless. Set up a date and go. I went on lots of dates 1-3 times with people until I got better at conversation and knowing what I liked in a person (and in turn became more confident and date-able). I met someone I felt like I wanted to be with after 2-3 months of work and got married a year later. It's doable, not just it is what it is

@aligenc659

Жыл бұрын

@@Finalape where are you from?

Watched the whole video thinking this was gonna be a movie review and thought the crappy pants camp story was the intro...😂😂 captivating even forgot myself.

The whole teir system is insane. My grandparents we not on the same level, grandpa was a doc and grandma was a stay at home mom, high school education and he never made her feel than or he's too good for her. He always said she's too good for him. I'm lucky my spouse and i are somewhat on the same leverl but we see it as a tier. Thats is sad and unfortunate for young people. My heart breaks for them and im only 30. There is no such thing as a high value person, we are all valuable and matter. So sad man, this is why so many people struggle with mental health and low self-esteem

"Know what matters and do that" - this was my strategy for college. I got terrible grades in high-school but honors in college cause I gave each professor what they liked on the work . Ez

I had one bad experience on a dating website over 19 years ago and I swore to never ever do it again because the women on there were crazy and toxic. Not surprising to hear that dating apps and websites have gotten worse.

@kellybrandmeyer8654

Жыл бұрын

yeah, tens of thousands of women are all toxic and crazy but you're the normal one.

@kane2440

Жыл бұрын

internet was out back then?

@kodycore

Жыл бұрын

@@kane2440Internet was invented in the 80's my guy.

@kane2440

Жыл бұрын

@@kodycore its a joke...

@kodycore

Жыл бұрын

@@kane2440 How was I supposed to tell? Some people genuinely don't know.

I used to use Tinder, one time I did match with someone and surprisingly she insisted on messaging through Instagram. I was surprised because the convo advanced into a more "personal" social media. We both liked music and played instruments, that was nice. We spoked about favourite stuff, and she started mentioning activities she would do with her family and certain stuff happening at the moment like her dad making a smoothie or stuff like that. I was feeling a bit more interested since it escalated into a more personal place. Little did I know, she would ghost me, she started often replying late with the excuse "Oh, I fell asleep and I forgot" or "Oh, I was busy, I forgot to reply", and leaving me on seen after she, herself, taking the initiative of texting me. Thank goodness in that moment of my life I was done with the BS from women. The last message she sent was another "apology" for leaving me on read and I just left her on read and proceeded with my life and mingle in the meantime.

Both people need to put in effort. If one side fails on the effort the relationship is doomed. Love is about being selfless.

In the end, tinder is damaging more people than it makes happy.

The only reason Ive used Tinder is because I work 12 hours a day so its hard to meet anyone working in my field.

@MASSIVEMAN-wb1zx

Жыл бұрын

Maybe consider getting a new job my man. Life is so much more than working. You'll more likely regret working too much rather than too little on your deathbed. Best of luck in life

@lucadesanctis563

Жыл бұрын

Look for a new job. This is not living at all

@martinwildey6857

Жыл бұрын

I enjoy my job though lol

Isn't it crazy how big tech are completely oblivious to all the problems they've created.

all of this is so true. ive online dated off and on for years and it just destroys your ego and confidence. finally match someone worth talking to and they disappear without a word or come up with some bs excuse as to why youre not perfect for them. then you start matching a bit below your standards cuz you just want to feel accepted/wanted in some way. but then when those do it too or reject you then its just a bad dark hole you can easily get sucked in to. eventually you are just so full of disappointment and spite that even if you do come across someone decent, you tend to ruin it before it begins by assuming the worst and saying something stupid because of your bad experiences. i've definitely noticed that its extremely hard for people to have a conversation with someone for more than a couple days when they have unlimited supply of other opportunities at the swipe of a finger.

My relationship advice for single people is just don't look for relationships, look for friendships, it might blossom into something more. Don't focus on a bf/gf! Just find yourself some cool friends to hang out with. Of all the boyfriends I've had, the best ones have been when I wasn't actively looking for one. The worst have all beem when I were actively looking. Plus, Grindr and Tinder did nothing but make me really uncombable. It's all just people trying to hit on me, I hated it so damn much.

@iLLya_

Жыл бұрын

I second this friendship that develops into love is way better and more secure but there is also a chance that you might lose a friend

@crimsiden

Жыл бұрын

Reality; while you are trying to be her bestie, Tommy already fucked her twice. Looking for friendship with the idea that it will lead to something more is silly. Better advice; Do your own thing, have fun, and don't look for something serious. Every time I have had luck with women, it's been by accident in some random meetup or cafe.

@sirprize5191

Жыл бұрын

That's because you're a female. You can use the words "of all the bfs I've had" and you also said there were lots of good ones too, and have the abundancy of good and bad to compare the two groups. You reflect only the female reality, not the man's reality: The one where not looking for one is dying alone if you're an average male. And when he tries, even if he finds someone, the woman he finds never had to work on herself her whole life because her being dry, boring and average is still seen as valuable by default and likely talks like you do, 2000 exes and can csually reminisce about "of all the best ones." And you know why, that's because they were probably guys that had to improve themselves their whole life just to find a single lover.

@jtowensbyiii6018

Жыл бұрын

Fantasy talk, finding friends isn't much of a reality anymore

@haruyanto8085

Жыл бұрын

That's good advice, but if you want a relationship just go for it, but don't use dating apps lol, talk to women irl

Why should a 5 girl accept a 5 guy when she can wait for an 8 to pop up? That's what Tinder is for.

@KingOfBlades27

2 ай бұрын

The reality is that an 8+ will never actually pop up.

@_Brutal_

Ай бұрын

7/10 is considered the top 2%

I got into the worst relationship of my life from Tinder, and thanks to that relationship I’m banned from the app. Honestly I’m glad for it because tinder was a dumpster fire before the ban, I’m sure it’s even worse now

@archi4226

Жыл бұрын

how can you get banned from it

@karenmarsee

9 ай бұрын

dating is a waste of time now, its better to invest in self satisfaction and be selfish, everybody else is so why do i wanna get walked on for being nice to people, get food, stay home, and play games, be meh then see who really wants you

The swiping right on everything strat is counterproductive because you will get noticed by the algorhythm and eventually become shadowbanned meaning you will get even less matches if any. According to articles removing your account and creating a new one even makes it worse. You have to delete tinder and be off of it for several months for it to dissappear, maybe even longer.

shit is bad for women's health too. so many trying and succeeding at being validated then getting the impression that men are trashy while being quite trashy themselves. tinder people deserve each other

@Khunark

Жыл бұрын

this

@xecor4450

Жыл бұрын

they are not lonely and the power is theirs so its kinda deserved on their part.

@lucadesanctis563

Жыл бұрын

Women have it way easier than men. Plz be real

@smollumine5313

Жыл бұрын

karma

I love asmon but he spends 99% of his life in that chair, I don't think he has a great take or idea on the current dating situation, global population issue in the west, and the negative impacts certain movements and agendas have had on the current relationship structure in modern society. Tinder is just the first hit of cocaine that gets you hook. The other factors are the other party drugs that destroy your life.

@apan990

Жыл бұрын

very true, if i were to listen to anyone about dating advice, 10/10 times id be watching a hamza vid for it as opposed to an asmon one.

@endofexistence2149

Жыл бұрын

@@apan990 yea he was trying way too hard trying to stay within the PC progressive line so he doesn't get booted off twitch and KZread. You can tell someone is doing this because the moment they say something negative about women they immediately rush to the other side to bash men as well. It's easy to identify when the person speaking isn't being truthful to their actual position on the matter so they play both sides are bad game to stay safe which is ironic because he's always telling at blizzard about not taking risk with their content and his whole channel is void of taking risk just to appease those soft body staff members that hold his channel hostage with their narrative.

@emilymschoener9193

Жыл бұрын

I’d rather date Asmongold than this Hamza guy. Would never even consider this Hamza guy, his personality is awful.

@brb9670

Жыл бұрын

@@emilymschoener9193 Neither one of them would date you. Let's calm down now.

@emilymschoener9193

Жыл бұрын

@@brb9670 And thank god. Not at all what I'm after.

I was on tinder for 5 years and got to the stage I would just troll my matches. I matched with a pretty 21 year old woman and my first message was telling her “I dislike all your interests” and we’ve been dating for five years.

@a5s6d1ahfd65

Жыл бұрын

Based

@michaelprice3040

Жыл бұрын

@@a5s6d1ahfd65 based? Like based on a true story? Her interests were dancing, musicals and horror movies as well as some other things. Which I don’t like so I told her lol. Maybe an interaction that was clearly not trying to get in her pants was refreshing?

@markrobs2954

Жыл бұрын

​@@michaelprice3040 based means that you re cool or it's like saying nice

That's ironic how he was saying that a guy that stays at home playing video games, doesn't shower, brush teeth, lives with his parents. etc.. yet he is describing himself. But at the same time has valid reasons for living with his parents and loves playing video games.. amazing.

@dannymoontattoos

Жыл бұрын

Just because he's describing himself doesn't mean he is being a hypocrite. He's fully self aware, and accepts the terms. Some guys live like him yet still expect to be attractive or attract women. He doesn't however

Well, tinder is designed to reduce relationships decisions to how much you like someone’s selfies. Whether you get a match or not- nobody feels like they’re being treated as a human being.

@inscription8099

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@lightworker2956

Жыл бұрын

I wouldn't hate Tinder if I had the female experience of "about half the time I swipe right it's a match." The male experience of "about 0.1 - 1% of the time I swipe right it's a match" is significantly more dehumanizing. Still, you're right that Tinder isn't the ideal place for making deep meaningful connections, or for finding a person to start a relationship with.

I'm gonna be honest, I feel so much better now that I've stopped using social media. I haven't made a single facebook post in over a year.

@tderanged8625

Жыл бұрын

Me too man. Used to post on fb all the time. Then one day I was like why am I doing this. Just for attention from people who aren't really my friends anyways. Only thing I post is a trip I take once a year. That's it. My timeliness is that trip year to year. Kind of funny looking at it.

@joanofarc21

Жыл бұрын

yep me too but I lurk once in a while

I tried using a dating app about 4 years ago, I got a few matches but I only really talked to one girl actually, she was a huge stoner (like me back in the days) and after 2 or 3 days of just texting I found out she only wanted to meet me irl because I was growing weed at home

@spagetti5309

Жыл бұрын

That stuff happens in real life too really. Its not tinders fault, its the persons fault.

I met my wife in real life in high school. I just tried to be her friend; an actual good reliable friend who expresses their feelings and intent, while being there for her. Once I decided that I liked the person she was I told her that I found her attractive. She reciprocated. We’ve been together for 10 years now.

I stopped doing dating apps a few years ago started working on myself and I've now been happily married for 6 years, honestly dating apps will ruin your self esteem. I'm a 5'10 dude walk around 195 atm mostly muscle, decent looking, good career and it felt like I was still reaching towards the bottom of the barrel of women. Sure, I had tons of "thicker" girls Interested in me, but the majority were a little to big for my liking lol it is what it is. Btw I like asmon, but I have this feeling most streamers who talk about men and woman issues are generally walking on eggshells and can't really say what they want the majority of the time, so take the things they say with a grain of salt.

@kramer911

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Muscular and not being rude.. but I feel better looking than 90% of guys I walk by in my city.. but Struggled hard on the apps despite swiping on just about everyone. even fatties. Eventually I met someone on Match of all places and she basically simps for me. Might be locked down permanently now but yeah.. the apps are dumb. If I was single again, I would approach irl.. like the gym etc.

@ninakore

Жыл бұрын

@@NachozMan weak

@newdarkages3191

Жыл бұрын

Stopped dating apps a few years ago. been married for 6 years. my man

@haruyanto8085

Жыл бұрын

@@NachozMan try first

@lightworker2956

Жыл бұрын

@@RenonTTV In my experience, the most important thing is being masculine (ideally in a non-toxic and non-destructive way). What you describe is helpful but secondary to being masculine. If you're funny and make her feel safe and you're a good person, but you're not masculine, you'll just end up in the friend zone.

Its crazy how he completely misunderstood the dude in the video at 10:20 . He was talking about creating a completely fake situation due to ALL men using the same tactic, stringing along women, and that a more healthy dating culture would be created if men and women were matched with actually comparable individuals. No one inherently DESERVES to be matched/date a way more successful or attractive person (but everyone can shoot their shot and be as charismatic as possible), but the tactic misleads young women into over valuing themselves and undervaluing the actual men that would be interested in them because the swipe-all tactic happens to include them into the pool of females a top 5% man would date, even if they have no chance. Its about creating the unrealistic standard through psychology that negatively effects the men due to the "meta" tactic creating an unregulated objectification olympia where neither the men or the women are happy.

@areuarealman7269

Жыл бұрын

So many egos getting inflated while lonely men get excited cuz they get 1 ping every 2 or 3 months ...those apps will definitely ruin your life if your a decent guy ...you start thinking I'm a monster I'm so ugly so unwanted it's a good mind scrambler actually my mood looking for love got sour real fast every time .

@J-RAD_notAnNpc

6 ай бұрын

Well said

@jimmcneal5292

3 ай бұрын

But a lot of people(including men) want to date up and just won't settle for their "looksmatch"

the base problem is people thinking anyone on tinder are real people. NOONE behaves exactly the same on the phone, let alone a meat market app like tinder.

Back when tinder started, I used to learn massage techniques and styles. The app got me a lot of free practice, and at least for me it worked out great. But yeah, I heard the crowd on there is very different now.

I just do it the old fashioned way, At the gym, at the club, at church, Not at work (You don't shit where you eat), at a coffee shop and Tinder because I'm a 5% Chad like Asmonbald.

@purplestuffs5237

Жыл бұрын

Thunder God Enel should have no problems picking up women!

@ZytechZero

Жыл бұрын

@@purplestuffs5237 You're goddamn right!

@thatsjohnnyt6480

Жыл бұрын

Works okay if you’re planning on finding a new job. Most relationships are found at school and work. Js

@silver_dragon-nm1ny

Жыл бұрын

at the gym? i feel rude personally

@Efgand0894

Жыл бұрын

The old-fashioned way is too risky today, women can say you are harassing them.

I feel like so much of the "problem" with dating apps is the illusion of availability and the way it skews peoples decision making wi%th dating. if u dated even 15 years ago you were choosing from the people u knew in your general area and thus the top 5% of guys out of 100 is only 5 guys and when they're taken people take in other options but when the top 5% available could be tens of thousands of dudes (depending on area) then people don't settle, women spam guys that don't respond to anything less than the hottest girls and dudes under the top 5% barely get any attention at all.

Social media just simply aren't worth it. Use them only for business and you will be a happier man.

Each interaction matters, especially in an age where your feedback can be screenshot and saved on the internet for eternity. So swinging at every ball can come back to haunt you, especially if you use questionable tactics, each generation changing what is and isn't questionable.

I think dating a hot woman is one of those things that seem like the end all, but once you achieve it, you just sit and think this is it. Personally, I think it would be more trouble than what its worth.

@NeXusZT

Жыл бұрын

Highly dependent on whether this "hot" woman has substance. If she doesn't than ya, it's not worth it. If she does, you hit the jackpot.

@lizardjoel

Жыл бұрын

It is, very wise my dude and it's not always good sometimes theu have major issues or are unsafe to be around too

@bryant9774

Жыл бұрын

The line between hot and crazy is very thin. Sticking your junk in crazy is not recommended.

@erik3205

Жыл бұрын

@@NeXusZT True, I just wonder if even the ones with substance could have a little bit of that, "I'm hot, I can have any man I want, so you need to play ball my way" attitude.

@inscription8099

Жыл бұрын

I'm just a 5-6/10 guy looking for my 5-6/10 girl

Hamza is probably the only manosphere youtuber that preaches the importance of mental help and self improvement for young men. Even though this video is not a good example of this, his main message is lifting young men up rather than bringing young women down which i think is a positive message more of these redpill youtubers should push for

@Cbd_7ohm

Жыл бұрын

That's totally false, especially the self improvement part. There are like thousands of youtubers doing that.

@TurboGroszek1

Жыл бұрын

Bro hamza is a clown 😂 This dude is poor and has zero usable skills for the society.

@apan990

Жыл бұрын

@@TurboGroszek1 care to elaborate? ive found most of his advice very helpful and its worked for me and for a few people i know of. also even tho he isnt poor, but what does wealth have to do with life advice for young men? grow up.

@iLLya_

Жыл бұрын

@@apan990 bro you are caring way too much about what some kid said don't take it seriously he is probably 15 looking at Andrew tates cars

@apan990

Жыл бұрын

@@iLLya_ most likely ye but i still want him to elaborate lol, im an open minded person, if someone says hes a clown i want to know why he thinks so to challenge my own opinion on the matter.

The bigger problem with that social construct missing is probably more that the market is very easy. By that I mean, that meeting someone new is easier than ever. I think this just leads to people not even trying enough anymore and instead just go to the next low hanging fruit.

Asmongold’s self depreciating humor is so great 😂

Asmon has a point. Tinder has problems but some guys have to hold themselves accountable. Gaining weight, unhealthy lifestyles, debt, not taking care of their appearances these are all things that will stop you from finding a potential partner. Factor that in with Men who do have their shit together you will never win

@Dippps

Жыл бұрын

bro theres things that you cannot control. for example facial structure, baldness or height. yes if you not 6ft dating is near impossible

@mahchestro9144

Жыл бұрын

@@Dippps That is false. Almost everything from bone structure to muscles are completely in your control. Your body is changing constantly. It is up to you to maintain it. I used to be a chubby person with a literal second chin. But i worked on myself. Baldness actually can be avoided by catching it early and having interest to avoid it. The only thing i will agree with here is height. Yes... that is something that you cannot control. But do not treat it like there's no chance to find a partner cause you're short.

@Dippps

Жыл бұрын

@@Purriah are you a psychologist or dating coach. what you can see i dont understand.

@inscription8099

Жыл бұрын

I have an autoimmune disorder so it's extremely hard to gain weight. So I have a decent job, I'm handsome, I'm tall, but I'm thin.. never get a match. Deleted the app. I try to improve everyday but at some point you ask the universe "why don't I deserve love" I'm not even shooting for 10s, I'd take like 5-6/10.

@mahchestro9144

Жыл бұрын

@@inscription8099 Not everyone is going to find "love" on dating apps. Can't give up on find that special someone cause they're not on Tinder.

It's not that hard to explain. Guys rate women on a scale from 1 to 10. Women rate guys on a scale, either 10 or 0.

Social media is in large part of why you feel like shit. You see people having a great time, you hear about people meeting up and getting laid. But you're just seeing it.... you're not living life. This is a major part of why I've been suicidal over the years. Social media makes you feel alone. Without it, I'd probably still be lonely, but I wouldn't feel it as much. I wouldn't be as aware of it.

@spacewargamer4181

Жыл бұрын

Stay strong buddy Edit: Or lady

My roommate only ever had 1 match. I've had a few when I used it. My female friend got literal thousands of swipes. (Very busy area, with lots of dudes who set their search area to waaaay too large) Shit's wack

Probably the most well known, yet most underrated thing that causes a lot of these social issues, is simply technology. The last 80-100 years, society has changed so much, at such a rapid speed. That speed is also increasing, the train just keeps going and it keeps going faster. All we can do is try to adapt to our own creations as best as possible.

@ahwass4989

Жыл бұрын

Ted, is it really you?

@haruyanto8085

Жыл бұрын

Not really, just move to another country that got that shit down, preferably one where men are still men and women are still women, not this western open relationship bs

@joanofarc21

Жыл бұрын

@@haruyanto8085 Asian here, and yeah you are right west is so weird lol cuz here in asia people don't date before settling down or mostly marry after getting their job lol

Im not surprised that guys aren't successful on dating apps. No single woman I know uses them.

@cripplingautism5785

Жыл бұрын

exactly. the gender ratio is highly skewed in favour of men, which is what these idiots conveniently ignore.

“Doing the math to avoid the math” is my life motto 😂

It is possible that there are systemic factors that need to be addressed AND individuals need to do the work to improve their situation. If you got the last part in check, it is time to start working on the first.

I remember when I tried Tinder for the first time, the funniest encounter I've seen when swiping is when I enabled males so I can see how guys do their profiles and I saw a fake profile of Rich Campbell and his description was something about Final Fantasy and his anthem was microwave sounds

I met my wife on tinder. Which sounds great but the experience leading towards that was 90% awful lol.

@chartreusecircle1546

Жыл бұрын

Check back in a year let us know how the divorce goes

@kenv5342

Жыл бұрын

@@chartreusecircle1546 omg XD

@snook.1

Жыл бұрын

@@kenv5342 dw I believe in ya'll my dude

@NeXusZT

Жыл бұрын

Ya, met my wife on OkCupid. The lead up was many maaaaany failed dates with other woman. Soooo many woman on dating apps are disingenuous with their appearance/weight. I would treat those dates as practice dates until I found someone who matched the lifestyle that's roughly like mine. They don't need to be fucking super fit or anything but, I'm a bit of a gym bro so, I'm not interested in a girl who only wants to eat cheetos and watch tv all day. Anyway, rant over. End of the day, I got lucky af with finding my wife.

@KeytarArgonian

Жыл бұрын

I’m not gonna lie I met my wife on there after having the best time of my life going wild with 3 different apps at once. Eventually you meet the one that clicks and you find yourself not replying to the rest because she’s just the one.

Glad I never used a dating app and never will. I found the value in being alone and more people need to do the same. Men are letting skets control their life even when they're single 🤣🤣 get a grip.

Breath of fresh air from Asmon, as always Get out of your head and accept reality for what it is also poor Geoffrey

@timexyemerald6290

Жыл бұрын

Asmon only accepts reality. But doesn't do anything to improve it, just want rott in his chair. Also he often speaks as if he know his stuff but doesn't actually understand the biger picture. Specially in this video. Whenever the guy says something like: men have this problem But then Asmon says: women have that problem too. Sure women also has that problem but women have faaar less of that problem. The guy says problem that majority of men has but then asmon ignorantly says: women have same problem too.(but thats only minority of women have that problem.

@asteria9963

Жыл бұрын

@@timexyemerald6290 You're actually guilty of doing the same thing. You're just not aware of it. Also, if you think and of that somehow manages to debunk anything, you're missing the point.

Man's been to the Goldshire Inn and people are surprised he'd reference furry futas.