"Stop saying you care about your marriage surviving and thriving if you don't know what's required to get that to happen!" Every bit of this!!!!!

@JimmyonRelationships

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!!! :)

This is GOLD! So wish I could have learned from Jimmy and applied to my past marriage...my ex was the one I wanted to rebuild with. Carefully listening and changing myself for more healthy relationships in the future. Marriages are worth fighting for!

@JimmyonRelationships

Жыл бұрын

You’re so right! Its worth the work :)

Minute 11:28 “Love is a lot like gratitude and appreciation…It’s pretty much meaningless unless it’s expressed. That’s when it’s felt.” What a perfect statement, absolutely brilliant. Thank you! 🌟

Thanks so much for putting into words what I haven’t been able to. This has been great for my husband and me. ❤️

@JimmyonRelationships

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Tara! Means a lot!

Oh my lanta! This is what's been happening with my marriage. I've been a SAHM for the past 4 years (maybe more, I lost count) while my spouse has been going to school and working. We've never done anything for each other to strengthen our relationship/marriage. We've been in a rut and neither of us have done anything to change it. I've told my spouse that I've been unhappy in the marriage; he's admitted that he didn't do certain things to help change that. There are A LOT of conversations that "most couples" have that WE don't. I feel like we're not even a couple anymore and I don't know who he is anymore. He thinks that he knows me, but we've been so distant from each other for the past couple + months; no date nights, no closeness, etc. I've never been the one to talk to him or tell him what's going on or being vulnerable to him; mind you, we've been married for 16yrs, but as of recently, we've been even more apart.

@mattluzernie2013

Жыл бұрын

I hear you girl same here its sad

@haleyanne86

Жыл бұрын

@@mattluzernie2013 😔😔

Actions say way more than words.

@JimmyonRelationships

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely, the best apology is changed behavior

You said the words that I have not been able to say. Thank you!! You are speaking truth!!

What you say is so true. We are all guilty of not showing up and doing what’s needed to make our relationships stronger. We each of us have our part to play to make things work. But a lot of us are emotionally immature and stubborn (hands up I’m totally guilty of this)and we react and attack instead of responding with love and respect. Thank you for your videos they are truly appreciated ❤

Thank you so much. Your videos are helping me look at myself much more closely, and while it’s uncomfortable it is very much needed. I hope to feel comfortable enough to share this with my husband someday.

I'm sitting here bawling in shame that I've been the neglectful one! He has accused me of being lazy for years and now I finally GET IT. The reset happens TODAY. No more. I'm done being scared. I tried to talk with him today, and he escalated. And i sat there and listened. I didn't blame or shut down or judge. And guess what? He said ACTIONS MEAN EVERYTHING at this point. Jimmy, you're right!! Anybody who's reading this: JIMMY IS RIGHT. LISTEN. Do what he's telling us to do. I'm thrilled to hit the reset button, and yes I am 100000% certain I'm doing it alone. He's done enough sacrificing for me; time for me to do the work. I'm done sitting with it or on it.

I really enjoy listening to you. You make things easy to understand and what I want to strive for in my relationship.

@JimmyonRelationships

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!! What a great compliment! Very nice of you!

This really rings home! You explain it so well!

Thanks for the time you spent doing this video. It helps alot💖

Gosh, I'd go to Jimmy for marriage counseling for him to say this to my OH.....Not sure Hubby would. But everyone in a marriage NEEDS this advice!

Yup totally agree with this 14 years later I've decided it's time me and me tow children and my almost new born baby have moved to another town and starting a new life one of the hardest things I've done ever but your videos have actually lead me where I am now and I've actually learnt alot by just watching your videos and how I feel and have felt for all these years. So thank you time to work on me now 🙌

@JimmyonRelationships

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for all the pain you've experienced Jennifer =(

Love you Jimmy thank you for this!!

U r 100% right...after 29 yrs I lost the ability to beg, plead cry and wait anymore.....

Thank you for doing this for us 🙏💖

Actually, I do fantasize about the other guy I was seeing when I met my husband. I chose poorly.

@omi685

6 ай бұрын

Sounds like you are the problem.

@oambitiousone7100

6 ай бұрын

I was there once too. Chose husband for stability. He was safe. But the seeds of disconnect were there.

@omi685

6 ай бұрын

@@oambitiousone7100 Poor husband, he deserves better.

Yep yep yep yep yep... steps, processes, thinking... all true... Sadly... exactly correct. I'm tired of being the visited mistress to my husband's work and clients. When I have good memories of spouse, those memories are from our dating stage... what happened? Lots of listening when dating; close to none anymore.

I just told my husband I am unhappy about our marriage, my job and life and he doesn't say a word.

*Adds video to "Marriage 101" playlist* Thanks for sharing.

@JimmyonRelationships

Жыл бұрын

This means so much! Thank you!

I see how I've come across as lazy and uncaring. I'm willing to change that... I actually am changing that with parenting classes and counseling in hopes of improving our household dynamics and inspiring my husband's renewed respect if not interest. And if I make the changes and it's still not enough or if the dangling carrot 🥕 continues to move forward away from me with every step towards it I take, then that will be a clear answer that it's time to take the yolk of the marriage off our shoulders and free each other to find safety, security, companionship, and fun in other ways or with different people, respectfully.

@Sweetshaunna

3 ай бұрын

Beautifully said and deeply felt 😊

Actions definitely say more than words!!! There are many empty words too! Might sound good and fluffy but has no real concrete value. I just think it’s really hard to salvage a marriage with a past porn/sex addict unless they get serious help. Our society doesn’t even want to talk about this #1 marriage problem! Most of my friends and people I know that are separated or divorced is because of this problem. Yes, I know it’s not just men either! But it is a real marriage buster! People don’t realize that the brain has changes after porn and it’s only irreversible if one goes to rehab and counseling to retrain the brain etc…. A brain of an porn addict looks similar to a brain of an cocaine addict. Porn gives the brain a dopamine reaction to soothe and relax with “good feelings” that becomes addictive. It also is a portal for evil to enter. It also changes how a person perceives others. People become more like sex objects and not real humans that have self worth and made in Gods image to be treated and such. Where are all the therapists and help for these addicts and their victims (mostly wives, in my experience). The wives are left to just “deal with it” just “forgive, forget, let go and move on” but to never be full filled intimately and feel safe sexually again by their partner. It becomes just an pleasurable act with no connection or emotion. Where is the love? I truly think we need to bring this topic to the surface and talk about it and how destructive porn is to the doer and the victims (spouse etc). How do they both get help? We need support groups and guidance for all those empty wives out there that have no where to turn and have no idea what to do to get their marriage back, if possible. How do men (or women) get the help they need? Do they understand there is something they can do to recover? I’m praying that God will help me and guide me to help myself heal but maybe somehow someway help others too. For now, I’ve gotta figure out how to help my own husband and marriage. It’s been failing for years because of porn on/off. Who know what else….since I know physical affairs happen along with it. This world is sick! People need to understand how the brain seriously changes a person after viewing this crap on/off or whatever. Wives need to understand why they feel so objectified and unfulfilled after their husbands do such things. This isn’t love, it destroys all love. How do you get it back? Is they’re hope? Why don’t we have therapists that can be found to help? I think it’s because the world is afraid to address the issue. PRN has become acceptable and even more than you know with Christian men. LGBTQ openness and acceptance has also made (I think) it hard for people to get the help they need or find. Victims (wives) are left to “deal” with it even if it destroys them, their health (which betrayal trauma can physically start breaking the body down to get sick etc) their marriages and destroys families. I’m praying for all those effected as a user and as a victim. This is a real problem in marriage that no one wants to talk about. Men (and women) are to shameful about it and can’t seem to just admit they do it , have a problem and want/need help!!! Anyone else hear me on this? Anyone else understand what I’m saying? Anyone else struggling in their marriage because of this and is at a loss or dead end road?

@JimmyonRelationships

Жыл бұрын

MommaBear, I'm sorry that I didn't see this comment earlier. You're absolutely right about pornography being extremely destructive in a marriage and in one's own brain. I'm so very sorry about your current marriage difficulties around that and other issues. Praying for you!

@KM-ze6zi

Жыл бұрын

You are spot on.

I give zero effs about how anyone else is doing anything. I don't wish to be like anyone else but we and me depending on the situation. I don't have another person or couple I want to be. I just want to sit on those rocking chairs holding hands someday.

So true!

This is a copy of my marriage all these 11 years. I want him to understand.

Thanks!

❤

How do you change feeling entirely unattracted?

Mine meant he cheated and I am not tolerating that disrespect and abuse.

Maybe…just be done.

How long did you see a professional?