As a teenager myself I just want to let my mom know that I'm not just a 'hormonal teen' I want to my mother to not see all my mood swings as normal teenage things. Just because your teenager is moody it isn't always because of their age it might mean they are tired or something is going on at school or they might feel stressed about grades or popularity. We don't wanna be lectured we want to be heard just because we are kids doesn't mean that we don't need to be heard. Talk to your kid about school and talk to them like a person not just a like boss telling their lazy employee what to do. Your kids might be going through a lot of stress. Please be open minded and see things from their point of view before you get angry.

@rpgwrldxo468

4 жыл бұрын

a nobody that cares THANK YOU!

@itsanofromme

4 жыл бұрын

I don't know why but I find it rather dismissive when people think "it's just harmones" and that jazz...

@janoahlee7499

4 жыл бұрын

I thank you for this, as a mother of two middle school aged daughters, I want them to have a relationship I never with my own mother. I was 11 twenty years ago and it seems like it was yesterday but I forget sometimes what’s that like.

@thelifeofcarlathehustlerem9671

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you as a mother I really need to read this to better understand from a teen's point of view. Very well said!

@cosmiccinema3179

4 жыл бұрын

Yogurt potato flavored could not have said it better I’m not even a teen yet

I don’t think I’ll ever forget when I texted my mom after having completed several productive tasks, feeling like I’d accomplished something and that she’d be proud of me for once because I’d actually been productive and gotten almost all of the things that I needed to do that day done. And what she responded with was this “Great. What about [insert the ONE thing that I hadn’t done that day]?” And let me tell you. The fury, the disappointment, but most of all, the shame I felt in that moment that fueled the rest of my emotions is what’ll really stick with me. I was so upset that I just left her on read. I knew that if I responded to her text in that moment, I would only have anger to send her way. I was almost instantly brought to tears because it was then that I realized that nothing that I do matters. I’ll never be good enough. Even if I did every single thing perfectly for the rest of my life, she’ll always have something else that she wants me to do. Always. It’ll never end. That’s what it felt like. Being trapped in a relationship with someone who will never see me as a person with human emotions, just a daughter with temperamental teenage angst that she can order around and expect to fulfill whatever she says she needs to in order to “be successful in life.” I felt useless, humiliated. Out of the entire list of things that I had accomplished and she decided to focus on the single unchecked box.

@skylaroconnor2903

5 жыл бұрын

I’m 18, my mom and I’s relationship has recently taken a turn for the worse. No matter what I do, it’s not good enough. I’m not good enough. How do you deal with the fact that you both know that you’re not ready to become fully independent, but your mom treats you like you have no worries and belittles you for suggesting that you might have worries simply because the life she build for you is more privileged than the one she lived as a little girl. How do you live up to the standard of never being allowed to be sad because “you have nothing to be upset about.” I’m a human being, I get depressed sometimes, it’s not fair that I’m expected to be perfectly happy all the time because my life is doing well. Sometimes people get sad, that’s a fact.

@ashleyyy2020

4 жыл бұрын

I understand the struggle of having such issues.

@HANA-mw1rf

4 жыл бұрын

I am a mother of 4 daughters & my oldest reminds me so much of you. Your post has been a huge eye opener for me. I'm sorry that your mother failed you in so many ways & I feel sorry that I am currently failing my daughters by treating them exactly how you have described. You're post has made me take a hard look at myself & make a real change. Thank you.

@deborahsakrylande1175

4 жыл бұрын

Skylar O'Connor - This took so much courage to respond to this video with your truth. Thank you. I want you to know that you are not alone. I had a similar situation when I was 18. Love from those who were supposed to love me UNCONDITIONALLY was always CONDITIONAL. "If I do this...then I am worthy...If I do that, then I am not." I am a 50-year-old mom of two kids now and I want you to know you ARE enough. You are enough not because of what you DO, but because of who you ARE. YOU are the commander of your energy. Choose living and loving above the line no matter what feedback others give you.

@deziraeisom3566

4 жыл бұрын

My mom literally did the same exact thing!

This video literally saved me and my daughter. Absolutely nailed it. The parent MUST recognize where they failed and do what is right. I spoke with my daughter and told her "I understand you now." And " I understand what I have been doing to you." After a deep talk she cried in my arms and said she had been waiting so long to hear the words from me that she is perfect just the way she is. And that she is appreciated so much. And that in order for her to grow, I cannot judge her for every little thing. We all make mistakes! That's how we grow. I need to let her make mistakes and let her learn from them without judgment on her only love.

@lostkid726

2 жыл бұрын

This made me cry alittle, i try to raise my brother like this and let him make mistakes. So he doesnt grow up thinking that one mistake means failure.

@TheNamonama

Жыл бұрын

🥰🥰goin through the same phase..thanks a ton for sharing insights

@rose1527

Жыл бұрын

Literally, I want to show my mom this. Whenever I voice my feelings on something she did, she says “I’m your mom, so I get to do this” or makes me feel guilty, by saying “I guess I’m a terrible mother then”. I just want to feel hear and understood, and like I am being taken seriously, and that’s really what all teens want. Dismissing our thoughts, feelings, and criticisms, which everyone does all the time, is the exact opposite of this.

I'm 16, about to start my junior year of high school. So far this summer, almost everyday after my mom gets off from work, we watch either Expedition Unknown, Last Man Standing, Home Improvement, or Golden Girls. I've even gotten her playing Minecraft, so we'll play that together. She ticks me off and vice-versa. We have arguments quite often, but we can never stay mad at each other for long. I'm gonna miss her so much when I go to college. I don't know what I'm going to do without her. I'm probably going to have to call her almost every day.

@amandawhitworth7125

2 жыл бұрын

Please call her every day!

@walqqr1

Жыл бұрын

Aw you and your mom have a sweet relationship

@annalese135

Жыл бұрын

I'm 20 now and in my second year of college. I'm doing online school, so I haven't left home yet. We still drive each other crazy. She's got me watching Outlander now, so that's what we enjoy together.

@angelicaortega6720

Жыл бұрын

How’s it going now that you left to college? Do you call your mom daily 🙏🏽☺️

@annalese135

Жыл бұрын

@@angelicaortega6720 I'm doing online school, so I'm still at home

This made me cry....my daughter just told me she doesn't like me....we are always fighting and we are both real rude to each other...its always drama between us and she's only 10 years old....i really want to fix this she's my only daughter my little princess. I will really implement these strategies into our relationship, I love my daughter dearly and I want us to have a better relationship.

@daniellemartell386

5 жыл бұрын

Lucero Figueroa me too. Mines 13 and I don't know what to do. I don't want to wind up like how my mother and I.

@patchmota

5 жыл бұрын

Hello Lucero Figueroa & Danielle Martell. I know this is late, months late. I was wondering if either of you have tried going to a counseling series with your daughters? Call as many therapists as you can and see if there are ones that help parenting AND teens, I am sure someone will accommodate this highly needed aid.

@bossladie909

5 жыл бұрын

I'm in the same position with my 13 year old now. How are you and your daughter doing now? 8 months later.

@TheAnimeViber

5 жыл бұрын

I started not liking my mom when I was like 11. She’s ok and not a bad mom but she’s annoying and weirddddd

@TheAnimeViber

5 жыл бұрын

I’m 15 now. It’s worse now.

Teenagers feeling pressured doesn't always have to do with social media

@shireenesherry2872

4 жыл бұрын

Actually yes they do alot of teens are commiting suicide over social media including cyber bullying didn't you watch jessy nelson odd one out?

@kingvulcoon1752

4 жыл бұрын

@@shireenesherry2872 But again, not ALWAYS mate

@shireenesherry2872

4 жыл бұрын

@@kingvulcoon1752 then you haven't spoken with alot of teens like i have nore their parents i 11 year old from starting secondary school yr 7 asked his parents how he can commit suicide brcause of bullying. A 16 year old i know overdosed from bullying. Vast majority is down to bullying. Teenagers are worse then ever sonce social media came out.

@Averns

4 жыл бұрын

@Shireene Johnson it's not all teens Technology can be soothing and a great resource for many and alot don't even look at the common examples of what causes stress in teens. Technology and social media are not the end all be all for the cause if stress. Resources - a teen and her friends

@shireenesherry2872

4 жыл бұрын

@@Averns Technology is not soothing it is one of worst materialistic things to cause insomnia which then leads onto depression, now books, fresh air, meditation are soothing.

Single dad, 15, 14 and 10 year old girls... I need good advice on how to curb the drama and not get angry. We go to counseling and it helps a little. Must be great to have a 2 parent family..

@jimstineman638

5 жыл бұрын

@JanaLynn Emery funny thing is, we just got home from counseling, i checked my phone and u replied. I am older and have a lot of patience. Counseling helps. Always telling the truth and respecting my daughter's is working. It's definitely not easy, but i have this.. good luck to you

@treppydaytiontreppy2125

5 жыл бұрын

Hi jim stineman & Janna. I feel you both even though I'm not a single Mom. Wait , I am a single Mom - with benefits? Does that make it easier and better? Honestly , I can't answer that . The grass is prob always greener on the other side. My point in this reply is to remind each of you that however tough/ lonely your journey is, your kids will look back someday and acknowledge that a hero( & heroine ) raised them . Cry , laugh, live, inspire , take a breather, reflect, "cough" it out .. whatever it takes .. just keep doing your greatness. Because It is. It really is greatness. Love from another Mom ♥️

@jimstineman638

5 жыл бұрын

It's all good... I know that we are heroes. Time will grant us unseen benefits of love and honor. I actually enjoy being single. I attempted to make a go with the mother, but the girls and I learned that drugs and alcohol can do damage beyond the concussion of the mothers acts. Nurture and team work together with the girls seems to be working. Nothing is perfect, but what I have is close. Good luck to all of you..

@adinaionescu9845

5 жыл бұрын

@@jimstineman638 Stay positive ! Stay strong ! Love them no matter what or if !

@esthermarygold-lowe4403

5 жыл бұрын

I give u so much credit. I am so happy to not be single. But, you got this. Keep it up. Great video.

I am a mom of 3 kids, my daughter is the middle child and she is 11 now. I came across this video because I am looking for a way to build a trustful relationship with all of my children. At the same time, I have just finished reading a book - How to heal the shame that binds you - and I realize that what children and parents are living today is a huge misunderstanding. Instead of saying - You are so precious to me that if anything happens to you it will break my heart - we say 'No, you can't go with your friends. It's too dangerous.' We have a huge burden as parents that our parents put on us by not listening to us, by ignoring our successes, what truly mattered to us - and this burden makes us behave the same way as our parents did, because our need of love has never been fulfilled. We think doing our best protecting our children and when we see tears in our children eyes we panic and can not deal with the fact that we have just hurt the person we love more than everything. Despite all the love we have for them, we see them as robots that will be happy when told what and how to do it. I have learnt one thing - one has to acknowledge the emotions of one's children, let them be angry, sad, happy, one has to show them that they can be themselves and it is ok. It is not easy being a parent when one was not loved enough as a child. But we have to embrace our inner child to be able to give all the love, understanding and respect to our children. And yes - we are having girls activities with my daughter and we talk about life and she loves it and I can not be happier - in the end it is just about telling the truth with respect and not to play a superior being.

As a seventeen-year-old myself, I'd love to just have a girls' day out with this lady and her daughter. I feel like it'd be so healing.

@SuperLammens

4 жыл бұрын

you should try yr mother cause that is what you are really longing for, to have this relationship like you imagine the speaker and her daughter have. be brave and be honest at least to yrself

I wish my mom could be like you.

Great talk coleen. As a therapist and a mom, I loved your 3 tips and the heart felt stories. The ending was so powerful that it gave me chills. Thank you for your wisdom, love and support for all of us moms with daughters

I do not know what to do with my daughter. She is so moody and takes it out on me. I have raised her on my own, her father remarried and doesnt have much to do with her anymore and she says she doesnt care. He did try to engage with her when she was older but she shut him down. She has had to deal with me being diagnosed with a serious illness earlier in the year as well as studying for her law exams during the current pandemic. I am happy to say that she passed her law exams and we were all proud of her achievements. She will approach me about some problems but then if i make a comments that disagrees with what she says, she becomes argumentative and will probably storm off and not speak to me for a couple of days. I used to work over 72 hours a week to help her financially with university accommodation etc and try to give her everything to compensate for her dead beat father not giving her anything in her life. I did not want her to miss out on school trips or going out with friends and have always been mum and dad rolled into one. Yet she still chooses to turn on me if she feels moody. I feel so ill and weak and do not know how much more of this I can take. I wonder if she is bipolar like her father but I dare not tell her to go and see the doctor or a counsellor or she will blow up. She is my only child ( Ive lost 2 other babies) but is currently making me feel so unhappy which I cannot afford to be at the moment while my health is so poor. I just do not know what to do. All I do is pray to God to help me and hope that she wakes up one day and realises that I am not the enemy before its too late. I still live in hope as it is the only thing that is keeping me going at the moment.

What great reminders about what's important in ANY relationship and how to create more connection. The stories really brought it all home for me. Thanks, Colleen.

I love the story about how you and your daughter connected from her watching you at work, Colleen! It wasn't "your agenda," but it worked! Great talk!

Congratulations, Colleen! Great job!! And yeah, what a setup - the stress that both mothers and daughters experience, for different reasons. Beautiful ending. A gift for mothers who are ready to learn to enjoy their daughters even more!

Great talk, Colleen! I love your reminder about play. I'm trying to engage more in the 'frivolous' play that my kids enjoy without judgment or complaint.

This is so timing for me and my 15 year old daughter. Glad I found this. Thank you 🙏💖

I need to watch this video several times to remember the tricks or maybe even take notes. My head is spinning from all the stress I have and possibly created most of it myself. Look forward to freeing my child and myself from that monitor.

As a teenager I know It’s not all parent issues. It can also be things like you feeling stressed, maybe you can’t make up your mind about something that’s important. Maybe you have a deadline coming up soon for your homework and you haven’t even started. Maybe your scared about something. You could be upset or scared about something that you heard. Or that you came in counter with. Or you don’t have enough time to deal with something or it can be something as little as not having enough alone or think time. Maybe you feel left out, possibly your siblings have something that you don’t. You may not get enough attention. Sometimes it could too comfort your teen or child, and also give them attention. But also it’s important to give them some alone time. Too think too really figure things out! So if a parent is reading this if your child or teenager is acting out. Don’t be hard on them, imagine yourself in there shoes. Show some sympathy.

Thank you for sharing. Very helpful❤️

Great talk with doable ways that will enhance your relationship with your daughter or even son. I know this because it's helped me with my teens. Thank you!

Great speech...I needed this.

Man today I was in tears multiple times thinking I just totally screwed up. After a busy day and as I’m saying my last good nights, the teen says can I do your make-up, I said yes. It was the best hour we have spent TOGETHER in a LONG time. Sigh. And as she did my make up she talked about stuff. ♥️♥️♥️♥️

Thank you! Both me and my sister have a drama full relationship with my mom. One day my then 7 year old daughter, asked me if all moms had fights with their daughters and would we be the same way when she grew up. It was at that moment when I realized I needed to build a different relationship with her. Thank you for the 4 strategies. They are very helpful. I am sure we can build a new way of being mom&daughter.

my mum passed away 14 years ago and im now in my mid 30s, i still watch these type of videos to try and understand what went wrong with my mum and I's relationship when I was a teenager, it never recovered from me growing into a teen and now it can never be resolved.

Thank you for this! I’m going through this with my daughter right now.

Oh yes definitely I am from Houston, Texas, and yes this is correct. I appreciate you for presenting this material and your pov. Thanks!

I am so happy I clicked play on this. Thanks Colleen. I don't know how to make my daughter know that I am proud of her, and yes she is brilliant in her studies, cooks better than me!

@SuperLammens

4 жыл бұрын

I know this is a thing that is causing trouble through lifetimes, children have to deserve love and positive attention. they never feel cared for without some kind of achievement, clean up yr room, get good grades, accomplish something in sports or music or something else. How much love is their when even yr parents only love you when you achieve something?

Watching this brought me to tears

As a man trying to raise an 11 year old daughter. This helped me so much.

wow the best advice for any parent. Thank you so much. So clear and made all the sense in the world. Resonates with what's going on with us. The more I teach/preach, the further away my kid and I are. I'm gonna try this today and keep referring to this TedTalk. Thank you so much

Brilliant, you made me cry at the bit where u heard a knock at the door 💕

Baaaaaah….. I am not ignoring the clothes on the floor. I refuse to be held emotionally hostage. I refuse to be blamed for my teen’s unhappiness. I am so sick of Blame-The-Mother theories.

Im ticked at my parents a lot my family always barges into my room and its so annoying and its like they dont know the definition of privacy I HATE IT JUST BECAUSE MY DOOR IS BROKEN DOESNT MEAN YOU CAN BARGE IN😡😡

@treppydaytiontreppy2125

5 жыл бұрын

purplecatlover1825 randompizza : Hmm I'm sure it really is not nice to have anyone barging in... once upon a time you're this cute lil kid and knocking on the door wasn't a priority.. then you grew slightly now and things do not seem to adapt to the new you. Let them know how important knocking is . It's a display and act of respect and everyone deserves respect . However you need to be careful on your tone . Don't sound too irritated as it might be interpreted as rudeness . Be concerned but speak with kindness. Good luck my dear . By the way , my girl is now 12 and it seems I too must not forget on this point!☺️♥️

@babsyoung2702

4 жыл бұрын

A simple knock is all it takes!

@AvgJane19

4 жыл бұрын

@@theboyntonbuddies it's something and it sucks for both of you.

Thank you for this video!

My teenage daughters have ruined my mental health, feel like the only way to get peace would be to let them do whatever they want any time they want, feel like I will never be given basic human respect.

@lauras3263

4 жыл бұрын

RAH Bruhn totally get you. Where are they addressing this in these talks? They never cover this, it’s always biased towards the teen.

@ai1.8

4 жыл бұрын

I mean that's what they want (not trying to be rude) they need their freedom to branch out and discover who they are and they don't want anything to hold them back. That's how it is for me(I'm 14)

@phoenixflier25

4 жыл бұрын

StellaWolf36 Kitty Remember-with freedom comes responsibility and maturity. I get what this therapist is saying but a mother/father can’t allow their child to do whatever she wants if she can’t be responsible.

@ai1.8

4 жыл бұрын

@@phoenixflier25 my advice would be to just try and understand where they're coming from but don't ask them why. If anything when my mom asks why it annoys me so much because in my head i see it as common knowledge. There could be multiple reasons as to why they want to do something certain: a feeling of wanting to fit in, peer pressure, if it's going to an event at a certain time it may be because of their crush being there . In addition most people don't want to miss out because they're afraid of missing information.

@ai1.8

4 жыл бұрын

@RAH Bruhn if they have seriously damaged your mental state that need professional help. Try a family therapist or something.

Love the story about you reading the book and your daughter's lesson about play. Hahaha! This is real life! Thank you!

SPECTACULAR ❤️❤️🙏🏽🥲thank you for sharing your knowledge

Thank You, this video was helpful

I am so glad that my mom and I are so close her I am in my senior year and she’s my best friend!

@lelnahas

5 жыл бұрын

how did it happen? what does your mum do best that keeps your relationship ongoing , that we can learn from her? please tell us.

@bossladie909

5 жыл бұрын

Yes please tell us

@TheAnimeViber

5 жыл бұрын

Lucky. My mom sucks :/

I'm binging ted talks right now

I’m not crying... YOUR CRYING.

The real hero here is the tomato.

This is amazing! Good things happen in Houston. Thank you Colleen! Question, my SR HS teen daughter doesn't get it. When will the light bulb turn on?

It is refreshing to hear parents talk about this stuff. We adults and parents need to step up.

This isn’t me-I do pay attention to my daughter. I try every day to help her, make her happy. I try to be the mom she thinks I should be. She hates me anyway. It’s heartbreaking, I cry every day about it.

@babsyoung2702

4 жыл бұрын

That is so sad. I would try counseling. Sometimes kids have well meaning parents, but they SEE it as all negative. A counselor can help them, and you, experience reality and process it accurately.

@excuseme1543

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like there's some miscommunication? How do you know what will make her happy and how do you know what mom she wants you to be? Did you get a chance to sit down and speak to her about it? Maybe she is going through something in school/elsewhere that is impacting her feelings. A counselor will definitely be a good step. Much love and strength to you

@alina16garofalo30

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you my 13 year daughter is so mean 😢 I talk nice to her try everything I think she hates me too.....

@walqqr1

Жыл бұрын

No offense, but you sound like a pushover parent. You literally admitted that you keep being too nice while she treats you like a doormat. It's necessary to have balance: you listen and give love to them, but also put your foot down and set boundaries when needed.

I thought you were incredibly wise. I certainly do hope I am capable of wholeheartedly putting your advice to good use. Thank you. Oh, fyi - THREE daughters I raised as a single mother with neurological disabilities.

This is 💯 true

The best speech ever. I have a daughter, she's 9 years old and i'm soo afraid we won't be close enough. I'm soo afraid...

@hanna2522

4 жыл бұрын

Hi, I'm just 19 years old, but still I wanna tell you something that I think would have made a big difference in the relationship with my mother. You should try to talk to her about everything and in these converstions you should ask her for her opinion and show her that way, that it matters what she thinks and that you listen to her. My mom didn't ask me how school or something else is going and thats why I got the impression that she isn't interested at all . If you share even your mistakes with her she learns how to say sorry, because a problem for me was that we didn't talk through a lot of things and stuff was left unspoken which should have been said. Despite some difficult times that you will have with your daughter she will need you and she will always love you even though she mide not tell you, because it is not easy to express your feelings at that age. The fact that you watched that video and have these thoughts already give me the impression that you'll continue to have a great relationship and be a good mom!

@maryjanearmstrong5267

4 жыл бұрын

Aw thank you! I'll try my best. And i wish you to have good relationships with your mother.

@rose1527

Жыл бұрын

Just be there for her when you need her! Relationships are bumpy, especially during teen/pre pubescent years (this is coming from a teen btw). She might become less affectionate, and it might make you think you aren’t close anymore, but a lot of the time she probably still loves and cares about you, but has difficulty showing it, or shows it in different ways. For example, my younger sister is a younger teen, and she isn’t very affectionate towards pretty much anyone (except our dogs lol). However, I’ve come to notice that she shows she loves my family in different ways, such as asking to do stuff with me all the time, helping my mom more than my brother and I do with housework, etc…. So, things like this aren’t always clear. And even if things get rough during these times, as they are very stressful for both mom and daughter, just try your best to be there for her, she will appreciate that either then, or when she is older.

Love this! I’m a life coach for people under 25 and know the struggles they go through. I’m here to help :)

this wonderful but what do you do as a daughter to make things better?

@sandhyachristine7173

5 жыл бұрын

I don't know about all teens but as a teenager myself, I feel like we don't rlly know how. A lot of the time I am afraid to approach my mother because when I want to "hang out" I'm scared that I'm going to get a lecture about more useful things to do.

@emmamcinnes3731

5 жыл бұрын

I know im the exact same, I wish i could help but I too find it really difficult to approach my mum about these things

@peachmelba1000

4 жыл бұрын

Don't immediately make every conversation into an argument. Trust that most of the time, your parents know more about life than you do, and try to remember to respect that. The things you think don't make sense, often actually do, it's just that they're not things you ever have to think about, but have real consequences for the adults in your life. Learn to hate being lazy. It's easy to be lazy when you're a teen, but far too easy to fall into it as a lifestyle.

Wish my mother was like this.

I've never had this relationship with my daughter; I'm on my daughter's side. I don't place unrealistic expectations on my daughter. I feel like this is not for me.

@thatwifelife2138

4 жыл бұрын

AllThatKazz Exactly....I never ask her to try and be something she is not. Pushing her in sports and etc. we don’t give teens enough credit. They can plot and plan a murder over a cell phone,

Yeah that sounds great and it is good advice to have fun with your daughter but I wish you would have touched on the topic of children who are not getting good grades at school so when do you discipline them about that? Especially when you speak to them nicely and kindly and respectfully and it doesn't work?

@ihatehousework

4 жыл бұрын

@Minty Madeline this doesn't seem right

my 17 year old totally shut me out and I had been doing all those things thought we were so close, she then took off and left home after I expressed my upset over my birthday. She now won't talk to me at all and doesn't want to come home.

Beautiful

Too many parents have their kids in soooooo much sports activities and it’s KILLING your kids !! Let them be KIDS! Let them relax and go have FUN.

Yes! Choose love and bonding over the pursuit of status. Satan's modern day name should be status!

The relationship I have with my mum is very strange. We are very close in almost every aspect of life but when it comes to academics, I'm very independant. I do everything to do with school on my own and my mum never needs to ask me to do homework or anything. I can't tell if that's a good thing or not.

@emiitchi4232

3 жыл бұрын

It’s a great thing. I just want my kids to go to school

@chloez6731

3 жыл бұрын

That is very good, I wish my daughter could be like you.

Hi everyone!!! I want you to know. You can be the perfect parent and do as this lady says and still have a rebellious daughter. It's not your fault. If you tried your amazing.

THATS ME !!!

I wish I could have a closer relationship with my daughter I tried to get closer n she always rejects me n never has time for me. It breaks my heart n makes me cry. Don't know what else to do anymore? I tried for her to go counseling n me together but she refuses to go

My mom used to say that about just wait til you have a teenage daughter...I was absolutely a hot mess and my mom didn't even have a clue for the most part lol. Fast forward I now have a 16 year old and I don't know what I did to deserve her but she's my favorite human being. She doesn't have any desire to do things I was doing and misbehaving as a teenager. Now my mom didn't do things with me growing up besides shopping. She didn't take me when she went on trips places, she didn't take me to amusement parks or the movies or concerts. My first husband took me to Disney for my first time at 18 and on my first cruise at 19 or 20 and we did stuff like that all the time during that 4 year marriage. He worked out of town so im pretty sure the only reason it lasted 4 years was because when he was home we were traveling and having fun lol. When I was pregnant with my daughter, her dad and I still went to concerts until I was 7 months pregnant and in a car accident and in a lot of pain the last 2 months. And we also cruised while pregnant and my daughter has been included in concerts and cruises and trips all over ever since she was a few months old and grew up behaving very well doing these things and eating out at restaurants. Now as a teenager she likes to go to concerts and movies and do fun stuff with her friends but she always wants me to be near by and take them places. And her friends are equally awesome teenagers. My daughter has her moody teenage girl moments but they are so freaking low key ,especially compared to me, it doesn't affect me personally. I know if I react, it wouldn't help. Usually as long as I don't react or someone else on her dads side doesn't poke at her, she gets over the mood and is fine and talkative like nothing ever happened.

@-Bliss-.

Жыл бұрын

Ur a good mom!

I know that I gave my daughter the ammunition to harm me but I never thought that she would use it . My whole Family is judging me and not really talking to me . I am the enemy. I brought all of this on myself. I don’t care who’s wrong or right . I will take the blame and pain of it all. I will okay.

@darrellpike2696

5 жыл бұрын

Wow my name is Atisha and this is my story as well. Be strong my strong....You can and will make a difference! everyday is a new day

@jacquepegram

5 жыл бұрын

Sending positivity to you

@pepega8286

5 жыл бұрын

What did you tell her.

The Dads who invest a great deal of their time, and sacrifice their energies for their children go through the same thing. Stress of normal society alone produces an atmosphere for teen anxiety. Pressures of school are horrible, and for what? To be mediocre at calculus? What for! Our education system is where things need work. Family are stressed because of college costs and Social media which magnifies alternative mental throw up tremendously, and teens are learning from a larger group of peers they never met! There ain't much left in the day to get rid of the parent monitor who said "I asked you nicely 9 times!" The daughters response... "I did!" What is left besides anger! This is a national problem, not only ones personal family problem.

There’s no worse parent than a know it all

I felt like you were avoiding a huge factor..in environment..social media, they all get hated on and they all get bullied and this combined with their hormones is a perfect storm

@mariamshah338

5 жыл бұрын

GENEVIEVE Denomme true, but a parent’s attitude towards teenagers can make a profound impact

@lutziputzi

3 жыл бұрын

On social media I feel safer. People ask me how I'm doing genuinely caring about me and I do it to others until we've both made a new friend.

If they use social media...this is totally why

My daughter and I need so much help.. 😢

My daughter 19 abuses me on and off she hit me she broke my. Personal properties bended my reading glasses in front of me and threw my phone off the floor she tells me horrific words yells and neighbors know my life. She is like the king child my parents listen to her when we fight my dad her only father figure doesn't take her back no he spoils her this family is sick I swear it broke my heart as a single mum my beautiful precious daughter smocks pot charass like to drink socially go with bad boys where is my beautiful baby she changed then every night goodnight mum I love you and my heart melts does she loves me

Thank you planned parenthood.

@SuperLammens

4 жыл бұрын

planned murder of the most vulnarable you mean

@AvgJane19

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

I found that 1. genetics. 2 Food - are mostly hidden keys of the problems. (Don't mention real Karma) If genetics are preset in some psychological disbalance in person, like chemicals in brain ( like Hyper Active, ADHD), or whatever, and you add to it hormones in meat and dairy products, food addiction, ad so on...teens become disbalance even without any pressure. Its very wrong see all roots of problems in only psychological plane of modern existence. and about psychological plane- my daughter can't stand me in any possible way except "her way" or "her rules" or "her time" or "her wishes". Now I can't even ask simple question or say simple think without her negative commentaries. It was from the beginning. Its has nothing to do with me, my behavior or any attempt from my side. Even I wasn't right from beginning, I was re learn mistakes from my own parents. But, nothing good ever good enough..So I think that is very wrong 1. Treat mothers/parents as being totally responsible for their kids' attitude and behavior, and 2. Push them do more then they already do. 3. take away responsible from kids.

"If you can beat me in poker and perform gambit routine at lightning speed why don't you get better grades?" Well, mom, poker wasn't taught to me by old farts with monotone voices who yell at me when I clump my gambit.

Lady get real not every family is like this !!Hang out what teen girl wants to willingly Hang out !!

@babsyoung2702

4 жыл бұрын

They do! Just start by watching a fun TV series together. If nothing else, you can talk about what the characters are doing or how unreal the story is getting. Or take them grocery shopping with you one-on-one. They get to choose the foods they want because they see it and they are with you. Have some laughs with it and no lecturing. It really is fun to hang out with mom!

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

My 30 yr.old is RUDER then EVER...4 No Reason she treats me with NO RESPECT. .Her kids r apparently Doing the SAME UGGGHHH Can't Hardly Stand M???? 😣😣

As a teenager all this really showed me is that i have bad parents and if i choose to have children i will NEVER make that sane mistake

Yeah, well... what do you have for a 13yo daughter that has told you she wishes you would end your own life because you won't let her have a phone because you can't trust her even after you've given her countless opportunities to show she can be trusted?

it all becomes a heap of hypocrisy,Especially if substances are involved. or sickness or poverty,

@joeldecoster8816

4 жыл бұрын

what if the cops are at your door, because they stole, or they runaway with their boyfriend and get pregnant' ?

.....so this is what moms do on yt.......facinating behaviour.....wow

She had me until she started blaming “society” for mother-daughter relationship issues.

@excuseme1543

4 жыл бұрын

why? honest question. i guess she meant that women face so many pressures in society to overperform and to feel validated. a lot of parents try to live their dreams and strive for confidence through their kids. it's super harmful.

@avawilliams5827

4 жыл бұрын

Societal standards shape every human in one way or another. You’re either working hard to conform to expectations or to rebel against them, and somewhere in that process your behavioral patterns are formed. Of corse there are other factors that influence us greatly, but society is the invisible antagonist, without a face not without influence.

My 16-year-old daughter hates me. She is rude and tried to kill both of us twice. My daughter need Jesus Christ because her heart is cold as ice. I be glad when she turns 18. 😖

Too much drama. Save all that energy by being childfree.

Experiencing the tweens......

No. Don't even. Me and my mom's problems are my parents fault! Not societies!

I don’t know, I just don’t agree. I tried this for 12 months and my daughter turned into a monster!

@-Bliss-.

Жыл бұрын

What kind of monster like shrek or the girl from the ring I’m confused ?

"I'm an expert on teen" Sure you are Another entirely subjective assertion with no possible way to quantify.

@beldir1701

2 жыл бұрын

It hurts me when people say things literally useless and extremely subjective.

Takes off monitor hat

@CourageToLiveTrue

Жыл бұрын

Sets aside agenda

wtf

The aberrant ox universally melt because locust intraspecifically dust but a jolly joseph. thick, overrated blade

Feminism is what’s going on

Not helpful.

When moms tell you to not do something you want to do it if they say do that you dont wanna do that. When urdaighter is grown up, they choose what they want to do. They dont need to be bossed by a middl life crisis rude lady.

1. hanging Out 2. Positive distraction -natural way to destress Opposite of play is depression Cute shoes Cute cat 3. Spontaneous Check ins- Daily Positive Experiences Soothing conversations- all upset and negative- does not need a mother lecture Teen are lost in a sea of negativity emotions Empty and calm can help not giving lectures Freedom from being perfect and expectations ans keep choosing LOVE 💕 and not the judgment