I let mine see me get in disagreements with Dad... obviously not yelling or anything horrible, but have a disagreement. I want him to learn that no marriage is picture "perfect", that it's okay to have different views than others, and most importantly - how to come to a solution. Whether it's an apology, finding common ground, or compromises - I want him to see that work and relationship building.

@sosos4306

3 жыл бұрын

Reminds me of something I heard about Kristen Bell and her husband - they say they make it a point that if their kids saw them having a disagreement and they made up in private, to "make up" again in front of their kids

@ThedARChit

3 жыл бұрын

Same! My older son just recently said.. Mam and dad, stop fighting please. And i told him.. that we don't fight, we just have misunderstanding and we all are humans, we just got really tired today, but we will figure that out. Its normal to have that, we love each other. And omgoodness, the peace on my sons face was amazing, because he looks at things like that now different way and understands! Its normal to be tired, its normal to do mistakes and fix them. No one is perfect! It give kids freedom to feel, that they don't need to be perfect either!

@jerzievap

3 жыл бұрын

@@sosos4306 that is very smart!! kids often follow in parents footsteps so i find that to be a great idea!!

@gmale5678

3 жыл бұрын

That’s a good idea, and the conflict resolution!

@jakesolie2083

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah no...once he/she gets older they are probably gonna pick sides, (my bet is the son will go for his mom and the daughter for her dad but that could change) and resentment will grow towards the other parent, I'm all for teaching your kid to defend their convictions but exposing them to your conflicts or "misunderstanding" could damage them in the long run.

With the 4th kid on the way, I think it is time to tell us HOW you potty train your kids! You must be having some cool tricks for sure! 🤩

@noonsway

3 жыл бұрын

@@SarahTherese yeaaaay ⭐️❤️

@niebieskawa

3 жыл бұрын

Please do it. In a few weeks I want to thank care of potty training of my girl and i can use your tricks.

@audreywilson1166

3 жыл бұрын

Yes please!!

@MrsMonicaSilva

3 жыл бұрын

YES PLEEEEEASE!!! Im also with my 4th on the way and with my 3 kids I had no much success with potty training! We rock everything else but this potty training thing... oh good God! 😩😩😩

@siadelicious1529

3 жыл бұрын

Give them the opportunity to get to know the potty at a young age. My son went to the potty every time we changed the diaper as soon as he could sit alone. He loved it. Barely had any poop diapers after the first time. But never stress them. My son turns 2 in a few months and he tells me everytime he needs to pee/pees. Yep, even at night. Sometimes we're fast enough, Sometimes we're not which is fine. Sometime we go days without anything in the diaper and then there's days he's just too busy discovering the world to stop for his potty. This is very relaxed and he really enjoys it. If I'd actually potty train him, he could have been dry before he could even say the word for it but I think it's nicer if your child has a say in it.

Please publish a book on raising kids in the next 3-4 years.. That's when I'm planning on having my first one, and I NEED all of this on paper 😂

@xeniursu1622

3 жыл бұрын

All the points she mentions (and more) can be found in this book by Janet Lansbury. Love this video and this book! It was mind blowing for me. www.amazon.com/gp/product/1499103670?tag=janetlansbury-20

@wingsAnaa

3 жыл бұрын

@@xeniursu1622 Thanks!

@zoefournier9747

3 жыл бұрын

@@xeniursu1622 i was going to comment the same thing!

@abbyviola993

3 жыл бұрын

Sameeeeee

@ashb2404

3 жыл бұрын

There is lots of literature out there on a Montessori parenting style... This reminds me a lot of Montessori... There really are great points to it all. I think it's great you want to get a head start knowing you want to be a parent in a few short years... You'll be a great Mama!

I let my kids refuse physical affection, like hugs or kisses, from anyone, including me. I feel like it's important to teach them that they are in control of their own bodies.

@sundayinrose

3 жыл бұрын

How do you do it with things which basically cant be skipped like tooth brushing? Our 10 months old really doesnt want us to brush his teeth so I hand him his brush while showing him how I brush mine and that cute little boy tries super hard to copy mommy. Yet of course I would like to have them cleaned properly but without crossing his borders its impossible. Of course I stay super calm and reassure him for every second he opens his mouth that he does a brillant job and has pearly white teeth and we gonna make them shine haha but still I feel like a monster :´( @Sarah Therése what are your experiences on this?

@LauraSofia071

3 жыл бұрын

I love this! This is something I believe in, is their body and they have the right to choose. Even if its a family member, I rather my kids be “rude” than to be taken advantage of

@LauraSofia071

3 жыл бұрын

@@sundayinrose I think it comes down to them knowing the difference between necessary touch and optional touch. For example going to the doctors is necessary and you’re present to make sure they’re safe. Something goes for hygiene and them knowing that type of touch is something parents do and eventually they can do it on their own

@angelagarcia7093

3 жыл бұрын

I ask my sister consent for hugs or kisses, and I will do the same with my kids when I have them

@LauraSofia071

3 жыл бұрын

@@angelagarcia7093 yes! I remembered being hugged and kissed by family members as a kid and HATED IT. Now as an adult I have a hard navigating physical touch and I’m sure it comes from that. It’s so important to know that your body is fully yours

We used the movie Inside out as a good opportunity to allow our children to express their feelings with colors with they were still learning to talk!

Your parenting tips are so balanced and I’m SO HAPPY every time you post these types of videos! I’m not a mom yet, but am so looking forward to that season in my life. Your videos help me be in that headspace, and get excited about motherhood! ❤️

@alexism1127

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed, and same here.

It's really beautiful hearing parents focusing so much on making their kids indipendent and aknowledging the things that they ARE actually capable to do. My mom was the opposite of yours, she was really anxious, always doing things for me, always talking decisions for me, and i would have LOVED SO MUCH, being treated like you treat your kids ❤️❤️❤️ making kids do things, to me, is respecting them really much 😊😊

“Kids that get bored are great at problem solving and independence” My dad was always working so I’d get bored quite often as a very active kid, he’d tell me to learn to entertain myself and now I’m definitely all those things you described! It’s something I’ve never thought about before, but that’s a great point!

@yve4889

3 жыл бұрын

Wise dad. My sister and I spent our whole childhood creating the wildest stories and playing them on our barbie dolls. Literally we would make them cross the jungle and a secret Mayan temple just to find their kids🤣🤣

I’m curious to see their bedrooms now

1. Cry/show emotion 2. Dress themselves 3. Do what they want with their space 4. Make a mess 5. Encourage themselves 6. Partake in food activities 7. Get bored 8. Sort out their disputes among themselves

@anushkajamal

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@zurzakne-etra7069

3 жыл бұрын

spoiler alert!

@uprisingsun9105

3 жыл бұрын

@Enchanted Homeschool Firstly, my comment isn't even close to being the top comment. Secondly, I'm just trying to be helpful. Thirdly, this isn't stealing anyone's income, it's a comment that less than 200 people have seen (and I get literally nothing from). Fourthly, I love Sarah's videos and the last thing I would want is to hurt her family. Go troll someone else. Have a nice day.

@brisakeizer4050

3 жыл бұрын

I find this summary helpful in deciding whether I want to watch the full thing or scroll through to the part I find interesting. So thank you for saving me time 🙏🏻

@mikalab4182

2 жыл бұрын

@Enchanted Homeschool as someone who has adhd, these comments are really helpful because I know what to expect in the video and if I would like to continue watching. Which I do…

LOL showing our generation gap here, it took me a minute to realize that having a "sick" mom was a fabulous compliment! My first thought was oh no, what sickness did she have? 😂😂😂 I really admire your parenting wisdom! ❤️

@arie6358

3 жыл бұрын

Hahah I thought the same.

@lindasteinbrenner8065

3 жыл бұрын

Me too!! Who knew sick was a good thing! 😂😂😂

@Daniiiiikay

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@joyb3545

3 жыл бұрын

I'm the same age she is, and my first thought was the same!

@yve4889

3 жыл бұрын

What sickness does she have?

Not all the way through just yet, but I had to pause and quickly comment-I REALLY appreciate what you said about kiddo rooms. Most vloggers and insta-mommies design their children’s rooms and wardrobe according to their perfect IG/Pinterest aesthetic and really deny them the opportunity to explore their own style and individuality, which is actually quite harmful. Glad to hear a refreshing take!

@emmilittlemuffin

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed!!!! I let my kids choose their own room items - my son is super minimal, he wants NOTHING on the walls but he likes putting his books and drawings in his drawer. My daughter wants fancy paintings everywhere. Both love their spaces.

As an early childhood educator, this video makes my heart so happy! It’s so obvious you love your kids, and all of your tips are actually research based and developmentally appropriate! Keep up the good work, mama!

Applause applause applause to the "let them be bored" I love seeing what stuff my five year old comes up with after being bored for a short period of time! The other day he got out his craft supplies and made himself a pair of animal ears and spent like 30 minutes designing and fixing them up the way he wanted. 😃

THANK YOU for addressing the thing about parents turning their kids’ room into a Pinterest board. It’s really bizarre.

You should do a video with a mama with a complete different outlook on parenting than you!

I love that with the rooms. I’m the same. Growing up, we were never allowed to do anything to our rooms. Walls had to be white/off white type colour, no pictures on the walls or anything. It makes me want the kids to have more independence in their rooms. I’m also trying to teach them to fold their own washing (I’m decluttering and rearranging their cupboards) so they can also put them away. Let them have some responsibility of their things. Love this video.

Awesome video! I really struggle with disciplining my kids and often shout yell and end up in raging with anger because they just won’t cooperate. I’d like to see a discipline method video from you, and how perhaps you use a faith-based technique to instill discipline in them?

@riahsauls6242

3 жыл бұрын

If you’re on TikTok @parenting360 is helpful for this. It is 35 parents who use respectful parenting and share how they do it.

@SumzaiyaRemedies

3 жыл бұрын

Riah Sauls oh interesting! I’ll have a look. I have one son who is autistic and one 2 year old, and I’m really struggling with just being calm and being in control of situations.

@heatherbaker414

3 жыл бұрын

I have 2 maybe 3 autistic kiddos. Yell, at them doesn't work. Reinforce the good behavior you want to see, has worked wonders. Also what has worked too is say what you want your autistic kid to do to 2-3 words. Example do not tell them get your plate off the table and put it in the sink. You tell them plate sink. Or plate in sink. What has also worked for us is instead of saying no jumping on the couch. Say couch no, or jump no, or hit no. Don't say no hitting because they are usually hearing the last word which is hitting, jumping etc. It will no change over night but if you are consistent with it the behavior will change. Slowly but it will. Autism is a mystery. You have to find what work with your child and you but try not to yell because it does nothing trust me I know, they feed off your stress and it makes it worse, I know. I don't know what level or how "bad" your child's autism is. Usually kiddos with autism act out because they're bored. Do you have a trampoline can get so engery out, sensory play slim, playdough, even dried beans and rice in a box for them to play with. Get on your child's level when you talk and use only 2-3 words at first. I'm not a Dr. But I do have almost 14 years of autism through my oldest son. I'm just trying to help.

@linayarina14

3 жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to you! I love that you already got a great response! Just wanted to say, I struggle with this too and am working to get out of it! Will pray for you to get your answer ❤️

@SumzaiyaRemedies

3 жыл бұрын

Heather Baker thank you Heather! Seeing such responses helps me to realise I’m not alone in this autism mum world. It feels like a huge sense of relief. My son is 4, non-verbal and showing signs of ADHD too, he can’t sit still for a single second. The only time he can is during ipad time, but even that is short lived. I attend autism workshops to help me to work on my methods and find the strategy that will work best with my son. Thank you for your awesome advice, I’ll try and implement that slowly and steadily.

Your point about children decorating their own space is so important! It made me realize how much my mum did this with me, and how great that was.

Helping with food is so good at your kids’ ages! They love it, and there are so many things they can actually do. 😊 I usually restrict it to one kid at a time or it just gets too wild 😂 But I have a small kitchen! This was fun to listen to. ❤️

I love that you mentioned the kids room thing. I have a 2 year old son, and I often feel the pressure of having to have the perfect “Pinterest” room for him, but you are right that is more for me then him and I guess other people. Thank you for taking the burden away and helping me see my son can have his room how HE wants

I love your take on independence and boredom. Kids really do need boredom. It's where imagination comes from. They also need independence. It's how they grow into happy adults.

I will always try and keep this video at the top of my parenting list to remind me this is exactly what I want and it being a parent. It is not what I’m currently doing as an aunt and a nanny and I’m gonna try and start implementing some of these tips because it’s spoke to my soul What really stood out was the bedroom part, the making mess part (which I think is honestly since I am a nanny I tend to worry about messes bc it’s not my home) and letting the kids figure out there disputes. And I agree so deeply about the boredom part- my nephews are saying “I’m borreeed all we do is watch KZread” and I tell him about how I use to make videos as a kid and little skits and it was so much fun- you have to create your own fun or sometimes just be bored and not over stimulated! 💕

These are really good! I'm definitely gonna use these for my future kids someday.

So grateful that people are more open to letting their kids show emotions. I was not raised to show emotions at all. In certain aspects it was great, but I love the idea of teaching children how to acknowledge their emotions and realize why they feel the way that they’re feeling.

You ARE FANTASTIC. I am here for all the parenting wisdom. Please continue!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I love to watch and discover how Sarah leads her family. I think she must be a great mom. Although from the authentic christian young woman she became a businesswomen in my eyes she is still can be same good mother. I just got surprised when she talked of the kids room and the clothes. As i remember she usually dressed them into ugly, grey items what 30-40 yrs old minimalist women would wear, i am happy if she let this go. And as long as she showed their room, it was furnished fully by white-ikea pieces, no kids would choose.

I let my kids dress themselves too. I just love the outfits my daughter use to put on when she was little. It showed her personality. My older kids make their own breakfast and lunches. At 7 my kids start doing their own laundry. Before 7 they would put all their clean clothes away

I love your point about not over encouraging! My niece is going to have her quinceañera in September and I feel the pressure to go because I know my kids will want to look over at me while they’re dancing and share that moment with me etc. and I don’t want to let them down, but now I’m really going to have to consider a few things

Some people thought I was crazy letting my LO color on the wall in their room. They weren’t allowed to color anywhere else in the house, but if they wanted a mural on their wall, then I encourage that creative freedom.

Thanks for sharing your life with us!

12 seconds in and I cannot even express my excitement for this content! You are such a giver and I love seeing the ways you show love and compassion for your children through these videos. I know with posting content about your parenting style can be such a vulnerable thing but it is so deeply appreciated and celebrated by so many! Keep loving and raising them the way you feel called, after all, God gave them to you for a reason.

I'd love to see a video with you and your mom or a sibling!

Sarah, way to be kind and sensitive and still get your point across and express your options! Thank you for the gentleness! ❤️

I only have two kids and their father and I agree our family is complete. That to say I’m amazed at what a good mama you are with four. So inspiring and helpful to me.

I let my kiddos do what they like in their rooms, and when my daughter started to really care about what her room looked like.... Let me tell you, she is more capable of creating a pintrist worthy room than I will ever be! She is so good at it! And her room has been her sanctuary ever since.

I love the point of letting your kid design their own room . My mum also let me have my space how I wanted and I loved that

My first bedroom I remember had dark purply-navy walls with a black ceiling with gold, silver and glow in the dark stars 🌟

@caelynn42

3 жыл бұрын

I love that! It sounds beautiful!! I had some star projectors when I was little, and they were so fun!

Not a mum, but I really enjoy your philosophy. Thanks for sharing !!

My mother was always interjecting into my arguments with my brother. We ended up telling her to let us deal with it on our own, otherwise we never dealt with the actual issue. She finally backed off and our arguments would be over a lot quicker. This was many years ago since we’re both adults now and rarely have a disagreement. I always let my son do whatever he wanted with his space. He’s a bit of a perfectionist and would always keep his room clean, randomly rearranging the furniture. He’s almost 14 now and has been organising his room since he was 2. I don’t remember being a bored child. My older sister lived with her grandparents and her dad, so I was an “only child” for 6 years. I was always playing, creating, throwing concretes for my soft toys, and reading a lot. I was very independent. Even now, I don’t get bored. I can read a book for hours, listen to music, clean, draw, bake, or just sit in my own thoughts.

Helping kids feel encouragement on their own is so so important. You can also ask your kid questions to guide them in that direction. It could sound like instead of telling them wow you did great asking them how they feel about what they accomplished or what they are most proud of!

When I was a kid and I shared a room with my sister and we spent the night at my Aunts, and my mom dad and older sisters panted our room too look like a garden, with big bright flowers and bugs and they even put a picket fence around the whole room. And a green shag carpet for grass lol it was soooo cool!

Great to hear this! So happy that more AND more people practice attached parenting. 💙

The thing about letting your kids be part of the meal preparing activities is amazing! I have read a lot of books about good relationships with food and all and that is a great way to shape your kid's relationship with food.

Another thing I let my children do is let me know when they’re over stimulated. My kid will lock themselves in their room and I would not pressure them to come out even when guests are over. I know so many times i see parents who kids get crabby and the parents are angry at them because they cannot sit still or play the way the other does, and I think it’s a bit sad

Letting children not show their emotions, get them traumatised. That's very dangerous especially in the first 4 years.

Completely random but I love how you corrected the « me and Kieran » to « Kieran and I ». As a non native english speaker, this has been bugging me for years but I never dared to say something 😂 Love you Sarah 💛 and thanks for some great ideas. Don’t have kids and may never have any but your insight is always original and well-argued.

It often seems like you are the perfect parent. You don't mention ever feeling frustrated, angry, exhausted, etc. It just can't be real. I'd love to see a video in which you cover things that aren't always perfect...Or maybe they are always so because your husband is home. It's just hard to watch sometimes because, even on my most determined, attentive, and composed days, I still have moments of frustration. I still reach a point in the day at which I'm feeling at least a bit out of control, and I'm not even a working mom-just a stay a home mom. It's hard to imagine that your kids are as perfectly behaved as it seems through these videos... This is why so many people are asking for a video on discipline, but you never mention it...I agree with every single one of these things that you let your kids do, and I work hard to follow them, but my kids make real messes (unlike the play-doh "mess" in this video). I mean, is your family really the anomaly that it seems, or is the secret having your husband home with you to take half the stress from you?

@MarisaAndChew

3 жыл бұрын

Kieran used to work full time plus some until maybe a year ago. I don't know if her older videos are still up but I think minimalism has helped her to not be overwhelmed by all the things that need done which helps to make it easier to focus on whats important. I am sure she gets frustrated and has bad days, heck she was struggling with a ton of pain through much of this pregnancy and through the last one as well. Just accepting that you need to slow down and marinate in each season of life goes a long way to not losing your cool so easily. Laundry will still be there tomorrow or the next day or the day after that. Having routines and understanding that they are just a guide and are not set in stone can also help. I wish I had Sarah's patience, but I don't, and yet I KNOW the things that tend to set me off are the inanimate objects in my life, too much laundry, too many dishes, too much clutter to put things away properly, messy teenage yuck etc... i cannot control what the other 4 members of my home do with their spaces but I can certainly be frustrated and even disgusted by them, so I do my best to keep my own spaces kid free and full of things that I enjoy, plants, some decor, visual whitespace, books, etc.

@idepartasair

3 жыл бұрын

@@MarisaAndChew I am a minimalist as well. I have much less than Sarah, in fact, and yes, I've seen her older videos, when Kieran was working. It all still looks unattainable to me. I could go on, but I shouldn't spend more time on KZread comments. I guess that I just have to accept that perfection is the way that KZread branding is if you want to be successful (unless you go the opposite way and act like a totally hot mess mom, which isn't what I'm asking for at all).

@rubymueller8846

3 жыл бұрын

@@idepartasair she does have this "Parenting Mistakes I've Made" video. Just remember, no one is perfect! Don't worry if you're not the perfect parent - no one is! kzread.info/dash/bejne/ap1s2cqKh8_gltI.html&ab_channel=SarahTher%C3%A8seSarahTher%C3%A8se

@MarisaAndChew

3 жыл бұрын

@@idepartasair That's awesome you're a minimalist! I hope to be there one day!!! Just me and my dog! LOL. I guess in the end it goes to most KZreadrs only show the good parts! I don't think it is so much for success as we all ask if this is real life but rather because sooo many KZreadrs get CPS called on them regularly. There are reddit pages and websites dedicated to "snark" or hate towards YT moms and their every move! Even if they don't actively search this stuff out, many subscribers think they are helping by sending what's being said to their favourite creators. I am sure you know this, but since you sound like you limit your time online you may not have been aware that CPS being called and families being doxxed is a major issue for YT families. Hope you have a great day!!!

@idepartasair

3 жыл бұрын

@@rubymueller8846 True, I do remember that video. Thanks! I love Sarah's channel. I just have a hard time not feeling completely defeated and self loathing when so many of these KZread moms DO appear to be much closer to perfect than I am, no matter how hard I try.

Setting the table was my job when I was 10 I loved it! Especially when I got creative with napkin folding

I love your parenting style and I hope to be an amazing mom just like you are! Thank you for sharing 🥰

You are such a beautiful and fun Christian mama! 💖 I really appreciate your honesty and openness. Keep being unapologetically you! 😅

I love that you let them settle their disputes & help out when you rly have to. Some kids grow up struggling to know how to communicate, stand up for them selves, or put themselves in others shoes bc of that reason. For some kids it's easier to run to mom & dad & have them take care of their dramas; that carries over into highschool or even adult hood

I love seeing all of your parenting videos, they're amazing inspiration! I would love to hear the 'HOW' behind some of these, like how you guided them to dress themselves etc. My son has shown amazing proficiency when it comes to the tech in our house. I'm trying to limit screen time going forward but I have noticed he's figured out how to use voice activation to control lights and ask for the weather, ask for various songs to be played, listen to different sounds vehicles and animals make.. it's quite amazing to see at just 3.5yrs old!

Hi Sarah.. debbi from India.. I think this is the only channel where I let kids watch along with me.. such an awesome mom with pure bliss and wisdom.. love from India..

As a mom of 2 kids is always so cool to learn from other moms I have a boy with autism and a girl who is one year old your tips help a lot to me and my family a huge Thank you! To this woman ❤️ Blessing to you and your family.

If you are comfortable with it I would totally LOVE a tour video of all of your kids different bedrooms! I’d love to see a glimpse into their different personalities and what they picked out. I’m pregnant now with my first miracle baby and will absolutely let them start designing their own room some day🥰

@EvinNazya

3 жыл бұрын

Sarah’s actually mentioned a few times that she’ll never record her kids’ bedrooms! She said she wants to respect their privacy as human beings😌

Amazing what you say in the beginnen about emotions. I am a trauma recovery coach and I know this is SO SO important. I beg every parent to not let your kid suppress emotions but let it express to you what it feels. Show compassion and understanding. Its valid what they feel and why even if you dissagree. It's their viewpoint their perspective. So important. So many of my clients didnt had this and it causes real problems as adults. Sending you all love xxx

Being a preschool teacher these are all thing I try to do with the kids in my class. I have learned through my undergrad and through training on these important topics. I 100% agree on doing all these with your children and other families can adopt these as well. I encourage parents to do these but I understand all families are different abd have different dynamics. What may work with one child may not work as well with another child. Great video👍. When I have children of my own someday I plan on doubg these things with them.

This was so helpful and wonderful for me as a disabled wife looking at hopefully being able to have a baby in the future. I was raised this way and it was extremely beneficial to me as an adult now. I love my sister in law but she does everything for her kids and spoils them in a very bad way and it is showing. As a parent (and aunt of 13, great aunt of 2) I want to be the kind of example that my littles learn how to responsibly live life from, not how to look to others for help constantly. You're a great mom Sarah and so are you other watchers of this video!💜

Your hair looks wonderful.

long story short: I love your way of parenting! Went straight to my playlist for when I will be (hopefully) a mum once🙃😊

This is really giving me a solid base idea of the rules I want for my kids one day. 💗

I needa take lots of notes when watching your mama videos 🎥

So cool!! I love your parenting videos, I always learn so many great new ideas. Today I was surprised and inspired by your way of encouraging your kids to settle disputes by themselves. I would love to know how exactly you lets your kids encourage themselves, I bet you could make a whole video on just this, and I'd be sooo interested to watch it.

@kristennorthrop

3 жыл бұрын

There’s a wonderful video on this topic of allowing your kids to encourage themselves and do things from an intrinsic place rather than needed external validation all the time. It’s called effective praise: why using good girl/good boy is doing more harm than good by guide and grow channel. It’s helpful insight if you are interested in this parenting style! ❤️

Love hearing people talk about their parenting styles! Lov it

Totally agree with all of these, esp the crying and emotions. Currently have a very emotional 4 year old who thinks daddy has gone away coz he doesn't love her....in reality he is deployed with the military and still has 5mths left. Talking through both of our emotions is sort of helping. ❤

@GoatScream11

3 жыл бұрын

Bless your heart! That must be so hard. You are doing a great job! 💕💕

@sophiesadds1153

3 жыл бұрын

@@GoatScream11 thanks. It sucks and breaks my heart seeing her hurt thankfully the 18mth old is none the wiser 🙈. But we will be stronger for it in the end God willing.

I make sure my kids feel they can refuse physical touch. Anything from hugging, kissing, hand holding, any physical touch! I also make sure they understand they can say no to hanging out with people, even family. Within the realm of reason. There are times when you just have to go because it will be fun as you participate, but if something is uncomfortable or they don't like how someone treats them, then we don't go.

You’re not a regular mom, YOU’RE A COOL MOM! 😎 I admire you! God bless you all!

Such an important message! A lot of us didn't have appropriate role models so are still learning and correcting parenting or grandparenting mistakes Thanks for these great videos!

Wow, thank you for being a very good example of self control first. You inspire me not to be afraid of giving birth and growing up kids))))

The dispute thing! Yes! Teaching kids how to sort it out amongst themselves is so good. My mother used to always always step in at the first sign of any conflict. And everyone in our family was bad with conflict. Kindness and respect was ...... Somewhat lacking. When kids always rely on their parents to solve their conflict it just becomes a game of who will Mom side with instead of taking responsibility for their own actions and judging the situation for themselves. Of course they need guidance but yes

You should write a parenting book! I’m not even a parent yet but I’m already stressed about raising my future kids right and you seem to have such great insights, I’m so curious how you practically put these ideas into action.

So many good points! You are a great mom 😍

I can't say how much I love these type of videos!

Such a good video. I love to hear mom's talk about how they handle "appropriate messes". I'm due for my first in a few months, and I'm currently trying to figure out the logistics of creating a space for appropriate messes. ... Now that I've written that, though, it sounds like I'm still trying to figure out what "appropriate" means to me, lol.

These are great, thanks for sharing! 💕 I really believe in giving kids autonomy and responsibility and getting them involved in the day-to-day stuff we do and these are such awesome ideas.

Yeeeeeeess!! 👏 So much of this (all of it lol) is just yes! 👏 yes! 👏 yes! 👏 Thank you so much for sharing.

This was insightful. I have a 5 month old baby and she is my first child. I have really enjoyed watching you and Keran develop as parents over the years and really appreciate the way your kids behave. I have to say, on several points I wanted to disagree because i was raised differently. Especially on showing emotions. But i see your kids and respect your parenting methods. I will be praying about how the Lord may want my husband and me to use some of these methods. Thank you as always for sharing these things with us and putting your life "out there." It is a vulnerable place to be. You are by far my favoritest youtuber ever! I hones ti ly call you my beat friend when I tell my husband about something you said or did or use. 🤭❤💖

I feel like I could have made this exact same video !! I’ve been a mom now for so long that I didn’t even realize I do all of these things !! Very cool to have a mom that reminds me of me ! Love you girl

Sarah Therèse vid...13 minutes ago, got it while it's still fresh 👌🏽💕✨

I love these videos and am excited to see more content regarding parenting!! ❤️

Every single thing you said makes sense to me..you are a great mentor..i think i will come back to this video and make pointers for myself .love you and thank you

I love your videos on parenting and your ideas are great but honestly, I don't know HOW you do all that. I mean, yeah, it's great, good ideas, awesome picture about family but I would like to know EXACTLY HOW you implement those. How do you encourage your kids to solve their disputes without interfering? you just watch them? what do you say when there is no end or no solution? How do you let them *feel* their emotions? how do you talk to them? etc etc I would LOVE a video with actual examples. You do not have to show us your kids, obviously, just to give us actual examples of situations from the past and what you did. Great job, Sarah! You are an amazing woman, honestly

I want to see you do these kind of videos with your mom or mother in law. You and your husband are such beautiful people. I want to hear their take on raising kids.

A tip for teaching your kids to encourage themselves, is instead of when they ask you do you like it just saying yes turn it around and say what do you like about it? That way they can practice asking themselves the same things later on

@yve4889

3 жыл бұрын

This comment is so painfully underrated and I'm so glad I had the honor of finding it😃

@catalinadoeslife

3 жыл бұрын

@@yve4889 thank you :) I learned it from a teacher in college in a child development class. Always stuck with me and I took it with me in parenting :). Helps them value there own opinion about there art even when others don't see what they see.

@yve4889

3 жыл бұрын

@@catalinadoeslife oh my child development class? Is that actually a thing? That sounds so cool😱😄

@catalinadoeslife

3 жыл бұрын

@@yve4889 it's a class for people wanting to become a teacher, I didnt finish college because I had 3 kids so I stayed home. but I took all the child development classes I could before stopping 😅

@yve4889

3 жыл бұрын

@@catalinadoeslife smart🤓

I am not a mama, but I am learning from you a lotttttt love you

I love the room idea, it would be nice to hear your transition from letting them have their room as they like from your own esthetic as you have shown in the past.

Ok, I am at number 3, and am not offended but... as hard ADHD mum (I heard several times that I am not supposted to be mum, ok, I don't need to hear that again. My kiddo has the same issue and my brain just is not working while being overstimulated. And by lots of colour, or laud colors is is overstimulated a lot. So yeah, I have that natural beige pinteresty kid room - which I am still cleaning - but I need that to work. And actually what I found is that a lot of theese fancy beige insta-mamas often have same problem. :)

@0carinaofthyme

3 жыл бұрын

A few of these wouldn’t work well with my daughter who’s on the autism spectrum. She needs high encouragement and praise. All kids are different and take these with a grain of salt. Implement things that could work for your family. 💕

@kaelatwede155

3 жыл бұрын

Sound overload is hard for me too. I have had to figure out ways to allow my kids to be kids and still avoid losing my mind or temper. I totally relate

Bringing up capable kids is definitely my priority too 🤗 great video as always

How did you get to be so wise?? Love all this advice, I follow quite a few of these but its taken me a while to figure this out 💜

I am 57 years old and I think you are an amazing parent!😁❤️

I would like to hear more on the last part. How did you guys started it, how do they usually respond, and how is it so far.

Hey Sarah!! I’m 8 weeks pregnant and would LOVE to see your work out routine! It would be so helpful to see what you do to stay active 😊

When I was little I LOVED doing things on my own. It just made me think that my parents validated me as a person. The fact that they entrusted me with that specific task made me feel important. Like they trusted me enough to give me the task I was going to complete. But something I wish my parents let me do was dress myself. I was already a naturally timid fearful child, so I always did what my parents said for fear of them being angry or disappointed in me. Especially with my clothes, all the way up until I was 9, my parents told me what to wear. Sometimes I'd be uncomfortable in what they pulled out for me that day, but I was afraid if I said I didn't like what I had to wear, they'd be angry. Then I'd say little remarks like, "This shirt is really itchy." Or, "These jeans have a unique texture." And then my parents would just agree and say that they were cute anyways. So I totally agree with you when you say you let your kids pick out their own clothes. It is so super validating for them as individuals. And because my parents practically did everything for me, it took me longer to get to where I am now. Because of this, I have separation anxiety and tend to be indecisive at times. And this is at 19 years old. But thankfully God has allowed my family to learn from our mistakes, and with that I can say I fully support that advice you gave right there. 100%!!

I love the let my kids envois themselves.

It sound like the book Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline. Amazing book.

I love your videos.

We have a 10 month old little strong willed child. He is highly developed for his age what shows in his understanding for language and play. He is into very fiddly stuff and tries to teach himself new abilities every day. Yet he gets frustrated super easy as he has a clear view of how things are supposed to work, as if he´s angry with himself that he´s not handy enough..throws and yells high pitch. Very hard for me to watch him as he want´s just little help here and there. What we try to implement now and give on his way is to work out frustration by allowing his anger and show our understanding. We then motivate him saying the next time he tries, it´s gonna work better already and even easier the next day :) When he achieves a new step we compliment him and let him now, he can be proud on himself! By now it really helps him be bit more patient with himself and try again and again, that´s very sweet to see.

Your hair is looking so beautiful!! Loving the colour!! ❤️❤️

I LOVE your parenting videos!! So so good and refreshing to hear your thoughts. No kids yet, but I’m taking some notes from you! ☺️