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I'm so glad Tracy stepped in & corrected them about his 14 year old daughter.

@dreamchasahh

7 күн бұрын

She waited too long for me I was ready to jump in my tv 😂

@Ricky__35

7 күн бұрын

@@dreamchasahh 😂😂

@scherriebanks6238

6 күн бұрын

Absolutely!!! I kept saying how is a 14 year old responsible for the marriage.

@stephaniemelendez5733

3 күн бұрын

💯

At 14 this child has learned how to protect her peace. May she always.

@tobemeis2bfree

7 күн бұрын

Amen

@lorrainea.285

5 күн бұрын

🙌🏻🙌🏻 AND IN THAT ORDER!!!

@ashleeallen8717

5 күн бұрын

I’m teaching mine too, especially due to daddy issues

This poor man looks like he’s barely hanging on 🥺😢 I pray his wife FINALLY allows him to grieve and stop trying to correct and belittle him.

@angeliqueanderson1484

6 күн бұрын

I agree. How could she not know that he was depressed? He lost 2 important people in his life within weeks of each other. I could tell from the ride in the car that he was in anguish. I hate that people don’t understand that men have feelings as well and can take loss of loved ones just as hard as women. We as wives need to be there emotionally for our husbands. They deserve and need that.

@TheBaba1920

6 күн бұрын

She sees in him her grief. I hope she’s learned that berating will never fix depression

@melissajohnson817

5 күн бұрын

Exactly!!🎯

@plencilaakua4752

5 күн бұрын

@@angeliqueanderson1484 Thank uuuuu so trueee

@stephaniemelendez5733

3 күн бұрын

💯

The wife is so SELFISH! It’s all about her 🤦🏾‍♀️ I can’t believe she made his daughter feel responsible for his pain! They both need intensive therapy.

@hevel4383

7 күн бұрын

I think the wife does not understand that her husband is suffering from depression and grief. She believes he needs to snap out of it. But once she was told what he is dealing, it appeared she understood.

@LawFirmMentor

7 күн бұрын

@@hevel4383I agree. People in these comments have immense empathy for him, but basically none for the wife. She may be less knowledgeable about depression, but she also has the full emotional weight of the miscarriage, caregiving for two children under age 2, a service profession with clients to serve, a strained father-stepdaughter relationship, custody litigation regarding that child, and an emotionally unavailable spouse. Both of these people deserve empathy and support.

@hevel4383

7 күн бұрын

@@LawFirmMentor Yes, I agree some does not have as much empathy for her as they did for him. They both are grieving, but it shows up differently. Despite, the day to day task they both are faced with, they both see that each need their own counseling to address their own issues and then they both can show up as the best version of themselves.

@aleanathe

6 күн бұрын

We don't know what she goes through....

@betheone8292

6 күн бұрын

Okay, I thought it was just me thinking the same thing.

Thank you for taking up for the daughter, Tracy. It’s not a child’s responsibility to fix the relationship. It’s the parent’s responsibility. Therapy is needed. Consistent therapy.

@DB-gu6tf

3 күн бұрын

Berating that girl for not calling and blaming her for affecting their marriage was wrong. I’m glad she checked the parents. They seemed to understand.

His Symptoms sound similar to panic and anxiety that manifests itself physically.

@HoneySuckle123

7 күн бұрын

You nailed it 👍🏽

@RahYisrael99

7 күн бұрын

I agree. That and the fact that he's weak. He blames his child for his conscious decision to not be a parent.

@MrsSkittles916

7 күн бұрын

@@RahYisrael99what show are you watching? He never blamed his daughter. It was his wife who blames the daughter for the problems in their marriage and he blames the wife for the daughter not wanting to come around.

@FeliciaStands

7 күн бұрын

Agree you can see he doesn’t feel well not sure if it’s cause he don’t want to loose her and it manifest in physical pain or he’s having an anxiety attack 😢

@unicoh972

6 күн бұрын

And ptsd

The wife’s energy in the kitchen toward her stepdaughter was toxic. That child sat there and cried while her Aunt and Uncle did nothing. She’s not protected in that family and that’s sad.

@bessence956

7 күн бұрын

She Lowkey don't like tht girl..she's controlling I wouldn't call them either... energy never lies

@alexiscddaniels9784

7 күн бұрын

On a NATIONAL SHOW so imagine what's said and done in private

@TheBaba1920

6 күн бұрын

Yes and I’d want to stay home too.

Once again Tracy is the real MVP of this episode

@tonyamscateyezmcmillan1417

7 күн бұрын

This one was a good one

@UGIPerry

6 күн бұрын

Stop on therapy on going 100 spot on! My bro went thru this same thing with a baby dieing but no therapy and they both turned on each other blame! Therapy needs to be apart of death- divorce - any major life changing moment ( offer 4 sessions)!

I'm disgusted how they're treating his 14 YEAR OLD daughter!

@shaybutter3403

7 күн бұрын

I'm so mad!

@tiffanybarlow7816

6 күн бұрын

Glad someone said it he hugged his wife after seeing his daughter cry never comforted her

@mygleetusb9651

6 күн бұрын

Unfortunately HE ALLOWS IT

At 14, SHE IS A CHILD! It is beyond unfair of both of them to put their relationship failings on a CHILD! If she doesn't call you, you're the PARENT DAD, it's your responsibility to chase and fight to be in your CHILD'S life.

@jacquelinescuisine7265

7 күн бұрын

As you can see everyone else are adults. So they’ve decided to go to the weakest link “a child “. They’re just plain old narcissist. It’s all about them. Shame on them.

The wife is the biggest issue in the relationship.. She has no empathy at all No compassion for him at all . He's a broken man

@yemedemure414

7 күн бұрын

🥹🥹🥹😩😩

@FeliciaStands

7 күн бұрын

This is true his brokenness is manifesting physically 😢

@MsMenifee2u

6 күн бұрын

AGREED !!!

@MrsVanB

6 күн бұрын

@@FeliciaStandsSo true! 😢

@CrankyCrunchyVirgo

5 күн бұрын

I thought the same thing. For most of the episode, she was not my favorite person. At. All. But as the show progressed, they showed insight on her thoughts and emotions. Even though she was 100% wrong on multiple things, I now feel for her.

“And the Word is depression “ 💯

@TheBaba1920

6 күн бұрын

I lost it when she said that.

@4real197

6 күн бұрын

He is grieving late. He needs counselling for his ANXIETY &DEPRESSION, PTSD!

15 minutes in and I don’t like how they put all that pressure on the 14 year old. I hope they clean it up… Let me keep watching.

@investingwithkat

7 күн бұрын

Its too much pressure for a 14 year old. Thats not a childs responsibility

@BetterBodyCrew

7 күн бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@JacksQueen.

7 күн бұрын

Right!! I’m p!ssed!! 😡

@esmenembungu1980

7 күн бұрын

I don't like it

@uppitynegrogoddess2042

7 күн бұрын

Exactly what i came to say

Wait a damn minute. Did she just place blame on his daughter for their marital issues? She has lost her ever loving mind.

I love the immediate correction about blaming a child, keep kicking the man’s back in when he is having an anxiety attack.

The wife saying he is having mental breakdown, is counterproductive and she gets to blame him for everything. She seems to relate to him as though he’s her child.

@UGIPerry

6 күн бұрын

It did appear to be a mother child relationship but her mom did the same so the wife only mimic was was shown to her! Cute couple!

Don’t put the responsibility Of the parent child relationship on the CHILD!!

@JusTee22

7 күн бұрын

My dad always reminds me he is the parent and it his responsibility to have great relationship between he and I. This hurt my feelings for her especially the bond he has with the wife’s daughters

Few mins in.....i feel like he doesn't feel 'safe' enough to breathe/exhale with her.

@salome9124

7 күн бұрын

Neither do, but it because they experienced trauma together.

@gabriellesmith-perry3465

3 күн бұрын

💯 The trauma has caused him severe depression.

Tracy is always so spot on. I love how she holds the couples accountable for their BS. The energy feels off on this one from the time they were in the car. The constant berating and correction would drive anyone insane.

She is so in tune with her profession. I ❤ how she calls out bad behavior like Iyanla but in a more passive manner. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@antonechias6785

7 күн бұрын

In a more progressive manner! Love that!

@BrownSugarNCurls

7 күн бұрын

Traci is an assertive communicator for sure.

@ob2be1

2 күн бұрын

It’s called empathic confrontation, it’s a unique skill of helping the client to see their problematic behavior or beliefs without putting them on the defensive and encouraging the client’s resistance. Seems passive but it a skill.

Man when he started to cry, I balled- 😢

@tonyamscateyezmcmillan1417

7 күн бұрын

Man an can't stop crying 😭

@yemedemure414

7 күн бұрын

🥹🥹

I'm lost...in the beginning his stomach hurts she said he always tryna bring her down...😮 but let me keep watching

@Dabiggestwhoop

7 күн бұрын

Man I’m lost too like damn his stomach can’t hurt? 😭😭😭😭

@lanettemcdaniels9543

7 күн бұрын

OMG i came to the comments for this. I was so lost. I’m like did they take something out? But let me finish watching 😅😂

@novelpettis4444

7 күн бұрын

Right

@GlamoftheGlam

7 күн бұрын

With anxiety and depression it can be physically symptoms along with it. Like headaches, stomach pains, the jitters, etc.

@starrjohnson1327

7 күн бұрын

I think he's on something.

First off why no one stood up for the daughter. Seems like he’s been absent and her momma wasn’t having the popping in and out !

This is a powerful episode. I wish all married couples saw this. Honestly, working with married couples like this, should be a whole other show!

@jmo876

6 күн бұрын

I agree! I wish there were more shows that really breakdown problems and trauma married/engaged couples go and grow through.

@TheMwendaa

4 күн бұрын

Yeeeesss!

At the table, He hugged his wife but not his daughter 🥴

@naturallymoi8171

7 күн бұрын

This ‼️

@TheBaba1920

6 күн бұрын

It’s based on who has more value to him. Unfortunately, for some fathers, children have no value.

@Honey-pv1zg

23 сағат бұрын

And he wonders why she doesn’t call…..

she has no compassion or kindness from her side.. ANYONE can look at this man and SEE his soul in massive pain. BE LOVING & Patience PLEASE.

I love the fact that the family is rooting for them. This was an awesome show and an example of what black families need to deal with their trauma.

Sheeeeshhhhh that trauma therapist was good!

@CrankyCrunchyVirgo

5 күн бұрын

She was dropping gems for real!

Two adults blaming a child for their marriage falling apart is insane. He failed that baby as a father, not one time did he take accountability for not being there for her but praised the wife's kids smh. They need counseling, period!

@brittanywyche7567

6 күн бұрын

Thts part !

@JustmymomandWE

3 күн бұрын

That junk pissed me OFF! And that’s exactly why she don’t come around. Why the hell would she care about people who don’t give a damn about her.

Tracy be SPOT ON…, she told the wife “Hey STOP THAT! That wife beats the husband DOWN sheesh 😮 she’s so controlling and won’t let him talk…she’d drive any man to stay away from her and retreat to the garage 😮

He has anxiety…

Losing your mother changes you!

@TheeMichellesMind

7 күн бұрын

It definitely does. And when that happens you need supportive people around you that will be there for you when you’re grieving. Not people that tell you to man up, you’re not acting the same, you still crying etc. I don’t get why people don’t understand this. Also, the circumstances in which a loved one dies makes a difference. My Grandmother died in 2022. She was 88 years old. I think of and miss her everyday, but I was at peace because she was 88, she deserved her rest. My mom died in 2023 from stage four uterine cancer. I watched her die a little every day. The last few days of her life were very traumatic. So I’m not grieving the same. It’s very very hard to go on each day. My anxiety and depression are through the roof. I have to make a decision to lean on God everyday just to keep on keeping on.

@ChelseaChronicles

7 күн бұрын

It does

@RahYisrael99

7 күн бұрын

I feel bad for him. He definitely needs therapy. But he never raised his daughter and blamed the daughter for not reaching out to him. She's a child, and he was a stranger to her. So, he has always had issues.

@Talk2FlowNow

7 күн бұрын

@@TheeMichellesMindThe same thing happened with my mom and it’s been ten years and still seems like fresh pain. 😢

@MoPerspective

6 күн бұрын

Facts! I have never been the same since I lost mine 4 years ago 💯💯💯

This lady is super controlling and can’t even see it. She’s telling him what to do every step of the way

I'm sorry?? How tf you find out your husband is struggling with depression and you make that isht about YOU?

@jenniferwilliams6494

6 күн бұрын

This is the comment I was looking for!!!!!! The doctor should have sent her away to take her moment and let Josh continue to explore his feelings. The wife made that moment about herself as he was starting to express himself.

@mauricethomas654

4 күн бұрын

I thought I was tripping. The minute he finally starts to open up and let go, now you act like u are having anxiety and a revelation. She is selfish and want the attention all on her.

I don’t like how the bride kept on mentioning that the daughter not contacting her father is “messing up the marriage”. I understand the show is about the husband and wife, but I don’t think that’s helping her not feel neglected

@GlamoftheGlam

7 күн бұрын

I completely agree! Then they couldn’t understand why she didn’t feel loved or wanting. They kept blaming the child.

@ariellemayaali

7 күн бұрын

@@GlamoftheGlam exactly! And that is huge, especially for someone so young

@kenialee9024

7 күн бұрын

I definitely agree

@valerieosei5312

7 күн бұрын

Agreed! They’re putting too much responsibility on the child for their marriage issues! It’s not her responsibility to heal their marriage. If she’s not calling her dad, the dad needs to reflect on why the dynamic has ended up that way. HE is the parent, HE sets the tone for their relationship as father and daughter!

@cculc175

7 күн бұрын

I’m so glad Tracey checked them on that

Gastritis has you this way too, too much stress causes stomach pains, burping nausea and tiredness.😢

The hiccups startled me. I thought he was going to have a panic attack. She told Husband to get up and pull his pants all the way up. Sounds like me talking to my teen son. She's the breadwinner. She said if she makes one mistake at work they are right back in the ghetto. She's carrying the entire marriage. She acts like his mom because she is. I give them no pass on how they treat his daughter though. He abandoned her for nine years then expects her to manage his emotions. A child.

@kamariasia

9 сағат бұрын

Summarized perfectly.

He seems to be having an anxiety attack right before our eyes. The signs are there. Poor thing.

@CrankyCrunchyVirgo

5 күн бұрын

I saw the same thing! I really hope he gets individual therapy, grief support and even medication.

He’s mentally beat down but loves her

Are they blaming a 14-year-old for not reaching out? A dad saying you didn't call me on my birthday. What... It is your job to reach out...

He needs to hold hug his daughter

Josh is grieving.. It’s so sad and he need therapy. The wife is out of line with the daughter, no compassion. They are putting too much on a child

When he said losing his mother"poked the stability he was standing on", touched my soul. I just lost my father and this 100% how i feel..

@_belloty1394

4 күн бұрын

That’s sad and scary , sorry for your loss .

I don't care for placing the blame of a strained father daughter relationship on the child. She's 14! Stay in a place of love and understanding for her...she's is and was a child throughout the whole process. But I'm glad they are in a place of learning and growing. ❤

The wife should have apologized to his daughter & reassured her that the demise of their marriage is not her fault& make her feel loved & aslo welcomed.

Excuse me, are y'all blaming the 14 year old?

@ebonykennedy1838

7 күн бұрын

Right!!! Whom at the time was only 9 yrs old!!!

I couldn’t be married to her. Its not safe to be emotional. Its not safe to be vulnerable and she’s extremely controlling. Run bro! And keep loving your kids

@RahYisrael99

7 күн бұрын

Does he love his kids though?

Tiffany owed that baby an apology period

@tai4short

6 күн бұрын

Right cuz wtf ???

How is it the daughter’s responsibility for the father to have a relationship with him? And then to say it affects your marriage? What?!

@lovebrittt

6 күн бұрын

Right?! Like how???! Expecting a 9 year old to reach out and comfort you is insane.

These adults are blaming others fir their own shortcomings. They are blaming the kids. Stop it!

They are not all there! Expecting a child to make contact with them

@tgber8126

7 күн бұрын

A 9 year old he wants her to said oh let me call my dad n comfort him coz my lil brother passed away really man how stupid can u be she doesn't even know abt death by that age he's crazy n selfish

@dbeloved02

6 күн бұрын

@@tgber8126 right and they were willing to keep blaming her

@just_here30

6 күн бұрын

Yeah that pissed me off. At their big ages they should know that but for some people with age doesn't come wisdom. That made me not like them lol

I hope this family sees these comments one day

Damn, has he sought out medical treatment?

He seems like he has anxiety and he’s been through a lot

Controlling is how she comes off to me at times. This one was deep, i loved it as always and Love the switch in the format. Congratulations yall

Oh my! This guy is not feeling well. 😢😢😢. The wife keeps saying:,sit up😣 😡

I commend this entire family for their strength and vulnerability in not giving up... my prayers are with you all

So the wife tried to get custody of child then blames her for the wedge and grudges themselves as adults harbor. Girllllll

@naturallymoi8171

7 күн бұрын

This ‼️

@RahYisrael99

7 күн бұрын

Right. How do you try and steal a woman's child instead of the dad just BEING A DAD? Crazy.

@bessence956

7 күн бұрын

Tht child would catch hell in house wt them

As a mother to a teenage boy, I'm learning so much from Tracy

Not a fan of the wife at all. First with the guy basically dying on the couch and she’s acting like he’s a creep for not doing well. Then with blaming his child for their relationship issues. Pathetic behavior. That child will never feel protected by her.

Shes truly not a good person 🤦🏽‍♀️ everything is about HER HER HER...he need to grow a pair and put her into the place of his wife and not his mother smh

His daughter crying and him hugging his WIFE instead of HIS DAUGHTER is DISGRACEFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Like Sir she NEEDS YOU. Shes a 14 yr old CHILD!!!!! A BABY!!!!!!

The elevator don’t go all the way to the top with these people. Blaming a kid for your marital issues is wild.

This episode was a rollercoaster of emotions. I truly hope they work on themselves individually first and foremost . I commend them for putting their lives out there in this way because we don’t talk about grief depression and anxiety as Black people enough even with all the progress we ve made with talking about mental health over the years . I like how the therapist never missed an opportunity to correct and call out things out for what they are .

@lovebrittt

6 күн бұрын

Yes especially our black men deal with sooo much and they almost never get the support they need. I just wanted to jump in the episode and give him a big bear hug.

We need more episodes of saving couples on the brink of divorce.

The wife’s lack of compassion plays a huge role in this dynamic. She’s blaming everyone else. But is not understanding how everyone else feels.

Love, love, love this episode. By far the best one. Keeping marriages together is a beautiful blessing 🙌🏿

They are a mess 😂. I’m only at the beginning but wtfff

I think overall they are a good couple. Grief, trauma and depression can wear and tear you down. Mentally, emotionally and physically I hope that are able to work through it and get back to their happy place. They both look so sad, because of the trauma.

How someone getting sick putting her down..im.confused

This episode was hard to watch. Wow. So many layers to peel back. This was sad. Josh looks defeated and his wife is annoying as heck.

Real true love can be staring us in our face and still be blind….. He loves his family he just need some healing. Anxiety is no joke it can cripple a person

The wife body language is off.. I honestly think she has already moved on and now she's making excuses. I feel sorry for him

Not having the tools to effectively communicate is the root of it all. The fall out is dire.

First 5 minutes, and I am worried about him. He looks medicated or unwell

he said he dont feel good. If he pass out everybody will be screaming and hollering

They are ignoring the 14 yr feelings and blaming her.The stepmother words on top of the Father’s is crazy. I think Maya’s mom needs to make sure her Daughter is emotionally safe from them. They are too broken .

Don’t put that on that baby!! Shame on her!! He’s the daddy. And ain’t nobody stick up for her! Lawd all them adults didn’t comfort the baby! I’m disgusted Thank you Tracy!!

@antoinettebrown456

7 күн бұрын

That’s what tore me up! Not a soul consoled the daughter

@JacksQueen.

7 күн бұрын

Agreed!!

@yemedemure414

7 күн бұрын

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If I could 🙌these therapists, oh my goodness the power of therapy at work here! Love it! Shine that light the truth makes you free. Now this couple has some decisions to make.

He def needs to step up as a grown man and take the responsibility of being the father. He needs to call her. She’s a kid!

I can’t with the hick ups😂😂😂😂😂

The groom seems to be more in tune with his wife's kids than he is with his own biological child, they may need counseling to build a bond and get to the bottom of their trauma.

One of the best but saddest episodes!! I love this show and wish this couple the absolute best!! Keep fighting for each other ❤

Anxiety is very debilitating… it’s hard to push through especially with the wrong ppl around you.

21 minutes in and I was good until the mother and father blamed their daughter on their relationship issues. I have always been the one to say that children don't call parents. Be a parent!

They are scapegoating that 14 yr old child

Not okay for a wife /stepmom to apply pressure to a child that way ! Huge problem

Not fair to blame daughter it is father’s responsibility period. They both weak for that

@tonyamscateyezmcmillan1417

7 күн бұрын

An it's a shame that a lot of parents do they kids like this

I don’t like how the wife’s family looks at the husband and his kids 😢

Why does the wife treat him like a kid.

@tonyamscateyezmcmillan1417

7 күн бұрын

She doesn't know any of their way to communicate

@RahYisrael99

7 күн бұрын

​@@Thinkbeforeyoutypehe has the mind of a child.

@sandramartez6472

2 күн бұрын

@@tonyamscateyezmcmillan1417 because she is the bread winner.

Powerful...step out if people's way so they can be accountable for themselves.

The wife apologized to her husband but I really believe she’s mentally checked out of the marriage…..

I wanted to see Tiffany apologize to the daughter as well, it needed to be done.

He needs to see a gastroenterologist for an EGD. Pretty sure he has gastric ulcers from the stress and depression. Very common😢

I easily see why the 14 year old isn't around I'm glad they had a 1 on 1 and he apologized it's clear he hasn't grieved and he holds it all in because he doesn't feel comfortable enough to let it out because she doesn't let him and it effects him physically the black community has to be more open to seeking help it's okay to go to therapy

People need to understand people grieve differently especially men! His baby, his mom!! That’s alot!! When me and my ex had a baby and she passed he didn’t stay he ran away and left I understand he couldn’t handle it

@tonyamscateyezmcmillan1417

7 күн бұрын

How is he today and you

@tonyamscateyezmcmillan1417

7 күн бұрын

An I'm sorry for your loss

clearly this man is medically not well - why wasn;t medical attention sought to determine if something serious is going on? smt - let me keep watching!

12 mins in, and i can see one of the problems. She talks to him like a child. That would make ANYONE anxious.

This couple is TOXIC. How dare they put the onus and GUILT on a 14 year old child?